Monday, June 17, 2013
Blog Visitor Is In A Fix....''My Fiance Just Bought Me A New Car But....''
THIS IS ONE OF THOSE RARE MOMENTS WHEN
A BLESSING CAN BECOME DANGEROUS!
Dear Stella,please am so worried...I work in an oil and gas company in Lagos...My Fiancee just got me a car,am so worried about taking it to work,because its only my oga@d top in the head office drives my kinda car to work,though the big men there all use official cars...and also in the depot where I work,my car is the biggest,and I am the smallest...I need to know if its wise driving my car to work,cos its quite a distance,or I should continue flying bus like I've been doing...??post this please so that the wise ones or anyone who has experienced this can advise me,I need to know peoples opinion before i make a mistake
Thank you all and God bless''
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my dear, if you sincerely love your job, do not take that car to work. you know naija mentality..it will look like you are rubbing shoulders with them.
ReplyDeleteif you can, get a smaller car that you can drive to work and use this car from fiancé for other movements.
I know a lot of people who do not drive their cars to work...different reasons though..traffic, ease, etc..
a word is enough..
Your advise is wrong. Her fiancee bought her a gift, because he needed to surprise her and didn't want her to tour public transport to work. How can she now park the car aside and still keep touring public buses? Don't you know he will feel bad if you don't drive the car? In a week, you work 5 days if I am correct. So are you telling me you will drive the car just during weekends? The earlier you realise that destinies differ, the better it is for you. I had a job before NYSC. The second-highest bb then was bold 5 and my boss alone had it in the office. As soon as my colleague got a bold 5, he went to buy a porsche and claimed he couldn't use the same phone with us. That was his headache because it was his money he used to buy it. I am serving currently in Lagos in a school. Of all the staff, I and other corpers earn the least salary yet I am the best dressed staff in that school. Both the teachers and students and even the proprietress keep complimenting me. Destiny differs my dear, don't let anyone outshine you over nothing. If you are engaged, feel free to go anywhere with the car and make your man proud. #NB: you can dash me the ride if you know you are shy to ride it. Lol
DeleteMy dear plz don't mind Juliana,shez stil a coper & has not come in2 d real world.just stick 2 bloglord's advice.
DeleteJuliana, bloglord's advise isn't wrong. Its urs that is 'VERY' wrong. Yes destinies are diff buh then we r talking about 9ja mentality here. Will her fiance get her another job? If she start having problems. Let's reason well o b4 we act pls. I will advise d lady to go with bloglord's advise. Stella how are u? Hope u aren't too stressed.... Stay blessed!
DeleteBloglord, Anons. 12:07 & 12:47AM,
DeleteGBU to yous. You've said it all.
A proverb in Yoruba says "If your yam is whitish, you'll use your hand to cover the yam as you consume it."
I agree that there are somethings one can't hide, it must be seen but some, you gotta apply wisdom.
I beg drive your car to work. In life, you do them go talk you no do them go talk so carry go.
ReplyDeleteWat r yu afraid of? Losing ur job. If ur fiance can get yu a carr that ur oga's @ d top cant afford, he can get yu another job when yu fired or pay ur bills..whom God has blessed, no man can curse..onyeburebu ebuchago...flaunt ur blessing abeg...
DeleteI'm so proud of your comment @ Snow.
DeleteI cant believe this is happening on SDK blog. Stupid questions!!! But because of SDK let me pretend I am commenting seriously. What kind of car did your "financier" buy for you that is bigger than your bosses car? From jumping bus to buying the biggest car? Something is off with this gist. I cant pretend anymore.
ReplyDeleteMy thought exactly. If from jumping buses to a car that no one at your work place can afford or has, I wonder what kind of oil and gas company you work at.
DeleteI hope it's not the texaco filling station on awolowo road that you work as a sale representative? Because your question shows you are almost poor or have low self esteem.
Please if actually you have a car that even your ogas at work don't have, then will I advise you drive it to work even on Sundays if you wish. It's called a car and it will boost your level and even earn you higher position.
It's called packaging my dear. Company owners don't always like poor people,looking and acting rich can boost a company profile as regards employee profile.
Some big companies force staff to buy a good car and live in a good house ( enhance with loans ). All because of the image of the organization .
Martin, did you say "packaging and earning her higher level"?
DeleteLevel that others wey no get car dey strive to reach and na she go just get am cos she dey drive car abi?
Some comments sef;
I laff in Chinese- xing xung ching chung!
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ReplyDeletelwkmd!....chei
ReplyDeleteStella abeggy,this babe dey gbensh her ogaqthe top and she no want make office pple know say e buy am car-make she dey ask us when be mumu oh.
ReplyDeletemy advise is leave the car for osodi oke use keke marwa gowork.
*chewing sdks bitterleaf*
Even abroad e dey happen o...I was d only black girl driving to work and my white bosses didn't find it funny...u sabi wetin happen to me naa...fucking Germans
ReplyDeleteEhmm.congrats on the ride and am happy for you. In our environment jealousy can make you loss your job or you start having unnecessary issues at work. for no reason people at work will just start hating U (those on top and even ur colleaques at d same level. Its worst because you not married yet. if you where married It wouldnt matter so much. So my advise is please still go with your staff bus for now and rock your car over the weekend, while we pray for him to put a ring on it fast. Na my opinion be this o.
ReplyDeleteFiance abi na financier all na the same. Come o, how ur bobo go buy you car wey only ur oga for oyel company dey drive? wetin ur bobo dey do sef? How come im dey let u jump bus since? abi na the oga @ the top be ur fiance? this ur gist no complete. Why u come dey ask us na since u know say na wahala for u to drive the same car with ur oga?
ReplyDeleteI believe the issue here is that you perceive people at your workplace will think you are living above your income. Simply tell them your fiance gave you the car, especially if you do not have anything to hide. For how long will you keep the car at home? In-fact, even if you do not want to take it to work for now, let them know you now own a car, given to you by your fiance. please be proud of him. if you do not want to take it to work at all, it shouldn't be on the ground of what people will say. it should be because you have cogent reasons. regards
ReplyDelete#8--or she's gbenshing the oga and the car-buyer guy..so doesn't want oga to ask questions!
ReplyDeleteotherwise, wetin concern them concern your car.
A beg make una borrow me bitterleaf chop cos I wan spew forth bile!Your fiancee na kidnapper?which kain gift b e that?park am for ojuelegba dey take bus go work!you no get respect for your ogas??The point is you re dating one oga or several and you don't want to enter wahala cos u can't explain the car!Don't married women in offices drive big cars?So why should urs be different if ur hands are clean @ d office?Mtchew!Signed:wide eyed
ReplyDeleteIs it that u are having an affair, with your Oga or what? I once knew a corper in my office that came to work with a Prado and a driver courtesy of the parents, every human being will understand that shoulders are not equal.
ReplyDeleteMa'm You dint mention the brand of automobile, you sound like its a super car tho, You need to amplify further. I sense your boss must be a real ogre. Instead of taking danfo to work, discuss the ish with ur spouse, u might wanna change it and get a regular feminine ride. Maybe a f**king Rav4
ReplyDeleteA piece of advice 4 u: pls stick to simple English.
DeleteMy dear sincerely speaking for d sake of ur job,don't use that car to work.get a smaller car n prob use dat one for occasions n for other convenient not work.a lot of bitter folks everywhere including ur work place n they might start thinking u r feeling too big n next thing is to target u n once u fall into their trap my dear na "sack " b dat oo.talking from experince. Rest my case
ReplyDeleteAs long as u r sure u did not steal company's money or involved in shady deals, guess u v no cause to worry.
ReplyDeletePls u only live once, enjoy the goodies dat comes wit it. Na rainy season we de ooo! Car no b for decoration.
Also, why she'd your bosses care as long as you do what you are being paid for.
Lmao... But I'm also curious, what kinda car is dat? Range Rover? I'm wondering d kinda car that people that work in an oil company do not have (make nobody cuss me o, i have worked in nnpc so i know what I'm asking).
ReplyDeleteMy dear, its such a pity the type of situation we find ourselves here in Naija especially. It's only a few people will celebrate your success with you. If you still want to keep your job and you still love your life, don't take the car to the office. I had a similar experience at my place of work before I got married. My husband to be then bought me one of these fine camry and my MD was driving a Kia picanto, not that he can't not afford a very expensive car but the wife not let him buy( one man business). To my biggest suprise I was presented a gulf 2 car as a wedding gift by my Md and his wfe. If I had taken my camry to work then, I wouldn't have gotten the car gift and they would have probably audited me(as in the case in the company) because I was a marketer there then. So, a word for the wise is enough. Saliot
ReplyDeleteYou better drive your car and stop asking silly questions, is that place your last bus stop? As long as you are sure it is your fiancé that bought it drive the damn car, park for one corner and don't rub shoulders with them, still greet them with humility and please remember to insure your car. In life , people will always talk about you, they will always have something to say and if there is nothing they will cook something up. Btw you should have told us the cost of the vehicle and where you live so we can advise you better.
ReplyDeleteYou better drive your car and stop asking silly questions, is that place your last bus stop? As long as you are sure it is your fiancé that bought it drive the damn car, park for one corner and don't rub shoulders with them, still greet them with humility and please remember to insure your car. In life , people will always talk about you, they will always have something to say and if there is nothing they will cook something up. Btw you should have told us the cost of the vehicle and where you live so we can advise you better.
ReplyDeleteaboki reasoning
ReplyDeleteDeMyk Says: Exactly. You should be afraid if you have some shady deal going on in the office bcos they will so investigate you. But if you are very clean, abeg drive your car to work. it will even get you new friends among the ogas and Madams because they will now respect you since they know you dont live on their salary
ReplyDelete@Aboki na Mallam, I don't see anything stupid in this question. May be why it's stupid to you is that it may be possible you ve not worked in big companies, government offices e.t.c. Because if you have you would have known where she is coming from.
ReplyDeleteNo mind d yeye aboki na yeye mallam,mscheeew.
DeleteI had a similar experience when I was working in a company in Lagos. Mine wasn't car, it was something else that I wouldn't want to mention. Thought jealousness is something for women only but I was wrong, even my oga's . I was sick for the most part of my contract. It got to the extent that my right leg was twisting in broad day light without any cause for it.
ReplyDeleteJealousness,lol
DeleteAnon. 6:44PM, kindly pardon her English.
DeleteBabe, jealousy is more like it. Take care.
Most times, comments on blogs can be misleading!buh dear,am a leaving testimony.I am nott saying dis cos of d number of books or ppls opinion buh d truth...I was wrking wit a firm dat has nofin to offer her staff! A firm dat believe dat wen a staff is happy,it's a SIN;a firm dat makes abt 50million a month buh can boast of paying 3millions(total sum of salary in d company).even wen ur workers help u in actualizing dat huge sum...to be truthful,last year I took my brodas car to work on saturday,I don't work on weekends buh dere was an emergency dat warranted me to be presented!I went dere wit a toyota 2009 series to d office,discharge my duties and left immediately! **my broda's car** buh d ceo heard dat I brought a car,she concluded dat I av bought a car,she neva confronted me for once buh she made my life a living hell...frustrating me,screaming at me over nofin,called an external and internal auditor to audit me...be4 putting me on indefinate suspension witout paying me!!!so dear,I don't knw u from adam,buh I believe wat happened to cud also happen to u if u follow my footstep!so be wise dear,and don't EVER,I repeat again EVER take dat car to work!cos if u do,dat will be d beginning of ur problem!!!dats my 2cents advice.....
ReplyDeletePlease tell them it's your uncle's car who lives abroad. You use the car when he is not around, and you get to return the car when he returns.
ReplyDeleteMost times, comments on blogs can be misleading!buh dear,am a living testimony.I am nott saying dis cos of d number of books or ppls opinion buh d truth...I was wrking wit a firm dat has nofin to offer her staff! A firm dat believe dat wen a staff is happy,it's a SIN;a firm dat makes abt 50million a month buh can boast of paying 3millions(total sum of salary in d company).even wen ur workers help u in actualizing dat huge sum...to be truthful,last year I took my brodas car to work on saturday,I don't work on weekends buh dere was an emergency dat warranted me to be presented!I went dere wit a toyota 2009 series to d office,discharge my duties and left immediately! **my broda's car** buh d ceo heard dat I brought a car,she concluded dat I av bought a car,she neva confronted me for once buh she made my life a living hell...frustrating me,screaming at me over nofin,called an external and internal auditor to audit me...be4 putting me on indefinate suspension witout paying me!!!so dear,I don't knw u from adam,buh I believe wat happened to cud also happen to u if u follow my footstep!so be wise dear,and don't EVER,I repeat again EVER take dat car to work!cos if u do,dat will be d beginning of ur problem!!!dats my 2cents advice.....
ReplyDelete@kenee I joined GTbank as an executive trainee driving the late model Camry. A year later, I upgraded to a Late model BMW M5 just as I was promoted to ABO. After that, I started having issues with my immediate boss who was a manager and driving a Honda. I moved to another department and was admonished by the Head of HR to buy a smaller car or leave the job because lifestyle could put pressure on people my level and cause them to steal. Mind you My Dad bought the cars for me as his only son. It is the rule in corporations. Exceptions are made for MARRIED women. She aint married yet and I still wonder what kind of car that is the biggest in an oil company. My Real name is Aboki and my surname is Na-Mallam.
ReplyDeleteIf only I knew it will raise jealousness, anger, hate, even to the extent of someone going diabolical, I wouldn't have let anyone knew. I couldn't finish my contract with them because life first. Only in Nigeria are such things big deal. So my dear it's good you asked. My humble opinion is don't let them know. Don't drive it to work if you love yourself and your work. Cheers and congratulations on your new car!
ReplyDeleteMy dear u r so right! People need to stop thinking Nigerians are jealous people. The worst things happens in abroad here especially to black people. They don't wanna see us progress buh God pass them fo sure!! Back to the topic - if u don't wanna get kicked out don't carry that ur big car to work.
ReplyDelete.
First and foremost, do you have a driving licence? No be the kin kposhi kposhi --my brother or my uncle taught me how to drive o!
ReplyDeleteThere is a saying in Bankers creed 'if you are living above your income you should be sacked even if the source of other income is legit". Please be care and dont take the car to work.
ReplyDeleteIts so easy to spot those who have never worked before and do not understand the office environment. Their day job is just to be on blogs spilling forth thrash. Aboki na mallam and co, your joblessness and dirty mind just shines through your comments. Trash. @ worried girl, I completely understand where you're coming from. Before you know it, you start to get picked on by your superiors and even your colleagues begin to envy and isolate you. Your position is not an easy one at all. You can take the car to work on some days, and leave it behind on some days. Or find a safe distance from the office car park to park your car. Goodluck.
ReplyDeletewell in your case your oga will definitely notice the car and notice you it might be a good and bad thing. i had my I.T many years ago in a company and i got to used my dads cars to work, one of the cars i used was exact same type as the oga, my problem started with parking space, park here you can't park there lol and the least of the cars i could use from home was one the oga was driving, so i used it alot. then the oga asked about owner of car/s. i got called to his office one morning and he was like nice cars i said thank you, then he asked who my dad was and all that. good thing he made me his junior P.a ooooo and bad thing i had to take the I.T serious but met alot of people through him.
ReplyDeleteplease don't drive it to work maybe after your wedding u can because the will be jealous and may even claim you stole company money from there you know what follows.
ReplyDeleteSTELLA LEARN FROM OYIBO BLOGS :-)
ReplyDeletePUT UP A PICTURE OF A FLASHY CAR.... TO MAKE THIS STORY CATCHY TO YOUR VIEWERS
RESEARCH HAS SHOWN THAT PEOPLE RESPOND MORE TO VISUAL IMAGES THAN WORDS
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DeletePls am begging u don't go to work with dat car men are evil cos the oga on top u can go higher than them blcos when they see ur car they will rember dat some money is missing pls be wise for once it is he who ware the shoe know where it paining him
ReplyDeleteAboki na-mallam! Please save ur useless judgement for someone who cares. Better go and remove the log in ur eye and get some rest. I wonder wat indicates here that this lady has low esteem? Knowing fully well how Nigerian bosses are known for their cattiness and pettiness! If u can't give constructive advice go and face ur miserable lives!
ReplyDeleteIs BBC on leave???
ReplyDeleteIt's not a crime to have a vehicle, large or small. It's a necessity. Let your mind be at rest and do what your comfortable with. Drive it to work, or fly bus. Your ABSOLUTE choice. If your not comfortable taking it to the depot, then drive around on weekends to feel your ride. So..up to you.
ReplyDeleteDnt take d car 2 wrk 4 d sake of ur job, ur oga wud tink u're rubbing shoulders wiv him..
ReplyDeleteDnt take d car 2 wrk 4 d sake of ur job, ur oga wud tink u're rubbing shoulders wiv him..
ReplyDeletePls my dear I have a cousin that fell victim to this. He was envied by his fellow workers n even his bosses to the extent that he was killed in the process all because at that time he saved money and bought Camry not long when it came out. Pls I beg you don't even gist your friends just keep quiet and tell them its ur Bf's when you see them elsewhere, don't go to work with it, some people can even go far to use juju n charm ur Bf. Pls beware
ReplyDeleteTake your car to work but park it a street away and walk to your office place. You save your job and save your self the stress of taking a bus
ReplyDeleteEven when I bought my car, I told all my friends that my bf sent it to me, I only cleared it. When I was serving, I had the same phone with the overall oga,some1 mentioned in passing- oga won't like this o!!! I started hiding the phone till I changed it. Till date if I go to visit him, I leave phones&car keys outside out of respect not coz I even need to beg him for alms- I don't. He musnt know I own any of such because he is my benefactor. After the service, I was retained, u think if I was "showing off" I would have gotten the job? He's my father figure in this large lost town so I accord him the respect.
ReplyDeleteInshort my director my immediate boss just discovered I drive a car this week by total error. I live behind him in d same highbrow location but once I sight the guy, I dodge my head. Even deputy directors have to come from really far locations to work daily then u go wan prove say u live 5mins away 4rm d office when its not my father's house. Omo girl wise up no spoil your name by yourself
I have learnt that its not good to seemingly rub shoulders especially as a single girl,even the women married to rich men here hide&respect themselves.
@corper u never get sense. Lemmi give u 2examples.
ReplyDeleteWhere I served I got a place to rent just 3mins from d office. The biggest mistake I made was to tell d truth on my 1st week there. U know what I suffered? I had no excuse to be late or close early. If I complain my Hod go say but see your house here. If I'm late see shouting- don't u live down d road?
And it also placed me under plenty scrutiny coz I had to proove I wasn't just a fine face. All coz I showed off to be better off as most abi all of them live in satellite towns&travel miles to work daily
2nd story. My younger sister used to drive her bf's corrolla to work. U need to see the issues she had with other staff who even had their own cars but felt she's too small to be driving latest car&worse at that her bf give her d car&no be say na man friend or something. And the girl will worsen it by wearing heels always etc. After a while sef, they posted my sister from accounts to marketting(afterall she drives&dress expensive so make she bring people she know in)Its a small circle so I heard d gossip from a friend's friend in the office. My sister didn't last there. She's quietly opted for her handiwork which pays&satisfies her more.
Imagine if she didn't have handiwork to fall on?
Be advised.
Thers always a curse to a blessing,if ur car big pass ur boss own na problem, if u fine u be ashawo u no go marry ontime, if u come Sabi wella nd u dress smart dey'll say ur proud.bottom line too many mediocrates in d world. But to go far in life u must ave a tick skin nd backlashes only pushes u To greater hieghts
ReplyDeleteU shld carry it to work but the decision is urs and u suppose to knw how ur oga behaves so be carefull.
ReplyDeleteHOW can you be a LEAVING testimony?? Can u be a COMING testimony. It is living!
ReplyDeleteThis Kenee haff loaded me wih headick, warizzz JEALOUSNESS. BBC! BBC! WHERE IS THY CANE!
ReplyDeleteI believe a company that would be envious of your growth is not worth it, Drive your car and pray. People do evil to poor people to,
ReplyDeleteBabe, you've got 2 options:
ReplyDelete1. Don't drive it to work at all
2. Drive it but park at a distance from your office and do leg exercise to your workplace.
Hint for 2: when driving back home, make sure you put on a BIG shade to hide your identity incase you jam any colleague on the road.
I wish you well!
Though I find it hard to believe ur story and I have never work for someone, I am an entrepreneur and a free person. I am trying to put my self in ur boss' shoes, I think I will become suspicious of u. I will definite want to find out how u got it and also what ur fiancé does (dats if u tell me he got it for u), if I am satisfied with the answers u give, fine, but if I am not and also if ur attitude @ work before nw hasn't bin good, I won't really beat around the bush, I will simply ask u to leave.
ReplyDeleteMy opinion!
Mr EE.
my dear, take your car to work. Don't behave this way. Whatever mentality anyone has is their cup of tea. If you have a car drive it. If they sack you because of it then you are not supposed to be there. Let me tell you, even if you don't have a car once people see a light that will shine greater than their's they try to depress it. So if you think hiding it will protect your job, you are lying to yourself.
ReplyDeleteTake the damn car to work babe! which kain oil company be dat? Abi Na groundnut oil company. If its truly your fiancee that bought the car for you, then theres nothing wrong, if ppl ask u simply say its from your fiancee.No need playing hide and seek dear.You are a lady so its easier for everyone to believe and assume that a guy in this case your bought the car for you which is not a big deal. if it were a guy that was in this situation it might be a different case cos ppl would suspect he is stealing
ReplyDeleteSome comment sha pls don't take that car to work o. I had a simile experience n it wasn't funny at all.
ReplyDeleteThis is really nice. Thanks for sharing .
ReplyDeleteFlying car
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