''Hi Stella.
I'm an ardent reader and occasional commenter on your blog. I would like to have your readers' opinions about my predicament.
I'm Dola aged 21 going on 22 in September dating a guy of 27 going on 28 in August. We've bn dating for a while now (years) and we're serious about getting married.
The issue now is that he wants to be hooked before 30 and I'm not ready for marriage before 24. Moreover,
by that time I should already have my first degree which is something I'll very much want to have as a single lady because I don't want any man to lord it over me that he paid my school fees or anything.
I actually don't believe in early marriage. I don't think that marriage is something that should be rushed into. I'm not ready to compromise but it's beginning to look as if I'm selfish. This is something that affects me and my future and I'm beginning to feel I should be selfish if I want the best for myself.
Do you think I should ease up on my conditions or not?''
*follow your heart oh*
Marry him jor. Its not always about book
ReplyDeletethe ultimate goal is to be a Mrs. After that nothing else matters. If he happens to be a brute, or selfish...don't worry...the Mrs title will feed you. As long as you are a Mrs, you will be ok! If he becomes an abuser, just sit there eh he will remember you are his Mrs and come to his senses. O and God forbid, if you are left alone...that Mrs title will cater for you.
DeleteNaija women some of you still think like this??? After all we are seeing. You want her to forgo her own security and future just to say she don marry. I pray our daughters are not followers of some of our footsteps
There is no need to rush jor. I dated my husband from when I was 17 and in 1st year. He was ready to marry 4 yrs later. Me, I had just started working, still wanted to pursue a foreign masters and was having fun. Finally, we compromised. I worked for a year, went for my foreign masters and then we got married while I was studying. Returned to my job and I have been balling since then.
DeleteNo need for too much story. Your goals don't have to be mutually exclusive. Reach an agreement on a middle ground.
pls he loves you na
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U wil be 24 whn his 30! Next!!!!
ReplyDeleteCynthia you will live long
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DeleteNne you better marry him o,now he is begging u for marriage,when you are above 30 you will be d one begging o,i don talk my own o,use ur brain,Visit Angel Maryjane David Blog
ReplyDeletePaul why are you talking like this. Is it wrong for a lady to have standards. Besides the girl is right. Someone ones said marriage is like a bus in lagos. The people outside are rushing in and the in it are rushing out. Do you want this to be are case? Rush in to it and rush out. My dear please talk to him, a man you want to marry should understand your stand all men are not the same he may not act like that, you now him best. There is nothing wrong with your values
DeleteExhibit Z. Stella take your eye help me see why we enter dangerous marriages. Someone will open mouth and say this?? Haba mana. All the ladies who are waiting for the right one and not compromising your goals and values...I salute! Don't listen to people that will not be there to wipe your tears and save you from the stresses of a bad marriage.
Deletemumu dey your blood...why u no advice ur sis to do same
DeleteAbeg...focus on ur own goals
We are talking money....una dey yan ikpata for here.
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Mr Anonymous at 2:40pm aka Exhibit Z will you be there to wipe her tears when she rushes into something she not matured enough to handle? When she wakes up at night thinking "what have I gotten myself into?" When she wants to pursue her dreams and her huband says "no, stay at home don't worry I'll open a boutique for you" when she can't achieve her desires because he has turned her into a baby produuction machine. When she wants her views to be heard and he says "shout up, I made you who you are, if not for me you would have been nothing, I paid your fees in that so called school". When she wants to secure a job and her Mrs titke make it a little difficult than it would have been if she were single at that age. WILL YOU BE THERE?
DeleteMy dear I forgot to tell you something. Every woman has a marriage circle, it comes at different ages for different women. You'll know its your time cause some how so many guys will proffesing marriage at that particular time. Don't mis it. It will surely come but don't mis it. That's the mistake most ladies make and remain unmarried. This doesn't mean you should rush into marriage because of fear of being unmarried and forgot your plans. It means you should be watchfull for your own time.
DeleteYou are a lucky lady to have seen someone that is ready to marry you at an early stage of your life. I suggest you go ahead and marry him. Also, am sure he is mature enough not to Lord it over you that he sent you yo school. Be at peace.
ReplyDeleteThe my way or the high way Guy is mature enough....o Di egwu
DeleteDts tru u will gt ur degree at 24 and marry him same year if u want. Wish u luck and Gods guidence
ReplyDeleteI would say finish schooling, and then get married. He can wait. Better yet, get engaged if he feels threatened about loosing you. My own honest idea. You have a whole lifetime together dear.
ReplyDeleteYoung lady, you are wise. Achieve what you can before becoming a wife pls.
ReplyDeleteStella dimoko korkus says, "follow your heart oh". Same advice from me to you. Next please..
ReplyDeleteThe best suitor I had came when I was 24 but I was too busy with my education to even consider marriage so he left. I'm 29 now, long done with school and still unmarried because I haven't met anyone half as decent. Education is great and all but do not get to a point when all you have are a bunch of 'had I knowns'. Be wise. Xoxo
ReplyDeleteThe right man for you is coming. Think about you at 24 and now. Really think! Don't let the fact that he is better than some of the filth that has shown up discourage you. Keep yourself open and keep building you up. In the process, your man will find you. I speak from experience.
DeleteThanks @ anon 2:43.
DeleteUna too wicked for this blog. The girl wey dey beg Una say her parents talk say pastor say make she no marry her pikin papa, Una say make she go school and make she wait small. Now Una say make this one go marry say it's not always about book. Wa koyo o!
ReplyDeleteNne don't just follow ur heart. Sometimes ur heart doesn't even know what it wants. So no mind Stella. I say make yourself happy and enjoy your youth. Whatever that means to you.
na the wrong story u dey comment on.
DeleteNah......take ur tym but don't ask him to wait....and 4 marriage, u have to be selfish
ReplyDeletewhen you started to date him so early and so young what did you expect?
ReplyDeleteGo to school and get a job first... Am also 21 but in my finals now, my ex bf wanted us to get married when I was 19 n I refused coz d little time I spent with him in abuja was all about "work". He said I should get a job start a biznes or whatever to help us maintain our home... I laughed at him coz u dnt start a job without a certificate or a business without capital. When the pressure became too much, we broke up...
ReplyDeleteU can marry him and still go to school or do u ve other plans , like playing around 4 sometime.
ReplyDeleteEase up
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ReplyDeleteGo to school please. Not every man is mature enough to respect you without proper education once you are in his house.
ReplyDeleteStella, you never ever EVER post my comments. Why?
ReplyDeleteYipeeeee! Comments posted. Stella one agbalumo for you :)
DeleteDon't let him rush you into marriage, doupt means don't!
ReplyDeleteYoung love and lovers. Nice.
ReplyDeleteDon't let any yeye man, especially a black man let you think you don't deserve to finish school because he wants to "marry" you. Secure your self n future first, before considering getting married and if he can't wait, then he doesn't really love you... Except you want to become a doormat for your husband. He has lived his life well and now expects you to bend your life over for him cos you are a "woman" ...please sis if you reading this, finish your education and if possible get a job, then get married... Please..
ReplyDeleteGod bless you for this comment!
DeleteAmen!!
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My dear your are not been selfish,that's what you desire for yourself. but on the other hand you have to let your gaurds down, see things don't always work out d way we plan it. If you have a caring and loving guy and you're convinced you can spend the rest of your life with him, time factor as regards age shouldn't be a barrier. Appreciate what you have my dear, pray to God and go ahead. All the best.
ReplyDeleteO girl by the time you don go that school finish u nor see husband u go knw where u dey
ReplyDeletesince you've known him for sometime and u like him...as a matter of fact, ur only problem is d age tin...i advice you go ahead...men are funny...if he has said he's gettin married at 30...he's definitely marrying @ dat age...just compromise a little...if dis one dat is compatible wit u leaves u and marries anoda...it may be difficult gettin someone u re compatible with once u are ready...on the alternative, you could ask him to wait for u...gud luck
ReplyDeleteAunty please check the meaning of compatible. Their goals are not aligned. Number 1 red flag. Number 2, she sent in the letter...sister girl is not too joyous about getting married so young. Need I go on...stop giving advice like this please. It is not difficult finding your match at the right time. Most of us are too busy looking at unimportant things and saying we aren't compatible. This right here...is a big mis match.
DeleteAnti Eli is an example. She had a suitor when she was 20 and she said books first. Now she's 31 and she hasn't met any one half responsible as that former guy. Please think well o
ReplyDeleteMy dear dnt be stupid! Marry him, ur alredy old, pple are 20 and married!
ReplyDeleteMarry him b4 sm1 steals ur fish frm u, bt have kids when ur graduated!
If u wait til ur done wiv schl ul be old, besides what's d use of ur CV when ul be alone and lonely, den in ur front guys wee gan toast 18yrs old girls and marry and born pikin!
My aunty found out d hard way now she regrets evry fuckin day!
Be wise my dear
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See yeye advice oo..sista u beta go skool 1st b4 marriage.cos if u enta b4 u will know it ur pregnant.d guy might tell u to 4get skool till u deliver,afta delivery h will tell u to take care of d child dat afta dat u will enta skool (ie procastination) das how it will b till u 4get abt skool.so don't mess up ur life.let him wait 4u 24 and 30 is still young aftall some guys do marry at d age of 38.tink twice gul
ReplyDeleteSee yeye advice oo.my dear u beta go to skool.let d guy wait 4u.24 and 30 is still young.aftall some guys do marry at d age of 38.don't mess up ur life bcos of marriage cos u might end up regrettn it.
ReplyDeletewat wr u thnkn in d 1st place dating a guy way older than u.. since you kniw u aint ready 4 sumtn serious then u sud v dated sum1 close 2 ur age...... rme
ReplyDeletecynthia be like say u read maths for university, this ur comment over sweet my belle.
ReplyDeleteMy dear marry him o,husband dey scarce o. And moreover you both love each other. Time no dey o,make I tell you.
ReplyDeleteI sigh. Girl, I will be 37 next year, still a virgin but no man to call my own and here you are with a man begging u to marry him. I shake my head for u.
ReplyDeleteYou be 504 station wagon. Nne gaan fuck first
Deletemy dear go to school never ever mortgage your life and destiny for a man they never appreciate now at your age you dont really know what u want in a man so i advice u get a life u will always get a better man but u see if u dont get a certificate before u marry u may never get one bcos marriage itself has its own ups and down what if u get pregnant each year and loose interest in futhering ur education due to the stress of motherhood u may not be able to contribute to the family financially then thesame man starts detesting u as a liability u may not be able to get the best of life as two heads are better dan one never rush into marriage never be presured into it as its for life many of my class mates could not finish lawschool due to marriage &pregnancy today they are not lawyers because of misplaced priority love doesnt keep marriage but it is wisdom knowledge&understanding all the best
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Punctuations pls!! And u claim ur a lawyer.
DeleteHmm,I dnt get u sweet,u ar goin to b 24 wen he is 30....pls hold on to him,guys ar scarce o
ReplyDeleteU'll be 24 when he is 30, sisi! If you are not ready then, he can engage you. You must have a degree! That's you ticket to earn a living (be it business/white collar job) you need that exposure. Besides, the same family you are marrying into will be the first to abuse you if you don't complete that degree, honour your parents with the degree. Once you marry in uni, you are most likely going to get pregnant immediately and then defer school for a year or two, the probability of performing well after kids come during exams is low, too many responsibilities, you may end up forgetting the degree. Even if you may end up being a housewife, just get the certificate for records purpose, you can always do nysc before you clock 30.. Good luck as you make your life choices..
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lol just follow your heart girl, I say don't compromise
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mama ijebu! she shld ease up ke? pls dola finish your education ohh.. A man that loves you will wait for you no matter what...
ReplyDeleteLol..When she is 24 and outta school he will be 30..Am sure she can try to make him wait till then unless she's not ready to marry and still want to test the waters but sincerely,there no waters to test anywhere so if u have a good man,keep him,if u don't have yet,keep searching...
DeleteBut Oga, u don like this blog thing pass me o.. To think say na me introduce u..Oga o
See these two agbayas, mama ijebu and papa Ijebu. Hissssssss. Abegi, both of you should gaaan drink Ijebu garri and clear make better people see road
DeleteThanks y'all for your input. Thanks Stella for posting this.
ReplyDeleteI ws 19 n he ws 27,we were close frnds 4 as long as I cn remember b4 we started datin wen I ws 18,he sed by 28,he wuld luv 2 get married,I ws in my 200l,I told him we shuld come 2 a compromise cos my parents wuld hardly accept 4 me 2 get married b4 I graduate,he sed ok,wen I'm in my 400l n we were ok wit dat....evrybody knew him in my house n I ws known in his house,he is a lot older dan me but we were best of frnds,u wuld neva knw d age difrence,in my 300l,I went 2 his place 2 spend d easter wit him n 2 my surprise n disbelief,I found out he ws gettin married 2 sum1 else b4 d end of dat year n invitation ws out already,if I hadn't checked his personals,I myt av nt known....it ws traumatic,my mum alwaz says she prays my heart doesn't give out cos I get disturbed by d most little tins nt 2 talk of dis,it ws so bad dat my dad had 2 send our driver 2 pick me 4rm skul cos I ws disoriented n evrytin ws in a mess,I ws loosin weight,I ws hardly pickin calls,I av a very close rltnshp wit my parents so it ws easy 4 dem 2 undastnd cos I told dem evrytin,God bless my parents,evryday,I blame myself n I cnt get ova it,it ws a cruel tin 2 do but I forgive him and I wish him well.may God help us all.
ReplyDeleteMy dear peace u will see anoda person dat is far more better dan him.by d way dat guy is nt ur husband.jst pray to God to give u ur own hubby
DeleteHe just wasn't meant for you.. Only God knows what you just escaped.
DeleteHope he wil nt procastinate wen time 4 u to enta skool reach..jst talk it out wiv him b4 u marry him.cos some men act weird somtimz
ReplyDeleteActually, it shld be mama somadina! That guy is still in his teens except u wan uphold child groom
DeleteSo sori Stella 4 writing abt my story instead of d advise dis young girl nids,I just tot 2 share it,av bin on my own til nw nt bcos all men are dsame,no!all men are nt dsame,dere r gud men out dere but am scared,terribly afraid,4 hw long wuld I b afraid?I dnt blame him 4 leaving @ all but am hurt n I pray evryday 4 God 2 heal my hurt n open ur my heart,its nt bin easy 4 me 2 4gve myself or muv on....dis is my lil piece of advice 4 u dear,pray babe and talk 2 ur mum abt it if u can,take ur tym n tink abt it but dnt take too long,if u luv him enuf n he does too and u knw his ways are gud den u cn go ahead,talk 2 him abt it....discuss wit him,u wuldnt want 2 regret dat u dint try all ur options.God bless u.
ReplyDeleteIf he truly loves you he should be able to wait for you to get your degree. One of the ways you know that a person truly loves you is that they want to help you to achieve your goals so if he truly loves you, he should just sacrifice some time and let you attain your goal.
ReplyDeleteMoreover since both of you are already committed to getting married, you can get engaged now and later marry.
Getting your degree is an important short term project which is controllable; but marriage is an important long term project in which anything can happen. Don't jettison your educational goals. You are not being selfish but he will be the selfish one if he cannot bear with you. On the other hand school does a lot of things to ladies, we have seen ladies who run off with other partners they met at school maybe this is his fear. No matter what, get your degree it should be a test of the love both of you profess to have for each other. If he can't wait then he is not yours; on the other hand if you jilt him then you are not meant for him but if he waits and you both sail through then your love becomes stronger. Wishing you Goodluck!
I think u r just afraid, u are already in school so if he marries u I believe u will be hardworking enough to finish ur education n u thinking hez gonna lord over u because he assumed responsibility n finished sponsoring u in Sch is absolutely silly. Secondly u hv known this guy for a while now n u have been talking marriage so what r u confused about? U wanna still play silly romance with some school boys or what?. Above all be wish and ask God for guidance. Wish u all the best
ReplyDeleteExactly!
DeleteThat is where the power of prayers come in. You don't need to rush and do what you don't want to do. talk thinks over with him, if he is willing to wait, I guess he is yours...but then, it is not bad getting married before twenty-four...it is all about love...
ReplyDeleteDo not marry him while you are in school. What is the rush? If he was a sensible person he would know hat for this type of economy two working hands are needed to start a home. Also, this his attitude to pushing you into marriage now isn't right. That shows that he is too domineering. Consult with your parents.but trust me do not marry while in school. If he starts misbehaving you will be seriously stranded. And having children while in school is a difficult thing. I'm beggining to forget all these other comments pushing you into marrying him now. If he truly loves you he will wait a bit as school is important. If he leaves you because of this decision then thank GOD because your best is ahead. Be wise
ReplyDeleteAs it is said in my line of work "where in doubt,leave out".Fellow SDKers,she said she doesn't WANT TO MARRY BEFORE 24.This means when he turns 30,she may not be ready to make that committment.For a young lady of 22,I applaud you for keeping a relationship for a long time.kinda reminds me of those days wen my aunts dated and married their boyfriends.I perceive you re a very careful person?You apparently love your partner but there's a tinnie winnie bit of doubt that there maybe something better for you out there hence u want to give it time!Well,I believe one should "live" before answering a man's name.You never know if while stalling,your true soulmate may just appear and its gonno be a bang!Everything happens for a reason.our fears,anger,laughter,patience etc all add up to paint our big picture.however,u may wait to get to the age you think is right to marry this man and he would ve married someone else to fulfil his 30yr "laid~ down~plan".The scary part in this complication is that you may just ve wasted your time waiting to get past 24.Sweerie,there's not so much out there in terms of good men o!What u ve u keep.Except he is a growing specimen of domestic violence and you re not telling us!at 22,u ought to be starry eyed and eagar to walk down the aisle cos u know how husbands ve become scarce globally.if the guy aint bad why worry?Life doesn't necessarily have to go with a bang!Sometimes a whimper is all there is to true happiness!wish you luck!Signed:wide eyed!
ReplyDeletenne forget those that said u wouldn't get a husband after school, all na wash.
ReplyDeleteI will be turning 29yrs by Dec, done with schooling, working now and making mega bucks ( but u wouldn't know shaa), I have travelled the world, had mega fun too. trust me the calibre of men asking for my hand in marriage now no be same as when I was 18/24yrs...... Finally I would be getting married next month too.
Ur lucky 2 hav found cos nt all are lucky. I hav friends praying day and night
Deletewhy do nigerian girls pressure themselves about marriage like this... Tufiakwa i never see
ReplyDeletecan a day pass without our girls talking about marriage. Must everyone marry? what is marriage? I just dont understand the whole saga
Get an education, he can give you an engagement ring and both of you watch how It goes. Relationships are all about compromise....a little to the left a little to the right. Both of you should lean towards a middle point. Abeg no go chase your boyfriend away with the "feminist assertive attitude", una no dey fight.....calmly tell him you both have to reach a compromise. If he thinks he cant wait,then thats another ball game. When you get to the " I can't wait river" there'll definetly be a way to cross it. As for the person who talk say them no dey marry ladies after 30..,,, that sounds very "easternerish"........you are clearly from the eastern part of the country...where I'm from 40 year old wey born 3 dey commit marry anoda.
ReplyDeleteWow, I dunno what to say, I'm in d same dilemma, Plz sm1 advice me,
ReplyDeleteI'm 23 a virgin in delsu in year 1.
Enterd schl late bt I've kept myself, I attend mfm, strong xtian.
Pple r tellin me to get married now becuz if I finish at 28 I'll be too old for any1 to marry.
Confused :(
Heavenly Father! 28 and too old to be married. My sister, get your education. If someone comes along and YOU feel comfortable...toh go ahead but don't listen to these crazy people saying age is not on your side. Oh Father please deliver us. We need a serious orientation on loving ourselves and building up ourselves. In the world over, women are taking advantage of the new opportunities we have, meanwhile naija women are still with this mentality. My sister, don't fear...use this opportunity to better yourself and serve God. At the right time, you will get married but don't rush in because of pressure from people who will not be there in your home with you. God bless you.
DeleteMy dear am hapily marryd at d age of 29..my elda sis marry at d age of 30 too.d main tin is dat we ar happy and we hv tins doin.so fuck anybody tryn to tell u dat age will not b on ur side.u beta focus on ur studies.
DeleteMy dear am hapily marryd at d age of 29..my elda sis marry at d age of 30 too.d main tin is dat we ar happy and we hv tins doin.so fuck anybody tryn to tell u dat age will not b on ur side.u beta focus on ur studies.
DeleteWhy is every one lookn @it from d gurl's side? Wat stops d guy from compromisn too, afterall age is vewi much on his side.
ReplyDeleteSigh...darling. Your man has achieved and isn't patient enough for you. If you gave him same ultimatum, the outcome would be different. I know one thing, secure your future. This man might decide that you should hold off on school cause he wants kids, then hold off on school till kids get to a good age...then hold off again cause he wants XYZ.
ReplyDeleteLadies please be smarter than this. Have you not seen enough horrible cases of men turned crazy. I beg you young sister. You are 21...focus on you. Don't you have dreams? 21 and someone here is saying you will not find another. This is My dear why we enter unions with physical abusers. Naija women,marriage is not the end all o. Get something for you...in todays wicked world it is important that a woman does not rely on a man solely. Not being cynical o, just being realistic. No one put pressure on lover boy...let him wait or park somewhere else. As for all the rest who are so hungry for a man...rush manage and marry oh then when you send Stella your later, we will gather here and be advising. NAIJA WOMEN...THE SAYING GET A LIFE APPLIES LITERALLY TO US. Sorry Stella, it is highly infuriating when you read some comments.
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DeleteYou r not eager for marriage well then be patient talk to him n advice him to wait till u get ur degree. i no lots of people who married early n r doing better than those who married late. depends on u two. there aint much diff between 29 and 30 right Maybe he can give u an addtional yr.
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Lol @ d virgin, u dey try oh!
ReplyDeleteY u still a virgin tho'
Men dnt wanna marry virgins now adays oh!
Goodluck sha.
When in doubt, please pause. I would say finish your education first. If he loves you, he will wait. You are talking about being selfish because you have refused to compromise on your education. I say he should also stop being selfish and give you time. Two years is not a long wait. I'm speaking from experience here. I also married at 24 and I tell you, had I known any better, I woulda waited. The story too long abeg. Madam, LET HIM WAIT IF HE LOVES U.
ReplyDeleteYou still have 2 years before the cut off age for you both.
ReplyDeleteI'm sure you will be close to being done with school by then.
Marriage is about compromise. If you can't start meeting yourselves halfway now, how do you intend to do it in your marriage? ?
Sit him down, tell him your dreams, get his own dreams. If its intro that will be your mid point, so be it. Do intro, wear his proposal ring, (the secret is carrying each other along the whole time) that way, it will be both of you involved. And it won't look selfish
anonymous 2: 39 leave the virgin alone ! Na her choice ooooo...Kezaya!
ReplyDeleteWow! Different stroke for different folks! #sighs#. It's kinda complicated u know. My frnd was in d same shoes 2 years ago,she finally had to compromise in 300l but to tell u d truth,ha Cgp dropt that year after her marriage evn though she was an avid reader. While I'm praying to God n bhaving decently enuf to get a gud guy 4 marriage(evn doe I'm stl in my early 20s),I stl dnt think I'll lv to get married b4 2015 that I'm gonna b done. So babes, pls,finish ur degree prog nd brace up for anything that might happen(as per d guy.)Gracias Stella
ReplyDeleteNo! Yo are not selfish but sensible!
ReplyDeleteGet your education and a job first, then marriage.
No man likes liability, but independent women in this present era.
make hay when the sun shines because when it is dark, no man can work again.
ReplyDeleteIf he truly loves you...he go wait for you. You guys could do the introduction so he feels comfy.
ReplyDeleteLive ur life b4 adding his own to urs! Life is for the living, if e can't wait e shud bounce* watz 2years dat e can't wait??? in d while e can engage yu, do ur intro b4 d proper marriage or beta stil b patient while u achieve ur dream* I'm half of 50yrs, lol, a graduate, my own boss, in a happy relationship but trust me I'm hapily single.......NO REGRETS . Sweet @d right time everything will fall into place* don't eva 4get God in all yur dealings. Cheers#Sugarous Sugar
ReplyDeleteLive ur life b4 adding his own to urs! Life is for the living, if e can't wait e shud bounce* watz 2years dat e can't wait??? in d while e can engage yu, do ur intro b4 d proper marriage or beta stil b patient while u achieve ur dream* I'm half of 50yrs, lol, a graduate, my own boss, in a happy relationship but trust me I'm hapily single.......NO REGRETS . Sweet @d right time everything will fall into place* don't eva 4get God in all yur dealings. Cheers#Sugarous Sugar
ReplyDeleteMy dear this is exactly why I don't believe in early age longtime relationships - if you are just 21 and have been dating him for years, then you went in too young. Anyways that is neither here nor there, I think you should have a heart-to-heart talk with him and let him know your stand.
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