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Read the below mail from Togolese blogvisitor Holliti,her case tire me oh.....Hmmm!
i have been wanting to send this mail since but have been very busy and i think now is the time to share my story and ask for advice.
my name is Holliti, i am Togolese and i am dating a married man presently,he spoils me but he is a terrible sex freak.i have had over four abortions for him cos i enjoy sex with him too but the problems now is i think i need to move on since i am not getting any younger but my man doesn't want to let go.
please i need advise on how to end this relationship without hurting him cos i still love him and he has even proposed to marry me but i want none of that,as i cant be a second wife.
All the abortions i had was because he tried to impregnate me on several occasions even with condom he would jerk so hard till the condom broke while inside me,and he would insist i keep it when i get pregnant.
Stella i never wanted this relationship to get to this level, i just wanted to have fun now it seems am hooked with this man and i seriously want out.
please help me stella by posting this and am relying on comments in case there is anyone that was once in my shoes and how they tackled it.
from my sincere heart i need to get out but it seems he is obsessed with me and can't live without me.but i think its just the sex cos he can't
do without making love to me in a week which i have also become fond of.plz help me stella let know what i can do to get out of it FAST!!!''
I replied Holliti and asked her
''Does she (the wife)know about you?when you say he spoils you,what do you mean?
''oh no she doesn't know me @ all.but i know her and the kids cos he tells me everything and i have the password to his mobile phone and laptop ,sometimes i choose the gifts he buys for his wife and I.
He has proposed marriage though he planned to send me out of the country once i accept his proposal but i WON'T cos i do not have the courage to do so.Like i said earlier i was only having fun o didn't plan for it to get to this level at all.that's why i didn't move to the house he got me.I do not think he told her about me yet cos i haven't accepted to marry and abscond with him to d states. He has everything planned out Stella just waiting for me to take the bold step but my dear Stella i am NOT THAT BOLD AFTER ALL OOOO.
He spoils me with plenty of cash and gifts cos i wasn't working at some point and he took total responsibility of my upkeep after giving me some money to start a business.He pays my bills and all.
i hope this lil xplanation has answered your questions.''
*Blog visitor over to you oh!