Hello Blogvisitor,
Before you read this mail,just know that a lot of people have come to rely on this Blog for the mature way problems are shared and solutions and advice offered....same way people shy away cos some people just start cussing out like they live perfect lives.
Please lets try to show one love on this blog..most of the people who share their problems are blogvisitors like you as well.
Read the below mail from Togolese blogvisitor Holliti,her case tire me oh.....Hmmm!
''Hello Stella,
i have been wanting to send this mail since but have been very busy and i think now is the time to share my story and ask for advice.
my name is Holliti, i am Togolese and i am dating a married man presently,he spoils me but he is a terrible sex freak.i have had over four abortions for him cos i enjoy sex with him too but the problems now is i think i need to move on since i am not getting any younger but my man doesn't want to let go.
please i need advise on how to end this relationship without hurting him cos i still love him and he has even proposed to marry me but i want none of that,as i cant be a second wife.
All the abortions i had was because he tried to impregnate me on several occasions even with condom he would jerk so hard till the condom broke while inside me,and he would insist i keep it when i get pregnant.
Stella i never wanted this relationship to get to this level, i just wanted to have fun now it seems am hooked with this man and i seriously want out.
please help me stella by posting this and am relying on comments in case there is anyone that was once in my shoes and how they tackled it.
from my sincere heart i need to get out but it seems he is obsessed with me and can't live without me.but i think its just the sex cos he can't
do without making love to me in a week which i have also become fond of.plz help me stella let know what i can do to get out of it FAST!!!''
I replied Holliti and asked her
''Does she (the wife)know about you?when you say he spoils you,what do you mean?
Her response
''oh no she doesn't know me @ all.but i know her and the kids cos he tells me everything and i have the password to his mobile phone and laptop ,sometimes i choose the gifts he buys for his wife and I.
He has proposed marriage though he planned to send me out of the country once i accept his proposal but i WON'T cos i do not have the courage to do so.Like i said earlier i was only having fun o didn't plan for it to get to this level at all.that's why i didn't move to the house he got me.I do not think he told her about me yet cos i haven't accepted to marry and abscond with him to d states. He has everything planned out Stella just waiting for me to take the bold step but my dear Stella i am NOT THAT BOLD AFTER ALL OOOO.
He spoils me with plenty of cash and gifts cos i wasn't working at some point and he took total responsibility of my upkeep after giving me some money to start a business.He pays my bills and all.
i hope this lil xplanation has answered your questions.''
*Blog visitor over to you oh!
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ReplyDeleteFirstly I would like to know your age ? Stella all this people know the right thing to do and still ask for advice , I really don't get it. My dear there is something called karma in life. Stop the relationship asap if u want my advice and ask God for forgiveness from the bottom of your heart. They problem most women have is they always settle for less. I'm sure there are still comfortable single men in Togo. So my dear do youself a favour and stop the relationship. Never start what you can not finish in life . All u wanted was fun rite? But four abortions aint fun my darling, at least the first or second abortion should have taught you a lesson. I'm not judging u o, cause that's one thing I hate, I'm just saying the obvious. Chai God is REALLY A God of mercy.
DeletePs: I love Togolese beans. Hehehe also called Ewa agoy. (Ignore any typos if any , can't be bothered to read again)
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Lolz......am anticipatin dat reply too.....Lwkmq Chyqueen
DeleteLMAO
DeleteJust accept the man's proposal and be his second wife since u've been his slut for this long. No man will marry u wt ds ur story. Marry him and bcos u might not be able to deliver again. So just stick to d man since he don spoil u finish. Don't spoil another man's future
DeleteThink twice
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Togolese woman
ReplyDeleteMake I stil yab u smal
So if to say u no realise say u no dey get any younger, u 4 still dey fuck anoda woman husband?
Anyway sha, d@ one na 4 anoda day.
My simple advice is dis:
Change your number and address.
Cut off all ties u've and any means of contacting u.
If he no see u for 1 mth or hear 4m u, em prick go adjust to jst em wife or anoda woman own.
Obsexn can only go on if he keeps seeing u.
Capiche??????
Hear me pls. NO MAN IS ANOTHER WOMAN's HUSBAND/MAN UNTIL THE MAN SAYS SO! If u like hit ur head on the wall, I just said it. The man is the one to determine whether he is a one woman man or NOT!
DeleteSome women are beginning to get it all twisted. Esp the Nigerian women folk. A country where polygamy is in utmost existence. And most of u will come out here to condemn another woman by the cliche "u are sleeping with another woman's hubby" when u DO NOT KNOW the situation. How convenient.
If the man has tried to impregnate her severally, it means he's ready for her and everything. He clearly wants 2wives. If u the poster do not agree to his request, he will still offer another woman the opportunity. Get this clear.
He clearly loves to have sex reg, and with more than one woman. So rather than sleep with just any woman, he's truthful enough to want to formalize his union with the second pussy. What's wrong with that?
Reject the offer if u like, but make sure u'll get a man whom u love as much as him. And who told u a 'single' guy will be more eligible than him? I would take the offer if I were u. What u got to lose anyway? Uv dedicated ur pussy and the better part of ur womb to him for so long, so let him have the remnant of u.
Goodluck! Goodbye!
Anony 5.26pm. You made so much sence. Women live in denial, the men are not saints. Born polygamist.
DeleteBorn polygamist. So that's a valid excuse for men to f**k everything in skirts abi. Una no dey fear God.
DeleteOk now,u need help pls nobody should curse or abuse her. Quietly break up the relationship and pray to God to help you and provide a good man for you.many people have done worse so pls don't let anybody bring you down wit deir comments and judgements.God will help you.
ReplyDeleteWe really like to judge. Most people are unhappy and they only come here to vent their anger. Both married and single.
DeleteWe really like to judge. Most people are unhappy and they only come here to vent their anger. Both married and single.
DeleteSo u just can't take a 'timid' step out of dis heck becos?????????
ReplyDeleteOh becos u still want him to kip spoiln u plenty after d break up, u still want some of d love and attention wit no strings attached
Abi is he goin to kill yu?????
D choice is urs, nobody can make d decision 4 yu, yu either leave or stay!!
FYI he won't leave his wife 4 yu o, he loves his family, dats y u choose d gifts he buys 4 u and his wife cos he wants d best 4 her too...hehehehehehehe (karma is a biatch)
Y do ppl love to call dis word 'biatch' instead of 'bitch'? Or izit now trending n pls Telme oh so I caan move wit d flow
DeleteGemini babe - I love wen i pronounce it as biatch; 'so mean!!'
DeleteIt has always been in trend.. bitch is mostly used during a confrontation. And biatch is more friendly..
Deletebiatch ain't no friendly shit. It's meant to be mean, babe
DeleteHmmmmm! think I am too young to give an advise on this issue so ama seat back and read comments.
ReplyDeleteOuch!!!
ReplyDeletePlease visit my blog oh! Hot gossip is what we cook dia! ANND I got recharge card for you! ;) Stella paste my comment abeg. Fellow sister in the hustle, says so.
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ReplyDeleteAhaaaaan! Shuo! How u take know say na another person be this? Hian!
DeleteI thought as much! Togolese people don't write/speak English as good as that(d English aint perfect tho).
DeleteStella you have been 'jonsed'!
Anon 3.48 that's y women r each others biggest enemy. Mumu calling out a friends name. Idiot just stfu and treat the issue at hand. Onu ncha.
DeleteThis is so immature!
DeleteLmaoooo e bi like sey u know this person and this gist
DeleteLol I knw it...madam Nora claiming togolese is a decoy...leave pesin hubby and go and look 4 ur own...Karma is a bitch.wen ur own turn comes now,u'll write 2 stella forming I didn't do it 2 any1...leav sum1's hubby alone
Deleteplease send him to me!
ReplyDelete"read the below mail", chai! Sterra, you too speak broken. Hahahahahahahahahaha. I know your spoken English is perfect esp with your foneh and sweet voice but the way u write sometimes ehn. ...Dem go know say u still dey blow broken dieeee
ReplyDeleteHahahahahahahahahaha
Hmmmmm...This letter is annoying, funny, and stupid. Since you too are so in love why not just tell him to divorce his wife and marry you and see if he will, let's now assume he dose let's see for how long the two of you will continue to enjoy the sex and also how long the marriage will last, i say so because i get a feeling you are having all this fun with him because you are STEALING. One last word , just know that when you get married another woman will do this to you, you can't escape it, your marriage won't even last, mark my word, it is not a curse it is a fact.
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ReplyDeleteGud talk.. U are very on point. Can't imagine ppl cursing her. She said she wants out...xxx
DeleteHey Stella, what's this news about some Man in Nigeria, being "Raped" to death by his five wives? Got more details?
ReplyDelete@Anonymous 3.48pm why did you have to write that name in full? What if you are wrong?
ReplyDeleteStella abeg remove that name.
Madam Togolese, if you really want to leave this man, you will without any drama. He will feel it for a while but he will move on to the next available punani. Its as simple as that.
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stella maybe wen u stop posting comment of people dat cuss out people dey will stop sending it,quality is beta than quantity please, cuz it annoying seeing people cuss u out cuz u post comment, where is bloodlord, where is wild eyed, those dat give intelligently comment won't, I stop reading Linda comment cuz of irrelevant comments, just read story and move out,Abel make ur blog matured n respected,before u know it people start sharing life issues, is not abt gossip u know,we can learn from too.
ReplyDeletestella maybe wen u stop posting comment of people dat cuss out people dey will stop sending it,quality is beta than quantity please, cuz it annoying seeing people cuss u out cuz u post comment, where is bloglord , where is wild eyed, those dat give intelligently comment won't, I stop reading Linda comment cuz of irrelevant comments, just read story and move out,Abeg make ur blog matured n respected,before u know it people start sharing life issues, is not abt gossip u know,we can learn from too.
ReplyDeleteIn the first place why are you fucking another woman's man? And am very sure the man wl attimes transfer annonayance on his wife cos of u. Now advice 1 go and ask God for forgiveness and then change ur line ur movement to where he doesn't know and anytime u are ready to settle down tell ir hubby abt him cos who knows he can be funny later in future.
ReplyDeleteMy dear am in a bigger fix. My married bf of years no wan leave me. His wife knows n has confronted my people. I jus tire. This one pass obsession. I've told him dat I will never marry him even if he leaves his wife, which I doubt he would. These Abj men sef
ReplyDeleteStella, Again I find Anonymous #7 posting distasteful. Calling peoples names is slander!!! That said,
ReplyDeleteOmo togo, let me tell you a story.
Back in the 90's when there were no mobile phones, a man was cheating on his wife. For the girlfriend to let him know she was at the pre-arranged spot, she would call his house phone 3 times without saying a word. Whoever picks the phone will say hello! hello!! hello!!! with no response.
The man divorces his wife and marries the girlfriend. One day, their house phone rang and she said hello! hello!! and there was no response. Shortly after the phone rang, the husband told her he wanted to go but some drugs for his asthma at the chemist. The mistress turned wife blocked the door and said "Lai Lai!!! I know that move. you aint going nowhere."
That night, the man died of asthma attack.
You are enjoying the sweet stolen water. Someday, it is your water that will be stolen.
Aboki...OUT!!!!
Nice story
DeleteIf you want to leave him...you will leave him. Every girl knows just how to do this. You really don't want to just yet because of all the money and gifts. I bet you must have wondered how you will cope without them. Leave him. You know how. This life is a vicious cycle. If you continue, someday when you decide to settle down, some random girl will do the same to your husband. Then you will feel the pain.
ReplyDeleteThis NOTHING u can't do if u put ur mind to it, pull out slowly so his "love" doesn't turn to hate. Cut off all the sex and sexual play, reduce your communications, don't be at his beck and call, he will get the message before u even break it to him. But please never sleep with him Again!
ReplyDeleteLook for someone that will make a good woman out of u without u having to abscond. All the best.
Hello Togolese lady,Am afraid you ve given me very few tools to work with here. How old are you? How old is your married lover?How long have you been dating? Married men as lovers are very tricky.If he's middle aged,he must be very experienced in the game. He knows what to say and do to get you believing he's obsessed with you.A man who wants you to go across the atlantic ocean when you are with child,can surely do without you!I must say its Very considerate of you wanting to provide a soft landing for him when you dump him; that's If you Ever do...But let me announce to you that he won't mourn long enough to flatter you.Once the "other woman"(You in this case), starts to assist in running errands for madam and kids at home(picking presents?),it's his subconscious way of letting you know she comes first.He's making you acknowledge that fact.He's paying well too for the whole arrangement.A major population of married women,once dated married men in their single days.However,they knew when to stop!Till date,no married man has reportedly died of heartbreak when his mistress Left him and got married.Infact,some go out of their way to give ex mistresses befitting send~ off with huge severance pay.Babes,collect your retirement benefits and move on.What I see here,is you wondering how you re gonna live without him and not the other way round as you erroneously think.His wife is available to give him a shoulder to cry on.she may not know why he's down,since you do not exist in her world,but she ll rise to the occassion and show compassion to her OWN when the need arises.Like you suspect already,it is mostly about the sexual adventure.You are not his first mistress.You won't be the last.The guy is probably good at infidelity. If you want to leave,do so! The world will not end for either of you. Time heals all wounds. Goodluck! Signed:wide Eyed!
ReplyDelete@Wide Eyed; wish I could kiss your comment.
DeleteBest comment so far
Delete@wide eyed:good comment
DeleteI always look forward to reading ur replies wide eyed, u always get it right.
DeleteI always enjoy reading your comments. You write so well.
Deletewide eyed is spot on in this comment. The wife comes first, babe. If she does not, you won't be picking her presents. Picking her presents confirms your housegirl status in this whole charade. And stop claiming Togolese. They have a lot of problems than to be buying houses for mistresses and all that.
DeleteTogolese talking like a Naija.. Ooooo! Lolz. Ure a naija babe jor. U think if he had a good reason to dump you he would think twice? Love urself first woman cos at the end of the day its ur life and there is no duplicate and u cant gain back lost time and..... Advice urself jowe!
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ReplyDeleteWhy r u pathetic losers calling ppls names.
DeleteBiko transfer him to me. Let him spoil me. I will spoil him right back hehe
ReplyDeleteStella pls give me your email address make I send my tory come.
ReplyDeleteHmmm, all those ppl sleeping wt someones husband, both u n d man will rot in hell if u don't repent
ReplyDeletePlease don't confuse obsession with love. The man is obsessed with sex, but so are you. And it's made you weak in making your decision to leave him.
ReplyDeleteThe present world we live in is so hard that in order for us to make positive impacts on ourselves we have to make BOLD decisions. Be BOLD in your decision to leave him; call it quits, change your telephone number(s), and if possible and convenient, relocate. Occupy yourself always with activities that interest you to reduce your sexual urge (sexual urge is highest when body and mind are less busy).
If you've any respect for his wife you should be BOLD in your decision too. You wouldn't want your spouse to be cheating on you, would you?
It's not going to be easy, but recall that few steps are always the beginning of a Great Journey. God speed...
I wish I have a man dat spoil me silly. Mine doesn't even though he can afford to. The few times I have asked for money, its pittance that he gives. I can't complain because I know he is not mine. I am just tired. No responsible single man and d married one is stingy. I don't know how to make him give more. That's my concern.
ReplyDeleteLwkmd @"responsible single man"! What do u call "responsible"? R u "responsible" urslf? It's laughable hw every lady wants "a God-fearing man" but r not ready 2 fear God themselves. Oh, btw i'm a lady!
DeleteReading your words, I could almost hear you talking right in front of me. I could see in those words, a true and sincere desire to quit the relationship. I can relate with your difficulty in taking a decision against the relationship. However difficult it may seem, you are at the point where you have to decide on a line of action, such that you will not regret. At the risk of casting my pearls..., let me offer my counsel in one sentence: 'quit the relationship and dam the consequences'.
ReplyDeleteIf you desire a robust future and a good, happy home, the status quo will not guarantee you any. The difficulty you're having in deciding against what I think you know is 'a pie in the sky', is because of an emotional tie that already exist between the two of you. After all, you've both been enjoying a 'fulfilling sex' life together. So right now, your will (reasoning) is in direct conflict with your emotions, and it's not an easy thing to deal with, I must admit. But with the benefit of wisdom, you never exalt sentiments above principles. If you allow your emotions to rule you, you are heading for doom. Feel the pain now, of disconnecting, and enjoy the gain later.
Let him know you have decided, you can't continue with him anymore, even if it means relocating to an unknown place and changing your line. And pls., stop dilly-dallying.
Hawk-Eyed
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ReplyDelete@ Eze,how many babes you fit finish?if you jam my type,you go know say khaki no be leather
DeleteI like fucking married men,they give best unlike single guys who are just there
DeleteGood for u anonymous 8.24pm what u sow u will reap.some girls will fuck ur husband.even ur maid.watch it period
DeleteWho is this fool dropping names @ anon # 7! Nora ko, Dora ni! Simple instructions you can't follow! Stella said show love, give advice or better still shut the fuck up. If you have beef with this your Nora friend, abeg go and meet her joh!
ReplyDeleteHave been in ur shoe b4, but mine is different. Never even date d man but he keeps tabs on me 24/7 even wen I yelled at him. A friend adviced moi, to look for a guy to help out. I just use d guy to act as if his my new bf, thought it took a year plus for him to let me be. So my advise get a guy dat can act as ur bf for d main time...some ppl can be mario
ReplyDeleteAll these ladies dat kp on causing pain 2oda women by sleepn wt their husbands then later turn around 2 look 4 their own, God is not mocked!
ReplyDeleteAs 4 those men dat sleep around, "sow d wind & reap d whirlwind....!"
@Holliti or whoeva, u cnt eat ur cake & hv it. What goes around comes around. Either cut him off cmpletely, or stay n face d consequences. If u marry him, he'll still do same 2u. A word is enof......!
My dear I am also in this kind of wahala oo,but my problem is dat I have a child for him,I don't want him to leave his wife and I don't want to marry him.I haven't been able to find a good man,so I get really lonely.he doesn't live in the same town with me,so I still have all the time to be with another man,I have been praying and hoping but no good man for over 5yrs now!
ReplyDeleteVery funny. Praying for a good man while you are committing a grievous sin against man & God. Repent & accept Jesus as your personal lord & saviour.
DeleteThe same thought comment #25
ReplyDelete@ That Girl, Can you just buried that stupid mentality of yours that Togolese people can't speak good English?
ReplyDeleteAnonymous No 13, Must you mention her first name? She asked for an advise, not exposure. You are secret jealous of her am sure.
ReplyDeleteTogolese lady, it is really hard to break a relationship either with a married man or single guy. What you can do is to change the area you leave, change your mobile phone and cut any ties with this man. You don't have to fight him, just have a heart to heart talk with him and thank him for everything he's done for you.
ReplyDeleteYou need to picture yourself out of the relationship & where you want to be in the next 12 months.
This will be hard for you, no doubt, but try as much as possible to fill his gap with something else, e.g. You may travel out of the country for few weeks, go to the cinema, concert, and go out with friends.
I hope you'll be able to sort yourself out.
The truth is; you've been laboring for someone and you gave him four souls as sacrifice for peanuts. All that you received from this man is "peanuts" cos it cannot satisfy you and give you that inner peace. Why have you labored for Satan only to be paid back with eternity in hell? Someone invites you to have rest from this labor; hear him:
ReplyDelete"28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” Matthew 11
Just pray to him in repentance and you will have peace; the peace that has eluded you all your life. Regards.
The truth is; you've been laboring for someone and you gave him four souls as sacrifice for peanuts. All that you received from this man is "peanuts" cos it cannot satisfy you and give you that inner peace. Why have you labored for Satan only to be paid back with eternity in hell? Someone invites you to have rest from this labor; hear him:
ReplyDelete"28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” Matthew 11
Just pray to him in repentance and you will have peace; the peace that has eluded you all your life. Regards.
Dear togolese woman,u can write a blog message like our ese Walter.thank me now
ReplyDeleteKeep waiting and asking us questions ooo
ReplyDeleteWhen the Wife pours U ACID....come back and show SDK ur pics ,,how u look....if d man will look @ u twice again
In conclusion,,,never you hurt other pple..........u wont like it,,if u are married,,,and ur husband is flirting with anoda girl......leavin u and the kids @ home........
@spy
Wen we say ''sleep with a married man and the same will happen to you'' have we ever tot for a second dat most of there married woman must have slept with a married man wen dey wia single#karma is a bitch#
ReplyDeleteSo y shld u be dia KARMA! #VeryLame!
DeleteThis man has finished ur womb already with 4 abortions.Terrible guess after some years u will be asking God why can't u take in right? my advice is change ur phone no and location, he will be fine after few weeks his man a man life goes on, but make sure u get all the visas u need before u let him go.
ReplyDeleteStella stop deleting comments!You 're not known to be like this o.If the poster can't stand the heat, she shld take her problems to God or better still her church counsellors not blogs!
ReplyDeleteIts so easy to become a saint on the blog and castigate others when they seek advice. I am not here to advice miss Togolese, she is an adult, my opinion! Take responsibility for your actions. Now, let's rub minds. Why is the blame always on the female? Are you saying married men are free to cheat and karma is only a bitch when it comes to women? Is it written somewhere that men can't marry 2 wives as long as he can take care of them and be open about it? How long should a 40 year old hard working, comfortale lady wait for to get a single guy when she is close to menopause? (Not to a gigolo).This is when women need to apply wisdom. Every situation is different. You don't have to curse people to make sense.
ReplyDeleteIts so easy to become a saint on the blog and castigate others when they seek advice. I am not here to advice miss Togolese, she is an adult, my opinion! Take responsibility for your actions. Now, let's rub minds. Why is the blame always on the female? Are you saying married men are free to cheat and karma is only a bitch when it comes to women? Is it written somewhere that men can't marry 2 wives as long as he can take care of them and be open about it? How long should a 40 year old hard working, comfortale lady wait for to get a single guy when she is close to menopause? (Not to a gigolo).This is when women need to apply wisdom. Every situation is different. You don't have to curse people to make sense.
ReplyDeleteMy dear I agree with you,why is it always the women they blame and insult,what of the men!!
DeleteWide eyed, u make sense a lot, almost all the time sef except that lousy comment u made on the doctors strike ( you later on apologized though)
ReplyDeleteUr head is on ur neck.
What are you - she, he, he she, she he. Hehehehehehehehe
I'd to read ur comment over and over
An admirer of wide eyed.
Stella post my comment, I know you still awake! Lol
One thing I've noticed about we nigerians is that we are quick to judge. Gosh! We can judge for United nations. Anyways, as I type, a lot of ladies are dating married men. A lot will still date married men but we know it's wrong. What's wrong is wrong but what's funny is even if we know this, sometimes we are too weak to do anythn about it until it gets out of hand. Just pray to God to give you the strength. Trrrryyy to forget about the fun part n be your own strength. U can be alone for a while. You'll meet someone you'll see. God will help you.
ReplyDeleteMake una leave Wide eyed my babe o!
ReplyDeleteI am a jealous lover.
#one love.
Nigerians, he who is without a sin let him cast the 1st stone. Why do we keep deceiving ourselves. Am sure most of us here our mothers are second wife, if the man will marry you&let you stay in Togo y not marry him all this young men of nowadays are very terrible gone are the days where you struggle with your man&eat the benefits. If you love him so much my sis marry him except you don't wanna marry him.my advice is this be sure u have another man who is ready to marry you before you lose this man, Am no saint am married to a single man never dated a married man but have friends who are married to married men and they are enjoying their marriage if my husband desires to marry another wife won't kill myself will rather concentrate on how to better my life&take care of my offspring than worry over split milk. My advice don't go fetish when you decide to marry a married man let the love be real&dnt hurt his 1st wife&children by taking him all to urself.
ReplyDeleteWell treated Wide Eyed. I couldn't have said more.
ReplyDeleteTHANK YOU EVERYBODY FOR THE ADVISE,I THANK YOU MORE "WIDE EYED" AND SOME VERY REASONABLE ANONYMOUS ON HERE.
ReplyDeleteI JUST WANT YOU ALL TO KNOW I HAVE MADE UP MY MIND TO TRAVEL OUT WITHOUT HIM AND START MY OWN LIFE;PRAYING TO GOD TO FORGIVE US OUR SINS AND ALSO THE GRACE TO MOVE ON.
DATING A MARRIED MAN IS THE WORST TRAP ONE CAN EVER ENTER ESPECIALLY IF YOU DO NOT HAVE ANYONE ELSE AS A COMPANION OR CONFIDANT.NOW I WILL SIMPLY SEEK DE FACE OF GOD AS MY CONFIDANT TO GIVE ME MY COMPANION.
I CHOSE THIS BLOG BECAUSE I TRUST STELLA TO HANDLE MY STORY WITH UTMOST MATURITY.
AND PLEASE I AM NOT NORA,I AM HOLITIT,A TOGOLESE AND VERY EDUCATED;NOT ALL TOGOLESE ARE ILLITERATES AS SOME OF YOU ARE MADE TO BELIEVE.
THANK YOU ONCE AGAIN MY DEAR BLOGGERS.signed Holitit.......
Move and change address. Wait for 6 months or a year, and then write him a later to say thanks for everything he has done for you and explain your motives for disappearing. He will be angry at first but with the time gap he will understand. Right now it looks glitzy because you are outside, you get the fun part of him while the wife inside gets all the hard work and wahala. Whether you replace her or join her, you will see how your reality will quickly change and he will find someone else outside to have fun with while you do the dirty work. It is good that you are thinking of moving on. Good Luck.
ReplyDeleteIt is very difficult to meet the right one in this world
ReplyDeletePeople are mostly liars and hide their real intention
I think i am a little bit lucky, because i met my hero on a dating site
http://www.erisdating.com or http://www.angelreturn.com do not be hopeless,
There are still nice and honest people who can give you the love you deserve
Life is short and it has no meaning without love...