''Fellow bloggers please I need Help, I have spirit of envy and I need help. I find myself happy when friends tell me bad about themselves and sad when they tell me good stuff about themselves.
People easily like me and are free to tell me stuff. Though I try to give good advise even when I envy them. I feel bad about it and I have fasted and prayed about it everyday. Though when I feel envy I start praying for the person.
how do i rid myself of this?i have prayed and its not working.''
Jealousy is a feeling of discontent because of what others possess. Jealous people view someone else’s success as a threat to their own success. Envy is proof that the spirit of jealousy is present in your life; and as a result, you will experience many negative consequences. Although jealousy is a tool devised by the devil, there are ways in which you can open the door to that spirit.WOW
*Who knows anything about this?how did you overcome it?
It's ok to be jealous it's only natural. extreme jealousy on the other hand is dangerous that is the kind of jealousy where people will literary kill to have what others have
ReplyDeleteMy mum always tell me dat, its wat u wish odas dat will be ur portion,so if u wish sum1 ill automatically u want ill ursef.so my dear follow d golden rule do 2 odas wat u want dem 2 do 2 u+treat dem d way u want God 2 treat U.
DeleteYou said it all... @ Poster you are just being human...there are worse people than you , so please don't feel bad, use your jealousy as a motivation to make yourself the best! So others can be jealous of you...
Delete*am out
When it comes to my marriage I'm a no nonsense jealous bitch.
DeleteBut with people,I never get jealous cos I've been successful in all my doings especially when compared with my equals.
So many people are envious of me so I've learnt not to mind dem but keep aiming higher.
Jealousy is not normal o, it's witchcraft in the making you hear?
DeleteYou are simply a bad person. If you want to change, you can do it. The Deliverance brigade will soon ask you to go to MFM or TB Joshua.
ReplyDeleteA jealous person isn't necessarily a bad person joor. Its extreme jealousy dts nt gud.
DeleteU wld nvr move forward with a jealous spirit take it or leave it.
Deletejust learn to be happy for your frnds.
ReplyDeleteHmmm my dear, its good to admire and wish for what others have..but its NEVER good to envy.
DeleteThe spirit of envy itself consuming and demonic, and it'll take the absolute grace of God to overcome such an overwhelmingly dangerous vice.
People who often find themselves in this situation, take it further from having mere feelings of envy for a friend or relative...they act on their feelings towards them. Which is why some people will never have anything good to say about certain people. Not because the person is bad, but for that spirit of envy that's being nurtured towards them.
Envy can make you kill someone, if not yourself in the end. Yes may sound very extreme, but very possible. I suggest that u continue to pray and fast about it..in time God will answer you.
The day you realize that u have an issue is the day it'll cease to be an issue. So I think you are one step ahead becos you admit to it. The next stage would be to be fully liberated of your confession spiritually. I think u have made a conscious effort to conquer it. A very good step in the right direction. May God remove that spirit from you. Godspeed!
My dear, jealousy is normal as far you didn't attempt to harm anyone. Everybody feels jealous e.g Any girl will feel jealous when her junior sister gets married to a wonderful husband before her. Don't be deceive by all these hypocrites here! Any normal human must feel jealous whenever his or her friend succeeds more than them....but wanting to hurt the person becomes the real definition of jealousy.
DeleteIfeanyi for the love of God there's a huge difference between admiration forother people's success and envy for their achievements. We often try to trivialise the word jealousy to mean healthy rivalry of some sort. In the poster's context it is not the case. Her jealousy is the dangerous one that depicts being a sadist. She loves to hear her friends are not happy but hates it when they have good news. Please this is not normal, lest we encourage what is wrong abeg.
DeleteIs this LI BTW? Go for deliverance.
ReplyDeleteStella is married with kids I value kids more,so don't compare a married woman wit a single lady that is dying to get married cos she seriously need one.
DeleteItry not to envy anybody because I have learnt that things are not always the way they seem. My parents always drummed it into my ears to always be content and greatful for what I have.
ReplyDeleteThat person you are busy envying might be going through what you can't imagine inside. I'm always genuinely happy for people and if what they have is the type of thing I want too, I go down on my knees and beg God to bless me too. God may not do it exactly the way I asked but he surely answers.
Dat is d right answer,I do dat too...
DeleteMuah to this comment, na so my mama sef dey talk so wetin go make me envy another person own, being happy for them alone sef, u know how many good things don follow you. Please my dear pray about it, tell God to remove the spirit of jealousy and envy from your mind and heart and he should put laughter, happiness and reasons to keep u smiling I tell u wen u keep repeating this prayers morning , noon, night and midnight, u will see positive changes in ur life. I am also praying for u.
DeleteBeing Jealous or envious is not normal pls!i don't envy pple but rather just wish slightly I could also get 'their kind of shoes' and not be in their shooes'!and dats what envy does,makes u want to have alone and be the centre of attraction.ultimmately pple given to such behaviours never prosper cos of their heart!
Delete@poster u have toDecide in ur heart that u will not be envious and with God's help u will overcome.
Nawaoo,this one pass me...you need a deliverance
ReplyDeleteHmmm dis is serious. Still be prayerful cos if its nt overcomed it can lead u to evil deeds
ReplyDeleteIt's normal to wish to have something good that someone else has. However, when this wish turns to wishing them ill, it becomes bad. Whenever, this feeling comes, try and think about so many things you have that makes you unique. Also, remind yourselves that no one has it all. My pple will always say that 'Uwaezuoke'. As much as you pray against the spirit, you also have to take practical steps by reshaping your thought process. It's all in your mind. One love.
ReplyDeletePlease it's not natural to be Jealous when ur frnd is successful. It shows that witchcraft is not far from you period. Get deliverance from MFM YES I SAID IT.
ReplyDeleteLol@witchcraft is not far from you!
DeleteHowever , MFM too is like adding fuel to fire . Careful of where you get deliverance from o!
Shut up ode, its natural to be jealous and to wish u have what got, not in a bad way. Oponu
DeleteJealousy is worse than witchcraft.
DeleteIt depends on the level of jealousy.
DeleteAs for me, i simply tap from that person's blessings and pray to God to bless me too.
It depends on the level of jealousy.
DeleteAs for me, i simply tap from that person's blessings and pray to God to bless me too.
Jealousy is a disease. It leads to hatred, blackmail, gossip, backbitting, murder, etc.
ReplyDeleteJealousy is BAD. Envy is even better. If you Smell jealousy from any of your friends for whatever reason, pls flee from that friend.
There's this girl, if u just tell her any good thing that has happened to you, her countenance will just change immediately. If she knows that your boyfriend is a giver, she will get close to him, destroy u, then introduce all her cohorts to him. Then I heard she is a witch. Hian! Christ in me' I fear not.
DeleteAny jealous person is a Witch! All witches are jealous of people's progress.
I honestly believe you are not a good person, i hate jealousy and envy, i believe God chooses who to bless, why should you be jealous of what God has decided on his own to give some one??? concentrate on what you have and be happy for other people wether you like them or not this way you have inner peace.
ReplyDeleteIt's normal to wish to have something good that someone else has. However, when this wish turns to wishing them ill, it becomes bad. Whenever this feeling comes, try and think about so many things you have that makes you unique. Also remind yourselves that no one has it all. My pple will always say that 'Uwaezuoke'. As much as you pray against the spirit, you also have to take practical steps by reshaping your thought process. It's all in your mind. One love.
ReplyDeleteEnvy is wishing u had something that someone else has, now is that really bad? Don't we all wish we had those things that others have, which we don't, but we admire?
ReplyDeleteBut Jealousy, that one is evil, because it means being angry that someone else has something u don't have or being angry that someone can do what u can't etc.
Nawa o! So the solution to everything now is Deliverance in mfm? My dear, contrary to what you think, you are a good person. The guilt and remorse you feel afterwards just shows how good you are.most people experience a little bit of what you've described. Our dark side is happy that other people out there have problems too. All you can do is continue to pray and work on yourself. And DO NOT DO ANYTHING MALICIOUS! Don't let your jealousy make you do something mean, that's when there will be problems.
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My L♥√ع pls pray harder and always try as much as you can to rejoice wholly for anyone no matter how little or big the person is....... Whenever such spirit arises, speak to it in a biblical language that will scare it away and as u do that, may God continue to encourage and see you through until you return here to share you testimonies with us.. Amen!!....@i_ChoPtas_Not
ReplyDeleteIts normal, human nature just be happy for others and try to be content with what you got non the less healthy jelousy is good makes you aim and work harder to get to the level of ya friends..
ReplyDeleteRenew your mind daily with the word of God, listen to inspirational songs and above all, learn to be genuinely happy for others..
ReplyDeleteTanx aunty Stella for posting this. I wld never hurt a friend out of envy. I keep their Secrets, when they are taking a wrong decision I advice on d right thing to do. I am a good person dat is y I wonder y I envy at all. When They are despirate for advise I give them d best n they always come back to say thank u. Tanx Bekee I found comfort in your comment
ReplyDeleteMy dear it is normal, dont mind All those self acclaimed non jealous persons. Am yet to see a girl that won't jealous her friend who is ugly and outclassed, yet she gets attention of most handsome, and rich gentlemen than she that is a damsel.
DeleteDon't let Satan deceive you, there's nothing wrong with you. If you prayed about it, believe God heard and answered your prayer. BE CAREFUL NOT TO LET SATAN PUT YOU IN BONDAGE BECAUSE OF THIS. LET ME EXPLAIN.......
DeleteSatan has a way of putting negative thoughts in your mind and at the same time, accuse you as if those horrible thoughts are yours. He does this so he can make you feel miserable always.
So each time you receive a good news about somebody, you're bound to be miserable.
Pay him no mind. Tell yourself anytime those thoughts arise in you THAT YOU HAVE A POSITIVE MIND TOWARDS OTHERS AND YOU LOVE THEN JUST AS CHRIST LOVES THEM"
Jealousy is manifested when there's no faith, because you don't believe that God loves you enough to give you what you desire, hence you start feeling bad. Learn to open your heart to the love of God.. Thank HIM for making you great. He loves you..but you gotta learn to receive HIS love....Jesus loves you, you should know.....
Jealousy is in all of us! That's why a toodler goes into a jealous rage when a baby is born after he\she. Its what you do with that feeling of envy that matters.Train your mind to turn it into positivity.Congratulate the object of your jealousy.That's a sure way of coming to terms with their edge over you.If the person is a friend or family,admit you wish you were in their shoes.laugh it off and you will get over it.No one is above jealousy;after all,God says 'I AM A JEALOUS GOD'~Exodus 20 verse 5. We are made in his image and likeness so go figure. However,the spirit of bad~belle and pull~ him~ down is witchcraft! Deal with those violently!
ReplyDeleteI think u aint happy with urself, u v to develop this attitude of happiness wenever u see sucess in others, take life simple n accept d fact that others deserve wotever they get at any point in time. U alone can control ur emotions n wen u envy others n not happy for them, dear u won't go far n ur life will always be full of misery. Kill dat spirit of jealousy with a free mind n u feel great joy within you.
ReplyDeleteAm suspecting TOLUWASHEE sent dis Mail. TOO BOBO kpele ooh ndo nnem.
ReplyDeleteJust remember this, whenever you feel that way imagine God not ans your own prayer because you are being jelox of another person
ReplyDeleteThat way you would wish the person even better things so that your own prayer would be answered
Have you also seen yourself flying in your dreams, cus you might actually have a bad spirit in you
Go fo deliverance
There's nothing like "spirit of jealousy", it's all YOU. One thing about praying to GOD is this: HE responds only when your prayer mirrors what's in your heart. You can't expect GOD to help you when deep down in your heart you're not ready to change. YES, you're not ready to change so your prayers are nothing. Remember Cain killed Abel because he was jealous. Any demon involved?
ReplyDeleteAccept your sins without blaming any demon for them; that's a start. Then ask for forgiveness and mercy from HIM. Pray for HIS LIGHT to fill your heart, and you'll get your healing. Be Blessed.
Ahh ur own kind of jealousy is bad oh, cos u might end up killing someone for being too good! Better kill dat attitude now!
ReplyDeleteIt's normal, I used to be envious of my sister while we were growing up. But, i decided to love her by making her better in my own way. e.g people always say she is more beautiful, i became so jealous and full of envy. God helped me, so each time we have to step out, i spend more time combing her hair & make her more beautiful, so when people say 'ur sister is more beautiful'', i tell them ''YES O, VERY VERY, Infact, she took after my mom. you know, and we lived happily ever after. she's 31 now and i'm 34. still pretty and i'm proud of her.
ReplyDeleteKip praying
ReplyDeleteKip praying about it
ReplyDeleteThe spirit of jealousy is very bad,it can make you kill or hurt someone rily bad. The truth is everybody has an atom of jealousy buh what matters is how you control it. I'll advice you fast and pray about it,you can also tell your pastor about it so he can counsel you on how to overcome it.
ReplyDeleteJealousy/Envy, you need serious prayer and deliverance. Its in the blood. It does not really have to with people or friends having more than you, you can still envy those that have less than you. I have a few friends like you and I have been able to pray them out of my life. Once you envy, you will surely back bite. Its a terrible thing.
ReplyDeleteYou are on your way to becoming a better Person"If you want to be delivered from something.Expose It" continue in the direction of praying when the thought of envy and jealousy comes. Look for good books by Joel Osteen n Joyce Meyer. And if you really want good things to happen to you! Be sincerely happy for others. All the best!
ReplyDeleteHaving unneccessary expectations without a very good priority list fuels jealousy. You should also work on your insecurities, stand tall and groom your mind to breaking limits. Stop comparing yourself to your friends if your not ready to go through what they went through to get to where they are. Think positive at all times. Above all, you need God and his entirety. All the flashiness in this world shouldn't drive you into taking refuge in the devil's tent. There is heaven! Goodluck!
ReplyDeleteMtush!
When we were young, we were taught to pray for the particular thing.
ReplyDeleteEg, if you are jealous of your friends job, pray for her to enjoy it, succeed in it and all. The more you pray for her, the more difficult it wil be to be jealous.
If you are jealous of her beauty, pray that she uses her beauty to glorify God.
Trust me. It is not easy to pray for what you are jealous of. But it works.
The only way to get rid of the spirit of envy and jealousy is through prayers. It is not normal to be jealous over someone's success especially people you call your friends. Faith without works is dead, so don't only pray but try to put ur prayers to practice. When ur friends tell u something good, smile and thank God for it immediately. By doing that you are suppressing the spirit of envy and jealousy and with time u would overcome it.
ReplyDeletethe way God created me i honestly dont.
ReplyDeletethe only spirit i have is that i tend to say things exactly the way i see them..if you ask for my opinion on an issue and i dont talk just allow me if you force me to tell you i will be brutally honest
Dearie it's a thing of the mind,stay with the word of God and you can also read Battlefield of the mind by Joyce Meyer.
ReplyDeleteWould help,don't condemn yourself,you can be a new you,just change your mindset.
Stella be like.......
ReplyDeleteSpirit of jealousy and Envy.
Hia!
I'm out of here.
She should simply click on the 'WOW' link at the end of your post. Few words but absolutely loaded. God bless you Stella.
ReplyDeletesomebody says she needs help and all of u are here cursing her out ,she already know she has a problem and she wants answer ,not adding salt to her wound ,sometimes i wonder what kind of people are here ,read and digest before comment please.some of you are worst than her ,hiding in your closet.
ReplyDeleteYou can only pray and ask God to destroy that spirit of jealousy within you.
ReplyDeleteIt is deadly.
Please its not normal. People that have friends that are mostly not as beautiful as they are, tend to have this thing in them. I remember telling someone I called my friend about my new boyfriend, and the "baskard" was busy asking me if I'm sure its who I said he is. Stupid fool, she felt that since she is single and no guy desires her, that I should also be in that shoe, simply because she feels she is taller, has a nicer skin than me. That was the last time I told her anything about me. She will be seeing my blessings, and she can go and bath on top of a transformer if she so wishes. Namsense!
ReplyDeleteThere is nothing on earth like THE SPIRIT of Jealousy! It is natural to feel that way sometimes when we think we deserve better or want a particular thing. Do not do evil, hurt anyone to achieve or get what you want.......that's when it becomes bad.
ReplyDeleteParagon7ven.
There is nothing on earth like THE SPIRIT of Jealousy! It is natural to feel that way sometimes when we think we deserve better or want a particular thing. Do not do evil, hurt anyone to achieve or get what you want.......that's when it becomes bad.
ReplyDeleteParagon7ven.
pls pray hard
ReplyDeleteMy dear just go for deliverance cos dat is a very serious problem. @least you knw you have dat spirit in you, wat about ppl dat don't know. I once had a room mate dat had dis. Nd me as a free person didn't knw until I met a pastor who advised me to stop telling her stuffs cos she has a very strong spirit of envy. Infact I had to pray for her nd wit time d degree of envy reduced. Never be jealous of anyone cos the grass is not always green on d oda side. Single ladies take note. (I am still single too)
ReplyDeletePrayers will provide the opportunity to minimize the jealousy, not eradicate the jealousy completely. Also, the focus should be on improving yourself, that way you boost your confidence and avoid focussing on others' success. A word is enough!
ReplyDeleteMa dear I cnt sai much for ma beloved sdkers hv said all,buh I undstand u,I use to feel dt way too buh u knw d secret?pray 4 yrsf buh pray harder 4 ur frnds.every1 s unique,n so ar u
DeleteThis is exactly my plight.word for word.they confide in me.i gv best advice yet i envy.i pray abt it alwys.God save us. The 1st step is alwys to acknowledge u hv a problm.thank u for sharing this at least im not alone
ReplyDeleteIs this tokunboh morafa
ReplyDeleteJealousy in love is natural, Even God says He is a jealous God,but when u Envy ur friends my dear u need to check urself,which uve already done,now all u need to do is get ur Bible(if ure a christian),get some christian books related to ur situation and sit wiv them,so u don't wreck urself,Envy leads to terrible things,sincerely u need help.how can u be happy when ur friends are not doing well?when I pray for my friends,sometimes they wonder why I pray so deeply for them,but for me its from a genuine heart and my prayers and goodwishes are merely seeds I'm sowing,when u wish pple bad,just know evil will never be far from U,when u wish them well and ure genuinely happy for them when they do well,then it will be well wiv u.its ur choice rlly,we can't help how we feel,but what u do wiv that feeling is totally up to u.if u keep letting it graduate to envy,then u have deep issues,U need JESUS...
ReplyDeleteYou have a problem only God can help you with and you come to this blog where witches and wizards reign supreme....lol...I pity you....and u say prayer is not working? Who told you prayer does not work? U think prayer is indomie instant noodles? Go back to your prayers and keep reading the word of God if u truly desire change...
ReplyDeleteMemphis I laugh and bow at your ignorance......
ReplyDeleteJealousy is natural,the degree of the jealousy is what matters.I for one I have managed to reduce my jealousy to a very very minimal level.I almost don't get jealous.The cure to jealousy is in the activities of life itself. Every one in life don't do things or achieve things at thesame time,that is just how life works.Examples everyone on the planet don't get born at thesame time,get married at thesame time,eat at thesame time,wake up at thesame time,start school & graduate at thesame time,by a car at thesame time,by a dress,suit at thesame time and even die at thesame time e.t.c..All these happens to every one at different times.If all the examples above were true or possible life would have been a boring place to be.What am trying to say is that different things happen to different people at different times.So u shouldn't say the chance or time for u to achieve something because your friend already did will never come it will, only at a different time from your friend's. So be truly happy for them and rejoice with them and wait for your time as you work hard towards yours.So there is no point feeling bad about what you are still going to achieve in the future just because someone else gets it before u,simply wait for your time but work hard towards it.It is the philosophy I live by.It will help u a great deal if you programme your mind this way.It has helped me a great deal right from when I was young.I hate having heartache from jealously.Feeling sad over other people's joy is not cool at all.
ReplyDeleteRomeo
Envy can be a positive motivator if it inspires you to work hard for what you want.
ReplyDeleteLet us begin by establishing the fact that though jealousy and envy are viewed as same emotion, they are quite different.
ReplyDeleteWhereas jealousy has to do with actual or perceived rivalry, which causes the jealous person to feel a sense of betrayal at the other' success.
Envy is just looking with longing at someone else's better circumstances and wishing you had what they have. No rivalry is involved here.
The only thing they have in common is that they both arise from low self esteem. When you feel others are better than you, you tend to become either jealous of them or envy them.
Now how to overcome these emotions:
1. Stop comparing yourself to other people. Remember you are your own unique individual. You are not in competition with anyone. Okay?
2. Learn to value yourself. Recognise your good points. Love yourself. Appreciate yourself. Be your own cheerleader or fan. Praise yourself. Don't become self-absurd and annoying though but love yourself.
3. Be content with what you have. Learn contentment. Have pleasure in what you have achieved. Enjoy your own good fortune.
4. Better yourself. You envy someone because you believe they are better than you, right? Okay, now do something about yourself. Work on getting those things too. Don't just sit around wishing, go get your own. But do not do it in a competitive spirit, do it for you and for others too.
Finally, keep praying and ask God to channel the negative into positive. Let Him as promised in Ezekiel 36:26 - give you a new heart and a new spirit.
You don't need deliverance, okay? Every now and them, most of us feel a little envy and even jealous, we just learn to overcome it. You can do the same.
Cheers and Good luck.
Jealousy?
ReplyDeleteEnvy?
Let me see what the scriptures say about it?
I am a jealous God, because God does not want us to worship/love any other gods. It's like a a wife would be JEALOUS when her husband admires another lady in her presence or caught him red-handed. It is considered NATURAL.
This is a different kind of jealousy compared to what the poster put up. To be jealous of other people's progress is NOT NATURAL! It is a sign of DISCONTENTMENT and COMPETITIVENESS!
Proverbs 27:4 says:ANGER IS CRUEL & DESTRUCTIVE, BUT IT IS NOTHING COMPARED TO JEALOUSY.
More scriptures:
ReplyDeleteA tranquil heart gives life to the flesh, but envy makes the bones rot. Proverbs 14 v 30.
For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice. James 3:16.
u need prayers
ReplyDeleteDear, Pray to the Holy spirit to remove this spirit and start praying with a big smile on your face once hear any good gist.
ReplyDeleteI believe that everyone on earth has his/her path mapped out and always pray to God to direct my path and He has.
Never feel left out. Believe He will bless you too. God's abundance is sufficient for all.
That your friends have stuff you want doesn't mean it has finished from His bounty so don't wish to take theirs.
The bible says to rejoice with those who rejoice so rejoice with your friends and ask God to give you yours. The funny thing is that you may have more than them (family, good friends, good health etc) without realising it.
So focus on your race without comparing yourself with ANYONE. Simply believe that God will give you yours at the appointed time.
I am a living testimony to waiting on God's time. He always gives me something better than what I prayed for when I believe and wait on Him. My friends had better clothes and stuff but I was never envious but content with keeping the little I had neat and staying focused. Today, I am so thankful and my new name is "God's beloved".
Let your prayer be "Thy will be done!" The Lord will help you overcome this weakness IJN.