Do you think eating from the same plate with your spouse really creates bonding?....how well do you know your spouse?ever tried eating with them from same plate?Is this big deal to you?
''Stella a close friend of mine in her late twenties has this suitor that wanted to marry her. Everything was on course and both parents have met. She goes to see him in Calabar where he lives and he also comes to see her. Introduction and the wedding were being planned next when the cookie crumbled.
Now the Ish..... Recently She finished preparing dinner and served her soon to be husband his meal and then She washed her hands and wanted to join him to eat but he refused and told her to get her own her food in a separate plate ,that he doesn't like to eat in the same plate with anyone,and that it irritates him.
She called off the wedding immediately!
I was shocked…i asked her if she hadn't been too hasty.What is good for the goose may not be good for the gander. He doesn't like to eat together and it was that simple.
She claims That its a very sensitive thing for her. That eating in the same plate with ones spouse is an extreme bonding experience that brings a home together no matter how insignificant it seems.
She said That eating in the same plate was not as irritating as all the intricacies of having sex (heading, fingering, and all the sex positions .
How can eating together irritate one?
She tried to ask his reasons but he said it disgusts him and that she was free to ask his family members….he said that whilst growing up with his siblings he never ate in the same plate with them so she shouldnt take it personal.
Its not like he's Mr.perfect in the other department sef. She's 29,on the big side and just wanted to manage him. This one just turned her off kpata kpata.
My fellow readers. What is your take on this. Was this enough reason to call off the marriage?
Is eating together with your spouse that big a deal? ''
*I am a slow eater,i can eat one portion for hours so on a good day,i do not really like to share my food...you know how you target some beef details and then look forward to devouring your food alone and in peace?..thats me...lol
I always have this impression that people drop spittle into their food when eating so forget me asking to eat with you...nothing to do with love!
I think she over-reacted......at least he explained.
*sorry about the other post,i had to delete it cos the title refused to change and na sleep eyes i use post am.
Well, I don't mind eating with my boo.. He is kinda slow in eating. I think it fosters closeness. I don't consider it disgusting at all.
ReplyDeleteHmmm @ poster. You are 29, on the big side (fat) ad managing the guy. Now, the problem here is he doesn't like eating on the same plate wt u and dts why u called off ur marriage + he is nt gud in other depts. So u, u are gud in all depts abi? Oya, Joko si be, iwo lo mo.
DeleteI think the guy may have dodged a bullet there. If not eating from the same plate is a solid reason to call off a wedding, then she just wasn't that into him!
DeleteStella ask the chick well,she never talk true yet.
DeleteThey've had series of issues she wouldn't want to discuss cos this to me sounds so flimsy.
Ha! someone eating from my plate is d most irritating thing I can think of now! Like even if we go out & order differently and you wanna try mine. I may allow it, but that means I'm done eating it! I mean, why not get yours? I also never ate with people in my life. My siblings don't do it, my folks don't do it. And I expect whoever not to do it. Its grossly irritating. I can't eat left over food either. Even if husband or not. As you don touch am, either you finish it or dustbin get am
DeleteBack to d post of course d man is lucky d wedding was called off. She never liked him. She aint God's plan for him.
Sorry but i don't get it they have being date for sometime now and has been paying each other visits she most have known that he don't like eating with someone in the same plate, so please let her tell you the main problem they are having not this cock and bull stroy.
DeleteHmnnnn.... People are the way they are for a reason. The sooner we accept people the way they are, the better. I particularly hate to share my plate of food with someone else. It's got nothing to do with love. It's kindda irritating especially if the other party chews loud. What works for one may not work for another.
ReplyDeleteBack to the blog post, I wouldn't say the lady was in a hurry to end the courtship, there just might be more to it than "he refused us eating together". Good luck on her decision...
Hey pola come nd clear ur name on dis blog oh. Sum peepz feel ur d one sending nude pics to dino melaye dats why u defend him. Re u one of his girlfriends? #if yes, what do u find attractive in a married man, woman beater nd chronic womaniser. Pls clear ur name if nt guilty...
DeleteWere you the POLA that was called on on twitter?
DeleteThe way you accepted dino melaye the way he was
DeleteBia POLA, how is DINO
DeleteLol
Pola,Pola..
DeleteM sure you have seen or heard that you have bin called out by Dinos wife.. And that explains your voltronic defences for him..
So please defend yourself now or prepare for attack.
@ Pola, they are looking for you o. Fellow bloggers, this is Pola, Dino's side kick. Oya let the engines begin.......................
DeleteD dude in question definitely has issues biko. Wats that.
DeleteAnd how are u guys sure this is d same Pola?
DeleteSome are already cussing.
So many frustrated people on this blog.
I understand the rate of suffering can turn one to a mad person in Naija.
Pola,pay no heed to dem.
U mustn't clear ur name to mere mortals......vile ones at dat
DeletePola the bitch, I hope you cropped out your face from the nudes you sent Dino Meliar. Anyway, you are a professional, you must have.
Reinforces the point that its empty barrels that make the most noise. With the way you were screaming your love for your poor husband from the rooftops, experienced wives smelled rats.
@pola,does dino like to eat in d same plate with u?
Delete@pola,does dino like to eat in d same plate with u?
DeleteLmao, Pola i thought your Diamond was enough for you? What's up with you and Dino again? People visit @Toksfabs.... Pola has been outed!
DeleteMamie the fool... idiot. im sure u r talking cos u r not sure of her tribe. If u were, u wld cuss her out so gtfoh....
DeletePola: what kind of stupid friendship do u hv with Dino that d whole country knows your name for sending naked pics to a married man? N u r married abi. U hv no shame @ all. N pls dont deny it cos u came here to defend him. Dont worry he will gv u some moni whn he is made senator. Idiot. Any man that hits a woman more than once in their marriage should be castrated in the market place and one of his balls removed. U came here abusing Tokunbo. Was that Tomato paste on her body or blood? What did u do to help their matter as 'a friend'? . D girl stupid sef. Me i wld've posted all d nude pictures on the blogs for d world to see. She no smart aat all... friend kor sister ni. may someone be-friend ur husband equally
This one serious ohhhhh, but the guy sef fuckup jawe, he should at least let her eat liltle then discharge her, and the lady too sabi vex, but she no sabi vex reach me ohhhh.
ReplyDeleteThey should try and learn about each others more so they wont be having more probs, that's what i can say for now, Bye!
Twitter: @Iam_samwhizzy
Nahhh...Am not a fan of eating on same plate with anyone cos am a very very very slow eater. I chew my food with my mouth closed and I dnt swallow my food till everything is chewed well. My mum said its a habit I picked 4m her. Most times I ve tried, I ended up eating very little portion.
DeleteMy dear Poster, plz this ur excuse is fishy. Infact u were never inlove with the dude #if u ask me. Not eating 4m same plate is a very flimsy excuse 2 call off ur wedding. U should ve a rethink plz. U r 29. Clearly,Ur biologically clock is fast ticking ooo. (End of season)
Awwww. He's just like me.
ReplyDeleteEverybody hates me for that. LOL.
Even table water, i'd wipe your mouth before i place it a bit above my mouth.
I don't eat anyhow too.
I have the mindset that you either used dirty utensils or you washed your salty hand into it, or your sweat/saliva dropped in it etc. Eewwwww. Hahahaha.
But one thing, no one can compete with me when it comes to eating hot food. Lailai. When you no wan die. Hahahahaha.
She shouldn't have done that though.
Does that mean you don't kiss toluwalase? Just asking o
DeleteLooto ni o! Don't u kiss? Or u use bluetooth to kiss abi? Make una dey dia dey talk nonsense
DeleteThis people eh, una no go kill person with laugh. Kiss via bluetooth real.
DeleteI used to have a bf that never shared his boiled eggs...the day I took out of it he left the whole egg for me .I saw it as a challenge and today e be like 'babe I left some egg for u'.
DeleteP.s changing someone would only work if he's crazy bout you.
I used to have a bf that never shared his boiled eggs...the day I took out of it he left the whole egg for me .I saw it as a challenge and today e be like 'babe I left some egg for u'.
DeleteP.s changing someone would only work if he's crazy bout you.
Dis is rily funny. My fiance and I cant eat seperately, never. Except we r not togeda. Even wen he has gone out I always wait for him to return b4 we eat and he does same. In short am so used to eatin wit him dat wen am at home and I cook I usually loose appetite cos he isn't wit me. I cant wait for us to get married abeg and always eat togeda. Its an entirely difrnt feeling.
Delete@Tolu, I hav a cousin dats just lyk u. Hers is even worse cos she doesn't even kiss her bf. Me wey fit even kiss my fiance swallow im saliva join. Abegii. Difrnt strokes.
Signed-L'amour
Me,I can't eat with anybody ooo not even hubby sef.....how can I eat eba with soup especially draw soup with someone.....chukwu aju.....bt its not enuf reason to cut off a marriage.....
ReplyDeleteYour case is understandable. Its punishment to ask you to eat okro with your husband considering - - - - - -
DeleteLinda,we know why u don't eat with ur hubby
DeleteCut off a marriage? I don't think so! They weren't married dear... #doctorbobby
DeleteAnon10;13,spill it,am waiting for you idiot.you wil continue to be anonymous while linda becomes relevant.and you faceless eje,stay on ur lane fool.u pple re lucky linda is a changed person dis new year,she would hv cussed u pple out.linda dear,I love u jare
DeleteI love Linda too. As annoying as she can be
DeleteLinda y go under anon to praise thyself. Ass
DeleteLittle things like that does matter!! And that paragraph about being on the big side and 29, is dat in reference to the man or the lady? Stella, always proof read ur posts. I once had a bf who didn't like kissing. Its wasn't my breath or anything, he said its always been like that. Guess what, I dumped him like a hot cake. Imagine a marriage without kisses. Thank God I dodged the bullet.
ReplyDeleteOh No, d minute I kiss my boo I ve called for trouble. We can kiss for as long as 20mins. Only french kissing oooo.
DeleteBck to d poster, d guy no lyk to eat for d same plate bt he dey kiss Abeg which one worse! Exchanging saliva in d process of kiss.
---Taemy---
This reason is definitly not tangible enough to warrant a marriage dismissal, it obvious there are other points she's not putting across.
ReplyDeleteMy hubby and I eat from the same plate since we got married, so far as we are home together. Even if we are angry with each other, we still eat from same plate. I agree it has created a bond between us.
DeleteIt makes my hubby come back home early after work because he knows I will be waiting for him so we can eat. If by any reason he can't make it home on time, he will call and beg me to wait for him if I can. If I can't wait for him, I go ahead and eat but I will stay with him on the table when he eventually comes back and is eating.
He tells me a lot of things during meal times as we eat together. I cherish meal times with hubby abeg.
The first time my mum visited us, she loved that aspect of our life so much and she later told me so and asked us to try and keep to it.
But before, I hated the idea of eating together with any1 esp swallow.
I also hated sharing a bed with any1 to the extent that throughout my growing up days, I never shared a bed with any1 at home. Even in the university when my younger sister joined me, our parrents had to provide 2 beds for us in our room off campus. But I have changed a lot now sha. Marriage has made me learn how to share. I'm more tolerant now. I comfortably shared a bed with my sister last xmas and I wasn't irritated. Every1 one was surprised. LOL
To the post, I feel the lady took a hasty decision. I'm sure there must be other reasons she cancelled the wedding that she is not saying.
Yeah me too, the only meal I can't eat with hubby is Eba and soup and it's because I'm watching my weight, but I will still pick his meat or fish. It got so bad that when I'm not around my hubby finds it difficult to eat, and his reason is cos I'm not there. I love my sweetheart. Poster I agree with you. But you shoulda compromised.
DeleteMine irritant is sleeping with someone in the same bed overnight. After love making , I leave and go to my own space.
ReplyDeletei also dont like it too.am also a slow eater n i dont like hot food...it irritates me.recently started dating this guy and i served him food and he asked me to join him.,i told him the truth and he understood..make food no go seperate us biko..
ReplyDeletePpl wit der diff problem. I cnt eat alone dts for sure, I was brought up eatn togeda wit my bros n sisters so I got used to eat. If am nt eatn wit someone I cnt eat. I had a guy who doesn't lyk eatn wit me. It troubled me cos I wasn't findn it funny n it mks me starve mysef since he doesn't eat wit me. It also drew us apart so I understand wr she is cumin from.
ReplyDeleteme am all rounder,I eat wif pple f dy ask me,I eat alone f dy dnt.am d least complicated prsn wen t cmes to eating order.I undstand d poster,I tnk she ws tryin to be mre closer to her soon to be hubby buh calln off d weddn s so wrong.guess dy lack communicatn n undastandn. Eve E Ume
DeleteYes she was very right, the man is stupid. How can he not want to eat in d same plate! That's wrong!
ReplyDeleteIn my family that's how we were brought up!
And that's a huge bond.
Two things ma the poster post a lia to you,she don't have a man to marry,she don't have stories to tel are people and friends so she lies to you all that eatings the same food call off wedding,2ndly on a 2nd tought?she may smell,coz some girls hv bad smells but men sex them like that coz men don't mind somebody smelling but wen hungry for sex thy wld sex even if you are ugly,thy wld sex,but to eat food thy won't eat oh,coz the body is smelling poster should check.
ReplyDeleteYour write-up is so eww!
DeleteAbasi mi mbok. Your English is the bomb....
DeleteExtremely ewwwwww
Delete@ Swerve, u ve said it all.
Delete---Taemy---
U need to stay away from stella's blog and go back to kindergarten!
DeleteJESU!!!!!. ASSU has called off strike nahhh..why assault readers this way???? ****crying profusely***
DeleteSuper eww!
Deleteur words smell...
DeleteAre u for real??.....i think u're not supposed to be a part of this forum in d first place,,,please enroll urself in school and start from Basic 1(that's were u belong).....cos u actually need the basics...
DeleteNa wa for ur grammar oooo! LWKM!!
DeletePlease come back here and tell us all that you deliberately wrote all that just for fun.
DeleteCHINEKE NNA!!!
Lol.. im laffing at d comments in response to d main comment. Lmao. All of u r clowns o. U haf finished d Anon. Lo
DeleteI enjoy meal more wen I eat with people. ..I usually beg ma kid sis to eat with me....is a experience I cherish more...But ma elda ones don't eat with peeps n we respect dia decision...different stroke for different folk.
ReplyDeleteSaint Zizee
Cant eat without my hubby, when he travels i hardly eat, i eat mostly junk food, eating together is bonding
DeleteHmm me that even wait for my boo to come sometimes before I eat,then he wld now tel me it irritates him,lol I laugh.
ReplyDeleteWell,
ReplyDeleteSame way it matters to him, it matters to her.
Better not to get into what you are not comfy with.
Harsh truth--- she doesn't like him,n dat was d perfect excuse. Hubby n I eat 2geda on d same plate n smtims alone, it's no biggie. Or maybe she has issues on her own n d issues jst magnified d whole "Same plate tin"
ReplyDeleteThis is a clear case of giving a dog a bad name just to hang it. As the poster said "she was trying to manage him before". Eating from the same bowl or not has absolutely nothing to do with the closeness or intimacy of a married couple. Its just personal preference, the way someone loves coke and another person loves fanta. Fullstop. The lady should have several seats joor. She's not interested in marrying him.
ReplyDeleteI don't like eating, am forced to eat food. The only thing that motivates me to eat is when I eat with people. I eat with my siblings from d same plate when we were still kids. In school, I eat together with my friends. U hardly find me eating alone. So in this case, I won't marry a man that I can't eat with from same plate, is a very sensitive issue to me. Infact I can't trust d guy for any reason, we are one, what else can we do together if we can't eat together?
ReplyDeleteThumbs up. We are in same boat.
DeleteBeing an Edo girl and a benin giirl for that matter,the importance of eating together can't be over emphased because it bonds the family together and their is usually that love That is felt when eating together,if she could brk up because of that that means it was a fault she can't live with,if I was in her shoe I probably won't be comfortable with it bt in all at 29 she should know what is best for her
ReplyDeleteNATURELLE OSASERE
I don't think she really loves the guy. U can't manage a guy. If she loves him, she'll understand and if she doesn't love him, little things about him will be annoying her. And besides, no one is perfect, people come with their different characters. If u can't deal with it don't manage.
ReplyDeleteAm the first to comment. Yeah, dance with me
ReplyDeleteSmh for yoruba people! Dance with u? Gosh!
Delete#doctorbobby
SMH for dead ass randy doctors like urself.moron oshi
DeleteBobby the mumu doctor.....keep shaking ur head for yoruba people till u disconnect ur head from its position.....what has yoruba people got to do wit dis???
DeleteWho is dis foolish tribalistic doctorbobby again?
DeleteShe has seen more than meets d eye. N no matter hw irritating he felt eatin wit peo r, he shld hv been able 2 let it go even if its jst 2 please ha. 2 me, saying somtin is irritating seems too personal. Anyhw she knws wht she wnts.
ReplyDeleteNo I agree with her o. The man obviously has issues. If something so little can irritate it she shouldn't wait to find out his other issues o! Weirdo.
ReplyDeleteThe lady just used this as an excuse jare. Ask her again! I'm sure there's more to the relationship than she's letting on.
ReplyDeleteFrom what I understand not eating from same plate is not the issue. She said he was not even all dat perfect in oda departments and she was just managing him. Sooo just dat one thing she liked he refused so dat broke d camels back. If it was another guy she loved, perfect in oda departments and she was not managing him she wld respect his choice. So eating from same plate wasn't d issue.
ReplyDeleteI don't eat much but whenever I eat with my husband, I consume more. & since I have to breastfeed, it works for us. I totally agree with d lady. Is exchange of saliva in d name of kissing not more irritating? D dude should swerve.
ReplyDeleteMaibe there's more to y she brokeup with the guy and she couldn't tell u, but this post made me laugh as husband scarce so, nne Abi u want make d guy pretend sai 2 of una go dey chop frm d same plate, he has his reasons shaa tho e no Make sense. I hate people sharing cutlery's with me or drinking frm my bottle, but recently ts been just loved ones and I don't find it difficult.
ReplyDeleteMorning Sdkers,why would she say she just wants to manage the husband she wants to marry,even if the man na railway staff,must you manage your husband.
ReplyDeleteShe is right to have called of the wedding,because i see as been bossy and rude.if you must even tell her such not in that like or in that manner,he should have told her things he dislikes or his turnoffs may be when they go out on dates or while having a normal conversation.
The girl is 29 so she feels so young and i guess has better options, but the funny part is when people ask her why she called of her engagement?the response go funny''he no gree me, chop from him plate''
I think your friend is right to have called of the wedding because there is no love in that relationship, he doesn't respect her, she doesn't love him,so nature(food)fought for them.
Please Where is Violet?
And what's wrong with railway staff? Na wa for u o. I know a railway staff whose kids go to Pampers and lives in a very decent duplex...u people should stop judging ppl by their jobs. Nothing wrong with cleaners, drivers etc encourage and enpower them, @least they ain't coporate beggers or stealing
Delete@paz thanks,i wouldn't have used that as an instance,just felt it was wrong for her to manage the man she wants to marry,i get your point, thank you.
Delete29yrs? Time still dey na. She never enter extra time self. When she gets to the evening hour, no one will teach her to start eating alone or from the pot self.
ReplyDeleteIf am not hungry, I can eat with anyone but if am very very hungry I can't even stand anyone looking at my food.
Hahahaha it then means u should always keep ur temper in check...
Delete#doctorbobby
She should not take it personal na
ReplyDeleteHaba
It can be irritating, especially if he just comes over and puts his fingers in your food
Lol
YR
Hmmmm, this reminds me of my ex hubby, who beat me blue black cos I insisted we ate from same plate, I ran out from d House when he ran into d kitchen, couldn't wait for him to get knife, some men r straight from hell.
ReplyDeleteHaba!
DeleteAbeg say the truth.
Beat you up over request to eat together?
Haba!
DeleteAbeg say the truth.
Beat you up over request to eat together?
So she feels she's settling for him, she can do better?? She should go explore other options, she wants to manage him??
ReplyDeleteWell,she has her reasons. Different strokes for different folks.
ReplyDeleteAeegurl...
She was looking for a way to drop the guy and when this opportunity came,she grabbed it with both hands.
ReplyDeleteI like to eat alone, because I leave the best meat in the plate for last and someone may find it offensive if I put certain rules while eating with them. So i prefer to eat alone.
ReplyDelete~HOLLYROBB~
well. she is over reacting. i cant eat with someone from the same plate. even my husband. its just choice.
ReplyDeleteEating wiv my boo is a no no lol..we have tried it several times, he eats faster and wee finish all the meat in plate before I close my eye..lol
ReplyDeletei hate eating with people but my hubby does.....when we initially got married i always hated the way he would leave small food for me on the plate, sometimes i will even get angry that he should finish his food joo no be by force to eat......i like bones so he always eat his meat and leave the bones for me to chew...its diff strokes for everyone..if u cant share a plate of food with your spouse no matter how much u love them then you must be very difficult.....maybe he even did it in a very nasty manner so she is justified....if she doesnt like him let her go its not by force oh
ReplyDeleteMuhahahahahahaha OMG damnn anon 9:23 ndo!
Delete#doctorbobby
Had a similar experience where my bf says he doesnt like kissing..
ReplyDeleteGod help me, it wasnt up to 2weeks before i called it off!
No time for shit!
This case is a minor one, my boyfriend also complains abt eating 2geda irritating him & i understand cos its nt such a big deal to me although we still eat together plenty of times depending on the type of meal. I think ur friend is jst d sensitive type, its nt such an issue.
ReplyDeleteMOA
She never really wanted to marry him. Because when you do love someone, that's not even an issue. They can eat around the same time sitting next to each other.
ReplyDeleteShe never really wanted to marry him. Because when you do love someone, that's not even an issue. They can eat around the same time sitting next to each other.
ReplyDeleteEverybody is different even in relationships. And we must learn to tolerate each other. I don't like eating hot food nd my fiance loves hot food somehow we have managed to strike a balance somewhere. I think she was to hasty to conclude jor.
ReplyDeleteam from a polygamous home,Eaten together is very good das how my dad brought us up today we are enjoying it I and my step bros/ sis can't do without each other, u cant tell dat we are not from d same womb and people keep asking my dad how he did it and his reply is eaten together! D side effect is dat wenever am alone I cant eat......
ReplyDeleteSo my dear if I were ur friend I will do same!
Eating*
Delete#doctorbobby
Chick English is not that hard now....
DeleteAny time I read your comment, there's always something wrong with it
If you can't eat together with your spouse once in a while, den dats not marriage, yu guys can lock your lips together for minutes but yu cant eat from the same plate...dats cray cray
ReplyDeleteHmmm! Wonders shall never end.
ReplyDeleteI think there's more to it, she might have been tolerating a lot of other issues, this was the last straw. It might also be the attitude he used in telling her, maybe he showed digust. If he had lovingly tell her, she wouldn't have been this extreme.
ReplyDelete'She's 29,on the big side AND JUST WANTED TO MANAGE HIM.This one just turned her off kpata kpata' Seems she was just needing an excuse to leave,one DOESN'T manage in TRUE LOVE. She is an adult and must be fully aware of the consequences of her decision! I wish her all the best.
ReplyDeleteAs a matter of fact, hub and I don't eat together. I consider this separate eating as a way to make our marriage last longer. Hub is too critical and forever corrects the way I eat, I am irritable and hate criticism, so...what to do? Eat separately. Gbam!
ReplyDeleteWell, maybe she was scared that he might hate sharing. Who knows!
My boo and I are like twins. He cooks and puts the food in two plates but when we get to the table, I would just join him and start eating his plate and forget mine.lol..He really likes it and then we get satisfied and return my plate untouched to the kitchen. For people trying to keep fit, we even eat less that way. For food like eba and soup, we use cutlery so no big deal. Now I can't eat alone....lol. Your friend should try to understand and respect his wish, no perfect person, I guess that's the way he was brought up.
ReplyDeleteDifferent strokes
ReplyDeleteThe breakup wasn't just about the food, she used it as the straw to break the camel's back, but she always knee there was kleg in the relationship. So I say yes good enough reason, she didn't want to settle and she shouldn't have to
ReplyDeleteMe and my hubby always eat together but he is never full because i eat all the food lmao. If we eat yam & egg together i will af finished all the egg lol so he hates eating yam & egg with me. So now everyone has there own egg plate ni o. I dont eat much when i eat alone but when i eat with him i finish all the food hahahaha and he has to go and get more. But now am pregnant so i cant eat with him because i am currently eating like mad. But omo if i found out he doesnt like eating with soneone i would av dropped him sharp sharp no time abeg.
ReplyDeleteTeam #SeperatePlates#
ReplyDeleteand i don't think the guy disagreeing to eat on the same plate
is enough reason to call off the marriage preps
i believe other reasons are tied to this excuse
This lady is not serious and is not ready for marriage period! I can't eat in the same plate with any body, i don't share towels, sponge or soap. In our house this is how we are and it is no big deal. If you are talking of sharing one fish bbq or may be grilled meat may be. She doesn't love that guy.
ReplyDeleteMe self don't like eating wit any body evn my girl, coz my eating habit is artistic, d way I cut d food wit a spoon, d way I cut my EBA .. CNT stand sum1 scattering my designs abeg .go n take from d pot. But once a while we can eat together like wen we eating fruits lol
ReplyDelete@paz I totally agree with u, there must have been other issues and this was the last straw. I don't see eating together with someone a big deal, I grew up eating with my folks and sibs. Most times, esp when my dad cooked he would put it on a tray and we all would gather and eat, sometimes he wld eat wit my ma while d kids ate together. Eating together bonds people, I eat from hubby's plate n when we aren't eating together I sometimes grab his meat for d fun n vice versa. I had an ex dat I couldn't eat wit though, cos he chews loud and talks at d same time, like he's programmed to only talk while eating, ewww.
ReplyDeleteOn d other hand I had a flat mate in uni who would give up her food if someone as much as touched it, diff strokes 4 diff ppl
Everybody have his/her topmost priorities, and I think that should be those one should look out for first, as for me, I can't eat alone when my lady is around me, infact I don't even like eating alone, in my family we eat together and I think it brings togetherness, love and bonding, that's true!
ReplyDeleteI will never marry a woman that won't eat in the same plate with me oooo, coz I want to bring up a loving and sweet family
My dear marrage is all about tolerance and understanding. Dialouge is also very important. It not good to ran into hasty conclusion. She wouldn't hv called of the marrage. I could remember when I was dating my hubby I notice dat he is the type dat eats fast. If it eba my dear his balls of eba is like dat of the head of a child. It irritated me I had to mk him learn how to reduce it.again he hates hot food and pepper and thoes ones are my favorite it took me time to adjust with time I got used to it. Eating together amoung couple creats a bond among them. She would have been pateint with the man he would have changed later
ReplyDeleteThe bottom-line is that, she does not like/ love the guy enough to marry him. Perhaps she has been trying to convince herself that she liked/loved and would marry him but, deep in her heart, there are battles. That was just her own way of letting go. Eating together should not be a big deal to anyone. Personally, I love to share meals with people and sometimes I eat alone. I don't see anything wrong with that. The girl needs to search deep for the major reason for calling off the wedding cos' that just cannot be the reason for such wedding call-off. There is more to it.
ReplyDeleteHell no. I can't deep my hands in the same plate with anyone.
ReplyDeleteShe was right to have called it off. I wouldn't marry a guy who can't give me all of himself including eating with me. I eat with everybody close to me including friends and family so it's rather demeaning for a guy to claim he can't eat from the same plate with a woman he's planning to marry. How then is he going to live with her? Me thinks he is the one with the problem n not the lady...EEE!!!
ReplyDeleteAunt Stella cuz u had a wrong headline for the post nd to think I typed the reply around 3am d least u could have done was to change the headline and post my comment. Mshewwwww a long comment at that. I am so freaking pissed.........
ReplyDeleteI can even eat foood from my bfs mouth
ReplyDeleteWell it is good they called it off, the marriage would have bn torture. D guy should have at least been diplomatic and nice, that word irritating will personally put me off as well cuz I also get irritated easily but my husband will always remain an exception to any rule, what is the worst case scenario? The fear of spit in the food which shouldn't be an issue since we kiss each other.
ReplyDeleteMy personal opinion, it was a good enough reason to call it off. There is no need to tolerate
ReplyDeleteWhat you can't take, because in the future it might create a big problem. One man's meat they say is another poison. I am a Christian and I have Muslim cousins. Now this is what I have noticed, the closeness between my Muslim cousins and those who stayed with them. They are close whether from different mothers. So I asked one of my cousins how come. She said her mum told her that when children eat together they tend to be close and in most cases they stick together thru thick &thin. And they hardly fight. There are certain things you learn from that especially unwritten lessons. Eating together creates bonding a lot. Alot of people may not know but it works. So once in a while she makes her children eat from the same plate. I have watched them over time and I see reason in that. There a lot of unconventional things to do to foster relationship within the family.
My personal opinion, it was a good enough reason to call it off. There is no need to tolerate
ReplyDeleteWhat you can't take, because in the future it might create a big problem. One man's meat they say is another poison. I am a Christian and I have Muslim cousins. Now this is what I have noticed, the closeness between my Muslim cousins and those who stayed with them. They are close whether from different mothers. So I asked one of my cousins how come. She said her mum told her that when children eat together they tend to be close and in most cases they stick together thru thick &thin. And they hardly fight. There are certain things you learn from that especially unwritten lessons. Eating together creates bonding a lot. Alot of people may not know but it works. So once in a while she makes her children eat from the same plate. I have watched them over time and I see reason in that. There a lot of unconventional things to do to foster relationship within the family.
My personal opinion, it was a good enough reason to call it off. There is no need to tolerate
ReplyDeleteWhat you can't take, because in the future it might create a big problem. One man's meat they say is another poison. I am a Christian and I have Muslim cousins. Now this is what I have noticed, the closeness between my Muslim cousins and those who stayed with them. They are close whether from different mothers. So I asked one of my cousins how come. She said her mum told her that when children eat together they tend to be close and in most cases they stick together thru thick &thin. And they hardly fight. There are certain things you learn from that especially unwritten lessons. Eating together creates bonding a lot. Alot of people may not know but it works. So once in a while she makes her children eat from the same plate. I have watched them over time and I see reason in that. There a lot of unconventional things to do to foster relationship within the family.
My boyfriend and I both Love food! So sharing is out. But we always pick at eachother''s food .
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