We have learnt a lot about Nigerian men and how they abandon their women back home but hey come on...you and i know that women are not totally so innocent.
Some men have been bitten by their Nigerian wives...Some of these women will get to the diaspora and disappear within two days to join the real boyfriend.
One blog visitor who lives in the Diaspora contacted me,he was very angry and had this to say '' Naija babes are also out to exploit and scam Nigerian men who live in the diaspora,they are not totally innocent...''
Naija men who live in the diaspora should come in here and share their marriage experiences with their Naija based wives...we want to know why they abandon them,why some only go home to impregnate their wives and make promises about returning but never do.
We want to know why they already have wives in the diaspora whom they have built a life with but still go back home and tell lies just to marry again.
The women called you out in the other post....read it HERE if you missed it
Now you need to come in here and call them out......Nigerian men in the diaspora...we need to know.
Note that if you guys sit back and refuse to comment,the women will take over this post again and continue with tabling your matter here!
It's cos those men want someone they can easily control.The men that think this way are usually selfish and egotistical.They think only about how they'll benefit from a "tamed" and "naïve" home grown lady. Now, he's coming home to look for a wife, but he has forgotten that cos he lives abroad, it'll be very difficult to find a lady who loves him for love and not for his money or his "oyiboness".He meets a girl who puts on her best behaviour cos, all she sees is her prospects of going abroad.When they finally get married and she leaves Nigeria, and the euphoria of getting abroad wears off, u see this same lady displaying her real color. Now she also wants to be independent after her eye don tear.The man will see her as unsubmissive and rude and now he is back to square one. The devil u know is better than the angel u dont know. Most of d girls they eventually marry are people who were recommended for them, and in most cases, the ones doing the recommending are in cohorts with d lady to dupe them. A lot of negative stories abound. . .men shld open their eyes
I agree with you. Our Nigerian men have a different mentality. No matter how educated they are and even their wives, they crave for that 'kingship' in the house. A woman should be submissive to her husband THIS IS A MUST but she still has a mind of her own. But our men will want a robot for a wife when it comes to making decisions especially about finances. To be candid women are easily carried away by money so when a woman is making more money she tend to be bossy as well. But if you want to have your wife as your wife, marry for love not for power, wealth or class, shun inferiority complex, tolerate, compromise, trust and don't listen to the blabbing of the bigger boys circle. Women are not magicians, they work, cooks, clean, do the school runs, warm your bed as needed, help children with homework etc. Be a man not a tyrant. Don't be selfish, a man can be generous to his friends and family with no questions when a woman tries to be generous to a family member, it becomes a taboo. Pray, marry your own destined wife, be open, loving caring and comprehensive and you will live in a home.
Well a Nigerian wife is supposed to be a moron, if possible deaf and dumb, have no opinion on any issue ,just take instructions that is the meaning of submissive ,smh, infact if you dare argue , they get intimidated .
Yes Aunty S, some girls are evil...we can not deny that. But I am sorry these men come home to marry because they are looking for the Naija man definition of "submissive". They feel they will get women that will worship the ground they walk on because he "rescued" her from poverty. They want her to work and somehow they feel entitled to her entire earnings. You will hear a man saying my wife should hand over her income and then I delegate. Brothers, if both of you have made this agreement then ok but don't be so mean to take all her income and then give as YOU please. Some of the girls run away because they can not take the treatment from these men. They beat them silly (I have witnessed too many of these). They restrict her movements, they tell her who she should and should not mingle with.
When you see good cases, you find that it is men that went home and married their long term girlfriends. Now those guys have sense and treat the girl with sense.
Anyway, I always advise women. You enter Obodo Oyibo with our man, have a plan B in your back pocket. Baby Mama issues, abuse issues might be around the corner so be smart. If you go blindly na you sabi.
For once I agree with you on something. That's always the case when the "naija" women come over na their own worse pass. I have heard a lot of stories here and in fact seen some with my korokoro naked eye. Hmmmnmmmnnnn may God help them. Before I got married, I used to live in Middlesex with my aunt and she has a friend who is in her mid 40's she has 3 children from different men cuz these men kept marrying her for papers d funny thing is that she knew d men were all married in naija o nd she didn't charge them a dime for the arranged marriage. After the men got their indefinite stay, they all left her nd d kids. As at 2011 she was hooked on another one nd she also got pregnant for him but this time around she wise up mehnnn no paper for him till further notice but d man's real wife in naija as asked him to return home with or without pali. Yawa come gas ooooooo.
If you say women are not totally innocent i will agree to some extent, why are they like that? it is because of how the men treat them, they hear stories and are now wise, just like cheating, in Nigeria now a lot of married women cheat now! Why? The men made the women so!.Nigerian married men cheat openly and even brag about it, they even say it is their birth right! Can you imagine that??? Ok i have news for you men ! Your women are also playing the "game" ( many married women are doing it ) Of course you will never know because women are very smart when it come's to that. If only this dogs called men will do DNA for their children! Lol. Men you have no monopoly of cheating again! :) I talk to a lot of married women each time i visit Nigeria and believe me them don change!
A friend of mine just lost the mum,she's an only child the father impregnated the mum and trvld out this is the 29year the man is not yet back the girl is 28 grew up with the mum,she dosnt knw her dad only communicate via phone although it was d father who,saw her through school.now the mum is dead the only person she ever knew as family the burial is goin on stil no father came,what kind of excuse dose such a man have,she's single and lonely no mum no dad no husband,look the men have no xcuse to give it is becoz of their wicked ways the ladies have decided to pay them back in their coin,just dat it mostly afect the innocent once,ladies react to the way men act.
U r right must of discount babe's don't marry display guy genuinely they only do that just to get to date abroad n dey start showing their truth colour something apply to do guys also dey do don't so naturally same same.
Beautiful married woman you are BEAUTY WITHOUT BRAIN. You can't make a simple understandable English. Na your fake beauty we go chop? It will be better for you to go back to school, otherwise, your hubby will always leave you at home whenever he is going out.
Na wa for una.....lol....besides, Stella where's busybody corrector.... She's been MIA for a while, and lately we've had more need for her 'compulsive' help oooo
Wen a member. Of my family was getting married to her hus the agrmnt was dat the papers wld b rdy bfor marrage,and hence once she's there in d u.s she go for her nursing.evrything went as planned only for the man to say she should become a house wife after 2kids no schooling no job nothing for her.so what do u expect frm a lady like dat is to revolt na,til today the man is regretting.coz he cannot even stand were she is,his still doin minor jobs while she's a qualified nurse taking care of her kids.so wtf are the men saying.
Infact ehn. My uncle who lives in Europe is as guilty as charged.
He was married to this lady in Nigeria and they have two kids. Off he went to Europe. Of cos they had an arrangement that was never to happen. He got there and wedded an oyinbo woman, for the sake of residency. Well..so we thought. They had a beautiful girl and guess what? He named his oyinbo baby after his naija wife. Talk about insult on injury.
He practically abandoned his wife and kids in naija. This wife no gree my mama rest o. Honestly my mom and everyone did not support him. She was on his case so much that he found and enemy in my mom for this reason. He stopped communicating with all of us o. Even his own father that became so sick, he abandoned him till d man died. And didn't come and bury his own father. This my uncle started to visit naija but would never ask to see his family. The wife got tired and maintained her lane. But she isn't married till date. However, I am sure she cursed him. Because, my uncle as of today has about 6kids from different women from different works of life in Europe. They chase him about with litigation child support suit... he keeps changing jobs when they find where he's hiding. He has no peace. even his own father cursed him before he died.
So men, don't think that u can get away with messing any woman's life...karma is a bitch..and u can never be redeemed of a scorned woman' s curse no matter how many pastors pray u deliverance. It's called law of retribution.
Today my uncle cannot account for his 20years or more of being in Europe. He is still married to the white lady, but she calls the shots, and he's trying hard to conceal his atrocities and the kids he has around town which this woman must not know. So who's the fool now? Na God dey pay am back o
My man has travelled for 6yrs n he hasn't come home for once but he talks to me everyday... I have a child for him, he takes care of me and the baby,we don't lack{God is my witness} his family loves me so much.. But there's a problem 1) i don't have his number, he's the one calling all the time. 2) i have been having dreams that he's married over there but anytime I tell him, he always calm me down 3) on my yahoo messenger chat with him, a lady dropped a message that they have been married for 3yrs n known each other 4 2 and lastly, my man sent me a phone, he inserted his sim to check if the phone is unlock but alas!, some of his messages saved...as I opened the phone I saw the messages, I broke down.....that was when he opened up to me but he begged n told me not to worry....that everything is for our own good (green paper I think), I believe him.....hes a very good man, have known him even b4 he thought of travelling...its not about the money.....I really want him to come and meet his son, they have not met since I gave birth n my baby is now Nursery 2......yes, it's not as if I have been holy but he's still the best have got!
Wo, you are one of these "I must to marry by force" women. You have all the proof you need that he is a bad man but you are still talking of him being a good man. My dear, abeg carry your cross and go. You don't want help so leave this place. Mugu!
That's d problem with u women u see the hand writing on the wall u still there waiting for him while he is leaving with another wife u re in Nigeria sleeping with other men. Live the marriage and move on with ur life u will either give him sickness or he gives u. Use ur brain, ur happiness is money he sent u am sure if he doesn't send money u won't love him any more.
Hehehe... And what you don't know is that he has got kids with the other woman too. He won't leave them o.... You are just d Nigerian wife... Take it or leave it.... Di obodo Oyibo.... I married one o... Tank God I live here with him.
Lmao.....pipol are so funny. why would anyone rebuke her. Do you know what she went through before the man travelled, like seriously I understand her, she can't just give up on what she suffered for. please dear, don't worry everything will be alright and the Lord is your strength. As for you people with bad mouth, am sure you can't suffer with a man, talk less of waiting and enduring for him..Even in Naija here, there are a lot of men who deceives you, toy with you and so on. Please Only God knows best! Love is a powerful thing...most of you just come here and write down trash and deep down you know what you are passing through...
Ur story feels like am watching a movie.....am waiting to watch d concluding part sha....God help u.....@blackbold.....and u think u made sense with ur response....so bcos she suffered with d guy she should settle for less.....abi???? ur sense of insecurity is outta dis planet.....
we have cases of men who go to Naija and tell all sorts of lies to the intending wife... they tell lies about the kind of job they do for e.g. or say they own the house they live in or the car they are driving while in actual sense they are paying mortgage, or paying finance for the car.... when the babe arrives and realises that they are all lies and that she is required to work very hard to pay all the bills then trouble sets in...
There was a lady I dated in the past b4 travelling out but 3months after I travelled out she started calling herself my wife nd going to our house to help my parents with her pretended good characters then later I called her to look for another man nd stop deceiving herself becos I don't know when I am returning back to Nigeria but she refused and promised to wait for me any year I returned back,,And a year later I told her about me getting married to my oyibo wife nd she cursed alots at of herself,even promising to kill my oyibo lady wen ever she meet her, this was a lady I helped inter into university to help herself nd to begin a new life without me,even my parents are forcing me to marry her becos of her fake good character to them,while all of them has already knew that I am married,so now I ask @stella,if I return back home nd she may plan with my mother to drug my food or drink nd she sleep with me one night nd become pregnant for me,so whose blame is that maybe If I refused to return back home again?
U r an idiot. Oh! So u dey fear. After u don chop, u wan clean mouth run. U come dey fear poison. Y did u tell her u wld come back before? Why didnt you break up with her before u left. U r a wicked man.
I am seeing the hand writing of all those desperate ladies papa go marry by force here, tomorrow they will say man married them nd leave, ladies stop being desperado
Just be careful with her when you return home, cos I can tell you she's out for you.... Afterall you told her to look for another man, that you re not sure of your returning yet she choose to stick her ass... That shows some level of desperation. My advise is this; just be careful with her, if possible avoid her completely! Cheers.
Well stella...dis is Ƌ gud issue to talk about. I think is all about being lucky and also the abundant Grace of God in d family. My husband lives in the diaspora... D 1st tym he travelled out, my kids were still little. My son was in primary 1...while d oda two was in nursery 3 Ãήϑ nursery1. Can u believe that my husband never came back until after 12 solid years...though he always kept in touch oll tru. U knw wen he camee bck, my son has already written his 2nd jamb. I knw its by the special grace of God dt he came back. I realy thank God for his mercy Ãήϑ Grace. Since den he's been travelling out and comming @every 2 year interval. Infact we are xpecting him next weeknd. To my fellow women who their husbands never comes bck jst follow dem up with prayers n Gods grace will always b sufficient for u.wish All the best.
Wow! Is dis how marriage should be? Are u happy with this arrangement? Every 2 years? What are his plans? Are you going to move finally with him? Na wa o
I think some women are Gold diggers, they even know the men are married abroad but will still get hooked cos of money & luxury. Many of dem av fiancee but are quick to dump dem wen dey see dat d guy abroad is rich D only quality some women look out for in a man is whether he can foot d bill & nothing else!
Pls which money are we talking about here? Can people living abroad be termed rich? In my opinion NO, Am hearing that for the first time but I stand to be corrected .
I tow ur line jareee Whirlwind....calling some 'abroadee' rich is a big laugh... The ones that can afford a 'little' and some have biznesses thriving in Nigeria which orcourse funds their lifestyle abroad.... And ur money had better be clean unless u go explain where u see am!!! And ofcourse if uve got bizness in Naija ....u wud always come back to oversee it, it surely wudnt be one in 12yrs or 5 set.
Some times things don't go as planned in d diaspora. Some men v good intentions for e.g in search of Ƌ greencard...which takes ages to achieve. @ d long run dey end up staying for more dan dey planned. My dad is an xample, i was only 6 wen he travelled out. He came bck wen I̶̲̥̅̊ was 18. Not that he couldn't cm bck. According to him, if he comes bck, he'l find it difficult to go bck again S̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴͡ he had to get his greencard before he comes bck so he'l b able to move in n out wiout visas. It took him 12 yrs to get dat though normally it shldnt tk dt long. He had major set backs cus of his wicked nigerian flat mate. Tnk God d devil was finally put to shame. Everything is normal now things are going well cus he now travels and comes bck every xmas .
so is it worth it? the green card i mean..is it worth missing 12 years with his family? people are making it in naija here..why do others feel the need to go and slave for 12 yrs in the name of green card
Some times things don't go as planned in d diaspora. Some men v good intentions for e.g in search of Ƌ greencard...which takes ages to achieve. @ d long run dey end up staying for more dan dey planned. My dad is an xample, i was only 6 wen he travelled out. He came bck wen I̶̲̥̅̊ was 18. Not that he couldn't cm bck. According to him, if he comes bck, he'l find it difficult to go bck again S̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴͡ he had to get his greencard before he comes bck so he'l b able to move in n out wiout visas. It took him 12 yrs to get dat though normally it shldnt tk dt long. He had major set backs cus of his wicked nigerian flat mate. Tnk God d devil was finally put to shame. Everything is normal now things are going well cus he now travels and comes bck every xmas .
Some times things don't go as planned in d diaspora. Some men v good intentions for e.g in search of Ƌ greencard...which takes ages to achieve. @ d long run dey end up staying for more dan dey planned. My dad is an xample, i was only 6 wen he travelled out. He came bck wen I̶̲̥̅̊ was 18. Not that he couldn't cm bck. According to him, if he comes bck, he'l find it difficult to go bck again S̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴͡ he had to get his greencard before he comes bck so he'l b able to move in n out wiout visas. It took him 12 yrs to get dat though normally it shldnt tk dt long. He had major set backs cus of his wicked nigerian flat mate. Tnk God d devil was finally put to shame. Everything is normal now things are going well cus he now travels and comes bck every xmas .
Anon commenter.....wat if anon 12:26 is d person's mum......what will happen??? u have not given ur opinion on d topic....na only question u dey ask???
I have this Uncle who's Togolese and a diplomat in France. He had a lovely relationship with this Swedish Lady who also bore him a son. He felt she was to worldly and demanding so he decided to go back to Togo to pick a wife. The lady he chose in question acted and played the part of a very naive and God fearing village girl(if I hear). My mother and I warned and even tried to pursued him to go back to his Swedish lady he vehemently refused stating very flimsy reasons. Anyways 2years down the line she relocated to Paris, but being a very busy Diplomat he was always traveling around Europe and really didn't have time for the lady. One bright and sunny day, an old lady introduced herself as his neighbor and said she didn't mean to pry but she can't help it: She claimed she observed that every time, my Uncle left 'the building' his lady occupant would take a lovely walk and come back with a different man every damn time! My uncle didn't believe that his Village vixen, his innocent, naive wife could be capable of such. Then he devised a plan to leave 'the building' and see what happens. Two days my uncle's 'naive' wife after observation had 5 customers. When he confronted her she claimed very boldly how stupid he was, that she had an itch that needed to be scratched. She walked out the next day and my uncle hasn't seen her since. Too bad the Swedish lady lost interest n moved on with her life.
A lady I no,did wat I can called 'do me I do you'God no go vex,d guy came from US n lied to her at first afta she's done lik 4 abortions,later after 3yrs he eventually took her wit him ,bt may be she suddenly remembered all d maltreatmnt melted on her over d years,she conclude n to worsen d whole issue d guy starts to beat her same way he alwys do 2 her in Naija. To cut it short she eventually vanish wit d help of one of d alhaja's in d naighbourhood dat speaks same language.. So wit dis kind of situation she finds herslf,how do u explain dis,I support her running away o. Naija men wit EGO
Sis SDK, please am looking forward on you discussing married men/women who are in Nigeria yet live in different states. Some men will be in Lagos while their wife/children will be in Abuja. Some are in Ibadan while their family is in Enugu. for What? I call them (Married but single) In most cases, there is no genuine excuses for living apart. The man comes home maybe once in two/three months to see his family. stay few days, off he goes back to his base. The man and the woman stay in rented houses in their different location. It is becoming the order of the day, The children are practically being raised by a single mother while her husband is still alive. Take the military for example.
and you think that that was how they planned for their family to be from the beginning? you cannot use your brain to think out genuine instances where it may become imperative for families to stay apart..sometimes temporary or even for long periods of time?
next, you'll be telling us that women should not marry men that work offshore since the man is away long periods of time..
meanwhile, you living with your hubby and whole family, how happy are you? understand that every family does what works for them...your own situation may be work for other.. madam ITK
Hmmmm...my own is I have this aunty. She married her hubby some years ago. Her husband then left the country barely a year after. This one,he wasn't there before o. She had the first son and he didnt come around. When the boy was about 2 years plus,he came back and impregnated her again,left again and hasn't come since then. I guess they have been communicating cos he came last year and I dunno the arrangement they made but she handed her three sons to him to carry o. Me I honestly don't know what she was thinking. It is really annoying. Lawaoooooo.
Lol...With all these stories, I doubt I want to be involved with the arrangee one guys mum is trying to do o. This one that hardly calls,always forming busy for me. Abeg let everybody go their way jeje,I cannot shout. I rather stay here with my hubby and we will be managing our garri three square meals with fish. I am not freaked about this abroad. Ive gone and seen how Nigerians live there,only a few are really regarded.
We have both good and bad people of all gender. I have seen good men who have been duped vise versa. Some men married to oyibo do not really think an oyibo woman would not divorce them someday, not to talk of coming to stay with them in Nigeria, thus they make alternative arrangement for their old age. This is usually one of the reasons. Rose
Am sorry Stella, but you owe it to your Naija brothers to tell them the truth. Naija men are not treating their women well at all. You even gave the men an opportunity to speak but this post is still full of women's horror stories. Please advice our men to stop with the lying and cheating. Abeg e don do na. We women are human beings also. We are tired! My husband has not touched me in almost 7 months now. If I should now cheat, the whole world will call me a wicked woman. I have prayed but God is yet to answer me. Meanwhile, he has a steady relationship with another woman. What did I do to deserve this wickedness?
Ah as for military men ehn, na dia own worwor pass o. Military men are bound to have mistresses wherever work takes them. Even kids, that's why u hear some people say they are looking for their father who was posted to so and so, that he got their mom preggy and that was the last she saw etc. Even police men too. Corpers sef don join. Its an intricate issue with uniformed men I tell u. Even the ones who are with their families, they can't do without banging any babe in their duty posts. See the yeye stop and search police, u need to see how they bang anyhow in their offices or patrol vans. Very sickening. I went to a military school so I know what am saying. They always have a permanent mistress in their quarters while their real wife and kids live in their personal home somewhere. They practically raise more than one family at a time without the wife knowing it.
Obodo Oyibo marriage, my uncle married one lady dat lives in Italy, d woman is really giving him tough tym over there cos she has stayed there for a long time b4 she married my uncle and took her to Italy, my uncle complains how she goes to party and all dat, anyway it serves my uncle right cos his holier than thou was too much when he was here.
Some women always have motives of being with diaspora men. 1 to run away from poverty and also to have resident abroad. My uncle in Chicago married from Nigeria years back he wanted a nurse as wife after marriage and kids my uncle started having issues with the wife bc money has entered her head, earning better salary in the states than Nigeria where she was earning less than $150. Some women can be bossy when they see money unlike men. Most women that come abroad to marry and later run away are arranged marriages through families, most of those women stay at their villages or town outside Lagos they re not enlighten unlike women in Lagos and Abuja. When u go to village to pick wives u should expect her to act like a village girl. Our men also take blame because we always do not free our women. When a woman goes to club with friends is taboo,restaurant with friends taboo,even to work taboo open business for ur wife or partner taboo. What do u expect? U can as well do all this good things for a woman but at the end she will always misbehave. Na God dey give good wife and good husband, always marry ur friend.
Hmmmm..... from most of the comments I have read here, it seems like it is a certain class of people that actually relocate overseas. Majority for economic reasons.
Some women too are very wicked,my uncle was leaving in asia before he decided to carry his wife there he didn't wed in church or court just traditional,when they were in asia they had a son together along the line the man was Deported back to nigeria every appeal for the women to help her husband the stupid wife refused saying they were not legally married up on till today the husband is in nigeria while she stays in lag and asia.this days most men and their family will rather help their siblings than to carry the wives because every little exposure can make the woman something else Personally I hv never fancied all those 'americanah' thing I love to 'breeze' in and 'breeze' out of europe but to stay there permanently I'm nt interested and no man can canjole me
lol. serves your uncle wellllla. i laugh in igbo. do you know if the woman has been begging him to marry her since or whether he was punching her over there. abeg free he woman let her enjoy her life jare..
a friend of a friend is currently experiencing something crazy. One woman in her neighborhood liked her so much and tried to matchmake her with her son in London..After giving her son number,dude calls a couple of times but seemed uninterested...so d lady blanked.... few months later,dude came home and git a chance to see the lady and he was supposedly smittened and decided to hold formal introduction ceremony..
d lady was excited and her friend and family all were present....all that's left is wedding proper..the guy returned to UK....
Her friends were even "tapping" in to the blessings sef....Na so d guy just stopped communicating o..as in no calls,no mags,never picks her calls or return.nothing..The mother too said she doesn't understand .
Meanwhile the shame is on d lady bcos her extended family were at d intromimo..
And that was how d relationship ended..Babe is back to the market.
People no matter the gender will be either bad or good. And the truth of it all is as you have them in women so do you have them as men. I met my husband in UK, even though I had met bad men in the past. He had someone he knew here who moved to naija but the relationship had ended. I goes to naija, met the lady again and categorically told that he didn't want a relationship with her as he didn't see her like someone he could settle with but for some odd reason, they had an introduction and that when it dawned on him what he had gotten himself into. She threw caution into the air and behaved anyhow she liked. She is not young so she knew what she was doing. Before we decided to get married, I had to asked him to call her after months of no communication between them to officially put an end to anything between them. She thanked him and said next time she will behave better when she meets someone else. We are happily married today and we go to naija any time without any guilt.
The best is to meet your wife in abroad and when both of you fit in well then you can both talk Marriage both Naija Men and Women are carried away with the Overseas Madness but Mostly this fault is high rated from Men than Women the prayer is to marry one owns Partner by Praying and Letting God choose for one. So when the Devil come with the Marriage storm you can tell it to GOD in prayer to silence the Devil. 2335F8C6 29 Single yoruba.
some of the men abroad especially US and Canada are looking for 'easy money'..they go back to Naija, bring the babes back with them, register them in nursing school and then lay back and wanna see the cash roll in...
worse, they will still be prancing about demanding 'respect' and 'honour....and then claim shock when the woman 'wises up and realises that she should be treated better ...too many stories, abeg!!!
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It's cos those men want someone they can easily control.The men that think this way are usually selfish and egotistical.They think only about how they'll benefit from a "tamed" and "naïve" home grown lady. Now, he's coming home to look for a wife, but he has forgotten that cos he lives abroad, it'll be very difficult to find a lady who loves him for love and not for his money or his "oyiboness".He meets a girl who puts on her best behaviour cos, all she sees is her prospects of going abroad.When they finally get married and she leaves Nigeria, and the euphoria of getting abroad wears off, u see this same lady displaying her real color. Now she also wants to be independent after her eye don tear.The man will see her as unsubmissive and rude and now he is back to square one.
ReplyDeleteThe devil u know is better than the angel u dont know. Most of d girls they eventually marry are people who were recommended for them, and in most cases, the ones doing the recommending are in cohorts with d lady to dupe them. A lot of negative stories abound. . .men shld open their eyes
Spot on mamie water!!
DeleteBia mamie, u be housewife? Always first to comment. Lol....runs away, just looking for trouble.........lala
DeleteKeep commenting like this! You'll find out that its really good for your health.
DeleteYou and your over know everything! Old cargo.
DeleteI agree with you. Our Nigerian men have a different mentality. No matter how educated they are and even their wives, they crave for that 'kingship' in the house. A woman should be submissive to her husband THIS IS A MUST but she still has a mind of her own. But our men will want a robot for a wife when it comes to making decisions especially about finances. To be candid women are easily carried away by money so when a woman is making more money she tend to be bossy as well. But if you want to have your wife as your wife, marry for love not for power, wealth or class, shun inferiority complex, tolerate, compromise, trust and don't listen to the blabbing of the bigger boys circle. Women are not magicians, they work, cooks, clean, do the school runs, warm your bed as needed, help children with homework etc. Be a man not a tyrant. Don't be selfish, a man can be generous to his friends and family with no questions when a woman tries to be generous to a family member, it becomes a taboo. Pray, marry your own destined wife, be open, loving caring and comprehensive and you will live in a home.
DeleteM-amie....you have answers to every topics. Na so you brilliant reach?
DeleteM-amie, jack of all knowledge.
Can we all always go through our comments/replies before publishing? Lots of illiterates here, I'm outta here man!
DeleteMehn! Mamie u have spoken well. I even learnt from ur comment. Thank you very much.
DeleteHey 1:09 the bully shaaaaaarap and learn if you have nothing to contribute. Afi answers to every topicS.
DeleteMamie well said u woke up on d rite side of d bed this morning...*runsaway*
DeleteWell a Nigerian wife is supposed to be a moron, if possible deaf and dumb, have no opinion on any issue ,just take instructions that is the meaning of submissive ,smh, infact if you dare argue , they get intimidated .
DeleteYes Aunty S, some girls are evil...we can not deny that. But I am sorry these men come home to marry because they are looking for the Naija man definition of "submissive". They feel they will get women that will worship the ground they walk on because he "rescued" her from poverty. They want her to work and somehow they feel entitled to her entire earnings. You will hear a man saying my wife should hand over her income and then I delegate. Brothers, if both of you have made this agreement then ok but don't be so mean to take all her income and then give as YOU please. Some of the girls run away because they can not take the treatment from these men. They beat them silly (I have witnessed too many of these). They restrict her movements, they tell her who she should and should not mingle with.
ReplyDeleteWhen you see good cases, you find that it is men that went home and married their long term girlfriends. Now those guys have sense and treat the girl with sense.
Anyway, I always advise women. You enter Obodo Oyibo with our man, have a plan B in your back pocket. Baby Mama issues, abuse issues might be around the corner so be smart. If you go blindly na you sabi.
For once I agree with you on something. That's always the case when the "naija" women come over na their own worse pass. I have heard a lot of stories here and in fact seen some with my korokoro naked eye. Hmmmnmmmnnnn may God help them.
ReplyDeleteBefore I got married, I used to live in Middlesex with my aunt and she has a friend who is in her mid 40's she has 3 children from different men cuz these men kept marrying her for papers d funny thing is that she knew d men were all married in naija o nd she didn't charge them a dime for the arranged marriage. After the men got their indefinite stay, they all left her nd d kids. As at 2011 she was hooked on another one nd she also got pregnant for him but this time around she wise up mehnnn no paper for him till further notice but d man's real wife in naija as asked him to return home with or without pali. Yawa come gas ooooooo.
wetin come happen next?
DeleteM-amie... plenty Kissess 4 u....
ReplyDeleteIf you say women are not totally innocent i will agree to some extent, why are they like that? it is because of how the men treat them, they hear stories and are now wise, just like cheating, in Nigeria now a lot of married women cheat now! Why? The men made the women so!.Nigerian married men cheat openly and even brag about it, they even say it is their birth right! Can you imagine that??? Ok i have news for you men ! Your women are also playing the "game" ( many married women are doing it ) Of course you will never know because women are very smart when it come's to that. If only this dogs called men will do DNA for their children! Lol. Men you have no monopoly of cheating again! :) I talk to a lot of married women each time i visit Nigeria and believe me them don change!
ReplyDeleteover to d mennnnnn.
ReplyDeleteDo you not have a job?
ReplyDeleteA friend of mine just lost the mum,she's an only child the father impregnated the mum and trvld out this is the 29year the man is not yet back the girl is 28 grew up with the mum,she dosnt knw her dad only communicate via phone although it was d father who,saw her through school.now the mum is dead the only person she ever knew as family the burial is goin on stil no father came,what kind of excuse dose such a man have,she's single and lonely no mum no dad no husband,look the men have no xcuse to give it is becoz of their wicked ways the ladies have decided to pay them back in their coin,just dat it mostly afect the innocent once,ladies react to the way men act.
ReplyDeleteUr gramma is killing. Had a headache reading dis.
DeleteMe too..serious migraine sef@ lady England pls change ur name to ladyonipanu
DeleteAfter the first two lines, I just stopped.... Waddafuck
DeleteU r right must of discount babe's don't marry display guy genuinely they only do that just to get to date abroad n dey start showing their truth colour something apply to do guys also dey do don't so naturally same same.
ReplyDeleteIf only u can read ur queen primer d way u read SDK blog, u will improve. Pls go back to school.
Delete-Ms Phantom-
Your English is terrible. Rather than focusing on your beauty, you should go back to school.
DeleteBeautiful married woman you are BEAUTY WITHOUT BRAIN. You can't make a simple understandable English. Na your fake beauty we go chop? It will be better for you to go back to school, otherwise, your hubby will always leave you at home whenever he is going out.
DeleteLmao! Beautiful married woman it's not a must to write English o, abeg next time write in your native language
DeleteChoi! Dese missles can destroy d whole of Africa!
DeleteHahahaaa beautiful married woman!!! Beauty without brain indeed. I pity your hubby....and your kids. SMH
DeleteHahahaaa beautiful married woman!!! Beauty without brain indeed. I pity your hubby....and your kids. SMH
DeleteNa wa for una.....lol....besides, Stella where's busybody corrector.... She's been MIA for a while, and lately we've had more need for her 'compulsive' help oooo
Delete@beautiful married woman.....how do u commuicate with ur hubby and kids???guess ur hubby is just all abt ur beauty.....
Deleteewwwwwu chimo. I don't believe she typed this. maybe she used a translator........
DeleteWen a member. Of my family was getting married to her hus the agrmnt was dat the papers wld b rdy bfor marrage,and hence once she's there in d u.s she go for her nursing.evrything went as planned only for the man to say she should become a house wife after 2kids no schooling no job nothing for her.so what do u expect frm a lady like dat is to revolt na,til today the man is regretting.coz he cannot even stand were she is,his still doin minor jobs while she's a qualified nurse taking care of her kids.so wtf are the men saying.
ReplyDeleteJust like Lauren begi begi, you always have a long story to tell.. More strength to your fingers
DeleteAnd 2:46 what do you have to offer? Blandness and emptiness? More brainpower to you
DeleteThank God you n o tlk sey na Igbo men better pass here......#YINMU
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmm this is serious matter.
ReplyDeleteInfact ehn. My uncle who lives in Europe is as guilty as charged.
DeleteHe was married to this lady in Nigeria and they have two kids. Off he went to Europe. Of cos they had an arrangement that was never to happen. He got there and wedded an oyinbo woman, for the sake of residency. Well..so we thought. They had a beautiful girl and guess what? He named his oyinbo baby after his naija wife. Talk about insult on injury.
He practically abandoned his wife and kids in naija. This wife no gree my mama rest o. Honestly my mom and everyone did not support him. She was on his case so much that he found and enemy in my mom for this reason. He stopped communicating with all of us o. Even his own father that became so sick, he abandoned him till d man died. And didn't come and bury his own father. This my uncle started to visit naija but would never ask to see his family. The wife got tired and maintained her lane. But she isn't married till date. However, I am sure she cursed him. Because, my uncle as of today has about 6kids from different women from different works of life in Europe. They chase him about with litigation child support suit... he keeps changing jobs when they find where he's hiding. He has no peace. even his own father cursed him before he died.
So men, don't think that u can get away with messing any woman's life...karma is a bitch..and u can never be redeemed of a scorned woman' s curse no matter how many pastors pray u deliverance. It's called law of retribution.
Today my uncle cannot account for his 20years or more of being in Europe. He is still married to the white lady, but she calls the shots, and he's trying hard to conceal his atrocities and the kids he has around town which this woman must not know. So who's the fool now? Na God dey pay am back o
Ova to the guys
ReplyDeleteMy man has travelled for 6yrs n he hasn't come home for once but he talks to me everyday... I have a child for him, he takes care of me and the baby,we don't lack{God is my witness} his family loves me so much.. But there's a problem 1) i don't have his number, he's the one calling all the time. 2) i have been having dreams that he's married over there but anytime I tell him, he always calm me down 3) on my yahoo messenger chat with him, a lady dropped a message that they have been married for 3yrs n known each other 4 2 and lastly, my man sent me a phone, he inserted his sim to check if the phone is unlock but alas!, some of his messages saved...as I opened the phone I saw the messages, I broke down.....that was when he opened up to me but he begged n told me not to worry....that everything is for our own good (green paper I think), I believe him.....hes a very good man, have known him even b4 he thought of travelling...its not about the money.....I really want him to come and meet his son, they have not met since I gave birth n my baby is now Nursery 2......yes, it's not as if I have been holy but he's still the best have got!
ReplyDeleteYou try well well! The Lord is your strength
DeleteWo, you are one of these "I must to marry by force" women. You have all the proof you need that he is a bad man but you are still talking of him being a good man. My dear, abeg carry your cross and go. You don't want help so leave this place. Mugu!
DeleteSorry o
DeleteBut I had to laff...olololooo o
What if the other woman is nice to him, he may fall inlove with her
Just tell him to come home
Long thingggggg! You are sha married to someone's husband, hope you know?
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DeleteThat's d problem with u women u see the hand writing on the wall u still there waiting for him while he is leaving with another wife u re in Nigeria sleeping with other men. Live the marriage and move on with ur life u will either give him sickness or he gives u. Use ur brain, ur happiness is money he sent u am sure if he doesn't send money u won't love him any more.
You are a real MAI pure MUMU very dumb and gullible woman
DeleteAre dere still pple like ds in ds world? Jeez..is ladies like u dt married women bind and rebuke..koshilojhor
DeleteHehehe... And what you don't know is that he has got kids with the other woman too.
DeleteHe won't leave them o.... You are just d Nigerian wife... Take it or leave it.... Di obodo Oyibo.... I married one o... Tank God I live here with him.
Lmao.....pipol are so funny. why would anyone rebuke her. Do you know what she went through before the man travelled, like seriously I understand her, she can't just give up on what she suffered for. please dear, don't worry everything will be alright and the Lord is your strength. As for you people with bad mouth, am sure you can't suffer with a man, talk less of waiting and enduring for him..Even in Naija here, there are a lot of men who deceives you, toy with you and so on. Please Only God knows best! Love is a powerful thing...most of you just come here and write down trash and deep down you know what you are passing through...
DeleteIts a good tin she accepted her position as 2nd wife, oloshi....Ole husband.
DeleteUr story feels like am watching a movie.....am waiting to watch d concluding part sha....God help u.....@blackbold.....and u think u made sense with ur response....so bcos she suffered with d guy she should settle for less.....abi???? ur sense of insecurity is outta dis planet.....
Deletewe have cases of men who go to Naija and tell all sorts of lies to the intending wife... they tell lies about the kind of job they do for e.g. or say they own the house they live in or the car they are driving while in actual sense they are paying mortgage, or paying finance for the car.... when the babe arrives and realises that they are all lies and that she is required to work very hard to pay all the bills then trouble sets in...
ReplyDeleteOf course everybody takes out a mortgage and car loan. You be Bill Gates that you want to pay cash for everything?
DeleteAbi oh..if a man is paying mortgage sef is better at least he owns d house..u dint talk of dose men that will rent basement and be claiming ownership.
DeleteNot ever one in the UK takes out a car loan. The only loan we need is mortgage. God is too faithful.
DeleteThere was a lady I dated in the past b4 travelling out but 3months after I travelled out she started calling herself
ReplyDeletemy wife nd going to our house to help my parents with her pretended good characters then later I called her
to look for another man nd stop deceiving herself becos I don't know when I am returning back to Nigeria but she
refused and promised to wait for me any year I returned back,,And a year later I told her about me getting married to my oyibo wife nd she cursed alots at of herself,even promising to kill my oyibo lady wen ever she meet her,
this was a lady I helped inter into university to help herself nd to begin a new life without me,even my parents are forcing me to marry her becos of her fake good character to them,while all of them has already knew that I am married,so now I ask @stella,if I return back home nd she may plan with my mother to drug my food or drink nd she sleep with me one night nd become pregnant for me,so whose blame is that maybe If I refused to return back home again?
U r an idiot. Oh! So u dey fear. After u don chop, u wan clean mouth run. U come dey fear poison. Y did u tell her u wld come back before? Why didnt you break up with her before u left. U r a wicked man.
DeleteYours! For not knowing how to express yourself in English. Olodo, go and look for snow to pack jooor
DeleteAbey she should stop Ben desperate and move on.
DeleteI am seeing the hand writing of all those desperate ladies papa go marry by force here,
Deletetomorrow they will say man married them nd leave,
ladies stop being desperado
Just be careful with her when you return home, cos I can tell you she's out for you.... Afterall you told her to look for another man, that you re not sure of your returning yet she choose to stick her ass... That shows some level of desperation. My advise is this; just be careful with her, if possible avoid her completely! Cheers.
DeleteWell stella...dis is Ƌ gud issue to talk about. I think is all about being lucky and also the abundant Grace of God in d family. My husband lives in the diaspora... D 1st tym he travelled out, my kids were still little. My son was in primary 1...while d oda two was in nursery 3 Ãήϑ nursery1. Can u believe that my husband never came back until after 12 solid years...though he always kept in touch oll tru. U knw wen he camee bck, my son has already written his 2nd jamb. I knw its by the special grace of God dt he came back. I realy thank God for his mercy Ãήϑ Grace. Since den he's been travelling out and comming @every 2 year interval. Infact we are xpecting him next weeknd. To my fellow women who their husbands never comes bck jst follow dem up with prayers n Gods grace will always b sufficient for u.wish All the best.
ReplyDeleteWow! Is dis how marriage should be? Are u happy with this arrangement? Every 2 years? What are his plans? Are you going to move finally with him? Na wa o
DeleteThank GOd for u o
Delete12 years ? What about Sex? You tried madame.
DeleteIs Anon 12:38 your son?
DeleteAm sorry am not a sadist o, but there's nothing to be thankful for here madame. Are u kidding me? Infact am outta here before I start to type rubbish.
DeleteI think some women are Gold diggers, they even know the men are married abroad but will still get hooked cos of money & luxury. Many of dem av fiancee but are quick to dump dem wen dey see dat d guy abroad is rich
ReplyDeleteD only quality some women look out for in a man is whether he can foot d bill & nothing else!
Is Anon 12:26 your mum?
DeletePls which money are we talking about here? Can people living abroad be termed rich? In my opinion NO, Am hearing that for the first time but I stand to be corrected .
DeleteI tow ur line jareee Whirlwind....calling some 'abroadee' rich is a big laugh... The ones that can afford a 'little' and some have biznesses thriving in Nigeria which orcourse funds their lifestyle abroad.... And ur money had better be clean unless u go explain where u see am!!! And ofcourse if uve got bizness in Naija ....u wud always come back to oversee it, it surely wudnt be one in 12yrs or 5 set.
DeleteOnce in 12 yrs or 5yrs sef
DeleteSome times things don't go as planned in d diaspora. Some men v good intentions for e.g in search of Ƌ greencard...which takes ages to achieve. @ d long run dey end up staying for more dan dey planned.
ReplyDeleteMy dad is an xample, i was only 6 wen he travelled out. He came bck wen I̶̲̥̅̊ was 18. Not that he couldn't cm bck. According to him, if he comes bck, he'l find it difficult to go bck again S̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴͡ he had to get his greencard before he comes bck so he'l b able to move in n out wiout visas. It took him 12 yrs to get dat though normally it shldnt tk dt long. He had major set backs cus of his wicked nigerian flat mate. Tnk God d devil was finally put to shame. Everything is normal now things are going well cus he now travels and comes bck every xmas .
so is it worth it? the green card i mean..is it worth missing 12 years with his family? people are making it in naija here..why do others feel the need to go and slave for 12 yrs in the name of green card
DeleteSome times things don't go as planned in d diaspora. Some men v good intentions for e.g in search of Ƌ greencard...which takes ages to achieve. @ d long run dey end up staying for more dan dey planned.
ReplyDeleteMy dad is an xample, i was only 6 wen he travelled out. He came bck wen I̶̲̥̅̊ was 18. Not that he couldn't cm bck. According to him, if he comes bck, he'l find it difficult to go bck again S̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴͡ he had to get his greencard before he comes bck so he'l b able to move in n out wiout visas. It took him 12 yrs to get dat though normally it shldnt tk dt long. He had major set backs cus of his wicked nigerian flat mate. Tnk God d devil was finally put to shame. Everything is normal now things are going well cus he now travels and comes bck every xmas .
Some times things don't go as planned in d diaspora. Some men v good intentions for e.g in search of Ƌ greencard...which takes ages to achieve. @ d long run dey end up staying for more dan dey planned.
ReplyDeleteMy dad is an xample, i was only 6 wen he travelled out. He came bck wen I̶̲̥̅̊ was 18. Not that he couldn't cm bck. According to him, if he comes bck, he'l find it difficult to go bck again S̶̲̥̅Ơ̴̴̴̴͡ he had to get his greencard before he comes bck so he'l b able to move in n out wiout visas. It took him 12 yrs to get dat though normally it shldnt tk dt long. He had major set backs cus of his wicked nigerian flat mate. Tnk God d devil was finally put to shame. Everything is normal now things are going well cus he now travels and comes bck every xmas .
Is Anon 12:26 your mum?
DeleteAnon commenter.....wat if anon 12:26 is d person's mum......what will happen??? u have not given ur opinion on d topic....na only question u dey ask???
DeleteI have this Uncle who's Togolese and a diplomat in France. He had a lovely relationship with this Swedish Lady who also bore him a son. He felt she was to worldly and demanding so he decided to go back to Togo to pick a wife. The lady he chose in question acted and played the part of a very naive and God fearing village girl(if I hear). My mother and I warned and even tried to pursued him to go back to his Swedish lady he vehemently refused stating very flimsy reasons. Anyways 2years down the line she relocated to Paris, but being a very busy Diplomat he was always traveling around Europe and really didn't have time for the lady. One bright and sunny day, an old lady introduced herself as his neighbor and said she didn't mean to pry but she can't help it: She claimed she observed that every time, my Uncle left 'the building' his lady occupant would take a lovely walk and come back with a different man every damn time! My uncle didn't believe that his Village vixen, his innocent, naive wife could be capable of such. Then he devised a plan to leave 'the building' and see what happens. Two days my uncle's 'naive' wife after observation had 5 customers. When he confronted her she claimed very boldly how stupid he was, that she had an itch that needed to be scratched. She walked out the next day and my uncle hasn't seen her since. Too bad the Swedish lady lost interest n moved on with her life.
ReplyDeleteA lady I no,did wat I can called 'do me I do you'God no go vex,d guy came from US n lied to her at first afta she's done lik 4 abortions,later after 3yrs he eventually took her wit him ,bt may be she suddenly remembered all d maltreatmnt melted on her over d years,she conclude n to worsen d whole issue d guy starts to beat her same way he alwys do 2 her in Naija. To cut it short she eventually vanish wit d help of one of d alhaja's in d naighbourhood dat speaks same language.. So wit dis kind of situation she finds herslf,how do u explain dis,I support her running away o. Naija men wit EGO
ReplyDeleteSpot on girl
ReplyDeleteNawa o,4 nigerian men,na dem dey cause. Woman confussion.even amon akata 4 chicago
ReplyDeleteWow M-amie! Kudos! Kp typin sensibly
ReplyDeleteSis SDK, please am looking forward on you discussing married men/women who are in Nigeria yet live in different states. Some men will be in Lagos while their wife/children will be in Abuja. Some are in Ibadan while their family is in Enugu. for What? I call them (Married but single) In most cases, there is no genuine excuses for living apart. The man comes home maybe once in two/three months to see his family. stay few days, off he goes back to his base. The man and the woman stay in rented houses in their different location. It is becoming the order of the day, The children are practically being raised by a single mother while her husband is still alive. Take the military for example.
ReplyDeleteOrder of the day? Old gist! Wetin do the arrangement? The man harass you?
DeleteThey are called the geographical bachelors
Deleteand you think that that was how they planned for their family to be from the beginning? you cannot use your brain to think out genuine instances where it may become imperative for families to stay apart..sometimes temporary or even for long periods of time?
Deletenext, you'll be telling us that women should not marry men that work offshore since the man is away long periods of time..
meanwhile, you living with your hubby and whole family, how happy are you?
understand that every family does what works for them...your own situation may be work for other..
madam ITK
yawn imlooking foranew girl in mylife chris
ReplyDeleteHmmmm...my own is I have this aunty. She married her hubby some years ago. Her husband then left the country barely a year after. This one,he wasn't there before o. She had the first son and he didnt come around. When the boy was about 2 years plus,he came back and impregnated her again,left again and hasn't come since then. I guess they have been communicating cos he came last year and I dunno the arrangement they made but she handed her three sons to him to carry o. Me I honestly don't know what she was thinking. It is really annoying. Lawaoooooo.
ReplyDeleteNo more... She no go see am again o
DeleteLol...With all these stories, I doubt I want to be involved with the arrangee one guys mum is trying to do o. This one that hardly calls,always forming busy for me. Abeg let everybody go their way jeje,I cannot shout. I rather stay here with my hubby and we will be managing our garri three square meals with fish. I am not freaked about this abroad. Ive gone and seen how Nigerians live there,only a few are really regarded.
ReplyDeleteWe have both good and bad people of all gender. I have seen good men who have been duped vise versa. Some men married to oyibo do not really think an oyibo woman would not divorce them someday, not to talk of coming to stay with them in Nigeria, thus they make alternative arrangement for their old age. This is usually one of the reasons. Rose
ReplyDeleteAm sorry Stella, but you owe it to your Naija brothers to tell them the truth. Naija men are not treating their women well at all. You even gave the men an opportunity to speak but this post is still full of women's horror stories. Please advice our men to stop with the lying and cheating. Abeg e don do na. We women are human beings also. We are tired! My husband has not touched me in almost 7 months now. If I should now cheat, the whole world will call me a wicked woman. I have prayed but God is yet to answer me. Meanwhile, he has a steady relationship with another woman. What did I do to deserve this wickedness?
ReplyDeletebe dulling..
DeleteCheck yourself woman.
DeleteCheck hersef? Na she stuff the man P inbtw the madam leg?Hian. So na her fault ni?
DeleteGo far go straff n be happpy around the house. Sing songs while doing ur chores,laugh loudly n dance. That'll get him thinking
DeleteAunt stella pls Ill really love you to do a memo on millitary spouses(families) especially how women cope with reployment wahalA
ReplyDeleteAh as for military men ehn, na dia own worwor pass o. Military men are bound to have mistresses wherever work takes them. Even kids, that's why u hear some people say they are looking for their father who was posted to so and so, that he got their mom preggy and that was the last she saw etc. Even police men too. Corpers sef don join. Its an intricate issue with uniformed men I tell u. Even the ones who are with their families, they can't do without banging any babe in their duty posts. See the yeye stop and search police, u need to see how they bang anyhow in their offices or patrol vans. Very sickening.
DeleteI went to a military school so I know what am saying. They always have a permanent mistress in their quarters while their real wife and kids live in their personal home somewhere. They practically raise more than one family at a time without the wife knowing it.
Obodo Oyibo marriage, my uncle married one lady dat lives in Italy, d woman is really giving him tough tym over there cos she has stayed there for a long time b4 she married my uncle and took her to Italy, my uncle complains how she goes to party and all dat, anyway it serves my uncle right cos his holier than thou was too much when he was here.
ReplyDeleteBibliography
ReplyDeleteQualitative research
Some women always have motives of being with diaspora men. 1 to run away from poverty and also to have resident abroad. My uncle in Chicago married from Nigeria years back he wanted a nurse as wife after marriage and kids my uncle started having issues with the wife bc money has entered her head, earning better salary in the states than Nigeria where she was earning less than $150. Some women can be bossy when they see money unlike men. Most women that come abroad to marry and later run away are arranged marriages through families, most of those women stay at their villages or town outside Lagos they re not enlighten unlike women in Lagos and Abuja. When u go to village to pick wives u should expect her to act like a village girl. Our men also take blame because we always do not free our women. When a woman goes to club with friends is taboo,restaurant with friends taboo,even to work taboo open business for ur wife or partner taboo. What do u expect? U can as well do all this good things for a woman but at the end she will always misbehave. Na God dey give good wife and good husband, always marry ur friend.
Hmmmm..... from most of the comments I have read here, it seems like it is a certain class of people that actually relocate overseas. Majority for economic reasons.
ReplyDeleteSome women too are very wicked,my uncle was leaving in asia before he decided to carry his wife there he didn't wed in church or court just traditional,when they were in asia they had a son together along the line the man was Deported back to nigeria every appeal for the women to help her husband the stupid wife refused saying they were not legally married up on till today the husband is in nigeria while she stays in lag and asia.this days most men and their family will rather help their siblings than to carry the wives because every little exposure can make the woman something else
ReplyDeletePersonally I hv never fancied all those 'americanah' thing I love to 'breeze' in and 'breeze' out of europe but to stay there permanently I'm nt interested and no man can canjole me
lol. serves your uncle wellllla. i laugh in igbo. do you know if the woman has been begging him to marry her since or whether he was punching her over there. abeg free he woman let her enjoy her life jare..
Deletelmao
a friend of a friend is currently experiencing something crazy.
ReplyDeleteOne woman in her neighborhood liked her so much and tried to matchmake her with her son in London..After giving her son number,dude calls a couple of times but seemed uninterested...so d lady blanked....
few months later,dude came home and git a chance to see the lady and he was supposedly smittened and decided to hold formal introduction ceremony..
d lady was excited and her friend and family all were present....all that's left is wedding proper..the guy returned to UK....
Her friends were even "tapping" in to the blessings sef....Na so d guy just stopped communicating o..as in no calls,no mags,never picks her calls or return.nothing..The mother too said she doesn't understand .
Meanwhile the shame is on d lady bcos her extended family were at d intromimo..
And that was how d relationship ended..Babe is back to the market.
People no matter the gender will be either bad or good. And the truth of it all is as you have them in women so do you have them as men. I met my husband in UK, even though I had met bad men in the past. He had someone he knew here who moved to naija but the relationship had ended. I goes to naija, met the lady again and categorically told that he didn't want a relationship with her as he didn't see her like someone he could settle with but for some odd reason, they had an introduction and that when it dawned on him what he had gotten himself into. She threw caution into the air and behaved anyhow she liked. She is not young so she knew what she was doing. Before we decided to get married, I had to asked him to call her after months of no communication between them to officially put an end to anything between them. She thanked him and said next time she will behave better when she meets someone else. We are happily married today and we go to naija any time without any guilt.
ReplyDeleteI am looking for a hubby.
ReplyDeleteThe best is to meet your wife in abroad and when both of you fit in well then you can both talk Marriage both Naija Men and Women are carried away with the Overseas Madness but Mostly this fault is high rated from Men than Women the prayer is to marry one owns Partner by Praying and Letting God choose for one. So when the Devil come with the Marriage storm you can tell it to GOD in prayer to silence the Devil. 2335F8C6 29 Single yoruba.
ReplyDeletesome of the men abroad especially US and Canada are looking for 'easy money'..they go back to Naija, bring the babes back with them, register them in nursing school and then lay back and wanna see the cash roll in...
ReplyDeleteworse, they will still be prancing about demanding 'respect' and 'honour....and then claim shock when the woman 'wises up and realises that she should be treated better ...too many stories, abeg!!!