Toke Makinwa was on moments with MO on Wednesday January 15,2014 and the show aired from 9pm-10pm….The focus of the programme was on single versus married woman and the stigma of being engaged for too long.
This was recorded before Toke's split with Maje Akida her on and off boo for 8 years and some.
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Toke argues that she would not return her engagement ring if her 8 year old engagement does not take her to the altar. She says she would rather give it to a jeweller to turn it into earrings than return it because she worked hard all those years for it. So is her ring now her party earrings?
The other ladies Dolapo.Adora and Bolanle however disagree with her and were of the opinion that it would be better to return the ring.
Now,lets get interactive….Toke might have been the subject but this was not entirely about her…a lot of ladies out there are wearing rings as old as their ancestors…engagement rings oh!
I know someone who was engaged for a decade and one day called me up to ask me if i knew anyone that wanted to buy an engagement ring...she ended up selling it to another lady i know who wore it to pose that her boo wants to put a ring on it......hmmm,the stigma of being single for too long comes into play here.
Ladies now engage themselves because they are tired of people asking them when they will get married.
When the engagement lingers for too long,they break up with themselves and move on to the next lie to tell to avoid the label that comes with the stigma of being single for too long.
Are you wearing a ring that you bought yourself?why?
If you are a lady,would you return your ring if the relationship does not work out?would you continue wearing the ring because it is expensive (if it is expensive oh) or would you sell it and move on?
If you are a guy,what would you do if she refuses to return the expensive engagement ring you gave her after the relationship is called off?that is if the ring is expensive oh.
*I agree with Toke abet..return wetin?the guy should take a million seats.if it was me,i will sell the ring and take my friends to an expensive restaurant for dinner,we would pop champagne,fart,belch,hiccup and i will go to bed with a wicked smile playing at the corners of my lips.lol.
what would you do with the ring ladies?
I would rather sell d ring dan return it to him and spend d money lavishly.
ReplyDeleteSell wat???!! Well maybe her bobo Na gentleman. I give u ring I say I nor do again, U sell am!! U WANT TO PUT UR FAMILY IN TROUBLE? I dnt play like that, once its over its 'Over' am coming to urs with my basket and taking all my stuff back, lotion, soap, scented candles, perfumes, heck if I bought ur door am showing up with my carpenter, I nor come Ph come run NGO!...........T
DeleteI won't return the ring either.
DeleteI won't return the ring either.
DeleteI have a friend, who is sopozd to be getting married, the guy is talking about meeting her parents and she has met his, and already concluding on the date for the trads wedding but he hasn't given her a ring, I sha adviced her to get herself one, don't know if that's a good idea though cus he might just be playing around
DeleteBut for me ild so sell the ring, sell it and mend my heart from all the wahala you'v put me through, the guy would not even have the mouth to ask sef
Lmao,return wat shit? I'd sell d gaddamn ring nd use d money
Deletepush up tell your friend never to try that.....that is the hieght of desperation......whaaaaat"? buy yourself a ring?
DeleteMay I neva find mysef in such a situation. I jump n pass! If he can't put a ring on it afta 2yrs mehn am out of such r\ship.
DeleteWell. I wouldn't buy an engagement ring off a friend who has been disappointed by her man. It would be sheer bad luck and I think it's transferable. Call me archaic buy I don't joke with stuffs like that. I once sold my engagement ring anyway, when I was broke o. Lol.
DeleteMrs Zulu! You wrong!! Evil!
DeleteMake them smile.LMAO show up withva carpenter. Hahaha you are stingy ooo.
DeleteAnyway 1st question I bought a ring recently because 1:I was going to my home town and family will ask me how far again I am 31 an only child.2:because of where I work guys disturb me a lot and i wanna be left alone.
Of course I will do as Toke said melt into earing and wear for as long as I have it.I cant return it so sorry I cant.
Anon 4:32am. Pls tell me what is evil in that? The person I broke up with at the time didn't need the ring. I the wearer stopped wearing it and was done with the ring and the giver. So what was I to do with it,? Perhaps frame it up in a show glass or what? Abeg.
DeleteOnly desperation wld lead a woman to buying a ring n posing with it.
ReplyDeleteI don't know much about engagement cos I married my hubby the day we met.
You no date? No courtship?
DeleteMamie!!! The day u met!! Are you still in the hospital..Press the Alarm bell..yoyr temperature needs to be checked asap
DeleteM-amie oo, loooooooooool.... the day u met?
DeleteMamiee!!!! Hmmmm, iro poooo. Lie of the century.
DeleteHubby ko, horseband ni.
DeleteHow is Rome joor.
Your father's friend's son bah? Abi na your mama
DeleteI always knew you were a cheap ass babe forming something....i said it here you were packaged for your hubby as your igbo people like to do....picture marriage things......lol......anyway why are u all surprised, the way her brain works shld tell ya all......
DeleteOde ni babe yi sha moron oshi... i always try to over look ur comments buh I just ave to reply dis one... how dumb can dis comment be u married him d day u met lmaoooooooo
DeleteM-amie is another lucinda in the making mayb na she be lucinda sef
DeletePls no tribalistic comments o. I go begin address una o!
DeleteUr matress is under d tree in ur italian roadside shop. Oya - get back to work
DeleteWhy will I return the ring? It's only in oyibo movies they return o. I go sell d ring buy something else after wasting my time.
ReplyDeleteIts a two way tin oo! Is the ring real gold? Or aboki! Some guys buy 1k ring there is no bloody was u can resell that
DeleteI don't copy and paste my gist.
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You are only supposed to return the ring if you did the breaking up.
DeleteIf he breaks up with you, you keep it and do whatever u want with it. If you break up with him, you return the ring.
Why would any lady buy herself an engagement ring sef? The guy will laugh at u behind ur back. Depicts desperation if u asked me. And I hate it when a girl gives her man a hint that she wants a ring too...please this is an area where a girl should be very careful and should not be a party to any impending marriage proposal in the minutest..
DeleteI have heard guys tell their babes when upset, that, "after all I didn't propose to u. You forced a date on me to be introduced to ur folks and I just obliges out of respect for them and not u". I say, serves the girl right.
No matter how impatient u are to be married, don't ever make it a repertoire in your comments or dealings with ur man. Dont ever give him an ultimatum either. The least u can do yourself, say u think he's wasting time, is to form busy or try to create the impression that u are no longer into him. Engage yourself in unusual activities that he's not used to seeing u do..if he cares to know he'll ask wasup with ur new attitude. Then u can sly in a little hint like, ur relationship with him being monotonous and u perhaps need a breather. And u need to start to plan ur future instead of being stagnant. Trust me he'll get the message. Should he not shrug, then u know it's farewell lullaby time.
Gbam! @anon 5:07.
DeleteMy boo engaged me n broke up later, he was smart enof not to ask for d ring I hav it wif me,n hope to sell it n add to ma masters tuition fee...
Jay1.
Na to sell am sure pass jare
ReplyDeleteReturn kini? For wetin na? All the straff na free? Abeg OLX, sell it!!!!!
Lol at OLX sell it...lmao
Deletehahahahaha @ OLX, sell it...... this is hilarious.
DeleteThat'd how a girl I used to know, found out that her ring was under 100$. Meanwhile the guy told her he ordered it and it costs 10,000usd. They broke up and she tried to fling it...but voila, na aluminium ring she been dey pose with wey she no know.
DeleteKeep the ring for what?
ReplyDeleteTake am stone the guy for face waka jare....Lol
OK seriously....old things have passed away. Give him his ring and walk....
I think its only complex issues that will make a lady buy herself and engagement ring.
That ring on its own scares potential suitors cos they assume you are taken. (A case of using your own hand to pour San San in your garri.)
Be free like a bird. Marriage comes when it will, not when you force it. Cut yourself some slack jor!
Great response.
DeleteAfter dating him for 10yrs, he leaves you for someone else. Go and ask him for your pension, or an award for long service. It's your right.
DeleteDon Davido! plz where is the like button 4 this ur comment.
DeleteEngagement is a contract, that we will get married. If we didn't get married the contract is null and void so have to return the ring. If he decide you should keep it then it is a different story.
Delete*an
ReplyDeleteIf he wants it, the shameless human can have it. However i know alot of guys that will never ask for the ring back. Even if you return it to them, they will still tell you to keep it because it is yours. And thats the key word here...that ring is yours.
ReplyDeleteLet me use myself now. I would never buy an engagement ring for myself for whatever reason. Also aint no way im staying engaged for more than a year. 2 tops! If my bobo cant afford a ring. Its ok. I wont wear one. Its the wedding ring that matters more ba? Now if he does get me a ring and we never make it to the altar...i am keeping the ring. If he wants it by fire by force,I will destroy it infront of him. Nansense. You no get shame? If he dont ask for it and i do keep it, Im not turning it to anything though...that shit and all its negative energy is getting sold to whatever bidder! Chikena.
Yup. I totally agree about the negative energy. In my own case, I once called off an engagement. At first I kept the ring cos I quite liked it, but after several negative dreams, I packaged it and couriered back to the guy, mehn! Can't shout!
DeleteI forgot to add that I was quite naive then to think I could break a guy's heart and still be in love with his ring, lol!
DeleteBut if it was the guy that did the dumping, then babe should definitely have the option of keeping the ring if she so wishes, after all once a gift is given it shouldn't be expected to be returned.
As a lady, I will return the ring along with the love.
ReplyDeleteI'm married now sha..... But return fire!?? For what now??? All the years (albeit wasted) will just go like that fa? Return it NO WAY! I'll trade it in for Gold jewelry that I can sell from time to time joor.
ReplyDeleteIf it is an expensive diamond ring. He will surely collect it from you. Or you will pay for it. Because engagement is a contract
DeleteApparently a relationship is btween 2 peeps wu actually wants to be togeda...this days society makes it feel like it was only d gal dat gave it her all, wat abt d guy here! He was also fucked,spent his doe nd olso he's time so my dear its a 50/50 thingy nd d ring sld be returned... Nd I trust d dude sld av brains nt to collect it bck..jt my opinion.
ReplyDeleteIf he knew he was wasting his money and had put in a lot in2 d relationship y didn't he marry her. Did some1 send him. Abeg toke don't mind this stupid anonymous sell d ring n celebrate d breakup with ur friends or turn it 2 a party earing like u said n wear it 2 movida or the place in lekki or 1 of ur numerous events n party. Pasto Goody Goody just dropped LINGY LINGY + ON MY DOOR | http://t.co/dSlPqKp3nh
DeleteSell the morafaka! And move the fuck on!
ReplyDeleteAbi I don return d ring ni...who will pay 4 all d services av rendered to him after all dis yrs? Eg..wash clothes, cook, house chores, sleep wit him et all..am sorry I can only return it if its cheap n fake bt if na original sorry boo I ain't giving it back...eod...
ReplyDeleteQA
Keep washing his clothe okay Mumu like u
DeleteThis one is still in the era of turning herself to a househelp all in the name of relationship. Wash clothes? Washing machine no dey market again? Abi dem cut em hand? Cook ke? Mcheew, na people wen cook pass dem dey dump like its hot o. Make i just hol my hand b4 i sub person for here sha
DeleteStop cooking for a man..tried it forsome years. No proposal talkless of marriage. Fast forward next rship, I no enter kitchen for one day but my sweetie engaged and married me within 7 months. And oh yes am a Naija babe. So make una dey there dey clean andcook. Dont be a learner oh!
DeleteAnon 10: 22, STFU! Whats wrong if she decides to cook n wash for ha boo,na ur business. Do U̶̲̥̅̊ knw if she's the type that enjoys doing those tins with or without a cook around.
DeleteContinue waiting for dangote or ppl like him to come n marry you #Fakea$$bia*ch!
No cook you hear, na ur type there horseband they get sidechicks n na you go quick complain under anon.
#fu*kedupmofos
Plz dis is a sincere Q!
ReplyDeleteY is it dat if som1 bleaches,
D nose tends to look strong and stiff and flared,
Like the edge of a fried kpomo.
Plz look closely at d 2nd and 3rd pic.
Toke can lie.
Are u sure no be u, buy dat ring ursef?
Do wit d ring wateva plzs u, and get ova maje alredy.
Ask Mamie.
DeleteBuhahaha
DeleteAjiiixing I no dey oo
Stellastica,am with you....give back wetin....will sell it off biko...
ReplyDeleteReturn fire with all the free knacking wey him don do me for all those years... Am wid Toke on dis one
ReplyDeleteYou no knack am?
DeleteVery typical, so all the knacking all these while na make the guyman marry u, see eh my dear if you like give a guyman shanghai noon style or monkey in the shadow style on bed, if he nor wanna marry you, he nor go marry you. U.B
DeleteNo way will I reture the ring after being the lord of the ring for so long,I am sell the ring.
ReplyDeleteLol a lot of ladies are just confuse.
ReplyDeleteHmmm Stella this one pass ECN 202. First of all, for ladies engaging themselves, its not easy.. The level of discrimination out there mostly if you've entourage of female friends, and they are married. The married ones are always fond of doing this to their fellow single ladies, to prove a point that atleast they re married, even if they re not happy in the marriage o! This is why there re ladies who go as far as buying engagement ring for themselves. No be their fault. Secondly, if I have "invested" a lot in that relationship; money wise, energy, time, and I have nothing tangible and reasonable to prove that oh I dated this guy, we dated and we called it quit, then why should I return the engagement ring to him??? Hell NO! The first thing I will do is to sell the ring. Simple!!.. I won't bother taking it to any jeweller to turn it into earrings mba. But if it's one of this cheap ring, I will throw the ring on him, End of discussion!! Forgive my typing error(s).
ReplyDeleteSell the ring of course
ReplyDeleteI agree with Toke I will sell d ring coz I worked for it...
ReplyDeleteLol @ fart, belch, hiccup - Stella you're a comedienne. I was once engaged and when things didn't go as planned, I returned my engagement ring
ReplyDeleteReturn fire!!!, I sold d 1 my ex gave me @ yaba 4 a reasonable amount... D idiot ask me I tell am make he go ask aboki 4 yaba.
ReplyDeleteYou can return or sell it if you wish. But kindly note that;
ReplyDeleteEngagement ring is spiritual! Its a covenant btw two people like a sign of bond. It's more than what we see physically.
When engagement is broken pls endeavor to go for spiritual cleansing (pray and fasting to disengage / break that which tied you both before) If ignored.....there are negative spiritual implications that will eventually reflects in your life thereafter. God help is.
Una don come again! Engement ring spiritual. Abegi
DeleteNa lie boh
DeleteAnyway whatever you biliv in works for you, if that's what you feel then that's your own
As for me, I do noot biliv in such crap, when we were having sex there's no bond abi its when I waan sell ring
Abeg na lie
Lil. Okwano ya
Deletelooool @push up abi o leave all these people make dem dey talk spiritual nonsense there
DeleteLmao @push up...U cray gan. Nigerisns wil strt wiv deir spiritual ish. Wts spiritual abt dt?
DeleteStella,I dated a moron for 9years,engaged to him for 2years(the ring was from an expensive jewery shop)and yet he wasn't ready to get married.Met my husband,on the spot he declared his intention,married me in 3months and guess wot?the ex boyfriend wanted his ring back(along with the expensive and inexpensive items he got for me while we dated,reminded me of d money and trips he spent on me and took me on) me I simply boxed the ring,threw it in d trash and told him to pay me for the heartbreaks from his cheatings,waste of time and the strenght I used to roll my waist in bed for years. My point is,sell the ring or trash it like me because a bastard would simply pass the ring on to some other girl if you return it.
ReplyDeleteEheheh. Sing- All I want is ur waist, is ur waist. Lol
DeleteGbam!
DeleteGone are the days when oaps were just heard and not seen.this woman like to show herself and give silly interviews.
ReplyDeleteFirst, she is paid appearance fee to show herself.
Nne if you want to sell the ring, pls do.its not everything everybody have to know.
Phony woman
Buying an engagement ring for youself clearly shows how desperate you are. The society can not dictate to me. I had a friend who usually buys herself cake on her birthday claiming her husband sent it to her. Oshisko.
ReplyDeleteaint returning nada cos if i do, the guy will also make himself some cool cash by selling it
ReplyDeleteso why don't i just give myself the same privilege
i also watched the programme
with the way she was talking she had ended or was at the brink of ending the rel #MYTOTS#
@Pink Shell... U dey craze.... Why attack Toke n cuzz her out.... Some women tho... Go get a life n stop hating on Tokstarr, cos she is a star n making her doe, she doesnt even kn u exist.... #BOSSLADYSAYSO...
ReplyDeleteEngagement ring delays the whole marriage thing because the guy will relax knowing that u will remain there 4 him. When my hubby proposed I drag am go see my people sharp sharp. Ring ni ring ko. Engee says so
ReplyDeleteEvil soul ties. Turning it into earrings is a constant reminder of the ring and the relationship. Some people just don't want to move on.
ReplyDeleteYeah SDK. I know some chicks back in school. They wear engagement ring by faith. Which believing that God will give them their hubby cos they believe likewise some Babes buy themselves wedding gown by faith. So yes it happens.
ReplyDeleteSell it of course, keeping it will keep bringing back bad memory. Why should he even ask for it in the first place?
ReplyDeleteToke makinwa if u get to read ds then u r a fool'
ReplyDeleteWhy is she a fool pls? Any how?
DeleteThe question is will you return the other stuffs he gave u whilst you guys were dating? If you won't then it means the ring is your property, I shall keep the ring and whenever I travel to Dubai, I go exchange am For correct hand chain or ear rings.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm,i dont even nid to think to ansa dis question... i go sell am go flex the moni one tym one time return fire!!!
ReplyDeleteBasically selling or destroying the ring won't make you feel any better. The honourable and classy thing to do would be to return the ring to the looser(that's if nor be you cause the breakup) who wasted years of your life, as this would be a faster process of letting go and moving on with your life. Uyee Bante
ReplyDeleteAm with Toke on this one, I will so sell the ring.
ReplyDeleteI will sell it.www.tosinmajekodunmi.blogspot.com
ReplyDeleteNaija babes and pretence! I just LOVE Tope because she's real and says it as it is!
ReplyDeleteSo if your boyfriend gets you engaged with a really expensive piece of jewellry for 8/10/11? Years- and the engagement fails to lead to a union, you'd "return the ring"?
Where? How?
Those girls saying they'll return it are plain dishonest. You'll probably return the ring if its plain and inexpensive, otherwise, I think not.
why buying ring or married when you can have what you want free why buying milk when you can have the cow free ..............na wa for some man. baby Daddy
ReplyDelete@ m-amie how do u mean u married him same day? Abeg that's the only gist catching my attention right now biko.
ReplyDeleteI rememba wen i was still with my ex! So i saw dis ring @ home n i put it on my finger n snapped with it,so pple were tinkin i was engaged! Na dat week d guy sey he no do again!
ReplyDeleteNa ladies wey be lord of d rings dey always buy fake rink put for finger
I will sell d ring nd buy somfin I nid, it doesn't av 2 be gold
ReplyDeleteFor me no matter how expensive is d ring I won't return nor sell it, I will jst throw it inside pit. Y will I use d ring dat i nolonger want in my finger as my earrings?
ReplyDeleteSlaveLady
ReplyDeleteAbeg I no dey cuss anybody out
Na in.
Its a well known feature of a bleached skin.
If u are bleachd deal wit it, no b me send u msg.
SlaveLady
ReplyDeleteAbeg I no dey cuss anybody out
Na in.
Its a well known feature of a bleached skin.
If u are bleachd deal wit it, no b me send u msg.
Diamonds they say,are a girl's best friend. I tend to keep my friends 'closer'. The only material thing he knelt down to give me, can't be returned. What if the ring came with a Range Rover sport? So you will give back ring and keep suv? All join! Abegi, I will soooo sell my ring!
ReplyDeleteDon't really knw y girls are crazy about engagement ring, wat you shld wear wit pride is marriage ring,y i go wear engagement ring way d guy nor go wear,he will be walkin freely like he is still very single, dem d girl go dey form engage wit d ring, any man dat wants to marry u don't need to give u ring, if he is ready make e come pay bride prize, if any man give u engagement ring, put it in ur wallet or use am do pendant for ur necklace, if d man want u to wear it, den make him wear one too.hhhmmmmmmm
ReplyDelete#June#
Finally,someone dat has brain.
Deleteama sell the ring so fast......in my single days man no dey chop my money oh, i get aka super glue for that one......i bring out money when i no you also bring out, i no dull for any guy eating my food for free... fast forward to marriage i made sure hubby paid for the rings, wedding dress at least.....of course we did reception and chipped in to help as our money reach.....i also helped him by bringing my new set of boxes and wrapper wey i don buy in the days of believing and sowing for husband to come....lol.....ladies dont ever be desperate to marry and start buying yourself ring and all that crap......even sef my hubby no know if i sabi wash cloth or even cook well sef cos he was in and out of naija then....i see some girls yet to marry and they go slaving for some guys only to dump them and pick some one else......Now am married hubby knows all my super talents in the bedroom and other house hold chores.....moral of the story, man wey ready to marry you will know and he will do all he needs to do.....no having to ask him 10 times where is this relationship heading....lol.....ladies relax, value yourself and shine your eyes when a guy is ready he will do all the asking......wish all the single ladies in the house best of luck and Gods speed...
ReplyDeleteWell said
DeleteIs dis deborah?
DeleteThis buying of ring by girls is not proper it shows a level of desperation, i no one lady she has twins for this guy, she gave the guy money for their introduction and after that the guy doesn't want to pay her back the money and now she is leaving with him and she bought herself both engagement and wedding ring, anytime she goes to event with her children she puts it on, i wonder how she feels knowing fully
ReplyDeletewell, people knew that they are not married properly. Concerning Toke's case, hence is gold or diamond ring, as long as he did not ask for the best thing is to sell it off and use the money for an important and move on, but if is mallam's ring better return or throw it away...simple
Return fire....if I catch myself.
ReplyDeleteI sold my engagement ring on a high street out of the shores of Nigeria. I felt a sense of fulfilment as the valuation was done and cash handed over to me. I felt consoled that the price of the ring was not as inflated as the broke ass idiot had portrayed it to be. Goodluck to bad rubbish.Psheeeew.
ReplyDeleteReturn kor return nii,in his dreams
ReplyDeleteWhat if the breakup was the girl's fault, say she cheated on the guy
ReplyDeletegbam
DeleteSee her looking like a cross between opral benson and latoya jackson
ReplyDeleteLmao Stella, get ur facts right, this interview is oldddd. Did I just read JANUARY 2014, lol u can lie oooooooo. Check YouTube and see the release date. And how can u be tagging screen shots of video that isn't yours. Some of you people must think we are dumb. Well, that's why they say if it's not Bella Naija, it can't be.
ReplyDeletei see..another tsetse fly that needs lectures....
DeleteDid you see where i wrote the post WAS RECORDED BEFORE SHE BROKE up with Maje?
So what if it is old?it was aired yesterday and if i didnt bring it here you wouldnt know...so u go search youtube?wonderful...thank you...if i got the snapshots off tv then i deserve the exclusivity.
Since that post comparing me and another blogger there are lots of your type here trying to discredit my stories and always dropping names of other blogs..inferiority complex has no place around me...DO NORTH WEST YA TME WITH ME.
Toke n Maje are now married!
DeleteAn engagement ring is a promise to marry, if you break the promise then you should return the ring. However, if it is the man who breaks the engagement, then you do not have to return the ring, but if it is the woman who breaks it, the rightful thing to do is the return the ring because she did not fulfill the promise.
ReplyDeleteLOL @ SDK
ReplyDeleteWhy bother with people who read but can't comprehend
U should have just passed her several seats go perch on and understand the story