Toke goes below the belt in this one where she highlights five signs to look out for in an abusive relationship!...Do you agree? Is this your story?Did you see this signs and take to your heels? are you seeing this signs and still sitting there believing he loves you?
Okay read this
The signs include
- If he puts you down...especially in front of other people and he thinks he is better than you...if this happens,shine your eyes and do not take it lightly
- If he finds everything wrong with your friends and tries to cut you off.if he tries to cut you off from your family and always sees fault in everything they do.if you meet a man like this he has deep rooted issues and you will get beaten...soon!
- If he punches the wall during arguments, raises his voice…watch him well,he will be punching you next!
- Watch The way he treats other people..every the traffic warden,the waiter at the restaurant….watch his speech!
- If he hits you once….he will do it again and again!
True talk Toke
ReplyDeleteAll the things she highlighted are what maje has done to her, why didn't she take her own advice and dump his arse? :s
Delete6. If after screaming he says....'Baby I'm a Lover and not a fighter'.... ÅÆ
DeleteAnd I hope u guys ll look beyond waheva toke has done to u, cos I dunno where all dis hatred is from....if she offended u, I hope y'al will just forgive her n listen...many of y'al criticising her are hypocrites, u r not better dan she is...
DV doesn't start from a Slap or a Punch, it starts from verbal Abuses!
Couldn't agree less. @Luskii I seriously wonder wot she did 4 pple 2 dislike her so much. It was d nasty comments dat made me know her n seriously I don't see anything bad in her if anything I find d way she talks n d faces she makes on her vlogs funny.
DeleteAnonymous 2:29pm do u know her? Am sure it's no so u must be demented to come out and say what u don't know...... Keep abusing na u go dey carry last..... Psychopaths sef go dey use blogs disturb the rest of humanity mschweeeeeeew.....
Deletedem go son start to dey brush am
DeleteAirtel Runs babe unclad pics exposed
This girl should face her marriage nao. She's too vocal and loves the public too much,besides who made her a relationship guru. Abeg
ReplyDeleteShut up and face ur life
DeleteYou won't listen and learn. Dey will beat u soon
DeleteLol..... Lucy baby u must be daft..... Follow follow abuse no good, this is what toke does that even made her popular sef..... It's called vlogging......olodo I must to comment
DeleteLMAO...I love u 4 ds comment
DeleteLucy baby I know in your village you are prized for only what can come out of your vagina and not your brain. This is why this comment stinks of a dirty vagina. Toke is a woman with an opinion, this is alien to you I know. But we are trying to upgrade you to use your brain. Watch and learn. So what if she's married? She cannot have an opinion again? Big fool.
DeleteToke de Parrot has spoken.
ReplyDeleteKikikikikiki u sef get bad mouth_*tongue out*
DeleteSha wot she said is true in most not all cases. People fail to admit that all relationships aren't the same. What happens in urs or in d ones u've seen shouldn't be generalised.
She too talk beg enough already. Face your new marriage. She spends far too much time giving these tips advises. Until some gal takes ur man from u then u will know that marriage is an entirely new field
DeleteSomebody takes her man???? With the stunt she and maje pulled, toke is officially a PRO!!! She now reserves the full fledged right in the eyes of The Nigerian People at home and in the Diaspora to Speak and give advice about men, whether in open or in secret. She is a Pro! Toke is officially a Pro!!!
DeleteWhat's she spewing again dat we don't already know? Okacha malu!!
ReplyDeleteToke face ur marriage o u nolonger single
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm....... Toke ! Toke!! Well,small sense dey ur advise sha. O se.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm just passing by, 12 years relationship is not easy oo..
ReplyDeleteI only see her in mags and hear of her on dis blog till I watched her present a show last wk on TV. Omo! D Babe na real attention seeker. If you see her make up and the way she was doing while asking seyi shay questions I got to finalise that we haven't finished seeing Toke o infact she just start. She craves attention and she will be in our faces till infinity!
ReplyDeleteBy the way Toke u are correct but know that not all abuse has to be physical it can also be emotional. Having a man hit u is physical n having a grown ass comfortable man turn you to Lord of the rings for 10 yrs while u continue to hope is emotional.
@TRINA face ur work oo
DeleteStop d Hate!!!!
@Galore
@lucy baby........it's ur type dat get's beaten, nd at d end of d day u run back 2 ur vomit.... Rubbish, don't learn 4rm oda pple's experiences and views.
ReplyDelete@latity shut your dirty stinking mouth and mind ur lane u senseless pig. Fool like u. U are the one that will be beaten not me.
DeleteToke the talkative , never new information but saying common knowledge
ReplyDeleteExactly what Oprah Winfrey said to rihanna when she was abused by chris brown... "If a Man Hits you once, He will hit you again".... Nice one poster!!! #Melikey
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@Trina this your comment hahahaha but spot on
ReplyDeleteHaving a man hit u is physical n having a grown ass comfortable man turn you to Lord of the rings for 10 yrs while u continue to hope is emotional.
TOKE THE RELATIONSHIP EXPERT . 12 year aint easy at all
Call it 12 years a slave!
Delete@Trina but he married her.10 years or not shez his wife give it a bloody rest.itz stale news.sigh
ReplyDeleteGuys, I've been there and i could categorically tell you she didn't miss a line however, I couldn't agree more to EMOTIONAL ABUSE mentioned by #TRINA. I have tasted both and the first time it happened to me i was quite young and thought Love behaves (misbehaves) in that manner not until i decided to confide in people did i realise i was in a different kind of relationship (3-4yrs)! wow! Fastforward yrs later, i met this young man(a good christian oh) who believed a real man would never raise his hands on a woman, he earned my respect but a year into the relationship destroyed my face with just one punch! (will leave out the gory details)I ran all the way and refused to listen to anyone not even his parents who loved me so much and was looking forward to having me as their daughter in-law. I was gobsmacked to see the love turn to instant hatred when i decided not to get back with their son.. smh I guess that scarred me more than i ever imagined, I became scared of men and the next relationship would open his mouth and i'ld cry for days and wish he hit me instead, yes it was that bad and even though we loved each other, I didn't think true love would let you abuse someone you love verbally with so much disgust and exasperation! (I should write a book really..!)
ReplyDeletePardon my epistle Fam!
BLOG ANALYSER: #hugs. It is well dearie.
DeleteChei such an experience. May Ÿ̲̣̣̣̥ø̲̣̣̥u̶̲̥̅̊ find bliss soon. #hugs
DeleteSweet heart, hold your ears and open your eyes as u read this....you need to work on your self esteem... The truth is wen u come off as weak, men wud trample on you... Trust me darl. most men know a very weak predictable and feeble girl wen they see one, and most ladies that have once sufferred abuse were once weak and the men saw through them, its easy, they bark at you 2,3,4 times and ure numb like a lost puppy, You don't state your indifference firmly, you don't look him in the eye and say '' dude stop it, I didn't sign up for that, you are at his beck and call " u come across as needy, always looking for gratification, showing them how desperately u want to be loved. See darling no matter how beautiful you are, if u repeat this same circle, it'll play out almost the same way ... Work on yourself hun, love yourself...some even come as consolers to ''righten'' the wrongs of the previous guy u complained about...and before u know it, ure looking at the same vicious circle cos some insecured bastard that has perceived u as weak, has finally found' something' he can control in life. Why do u think these men don't hit strong women ...cos they know this chicks wud have non of that, they know their babes don't need to hear '' I love you'' 10 times in a day or call them 100 times to walk tall ,they know their onions and they don't call it garlic ..and if u mistake their onions for garlic they put u straight nicely and tell you which is what.. am not saying become rude and throw temper tantrums randomly...am just begging you to love yourself ,pamper yourself ...treat yourself to the best sort of luxury u can afford, so wen they come to break you... U give them the ''don't even dare look'' ...truth is wen these bastards see how strong you are, and if uve mastered the act, u can blend your ''strong'' with a lot of sweetness...take it from me, that guy that wanted to ''Armstrong'' u won't even know wen he starts to eat from your palms and metaphorically drink your bath water cos he'll marvel at your strength and now turn to you for that gratification that he was too manipulative to ask for, he'll want to please his new found queen that can ''tiger him'' and still ''baby him'' like no man's business...but babe to get to this level u need to come correct, u gotta have a great sense of self, ur self esteem should be unscathed and undaunted .. love thyself my dear.
DeleteShe is so spot on. Emotional abuse is the worst abuse of all.my ex husband did it all and I wished people could see the pain but it was eating me even more. The worst was that he lied to my family about me. I don't know who toke is but please take heed
DeleteI had one yeye bf that would punch walls and kick things and destroy them when he's angry. He now said his dad used to beat his mom before they divorced. Thank God i ran away before his punches found a way to my face.
ReplyDeleteNa wahoo this Toke Ugly ooooo shaa that's by d way,what if a Man isn't doing point 3,4 and 5.But the lady is the one that commits the crime of point 1 & 2 .Seriously am in that situation and fighting it seriously buts it's tearing my home apart.
ReplyDeleteToke,Toke,Toke how many times did I call you? Please face your work o!
ReplyDeleteShe is right
ReplyDelete@anon February 27, 2014 at 2:40 PM gbam.
ReplyDeleteNot a fan Toke.but u just spoke plenty sense. It is well.
ReplyDeleteI'm seeing all dis sing in my relationship
Deletetoke..u too lyk attention sha choi!!!face ur husband..haba!
ReplyDeleteAll you fools yaking that toke makes too much noise una no dey use una brains? This is what toke does? Aren't u tired of telling her to shut up? It's obvious she will not cos this is what she loves..... It's even more foolish to keep insulting her yet you click on her post, make comment then ask her to stop talking..... Una mumu no get part 2......am pls no retarded comments like this is toke...... Am just a visitor tired of hearing the same lame arse comments every time ......gosh
ReplyDeletePardon my saying this,but you are the fool,since you can't make your comment without cursing people out. Its their opinion and if you don't like it then feel free to sit on a spike and rotate on it!
DeleteKini ewure yin tun so bayi?
ReplyDeleteGod's creation mind u.
DeleteKai maje dey try even wigh make up girl yi ugly meeennnn.
ReplyDelete3 & 4,Is so true
ReplyDeleteI dont usually take relationship advice from anyone,im a grown ass woman. With my own experiences,i cld become 9jas female Steve Hardy but no ,cos no two relationships are totally alike.Like av always said " Man and woman relationship no get formula".If you have to be in a relationship then you shld be mature enough to know wht works for you not.Toke was in a relationship for ten years,i personally wldnt do tht but she went on with it and it worked out for her.So please she shld keep her advice to herself cause i have a friend who opened up to me and said tht the best sex she has ever heard was make up sex with her hubby after they must hv thrown punches at each other.They've been married for 14 years with kids.So again i wld say.#whateverrocksyourboat#Mrs D
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DeleteToke is not my favorite person but sadly everything she has just said is true. Down to the T.i have been married for 14yrs now I have experienced all she said.not the. Beating though but emotional abuse.because he is not educated,he is constantly jealous of me and everything I know.it is not always all bad but I advice you check the signs as Toke mentioned and run as long as your feet can carry you,otherwise you may just be sad for the rest of your life.
ReplyDeleteI still do not agree that Toke is not a relationship expert, howbeit, some of things she said are true.
ReplyDeleteI ran from a very nice man who was wooing me, the day I saw him hit his brother under provocation... I didn't need to be told
please, let's learn to be cautious when using blogs. everyone's opinion counts. abusive words should be abhorred!
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