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Monday, March 17, 2014

10 Mistakes Girls Make With Guys







Please appreciate the fact that men and women are wired differently. They have different ways of expressing and varying levels of emotional understanding. Avoid making silly mistakes by getting a few simple things right. These are some of the ten most common mistakes women make in a relationship.


1.    Too many questions about the past:
The fact that your man is in a relationship with you currently is proof enough that he is in love with you and has already gotten over his past relationships. While it’s good to know a little bit about his past, don’t take the liberty of digging so deep that his wounds freshen up.


2.    Visiting his workplace:
This is quite a sensitive issue as most men don’t like their girlfriends dropping in at their workplaces without being told. It is only if you are in a steady relationship from a long time or engaged that you can take the liberty of dropping into your man’s workplace uninformed.


3.    Bringing up marriage:
If you have been in a relationship for a long time, it’s but natural that you will talk about marriage and settling down at some point. You may have a conversation about this once but don’t bring up the topic again and again. You will be at a loss if your man gets irritated by the same conversation taking place repetitively. It’s not that men are averse to commitment; it’s just that they take some time in taking these important decisions.


4.    Pretending to be someone you are not:
If there is anything that men hate, it is lies and hypocrisy. Many women make the blunder of pretending to be what they are not in reality. For instance, if you don’t like putting on makeup and dressing too much for a party, don’t do it just for him. He will immediately sense your discomfort. He would much rather appreciate and love your honesty and expect you to be what you are.


5.    Compare financials:
How would you feel if someone compared your salary figures to that of your contemporaries? Terrible, surely! Although in today’s world, women see themselves as equals to men, men still think of themselves as bread earners of the family. Treat your man with respect irrespective of his earning. Don’t ever make the mistake of comparing his financials with others.


6.    Don’t attempt to mend him:
Accept him with all his flaws and abilities. Don’t try and mother him to change his habits according to your needs. Give your man his space and watch how that automatically brings him to you.


7.    Giving too much freedom:
If you see your man talking to other women at most of the parties and even going to the extent of flirting with them when you’re around, take that as a warning signal and strike on it as soon as possible but don’t be rude, do it politely and in style. You may be making a terrible mistake by trusting your partner blindly with such behavior.


8.    Expecting expression of feelings all the time:
Men are not used to constant expression. For instance, you should expect a compliment from him once in a while but if you start expecting it every day then you are calling for trouble. You have to understand that just because men don’t express the way in which women freely do; it doesn’t mean they don’t love with passion.


9.    Talking negatively:
If you bitch about others in front of your man all the time (once in a while is acceptable of course), it will make him feel that someday when you are not together you will talk about him in the same way with other people. Don’t make an impression on him that you are a negative person.


10. Comparing Looks:
Impress your man by showing some confidence about how beautiful and attractive you look. It’s not your outfit but your confidence that attracts your man. In trying to fish for compliments by comparing your physical appearance with other women, you are just making matters worse.

In-addition: Women often commit blunders with men in relationships. It’s a matter of understanding that men have a certain way of dealing with things that is different from women. Once you get this point, you will be much more comfortable and at ease in dealing with the men in your life. (WATCH OUT FOR 10 MISTAKE MEN MAKE IN A RELATIONSHIP)
By Greg Ighodaro

*You agree?

68 comments:

  1. I agree with all except 1-3, the others are applicable to me as a guy


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    1. Wat shall it profit a girl to date a man for 12 yrs and not ask whr d rship is headed, is she a learner!!

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    2. help me ask greg ooo..........

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    3. help me ask greg ooo..........

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    4. Why would a woman date a man for more dan 3yrs witout knowin watsup wit eachoda??? 50yrs of dating is nt even enuf to knw eachoda,married couples still find out new habits in der spouses. After 2yrs,if ders no sign of marriage,walk away. #no time.

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    5. My dear, one year sef and at least u should have an idea of what's happening. Oge nwannyi n'aga aga. One year and the relationship should have a definition. By at least 2years, you should be set to marry or walk away

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    6. One year is okay abeg...

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    7. Three years aleast, then another 3 years to take kiss and smell each other breath, 3 years again to take think wondering if na the right decision, 10th year go be the final decision for me.

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  2. The mistake girls make with me is not enlisted above...............

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    1. Yawns#no1 cn tell u hw to kp ur man,nt even d wisest of all rlship expert.rlship s lyk a ship,veer t wateva direction u wnt. EVE E UME

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    2. yomslaw aka teeth shiner; plz tell us the mistake girls make wit you*** to me i feel a Relationship that is meant to work will work; ders rily no set down rulez; wat worked for A might not work for B***

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    3. Y'al bitches shld leave yomslaw alone n face u work!

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  3. I totally agree with all 10 points.

    Well put together.

    This is a good one! I hope we all learn from this...

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    1. I thought you were married. Which lesson are you learning from this? Abi your husband and kids are imaginary

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    2. What's here to learn from? That men hate lies and hypocrisy? Men are liars per excellence so no bullshit to learn learn here

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    3. Nne as if you know them very well.der lies fit win world cup

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  4. Yea yea..so I gathered..

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  5. I don't agree biko...btw am sick n tired of all these "Top ten mistakes women make","Top 50 ways of this or that. Haba! These things don't work for every1,every relationship is unique. What works for A may not work for B. So these "ndiokachamara" should quit using whatz happening in their relationships or d few they've seen to generalise and mislead some others.

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    1. I support you fully @Ruby

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    2. Gbam..ur head dey there..

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    3. Gbam! Well said@Ruby What is applicable to A may not be applicable to B, lets be honest.

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    4. 1000,000 million likes!

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    5. Very correct,these things are not universally applicable!
      Stop deceieving people.
      The best rule,Be yourself and the right person will find u!

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    6. Princess Charming17 March 2014 at 18:30

      Gbammest! @ruby. Infact chop knuckles...

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    7. I love ruby

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    8. I recently saw pictures of my bf kissing anoda girl,he took d same gel to lil brodas bday party and lied to mme dat he went for his frnds trad,he took her to his family house in d villa etc(i ve met some of his family and i visit his villa often). and wen i saw dis story i opened it to check if ther was something i did wrong or smthin i didnt do.i jus tire,am so hurt and pained ryt nw.
      Am not perfect buh i loved dis guy sincerely,i wake up in d middle of d nyt to pray for him,supported him d best way i culd and kept myself for only him tru out d relationship wch is a very hard thing to find these days.
      I understand d fact dat hes a young guy and needs to flex and all buh i dont even knw rytnw if i am d main girl or d oda girl.
      Therez really no hard and fast rule,if it'll wrk it will else na just waste of effort.
      Am really hurting,i feel to stupid and lyk d biggest fool ever.ive waited my emotions,effort,strength time u name it all cos i thought he was worth it.#sighs#

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    9. Anonymous 4:10 don't know how old your boo is but it's obvious he is not ready to settle down..... Call him sit him down and tell him u have something important to discuss.... Then ask him what his plans are for your relationship, that's assuming u are both ready for marriage oh...... From his answer u will know if he is lying, ready or serious..... Trust me when a guy is ready to settle and commit to a relationship he will set the pace for how events go.....give him space and dnt stress over him, date other people sef let him know u have other admires..... This also shld give u a sign he is not one to commit in marriage so shine ya eyes biko

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  6. Hmmmm,really?I dnt agree wif no 1,I think Y̶̲̥̅̊☺ΰ need †̥o K№ω about ur bf past r/ship. Few days ago while chatting wif ma bf,I asked him to tell mε̲̣̣̣̥ about his ex,buh he refused,saying there's really nothing about her,dats nt †ђξ first time am asking him,tho she's in uk,cos dats where they met,and they dated Fø̲̣̣я̅ 4yrs,they had plans to move to another country cos he wanted to go Fø̲̣̣я̅ his masters there buh it didn't work out cos he was denied †ђξ visa so,they broke up and he cam back to naija.we've been together Fø̲̣̣я̅ 2months now,and I think he should ß free wif mε̲̣̣̣̥.I haven't replied his chats Fø̲̣̣я̅ 2days now last nite he said am taking him Fø̲̣̣я̅ granted.pls matured mind in †ђξ house,I need ur advice cos am jst 19 and he's 26,and dis ¶§ ma first real r/ship,I need ur contributions Øŋ dis,*btw*,am a student in one of †ђξ prestigious uni wif a good grade cos I K№ω some of Y̶̲̥̅̊☺ΰ will tell mε̲̣̣̣̥ †̥o face ♏v̶̲̥̅ studies lol.pls I really need ur advice

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    1. Seriously,u shldnt put pressure on him nw abt his past..I undastnd its ur first relatnshp and u wanna knw evrytin but it doesn't work dat way..2 months is still early..u shld knw he's also studying ur type of person..ur main priority in ur relationshp is to build it..focus on building it..dnt break ur head cos of his ex..my bf was finally comfortable to tell me abt his ex and their breakup after one year of us being 2geda..ds s a girl he dated for almst 6yrs..so chill..dnt be in a hurry and dnt let him see u as being childish..get to knw urslvs..forget his ex for nw..enjoy wht u av..and when its time,u wldnt evn need to ask him before he tells u..my dear,life is too short to give urslf unnecessary stress.

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    2. You shouldn't go two days without speaking to him because he didn't answer ur question. That's not gonna make him communicate the way you want him too, or the way he should. Try speaking with him about it and let him know clearly and respectfully where u coming from. 4 years is a long time and there might be some things he'd be sensitive in speaking about or that might hurt or bring up memories he'd rather not revisit. However if he really likes u, and respects u and ur relationship, he'd open up if u make him see reason properly. Xx

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    3. Your relationship is still young so just take a chill pill, he will open up as he gains more trust.... N pls my darl don't start having sex and forgetting yourself.... Always watch out for your self when it comes to protection, am tired of reading stories Wey belle happen.... U kids of these days una body dey hot... Lol.... If I say no do u no go hear word so pls shine ur eyes my darling.... Sorry for the unsolicited advice guess it comes from being an old school Aunty and a mum......relax just get to know urselves more and go give the young man a call. Lol

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    4. Yeah,u are so smart,I wanted to say,n"go and read ur books"
      That said,I think u should give him time and I'm sure if he really cares about u,he will tell u all in good time.
      Truth is,men don't know how to keep secrets from the one they love,except ure not the one!

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    5. Yeah,u are so smart,I wanted to say,n"go and read ur books"
      That said,I think u should give him time and I'm sure if he really cares about u,he will tell u all in good time.
      Truth is,men don't know how to keep secrets from the one they love,except ure not the one!

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    6. 19yrs, you don't know what love is, you don't even know what life issss! I hope you are not my daughter, I mess you up!

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    7. Anon 4:5 what do u mean, I start dating my husband wen I was 12 n he wAs 16 n we got married 13yrs later, we did not v sex till I was 24. 12y is too young but 19 is not too young to b in a relationship biko. Call me spoil spoil I dnt kia

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  7. I don't agree with the list.number 1 in particular,You have to ask a lot of questions inorder to know whom You are into.pls i do dat all the time and it has actually saved me from telling stories that scaters the vagina.ladies pls ask questions the past somehow determines the future.

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    1. Hate the list too but when it comes to asking questions yes it's good but maturity and years in marriage has taught me that when, how and where u ask matters..... Men are mostly self centered, egotistic and think the world revolves around them..... Cunny man die cunny man bury am......1 manipulate my hubby with anything Wey I get to do Wetin I like, meanwhile he will be there feeling like a small g...he can be seen being the boss but I know when to press em blokos....lol...I no send any man oh

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  8. So ladies,in all stop being too patronising!a man dat wants u for keeps will,else forget it!I am so heartbroken and sad dat women have lost their dignity and self respect to 'looking for husband ' syndrome.#too bad#

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  9. Godammmitt, if I see one more article on how not to make mistakes or keep your man walahi I'll go crazy. It's enough that girls these days go to extreme lengths all in the name of looking good to attract a man..then someone sits dow and decides to write ways on how to keep them. Please when in a relationship communicate! With each other that's all that matters instead of reading all the what not to do and all. Better still read books on how to be a millionaire hian..

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  10. There are no hard and fast rules in relationships.

    Oluyomi Odukoya

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  11. Again? another article on how to get/keep a man? Enough already! When are we going to have posts, write-ups on how to get/keep and make a woman happy? That would be nice for a change. Nigerian men are over-indulged by their women, same mistake our mothers made by raising and teaching the girls how to be good wives/companions, while leaving the boys to grow up feeling like kings.Time to correct this, so that the next generation will thank us for strong , responsible, manly-men.

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    1. I agree with u,most men think their job is to eat,sleep,have sex and work!very annoying,all the major emotional jobs are now dumped on us females "the weaker sex" oh,very very annoying.

      I have promised myself and unborn children that by God's Grace I will choose a good man and father for them!

      Enough of this nonesense, if a man can't conform,he should shift abeg!at the end of d day,my happiness, his and that of the kids is prioriity!
      i

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  12. Every relationship is diff. So I gex studing ur partner is most important.

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  13. Typical egotistical male chauvinistic write up..... Rubbish how dare you say men hate lies and hypocrisy when they are the chief an father of lies? Tired of all the bull rap about how to please men, we should start reading articles about how to please women and mistakes men make with women.....men think they are be all it all..... Bullshit

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  14. Anonymous 2:11 I support your yarns o. These dudes have been over indulged and they feel like kings. Communication remains the master key in any relationship.

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  15. Women should take 4 and 8 very very serious.

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  16. Everybody don turn relationship adviser, odi egwu!!!

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  17. 10 ways to curb your anger! 10 ways to raise a family as the Head! 10 ways to appreciate the women in your life! 10 ways to becoming a better husband! 10 ways to becoming a better father! Creating an empire with your wife! 10 ways to build yourself as a woman!

    Where are these articles? Marriages do not fail because the woman alone is not trying. As a whole, we need to stop thinking it is the woman that can keep the marriage and family going. If a man is in the picture he needs to pull his weight. Enough of pandering to men all the time, obviously we are raising too many boys with entitlement issues. It shows every single day. Aunty S, thanks for posting this article but I am sure you are fed up of them as well.

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  18. Seriously,there re no set rules to a successful marriage.be yourself,be true to yourself,apply d basic fundamentals of everyday living and u re good to go.Tho,there re just some basic things u can't avoid.

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