She works in a Bank and he is so rich that the money he deposits everyday helps her meet her monthly target...she has no stress on the job because of him but he wants her for keeps.
He is rich,young and has the world at his feet....She is so beautiful,young and is scared she is falling in love with her customer...
She wants to quit her job,change her sim card and change her location.....
Hello Stella,
I am a banker by profession and in my late 20s. I met a guy who I happen to be his account officer and he is one of my biggest client, he deposits big sum of money into his account on daily basis which makes me meet up my target every month.
I am a banker by profession and in my late 20s. I met a guy who I happen to be his account officer and he is one of my biggest client, he deposits big sum of money into his account on daily basis which makes me meet up my target every month.
The guy is in his early 30s and he is married with kids. Right from the day this guy set his eyes on me, he has refused to let me be, he keeps begging me to have a relationship with him, all the words from me to him that I don't date married men has fell on deaf ear.
This guy keeps pestering my life every single day. He comes to the bank everyday to profess the love he has for me, he says he doesn't need me for sex that I should not think of that because he will never ask me for it but the only thing he wants from me is for me to be his girl that he can see anytime any day, because seeing me gives him joy. He also wants me to go to events with him anytime he has any to attend.
He hates talking about his wife, anytime I raise any question about her, he will just avoid it, I don't know if he is having any issues with his wife, and the wife happens to come from a very renown family in Nigeria that if I mention the family, decoders will quickly decode who am talking about.
The problem I have is that am beginning to like him which I feel is not right because of his marital status(I have never dated a married man before in my life), and I don't want to break his home.
If I don't take his call any time and tell him to stay off me, his next step is to show up in my office and start begging me that I shouldn't run away from him because if I do it will kill him.
Am planning to resign from my job, relocate to Abuja and change my SIM, so that I won't fall for him, please advise me if that is the best thing to do at this moment because the guy has vowed never to let me be, and his constant bugging is affecting my job. I just need advice on what to do just to get him off my back.
Hide my identity please.
*this banking job is like dangling a carrot before someone who doesnt have any teeth in their mouth cavity.
Poster if you run to Abuja and get another job and you meet the same situation,where will you run to next?
Abeg is there anyone who has been in a similar situation?please advise her.
Hian!!!
ReplyDeleteDear poster, hope you know that any married man toasting u would not speak warmly about his wife, if at all. So don't be fooled. At 28 u should be looking for ur own relationship and looking to settle down. Don't leave ur job because of his advances, be firm with him and he'll eventually leave u be, even if he has to take his so called account with him.
DeleteClick my name for your celebration cakes n cupcakes, Cheers
Madam cakes u r 1 of d pressure 'putters' must everything be about settling down? N who ever set d settling down age @ twenty sumtin? U shld hv made ur submission witout being a marriage monger pls. I assure u she knows she only asked if she is making d right decision 2 relocate. Who knows 4 sure she is not in a relationship?
DeleteMadam kiks, try comprehending when u read. All I'm saying is dat if at all she's going to date, she should date someone with marital prospects, as oopposed to a married man. Hope this helps. Peace
DeleteDear poster, I don't know what all these people are saying. You are busy making money for bank. How much are u making for yourself.
DeleteListen to me, if u are sure u haven't slept with him already, then assure him you will sleep with him. Collect money buy yourself a car, buy a land, set up a business- whatever, just do something that will make u happy. Then sleep with him once. Don't go falling in love-o! After sleeping with him, start demanding for things unreasonably. No one will tell him to leave you alone. You hear?
Storrry! This one go still fuck the man.
DeleteShe added that she's already liking him
If she had been firm, as in very firm,
He would have let go
Patapata,he will carry his account away
But she was using cunny to say GO
And using cunny to say STAY
She go still fuck the man
No sex ko. No sex ni.
Some posyers can like to write story like baby.
Or dem think say readers na baby
Dem go dey add extra dodo to the story make e for sweet.
Abegiiiii
God bless u jite.bet shes shagging the nigga ald.bloody liar.
DeleteTell ur rich depositor to divorce his wife if he loves u so much!
DeleteI agree!she has no intention of leaving d man if not she won't write dis cock & bull story asking 4 advice! Stupid hypocrite!
DeleteSweetheart you don't need help,you need wisdom.You said he hates talking about his wife and I hope you know its because he respects and loves her too much to discuss her with a mistress to be,planning on resigning because a married man is pestering you for sex is about the dumbest stuff I've heard in a long while..its not by force as you obviously have a choice in the matter,stand firm and say NO...if hin like make hin carry hin account find another prey.sometimes I don't believe these stories people send to bloggers,I mean how does this make sense? You have such high morals and you don't know the right thing to do in this case??? Make una free me abeg!
ReplyDeleteYou are so correct. My point exactly as I was reading the piece.
DeleteBabe all you need is wisdom and that man loves his wife, I honestly don't get the ideal of sending stories to bloggers. It's crazy man!
The truth is that when he finally has you, like rents a place for you and "acquires" you he will not be this intrested
DeleteAsk yourself this question, where would we be in the next 5years?
And why will you quit, did he get you your job? Abbeg o he can carry his money and go
Gbam
DeleteThose of you who don't get the idea of sending stories to bloggers as just plain arrogant and pompous. Haven't u learned 1 or 2 things from the stories??? Haven't u seen similar incident around u?? A lot of helps have come from pple sharing their stories on blogs...both the senders and readers have benefited from it. So you all should shout up, and advice properly cos some1 who is going through the same shit but too lily liver to send her stories will gain from it. Well done Stella
DeleteGbammest! Her story is annoying
Delete1000likes!
DeleteYou guys need to calm down, did U read the part where she said she has started liking him? Pocket the "stand firm and say NO" part of the advice for now. The question is how long do y'all think she can stand firm till she totally falls in Love with the man in question?
DeleteMadam poster, my advice to you is to reduce all form of personal liaison with this man.
Don't even bother to ask "how av U been sir?" if you know his response will delve further into his personal life and love for you.
The mistake most ladies make is turning on the green light even while saying no.
I'm sure wisdom should be profitable to direct you in this matter madam.
God dey!!!
@anon 1.22,sorry to disappoint you,but if I were in her shoes I will not send in my story for advice from readers you know why? Because the SOLUTION to the problem is soooooooo crystal clear that even Stevie Wonder can see it,she wants us to tell her to sleep with the man or start tyoing an epistle on why she should not?I stand by my previous statement her story is very,very annoying...btw it "shut" and not "shout",thank me now!
Delete@Queen. Thanks for the 'Shut'. My vexation was with ur generalisation of pple sending stories to blog not hers. Cos u didnt refer to her. However, some pple have weak minds (e.g GEJ) and must need plenty advice to make their decisions. So it good that pple send stories to blogs, cos I av learned so much from it. Thanks once again.
DeleteOkay,its good to know people actually learn from this stories.
DeleteVery annoying story! U hv no morals in d first place cos if u did, u won't even b seeking our advice!
DeleteBiko, how can u be his girl without sex? Poster, I like that u refused him because of his status, unlike some girls who would jump in at the sight of his riches! Listen my dear, giving up ur job because of him nkahu bu assi! Is a big no no, stop picking his calls, make him understand his married and don't give in.let him kill himself lets see, yeye man! He wants to destroy u, thats all he wants,he still loves his wife! Don't be fooled.
ReplyDeleteI'd suggest she (quits) blow her job and embrace the guyz blowjob!
ReplyDeleteVery stupid comment...
DeleteYomslaw its high time u left a little gap between those teeth nd let air flow in nd find its way to ur head so u could spit sense...
DeleteOde, eleyin shamuga, little wonder people r always cussn u out
DeleteOmg... did I just fall off the chair, laughing at your comment?? LMAO!!!!!
DeleteIf I catch you ehn@Rosie.....................I miss you anyways *winks**
DeleteSigh# Dude were U trying to be funny? Wooow, in your mind now, you just dropped a punchline oh. Smh.
DeleteOya clap for yourself.
Meanwhile have you done your homework????
Dumb jokw!
DeleteIt is laudable that you want to avoid adultry but this man is bent on ruining his marriage so it might as well be with you but know that it wnt end well
ReplyDeleteWTH!!!! No it should not be with her. If he wan go hell fire, make he go by himself. Idiot!
DeleteMen and their lack of contentment... smh
ReplyDeletePoster, you don't need to quit job or relocate, it may not be easy but just stick to your morals and let your NO be NO and if the no keeps falling on his deaf ears tell ur bf/fiance(though u didn't state whether u have one) to swing into action by giving him a stern warning abi?
Don't even dare to give the guy a chance cos "Hell also hath no fury like a woman whose husband is cheating"
Don't allow the wife to finish ur promising life with curses and violent prayers.
My dear, running away from a problem is never the best thing to do...... Go down to the valley of prayers that's all... Even when he wanna stop depositing as a threat to get u, get stronger for he was never the reason u accepted the Job. When one door closes, another opens. No Job oooo in nigeria so u better fight ur emotions and hold on to ur dignitary while you face ur work for better days ahead..
ReplyDelete@i_ChoPtas_Not
The word is 'dignity' ma'am.
Delete... you're welcome
Pls girl, don't give in to him, I really beg of you because you will be the one to get hurt at the end. Moreso, he has nothing to loose, he's only and desperately after you out of his own selfish motives, trust me on that hence, his sweet talk, also lying to you concerning the sex part, to be honest that's only thing in his head about you right now, a typical man and been wired. There's no way you can hang out without touching each other. I pray your decision come to past because you have your beautiful life and career right in front of you, don't let any foolish man steal that away please. Prayer is the key dear!
ReplyDeleteWhat is this lady talking about? This is horse shit news.
ReplyDeleteGive me the guy's number, I will resolve the whole issue. Trust me!
ReplyDeleteLwkm
DeleteRuns babe/guy. U don see customer.
DeleteAshawo.. Runz girl.. give u his number indeed! So u will tell him you are available and start collecting his money.. Idiat.. Oshiko.. Change ur ways!!!
Delete080gofaceurwork. Or 070asewonobework
DeleteBetter run in2 a nearby hospital and check ur HIV status. U sound sick 2 me!
DeleteDon't run away. Stay Ω̴̩̩̩̥ fight it. Customers will definitely b on U̶̲̥̅̊Ʀ neck dats d odds of d job. Iv bin in dis same situatn so many times wen I was still wit d bank I was workin den. Just kip pushin him away.
ReplyDeleteIf the guy trully likes u,
ReplyDeleteAnd u seem to paint him as a very reasonable person.
Meet wit him n tlk to him,
Tell him the pressure is too much
And dat u appreciate d fact dat u are is account officer.
Dat u need him still,
But dat u are considering quitting ur job bcos of his persistent requests.
Den lets hear way e az to say?
I hope for ur own sake u avnt alredy statd collectin som 'Expensive Gifts' from d man.#SideEyes
Gift is good oo,
But unreasonable ones... Ehn
Cos if u av, ur mouth no go gree tk dis my advice oo
The most annoying thn is dt u need his account to meet ur target, but rather than running away, why dnt u tell ur bank manager wat u re passing thru. Then plead wt him/her to remove u and put anothr person as his account officer. That way, he won't hav any reason to look for u wen he comes to d bank. Then, change ur phon number. But u re an emotional mess already cos u like him. Get a grip on urself pls. Give him a stern no nd stand by it. He's married nd dnt fall for dt 'no sex' crap. He wl only use u nd dump u wen he's tired. Be strong ok. Tell him dt at ur age, wat u re lookin for is a husband not an affair
ReplyDelete1000 likes. This is the first reasonable comment. God bless you dear
DeleteShe should tell d bank manager?...Don't u know many managers encourage d account officers to sleep with customers n 'do d needful' (anytin it takes)to retain dem?issoay o
Delete@bitchplis,I'm sure you read my mind before making this comment!maybe she should even take the advice and report to the manager so he/she can fire her if she refuses to sleep with the customer,that way the whole problem will be resolved quickly.
DeleteSeriously? Tell bank manager!! Sounds strange. Bank mamager himself has got his targets to meet up for his branch. He'll ofcourse ask her to be diplomatic about the issue hence indirectly telling her to give in to the offer!. @ bitchpls, u r spot on
DeleteMy dear it is either u r ignorant or jst plain stupid! Dat guy is happily married & will probably not leave his wife 4 u! Most married men play around bt always go bk 2 dia wives! Don't b a dumb ass or u will lose totally! A word is enuf 4 d wise!
Delete1. Not all bank managers re corrupt. Som stil fear God
Delete2. It depends on d rship btw her nd d bank manager
3. The bank manager can re-assign d account to a female banker who's known to alwz b willing to play ball
4. She could av stil lost d customer for so many othr reasons. The bank manager will consider that
5. The idea is nt bad in anyway
Stay, get a boyfriend, ask your boyfriend to ask him nicely to BACK OFF!!! Pay a surprise visit to his wife in his presence. Threaten to expose him, or even expose him sef!
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, There is no need absolutely to date a married man. Eveentually it will become sexual. Anyway he is married and that is a no go area. No matter what anyone tells you don't do a married man. You will definitely gain material things, but so what. What shall it profit a man to gain the whole world and loose his soul. Also remember in life there are no guarantees. IT is appointed unto man once to die and after that judgement.
ReplyDeletePray him out of your life. Tell God to get him off your back. And also remember, he wants to steal from your future this is because, being his girl closes the chance for you to have a meaningful relationship that will end in marriage. Think about it. You too much to be anyone's mistress. You are good enough for a wife so keep yourself and be ready for a steady relationship that will bring you joy and a lasting relationship that leads to marriage.
Stella I think this is the right time to get something off my chest. No I won't mention names here, God forgive me I want to clear my conscience once and for all. It happened while I was in the bank training school, Lagos. I have been sleeping with the head of training, fine dude who has his eyes everywhere and i was so protective of any interest on him, that I will do anything to put the person down. Now this man ensure I pass all my papers, how he does it I don't know. I was also close to the class head, who I suspected was screwing the head of training. After training i made sure he posted me to a good location and we still do our hook ups. Few weeks ago he asked me join him in Owerri, early hours I overheard him gisting with a friend or colleague of his reminiscing his adventures on girls especially training school. I got a shocker when he said and I quote "oh boy that thing wey we do that girl no good sha. She no wan spread legs and you know say i hate make girl wey I carry for mind no let me enter. Guy conscience dey prick me small as I hear all the things she has been through and the loss of her mother" I think the caller asked who he was referring to. Stella my heart sank when I heard the name. This was the same girl that was sent out of training sch. on the ground that she was caught cheating! I beefed that girl too, pretty, tall girl. To be sure if it was the same girl, I pinged a colleague that if she was aware this lady lost her mother, she said she heard it on the group chat. I have been avoiding Mr. Head of Training, he keeps sending me messages of how he can't do without me. I have done some bad stuffs in the past, I have never felt low like I had a hand in that girl's predicament. Right now I feel like resigning, because I want to start afresh, I forgot to mention he is 'happily married', search for her contact and let her know the truth. Please help
ReplyDeleteThe professionals i fear the most are
Delete1. Bankers : coded ashawo
2. Doctors; arrogant n promiscous tins, acting lik God's gift to wmen.tufiakwa!
Dear God, wateva plans u av for me, abeg let it not be a doctor biko.
Diamond Bank. We came in wen u guys ere roundn up. I heard abt d girl. That Edo man chop u, chop my friend too lollllllzzzzzzzz.
DeleteMy dear pinkshell, I'm a female doctor and i say this same prayer evryday.. mehnnn, our male colleagues are not just it
DeleteGbam Pink shell get am die. But mind you I'm an ex banker n I no do runz.
DeleteBut as for Doctors their promiouscuity no get competition ooh. And they never use protection! The worse are nurses. Ask your mail friends to gist you about nurses, you will cringe.
If this is truly Diamond Bank, trust me Dr Alex will fish out this head of training. Rubbisg
DeleteKai so Lovell story don reach here. Nawa oo.
DeleteD poster speaks like a child. If a man wants u 4 keeps n say he isn't afta sex wat is he afta? Quittinq n relocatinq isn't d solution. Insist on knowinq y he doesn't wanna talk abt his wife. So dat u won't fall in2 a ditch. Wat u shud do is 2 find a way of workinq a trransfer out of dat branch 2 anoda.
ReplyDeleteDear poster,
ReplyDeleteyou're questioning your decision of dating him hence u still have a conscience, we thank God.
I'm not even going to rain curses or judge you I just want to to reason with me here.
Point 1..he hates to talk about his wife, what makes you think that won't be ur predicament someday if u decide to bulge?
Point 2... who told you he would die if u say no are you a learner? Pls be wise
Lastly and more importantly. .... no amount of money a man earns or is worth should ever make u question whether to continue working or not no matter how paltry u think ur salary is. U see being employed is not solely about the salary, your growing intelletually, you have your self esteem intact , you have a purpose and let me tell you to leave your job for a man is the worst decision ever. Your money is your money , fine he would take care of you but don't loose yourself in the process . Your self worth et al are at stake here and let's not even talk about how this would affect your standing towards God.
Do you tink its because he hates his wife or they are having issue dat he doesn't like talking about his wife? Na learner u be o. I dated one years ago. Everytime he complains about his wife, she is dis, I want a divorce, I want to marry you bla bla bla but yey, anytime his wife calls wen we are together, he will reply softly and talk normal. And I asked him. D way u talk to her doesn't suggest what you imply of ur relationship with her. So miss bank girl, d man just wants to get between ur lergs, keep u as a side kick and continue his promises untill you get old. As for marryimg you or leaving his wife for you, dat one is one dream dat will never come true. Remember, he won't even let u date some one else. How is dat?
DeleteRunning will only provide a temporary solution as you can still encounter similar situation in Abuja. Besides dont let this man control your life. Take charge of the situation and work harder to get more clients who will help with meeting your monthly target.
ReplyDeleteThat man will get bored of playing this nasty game with you. He will gt tired of you if you stand your ground and quickly move on to the next girl.
Sdk this seems like a norm these days oh_married men running to singles for moral support and they claim they don't want sex from u. I can talk of about 3 of such people I've come across n I sternly had to direct them to their homes to work on getting what they seek outside within their homes cos I can't imagine my hubby running to some woman when we having issues for support_haba I go keh person oh! Is it that our married women ain't doing what they are meant to do or the men are just being silly?
ReplyDeleteBack to d matter,
Poster,don't quit ur job. Don't even change ur SIM talk more of location. U may end up somewhere worse. I don't understand why u allowed u to start developing feelings for him cos ur running away cos of d feelings,buh there's hope. U can suppress those feelings,just keep telling urself reasons why u shouldn't allow these feelings grow,cos itz morally wrong. Trust me,once u suppress the feeling,u'll find it easier if he decides to stop using u as his acc officer which is most likely gonna happen.
Trust me, they r not having issues, they just lie to gain sympathy from d lady and get between her legs. Take it from someone that knows
DeleteRuby dear, these men are like that. How will you appeal to a woman again, if he tells you his wife is wonderful and God's gift, you will not want to be with him esp if you have a good heart. But when he brings some yeye story about how she is not supportive or she is evil and they forced him to marry her, he would have pressed the girls mumu button. These men!!! Fear them. Their wives have supported them through thick and thin but they are just never satisfied. This is why I say never kill yourself for a man o because he will turn around and wash you in front of another woman and make you look like you are the worst thing.
Deletereally? I beg gimme his number...
ReplyDeleteAshawo kobo
DeleteIf he can't live without you, he should divorce his wife. Yimu
ReplyDeleteMarried men who want to eat their cake and have it. Ignore him abeg
Oluyomi Odukoya
Gbam dude is a certified baaaad guy
DeleteTell his wife
ReplyDeleteHmmmm.....u'r having feelings 4 him,r u sure it's him u'r falling for or his money? how r u even telling him off? If u rly want to tell him off u'll be firmer,if na poor man will u come here n ask for our advice? Be wise My dear fear God o n don't touch a married man or anoda banker will touch urs. Face ur work
ReplyDelete#before God
ReplyDeleteThe banking industry in Nigeria is messed up. They use women to get accounts. If you refuse his advances he will pull his account out and maybe report you to your superiors that you are not doing your job well. Thats worse. My advice is to resign, change jobs, relocate if you have to. I resigned also and im not dead. Im married with kids and I used to be toasted like that so I resigned.
ReplyDeleteOne word, he is still begging and crying and telling you sweet tinz bc he has not gone in between your legs. You want to know if he means all he says? Spread your legs and see his face change d very next time you call. Mtcheeeew. If I were you, I will ask him to divorce his wife first and then I will know he really wants me and I can bet you he won't.
ReplyDeleteThank u so much,anon 8.59 you just said what i have in mind,once he goes in its over,men like that are the ones that once they get in they change,dear banker say no to the idiot,i know men
DeleteAnon 8:59, one word ke?
DeleteMy dear you have to face the problem and resolve it once than running away from it,there are different ways of resolving this kind of cases . But just be careful at the moment.
ReplyDeletePlease try and be patient, avoid distractions but most of it comes like temptation,when issues like this comes up,its either your prince charming is on his way or you were sent to become a better wife that is the second wife;some men are very happy and content with their second wife,some leave.the second and actually go the third lol,but since you have your principles not to date anybody's husband just be a little strict, erase your mind from him and be ready for your husband to come but if you feel you can't resist him and you love him so much,then go ahead and be ready to face both the good and the bad.
ReplyDeleteif i were you, i will be patient and resist this man,he has kids and wife,he should go back home and do the needful.Don't take another woman's property,please wait for yours, don't be surprise with what God has install for you.
Queen Gelis, ur head dey dia.
ReplyDeleteReading this just got my mind pinned on Adaora's role in lekki wives. Lol
ReplyDeleteNow seriously, poster, you need wisdom. Very dicey situation.
First, his account makes your banking job very easy....targetwise (marketing)
If you quit, how do you feed yourself or stay independent?
Wealthy men hates it when a girl says no to them. Infact your No! Is an acceleration for their chase. Its s bruise on their ego that a "small girl" can refuse them when most likely a lot have been throwing themselves loosely at them. That in itself increases their chase adrenaline towards u.
So, dear poster, this dude ain't giving up on you till he's got you.
My advice, you have to DISCIPLINE yourself and shoot your emotions dead. Kill your emotions now! Maintain the account to keep your job going cos that puts food on your table BUT, while at it, strictly business. No dinners/lunch dates, no personal dealings, no private meetings
Embark on a serious self discipline mission.
If you can do this, you will get one of two results at the end.
Either he gets so pissed and leave you in peace taking his account with him
Or
He respects you for life whileyou still remain his account officer
Keep him at arms lenght.
360° solution! *round of applause *
DeleteStanding Ovation!! Bloglord. Great advise
DeleteGirl it looks like you've been collecting Christmas presents and dash money from him that's why you can't be firm with him. Plus the money he brings into your account. Don't fall for it though, dude is manipulating you. A man who truly loves you will not want you to soil your name by being tagged a husband snatcher. Start saving money to start your business. I don't believe account marketing is something to be done for longer than necessary.
ReplyDeleteFuck him and go jooo.
ReplyDeleteMake it worthwhile
Collect all you can.
Build yourself sweetie.
Don't mind all these hypocrites up there saying jack.
If na them they go spread legs pass the blades of ceiling fan.
Abeeggggii.
Hahahaha! My thots exactly o! Hypocrites indeed! Reading all dis comments n wondering wen naijas got so holy wen na ashawos full naija! Poster 90percent of dis hypocrites here wud hv been fucking dis guy since u dey here dey find advise! Pls send his number!
DeleteThat's y I refused to comment ooooo
DeleteShior
If all of una dey holy,who come dey fuck married men
Oshisko
Buhahahahahaaaa dnt mind all of them up there..compound hypocrites. See their mouth like dnt fall for him, change ur num bla bla bla long hissssssss. Abeg send his number if ure not interested in him jooor.. If u are so shy in sending it, go. Anonymous and send it on another post. Cheers.
DeleteHhhhhaaahha. I prefer fuckin married men o. Its safer, more profitable nd beta. Giv me d number plsss
DeleteNa wa o. Asewos no get shame again sotey they can open their mouth when normal people are talking. Poster don't mind these demons o. Remember that misery likes company. They are in misery and are looking for souls to join their dirty ways. Abeg no mind these postinor eating twats and run from the guy. Asewos go home!!!!!!!
DeleteAnonymous 10:10, u say people are hypocrites then u wey bold why didn't u use ur name instead of anonymous. Public latrine like u. I sorry for ur future husband cuz @ d end na man go put ur type for house.
ReplyDeletePoster the only thg giving u headache here is d fact that u don't want to lose cuz he helps u meet your target not like u don't know what to do. U better stand firm n tell him off cuz as it is u already have interest n that's why you are playing along. Get ready cuz he may stop dropping dat cash cuz u ain't playing your part. Pele
... And your name is Trina right. And that's your picture here right. Useless Hypocrite like you.
DeleteTrina no mind all these pit latrines talking here jor. Na the men wey go marry dem and their pikins we must to pity. See animals in Human clothing giving advice
DeleteIf he s fine and rich abeg date him but don't put ur heart in it u should know its just for fun have ur fun abeg don't sleep with him so soon make sure u collect something worthwhile and I mean worthwhile from him before the ex thing so whatever comes out of it at least u know u gained something but establish the fact that he s ready to spend good money on you before going in o cos some of this men u go dey see d money u no go touch am for hand.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, if you are very sure you have not started any relationship with the stupid man, then there is no need for you to resign, just let your NO be NO or is it a most that you must be his account officer? most married men like that are very deceptive, don't fall prey to his trap, you might regret it later in life. Just wait and see whether he will kill himself or not, tell him to GO and DIE.
ReplyDeleteHiaaaaaaannnnnn......Poster,,dont be deceived if he says he doesnt want you for sex,,what else could he probably want from you?? pls dont even think of leaving your job cos of him or do u already have a job waiting for you elsewhere cos times are hard,,if you dont have any job waiting for you and u leave dis one,,you are on your own ooo.....more so,,leaving for Abuja isnt a good option to me abi dem tell u say abuja guys no dey look woman face ni???......just maintain ur stand and let ur NO be NO and things will likely be as bloglord said earlier.....
ReplyDeleteWisdom wise
ReplyDeletePoster, keep your job, say NO to him because he is married! Don't date a married man because you will regret it. SAY NO AND MEAN NO!
ReplyDeleteOk I think I have come across girls in the past who have lied abt certain situations.for starters some lie cos they don't want to be crucified.guys let's nt be too quick to believe all we hear or read especially gals that seem to sound like this.I'm saying this with 1st hand seriousness.some gals can lie for earth.it might even be that she needs us to help her justify her likeness for d guy.u think u r being steadfast in saying no n u r already liking him.why do I find it hard to even believe that u avnt started dating him n the wind is against u so u r luking for support.my sister in d lord u r 28 mehn older than most of us here we expect u to use ur brain biko of cos u already know u can't relocate to abj cos a married man is chyking u its either u already had relocation plans biko don't annoy me.feel free to make urself a tool for his lies bt I assure u YES iS YES and NO is NO for what its wat I av a very strong feeling that u r not serious wit d no u r saying if not no man is dat sheepish my dear they r always luking to do on to d next one.my 2 cents
ReplyDeleteDon't mind the yeye poster. She just embellished the story to make herself a good person. I am even suspecting she is having an affair with the guy and his wife knows that's why she here writing this epistle before the madam comes after her.
DeleteMy dear, u didn't fool me.
This is d first tym I wud say anything here and datz cos I just cudnt go past without droppn a word. Really, u're a woman and u oughtta know dem dudes by nau. They get their tongues all sugar coated just to get wat they want. He wud stil demand d sex of course, but dat wud be much later wen hez acted like he dosnt want it. He'll probably shower u with so much attention and gifts dat u'll mistake it for love and den u'll even be d one to make the first move..just be wise abt dis. No need to quit ur job. I believe u're morally uprite to have refused in d first place. As a christian I wud call dis a temptation. Wat do u do with temptations? U overcome dem! Datz wat u shud do, stand ur groud and let d niccur go to hell!
ReplyDeletelol....that guy is a fake arse liar.....he doesn't want to talk about his wife indeed.....he has no problems and he just wants to have u as a girlfriend....when he starts the relationship he will sleep with you for sure.......tell him you dont want and know that it will cost you your deposits and ultimately promotions et al.....dont ever be fooled he loves his wife and not ready to discuss her....men call their wives witches all the time to sleep with single ladies....when they start the affair the wife suddenly starts behaving well...
ReplyDeleteMy dear poster, please don't let this situation get messy. Even the way he calls you and comes around your office is already suspicious to some people, one day madam will hear and come and make trouble for you even though you are innocent, or gossip will start flying around.
ReplyDeleteSaying a firm No to the man means losing his account, I hope you realise that he is going to take his account away when he is certain you wont budge or as a means to make you accept him by force, the only way out is to speed up the process for him. Ask that his account be transferred to another account officer, tell him you are doing that because you can no longer stand the pestering. He has 2 options: insist that you hold on to his account and stop pestering you or simply carry his account and go. Be prepared for the sacrifice if he takes away his account. You will survive.
What working in banks has done to ladies ehn! how will you give a young woman a '50 million naira target' how do you want her to meet it without heavy compromises? Na wa oo!
Ask God for wisdom and direction,u don't have to resign cos of him. Its well wit u dear.
ReplyDeletedear poster, i was in a similar situation last year but some advice from a friend the previous year made me understand that someone was tweaking jazz from whereever. So, i went spiritual on the matter. After going for deliverance prayers with 3days dry fasting then ordinary fasting, the guy became history. He doesn't call me let alone know my number. We have not seen since then. The thing nearly had me cuz i began to 'like' the guy. That was when i knew this ain't normal. Do not, i repeat, do not resign from your job. Your enemies are at work full time.
ReplyDeletedear poster, i was in a similar situation last year but some advice from a friend the previous year made me understand that someone was tweaking jazz from whereever. So, i went spiritual on the matter. After going for deliverance prayers with 3days dry fasting then ordinary fasting, the guy became history. He doesn't call me let alone know my number. We have not seen since then. The thing nearly had me cuz i began to 'like' the guy. That was when i knew this ain't normal. Do not, i repeat, do not resign from your job. Your enemies are at work full time. Gos bless.
ReplyDeleteMtcheeeeeew. Wetin concern jazz for here? Senseless comment.
DeleteRenee. Mere onwe gi ebere.
DeleteThis shit u spewed here, does it sound reasonable?
So any bad thoughts or lustful thoughts na person jazz u?
Pls don't comment sometimes.I'm not trying to be insultive.
Well ,at ur age u should know what u want. I'm am married n I was a good girl but what do I get? A mad man as a husband. I had many offers of guys chasing after me when I was a copper some even wanted to travel with me for vacations but I refused forming good girl. These are clean guys n rich too. My dear if I were u I will fuck the he'll out of d guy and collect all I want from him n u still have a relationship . No big deal so chop n clean mouth. It is what it is.
ReplyDeleteTell your head of department about it in case he lies tomorrow that you are not doing your job well. Then put your feet down and say no. No be by force abeg. Rose
ReplyDeleteMy tots exactly.quit ur job coz of a randyman..are u sure of a Job in Abj?and wat if history repeats itself enh?stand on ur NO & dnt quit ur job~•.•sdk addict~
ReplyDeletePoster you totally lost me when you indicated that you may be falling for him. Having feelings for another woman's husband is one of the stupidest things to do. It makes your entire story sound hypocritical. You waited too long. Let it go too far. Now you want to clear your conscience by looking like the uninterested party who is being pestered. Sorry babe, not buying your bullshit. I'm a woman and I know how we get rid of guys we really have no interest in. Na today? It sounds to me like you would prefer him to leave his wife for you but a part of you knows it's never gonna happen. You will remain his side chick. Background lover. Lifetime mistress. So get a life and leave him alone.
ReplyDeleteLMAO!
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DeleteTrue talk my sister. ..don't know who she thinks she's fooling
DeleteYou're probably already sleeping with him but intentionally left that part out cos you know you would be judged. Please do whatever you think is right and don't try to use us here to clear your guilty conscience.
ReplyDeleteLooooooooool Anon 10:10 u got me spilling over my glass of coke @blades of ceiling fan [sugarHoneyBee]
ReplyDeleteOP, first...why do you like him? A married man comes showing you attention and you start liking him. Someone who has shown he has no scrupples about cheating or being deceitful. Ok, lets just say he makes you feel good and boosts your ego.
ReplyDelete2...he WILL sleep with you, do not be a kid please. What do,you think he will be doing with you? Sharing feelings??
3...Do not be so silly to wuit your job. If you have not compromised yourself with this guy, then stand firm. Stop all the flirting and smiling unnecessarily. Things like this never end well. Don't be fodder for a story on Stella's blog. You will be the Banker that was disgraced by Mrs XYZ for tampering with her man, you know in Naija...women disgrace the side chic and pet the philandering husband.
4...Catch brain biko, you are not a kid. Be wise, you can get rid of this guy quietly. Truth is...you do not want to!
You stand to lose more than you will gain. These powerful types are dangerous to mess with.
Let me tell you single ladies about the three kind of married men and the relationship they have with their wives.
ReplyDelete1. The one who talks bad about his wife. Like she's dirty, I don't love her, she smells, can't cook etc.
This is the irresponsible one. He probably has a good wife, but his too foolish to build his home.
Be careful with this one, he will tell you you are the best. But the day you two part he will tell the next girl you are the worse thing on earth after the devil.
2. The one who talks good about his wife. My wife is quiet, she's born-again, she respects me, she gives good sex, she's the best etc.
well this one is usually not happy at home. In 99% of the case the woman is the problem and the man is trying to cover it because he can not afford to be seen as failed.
3. The one that never talks about his wife. Now this is the man. This kind of man loves his wife to heaven and back. In fact if you want trouble , insult his wife.
Men like this have the best at home, and the wives know that they are lucky and love. This kind of men just cheat for adventure. This kind of man would only tell you about his wife when he trust you completely. And whatever he says will be short.
If your are dating a married man, find out where yours falls.
Byeeeeeeeee
My dear poster i hv 3 tins to say to you.
ReplyDelete1.Do not quit ur job bcos of dat adultrous nicompoo bcos he will use u nd dump u very fast
2.Married men may hv issues with their wife but they always go bck to dem nd u metioned d wife is frm a wealthy family.My hubby will tell me dat wen a man neva discusses his wife wit his concubine it shows he has respect for her nd loves her.
3.Dis guy will neva marry you nd by the time he is through with u ,u will be so filty nd complty worn out dat u will hate ur sef for wat u hv done.Remember wen u sleep with a married man ur own husband will be slept with by anoda randy girl.All dos talk of takin u out to fxns,nt sleepin with u na serious Jegee..So be wise..Most of all pray to your God he has all the powers...cheers..
'when u sleep with a married man,ur own husband wil be slept with by anoda randy girl'......biggest lie of the year!
DeletePlease resign and come to Abuja. We are waiting for you. I take care of people like you.
ReplyDeleteOtunba Jide O.
poster tell us the truth, u slept with him to get the account but you dont want to continue sleeping with him. when u come to sdk with you stories, do yourself a favour by telling the truth...
ReplyDeleteThis over sabi renee... you always have a similar experience with every story. I must be noticed! Shior
ReplyDeleteAkuko mike ejeayo. Girrl let ur No be NO period! Let a woman's man be. Go find ya hubby and avoid stories dat touch in d future. #Belle
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