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Wednesday, July 23, 2014

X Why.....?






Have you ever dated someone who broke up with you and they cannot explain why they did so?you have always wanted to ask them why but such things only happen as a miracle because of the strained relationship.?


''Ex,why did you break up with me after all we went through?we were so in love!''...
Always wanted to ask this question?...ASK THEM NOW!

 What pains did you go through and how did you get over them?The Ex apologised?

216 comments:

  1. Rubbish. Abeg, ex thank you for breaking up with me. I thought I couldn't do without you and my life will never be the same. Very true!! My life is so much better, married to the best man on earth, lovely kids, peace of mind and a brilliant career. Thank you for tramping on what I thought was love, now I know what true love really is.

    Learnt you are still looking for miss right, don't worry,I hope you do before the world comes to a end.

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    1. The kain anonymous comments wey we go read for here ehn...

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    2. An ex, that's what it is called so why bother my head with his reasons for ex-ing himself? That's his loss as far as I'm concerned...

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    3. I know aw it feels...bt I actually broke up wt an ex and couldnt give him a reason...
      Everything looked too good to be true...d love was magical...we used to say if anyone wrote our story, it wl be a best-seller romance...we tot we were gonna make history.

      He neva did anything wrong...bt my spirit just cldnt agree wt him. I knew it was love like no oda...ppl around us cldnt explain it either.

      We loved n loved...bt wen I started to think marriage...everything started to feel shaky...we had very diff upbringing n background...we had diff views n values abt marriage...we dint seem to agree on d diff roles on husband n wife in a home...
      I was raised up in a nearly perfect marriage (between my parents)...I had d best environment any child cld grow up in...his was diff...dad n mum and step mums and gfs and concubines n children popping up frm nowhere...in fairness he didnt agree or like his upbringing bt I noticed he had a lot of traits dt cld take us ryt back to dt kind of life...
      I was brot up conservative ...he loved d loud life....relationship was sweet cos we enjoyed each others company n it looked like a whole new life exploring each others journeys n views abt life...it was sweet.
      Wen I mentioned break-up...our lives came to a stand still...all my life I had prayed for a home like d one I grew up in or better...this moment I was gonna trade it for a diff life which dint look so bad on d outside...bt I had no idea how ppl who r inside of it manage to cope.

      Mayb if I had grown up in a not so good environment, I would av learnt abt how to deal wt a cheating husband (say if he decides to do dt someday) or how to cope wt a new wife...or how to knw ppl r suffering around me yet be happy wt fleets of cars in my garage...etc

      Yes der was money, estates , companies n influence/connection. .. (as inheritance) but I needed to take my own bull (life) by d horn..

      So for 4 yrs we went back n forth...him sacrificing all to be the man I wanted him to be...bt it stl wasnt enof...

      And den I woke up one day n I severed all ties. ..

      2 yrs after I started dating my hubby...God does answer prayers....everything I ever wanted!!! With extra.

      For some reasons...he had exactly same upbringing as me...he loved d things I loved. ..we had same values , he loved me sincerely and d love grew by d minute.
      For d first time...I was in love and reasonable, I was sensible, I cld think straight and I was in control of my life.

      Things went from better to better to better...up til dis day.

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    4. He fitted perfectly into my family...he has d same goal and ambition for d future as me...our differences only make us complement each other.

      Everything I dint av, he had it...and vice versa.
      Imagine wat life is being so similar to ur man...and d few diff u av are just d traits n attributes dt God dint give to u bt he rmbred to put dem in ur hubby. ..talk abt #ribdonor...lol


      We are married now...and heaven is my witness...ders is no day I dont give thanks to God for him. God has been blessing us and opening doors for us...even d favours we never experienced in our Individual lives...we see it daily now.

      I tot my dad loved my mum...yes he really does...but here is a man who makes me think d only reason he was created was to come Into my life n make me happy. Although he stl got many decades to proof he is a better husband and lover..lol


      All those things u see in movies...I experience it daily. My man serves me...I walk into d house and d first thing I get is a hug, then he takes my bag off me...takes off my jacket. ..makes me a drink and asks me wat I want for lunch...everyday except if I get home before him..sincerely I dont even do all des for him.

      I thank God I made dt decision that day...and can I say that even tho my ex tried to please me e.g he never asked me for sex all thru d years bt I cldnt vouch he wasnt sleepin wt other girls.

      Bt here is my man who was wt me for 4yrs...I knew he wasnt sleepin around bcos he had vowed to marry as a virgin. Oh yes...I knw byond doubts that he is very faithful.

      I thank God I made dt decision...the love I experience now proves to me tht all I had wt my ex was mere illusion.
      He (ex) felt and stl feels cheated. ..bt it was God saving me for wat he had planned for me before the world began. Shikena!

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    5. He fitted perfectly into my family...he has d same goal and ambition for d future as me...our differences only make us complement each other.

      Everything I dint av, he had it...and vice versa.
      Imagine wat life is being so similar to ur man...and d few diff u av are just d traits n attributes dt God dint give to u bt he rmbred to put dem in ur hubby. ..talk abt #ribdonor...lol


      We are married now...and heaven is my witness...ders is no day I dont give thanks to God for him. God has been blessing us and opening doors for us...even d favours we never experienced in our Individual lives...we see it daily now.

      I tot my dad loved my mum...yes he really does...but here is a man who makes me think d only reason he was created was to come Into my life n make me happy. Although he stl got many decades to proof he is a better husband and lover..lol


      All those things u see in movies...I experience it daily. My man serves me...I walk into d house and d first thing I get is a hug, then he takes my bag off me...takes off my jacket. ..makes me a drink and asks me wat I want for lunch...everyday except if I get home before him..sincerely I dont even do all des for him.

      I thank God I made dt decision that day...and can I say that even tho my ex tried to please me e.g he never asked me for sex all thru d years bt I cldnt vouch he wasnt sleepin wt other girls.

      Bt here is my man who was wt me for 4yrs...I knew he wasnt sleepin around bcos he had vowed to marry as a virgin. Oh yes...I knw byond doubts that he is very faithful.

      I thank God I made dt decision...the love I experience now proves to me tht all I had wt my ex was mere illusion.
      He (ex) felt and stl feels cheated. ..bt it was God saving me for wat he had planned for me before the world began. Shikena!

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    6. I love this anonymous lady... So on point!

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    7. Till now my ex never told me why he broke up with me over the phone and he cried while doing it. I have begged, vexed, did all I could he never told me....ironically he still wana be my friend, keep in touch and all. I refused but he insisted .... So painful but I av moved on.... Hmmmm mehn!

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    8. I love her too. Dis is love and wot marriage is supposed to b. Not all dis rubbish married women come on her to say and so. I have been married to d best man too for 9yrs, and it keeps getting better. Wil marry my husb again again if ders another life, broke up wit my university boyfrd of 4yrs to d amazement of every one, while dating him I always said to myself I wasn't going to marry him even wit all d love, in 2 months I meet and married my husb, and am happy I made dat decision. Love is a beautiful tin.

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    9. Anon 3:54 a.k.a madam epistle. Big yimu at your tales by moonlight, u better start writing scripts, dey there dey deceive ya sef. Bipolar tinz

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    10. Yimu oniro

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  2. In fact, I should have not asked. I should have thanked God for my life. When I asked and we hooked up back, I ended up with STD's. Even when we used condom. Stella I learnt some STD's are just from body contact and they stay with you for life. Herpes to be exact. I regret everyday for asking why because it is a nasty infection. There is no need to ask why, just thank God for everything and move on. Time heals all. Never go back!

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    1. His Dick was the size of my pinkie finger.
      Who says size doesn't matter?????

      #livingabetterlife

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  3. Madam stellina nice question u gat here, I had a little problem with my EX then i left his place with anger got home I was feeling untop I said am not gonna call him except he call me first cos he was d one who wrong me hummmm more dan 3years now na call I still dey wait..... though we both move on but sometimes we still ask ourselves wat went wrong? Wat truely went wrong after all d love and gud plans we share together. Thank God am in a better place now.

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  4. Not experience that yet!

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    1. Hehehehe! But u dey expect am ba?

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    2. Nah, I didn't experience that shit, b4 the nigga even tinks it, I done help am take the 1st move - yea. That's the best way to do it mbok...niggas aint loyal mehn. My brother even said mine was ogbanje, na me dey tire 1st - and I never had a reasonable reason. Then I met my husband, obviously he was ready to flog the evil spirit outta me, bc that was the last time I pulled that stunt.

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    3. Lol @ pink shell honestly I don't know what to expect. Single and scared of wasting my time in the name of commitment cos of stories I read here daily and what I see out there! The two I had, I left cos I couldn't stand their cheating asses! Now I'm free and happy.

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    4. @super cute, am telling u. D stories I read here, always scare me into going into sometin commited

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    1. Hmmn, if I have to talk abt the Ys I won't stop typing for a week (not an exaggeration) but in all things I give thanks. One thing is sure tho'. Maybe I will ask Angel Michael to show me why I have to go through so much all for the sake of love. THEN maybe I will know why. All I ask for now is peace. If a relationship will lead to another heartbreak let me remain single forever. QED

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    2. Am nobody's Ex! If we break up I don't know you! To the left! To the left! EVE E UME

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    3. Palomino me and you both. At this point exactly if I have to deal with another I should remain single. Just got out of one still hurts but trying my best and picking up the pieces. It's hard if you also not outgoing or no where to go in this boring state. But God I have prayed and cried am done kissing frogs I want my prince now.

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  6. yes this happened to me 3 years ago the guy left and until today he never said why or what . was in pain for 6 months ,felt used and dumped. but i picked up myself and focused on my work. and when i forgave him i found love again. but at the time it wasn't easy.

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    1. My ex dumped my ass d second day I had abortion 4 him and he got married 3 month later, heard he has a son now. But I can never 4give him. NEVER

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    2. If your story is from a Yoruba movie, he won't beable to have kids, the babalawo or pastor will tell him to come n beg u lmfao

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  7. Not experience that yet!

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  8. yes this happened to me 3 years ago the guy left and until today he never said why or what . was in pain for 6 months ,felt used and dumped. but i picked up myself and focused on my work. and when i forgave him i found love again. but at the time it wasn't easy.

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  9. Hmmm Yes oooo aunty stella. Me and my ex used to be in love. But he travelled back home and everything changed. We talk ooo but I don't even know how everything changed. He's married now and he told me he was getting married. Till date we still gist like we used to do.the fact is I asked him one day what happened to us? And why did u choose another? He had no definite reason to give me he just said sorry now,am sorry. But am happy for him though and I wish him luck.

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    1. Buhahaha, he doesn't even deserve your friendship mbok

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    2. Mamie's protege23 July 2014 at 16:32

      Katie noise face tour work and stop replying everybody. If your hand dey itch you go apply for typist work. Hairy tongued girl

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    3. Mamie's protege23 July 2014 at 16:32

      Katie onise

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    4. Babe I don't think you need to be talking to him sef. He's evil and he doesn't deserve your friendship.

      Meanwhile, have you been trying to score with that lady? Like get laid and it seems impossible.. Well Moby always tell it as it is. Check out these tips, try it and then thank me later

      http://www.mylifeasmoby.com/2014/07/tips-to-help-you-get-laid-18.html?m=1

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    5. Lmaoo @ Katie Onise.. I wasn't pained tho *tongue out*

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  10. Actually no girl has broken my heart before, no girl has broken up with me before


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    1. Hian! Oh...
      Alloy d hammer,
      na oly u dey break woman hrt.

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    2. Cos you gay

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  11. Waiting for the comments to roll in.....lol

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  12. Never been in that situation. Let me read mu fellow sdkers comments.

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  13. Usually there's always a reason. Kam buru oche m,madam find me roasted corn and succulent green ube.

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  14. Knowing why and being told the undiluted truth would only lead to more heartbreak and messed up self esteem.
    Just let go or would you want to hear stuff like;
    Your pussy was too wide due to our frequent xes so I had to go for a virgin.
    Your d**k was too tiny for me I had to move on with mr macho
    Your breath stinks like something crawled into your mouth and died inside
    I'm more attracted to lighter/ darker skin
    You're too short ,I found someone taller
    I'm ashamed walking the streets with you?
    You're too poor
    You are not fluent or not educated enough
    You're too fat/too skinny
    Your Olympus has fallen or even has disappeared
    Your ass is damn too flat
    Your face is blemished n scary
    Too many hard core reasons that you wouldn't want to hear my dear.
    It's better you pull d breakup string than let someone break up with u
    Especially wen u start seeing signs.
    If not,it might take you time to move on

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    1. Well said Mamie, sometimes truth is bitter.

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    2. Wow wow Mamie you are so right. I can pick 3 reasons out of the above listed and I just couldn't tell my boo

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    3. Lmao! Abegiii

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    4. HahhahahaBuhahahahahahhahaha@naughty hazard
      The smartest and baddest sdker ever

      *so, tell us which of the aforementioned categories that led to your Ex dumping you without a word mamie water.lol

      #YourLegacyLivesOnProfDoraAkunyili*7/6/14
      *Prayer For Nigeria in Distress x10 Daily*

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    5. Mamie is so right,d more u know some things,d more ur sorrows!...so going ahead to ask an ex why,is so unnecessary.

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    6. Lol @ Mamie my ex used to say am from Texas, meaning my vjay was too wide. Fast forward 5yrs later my DH penis wil even gv me bruise cos it's too big for my vjay. Evrytin happns for good,

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    7. M-amie is so point with dis. There was this lady i knew back then in the uni.we were flatmates in d hostel and we attended d same church too. She was this kinda all churchy girl.She was dating a "brother" in church who was also a student and it was like their love was made in heaven.They actually said they "received" each other and people were tapping into annointing then.All of a sudden,,the girl became so withdrawn and absent minded.She would sit all alone lost in thoughts.She couldnt open up to anyone about what she was going through. But later,,we got to know then that the "brother" dumped her and his reason.......?????she had small/short toes.This happened after d foolish guy disvirgined the sister oooo.....the girl had to leave church and she got accomodation somewhere else cos the news just spread like wild fire.......and then the question on everyone's lips was:didnt he see the short/small toes when he was toasting the girl???

      As if that was not enough...the"brother" received another sister and still dumped that one again. This second sister and I were a bit close and when i heard of d breakup.....i stylishly checked her toes but they werent short/small......and till today the second lady doesnt know why the guy dumped her....

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    8. While u are right Mamie, some of he attributes and characteristics u mentioned are not stuffs that wouldn't have been there before the person was dumped.

      Ex, no one gets shorter after agreeing to date anyone. So why would u dump them for being short when u knew this abinitio?

      Maybe the getting broke bit is the only wavering position that cannot be permanent. Hence one can get dumped for that. Or perhaps if she was dark skinned and started bleaching when they started dating. Yea he can dump u for going light on him overnight. Eheheh

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  15. I stil havnt goten over mine *sigh* it is well

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    1. Oh puliiiizz! Is he Paddy Adenuga?

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    2. Even if he were nko? I beg cry urself a river n afterwards, move on like no man bizness!!!!

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    3. You can't say that @La Katie!
      What if a child is involved? What if the mistake has been done?
      Pls leave her alone.

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    4. Mamie's protege23 July 2014 at 16:33

      Katie onise face your work. Madam typist

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  16. Seriously, most breakups that happen like that ends up being a blessing in disguise. God has a way of removing future problems from his children so when it just happens, don't fight it. Just know that you are about to run into your "turning point".

    I know of a case in Benin where a man chased his wife away because she did not get pregnant. Few years down the line, the man died of SIS KARMA HIV while that lady he chased away remarried and later had her own baby.

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  17. i felt as if my world had come to an end...stella is was a terrible experience. i met the guy on facebook we caught up on a good note, started as friends later as lovers it lasted less than a year with no explanation...he ended it. i was too devasted but thank God for my family the were there for me and i turned to God whose words comforted me more, stella this is someone that met my parents and i met his as well ooo,it wasnt a mere flirting things...ever since i stopped meeting people online i haven't been on my facebook page in years and every other chat forum which i wasn't realy into b4 now i didn't even bother to go near them. Social media is packed with fraudsters,liars,scammers,theives,killers...i can't begin to start naming bcos they are too much. he came back after like 2 years to apologise tho after he got married with a kid. Am happy for him but i pray he will experience what i experience after he left him! *SIGHS* thanks for this medium stella.

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    1. Mamie's protege23 July 2014 at 16:35

      It did not consign me o but then you are on Stella blog but you claim to stay off social media. Anyway sha, please sorry for everything, God will provide a man that will not show you facebook love.

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    2. Be strong and be encouraged..... it's only for a while. * singing * Love has already found you.

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    3. @Protégé before Facebook and Twitter the Internet existed. Meaning? You can be on the Internet and have an active email account and not be on facebook, twitter, etc. Hope you get it now.

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    4. And I bet he didn't meet d woman he married on social media!i personally can never be caught in dat sh#t,cos I have a believe that as he is on one side chatting with u and telling u sweet nothings',hes also chatting with a million others and flirting!so who can he really choose in all honesty from that network?cos d options are too many!social media relationships suck!quote me anywhere!sorry abt ur loss dou,tank God u learnt d lesson!

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    5. Mamie's protege23 July 2014 at 20:01

      Dakun, I didnt gerrit. Come again...

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    6. Kiral baby na u!! It's gud,but u are in a relationship na 4get that guy jor I called him den but he...he's even not looking good again...he's na slim an looking unkempt...so babe dust him off ur shoulder osalinda

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  18. I have never experienced such...a queen like me cannot be dumped mbanu instead,I do the dumping

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    1. Hmmmmn!
      Madam onu 1 of enugu state!!
      Gbam aka biko!

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    2. I just love the way this our queen speaks...lol

      *am out*

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  19. I HAVE BEEN IN THAT POSITION BEFORE OO...MY EX BROKE UP WITH ME BECAUSE HE HAD CALLED ONE NIGHT AND I PICKED AND TOLD HIM THAT I WILL CALL HIM BACK IN THE MORNING WHEN I WAKE UP AND FEEL BETTER BECAUSE I WAS HAVING SERIOUS MENSTRUAL PAINS INNOCENTLY, I CALLED HIM THE NEXT DAY HE DIDN'T PICK AND IT CONTINUED FOR LIKE 2WEEKS THAT WAS WHEN IT DAWNED ON ME THAT SOMETHING WAS WRONG BUT I COULDN'T PLACE WHERE,ONLY FOR HIM TO TELL A FRIEND OF MINE THAT WE HAVE BROKEN UP,I WAS DEVASTATED BECAUSE WE HAD MADE FUTURE PLANS TOGETHER.I REMEMBER TELLING MY HUSBAND WHO WAS JUST A FRIEND THEN,WHO I USED TO GIST EVERYTHING HAPPENING IN MY LIFE AND HE DOES SO TOO TO ME...I CAN REMEMBER HIM TELLING ME TO ENJOY MY SINGLE DAYS BECAUSE IT WON'T BE LONG,I DIDN'T UNDERSTAND WHY AND NEVER BOTHERED TO ASK BECAUSE I WAS STILL BITTER.FAST FORWARD A FEW MONTHS AFTER, HE PROPOSED TO ME AND OFCOURSE I ACCEPTED...LOL,HE THEN CONFESSED HOW WHEN HE WANTED TO PAY HIS TITHE THE MONTH BEFORE MY EX BROKE UP WITH ME..HE ASKED GOD TO MAKE ME HIS WIFE AND REMOVE EVERY OBSTACLE ON WAY AS HE STARTED PLANNING ON HOW TO TELL ME HE WANTED SOMETHING DEEPER THAN BEING 'JUST A FRIEND'...SO MINE TURNED OUT TO BE A BLESSING IN DISGUISE.I BELIEVE GOD HAND BEEN DEY INSIDE THE MATTER..LOL
    BTW, THE EX STILL DOESN'T REALLY UNDERSTAND WHAT HAPPENED THAT WE BROKE UP BECAUSE HE DOESN'T HAVE AN EXPLANATION TO IT.

    STELLA,MAKE I NO FIND THIS COMMENT OO...I USUALLY DON'T COMMENT MUCH BECAUSE IT ISN'T EASY TO TYPE AND SOME DAYS I JUST SIT BACK READ AND LAUGH.
    FELLOW BLOG VISITORS,I HAIL OO

    PURPLEIVY

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    1. So your husband was in the #friendzone, nice one I keep telling guys not to give up on their dreams friend zone toh bad.

      Mr Lyca

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    2. Mamie's protege23 July 2014 at 16:36

      And that is why you are shouting ehn? Hairy tongued girl

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    3. Is that y you had to shout? Mtcheeew

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    4. I see that someone wants to be famous by licking mamie's ass. Mamie has made a name for herself, go and make yours. There's enough room for irritants. Its best that you become a piece of Shit than an asswipe. Good luck.

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    5. Mamie's protege23 July 2014 at 20:03

      You are a piece of shyte already so no lemme drag am with you. It don't consign me o but you are also a smelly piece of shyte too.... Na you sabi talk abi? Hairy baboon

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    6. Kai I miss dem bf and gf days. Wen my bf will come late in d nite to pick me and I will just jump d fence and meet him at d end or d street. We will go home and make love till day break wen ders no light, dos days sweet sha, now if ders no light kids wnt even let u sleep, plenty responsibility. Had to break up wit him cos my dad will not let me marry a nobody like him,

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  20. Yea! Been there, done that. I jes changed environment 4 some months and dat helped a lot. Heartbreak no easy I swear down.

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  21. Nigerian men are so used to this. I find it so childish tho.
    Well, I have absolutely nothing to say to no one. If I do, I will find the person and be the bigger person.

    Abeg, I can't wait to read some people's rants. This post is going to be fun

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    1. Mamie's protege23 July 2014 at 16:37

      Katie onise keeping hovering like helicopta over this post. Don't go and face your work with that your hairy nose like baboon own.

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    2. Lmaooooooo@Hairy nose Baboon's own

      My naughty hazard now has a protege???#Impressive

      "congrat" naughty hazard!#Odiro kwa easy oo

      #YourLegacyLivesOnProfDoraAkunyili*7/6/14
      *Prayer For Nigeria in Distress x10 Daily*

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  22. Yeah. I had an Ex who broke up with me and couldn't explain why at that time. He was my first,I started dating him in 100l and he spoiled me silly. I was never broke as I had all I wanted. I was a virgin and he was ready to wait until I was ready..

    By 200l,I was ready and it took him the 3 night I spent in his place to finally deflower me because of the pain and all. Then our sex life became so good. Mind you,before our sex started,he was a player,a lover boy who had a million girl friends since he had money and all. I was just a naive girl in live with him. He told me he would do everything for me but he wouldn't be faithful since we were not having sex,maybe that's why I finally let him after a year of dating

    Did he change,yes he did. He even gave me his spare keys and asked I stopped calling him if I was coming to see him. I had big girls fighting with me and threatening my life and all. Then it was time for me to go for my IT and I left.

    We kept dating but our communication kept dropping. I kept calling and calling but I could feel the disconnection. So I called him one day and asked him what's going in and he told me we should break up,I asked him for a reason and he said distance. I asked how could distance be the problem when I can come see you every weekend if you wish,its just a matter of flying down to see you but he didn't say anything.. I asked him to tell me the main reason why we were breaking up and he just dismissed me

    I called and called but he stopped picking. I was wrecked. He was all I had been with,he wasn't explaining to me. Came back to see him and he wasn't saying anything.. Went back with my broken heart,finished my it and schools were on strike then,so I travelled to one of the African country,and started running a course there. Then I met a guy who I started dating buy I was just using him to get over my ex,schools called off their strike after some time and I came back to school telling the other guy we couldn't date again cos of distance. He gave me the whole long speech about how he could fly down to see me every time but I didn't listen.

    After graduation,I was posted to where my Ex now lived,I traced him of FB and called him. Went to see him in his house and he was living larger and bigger. I told him I need closure and for him to tell me what really happened since it was all rosey with us as we never ever quarreled while dating. He still didn't have anything to say,I drank up and gave him a mind blowing sex that night cos I insisted on staying over. After which I left the house while he was bathing. I didn't call him but he kept calling and calling and telling me how the live making brought back memories and how he needed me back in his life

    Oh,I had a game plan. I met hubby and I told him how I wasn't over my ex yet so he should give me time to before we can start dating properly. I went to see my ex again and slept with him,had crazy sex with him and he was hooked. Didn't want me to go wanted me to move in with him but I refused and next thing he was singing love. Then I told my hubby that I was ready to date him and we started dating properly and he proposed after some months,the other guy was still there and I was seeing him when I pleased.

    Call me wicked but the last night I went to see him,I had passionate sex with him all night,talked about our future cos he wanted to discuss that,asked me the ring I wanted and we planned buying it that weekend. In the morning,when leaving I dropped my traditional wedding invitation letter on his chair,since he came to drop me,he found it when he went back home. Called and called and I told him I wasn't just feeling the relationship. He begged,did everything,called everyone callable but I would be damn if i cancelled on my hubby.

    I got closure through my revenge. That's how heart broken I was. Long read I know. Pardon the typos

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    1. Chei!
      Thumbs up babe!
      Thats how it should be served to them!

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    2. Ok wooow. I like u already #nohomo# u too much mehn. Chop knuckles biko.

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    3. You got used all over again....me thinks you still want him...you haven't moved on...you will still cheat on your hubby with him in the future.

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    4. You call that revenge? That's a trifling story if I ever heard one! You're engaged and busy blowing your ex... Oh wow! Maybe it's made up cos it doesn't make any sense except you're a whore, are you?

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    5. ...The revenge would have more more sense if u didn't entice him wt sex.

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    6. Served hot like amala!!!

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    7. Chia babe ya wicked but he deserved it hehe

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    8. Chai... Babe u wicked small oooooo.. Smartest gal... I love u #nohomo#

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    9. Wow! Omg! Some girls are not smiling. Biko. Thumbs up. Some/All guys need a piece of this

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    10. Mamie's protege23 July 2014 at 16:40

      Chai!!! For inside which film you watch this one??? Executive liar . Haba fear God small. Movie magic girl

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    11. Kai! This gist left me dumbfounded!

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    12. Chop kiss@Swerve&Ern Hugh..1m likes for your respective inputs

      @anon2:31pm
      If this your story isn't a cock and bull one, then you must be a professional hoe, infact shovel join cos you are so heartless, flirtatious and promiscuous...
      Look at you speaking and seeking revenge when karma awaits you in bits.....you actually got a guy into loving you only for your own selfish purpose and in return you gave him no reason of walking away from his life not minding how heart broken he may be..
      We always try to justify/avenge wrongs done to us, forgetting we have hurt others in worst ways....#GoldenRule
      Only in pity for the man who took in a life time liability for a wife thinking he has acquired a real asset..smh
      You better go on a look out for the boy you messed up with his emotions and apologize. Hmmmmmmmmm

      "The Dumper and the Dumpee" saga continua#Straight _Face

      #YourLegacyLivesOnProfDoraAkunyili*7/6/14
      *Prayer For Nigeria in Distress x10 Daily*

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    13. That isn't revenge, you just dashed the guy free sex

      Oluyomi Odukoya

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    14. That isn't revenge, you just dashed the guy free sex

      Oluyomi Odukoya

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    15. It seem also it's abt u enjoying sex with him even more dan ur hubby's?and if it is so,u are not yet over him hun,u will still go back after u have settled in ur marriage..u tot u were revenging,but it was all abt wanting more of his touch.

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    16. This one na mills and boons jare

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    17. Sdk bouncer shut your stupid sanctimonious mouth..... The dumped her and she dumped him back and ur rettarded mind says karma? U are a goat..... Always forming holy..... All u ashawos here have the liver to call her a hoe? Stupid bitches

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    18. Now..,,,u call this revenge??? the truth is the sex u give made him stay with you in school and when u went for IT,,and there was no sex from u again.....he got an alternative to fill in the gap.He never loved you,,he only loved ur "bedmatics"......so the revenge u thought u gave him was just d bedmatics he used to get from you and guess what.....you gave him free of charge(FOC).....but he wanted to be an oliver twist,,,so he thought he could hold you down with sweet promises......but thank ur star u didnt fall for the empty promises,,,if you did,,the second dumping would have been terrible.

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  23. Stella nice pple visit ur blog.a Bv anonymously gave me a huge amt of moni 2 start a biz after readin my story.I wnt 2 thank u so much 4 dis golden opportunity and may God bless Olivia so much.Olivia,u will neva lack in Jesus name Amen!!

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  24. i left my ex and i still dunno why i did it till date..

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  25. Ok here goes. I had played hard to get for this guy. In fact I just disliked him from the start, don't know why.

    He persisted until I fell for him, but thankfully I didn't go all the way with him. There was another girl though, who was more than willing to give him all the xes (Ake style, lol!)he wanted.

    He taunted me with her and it was a very traumatic time for me. He just kept playing with my emotions like that until, by a twist of fate, I had to leave that environment. It was tough! I got depressed, lost a lot of weight and all. Thankfully I had great people around me, made new friends, had fun and without exactly being aware of how it happened, I recovered!

    He told me the reason he treated me that way was to teach me a lesson, cos of my sme sme!

    The next thing I heard, she had dumped him for someone with more prospects, lmao!

    By the time I came back, I just discovered that his hold over me was broken and all his attempts to get back with me failed! #tongueout@him!

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  26. Hmm I've always wanted to send a post to you sdk about something like this. I once dated this dude. It lasted for only 3months though. I would go to his place, help him cook n clean the house too. We will go out and we were getting used to each other by the day. Though I see him maybe 3x a month. He had started making marriage plans and was to come for introduction but all of a sudden dude stopped calling me.oddly we barely quarrel and I respect him so much cuz he is 35 while am 28. I went quiet for 3 days and he still didn't call. I called him and he said he will call me back but never did. He got married some weeks ago and I found out when his sis used his wedding pic as dp on her BlackBerry. 3 months after ending communication with me he is married! Why didn't he just say something to me @ least to end the relationship formally. Am not even the crazy or razz type. I felt so hurt but I guess I will never know...

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    1. She was always there, even b4 u. U were only a side chic. Men lie thus the intro talk.

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  27. Julliet without Romeo23 July 2014 at 14:44

    Mine wasn't as if he broke up with directly, the fone calls reduced and eventually stopped...I felt it was because he lost his dad that time. After several years asked him why he changed all of a sudden, he said he was too affected by his father's death. He said he just wanted to be on his own then. I was open to him that he really hurt me then cos I wanted to help him get through the pain but instead he shut me out. He apologised and we are good friends now. We still talk once in a while.

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  28. YES!!! Just yesterday I was still gisting someone abt how much it hurt. We were soo in love, and he just switched off! Jus lai dat o. I'd call him, he won't pick, text him, no replies. Inside d same school compound o. Me sha, my ego is very huge. I called him like 2ce to ask him what went wrong, he couldn't give any concrete reason, just bullshitting me. The 3rd time I called him, was to break up. He wasn't even man enough to break up wth me, I had 2 do it myself. I cried my eyes out, told everyone who was willing to listen 2 me, they comforted me. My friends helped to, insulting him just to make me laugh. Eventually, I got over him. That was 2years ago. Early this year, we got talking, and then he went on and on abt hw sorry he was 4 treating me badly, he didn't knw wat was wrong wth him, bla bla bla. I accepted his apology and nw we're good. His apology was d final ingredient for my healing. All the bitterness in me seeped out and that was it. It can pain sha. Lol. Me I dunno if dis comment has entered b4, keeps disappearing. So if u see it a million times, no vex.

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  29. Let me just chill and wait for comments.

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  30. Stella please warn Olori to stop loading cards here.she should let others load too!
    08050***676 I am warning you o.

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    1. Na wah, sotey u find her no. Olori u don hear, stop loading cards.

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  31. I had to force myself into hating him (buh it was for dat tym I Wantd my heart to heal). Always thought of his flaws Jes to make me get over him

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  32. All my own exes doesn't wish me well and most times I wonder why?

    I dated 2 guys before I got married, The first picked me @d age of 16(I'm an orphan)saw me through school but he was too hard on me,sex was on daily basis. A day we had a misunderstanding and beat me up and told me that he ll kill me and nobody ll ask of me...

    That's how I started planing my escape route, Left him and started dating again, this time around, the guy was over possessive, checking my phone,emails, harassing anyone close to me,I couldn't stand it, Left him after he dashed me hot slap one afternoon...

    Now I'm married, mu hubby isn't as rich as them but I'm at peace, he respects and understands, but these exes are soo bitter, they ll trace my husband's line, call him, text him rubbish abt me...

    they both added me on fb, but I deleted it, almost everyday they re dropping massages for me, any day I try to be nice by replying them, they ll start with no man ll love u the way I do, My wife is in london to put to bed, she went to shopping , I'm the biggest boy in town right now.

    Just wondering why some men are like this, I'm the one that left you, why all these showing off... These things disturb me a lot...

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    1. Madam massage na to press body oo.
      Na message dem send u, no be massage.

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  33. Abeggi, let d sleeping dog lie jorrr




    *lips sealed and watching*

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  34. well, I think when you have had so much from the person you just decide its best to be silent about it all and just move on.

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  35. Emmmm......I always do the breaking up. I'm not tolerant so get pissed over certain fuck ups. Then I move on. Either that or we part ways amicably

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  36. I don't av an ex that broke up with me.
    I did the breaking up since I discovered he was acting cold.
    I do have my reasons and I don't regret breaking up.

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  37. My very first boo, broke up with me for just no cause @ least he didn't tell me any even after pleading with him to tell me so i don't repeat it in ma next relationship. I found out the girl he left me for was a girl he told me was his nebo's friend cos the girl was always calling him then and he save the name as ^godisgoodtola^. The annoying thing then was that one of the reasons he got attracted to this girl then was because she could use the basic MS OFFICE*asin she go computer school and me i no sabi use MS OFFICE then* bcos of that single reason i went to computer school. 2. Then he loved fair girls but today he is married to a dark skinned girl working class girl* dats to tell you guys are more materialistic these days than girls always looking for soft landing*.Till date i can't fall in love with my whole heart no matter who you are. Cos of my experience,i always have reservation and can never put my eggs in one basket again.Then i took solace in alcohol and music, i started drinking like mad, thank God i don't take alcohol anymore.
    Stella, my gist too plenty but i knw God is in control in my life for sure.

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    1. OMG, na ontop dis comment laff finish.
      Buhahaha @ GodIsgoodTola n MS office.
      Its eida ur ex is a clown or u r just a funny person.
      Sounds like sec sch love doe.

      OMG I av a feeling am goin to enjoy dis post.

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    2. Lmao @ he got attracted to her cos she could use MS office. De guy must be a confused clown. Dont worry @the mirror it is well.

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  38. My ex got married 2wks after we broke up n prior to dis time I was trying to round up skol n he kept bugging me to get pregnant n he needed to marry b4 d end of last year, I sd I hv to graduate 1st, mixing up skol wiv marriage wud nt b easy for cos I bliv in one step at a time so after a while he strtd changing furniture's in d hos infact renovated every whr I never knew he was getting set to bring in his wife n so one day I asked after he won't let me rest cos of d pregnancy ish, i told him to tell me d truth if he's got someone else he sd NO! We had a lil misunderstanding n I told him, normally when we quarrel like that he calls n tries to mk up but didn't hear frm him n I didn't bother calling d nxt thing I heard frm my frnd was ' babes whr r u K is getting married today! I was stunned! I'm like jst 2wks n dis!? So I sent him a congratulatory msg on FB n dat night he called n sd d chic is an old frnd n blablablA some crap....well fast fwrd to wks after he strtd calling me, sending me text msgs dat he's sorry, hes regretting he shud hv waited dis n dat! and so I warned him n told him dat d nxt time he calls n sends msgs I will munch n send to his wife...now jst 2wks ago he called me dat he wnts us to hv a date in oriental dat he wnts peace I'm like ' can u move on already, u r history!! he says he feels bad n really needs a child frm me, God some men r pathetic! I had to call a frnd to act like my boyfriend to warn him off cos he's beginning to b a pain, I hv forgiven him n moved on,so he shud do so too.

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    1. I'm happy u cud let go n let be! He's sucha loser!

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  39. Aunty stella yes ooo. and I was so much in love wit her,we dated for A year and 6months back den wen I was in skul..I went for my I.T in PH,by the time I came back Dem she was already dating dat same guy she told me was her bestie,I died and resurrected after six months unlike lazarus!! ****long story short***2ys after she wanted us to come back, I was so tempted to because I was still very much into her..I had to tell my self d bitter truth which was she left me because she saw sum1 better ,so if we'll eva have to come back then it must be after I become self made....

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  40. My first boyfriend that i dated all through Uni was all shades of amazing and i thought we were going to end up together in spite of church differences. we even won several awards in school as best couple, lol and people really believed in us.
    However, we grew apart after NYSC, i blame myself because I wanted to work hard, make money and assist my siblings so I had no time for men and less time for the relationship. My job then was also very demanding mentally and physically.
    To be fair to him, he tried his best to patch us up but I guess i fell out of love with him and was in love with my career. He was heartbroken and now i wish i handled it differently. I have since called him to apologize.

    I am now married to another loving, God-fearing and handsome dude and I wonder how i got so lucky cos I felt like i don't deserve being loved after the way i treated the first bf.

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  41. God bless you Stella. My ex told a lie against me. He (ex) accused me of sleeping with someone (I didn't do it). Few months later he continued a relationship with another lady. All i could say to him when we spoke was "am not a bad person and never will I be". Now I get calls from the people around him saying "he wants you back but he is stubborn about calling you, you were the best thing that has happened to him, the new girlfriend is driving him insane".... No matter how long it takes, unless God is not on his throne, the truth will unveil itself. I have moved on now with the help of the greatest companion in the whole universe 'Jesus'! My advice for does who have passed through a broken relationship and trying to get back dating, please be watchful because at this state u have prayed to God for your husband/partner to replace the hurt from the past ex, you are in a vulnerable state because any man/woman that comes your way, you feel 'this is the chosen one from God'. The devil gives you a replica of what looks like the original from God. When he comes, only you will know *smiles. Warning to the guys including my biological brother(s), please I beg you, if you know that girl/guy doesn't seem attractive to u anymore or you don't love her anymore, sit her/him down, hold her/his hands and tell it the way it is. DO NOT TELL LIES AGAINST THAT WOMAN/MAN JUST TO GET RID OF HER. DO NOT ALLOW YOUR THOUGHTS HAVE IMAGINARY SCENERIO OF A WORDLY ACTION e.g. suspecting her of cheating on you with your best friend or a business partner or a family relative/friend. Investigate into any relationship you enter to know what really happened and why there was a break-up...A divorce or broken relationship or losing your kids can make you go crazy, can make you have a hardened heart which you may find yourself hurting the genuine people that loves you. If truly you hurt that man/woman, go back to apologize even if you don't want him/her back. You should NEVER take the anger of God for granted because the innocent ones (your children or unborn children)will pay dearly for your sins. Ladies, tell your brothers. Guys, tell your sisters. God bless.

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  42. Ladies let's tell ourselves the truth; if you did not open your legs, you will not feel so 'used and dumped'. The truth is; you submitted yourself to be "used". LADIES IN RELATIONSHIPS, CLOSE YOUR LEGS UNTIL THE MAN PAYS THE BRIDE PRICE! If you close your leg, even in the event that there is a break up, you walk away with your dignity. Ilicit sex will never guarantee you a man's love.

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    1. But what do you do when you're horny? Seriously. Body no be wood. Those urges come and masturbation is also a sin. Don't act like you're above it because it's like saying you don't get hungry or don't dump. And don't talk like sex is to hook a man. Women want it and love it too. I need real talk.

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    2. Nothing like 'he used me and dumped me' becos truth be told we used each other. Sex involves 2 people. Except u were raped (dats terrible). Guys illicit sex will never guaranty u a lady's love. My 2 cents.

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    3. Uncountable likes dearest anonymous3:19pm
      Your input is so impeccable
      May God continue to Bless and increase your wisdom hun
      Preach on......xoxo

      *Dump ko, dustbin ni...#Shrugs.

      #YourLegacyLivesOnProfDoraAkunyili*7/6/14
      *Prayer For Nigeria in Distress x10 Daily*

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    4. Anon 3:19, well said.

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    5. Sdk babe u just spoke my mind

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  43. Wow this stuff actually hapnd 2 me last year,we were so cool 2geda,he introduced me 2 his family and I was so happy with him,den one day we spoke as usual,so he told me day he is on his way home dat let's talk wen he gets home!my dear dat was it o,initially I was scared dat sumtin terrible must have hapnd 2 him,and I didn't want 2 go 2 his house unannounced,so I kept calling for one week,den woke up one mrn and I decieded 2 go over 2 his place,I met his Sis and she told me dat he Is very ok and he only acts like did wen he wants 2 put sum1 away,I felt terrible and bad.I sent him series of msges 2 @lest Tel me wat I did wrong,buh hell no he didn't reply,abeg story 2 much, but finally sha I 4gave him on d 1st of january.since den I have bin on my own.

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    1. What's wrong with you? As pretty as you and still running after a guy.

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    2. Haba anon I wasn't running after him,it came as a shock tho,so I just wanted 2 kno wat d problem was @lest I won't do it in my nxt relationship and most of all I just needed a closure.haba e neva bad reach like dat.

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  44. Hmm... I n ma ex dated for 8yrs (includes Uni n Service yr whr I culd av played games but didnt, while he was bak hom). I always knew he ad big problems including spiritual... infact, more spiritual dan I or any1culd undastand (even his mum- or so she claimed). Most of the 8yrs was for waitin on God for a miracle, but den, not in happened. Inbtw, sex was always a terrible experience n I always ad an excuse not to see him...
    Fastforward... I left d relationship without undastandin y, infact, I didn't move on until I saw him doin 'selfies' wit a lady on social medias (cos I was worried for him), n I didn't start a relationship until ova a yr l8r.
    In my case, I didn't apologise or see d need to, does dat make me a bad person?

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  45. My ex don't have the guts to break up with me. Instead they start misbehaving until I break it up myself. I always leave with a parting gift ....that is, I teach them a lesson before I go...lol can even mention what did to them here.

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    1. I tot the parting gift was HIV

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    2. If it was HIV, wouldn't that have been the welcome package? Nope just messed up their life a little.

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  46. Dated for 9months and we were so much in love or so I thought. Saw him during the easter holiday, went back to my state of service and that was the it. He stopped calling, texting, and if I call him, he won't reply me. Sent him strings of messages and none was replied. I called a friend of his to help me ask him what the issue was, his reply to his friend is that we were fine and there's nothing to worry about. I still kept on calling, sending messages and crying myself to sleep until one night, I got a very long message from him telling him he's no longer feeling the relationship. I was so heart broken, I felt like my world had come to an end, for months I cried but somehow the pain started subsiding. The day we saw again, which happens to be 2years after the breakup, his tell me why he broke up with me and his reason was that he was facing a lot then, his father was sick and he needed to concentrate and the whole thing was affecting him. I told him I already forgave him and I had moved on.

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  47. Anon things pls
    This is a serious problem, I leave any rlshp am into without any tangible reason mostly when it comes to marriage n am even planning to lv my current rlshp Cos I feel so afraid about commitment. Do u think something is wrong with me, its been over 9 men mbok

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  48. Auntie Stella,thanks 4 dis post!
    My Ex n I went 2 d same secondary school,but we dnt talk.
    Fast forward,years later in University,I was a Jambito and he was in 300l(he got admission b4 me).we still don't talk.All of a sudden,there was dis attraction btw us,if we see we wave @ each other.On my matric day,he snapped pictures wit me,we exchange nos n lodge add.He check on me time 2 time.So one day I went visiting,dat was wen,he started giving me vibes,I fell immediately,but gave him d 'YES' reply d next day.
    He spoilt me silly with gifts,money,flexing.I love dis guy .Every babe wanted 2 be in my shoes den.Fast forward 2 my 200l,he started giving me attitudes,he dnt call,no msg,no visit.if I call he says am disturbing,he started avoiding me.Then it dawn on me,dat available bin used n dump.I cried my eyes off.it affected me academically,emotional,physically.it took my a year 2 get over him.Am happily married now n he reside in d same city now.I will summon courage and ask him when next our steps meets.

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    1. Let sleeping dogs lie abeg.

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  49. hmmm now i see dat am not the only 1, had dis bf den ,he was all kinds of amazing,you know the truly romantic type,brought gifts unexpectedly,bot things for my siblings infact he was too good to be tru,hmmm we were so much inlove and even planning wedding and all,he came visiting 1 day and we talked,ate and i even followed him to were he parked his car,if i had known i should ve said good bye, na so the drama start, he would pick calls o buh omo so so cold,i ignored at first, then one day i called him and told him i miss you and he just kept quiet,i felt so hurt i had to cry my eyes out in the ladies at work,there and then i knew it was over, but the thing was he was such a coward he didnt say wat happened,i cried every nite for 6 whole months God bless my pillow,my job suffered,i was just depressd.
    Then one day my sis and i were chatting and she told me she was in tears that its been ages she saw me smile dats wen i knew he wasnt worth it,i cut all communication with mutual frends, changed fones,even changed jobs and attended all owanbes i was invited too dressed to kill.lol
    He came begging back,calling and sending messages for forgiveness, truly in my heart i forgave him cos i met some1 who is so special,i just smiled and said God that was you....sori for the long story,i needed to get dat out

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  50. I just remembered Alex my ghanaian lover whom I was planning to elope.
    He was very handsome,very gentle with me.
    Only him could me to cloud 9 until. ......


    I woke up one morning I couldn't find Alex,I looked for him everywhere,I cried,I died,I stopped living......and then I discovered my husband fired him and ran him out of town.

    what pained me most eas that his blockus was my measurement,moderate unlike my hubby's own that is like a horse own...

    Anyway,I ve since acclimatised to d size of his gigantic phallus.

    Hmmm.....ve u ever tried to suck a dick and almost choked on it,????
    Hian!!!!

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    1. O my my! Sometimes, I wish I could know you in person. Life would have been seconded to none. Gracious me! This lady is crrraaaaayyyyyyy. #Hian#. Just added to my bucket list #meet Ezenwanyi in person#

      DtArochukwuBabe#

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    2. Hahaha hahaha.... Now you're just crazy!!! 😂

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    3. This lady, u always crack me up chai!

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    4. LOL! I shouldn't be laughing but I couldn't help it. Ezenwanyi I give it to you, you head no dey house oo. Lol

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    5. Buhahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaa...
      Lwkmd!
      Jeeez!
      Ezenwanyi my love for u just trippled..
      Omg you re such a clown!

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    6. Kikikikiki Ezenwanyi onye nkemu oooooo.

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    7. This woman, u no go kill me. Mrs O

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  51. This post brought back old and painful memories.

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  52. Purple Ivy! O ginni? Why you dey shout? I just had a mental picture of you telling the whole house that story with the caps! we go don deaf.. were nwayo biko!!

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  53. Mine came as a shock,we dated for just four months and I feel for him deeply.we were so in love,he calls me like four times a day,we chat all the time,infact he cannot eat witout me suggesting wat he shud ave,he ll even snap the food and send to me.Anytime I visit,he does not allow me do anything,he cooks and do virtually everything in the house.The part I rily love is breakfast in bed,or when I take a nap in the afternoon,I ll wake up to see him beside me with my food.lool.Mehn!I fell deeply in love until one I noticed he stopped calling the way he used to,I became worried and asked him,he kept giving me excuses that he is busy but I knew somethin was wrong.Only for him to open up that we are not compatible,am obssessed with him n all that.Damn!I cried bitterly for months,my frnds will insult him to make me feel better,I will be fine but as soon as I go to my room,I ll cry.I couldn't sleep for months..But am happy and grateful to God that he left cos my hubby is God sent..He called me early this year that he left cos he needed to be sure of his feelings cos his ex was still in his head.we still talk and laugh and I tell him tnx for breaking up with me.lool

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  54. My first boyfriend took my virginity then dumped me from nowhere. I sent my cousins and they beat him up and threw him from a moving car. He's lucky he didn't die. I wish he had. He messed up my life. I don't trust anyone, man or woman anymore.

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    1. Now that's evil and mean! You're the definition of vile, should be locked up for attempted murder.... Except it's all made up

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    2. Are you from the south south? You sound like one of us. Lol.

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    3. You're the definition of vile since you can't read. I didn't push him. Others did. The fact that I like what they did to someone who deserves it does not mean I attempted to murder anyone. In all your judgment I see you have none for the bullshit he did and what he "murdered" in me *rolls eyes*

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    4. Buhahahaahaha @ black coffee, thumps up jare
      Rudegirl..

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  55. Anonymous 2:06, well said. Thankyou Ex for breaking up with me! Twas all a big blessing!
    Anonymous 2:31, wow,wow u didn't even wait for Karma, u took out the revenge urself! lol,Interesting, but I think u took a risk on ur fiancé. what if he found out? U sure u got married for love or for revenge?

    Also, I think women love emotionally. Men really don't. I still don't believe men fall in love.It's all physical to them. It's just what they see and yes, sex. That a guy is spending on you may just be that he is generous and rich. The test of generosity should be when he has nothing! and gives out of the nothing. It's no big deal for a rich guy to spend. That's why he's got money naa, to spend.. Most guys will marry when they are ready and its any gal that is around them that moment that becomes the wifey..

    For me, three breakups. First guy got married two weeks after the breakup oh! Infact we were still dating. ThankGod I was already out of love but I still felt really stupid. Some men are wicked, period! Second guy..i did the breakup myself cos he gave me all the signs.. pictures of the side chic all on his phone and dp, twas so disrespectful. He lost my trust. It was hurtful but I moved on! Third guy, was..really hurtful. His family got in the way. He was not a Peter Okoye kinda guy so...!!!

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    1. There are guys that love like their lives depend on it. It's like they feed on emotions. Seen quite a few. One told me his story about how his gf was cheating but his nature won't let him kick her out. She ended up dumping him. Lol.

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  56. Hmmm anty stella mine was very terrible although av gone over it now but its still hurt me inside dat I don't av any crious date up till date. I met dis guy where I was working den as a secretary den. His a graduate nd his working in a firm. We started dating not up to 2month dis guy told me I should meet his parent I thought he was joking about it. Not knowing he was crious about it dat he want to get married. My admission dat av been longing for came on den I had to tell him I av to get my degree bfor anytin nd he accepted. Wen I got into skul I do cum to check on him every weekend not knowing dat his planning his wedding wit his ex he told me dey aren't dating anymore. One of his frd just cal me up oneday saying dat babe u are very strong o u really try I said wat happend he said my guy just got engage last week. I said dats a lie dat I still visited him 3weeks ago no traces of marriage at all in his house. Dats was wen I got sick I almost wanna run mad. I called him up on his mobile fone he still talk to me normal, he said my baby was up I said fine. After 2 weeks he had to cal my line dat he need to see me I said ok. Wen I got to his place I met his frd der both of dem just postrate to me dat dey av wrong me I just I had to pretend as if I didn't hear anytin bfor he just started narrating story dat d lady got pregnant for him nd she said she can't abort it dat was why dey had to do d wedding fast fast. Can u imagine i got pregant for dis guy too dat he told me I should abort it. I did not knowing another person did too. Av forgiven him long time ago but he stil cal me up dat even if I get married he wil never leave me alone cos he love me so much. Av move on since den.

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  57. Well I was just going to ask Stella on how to find closure b/c honestly it's a year I've not moved on. I've tried all I could, but I don't know why. We spoke in the morning and by afternoon, he wasn't picking my calls or replying my bbm message. Nothing... we were like bestiees!!!!!!!!!! God knows am still looking for closure. My sister says I should just forget about him and move on!! If only she understands. She has this I don't care attitude. And most times I wish I have it.

    I don't really want us backkk, I just really want to know 'what went wrong'
    Mind you I never slept with him.
    And he was friends with my ex. How do you sleep at night?

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    1. Friends with ur ex? Same case as mine, he just stopped picking. Don't bother urself, he won't come back. You know the explanation? He felt guilty, that's what he told me years later after the break up and no sex too. I'm still friends with him but not my ex anyway. I advise you to let go, it's the guy code...they hardly date their friend's ex as it spoils their friendship. find love somewhere else my dear, u will be fine

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  58. I have never commented on this blog, but i loved the story of the girl who dropped her trad IV for her ex for revenge and thought i share mine.
    Mine was less dramatic but still effective. I met this guy when i moved to Abuja for Uni in 2003. I promised myself to wait till i was married before i had sex, and he seemed like a nice guy that would wait for me. I didnt date him immediately because he was a lot older than me and i was just getting into Uni and was enjoying my Jambite rush.
    A year later he relocated to London but we were still very close. I decided to spend my next holiday in London but with another family member so i could see him daily, then our romance blossomed. he was my 1st kiss. We had the perfect winter romance. Holding hands and all that good stuff. He told me all the great lines, we should start a relationship and see how it goes. he insisted that he wanted to get married immediately but he would wait a year for me.
    I came to NIgeria so in LIKE. However, after about 3months, the calls reduced, mails reduced and after calling and mailing daily, i stopped too. I didnt hear from him for about a year.
    I moved on. dated a guy for a year, kept my virginity. Then after i broke up with the guy, i planned my revenge on my ex. i called him out of the blues. explained my recent breakup and how i want to just spend some time with him, 'no strings' to forget. he suggested we go outside london to a cool hotel and organised it all, picked me up from the airport. wined and dined me and then we were off for our weekend of debauchery (am sure he assumed i had turned to a freak, lol).
    Anyway, the first night, we got into the hotel very late, so i faked jet-lag and slept off. poor dude slept with a hard-on. Next morning, he took me shopping, then for lunch and all that good stuff. went to the cinema and we made out all through, cant remember a scene from that movie. so, on our way back to the hotel, it was already late, prior to the train ride, i was all over him, but 5 mins 2 d hotel, i started a huge fight (from nothing). he begged me the whole night to forgive him, nothing. he had a massive hard on all night and i suspect he wanked in the bathroom. i could care less. Next morning, as he was sleeping, i just bathed and took my train pass (which he paid for) and went back to london and to my family. Dude did not forgive me for yearsssssssss.
    We are friends now. Both married. i got great shopping, loads of meals, nice weekend get away from the 'fool' then, paddy now and that was my revenge.

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    1. 👏women?! You did all these for blueballs? You're a piece of work and have sympathy on your husband, if he hasn't fled yet!

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  59. I have never commented on this blog, but i loved the story of the girl who dropped her trad IV for her ex for revenge and thought i share mine.
    Mine was less dramatic but still effective. I met this guy when i moved to Abuja for Uni in 2003. I promised myself to wait till i was married before i had sex, and he seemed like a nice guy that would wait for me. I didnt date him immediately because he was a lot older than me and i was just getting into Uni and was enjoying my Jambite rush.
    A year later he relocated to London but we were still very close. I decided to spend my next holiday in London but with another family member so i could see him daily, then our romance blossomed. he was my 1st kiss. We had the perfect winter romance. Holding hands and all that good stuff. He told me all the great lines, we should start a relationship and see how it goes. he insisted that he wanted to get married immediately but he would wait a year for me.
    I came to NIgeria so in LIKE. However, after about 3months, the calls reduced, mails reduced and after calling and mailing daily, i stopped too. I didnt hear from him for about a year.
    I moved on. dated a guy for a year, kept my virginity. Then after i broke up with the guy, i planned my revenge on my ex. i called him out of the blues. explained my recent breakup and how i want to just spend some time with him, 'no strings' to forget. he suggested we go outside london to a cool hotel and organised it all, picked me up from the airport. wined and dined me and then we were off for our weekend of debauchery (am sure he assumed i had turned to a freak, lol).
    Anyway, the first night, we got into the hotel very late, so i faked jet-lag and slept off. poor dude slept with a hard-on. Next morning, he took me shopping, then for lunch and all that good stuff. went to the cinema and we made out all through, cant remember a scene from that movie. so, on our way back to the hotel, it was already late, prior to the train ride, i was all over him, but 5 mins 2 d hotel, i started a huge fight (from nothing). he begged me the whole night to forgive him, nothing. he had a massive hard on all night and i suspect he wanked in the bathroom. i could care less. Next morning, as he was sleeping, i just bathed and took my train pass (which he paid for) and went back to london and to my family. Dude did not forgive me for yearsssssssss.
    We are friends now. Both married. i got great shopping, loads of meals, nice weekend get away from the 'fool' then, paddy now and that was my revenge.

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    1. Yours makes a lot of sense. Not the other babe that was cheating on her boyfriend in the VISIBLE name of revenge... So wrong.
      The only time I pulled this stunt was in uni after dating someone briefly for a month. He was so into me and we had plans plus love. Suddenly, something happened and I just felt he was too tied to his elder sister's apron strings (the sis was 3 years ahead of us in the same school).
      I just went cold on him and he kept asking why. How I for tell him say he wasn't man enough for me?

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  60. Mamie's protege23 July 2014 at 17:20

    This sounds better!!! Don't mind that other girl wey dey tell us story

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  61. tintinabulation23 July 2014 at 17:28

    About 4 years ago, I met this guy who happens to be my Brother's friend at a wedding where he was a groomsman just like my brother. We got talking, exchanged emails&phone numbers. ..For me, it was love at first sight, I didn't know what his intentions were.
    The first 6 months was blissful, he called day& night, sometimes we spoke for hours on end. He lived in a different city&he visited my city, I also visited him after awhile. We spoke about sweet-nothings, visited places together and enjoyed each other's company (or so I thought).
    After about 6 months that we met, the calls stopped coming, Dude stopped replying my emails, I would call him&he won't pick the calls. I found excuses to visit his office, he didn't really want to see me.
    I was so devastated, he didn't even care. I was wallowing in self pity for the next 6months, Dude refused to budge, I cried a lot&my tears were my breakfast, lunch and dinner. I lost weight& became really emaciated. I asked Dude what my sins or offences were, he wouldn't tell me.
    Fast-forward to eighteen months after my meeting with Dude(6 months after mourning my loss), Mr Right(very rich&loving) came my way, we got married shortly after, when Dude heard from my Brother that I was married, he came back on bended knees sobbing saying he didn't know what entered his head when he stopped communicating with me.
    Dude sees my pictures on social media& knows that I'm truly happy in my marriage and wants to be friends again. ..no way, Fool! You had your chance but chose to blow it.
    Till today, he hasn't told me why he broke up with me.No regrets anymore.

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  62. Speaking from someone who has never been dumped, iv never spoken much English to them, they just always got the message. Cos before I leave u, u must have messed up big time and guess they just knew, im not the type of girl u beg.

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  63. Lionel Richie Tender heart. Al Green How can you mend a broken heart. Beyonce All I could do was cry. Natalie Imbruglia Torn. Dolly Parton We used to. A few songs for the broken hearted. D Keeper.

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  64. I dated dis guy for 3yrs..we wer good friends before i finally accepted to date em, bearing in mind he wasnt really my type.
    But he fell so hard for me and i just couldnt fall for him. One day i got fed up and left em. He prolly felt like this post stella.he would have killed for me.

    Just have this feeling he aint mine...

    My first love broke my heart..never did love that way again

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  65. Whether they do the breaking up, or I do it, I move on and leave them behind.
    I excommunicate my exes.
    Ask Charles who accused me of sleeping with my boss.
    Ask Franklyn who beat me and raped me cos he was 'crazy' about me.
    Ask Noono from awka who cheat on me and lied to my face cos he thought he was 'losing' me.
    Ask Tochukwu Ojimba who I fell in love with for the first time ever.
    Like someone said "if I break up with you, I don't know you.

    They all come back begging.
    Frank Etolue said he can never love another the way he loved me.
    Noono keeps calling wanting to see me.
    As for Charles, I'm done. He's a Frank in the making.

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  66. Mehnnnn!!!! Men and dier issues! Mine called me wtout quarrelling n said his pastor said if we get married the marriage won't work out (a guy who was a serious catholic) he also came up with the story that his mother didn't like me. I called up the mother immediately and the woman kept apologising claiming it's not true that he should be a man and tell me what his issues where, I couldn't stop crying for days. The sister later told me he went back to the lady he was dating before he met me. He's married to her now though but dude is a chronic womaniser and with what I hear and have seen I feel sorry for the wife. The woman's family sef they deal with am. Lol. I can only thank God for my life because am presently married to the love of my life with a beautiful baby girl.!!!



    Andre's Wifey

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  67. I just love ezewanyi.
    The realest woman here.

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  68. I have never experienced heart break tho. You misbehave and I leave you and don't call you. Don't pick your calls and don't text back. See you and act like you aren't there and I dint even hold it in my mind..

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  69. Stella wish I can forget. years ago but have forgiven him after the break up with me on phone via friend even till today,he never say sorry for acting like an animal .thanks God it end that way thou....animal oshomiador. =#foolauchiman#okotaiwo#loyo

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  70. Never had a break up without reasons mbanu. How can u tell me u dnt want a relationship anymore for no reasons? Na lie o...u must talk am out. D last guy dat wanted to try shege saw weeen in my hand. U must talk am o if not na broken head tins o. Anyway,I'm in a fix...after 4 yrs of being single,I finally connected with an old friend and discovered our love for each oda.problem is he has a girlfriend dat he doesn't feel anything for anymore but can't break up with cos he feels d gal is too fragile.(Rolls eyes) trying not to feel selfish n think about d oda gals feelings but this could be it! We av not had sex though. Need advice pls

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    1. Go and get your own man. Stay and be sleeping on a bicycle. He doesn't have feelings for her? Do u actually believe that? Learner ka I bu sha.

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  71. In retrospect, I think my ex was/is gay! He was too close to a popular northern governor for a boy from the SE!
    He'd drive this man all over Abuja late at night and tell me stories o, go into the mans bedroom and tell me about the mans shoes. If you understand northern men like I do you would know they would not pick a virtual unknown person especially an easterner for such things.

    I think we broke up because I did not make a good "beard". He still isn't married, everyone my age is.

    Thank GOD I didn't catch anything from the bleaching boy, I mean man! Spits.

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  72. My own was terrible o. I left my fiance for him when I jumped into love with him.cos I realized that I didn't really love the other guy and the guy went Jackie Chan on my ass. It was a blissful 11months of dating. I felt like Cinderella o,he lavished me with gifts,attention n affection until one day I went snooping n discovered he had another babe. I told brother to choose but he no gree,so I "left" him. I was still madly inlove with the dude tho.after some months of saying no,I finally succumbed to seeing him again. The other babe left him for someone else. For almost 6 months i felt we were dating again o,cos he was talking about getting me pregnant and stuff. I no no say na trick to take shag wella. I asked him how far one day,if we were getting back together or something,brother say na friends with benefits we be. My heart nearly fall out fom my chest. Na recover I still dey so o.

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  73. I asked my ex, and he said am from delta state, I got pisses, and told him to go hell

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  74. Aunt Stella. My story is very strange. Was in a relationship with this amazing guy, I was in school and he was in lag still searching for a job, we gt on well, fast forward to when I graduated he started acting weird always asking for sex like there's no tomorrow. He'll be nice when he wants sex after it he locks up, he Stopped telling me things, in fact I only gt to hear it from his mum and siblings with them having the notion that he had told me, started finding faults in every thing I do, he offends me and I still go back 2 beg, I took it to God in prayer that if he is nt the one 4 me, let me nt have peace of mind till we break up, that was hw I stopped all sexual relations wiv him and will stay so till my wedding night so help me God, I broke up with him only 4 him in a months time 2 tell me he found another girl, guess who my friend in secondary school who I have asked on several occasions if they were dating cos he always put up her pics and he calls his mum, sis and her his special women. I felt horrible I cried for days I still feel hurt, and its still affecting the way I relate with men, and too think she came and spent a whole 2wks @ his place she was even shocked wen she saw me smiling like a goat, and I went there cos we family friends my mum sent me 2 his mum dat was hw I gt 2 knw. And to think the bastards even tried to kiss me after the girl left!! Gush men re heartless, I insulted him in front of his family, nw if he sees me he runs away!!! Rubbish mofo. Some men re terrible.

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  75. Mine dey like Telemondu.
    My first love: I loved him purely, no games no schemes, good old love. We finished school, he got a job before me, suddenly I became "old and local". He would break up with me date other babes, tell me about them how better than me they were then when it didnt work out he would come back beg and apologise, I would always take him back because I reasoned we had history and each time I would tell myself the next time would be different.
    Anyway, as usual he stopped calling, I didnt bother again, saw his wedding photos, wished him well and continued my life, I dont have it in me to be mean to anyone so most times people assume I am a fool. I give 110 percent to my family and relationships.

    Something happened and I came through for him, stood, used all my contacts to ensure all went well, he called blessed me and prayed for me, I thanked him. His wife gave birth his mom came to town and didnt know how to get to the hospital, she called me and I left work to take her there, saw the baby, stayed with them, gisted and left, my mind still pure.
    He would request to add me on BBM and then keep posting about his family, me would always say kind things and wish them the best, when ever I changed phones I wouldnt reinvite him he would discover and start begging me to re add him.

    All the while he would make taunting statements because I wasnt married, me I would simply say I am not competing with anyone and God is taking his time to design my own man. Heart break after heart break I still moved with my head held high not worrying or freting, one day I asked him why he just stopped talking to me and he said he feared I would grow fat and age faster than him, funny thing is he is so huge now and looks twice his age while I still look the same way I did 15 years ago.

    Anyway he recently asked me to readd him again, and then he noticed I was married and pregnant and very very happy and my own God specially designed hawt younger husband was always on my DP. He deleted me lol. Its all very funny but I learned patience, forgiveness and how to never be bitter from the years of dealing with him.

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  76. All this women always lie they r in a better place, thank God they left, new hubby is better bla bla black, bullshit, all my divorced Ex always trying to get back with me n said am the one that got away.

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  77. Dude was my 1st love, met him after my Secondary Sch while he was serving in Kano. The lond dist no gree us shag but we exchanged lots of letters and phone calls. By d time I was in 200lv he was already established in his business and was spoiling me with goodies, mind you we never still gum body o. I remember my roommates telling me that I should sharply sleep with d guy or else tori go enter d rlship. At a point, bros come start to behave funny. He rarely calls and always dodged my calls with excuses of being busy. Omo, na im I tear race go find am for where im dey stay. Dude no even gree touch me sef. Na shame I take come back to school. Two days later, he called me and said it was over, no reason given. My whole world came crashing down. Mind you, he had already met my parents to tell them his intention. I didn't know how to face my parents, my roomies (who later found out and made me more miserable). Fast forward 2years later walahi I was still hurting badly, As I was getting ready for NYSC plenty suitors full ground in fact I was pretty serious with one already na im one of my neighbors who dey always tease me say I be d brother wife called me. She was like the brother was around and I should just come and say hi. Lo n behold, im brother na my ex o! Come and see drama!!! Na their to ri full ground. Dude say I'm pastor tell am say I be Mammy water wey won destroy am. Orishirishi story o! He begged for forgiveness but omo, I no gree again o. I told him how I felt and walked out. My neighbor join dey beg. They went to apologize to my parents and everything.
    To cut long story short, I married him 3 years later, we are celebrating our 10years wedding anniversary in Nov with our 3 sons.
    Sorry for the loong story plus the gbaguans. Madam Stella I hail o.

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    1. Interesting.... Thank God for your lives.

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  78. He loved me to heaven and back!he was at my beck and call!he loved my family!i couldn't let go because he was too nice..but when he eventually fixed a date for our marriage..i realised it was no child's play!i never gave him a reason!i just walked away!his whole family was devastated!i could not share the reasons with anyone!under anonymous..i can do that here.his dick was overly big!sex was pain not pleasure.i couldn't imagine spending the whole of my life with that PIRANHA.i ran!

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    1. Congrats dear! Hope u ain't single no more cos if you are, better tell him to help his condition. Not all women like oganiwe**** mbanu

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  79. Anyone who experienced heart break with this serial lover, Alex Abugo really Knows heart break can kill. Gloria Akosa

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  80. Yes I met this Alex abugo guy, he asked me out, he did everything to get my attention. This guy behaved very shady, he told me how he was a robber and did so many 419 stuffs. I watched him closely, always from on police case to the other. He said that he has turned a new life and he needs prayers from. I decided not to judge him from his past. We became close friends. I wanted to find out more about him to know what his real intention is in my life, I traced him to his house in festac after our first date, made friend with one of his neighbour. The neighbour now told me how he uses girls and he was still involved in his 419 act, I now stopped responding to his messages and calls, he told me I broke his heart but I still never told him why I cut the friendship so fast. When someone is evil you don't have to give them reasons for disconnecting let their conscience judge them.

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  81. Painful as heart break can be, I still believe the best revenge is to walk away with your head held high.
    My ex was the most stingy man I ever met. Not that he wasn't well to do. Giving wasn't just his thing. Mist if our breakups in the past was usually because I asked for something as he never gives without you asking.
    December las year, I asked him for money to get a pair of shoes, he ended up giving me just half of the money I asked for. I accepted it without grudges cos I alredy knew that giving was an issue for him. A month later, he took me out, gave me a mind blowing head nd then told me we had to break up cos of some filmsy reasons. I told him it was OK by me nd left. Deep inside, I knew d reasons he gave me were not d real reasons for calling off d relationship but then I cared less. It was good riddance to bad rubbish. Despite his many flaws, it still felt painful but then, life goes on.

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