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Friday, August 01, 2014

Baby Mama Drama - Blog Visitor Narrative.





You conquered a baby mama drama?great!.....come in here please!





''Dear Stella
Help me ask your Blog Visitors how they cope with spouse with baby mama?
Am engage to a guy that fathered twins from a troublesome woman @ first I thought d guy was lying cos he didn't tell me about the twins initially But since d lady found out about me and the marriage plans,it has been one trouble or the other, I  have not rested and neither has my phone too.. 


She even promised to come with the twins to the wedding . I begged my fiance  to consider her and stay cos of the children he swore to remain single forever instead of staying with her. I have fasted and prayed and all I hear is he is God's will. 

I am totally confused cos we have done our intro and I don't know how to explain to my folks that i am no longer interested in the marriage ........besides I  am in love with him too.''

189 comments:

  1. Imagine this story...

    Oya those who have babymama wahala, help her.

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    1. Abeg who get 2Face/2baba fone number. Poster go Rumors for ikeja. U fit see 2face. Tell am say na Annie him wife u wan see. She's the best person 2advise u cos she was/is in ur shoes

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    2. Stella I need help, am married but so in love with my ex, my family made me marry my husband and I don't love him even after our child. The problem is I ve started having see with my ex. What do I do

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    3. Make sure you sort things out first before proceeding with the wedding. Your fance should have a working plan and sort of a friendly relationship with the lady be cause of the kids.

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    4. In the same boat with u o..although I wasn't forced by my parents to marry my hubby. I love my ex more, we are yet to av sex but we've done all things imaginable.

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    5. I once dated a guy who has a set of twin from his ex,he was to marry her but her bad character which I noticed some of later made him not to. I knew about the twin boys from the onset cos they stay with him,he takes them to see her in a fast food joint once a month. When time came for me to marry this guy,the otherwise quiet ex suddenly became erratic. Always calling,texting and warning me not to marry her husband or else bla bla bla. Omo,i no go lie! I had to run for my dear life o! Especially when I heard her dad is a native doctor and her mum a juju priestess. It was a very painful decision but I had to leave him for her even though he,his friends and his mum kept begging me to stay. I can't stand baby mama wahala cos u never can tell the extent they'll go to have the man back. So,poster, if you know you aren't spiritually grounded,dont go ahead yet o. Tell him to sort things out first. If possible,the three of you and some few trusted family and friends can sit together and iron things out before you enter marriage and start seeing hell. All the best in your final decision.

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    6. He doesn't have any right whatsoever to have kept such huge secret from you. He should have told you about her and the twins from the onset tho. Just slow down and don't rush wedding him yet. He is the man, let him sort his ish out first.
      Anon that has started sleeping with her ex, more oil to your engine. The day you will be caught, your eyes will clear. That's when you will realise that you don't love the said ex one bit because he will deny you.

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    7. Mamie's protege2 August 2014 at 08:31

      Katie onise, reporting for duty. Shun ma!!
      This early momo na im you don reach here again. Na wa!

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    8. Na so..'shez troublesome',na so e tell u abi?yet she neva design u wit Acid?may wat happned 2 her not b ur portion else,u go see trouble manifest 4rom ur innermost self...wen will women b eachodas keeper 4 God's sake?SMH

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    9. Anon sleeping with her ex and Anon "in love with " her ex, both of you need Jesus. Lol...
      On a more serious note though, love is a decision you make and not a feeling. Decide to love your husband/wife and you'll see the difference. None of you mentioned your reasons for not loving your spouse, so it's safe to say that they are good to you so far.
      Please take time out and read Gary Chapman's "Things i wish i knew before i got married " it will change your perspective a bit. It worked for me.
      As for the exes you talk about, it's crystal clear that they don't love, value or respect you. Do you think if you leave your husband for that ex things will be better? If you think so, i sorry you!
      As soon as you do, na that time you go hear your ashawo gist from your so called lover's mouth.
      A word is enough for the wise.

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    10. Abegi..forget dat 'shez troublesome'tin..am a man,any woman will b troublesome if u continually treat her wrong,d man is d ish

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  2. Poster,go and learn how to fight both Physically and spiritually...

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    1. Learn how to fight because of a man? Oriegwu!

      Poster if you like no borrow brain. So because the woman is fighting for the father of her kids, you too want to fight for the father of your unborn children? Women can be stupid atimes.
      So in your mind now you think the man would have stayed if the tables were turned?
      And he even get liver keep such thing from you.
      That guy na wetin we call LIAR OF LIFE

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    2. Adaorable Cutie....d mouth on u though...LMAO.buh jokes apart,u said it all.

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  3. I will advise you to put the wedding on hold for now and tell your man to go and sort out things with his babymama...

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    1. That is just the simple truth.Postpone the wedding untill everything is settled.

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    2. IYALAJE OF SDK BLOG2 August 2014 at 02:50

      I support that, he needs to go sort things out properly first, madam poster give time time, for now baby mama is hurting she sure needs tym to cool...Pele Lin Lin

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    3. That's what I think too.
      #yawns# it's 3:43 am and I have been up for a while now, feeding this boy,cuddling and putting to sleep. The dude doesn't sleep at night but can sleep all through the day.....phew....

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    4. Mrs D congrats again :) . Not to worry with time he will sleep through the night but in d meantime make sure u sleep during the day with him. God continue to give us strenght. Right now am watching cartoons without volume so as not to wake my princess lol

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    5. Mrs D,awww...sorry o.my son sleeps through d day too,only waking up to feed.den. around 6pm,he is up(his own day)i feed him and around 7,he has his bath and den he is up from dat 7 till anytime between 10 and 12 midnight.den he wakes up on once at night to feed.and goes right back to bed.my second daughter as a baby used to go to beD by 6:30 n slept via d night without waking up Till 6:30 or 7 am d next day.hoping my son wil change wit time.dat waking up to feed dey hard o.Jisike.

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  4. Trouble in paradise,keep praying n God will see u thru

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    1. @poster, I 'was'. In your position as at late last year.
      He is from my place and before my mum of blessed memory passed on, she wanted me to get married to someone from our place. That in-line made me to hang on to the relationship irrespective of the fact that his baby mama was loud and obnoxious coupled with her debilitating tongue.
      It was deleterious to me, cos there was a situation I had to block her on Facebook and whatsapp, 'till present'.
      I told God about it, I'm from polygamous home. Y should I entangle my life with babymama ish at this early phrase of my life, I have not moved in with him and there are lots of transcending acrimonies, so what happens when I move in?
      It was effete for me. Besides, I was deeply in love with him.
      Subsequently, I considered the babymama's tantrum, I felt her pain, bcos she was a lady like me. Apparently it became a situation where the 'flesh is willing, but the spirit is weak.' They were also aggregated tendencies in unpalatable notes.

      You shouldnt crease in your prayer cos that was what I did.
      I communed with God, and he gave me the signs why I shouldn't proceed with our marriage plans.
      I broke up with him!
      It was the most derogatory period of my life.
      Fast forward few months later, God directed someone to me at ease. God connected us together, someone who really wants to meet my people.

      One thing I am so certain of, is the part of the Bible that says: "The blessing of the Lord maketh rich and added no sorrow." That whatever is not of God breeds contempt.

      The grass is never greener on the other side, "most times" it's only a fallacy of reasoning.

      Best of luck!

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    2. Derogatory! Slow down fa!

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    3. Princess charming 2 thumbs up.

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    4. Pele o mrs Patrick .,, mchew, kilofa English. I have to carry dictionary to read comments now? Deleterious, effete... There is God!

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    5. Loooool.....hian! This Princess Charming sef. Must somebody open dictionary when reading your comments? Supu beke!

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    6. I don't think princess charming has a great command of the English language. I think when she wants to post a comment; she goes online and looks up synonyms of certain words before she types or just sprinkles words she has heard from other people. After all the big words she used in this comment, what gave her away was the word "phase".... you can never accidentally write "phrase" when you want to say "phase of my life"........ then fast forward down to her use of the word *derogatory*!!! if she knew the meaning, she wouldn't put it in that sentence.... How can you say going through a sad phase was "belittling" to you??? I'm calling you out Babe please stop! Just start writing normal abbreviated english, because that's all you are good at.
      You're no Prince Charming from LIB...... so stop!

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    7. Buhahahahaaa make una no crucify me abeg.
      Na this abuja cold weather cause am! Lool.

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    8. Thank you anon 12:28. Was reading her comment and just kept going.. "WTF".. Abeg, just type everyday English for us biko. This misplaced big grammar is not enough to impress anyone. Daalu o!

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  5. Postpone the marriage
    Don't pick or deal with the baby mama
    Ask the guy to put himself and all the drama in order or he should remain single
    Crazy baby mama's are not predictable o

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    1. You no go like run?. You still dey de ask questions?.

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    2. Poster just postpone the marriage ooo. Crazy baby mama??? ....run for your life. Make she no go pour you acid. A guy I used to date had this crazy baby mama...jeez!!!...thank God I wasn't in love. Bitch kept buzzing my line&ranting all sorts. A friend of his that envied our relationship even fueled the crazy baby mama's tantrums cos he wanted us to break so bad, maybe he thought he would have a shot at me if the guy was no longer in the picture. Mtschew. Na one day I just tell my guy...fuck you mehn!..I'm done taking this shit. And Illeft...deleted him from all my social media accounts,blocked him where necessary.ignore him&his friend's calls. So my dear. Crazy baby mamas are really crazy. I wouldn't do that if I were you.

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  6. My dear u need prayers also talk with ur fiance's family let them meet with the baby mama and her family so that they can beg her to stop harrassing you. Thank God your fiance has made it clear that he doesn't want his baby mama so I think u should stick with him but resolve the baby mama ish before the wedding sha.

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  7. Hmmmmm nawa ooh!! VIVICANDY

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  8. I thank GOD for the gift of a baby girl that HE just added to my beautiful family. GOD has Bn so good to me in all ways, ,and I feel so blessed.

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  9. Awwwww..I love twins.Obviously the baby mama is hurt,its normal.just put the wedding on hold so he can sort out his issues..Its well

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  10. The guy should sort it out with her. The only problem is where baby mama wants to get back together and the baby daddy doesn't want to. She already seems like a "if I can't get him nobody will " type. So you have to be careful and be sure it's Gods will oh.

    Read about the marriage trap on my blog
    www.funmireese.blogspot.com

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  11. Pls go ahead with your plans but make sure you do all due diligence. Pray and God will see you through. Good luck.

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  12. Baby mama no = marriage?I understand the shit cos am married to a baby daddy.if you get the strength it's what you will surely overcome.we all ve a past!just tell your guy to go sort things with Iya ibeji.since the kids are tender they are best left in her hands for now.your guy should work out modality for sending cash to her without the two of them having contact alone,the kids are innocent,you both can visit them on a neutral ground frm time to time.it's not really easy!let Annie Idibia be our mentor.she is handling her husband shit with a lot of caution.

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  13. Chei....Chineke God, the kind of things people dey yarn you. No wonder they say you are slow to anger.

    I can imagine if it was my agbara that them yarn this kind of nonsense, im for don give somebody Leprosy.

    And to even say she dey hear "will of God"

    Oluwa, Obatogaa, Ubangiji, Chineke...You really are merciful.

    Babe, calmly ask the mama twins wetin this guy tell am before.

    A man who would abandon his little Children and their mother will eventually abandon you.

    Be guided and stop lying to yourself. God is not the author of confusion. This is pure confusion.

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    1. LOOL Native Doctor Agwoturumbe. Come chop Kiss joor...
      But hope say u don wash your mouth this morning.

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    2. @N.Dr. Agwoturumbe. You ve said it all, sir.
      Poster, kindly take heed to this instructions.

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  14. Tell ur spouse to go put his house in order. See as d thing hook am- 2-shots in one. When he puts it in order then he can do the needful with you. Otherwise you don inherit everlasting trouble be that oh.

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  15. So , of all the men in this world , u go select wahala . Tomorrow u will come bk and say u wanna liv a troublesome marriage . I don't know y ppl like selecting future problems dat they can't handle in d future

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    1. Obviously u are a baby mama! Abeg make una stop to dey use belle trap man! Poster abeg go ahead and marry ur man!

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    2. Seun is anoda teenager on this blog creating confusion . I ain't no baby mama , am a guy . @poster look well b4 u leap or u fall enter well . Dint he know her character b4 getting her pregnant , ladies should pls be careful on d type of guy that comes their way bikokwa

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    3. Seun something tells me u r in this sorta situation too.

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  16. The guy doesnt want her. She shld rest jor and stop giving you stress.
    Posh K.

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  17. ANGELRAY SAYS
    Hehehehehe na baby mama wahala na destroy my sister relationship of 9 yrs'I hope u are ready for spiritual battle,some men yeye sha,if u wan play away match y not use condom,abeg tell ur guy to park well cos I no get advice for una.

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  18. ANGELRAY SAYS
    Hehehehehe na baby mama wahala na destroy my sister relationship of 9 yrs'I hope u are ready for spiritual battle,some men yeye sha,if u wan play away match y not use condom,abeg tell ur guy to park well cos I no get advice for una.

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  19. a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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    Really baby mama drama.....
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    ***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

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  20. ANGELRAY SAYS
    tell her to ask Annie idibia how she dealt with hers cos she had multiple baby mamas to deal with so she's in a better position to advice, hehehehehe laughing in Chinese language.

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  21. ANGELRAY SAYS
    tell her to ask Annie idibia how she dealt with hers cos she had multiple baby mamas to deal with so she's in a better position to advice, hehehehehe laughing in Chinese language.

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  22. ANGELRAY SAYS
    tell her to ask Annie idibia how she dealt with hers cos she had multiple baby mamas to deal with so she's in a better position to advice, hehehehehe laughing in Chinese language.

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  23. Why did he not marry the baby mama?

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  24. Stumbling block. Get a counsellor real fast and some prayer warriors. The good Lord will help you.

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  25. Be strong and fight for what's yours. The guy doesn't want her as fas as he takes care of the twins, that's all that matters. Get rdy coz baby mama will try to make your life a living hell buh if u show her some tough skin, she is gonna back down. FYI, marry d guy

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    1. Guys ain't loyal. Marry the guy and be ready to do battle. In this case silence is golden but never cease from praying.

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    2. Marrying the man is not d issue,can she deal with having her husband go over to meet his baby mama bcos of d kids? D husband might end up impregnatin d baby mama again...Let her not come back here later crying that her husband is having an affair with his baby mama..
      Its only a desperate babe that will settle down with a baby daddy.

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    3. chizoba so becos man born outside e no get right to marry and be happy. it takes maturity from both end. so if girl carry belle outside wedlock na your type go first shout say the lady na ashewo. pls am not holding fort for anybody. nobody holy pass another. make God no let you leave your husband tomorrow.

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    4. @LoveAso-oke,If i leave my husband i go come marry ur papa.

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  26. Go and ask Tiwa Savage, she should know better...lol

    I think your fiance should go sort out tinx with her, it isn't enough for you to call off the wedding plans...

    After all, 'baby mama' ish and 'serial husband' be trending. Just have an open heart, incase you have to live with the kids 'tomorrow' ...

    And please be strong, spiritually/physically.

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  27. Hmmm.....the story sef get as e be.

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  28. My dear like you not prayed before and tell God what you want if he is God's will for just as u said God should send on an exile. Its well dear you shall overcome.

    Let's give you that magical torch on that special day Zibah's signature (events house)

    Sharon was here

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  29. I see no reason why a guy will have twins and want to re marry he rather remain single than re marry,as for d gal ask your man to go and sort out his problem with his baby mama.plz do look for another man

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    1. What do u mean remarry?he was never married madam! Read the story again!

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    2. Mamie's protege2 August 2014 at 08:36

      Seun, are you the owner of the story? Cool down for yemoja abeg! Still on the matter is your husband to be Abolore Ak and a.k.a 9ice Mr gongo aso? Is this the gongo that want to so?
      Pls reply.

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    3. I said it! Seun I put it to u that u have babymama drama.

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  30. But wait oo can't he get security to stop her from coming to the wedding.my own special day one useless girl will want to mk a mess of it, I ll beat her eeehn she won't be able to work home.


    Mr Lyca

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    1. if she strong pass you nko. you come disgrace urself for your day.

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    2. Na y I go need security by side mk I deal with the so called baby mama, I go just consider my children

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  31. She thought she can trap the guy with children.. just postpone for now

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  32. Men! When he was busy straffing the baby mama till she delivered twins he no knw... Mtchew... He better go and marry the baby mama and make u find ur husband go front...except if u want drama for a very long while...

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  33. Poster, if you're not interested, abeg sign out now o!
    Because she'll always be connected to your fiance because she's the mother of his kids.

    It;s a tough call, but remember your happiness is paramount.
    God's grace to you!!

    Get Clear Skin With Scent Leaves (Efinrin or Nchuanwu)

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  34. Your story isn't complete. Is/was he married to her?

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    1. So daft! U don't know who a baby mama is?

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    2. Lmaooooo easy but you would have just told her him/her to go through the story again.



      Mr Lyca.

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    3. Seun u r a goat!
      u must consider the nature of his relationship to the mother of the twins.
      This girl talking could be a side piece trying to breakup a home.

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  35. A woman in my office had a similar thing happen to her. In her case, the groom didn't accept any responsibility for the child born out of wedlock. The woman called her weeks before the wedding and told her that she (my colleague) will not be happy in that marriage and the marriage will have no issue. My dear till today (3 years) later, no pregnancy. The man has even taken another wife and driven my colleague out..even after she said she doesn't mind him bringing a second wife as their religion (islam) permits it. Before you go ahead, make sure you are ready for physical and spiritual battles... Most especially the spiritual battles. Be very prayerful. God be with you.

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  36. *make I go check my pot of beans wey dey fire, I dey come bck to comment*

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  37. Hmm...

    I'm very interested in the replies.
    Imma refresh this page till dawn

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  38. She promised to attend the wedding? Do you mean as a guest? I'm confused cos you didn't indicate if it means a threat to distrupt proceedings. My guess is that she plans to pull a 'Lilian Akiyesi'. Anyway, You truly want to marry this man hence you threw in 'God's will' for effect. Here's what you should do. Suspend the wedding. Let mama ibeji rant and rave for a while.If she gets worse with time,it shows she's a fighter of life.At that point,you ve to be the attacker. Nor let her phone rest. She go shock.Spread her moblie numbers around. Let her entertain confrontational calls from your clique(sisters and friends). Bullies can't take so much. While carrying out those,quietly, jejely go and marry your 'will of God',with only a select few as witnesses;your folks,his folks and very close allies. No cards,no noise,no asoebi.When the storm calms,you can always have a big wedding,or as its called after the fact, renewal of vows *RME. After all said and done, na your change of name for newspaper, go make her come politely to seek for mandatory monthly up~ keep for her kids.Yes,she must be given her allocation o! When you start to ve kids,bounderies will be set. She go sofry sofry chill like Pero(deep amebos know what I mean).And you,for peace sake, must drop your weapon by taking a cue from 'Annie'. Agree with God in your deepest heart,to love the kids by this woman! For now,let her rant,while you pray for strength and lion~heart to raise the bar for the successful execution of plan B.Don't forget to recruit loyal cohorts. Sometimes, you gat to fight dirty to set your destiny in motion!

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    1. La experience!

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    2. E go reach 10 children wey u bf get o wide eyed!experienceoflife!

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    3. LOOl @ wide eye..
      These are the physical part of it, you forgot to advise her on the spiritual aspect oo.
      Like I hope she is spiritually grounded in all categories cos, e get the kind prayer way she go table b4 baba God, him go turn him back on her.
      #justsaying...

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    4. wide eyed indeed your eye wide.

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    5. Mamie's protege2 August 2014 at 08:38

      Annie Idibia a.k.a Wide eyed I throway yansh for you. Experience speaking.

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    6. I never jam baby mama...if u like advertise her phone number on CNN,she wont give a damn..its only a shameless desperate lady that will go to this lenght to marry a baby daddy..The fact is that the baby mama will always be in his life marriage or no marriage..He fit give her belle again..

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    7. @Wide Eyed, why don't I love you at times.
      Always looking forward reading your comments and that of BlogLord, even Mamie.
      Love u guys loads.

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    8. @Wide Eyed....lol.....experience speaking...

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  39. Linda you are right,she should tell the man to put his life in order while the wedding is on hold.She should also speak to the man's family they will know how to handle her since they approve you guys coming together.

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  40. It's not something that should be taken lightly.

    It needs to be sorted out BEFORE you get married. I beg you.

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  41. Men and their stress! Why won't he marry the mother of his children? Anyway, it is well with you Poster!

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  42. Baby mamas are the devil! Period

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  43. Abegi d guy is nt coming out straight jare. I married a man with baby mama nd she was also troublesome, always disturbing my fone nd i jus reasoned where did she get my fone no frm b4 i discovered it was hubby younger bro dat gave her. It is eida ur man is still giving her face nd cnt say its over cos i dnt c reason y she is raising fire nd brimstones. Past shld b past, if there is no green light frm ur man to her, i dnt fink she ll stil b disturbing u cos aw did she get ur fone no nd aw did she no u guys r getting married. Wen an outsider knows so much of ur info,check ur insider. If it is truly over btw ur guy nd his baby mama she wont ve gust to threaten to want to scatter ur wedding. She shld ve moved on. Ask ur guy very well. He is stil hiding some times nd he shld stop playin mind game of nt marrying if its her, dat one na stories for d gods.

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    1. U no get sense at all o!u think say everybody mumu like u?na ur desperation put u where u dey so!

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    2. Seun, abeg calm down for jesus! Abi na you be the babymama?

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    3. If u are so proud of marrying a man with baby mama,why do u have to comment with anon? No right thinking lady with class will do dat...During my spinster days,i had a suitor with baby mama,i told him to go back and marryher that i cant bring myself down to settle with his type...Thank God today i'm married to a sweet guy with no baby mama drama.
      Ladies pls dont settle for less.

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    4. @chozioba so u self don marry, feel sorry for the man. U too get class? Local champion

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    5. @anon10;24 Be sorry for urself..ozu nwuru anwu na esi isi..Baby daddy oshi..Imbecile!

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  45. There is no way the guy can deal with this crazy baby mama . Get ready for the fight of your life

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  46. Hmmmm. Dont call her "troublesome" just yet o! Why don't u hear her out and listen to wht she has to say? How do u know she's his ex? If he had nothing to hide he would've told u about his ex and his OWN children before he even proposed to u! Thats a huge red flag right there and a man that can hide such things can hide ANYTHING. If i were u i'd say to be more careful of him than the BM sef.

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    1. Yes ooo...for her to still be shouting...she is getting support from somewhere...either he is giving her face or someone close to him is supporting her. When she is ignored and "abandoned" completely she won't have the guts to rant.

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    2. @ anony 3:48am. You are definitely correct.
      Poster, make u dey read ooh.

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  47. That she is a baby mama does not mean the man must marry her. You cant force anyone to marry you or live with you.

    My dear, if you really love the man, go ahead and marry him.Put bouncers at the gate of the wedding venue to look out for her.

    Note:If you are the type that can't handle troubles, do not enter that marriage. The man needs a physically and spiritually strong woman to fight this war.

    I don't know why women make themselves look cheap and desperate. If a man does not want you, walk away shoulder high. I am married to a good man and it is my prayer that we stay forever, but if he wakes up one day and says he does not want me anymore, I would feel bad but I wont force myself on him. Forcing yourself on someone will only make your life miserable.
    Rose

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    1. Thanks Rose sensible ccomment

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  48. Make sure you sort things out first before proceeding with the wedding. Your fance should have a working plan and sort of a friendly relationship with the lady be cause of the kids.

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  49. I can even advise any1 to marry a man who ve a half child talkless of 2. Pls dere stop d wedding. There can never be peace. Baby mama will always come in between u n ur man. I'm a living proof

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  50. You haven't entered yet and you are already experiencing trouble.
    Put the wedding on hold and let the man sort himself out
    While you stay out of it before the baby mama lays a curse on you
    Besides how old are the twins?
    How long have you been in r/ship with ur man?
    Why did he break up with the baby mama?
    Why didn't he tell u from the beginning of the relationship,guess he wanted you to fall in love with him first b4 he let's d cat out of the bag
    Let your family know what is going on so they can intervene
    Hope your man supports n care for his twins
    My dear if you have strength to battle wt the troublesome baby mama,you can go ahead cos if it wr to be me I no fit,I need my peace,and I have other things to pray for.

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  51. First up,y didn't d guy tell u abt d twins initially?derez a clause dere...second of all,he told u shez a 'troublesome woman' nd poor u belived him hook line nd sinker...hv u heard from her end?cos all dese guyz can lie 4 Africa ontop anoda woman head jst 2 get deir way wit u at some point...marryn u isn't a sure bet he ll treat u beta if he is d 1 wit d big head...my candid advice,find out 4rom people around if u can't find out 4rom d baby mama directly..u ll b shocked wat her pain is...wat if he dated her for yrs,put her in a family way (twins 4 dat mattr),promised her marriage nd now dis..shez prolly up on trouble now cos she feels cheated nd d ideaa of 'where do I turn 2 wit 2 babies'...b humane 4 once n imagine ur self in her shoes...like I said,guys can lie 4 Africa,forget all d crap he has told u nd find out urself...nd if atall,hez innocent of all dese,let him sort himself wit her nd not put ur life in a risk,life has gat no duplicate,if anytin hapns 2 u now,trust me,hez up on d next in 24hrs or even d babymama so...m out!

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    1. GBAM!!! Where is d like button for dis comment?? I love dis... Well said.... Poster, pls follow dis advice

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    2. This is the only reasonable comment here. Trust me, the heediot can never be innocent.
      Poster, why do you want to subject yourself to an everlasting torture? If the tables were turned, that gut will not stay.
      At this juncture, I implore you to use your brain.

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    3. Best coment eva!poster,i beg u 2 listen 2 dis..my close friend was a victim of dis..dats ow d guy lied d baby mama was full of trouble,crazy lady etc...she went ahead 2 marry him,only 4 her 2 realise hez a DEVIL!!!only 3yrs into d marriage,dude was already on anodaa woman now sayn same abt her...dey r soon 2 b wedded traditionally..all dese guys,fear dem!u beta open ur eyes b4 u call anoda woman troublesome!

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    4. @ anony 5:10am....plz swerve and chop my kiss 1000x.
      Two thumbs up for ds comment.
      Post Shey u dey hear fa?

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  52. Husband scarce O!
    Take it from a fellow lady..hold him tight.
    All your prayers shall not be in vain. Bind and cast all monitoring spirit a la babymama

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    1. Hush already! Where husband scarce? Don't you know that wives are scarce too? Oh, you are a girlfriend material looking for a husband material ehh kwa? Lie lie

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    2. Taaaaaaaaaar which husband scarce?
      @Poster, no listen to this woman oo.
      Even if she's in her 40's she will definately get a husband.
      I know of 2 matured ladies in their early/mid 40's. One of them married a matured guy in his 40's too who hasn't been married for once, the other married a widower. So what re you saying?
      Leave that thing abeg!

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    3. This one na desperado. So in your mind marriage na achievement...without checking if its a good or bad one. Shior

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  53. My dear, postpone the wedding till you sort things out. In the meantime, get prepared spiritually cos its not going to be easy! May God see u through

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  54. Poster,please try and speak with the lady in question maybe d guy should conduct a family meeting where everyone ll be present inc!uding d lady so she can voice her mind out,,there after u can decide wat step to take..i suspect something fishing

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  55. Poster,please try and speak with the lady in question maybe d guy should conduct a family meeting where everyone ll be present inc!uding d lady so she can voice her mind out,,there after u can decide wat step to take..i suspect something fishing

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  56. New trend for naija ,babe ur guy dey take care of d twins? He dey send money for upkeep.if he dey do thatthen he try but come to think of it why did u made mention of troublesome uhmmm bcos of ordinary fonecalls,wait till she pour acid on u.if it is u after twins and ur man dumps u with no upkeep,how ll u take it wheeewww.look we ve christians who handle tins smoothly in God's way,why some ll go extra lent.first and foremost make some enquires about this lady if she is just the type who talks only or the talk and do,,if she is this type then run witout looking back dear...goodluck

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  57. New trend for naija ,babe ur guy dey take care of d twins? He dey send money for upkeep.if he dey do thatthen he try but come to think of it why did u made mention of troublesome uhmmm bcos of ordinary fonecalls,wait till she pour acid on u.if it is u after twins and ur man dumps u with no upkeep,how ll u take it wheeewww.look we ve christians who handle tins smoothly in God's way,why some ll go extra lent.first and foremost make some enquires about this lady if she is just the type who talks only or the talk and do,,if she is this type then run witout looking back dear...goodluck

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  58. See men oo!! Thunder strike d guy dia!! Him nor no say d girl get bad character b4 he give am belle??? Abegg eeeee,,poster,na ur type be husband snatcher,@poster;reply me nd die by shorpornor....................UGBUAKU

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    1. Yes ooo, na she snatch the baby mama husband ni

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    2. ROF...hahahahahahahahahahaaaa@ shorpornor.
      Choooiii Sdkers..@Linda eze you re right oo this true true resemble okija wife handwork.

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  59. My dr plz let him sort himself out first b4 u enter d marriage, broken engagement is better than a broken marriage.4 my my hubby has a daughter Wt an American lady (akata)my own better cos she no go come down here and give m wahala.besides my hubby dsnt communicate wiher again.and ththank God I hav a son.anyway he had d baby jus 2 get his papers. K bye

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    1. Whether papers or not that's his blood if the mama no cm just pray the child doesn't give you problem at your old age.

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  60. Run for ur life . Men are evil . My ex hubby baby mama was a demon . She made sure my marriage broke up . At a stage he ganged up with her to cus me out on phone. He will go see her secretly . I Neva had peace in the marriage for one day . I'd rather be single than marry a man with baby mama. Are you up for the spiritual warfare ? No go die for nothing o . Be warned.

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  61. I had baby Mama drama before I got married to my hubby. The woman would call our house phone because hubby used to call his daughter using that line. Day and night calls would come thru threatening me and telling me that she was the wife as she said that in Yoruba culture once u have a baby then u are the wife. Well I didn't entertain her drama as she would call and ask for hubby saying it was the wife I would tell her politely that I will tell him to call her. She heard that he was getting married and tried to keep on calling and shouting and she never used to get any response from me. I heard that she only came to tell hubby when she was 5 months pregnant. He has told her to go and do DNA but she didn't agree and does not allow the baby since to see the family. Well that is life. Women let us not trap men with pregnancy thinking that they will marry. U will be miserable at the end of the day. Na only u waka come.

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    1. But did your hubby not sleep with her without protection?
      You my dear, are the learner in this case. So you think the ashawo you married has stopped sleeping with her? Trust yorubas na

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    2. I thought u saiid d lady did not allow d family to see d baby since she refused to do DNA test? So which daughter is ur husband calling with ur house phone?
      Abeg comot here..U no sabi lie...mtcheeeeew!

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  62. As 4 m I prefer wen d baby mama is not a Nigerian maybe d man had d baby in d cause of getting his papers.meanwhil most naija guyz wey dey america get baby mama.and dey also hav families down here too.if he tells u he dsnt hav my dr make ur research well and u will b amazed. So baby mama ish is no big deal.so deal with it

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  63. I'm a baby mother and am nt troublesome. The problem I had with mine,he doesn't take care of his daughter all d time... And I feel terrible about it. But I expect any reasonable woman who wonna marry him to make sure he's always on his neck to take of his kid.. Cos truly my heart will never wish him well. My own story was,wen he was dating d girl,they both caled to insult me.. I did nothing.. After 2years,they broke up and he came back to his senses. He apologised and we became pals again. They both came back again and did introduction. After introduction,my baby dady said my wife to be wonna meet my child and it has to be my house and I said hell no! Sinve she dint meet her before ur intro,I don't think I want my kid to meet her. She's not new in your life.. She has never boughjt a gift or even called her on her birthday... That kind of woman is a no no for me. She's never gonna be a good step mum.. Let her leave my kid out of it. My own is,my child must nt lack! Else, God wrath will be on u both.

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    1. And u calm ur not troublesome!!! Smh. #angrynlackwoman

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    2. You are a good woman...God is ur strength..Dont mind stupid anon 11:20

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  64. I'm not trying to be a Debbie downer rather, I'm being practical. Marriage shouldn't be entered into lightly and while love is one of the foundations on which marriage should be built, sadly, love is not enough. There are other elements that must go together with love. Even in marriages which seem "made in heaven", life still throws curve balls that can seriously rock the love boat and sometimes that seemingly amazing love boat capsizes. I wouldn't advise you to get married yet, still give it time and watch how things unravel. It's like see a raging storm before you set sail yet, you still want to go ahead hoping the storm will calm down along your journey. Assuming it doesn't? Are you ready to start fighting before and during your marriage? Are you ready to keep turning a blind eye when it seems your hubby is spending more money on his twins than on you or your kid(s)? Are you ready to deal with the possibility of your hubby getting this baby mama knocked up again? Trust me that once a month visit at a fastfood joint is unrealistic, no man worth his salt would treat his kids like that, and if he does, you shouldn't be with such a man. Are you ready to accommodate this woman all your life because the kids connect them for life. Assuming you don't get pregnant for the 1st three years and your hubby starts acting funny and spending more time with his kids, can you deal? Sweetie I'm not wishing all these but I'm keeping it real because these are possibilities. It's one thing to be marry before your hubby strays and has kids by another woman but it's a different ball game when it's already done before you get married. As for it being the will of God, tread carefully because I've seen close to 7 marriages confirmed by prophesies crash to the amazement of various churches and said prophets. Besides, how clearly can you hear from God when in your heart this guy is already your hubby? Even when a marriage is the perfect will of God, the couple still have to work hard to keep their home. I hope you make the right choice though. #e-bearhugs.

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  65. Pray tell, why didn't he marry u?

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  66. See as all d ladies dey advise am to marry d man? If na una be d BM,una go like for d man to marry anoda person after turning u to second hand woman? Morals av gone to hell.

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  67. HOW COME HE DID NOT TELL YOU THIS WHILE BOTH OF YOU WERE DATING. MEANING THAT THE RELATIONSHIP WAS BUILT ON LIES. HE SHOULD HAVE TOLD YOU FROM THE BEGINNING. WELL SINCE YOU SAY IT IS GOD'S WILL, MAKE SURE HE SETTLES WITH THE WOMAN BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED. AND ALSO PRAY TO GOD TO CALM HER HEART. MA GOD BE WITH YOU.- BS

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  68. Before I married my husband told me that he had kids with a baby mama. The girl is troublesome sleeping around. My younger sister reported that she slept with her neighbor husband. I don't know her but she is always troubling my hubby. She got. Married b4 my hubby but she has left hubby again. We are prayerful over her issue. Your must always tell u the truth

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  69. Anon 6:18am how old are ur Ex twins? These ones are 10yrs.
    When I say she is troublesome I mean she is troublesome, she has a baby from a previous relationship, the relationship ended bcos of same trouble. Have tried to nake peace btw them but she either go to his office to disgrace him, or is it when she took thug to his mum to beat her saying she was the d one turning his back on her. When she is ready to make trouble she naked herself and fight on d street.. he send money trouble want to spend time with his kids wahala, this last month she arrested him claiming we r trying to kidnap the kids bcos she thought that day was d wedding date, until d children came to testfy thier mum is lying. Am not desperate for those saying that. I ve to go anonymous on this cos my sister is reading and asking for my view not knowing am d one. Confused gal

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    1. My dear,this is an imperfect world.A large percentage of people here dishing out text book suggestions,must keep it real. Some of those talking with roses coming outta their mouth,had their mums tackle baby mamas. Those days,men won't even mention a baby elsewhere.After kids are grown,one stranger is introduced as first son\daughter from the moon. Una mama go vex, but life goes on in patches.A more shocking scenario, is when the patriach dies, and strange siblings(carbon copy of y'all) crawl out of the wood~ work.Everyone go nearly wake dead bodi ask am how he take operate such under G sucessfully. Let's stop acting as tho we are in utopia abeg! imagine a baby mama who's had kids for 2 different men? She plotted her agenda before these pregnancies joor. Prolly seduced these men,who like Adam their original forefather,ate the free apple! I swear to you that she's also fighting the marriage of the first baby daddy. My dear,tie your spiritual and physical "ojah",take the fight to the enemy's camp! Timidity don reign pass o. She nor be human being? She dey chop bottle? Arrange area boys sef. When she don maga from beatings,run go report police say na she wan kill you! Nonsense! Naked fight in the streets kill her head!

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    2. Liar! Your sister doesn't know your story yet you carried it to a blog. You better leave that man alone

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    3. Shush there baby mama with with 5 baby daddy!and I'm talking to u anony 12:49!scorned baby mama!dey fuck every Tom,dick and Harry without cd! Sweetheart poster,please go ahead with ur boo!that useless and shameless baby mama can't do shit!Listen to wide eyed and u won't regret it at all..Dont mind these self righteous people on this blog,if them them go rush the man even with 20baby mamas!if he makes u happy,please go ahead and wed him!

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    4. anon 12:49 did you see wide-eyeds responses? thats hw we roll on SDK! I command u to port back now

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    5. Biko leave that man alone...The babg mama is not smiling at all..she fit send hired assasins after you...no man is worth sacrificing ur life for...He knew his baby mama was dis troublesome before he got her pregnant...let both of them sort themselves ..Na wah oh!

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    6. U sister no know say na u, she dey even ask for ur opinion, even as justcomment she stil no decord.. I suspect plent lies for this comment, u. want make we hate the gal join.. my friend go find ur own husband..nonsence.. husband snatcher

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  70. Firstly you should find out what your bf is not doing right and why the mother of his twins is acting all dramatic....i have a child by a man everyone regards as reputable, hardworking etc but trust me, he makes the most horrible father on earth. i was so calm, i respected him and could not even look at him in the face while speaking to him but gone are those days. these men do know how to take the piss, then tomorrow they would coming screaming this is my child, a lot of them just choose to run from responsibilities.. my advise to you dear is to ask the lady what exactly is the issue; does she want to marry him, is she upset about something,probably he is not paying for child support- is she the one paying fees,upkeep etc for the twins trust that any wman who does this alone and finds out the man who is supposed to take care of kids they have together is going to pay for a wedding would be angry and some tend to feed their rage in different ways. After all he was there to enjoy the sex without protection so he should be able to face the consequences of unprotected sex. And you should not end your relationship based on issues with mother of the twins , find out what the issues may be. when i see my child's father with a new car i am furious because of how irresponsible he is with upkeep yet he can buy a car and still wants to come around his kid and have a relationship away from preying eyes.

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  71. NewsFlash,ma'am....... YOU ARE TROUBLESOME!


    The babe had no business meeting the guys daughter before he did the needful(proposing to her) if she had done all those things u stated now.... and God helps her, ur daughter now had a common Cold, you would still carry that your looong mouth here and say she wants t kee ya pikin for u. Even if nothing happens to the child that's when you would say she's trying to warm her way into his heart by using ur child...... strategy ba???

    Look, that lady sounds like a good person she now wants to meet his daughter because she's about to b a part of the family...... note she didn't wait till after the wedding proper!!

    Let them b.... u don't have to be with them during the meeting...... stop being bitter and the Lord will do ur own for you just like he did that of Sumbo.

    Be nice to her and it would surprise u how you and your child would benefit immensely from that.

    I'm passionate about this cos I was nearly drawn into baby mama BS with my ex.... we dated for close to 4yrs...... unknown to me he was still rolling with his ex frm Uni that had fucked one or maybe more of his clique baq in sch. I had a surprise party for him with help of his so called bestie and the girl shows up..... I confronted him he lied.. . he lied! He even told me all sorts about the girl.. left her to go home late by herself.... I was even begging him to let us drop her at the cab park.... he no gree!! fast forward to a year later...... she carry belle, he send am go Yankee go born...... at this point I had given myself brain and carried my 2 left feet........... the loser comes begging that he can never marry her and it's me he wants for wia? When I no crase....i won't lie I liked the attention again cos I loved him...... beht thank God for my upbringing.........HELLS NO! If it was a random person I would have taken him baq in a heartbeat..... beht not that geh.....ha!!


    Dear poster, if u can cope pls try to persevere....... other than that pls keep on waiting on God hour will bring that which hath no sorrows attached.........biko no kee yasef on a man that may very well be cheating on u both now sef!

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  72. Some baby mamas are desperate casted hoes. Trying to use pregnancy to hold man. If a man dosnt like you or want you, therez nothing you can do about it. If u like born quadruplets. You give birth for a guy and he still dosnt want u, check yourself you have a problem. Anyway poster, you have to be very prayerful because after she try hook the bobo with pikin wey e nor work, na juju remain. Baby mamas are rejected scorned females, most of them will do anything to have a man. Stay prayerful. Dont fall for any guilt trips, its not your fault the man dosnt want her. She may try 2 use the kids as weapons, show love to the kids. Buy them good gifts, if you love your man enough u'll love his children. You don't have any business with the baby mama, ignore her dont make her your problem. If its God's will everything will work out fine.

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    1. Youuu sound scorned darling. Alot of ladies that date baby father's don't know the full story. Half the time the man is still taking solace in her arms and youre there feeling life its me he wants not get. E go shock you. Men like variety and for the time you're the new meal on the menu. He will abandon the baby mama. But remember leave a dog alone and it'll find its way home.

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    2. Anon 7.37, you are definately part of the baby mama association. Pele

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    3. @anon 3:07Yeah I am. Love my child to pieces. Best decision ever. Better that than kill. Mwah

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    4. At least we have s courage to keep d child than kill.u think say 9mnths nah joke or to take care of a kid.my friend u r d definition of d word "scorned".a man doesn't want u buh he fucked without protection.abasi oooo.....some ladies are really shallow.am not a babymama rather I rejected my baby's dad cus he isn't up
      to my social class but he fucks good.so don't come on here insulting responsible mothers.oniranu oshi @ anon3:07

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  73. My problem with some ladies is they think trapping a man with pregnancy will make him marry them.I will never advise him to marry mama Ibeji cuz he doesn't love her and it is likely the marriage hits the rocks.

    Ladies should be wise, let him do the needful first if he wants to marry you, let him be a man and take that decision.Even if mama Ibeji makes trouble till eternity, even if you the poster dumps him, if he doesn't want to marry her he won't marry her.You cannot force a man to marry you, na only you go regret if you succeed.Truth is Life is not fair.Tuface made his decision at the end of the day despite all the drama.The bible says he who finds a wife not he who finds a husband.

    Let him go settle with her for the sake of the kids and peace, he must take care of the twins and send their monthly upkeep.If you are convinced he loves you and you love him, you better marry him, you can change your phone number, you can do a court wedding first and other ceremonies later.In all of this, pray hard.

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  74. poster,

    if you really love this dude, postpone the wedding, let him go make peace with his past as it is currently disturbing his present.

    you have no business with this baby mama, your about-to-be husband does.

    you aint married to him yet, see the trouble that awaits you.

    let him sort himself out, when he does, and the arrangement works for you, go ahead and plug in the wedding date again

    otherwise.....hmnnn....u will just be fighting and fighting and fighting...both spiritually and physically. when negative issues or things from no where begin to happen to you, whether naturally, you begin to suspect and point accusing fingers.

    you sure you wanna go down this route? think well. let ur man deal with his ish before you step in.

    this is my 5 quid advice.

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  75. Whirlwind,u well at all?? Kai see dem husband snatchers!!!....................UGBUAKU

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  76. I remember after our introduction, hubby was talking me to get pregnant, I said hell no, lailai.I will wait till we get married.

    I have seen cases where relationship was alter bound and they still broke up.If your husband chooses to walk away from you in marriage that is totally different.

    A friend of mine said her boyfriend told her to give him a child as his birthday gift, the moment she took in he started misbehaving.Today she is a depressed baby mama cuz he dint fulfil any of his promises.

    Talk is cheap, if a man wants to marry you, he should take the necessary steps.Who is interested in mere promises? Promises that can be made in the heat of passion or when conji is at work.Any one can promise anything, we women have more to lose so let's be wise.

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    1. This post no complete. Where are all the baby mammas that benefited from a giveaway on this blog? They should come and advice this woman o.

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  77. Na you no well oh come dey daft on top , imbe.

    If he marries mama Ibeji, he will maltreat her, he will cheat on her, he will make her miserable in the marriage, is it worth it? Who told you mama Ibeji can't still find true love else where? Isn't Sumbo married today despite being a baby mama? My colleague just got married to a single young dude, she has a child. My point is never marry someone out of self pity and don't force yourself to be a part of someone's life.

    Do you know the joy and satisfaction of a man running helter shelter to marry you, planning honey moon, trying to give you the best. Self pity no dey inside my marriage , my own is he must take Kia of the kids, truth is bitter.

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    1. How are u sure he will not maltreat and cheat.on her too?How do u know d man doesnt love the baby mama? She might be d reason d man broke up with d baby mama...trust me he will still cheat on her with d baby mama..

      E be like say ur hubby get plenty baby mama for outside.

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  78. Wide Eyed, you are a realist, your head dey there!

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  79. @ wide eyed the ogbonge,hope ur hubby's baby mama is fine with her kids oh? After sending the woman nd her kids away.hmm..jist dey o,,,SDK d ugly tin,I know u won't post this! Bt dat ashewo wide eyed knows wot am talking abt

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    1. chic you no dey tiiiiireee?

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    2. Idiot,I am not with any baby daddy. Then again,you nor well. Accept my pity!

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  80. Tell the man to go clean up his shit before coming to you. This men will do shit and expect women to fight for them ( in most cases women fight each other because of men )

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  81. My accept ur destiny. This is reality! #nobodyholypass# what if u got to know this after wedding? Mad is different from insane ooo.
    Make ur matter no go be from fry pan to fire. Whatever decision u make, just ask for God's guidance. It is well

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  82. Please for the love of God if you can avoid men with kids. Trust me on this one 9 out of 10 of them will still be involved with their baby mamas when alone. Men are weaklings where sex is concerned. I would feel guilty of depriving a child of s chance at having both parents together. Love should not be forced but I believe any two people can make relationships work if they put their minds to it plus why sentence your young beautiful selves to a life time of insecurity and fear of baby mama and even step child(ren) drama,when there are single men with no baggage. And if she is the quiet and praying type even worse. They always have a hold on those men somehow. I would never date a baby father. . Ever!

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  83. Supposing this man has a misfortune and becomes "penniless", will he still be "the will of God" or "good riddance to bad rubbish"?

    Just to help you reason; not at all questioning your "will of god" mantra.

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  84. My dear do not believe every thing a man told you that was the cause of his broken marriage or relationship they can lie for Africa I can testify of that I met this guy in 2006 we started dating and he proposed but before then he had told me of a girl he wanted to marry they did introduction lived together for four solid years no child eventually they didn't get married after four years the girl quietly got her UK visa she dindnt tell any one she traveled while he was in the village during Christmas he said the girl sold everything he had fasforward we eventullay got married that was when I noticed why the lady tear race the guy na very lazy guy we have been married for 6yrs now am the one feeding him infact we switch roles am the man he is the woman and I didn't tell you that after the girl left him got married in UK she gave birth and me 6yrs am still waiting each time any man og God prays for me they will always tell me that he has low sperm count but when we go to hospital they will say his sperm count is good I don't know if he goes behind me and meet with the doctors in fact am very confuse because am not getting younger am 38yrs now and since I married him I have never been pregnant I was pregnant for my ex before I met my husband but I couldn't marry him because of tribe am Ibo while my ex is Edo. So now I know why the lady left him a man that from Jan to dec will not bother about feeding money and people will not know all this they will think you are enjoying because you drive big car that you bought for ur self and even buy a car for him I can only describe him with one word lazy!!!! He will show you love and care but I know is because of what he is getting a lazy man knows how to show love and care because you are his meal ticket.

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  85. Babe its either u walk out of that mariage or u help yourself..Take him to another hospital for another checkup..dont allow him to.choose a hospital for u..If he refuses to go,tell him u want get sperm from sperm bank,if he refuses then u have to adopt..at 38 age is nolonger on ur side..Every woman deserves to have a child of their home married or not married...if i were in ur shoes i woul've divorced that lazy impotent man.. I dont joke with kids and no man will stop me from having mine..
    I had an ex like dat,he was so desperate.for me to get preggy,we did intrduction.I couldnt get preggy those few months i was engaged to him.We were both worried,i ovulate fine every month oh...i later hooked up with my.childhood sweetheart..one touch i got preggy and married him sharp sharp..i now have a cute baby boy...
    I mailed my ex and cursed him for wasting few months of my life.with his low sperm count...he denied it..i told him to go and treat himself..
    Dont listen to judgemental people..if u can get a guy to impregnate u discuss with ur hubby..U have ur womb intact,Make use of it..Na those kids go take care of u in old age.
    Dont mind my typos.

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  86. This Chizobia is a really frustrated woman. Why drink panadol on someones head. Do u know what they have gone thru that it is really bothering u so deep. U sound like a bitter woman. I feel so sorry for your husband. Such women like u drive ur men away to other woman cause of ur bitterness shoo. Voetsek. U think u are holy by marrying a guy without baby mama drama. very soon u will be a BM and that ur madness will surpass human understanding.

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  87. This Chizobia is a really frustrated woman. Why drink panadol on someones head. Do u know what they have gone thru that it is really bothering u so deep. U sound like a bitter woman. I feel so sorry for your husband. Such women like u drive ur men away to other woman cause of ur bitterness shoo. Voetsek. U think u are holy by marrying a guy without baby mama drama. very soon u will be a BM and that ur madness will surpass human understanding.

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