I am not homophobic but I would rather sit on my couch and read the comments...Pardon me!
Please publish this and hide my identity. I need advice from your readers.
Stella, I'm a regular reader of your wonderful blog. I have a problem that is tugging at the very strings of my heart. I am 27 years old and haven't had a girlfriend before, and the trouble is, I'm gay.
I don't want to say I was born this way, but truth is, even from my earlier years, as early as age 5, I had a thing for males, but in those early years, I liked both boys and girls, right up to age 14. In my earlier years, my relationship with my father wasn't so good as it is today.
At the age of 15, when I was in JS3, I was seduced by a secondary school mate during extension while preparing for JSCE. He slept with me, though didn't penetrate me. After 18, I didn't have any sexual relations with anybody, whether male or female, and at 21, I attempted suicide as a result of the gayness. At 23, I attempted entering a relationship with a girl, but it fell through because I didn't want to live a lie; to be who I wasn't.
At 25-26, during my service days, a male corper of my age seduced me and, since I hadn't had sex of any kind for 8 years, I succumbed. But by October of 2013, I stopped having sex with him, and since then, up till now, he has made several attempts to sleep with me, but I have told him point blank that his desire for me is unholy, and that we need to stop having homosexual relations with each other, because it is a sin. He was disillusioned by my unwavering stand on the issue.
Over the past six years, I have prayed for God to sexually heal me, so that I will stop being gay, but still the situation remains the same. In 2011, I even contemplated speaking to my church pastor about the issue, so that he will pray for me and counsel me, but somehow, I still haven't done that.
Please, readers, constructively advise me on what step to take, because I want to lead a normal life, a life that is pleasing to God and worthy of my calling as a Christian.
Deliverance. Prayer works
ReplyDeleteMy dear brother, GOD has already forgiven you. All you have to do now is acknowledge and ACCEPT His forgiveness in your life. God bless as you continue to live a fruitful life.
DeleteDear Poster, I do feel for you. I am also proud of you for the step you've taken to seek counsel.
DeleteGay is a spirit, it's not something you just counsel someone out of.
It needs both deliverance and constant counseling and follow up.
I advice you to look for a real man of God that will not judge you. Someone enlightened enough to separate the act from the person. You need prayers but first go on your knees and ask God for strength and wisdom James 1:5.
Even if you fall back in, never stay in. Dust up yourself and yield unto God. He'll see you thru.
If you're in the Niger Delta, I could reach out.
what i have come to understand is that prayer on its own doesnt work. The bible says faith without work is dead. i am a girl, during my service last year i slept with a guy and though i broke it off, i still get tempted cos once u have had sex, u tend to want more but what has been keeping me is d fact that i dont want my flesh to lead me to hell. if u love Jesus truely and u think about his sacrifice on d cross u wont want to hurt him. Your sincere love for God should keep u. im not saying you should go marry a lady oh but stay single for d time being. read about donnie mcclurkin or other gay men that God changed their lives. Not everyone has to get married. Maybe this is ur own trial in this life. Just know that God trusts you so much that you can overcome this sin. Thats why d bible says that God wouldnt give u more than you can bear. He will definately come through for you just wait on him abd trust him. God is not a man he can make d vilest clean, cling to him. Confess positive things. You are not gay! God didnot make it so from the creation. The devil is a liar, he cant steal ur birthright. Listen tochristian messages also that would challenge u. i love francis chan you can check him out. Godbless u. if u like u can give me ur email address or i can give mine to stella and then u can contact me whichever one. I pray God does a new thing in ur life. cut off from that guy completely.
DeleteThis gay thing sef.
DeleteAs far as i'm concerned, its because you guys are scared of talking to girls. Una liver no strong reach to toast woman!
How can you say you prefer shitty anus to sweet moist vagina hand crafted by God himself?
Nothing is wrong with you. Just grow some balls and talk to a girl.
Poster you don't have any problem, the only problem you have is living in a judgemental and acclaim religious society where hates thrives. You said you started having some sort of feelings towards same sex at 5 right? What else could make you feel that way if not that you were born like that. Don't let anyone deter you from being yourself, who you are, who you were born to be not who you have become. Be yourself man!
DeleteDear Harmony Best, the guy says he doesn't want to be gay anymore. Even if you want to remain gay doesn't mean there are people like him out there that have a different opinion. Please help him become who he 'really' wants to be, or forever hold your peace. Thanks.
DeleteI won't waste my time advising you. Once gay always gay. You shouldn't have started it.
ReplyDeleteMOI u are a fool, total idiot..product of 2 stupid people....
DeleteListen to urself, he said at 5.......
Delete@moi its pple like u that is wrong with the world. Here is someone speaking from his heart and seeking advice and u decide to just shut him down.
DeleteMy poster dear if u are truely sincere and want to become straight then its possible God knows ur heart and its only him that can heal u. Keep looking on to God and He will grant u ur heart desire.
He sincerely asked for an advice but all you could say is shit from dat Ur yelping scoundrel shaped mouth. You are such a waste. Ewu sambisa oshi
DeleteMy dear if u r gay u r gay. Relocate to a more gay conducive country and live ur life. Nothing is wrong with u
DeleteI beg leave the guy alone...he does not want to identify with you gays again...so help him God.
DeleteIf you ask me; na who I go ask? The matter wey we see so, e tay wey e start. No be me go talk am, e heavy for mouth . If you ask me…The matter for ground…Eh! Na who I go ask? #blowswhistleandwalksaway#
ReplyDeleteLol @Princess u are so
Deletecrayyyy
Poster its a pity, pray more, mayb get urself a gf. In fact make I follow Stella siddon
It's not by force to comment,this is a serious issue and is in no way funny,so instead of you making a mockery of someone's pain,just shush it biko!!
DeleteHey,kneel down n open up your heart and pray n ask for guidance to locate your creator he would heal you.theres is no problem you think is bigger than you that our father in heaven cant put an end too,every story have an end.may God give u d strength to overcome
Deletekeep praying, nd you need counseling from a trusted man of God.
ReplyDelete*Speechless*.
ReplyDeleteStellahipsy, abeg 'dress' for me make I sitdown. *rests jaw on my palm*
Sorry you had to go through this. My advice to you is to find money, travel to the UK or the US or Any other country thats acceptance of who you are.
ReplyDeleteDid he say he wants 2 b accepted? If u can't giv him an advice,take a sit
DeleteSpot on. I am aware the cost of procurring an entry visa to the west is on the high side but try and work hard and see if you can be able to raise any funds to coming abroad and I am sure you will never hate yourself anymore, you will be accepted and be who you want to be, who you were born to be. Look inwards you may not hate your sexual orientation, what makes it seems like you do is the judgmental people and society you live in. I am more straight than a ruler but I will never judge one's way of life provided they don't cause any harm to me or anyone for that matter.
DeleteStella ukwu sugar. ..shift your big bum bum make I sit.
ReplyDeleteinukwa
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DeleteWhat type of a human being are you. Remember it could have been u
DeleteHmm.. u never jam woman. You will not remember ever being gay by the time I handle you.
ReplyDeleteOk let's be serious.
Swerry, I think u should work on ur mind. The fact that ur conscience still works is a good start. Look for a reasonable female to confide in. Look for a therapist. Then pray! Pray! And Pray! Ask God to restore u. Lock urself in and hold God till something happens. It will soon be a thing of the past. I'll say a prayer for u too.
Wish u God's speed.
So small pikin like u sabi handle person.God pls I'm scared of having a daughter ,
DeleteI like your entry. lol
DeleteOp nothing is wrong with you! YES I SAID SO.
Bia! Anonymous 3:37, who be small pikin??? Chai! God, you say u no go change this babyface?
DeleteMay u not have a daughter then. Olodo, don't watch ur tongue.
Poster,carry your self to SCOAN and thank me later...
ReplyDeleteYour daddy in the Lord. lol
DeleteNo comment.
ReplyDeleteAll dese stories sounds like its frm 1 person.
The style of writing, and the flow.
Whoever is mking dese stories up, shld try put a lil effort, in changing d style once in awile.
Hint: stop provoking readers,
U are trying too hard.
Bwahahahaha....
Deleteskinny legs nobody force you read talkless to comment. Atleast the person dey use im brain which you are not doing. come play with my beautiful chihuahua if you are bored.
Delete@Pink shell, Must u make d same comment on every post? If u can't advise on d topic, why not read and move on??? If u don't have problem dat warrant seeking 4 advice, others do so spare us dis sentiment u are trying to create.
DeleteAre ur brain cells dead???
DeleteHaba,which one b make up again, come nwanyi ichagokwanya?
DeleteGaan ask ur bilogical mother that? #Smiles
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DeleteLovelace, is such a cheap attention seeker, she is finally done wit sisi-eko.#Smiles. And she needed to anounce her neibo just got a dog. Cos poor lovelace can't afford to feed hersef talkless of a dog.
Rittluv?! Are u a drug addict?
Eka joy, d 1st response is for u.
Dat igbo chik, sebi na u carry 11 credit card chop d oda day, d day of reckony is near.
You be small fish so i jump you pass....cant waste my time with a nitwit. see writing gosh. black shell.
DeleteLmao,no be only day of reckony...choi!!!
Delete*reckoning
DeleteDry lace, and u needed to come, announce ur exit?(U must be a lousy woman, how many of ur stupid mates up dere came back? Oniranu) lmao at small fish, u ddnt realised dat b4 attacking me in d 1st place. U for stay na, no go, aunty okponu. Btw am seriouly tinkin abt changing I'd to black shell, I don't like the color pink. @Slvia tanx.
DeleteTake palm kernel block ya nyash. Fachie Ike gi!
ReplyDeleteGo and see Pastor Tony Rapu for proper counseling.
Lol @ fachie ike gi
DeletePele dear, am sorry i do not know how to advise you so i leave it those who can and pray God gives you the strength to pull through.
ReplyDeleteGo to mfm for deliverance before u trap an unsuspecting female into marriage.
ReplyDelete
ReplyDeleteHmmmm Dimoko Korkus **Cough** This your name sef ehn
1000 Funny BBM Display Pictures (PART 8)
Hahahahahahahahahahhahahahahaha... I couldn't help but laugh abeg.
DeleteMad people dey this blog I swear!
Ihekire Tony
ReplyDeletePoster nobody was born gay. You are gay because you choose that part.
Repent and ask God for forgiveness and the grace to live a holy life. So many gays have tried to seduce me, even someone who called himself a pastor, but I didnt give in.
Exactly, no one is born gay. I know a guy that acts like a girl and has all it takes to be called gay but he is 100% straight.
DeleteTruth be told some people are naturally gay while some are into because they were molested or introduced into it while in boarding school. I don't know if someone can pray himself out of such lifestyle but there's nothing God can't do. I don't hate gay people, I only hate what they practice and they gossip a lot.
ReplyDeleteI wish you good luck poster.
Dis one pass me ooooo, buh I'll advise dat u should nt only pray, buh fast also. It's only God dat can change u completely, I pray God answers ur prayer
ReplyDeleteMy dear young man, it takes a courageous person to seek help when he needs it rather than resorting to self destruct.
ReplyDeletel my opinion, nobody was born gay, believing that you are gay is a function of many variables including interest, environment, belief & a whole lot more.
Permit me to fall back to the standard of TRUTH that I know, the Bible. It says that as a man thinks, so is he, meaning if you see yourself as gay, then you are whoever you say you are. Romans chapter 12:1-2 says your body is God's own therefore do not copy the custom of this world but be transformed by renewing your mind with God's word because Faith comes by hearing God's word & fear comes by always hearing the devil's word.
whatever you give attention to, focus on, you'll get a very clear picture of, like the photographer. So if you really are in need for true change in your sexuality, nobody else can do it for you but you alone.
Go to God in faith & total sincerity, always flee from the people that have the ability to tempt you, find someone to confide in & pray with you, keep speaking what you want & how you see yourself, be patient with you, forgive you for your past sin & finally give yourself some time, you will have/see your desire come to light.
Stay strong and remember that God's Grace is more than enough to see you through. God bless you
I couldn't agree with you more. Poster, take the above advice.
DeleteA relation of mine was sexually molested by her aunties living with her family since she was a child till her early teens, and then while in senior secondary school got knee deep into lesbanism. Hers (being gay) was a product of her environment not that she was born that way. She is currently making progress and just got into a heterosexual relationship in her late twenties.......A lot of people face this same or similar scenario.
Be patient with yourself, and make little sincere efforts to change.
Shalom.
Same here, nobody was born gay, neither was anybody born straight. We are told being gay is unholy and so being straight is normal by the bible, the same bible that made us blacks slaves to whites, the same bible that puts a woman below a man, and yet women are fighting for their rights. I bet that's. Unholy too
DeleteYou hit the nail @anon. Poster listen to this person.
DeleteVery strong words nicely put. Gbamest
DeleteSorry papi
ReplyDeleteU need Jesus and a psychologist.
ReplyDeleteWow!could it be some pple are actually born gay.
Eeeyah
ReplyDeleteI kinda feel for you
But being gay isn't the end of the world
Dont sweat it...just keep believing and trusting God.
Learn to love yourself no matter who you are.
I have lots of gay friends( guys) and they rock!
Awww poster...e hugs to you k!...reading your story shows how much you want to do right and be right with God but this is your stumbling block. I don't think people choose to be gay and I won't judge you my darling cus I've heard stories like yours and have friends like you.
ReplyDeleteYou know what? Speak to a genuine pastor or counsellor and then do absolutely what you feel is right for you. Only the most high has the right to judge you.
Am happy you disgust your sexuality. I suggest you hangout more often with girls and try to be into them. Pray more too and with God you will become straight.
ReplyDeletedear poster
ReplyDeletehmmm i hv alot of gay friends one died of AIDS 2years ago it still pains me till date. trust me no matter what the circular world says being gay is sinful and terrible. i know its not easy i feel your pain cos no matter how i preach to my friends dey never listen and even the ones that seek help are still struggling.Its not by praying for 2days for 5mins that u wud be delivered cos trust me its a demon that is behind this you need to fast and pray about it. it would take awhile but u would succedd the lord created man and woman not man and man so he is not angry with u he loves you. we all have one sin that we battle with so ur case is not different ok
Straight people don't die of aids??
DeleteGo for deliverance, accept Jesus.
ReplyDeletelook,anybody dat isnt in dis lifestyle will neva understand u and wat u feel instead they will begin to preach to u wat a pastor has said theoritically without any proof of its practical efficacy.i realised i was attracted to my fellow boys even before 5yrs.always having feelings for boys.fellow christtians will now shout 'devil'.let me educate u,feelings come from d innermost part not from d outside.i tried to reject myself for dis and got depressed even contemplated suicide severally.i prayed ,tried several options to no avail.at a point i talked to God and said'you created me without my influence and u cant leave me confused, ive to accept myself. My brother thhe only thing u can do is apply self control ,chose gud friends and dont go wild cos its common and be focused in life.as for this part of the world ,we only have hollier dan thou everywhere dat lack wisdom.and again break all odds and get a a girl and feel free .im 38 married wit 3 lovely boys.God will help u
ReplyDeleteUhm at 3years. i find it hard to believe.
DeleteWatch over your heart with all diligence, For from it flow the springs of life.
ReplyDeleteNo comments pls.
I think its a thing of the mind. You need to see a counsellor and a power fire filled man of God.
ReplyDeleteThere's nothing impossible with God. You sure need to speak with the right people. A pastor and a therapist is a good place to start. .Visit my blog. . Thegeeklychics.blogspoy.com
ReplyDeleteThere's nothing impossible with God. You sure need to speak with the right people. A pastor and a therapist is a good place to start. .Visit my blog. . Thegeeklychics.blogspoy.com
ReplyDeleteBook a session with a psychologist..#sipMoetnChandon#
ReplyDeleteI personally think nobody chooses 2b gay and once uv gone dwn that road,truth b told it's quite difficult getting out...psychology also has a part 2play buh der's nuffng 4u 2b ashamed of,id advice as much as u can desist 4rm d act and if u can't den u gotta accept who r and proudly b gay *aldo no b 4naija sha lol*...n whoevr tells u u r condemned,disregard dt fellow cos trust me God loves u regardles...i wont com on here telling u 2pray cos like u said uv done all dat so instead of living wv guilt,learn 2luv urself and allow things 2tk it's course cos i know u never asked 4any of this...as 4commiting suicide,wtf huh!!! y would such thought cross ur mind,no b ur own bad pass!!!...sexual preferences shldnt b debatable ur free 2either like an opposite sex or same sex....And b4 y'all strt cursing me out,i ain't gay bt den again i ain't homophobic...I'm just tryna c things 4rm a naturall perspective...#if ur being told ud go 2hell cos ts a sin yes u would lol bt den so are a whole lots;sin na sin,no big sin no small sin,weda u lie or steal,ts same hell u and a gay would prolly go 2...so Y not we all stop being homophobic n let dem LIVE!!! chai i don talk 2much #OKbye
ReplyDeleteThis is the most sensible comment I've read here!!! Thank you so much for speaking the truth.The problem with we Nigerians is that we are too religious,yet na we commit crime pass.I keep saying it,there's a difference between law and morality,and even though one cannot exist without the other,we should know when to separete the two.I don't see why sexual intercourse between two consenting adults should be made a criminal offence,yet fornication is not.People will always come up with the argument that it's morally wrong,and that the Bible condemns it,which I agree,but then again the Bible condemns fornication too,why isn't it a criminal offence?? Dear Poster,from your story,you've obviously tried to desist from the act,but my advice is this,if you really have tried your best and it refuses to go,abeg learn to love yourself the way you are!!! And no,I'm not gay!!
DeleteVisit MFM prayer City on Lagos Ibadan expressway for deliverance asap. It starts with fasting, prayers and praise songs from Monday through wednesday, then thursday and friday. It's always a marvellous experience. Am a living testimony. There is accommodation for the days. Try it and thank God.
ReplyDeletePoster it is well with you in Jesus Mighty Name!
ReplyDeleteTry to contact Mr Shola the sex therapist or Mr Praise Fowowe... Google them up.
Go to RCCG Throne of Grace, National Headquaters at Ebute-Meta, Oyingbo. Ask for their prayer room God does answer prayers there.
Its preferable for you to go on Tuesday morning. They hold deliverance service there with counselling after in the prayer room
Go with faith that God will visit you.
Also search for scriptures in the bible where its stated that being gay is an abomination before God n use it as a prayer point. The bible says bring forth your strong reasons before God......
Shallom
It is well
ReplyDeleteStory story,now dat you came calling for help ,advice etc.!..it means ur anus don dey lick and cash don finish for pampers.
ReplyDeleteStory story,now dat you came calling for help ,advice etc.!..it means ur anus don dey lick and cash don finish for pampers.
ReplyDeleteStory story,now dat you came calling for help ,advice etc.!..it means ur anus don dey lick and cash don finish for pampers.
ReplyDeleteStory story,now dat you came calling for help ,advice etc.!..it means ur anus don dey lick and cash don finish for pampers.
ReplyDeleteStop being insensitive to people's plight. He's aparently going thru a hard time and all he needs Is kind words and not castigation. GOD Help you poster
DeleteGod will heal u since he has seen dt u want to pls him by not engaging in d act anymore.Dont be discouraged, keep praying and try to to live righteous.You will be amazed that ur prayers will be answered sooner than u expect.Being gay is absolutely unholy, and always try 2 push d tot away asking Jesus and the Holy Spirit 2 help u.I used to nurse d tot of lesbianism but im conciously aware dt God detest it and will not engage in it by HIS grace.
ReplyDeleteNo body is born gay. You need to get over it like you get over a bad habit. It's in your mind. I noticed it's really about the physical part and not the emotional connection for u as I don't hear you say u are in love with a guy (one chance); its just sex so there is still hope. Get over it. Pray and act. If anybody told me I will stop masturbating I would have laughed but guess what I did n it's 6yrs now. I prayed about it and acted. Please do so. It's wrong and as a Christian u know better. All the best.
ReplyDeleteIt's simple..Cut off ur DICK
ReplyDelete***HEALING-RAIN***
ReplyDelete@queen bee,nobody is born gay,that is saying GOd is gay in nature.
And God say let us make man in our image,after our likeness:and let them have dominion..........(Gen.1:26)
V27) So God created man in his OWN lmage,in the IMAGE of GOD created he him;male and female created he them.
Poster,homosexualism is your choice as a free moral agent that you are,don't make it sound as if you were forced to choose @ gunpoint,you freely tended towards men instead of women.
See,l have set before thee this day life and good,and death and evil (deut.30:15) you clearly choosed the former as a result of your rebrobate mind.
Am l homophobic? Hell yeah!!! You can't throw it @ my face you were born as a fag or lesbian,God is not counterfeit and doesn't make counterfeits either,its your choice
All the gays on this blog just read romans1:18-32) and you will know why you have 'gayism' in your system. You ain't got no excuse cos you were not created gay so you can't be born gay unless na frog give your mama belle.
If you want deliverance na,ask the blood of jesus to purge your mind(heb.9:11-14 and v22)
Ask GOd to visit you with his deliverance(ps.106:4) then remind God of his word in luke.4:18-19).
That ish is an evil soul tie,you need the power of God to terminate it otherwise you will go back to it and remain there so go for counselling.
I need a glass of wine.
SHALOM.
You were born gay. If you don't accept yourself now, you will either commit suicide or never be happy. Now you need to leave Nigeria and find a country more acceptable of your orientation. Please don't marry any woman and make her miserable. Most of this miserable married women who think their husband carry girls don't know its men chopping their husband. The HIV rate is high in the gay community to always, always use a condom. Try to find a responsible partner who is clean and does not sleep around. Will be hard because a lot of gay men are highly promiscuous. That is why the HIV rate is high.
ReplyDeleteSane advice. poster take note.
DeleteVery sensible advice. The rate of suicide among gay people in the christian community is really frightening.
DeleteMr poster if you can't accept your sexuality as part of who you are then just becomes celibate cus believe me you are as gay and that's that.
You may try to have straight relationships but you will always find yourself being yourself which is GAY. So accept who you are or just stay away from sex cuz you will end up hurting your self and others and nobody deserves that.
Stop giving advice based on ur shallow and religious minds, I am married living a fake life all in d name of trying not to be gay, tho all my life I always desire to make love to a fellow man but I fought d feeling so hard and I never tried gay sex once in my life till dis moment does not make less a gay man cos d feelings is still strong after serious sessions of fasting and prayer , who I pity are d women dat got married to closest gay men cos am always distance even when making love to my wife and she doesn't notice , so if u like readers start raining curses, it is between me and God cos we didnt create our selfs
ReplyDeleteEsu ti joba laye e...o je ya lo fun deliverance.. born gay ko...die gay niii
Delete!!omu Iya dun!!
You are wicked. i pity your wife.
DeleteMFM
ReplyDeletego 2 mfm or scoan for deliverance
ReplyDeletePoster nobody is born gay, what you have is an addiction. Is like trying to stop smoking or drinking with just prayer. Praying and deliverance is good but it can't stop it, you need will power and you fight everyday one at a time
ReplyDeleteHummmm wat a pity..!
ReplyDeleteAll de Comments here shld be added to "Saturday Laugh" next week, Biko. I can't stop laughing at dem.
ReplyDeletenothing wrong with being gay...nothing at all....
ReplyDeleteGod loves you regardless of your sexuality.
My dear,I was moved to talk to you,this is my first time commenting. I am glad you have realized that you have a problem, if you are looking for somebody then it's God,u don't need nobody else. Work on your mindset,take control of your thoughts,anytime the gay thoughts come in,rebuke it in the name that is above every other name(Jesus) listen to songs that will lift up your spirit(Benjamin dube-bow down and worship, father mbaka,and any song of your choice) don't miss a day without saying at least "our father" and most importantly believe that God is all merciful and that he has forgiven you(do not allow ur past mistakes hunt u,let it go) may the almighty,he who causes everything to breathe see you through as u embark on the journey of self transformation and righteousness.
ReplyDeleteDear poster,
ReplyDeleteWipe your tears. Being afraid of something gives it power. Removing the fear from yourself gives you control.
I want you to know that you are not alone. Stella, you, me and 95% of those reading this post all battle with something daily. Some so big it might make your battles look like play. There are things that are sometimes put in our lives by the enemy (negative forces) to use as a stronghold to frustrate us in life making it hard for us to enjoy life and reach our God given destiny. Whenever you are at peace or about to make progress in life, these things rear their ugly heads and drag you down. God loves you, the creator of this universe loves you. He knows of your struggle and with time it will become obvious to you that he has been with you all along. For starters, you need to stop giving this urges power. You do so by acknowledging it is a problem you have and something you are battling with. Accept that this war you have with thing might last for a long time and you might not win the battle every time but you will win the war. The last battle lost was eight years before the current one. Eventually, you will overcome if you are determined.
Say this everyday sincerely and authoritatively before you step out of your room/house:
My name is ------'
I am a child of. .........
But the supreme God is my ultimate father
I am not here by mistake
He created me for a purpose
Every great man has internal battles that they must face daily
Mine is -----------
You----------(call what you struggle with)
I acknowledge you today as a problem in my life
You are a problem I do not want to accommodate anymore
Everything in life has a spirit controlling it and you are no different
I therefore speak to the spirit that controls you to depart from me NOW!
You are no longer wanted here
I speak to my body parts, be ye still and non responsive to all ungodly urges
I have been given the right by my creator to make choices concerning my life
I choose to ONLY have sexual attractions to women
I choose to only desire women
I choose to only attractive heterosexual friends
I choose to be only satisfied by a woman
Any man that will arouse me today will not cross my path
Any persons that will nurture this problem in me, depart from me.
God come to my aid and hear my cry
Move the universe to work with me
I am asking by seeking, finding and knocking on the door of heaven, that you may answer me, prove to me that you are indeed a true and living God, in the name of your son Jesus Christ who was sacrificed for my sake, AMEN.
Nice one .
DeleteThink about what the 14yrs will take away frm you
ReplyDeleteThat will help. Goodluck
FAST AND PRAY at least twice a week; like Jesus instructed. See the facts;
ReplyDeleteFor I tell you that unless your righteousness surpasses that of the Pharisees and the teachers of the law, you will certainly not enter the kingdom of heaven Matt. 5:20
Look at Matt. 6 for the acts of righteousness; giving, praying and fasting. . . and how the pharisees do this thing; Luke 18:10-14. The Lord said, we should do more than them; just to discipline the flesh. Beloved, you've been overtaken by sin and someone need to restore you in a spirit of meekness; Gal. 6:1. If you trust your pastor, then confess to him. If he expels you (1 Cor. 5:2) that's right but then his duty it is to restore you (meet your peculiar spiritual needs outside the body of believers.) By the Grace of God, I've done it severally on believers and the word of God works. They were restored, firmly and sound in faith and overcoming their besetting sins; fornication, adultery, swindling etc. This is the scriptural way to treat a spiritual malady just like the medical way to treat a highly contagious disease like Tb. God bless you brother as you heed to his word.
First thing first...
ReplyDeleteWork on your mind set...I mean be sure you want out
Second thing....pray...BT pray honestly...tell God your mind...tell him you want to change....just be open...to him...I am sure he would and
Lastly..go for counseling...with a strong christian or man of God..so that people would be praying for you
BT so you know.. I would put you in prayers... Nd just believe you would testify soon....
Guard ur heart with all deligence. Ma dear u have 2 feel ur heart with God's love and his wors. Study the word more,spend time 2 pray. Get involve in any department In ur church. Also seek counsel. I trust God 2 heal ur heart, body and soul. Ur loved
ReplyDeleteFuck who ever you wana fuck biatch and stop been all unsecured about yourself! I have fasted! Gone to all churches in dis country name it! Had spiritual bath and all sort, even I done chop EBO! So because be who wana be and do not let anyone decide who u should be! If una like make una insult me, I ready for una! Most of all u guys commenting with bible quote ain't dat righteous too, in one way or the oda sinned so shut ur God forsaking mouths and be gone
ReplyDeleteHe is not been unsecured but rather wanna do the right thing,but u cant know this,after all look at d advice u just gave...he asked
Deletefor suggestions on turning away from this not encouragemt to stay put..pls read befor replying
I saw chika's pics on instagram yesterday nd was like woww and choi,wondering who is taking those snapshot tho,anyways it her life.nice
ReplyDeleteHi Poster, I suggest you just stay away from men as much as you can. Be around women all the time even if you feel no sexual attraction to them. be friends with females. Reduce your male friends. Infact stay away from men especially the types u might like. But dont stay idle. always get yourself busy, play with females. after work or during weekends, take ur female friends out. be free with them but dont tell anyone your secret. i believe with time and prayers it will leave your mind. Another thing u can do is to make God a promise never to sleep with a man again. If you love God, you will keep this promise. take care bro
ReplyDeletemy dear tank God u ave started prayin secondly always b in d company of women b it married or single or beta stil in d company of male n female n watch hw interestin being married is though tough. try n prevent watchin any form of pornography movie dat wil send d wrong signal. den finally try to be in a relationship wit a lady no mata hw hard it wil seem n c hw u progress frm dere. d temptation is always strong but u wil pull tru in Jesus name.
ReplyDeletePoster I understand how you feel, I really do. For most part of my undergrad, I did extensive research on homosexuality and prostitution and to say that people who have always had the intrinsic desire to be with the same sex find it hard is grossly an understatement. The degree to which they are miserable is unfathomable.
ReplyDeleteI have been out of Nigeria since I was so 16 so the dogma of associating spirituality and demonic forces with homosexuality has been diluted for me (not totally eradicated) and combined with my research, I can boldly tell you that we all have that one guilty pleasure whether it is to be with the same sex or take what is not ours etc, we all do.
If your realization of being gay makes you miserable then, it rests on you to fight it.Think of it this way is it the sex you love or you have actually been in love with a man before and if you have been in love, did he make you happy? If its just the sex then its probably a guilty pleasure like masturbation of which some people fight the urge to do and succeed.If its love, then you are leaning towards a certain predisposition of what love is and that might be due to your upbringing and I don't know if you can fight that for very long.
For me personally, since Nigeria doesn't permit such just continue to fight it as giving in would be breaking the law but if can get out of Nigeria then do what makes you happy and everybody deserves to be happy as long as it is not rooted in another's misery.I believe in an egalitarian society and I see all sins as equal, sleeping with a married man is even worse than sleeping with your fellow single same sex, so you're not the worse human being on earth.
BUT do not marry a woman and make her miserable, remember she didn't make you the gay.
Where you dey since lady b. poster take note.
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DeleteAccept yourself for who you are. It is the same God that created you and these judgemental people here that are usually the biggest sinners.
ReplyDeletePoster we all have our crosses to bear and this is yours.You can fight this, because a homosexual lifestyle is not a healthy one and like every form of addiction very hard to stop or fight. You know there are women that look like men (but are not gay) and they are in the church. Maybe you should try being friends with such people first. I might be wrong though, but please just do what is in line with the word of God. God bless you and fight for you real good.
ReplyDeleteSelf denial is d last stage of self destruction.
ReplyDeleteUr only problem and its threatening is the fact that the human race is faced with a problem bigger than them.....and that is knowledge. ....what they dont understand they tag evil, sin etc and they forget that even in defining morality.....it takes cognizant of race,religion, custom and belief system all within the armbit of culture, that is why its sacrilegious to kill snake in some places in this same world while in another its upheld.
Dont allow ur sexuality to determine the above percentage of ur personality make up......ur much more than sex and preferences.
Finally my son.......no one can say to love God or even deities if u dont love ur self first cos thats the greatest love of all......find it and u will be happy for the rest of ur life.
Ur saved
poster i'll advice you to first of all trust God to help you as you cannot do it on your own; relying on your strength wears you out.
ReplyDeleteThe bible says work in the spirit that you will not fulfill the desires of the flesh. spend time fellowship with God in worship, the word and prayer remember that the more you fellowship with God, the more his nature rubs off on you.
finally i recommend that you wear a rubber band on your wrist always; pull on it and let go every time you think of sex with a man. after a while your brain will associate the act with pain and you will be free. do not be in a hurry, it takes time to break free. i trust God to look upon the sincerity of your heart and help you.
this my first time commenting, i hope it helps you.
Wouldn't praying and abstaining from sex have worked for you by now if you weren't born gay? You obviously cannot pray the gay away. Accept yourself and your sexuality. Have a relationship with the man you're denying. Relocate abroad for a different perspective on life in societies where you won't be attacked for living your truth.
ReplyDeleteRelocating abroad doest change the fact that its a sin and running away from reality cant prevent Gods rot.....smh my head for most of d comments on here...y'all knw the right thing but wnt say bcus most of u wanna b heard dats all
DeleteY'all not giving spiritual advice but rather he accepts himself.....lets be clear that been gay is a sin(male or female)read yr bibles to confirm n please mister avoid all this talks but rather turn to God.he holds all answers
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