NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
STEALING IN THE NAME OF LOVE...
Hello Stella,
Please help me. Please don't post my email address
I dated a man whos 35years for about 2 years, im 26years. We broke up sometime last year and got back this January.
I lost my job July 2nd, my birthday was July 3rd and he broke up with me July 7th. I'd a miserable birthday, not once did he tell me happy birthday or offer comfort for the loss of my job.
The reasons he gave for ending things with me was that I'm not submissive and do not listen to him, and that I wasn't communicating well with him and telling him deep stuff. Found it surprising cause we speak on phone almost 5 times in a day, we skype and chat.
Sometimes last year, I realised I was stealing money from him, about 200 to 2000 naira, never more than that. I've money, my job and parents provide well for me. I couldn't understand why and couldn't explain it either. Don't know if it's spiritual cos I only took from him.
I finally opened up to him, he told me he had suspected before he got back to me in January, the funny thing was after I opened up and told him about it, he freaked out and made it the main reasons for breaking up, he said I didn't trust him enough to tell him, I did but it was just shameful and I needed a perfect time to tell him, he also said if I loved him as claimed then I won't have stolen from him.
He said so much and that affected my self esteem.
I considered taking my own life.
I considered taking my own life.
Thing now is despite all these, i'm still in love with him and want to make things right but he insists he's done with me, that he has fears of what else I might do to him.
Just yesterday, he told me he still loves me and would always.
Please help confused, what do I do?
Now I've a job that pays even better than the last one.
I miss him everyday, so much memories.
LET HIM GO1....honey its over and his telling you he will always love you was just to cool you down.I think he might have known you stole from him..When you steal from someone on a regular basis,they know.
He probably set you up by letting you find more cash to steal.
Do you know how i came to this conclusion?
You said despite being close with him,he complained you were not deep enough with him.my dear,let him go and move on.
I hope you deal with this problem so that you do not end of stealing again from your new boo.
sorry
ReplyDeleteStella has said it all so please leave him and start afresh.
DeleteShame nor dey catch you sef; you thief finish wan still date the guy. D boy don see you finish be that nah! U nah bad market for the guy already. If he gets back with you, its probably for the new job and to get his money back that you once stole from him.
Good luck
Pls I don't understand what I just read.
DeleteMy dear, u are not a "thief" per say. U took ur boyfriend's money. U should have told him though. U don't sound like he used to give you money on his own. If he loves you he would help you not get rid of you. If you stay with someone who talks you down, u would loose ur self worth, that is verbal abuse. Understand that he is not ur man, God in His infinite mercy will bring to u, ur much better man who would love you and treat you like a queen. Truly there are men that love worse women and help them change
DeleteE yah I feel so sorry for u. The stealing isn't the only spiritual thing that u suffer, ur confession to him about taking his money na spiritual too...u should have zipped it and repent. You can get away with taking ur husband's money, but NEVER a boy friend's. I wish u well and I pray that the spirit of 'stealing' be far from u so that it would not cost u ur destiny with the right man.
DeleteI'll just say one thing out of the many I have. *busy.
ReplyDeleteHe left u cos u lost ur job, now he's back cos u have a job. No love dear. Take a walk.
Exactly,its obvious he broke up with u cos u lost ur job n he's nw professing it cause u got anoda one........kai! Na wa 4 waya!
DeleteMy thoughts exactly! The guy doesn't want a liability, he's a scum-bag!
Delete@gifted:seconded
DeleteExcatly my thought!
Delete"You considered taking your life" oh Chim ooh.i hope you are aware that you don't own this life you are trying to take up and down??
ReplyDeleteHe thinks you suffer from kleptomania,am guessing that is why he ran...
The major issue is actually to find out why you had compulsive urge to steal from him even when you had your own money....please reflect on that and let him be....he is not a small boy,he knows what he wants...If he needs you in his life,he will come running back and he will do right by you...thank you dear
Relationship wahala everywhere!God help yu
ReplyDeleteMy dear, stealing is not good even if it is from your blood relation , but I will advice you, leave this man and move on with your life, he is not your God. Dedicate yourself fully in your new job and you will forget this man entirely. Goodluck
ReplyDeleteSeems like an emotional abuser! They always make you feel bad for everything. Better move on and pray about your petty stealing habit. 2k??!!! Come on babes!
ReplyDeleteSeems like an emotional abuser! They always make you feel bad for everything. Better move on and pray about your petty stealing habit. 2k??!!! Come on babes!
ReplyDeletelet him go.d man is absolutely right.u need to concentrate more on yourself by getting closer to God for that spirit of theft to leave u and also praying fervently u dont do that in your next relationship.
ReplyDeleteKleptomaniac....u better find hw to over come dat evil spirit else it wud ruin ur life.. let him go! u will get someone better once u stop stealing...
ReplyDeleteWhy some girls dey steal from there guys sef? Even if say d guy dey provide everytin 4 dem, dem go still enter d guy wallet! Nawa o...
ReplyDeleteJust like you lost your old job and got a far much better one now, apply same to the men in your life...let him go, you will surely find someone who is better than he. And try not to steal from your next. Good luck.
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Your own will come but pls stop stealing and if you think its a thing you can't controlled see a spirit filled man of God
ReplyDeleteNawa o! Things are happening sha! Mayb is from ur village. U need prayers.
ReplyDeleteFool! Hopeless idiot! We are on a mission to finding out who u are. This is not the end of the horrible comment u dropped. Gosh Cece you are so heartless. How could you? If u break Don Davido's relationship with "our" friend what do u stand to gain? Already he's not picking her calls. (How shallow minded can men be! Bcos of lies this idiot wrote) Cece Are u happy now? Wicked fool. Plz Name one girl u know She ve slept with. And Did u go with her to fuck them senators and ministers? Anu npama. Jealous she goat! All you jealous new frds tha came with my frd's new house and car. One by one thunder will strike all of you dead. Mark my words. Hopeless idiot. If i were You i will be very scared. Yes! U should be. You should be very Very very very afraid Cece. We are coming for you. I swear. Am sure u think u are faceless abi? We shall see. Heartless Back stabber. Wicked soul!!!
DeleteSDK if u like swallow this comment as usual. But always know is not good to be one sided. You dnt know me or Cece or Don Davido and he's gulfrd. I wonder why u taking sides and not posting my comments. Not nice okay?
@ Anny, u and cece dey quarrel b4, dis kind swear dey enter blood, pls take it easy on cece,, abeg when u kill her, leave her hands, so she can still type. Back to d poster, pls leave dat man alone, no single love at all, dis is the second time, he is breaking up with u, u don't want to still learn, why are u suffering urself, pls thank God he left u and move on. My pple una well done.
Deleteewooooooo,hmmm,cece y u brk person relatnship na,na true?,lolz,hian,
Deleteabeg anty stella plz b postin anny's comment nd cece's own o so dat we can see d end of this and finally settle dem,lolz
DeleteCece honey, wat ve u done dis time? Pls I need references o. Bia Anny is dat a threat 2 life? Mk we knw Hw 2 file d report.
DeleteAll this Episol for me? Ann the sex salve and ass licker. There's something about you tha reminds me of Chika Ike's PA. Young woman i owe you no explanation. Is "our" friend i ve to talk to. Yes you right. Am her new frd. Yes I met her this one she moved to her new site. And honestly i wrote my comment without the intention of running anyone down. What i wrote was the things i heard. Which i sometimes joke around with maureen about. Haven't seen or confirmed any of this rumors. And that's the truth. (plz Don Davido take note) and I never even knew She's dating the Don. Lol! What a small world. Am going to pick my phone right now after this comment and call Maureen. Am truly very sorry if the Don took the lesbian ish and sleeping around thing seriously. Am not a trouble maker believe me. I didn't even know you or maureen visit this blog Let alone her boyfrd. My darling Ann, no need digging. Save ur strength my. Am Chioma. And Am calling her now to apologize. Am very sure If you are not there to add pepper she will understand. Maureen is easy going and nice. SDK and tha berry girl won't put me in hot soup mbok.
DeleteThis will be the last am ever gona reply you Ann. Goodnight!!!
Some Juicy gist man! Patiently waiting for Cece's reply. Na refresh button i dey untop this post. I ve parked here.
DeleteDraws closer 2 anny and whispers*is it our don davido?
DeleteSee gist choiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii! Cece what have you done?
DeleteUna see why i love this bloggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggg???
Okay Cece i definitely like you more now. 10000likes for this reply. Good girl. #Way2Go.
Delete@ Anny, plz dnt reply again plz. This should be the end you guyz.
That's where u see SDKers. They ve raised their amebo antenna.
Game over.
Everyone out!!!
#Hot Ice.
Pls can someone gist us the beginning of this exchange? Thanks in advance
DeleteHian...
Deletewarris happening here abeg?
The gist be say One Berry gul was looking for her lost lover. Mentioned it in some post about reunion in abuja Nigeria. Cece tried 2 help. Not after saying the gul na lesbian and big time runz gul tha sleeps with only ogas at the top. And she dey also go baba place bcos the kind money the chic get now nawa. She bought 2014 range and moved 2 her new house etc. Stupid innocent Cece didn't know the Don was seeing/dating same gul she dey yarn Berry about. He made one kind comment which Cece replied and alarm blow. Now the Don seems to have broken up with his babe wey he buy 2014 Range abi wey buy 2014 Range bcos of what Cece wrote on sdk. The said girls frds been bullying Cece and cussing her out. [Which i think is natural cosThat's what frds do. I could do worse] Okay The irony is the girl be this Cece 5and6 tho they just recently became friends. And she and her group of frds dey follow una read this amibo blog. Now Cece is in trouble "i think" cos things have blown out of proportion.... that's it.
Delete10k me later!
Am gona be killed for this comment myself. #lip sealed.
@adaorah, thank u so much, pls dis story for come here, well Na private thing Wat need settling
Delete@ AdaDiUraNma love hotice, i carry yash for you ooohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.............
DeleteDon't i just love sdk? And where is tha house wife tha call herself Linda Eze?
DeleteAdaDi, thanks for putting it all together.
DeleteNow I remember that post.
So our Don Davido hold like that?
Cece, I hope you are not using your trouble -maker skills to put one Chioma in trouble.
DeleteI seriously doubt how you can claim someone is your friend, say all those terrible things about her as "jokes" and then identify yourself.
Ah see gobe!!! I saw the post o. Ahhh Don was winding Cece up true true o. But u sef Cece, so the Maureen is ur friend and u finished her like that on that post??? Even if u didn't know she reads this blog, Haba!!! Chai see what can happen on blogs o. Lesson learned.
DeleteBut I love ur total surrender and apology, I salute u for accepting ur blunder and I think the matter should rest. Don please temper justice with mercy o. Chai this blog sha.
Someone said they are done with you and you still trying to make it work? Because he said he will always love you?
ReplyDeleteThat was just something he had to say
I advice you move on and concentrate on your job.
Buy self esteem somewhere around and put it on you. Work on your self and be a better person. Be the kinda person you want to attract. Stop going back and forth with an ex. If he comes back,tell him you have moved on
Remind your self you are beautiful and you are the price not the other way round. Any man should be happy to have you in their lives not you wanting to die and commit suicide.
lol.. stealing on a regular basis na wa fr u sef ooo.
ReplyDeletee no taya you?
DeleteBLOG ANALYSER: Honestly! This story is hilarious! I don't know what to make of it. So u stole from him and you confessed to him. Are u okay? What happens to quiting and asking God for forgiveness. My dear u don take hand put sand inside your garri. As humans we all have our little secrets u shouldn't share certain things with ur boo especially stuffs like urs. One day him go call u thief for your face. My advise, repent nd don't do that again. Least, I forget move on dear. Forget him bfore u waste ur youth on a time waster. This is time for you to plan ur life and do stuffs that will uplift you spiritually, physically, fiancially and psychologically.
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ReplyDeleteAre u sure he's the only one u ve stolen from, cos this sound very strange,abeg free d guy cos one day u will steal his blokos, u berra find a solution to ur problem cos no man wants to wife a thief, wats the name again, kleptomaniac tinz.
Orishirishi
ReplyDeletehmmmmm, this is serious
ReplyDeleteSerious ishhhhh....
ReplyDeleteMove on.Keep moving and don't look back.Remember Lot's wife.The Blood of Jesus still washes away sins.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm
ReplyDeleteGo and solve your stealing problem first before thinking of love. you nor even they thief better money self. imagine at your age 26 years old you go just steal 200 Naira from your bf wallet. wetin 200 naira go reach you buy? if na credit stay Stella blog free credit dey at least once a week. you might be lucky to get free 1500 credit.. kai a graduate and working class babe stealing 200 naira?
ReplyDeleteall that na joke ohh boo. A problem shared is half solved.
Now lets be serious...
1.PLEASE Go to MOUNTAIN OF FIRE FOR DELIVERANCE ASAP.
2. DON'T TELL ANYONE ABOUT YOUR PROBLEM. THEY WILL USE IT AGAINST YOU IN FUTURE.
3. ONLY YOUR MUM, PASTOR AND GOD SHOULD KNOW
4. LET YOUR BOYFRIEND GO. HE WILL ALWAYS USE IT AGAINST YOU TILL THE END OF THE WORLD. HE WILL NEVER TRUST YOU AGAIN. A BROKEN TRUST IS LIKE A SHATTERED GLASS NO MATTER HOW PERFECT YOU ARRANGE THE PIECES, THE SCARS WILL ALWAYS BE THERE
Plenty Money! Nice one!
DeleteWhy is everyone juat talking about how she stole? I think that guy only want her now because she has a better job. He doesn't want a liability, to me that's just it.
DeleteHmmmmn!what can I say?he iss just not meaant for you.he doesn't love you as he claims he do.even if you are a klepto!if he love to stay around he will,klepto won't be aan excuse to leave.however,just go spiritual abt ur problem oo.thank God na only him you dey steal from.if u dare steaal from someone else na OYO u dey oo
ReplyDeleteThis man has used you for ogun owo which is why you steal from only him.
ReplyDeleteStella!!! Forget this story abeg. I wan yarn small. I saw deola for ghana dis weekend and i cldnt just get my mind off her. I was drooling when i saw her and her frd by the pool when the babe i was with 'slapped' me back to reality that, thats the popular lagos deola and her frds,seems they r celebrating something.
ReplyDeleteForget bullshit pple yarn oooo this chic is damn clean and freshhhhh. I so wanna dig her mehn. Till i came back to nija y/day,na she i dey imagine for my head ooo. I no send stories abt her past abeg, we r all recycled materials in r/ships. The person u r with was dumped by sm1 likewise u. So make una forget her sob stories u r gonna tell me( my gf showed me so many posts abt her thinking i will be discouraged...lol)
Any bv here in abk that look frosh and clean like dis deola chic? Omo lets meet ooooo
WTF are u talking about?
DeleteUre nothing but a baby FOOL
DeleteWho is Deola? lol@ baby FOOL
DeleteTess im the last person u wanna take on...the last person
DeleteMister man I've never been dumped, I do the dumping. It's a record that has never been broken and it will remain so.
DeleteLol ok don't send. U obviously did not see the scandalous rag she wore for her friends birthday dinner. See leave her freshness or whatever, the girl is a ho and no point entangling urself with strange women.
DeleteDeola Aka Diadem d IG bleacher
DeleteI think you should concentrate more on dealing with that crazy habit...go closer to God...leave man matter
ReplyDeleteHe don't love u in the first place. He only love u Co's u are working and u lost ur job He broke up with u, now u got another, He is professing love again. My dear forget him and move on, and then work on ur stealing habit. Cheers
ReplyDeletePeople be considering taking their lives over evry little challenge
ReplyDeletePls move on jare or get busy with something.
ReplyDeleteThis shouldn't be an issue sef.
So what if you stole from him?
N 1, you are a thief, why should the poor guy marry you. There is man i know, he married a thief and they have two children, you know what, one of his son is a thief now, he has left the marriage and right now he keeps taking the boy from one church to another the boy is 15 years old now, he was almost lynched in their neighbourhood a few months ago. Love is not enough, if you marry from a family of thieves one or two of your kids may turn out to be a thief.
ReplyDeleteBabe, I advise you take all that money you've stolen from him and go get yourself sense. dude said you not compatible and you there trying to make a come back. This is one of the reasons men treat women like trash. he has told you his mind and you forcing yourself on him. your next chronicle will be titled "Help, I think I am the side chick". Stella has killed the word "Epic", so here, #Epicmumu
ReplyDeleteLeast i forget dear, You have no self esteem, so none was affected.
ReplyDeleteY are u this mean??? LOL @ go get yourself some sense.
DeleteLol...surest u crazy mehn
DeletePlease leave dis guy,he is just taking advantage of u.....wake up from ur slumber.
ReplyDeleteJust try forget him and pray for forgiveness.
ReplyDeletewell dear i rili dont know what to say, did u actually believe or go intentionally to take it or u took it but not as an act of stealing. anyways forget this guy and move on, yes u feel miserable even more miserable ut in time d hurt will stop nd u will find urself back but dont even try going bk cos he may accept u only out of pity nd break ur heart more than he just did so move on. pray well for ur next rship nd just love urself first too.
ReplyDeletePlease move on and thank God for your new job. Be positive about life and trust God who gave you a new job that is better than the former to bring a good guy to you that will also be better than this one. Stay bless and know that God's hand is mightily upon your life and HE SHALL PERFECT EVERY ASPECT OF UR LIFE. STAY BLESSED!!!
ReplyDeleteOnye choro iri awo,biko rie nke gbara agba.
ReplyDeleteSimply put,you are a thief.
How much did you steal?
N200 or N2000.
Shame.
D guy na poor man?
Good thing you've discovered the source of your problem..now the next is not to accept that its a part of you, while trying to stop, lets the devil will work on it...
ReplyDeleteIf you think you've tried and its not working, PLEASE take a bold step and give yourself short-sleeve (i mean cut off that hand that makes you steal)...it wont be much of a deal for you,since you've contemplated suicide...
Move in dear dt guy is no good. Som1 who can't b wt u in ur time of setback isn't worth a stay in ur life in ur time of comeback. Thank God u hav a beta job, tantalize ursef dear spiritually, physically n socially. Dnt rush into anoda r\ship f now. U deserv a beta persn, cheers!
ReplyDeleteYou are not in love with him; you are simply ashamed of what you have done and confiding in him only made it worse. You think by telling yourself that you love him would help him keep your pilfering habit a secret. Your story isn't a love story. When you stop stealing, your self-esteem and confidence will build up. You will no longer be have to worry about trust issues in your new relationship.
ReplyDeleteFFT.
Y did u even tell him u stole from him? Dis babe no sharp o.. He wil always use it against u, d rule is wen a man knows such tins abt u, it's better u dnt marry him cos he wud use it to insult u every day.. Forget him n move on, u r stil Young so count it as part of life's experiences
ReplyDeleteu sef pray urself out of petty stealing, face ur new job ur own man will locate u. abeg forget love
ReplyDeleteThis story reminds me of a certain me and a Mr W..... Poster I hope the boo ain't a Mr W.M
ReplyDeleteWhy will you steal for Christ sake?men hate that, and he is yet to marry you yet to marry you.
ReplyDeleteYou are not bound to accept my opinion, but if I were you, I would face somewhere else. Some people believe stealing runs in the blood. He may be scared that you may give birth to thieves. I rebuke the spirit of stealing in you. May you never find yourself in such a shameful situation again. Be prayerful and trust God. Peace! Rose
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ReplyDeleteHow cece spoild show 4 Maureen
God bless you for this link. I missed d initial drama.
Delete@Cece you are brave to have owned up that you are indeed one of her friends and you even have her number....... Why dont people take corrections. you shouldn't have owned up or revealed your identity. Anyway sha i trust you. you can handle anything that comes your way. FEAR NOTHING THE LORD IS YOUR STRENGTH.
ReplyDeleteIF INDEED ALL WHAT YOU SAID, ALTHOUGH I DIDN'T SEE OR READ IT IS TRUE THEN LET THEM DO THEIR WORST. YOU WERE ONLY HELPING A BROTHER.
2.. DON DAVIDI I DONT CARE WEDA YOU ARE RICHER THAN GOODLUCK JONATHAN... GO AND COLLECT YOUR RANGE ROVER ASAP AND SOW IT AS A SEED TO ANY MAN OF GOD OR GIVE IT TO A CHARITY ORGANISATION TO SELL AND USE THE PROCEED TO HELP THE NEEDY
first the guy does not love you.
ReplyDeletesecond, he left you because of your job.
third, he tell you he loves you because of our new job.
Forget him and move on.
lol.. omo i miss ooo
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