Hey,you got some time for me right now?
I wanna preach!
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LADIES.....
Don't think having sex with a guy will make him love you. You will only get confused with your feelings. Learn to draw the line between love and sex. A man's emotion is not connected with sex but yours is associated with your feelings. Men can have sex with many ladies without having any feelings for any of them. But a woman finds it difficult to let go of a man who disvirgined her or whom she enjoys sex with.
GENTLEMEN......
Don't pressure ladies for sex when you are not ready to take up its responsibility. Being a man is not about how many ladies you have slept with, it is more of how many ladies you've helped to become better. Not by making them a mother by circumstance, abort a pregnancy or delaying their progress in life. But by bringing out the best in their career, ambitions or virtues in life. I hope those who need to know these would learn.
Thank you.
true talk
ReplyDeleteSpot on Stella!!!.
DeleteGuys take note
Well said.....but what if KONJI hold person?
DeleteU know say KONJI na bastard?
@Galore
There is no such thing like konji for real people with self control. If konji hold you and the only option is with a HIV infected person, won't the konji go? Make people just dey respect themselves when it comes to sex. It's delicate.
DeleteWell said ma. Sex leads to soul ties and complicates things. God dat reserved sex for marriage knows why he did that. It's meant to bond a MAN and His WIFE...not a BF and a GF. lets not think God has reduced his standards along with Hollywood and with the lifestyle of our celebrities. Ladies have self esteem. It's worth keeping. Your David would come.. that's why we are not animals. Have some self control!!!
DeleteDer palmwinetrinker,funny you. Nothing like conji?. You don't hv blood but palmwine in ur veins
DeleteHonestly, I prefer not to have sex with them this girls, but they no go leave guy man rest. If you no do they go say you be nerd, if you come sabi they go want occupy say na their birth right to own you. If you come try well well like me dey go want do anything to keep you just like my ex wey I dey run for.
DeleteWetting we go come do na? We'll for me, if you give me I go chop am like well well beleful and Waka pass if no be you, it not just be you.
Conji controls you or you control Conji?
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ReplyDeleteWell said
ReplyDeletePreach SDK!
ReplyDeletePreach!
Sadly some will still not heed to your advice / preachings.
stella im a fan of yours from your days in encomium gist cafe and i admire you a lot. thanks for this post but let me tell you ehn, its easier typed/said than done. talking from experience im a 25yearold female who is a virgin and trust me it hasn't been easy cant remember the last time i was in a relationship. sex is always and issue most times i second guess myself for holding off for so long.
ReplyDeleteThe one that will wait will come..If ladies share their experiences here..you will be amazed that the men that mounted pressure on them and de flowered them ended up running..not all ooh..but most...so focus on building yourself..look out for a young man that shares similar views about this with you....you will be fine...
DeleteThis sex ehn,you will do it morning afternoon,night later in life..it is not running..lolz
Ah, the 25 year old virgin. Gotta love 'em.
DeleteYou know the issue? You haven't placed a finger on why you want to be a virgin till marriage. It's so beautiful of you, don't let any man make you think otherwise. It's only the serious men that will stick to you with your decision. Don't be bothered about the wait and take men, they aren't worth your time.
DeleteAnon 2:18, Keep holding on, I believe there are many guys like me out there who will respect ur decision. The Lord is ur strenght
DeleteMrs D it not only serious men that will wait for a virgin. I believe we have read countless stories of girls who married as virgins but have dogs and DV men as husbands. So the virginity didn't stop the men from cheating or being wicked. My dear Annon keep your virginity for God only not because of a man. If your a not a christian look for some1 who is worth giving your virginity to. Last being a virgin means jack if your a fouled on all other aspect of your life. In short give your life to Christ-it the best thing you can keep
DeleteI usually enjoy reading comments but yours got me to open up about me.
DeleteI'm 28 going on 29 and a virgin with a capital V. I made up my mind as a little girl to remain that way and by Gods grace not even my pretty face, lovely figure, adventurous personality, my educational status and exposure has made me change my mind.
Truth be told, there are times I feel like Ok, I'm letting go or I've been foolish for so long and with this ideology I may not find me a husband. But then at the end of the day it's the choices we make that makes us who we are.
All I can say is sex is worth waiting for and even if I die waiting but God forbid, I'll be glad that I kept and upheld the temple of God.
Anon 11:16pm....if only u could see the way i am applauding you. You know what you want and you stood by it. God is ur strength and HE will honour you just as you have honoured him first with ur body.
Deletestella im a fan of yours from your days in encomium gist cafe and i admire you a lot. thanks for this post but let me tell you ehn, its easier typed/said than done. talking from experience im a 25yearold female who is a virgin and trust me it hasn't been easy cant remember the last time i was in a relationship. sex is always and issue most times i second guess myself for holding off for so long.
ReplyDeletestella im a fan of yours from your days in encomium gist cafe and i admire you a lot. thanks for this post but let me tell you ehn, its easier typed/said than done. talking from experience im a 25yearold female who is a virgin and trust me it hasn't been easy cant remember the last time i was in a relationship. sex is always and issue most times i second guess myself for holding off for so long.
ReplyDeletestella im a fan of yours from your days in encomium gist cafe and i admire you a lot. thanks for this post but let me tell you ehn, its easier typed/said than done. talking from experience im a 25yearold female who is a virgin and trust me it hasn't been easy cant remember the last time i was in a relationship. sex is always and issue most times i second guess myself for holding off for so long.
ReplyDeletestella im a fan of yours from your days in encomium gist cafe and i admire you a lot. thanks for this post but let me tell you ehn, its easier typed/said than done. talking from experience im a 25yearold female who is a virgin and trust me it hasn't been easy cant remember the last time i was in a relationship. sex is always and issue most times i second guess myself for holding off for so long.
ReplyDeleteHian! E don do na. She don hear
DeleteI just tire! Virgin virgin up and down. Them dey take am collect award? It's a laudable feat sha,i ain't even gonna lie, so keep it up, don't let no punk make u 2nd guess your decision.
DeleteEven if u ever decide to give it up,do it becos u want to,not because u are trying to make someone love you or stay with you.
NewBie!
Lolz @ E don do!
DeleteThat got me ROTFL
Kikikikikikikikiki.
ReplyDeleteStella, they won't hear oooo!!!
They prefer sending in stories that touches the heart!!
Thanks Stella. ..so true. ..especially about girls finding it difficult to let go of the person that disvirgened them.
ReplyDeleteThanks Stella. ..so true. ..especially about girls finding it difficult to let go of the person that disvirgened them.
ReplyDeleteMadam stella thank you for this post, coz some babes now see sex with or without protection as an accomplishment. Afterwards they will come here and be talking how the were drilled and grilled without an iota of shame and self worth. It now seems as if vulgarity and description of such ACT deserves accolades and awards, later they will send chronicles of how they want to commit suicide and how they are suffering because of BEING PREGNANT AND ALONE.
ReplyDeleteContinue hanging your legs on burglary proof , may God give us the needed wisdom with which to comport ourselves as responsible ladies with good self esteem.
True talk, I totally relate to this.
ReplyDeletesorry o its this robot thing that is confusing me.sorry for the multiple comments
ReplyDeleteTrue talk, I totally relate to this.
ReplyDeleteTrue talk
ReplyDeleteTrue talk
ReplyDeleteWell! Different strokes for different folks. I had no qualms dumping my "disvirginer" after 4yrs! D guy was jealous like an Agric fowl, he disrespected my dad thinking my dad was an aristo although he apologise later but that was d end,till I tied d knot he was still stalking n threatening me but I show am say my heart dey my back,he was beaten up n handed over to d police 4 stalking along with a broken collar bone(unfortunately)! Ran into him while shopping for baby things, he just stared while I flaunt my belly pass! No time!
ReplyDeleteChoi @curvy u cracked me up lol! Pls I need heart softening medicine,my mind too strong
DeleteExactly @ Curvy.
DeleteI had no issue,with leaving the guy who disvirgined me. Honestly, he was a really sweet guy, treated me very well and I couldn't have asked for a better first but his drama just too much.
From his dad killing his mum to his mum talking to him from beyond the grave..
Abeg, when things escalated to a certain point, I just moved. Wasn't easy back then but today? I'm singing Hallelujah Hosannah!
You will soon read comments here asking Stella if she "closed leg" herself..forgetting the lesson to be learnt from all this...it is not About throwing stones! Just learn
ReplyDeleteNa u dey ask.....only u wake come! Tc
DeleteLOL @anon! Abeg tell her o! Na Only she waka come
DeletePreach on sis Stella. Let those that av ear hear.
ReplyDeletethumbs up stells!! ride on.
ReplyDelete_pweety rach.
Great advice. Sex is a pleasure but it can be pain too, so should be respected
ReplyDeleteI made love with my husband almost as soon as we met oh and look where we are today!Best of pals. I guess it varies. There's really no hard and fast rules about dating. If he's YOURS, he's YOURS. Okbye!
ReplyDeleteTrue.....
DeleteThank you. Some people will be claiming virgins but the suck dicks and get heads and fingering plus smooched. Gosh...hypocrites. As far as u have seen and suck a man's dick you ain't different from a girl who has been deflowered. If you must have sex use protection and to a worth partner.
DeleteVery very true......
DeleteIt truly varies. My husband and I had many sessions of toe curling sex the first time I visited him. Marrying him is one of the best decisions of my life and I can't stop thanking God for it. Each to his own.
DeleteHmmmm...worded. Preach it Stelly baby. Sometimes we ladies mix lust for love and some guys feel you have to express your love for them by having sex with them. May God help us all.
ReplyDeletea.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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Making sense post stella.... Yu try wella, clap for urself...... Lolx...
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
Loads of my friends are pregnant today,others are single mums cos they felt sex from compound to compound makes you a big girl. Am not judging them cos am not a virgin either but am single,celibate and praying for the right man and with God all things will work out fine in no time, so lets keep cautioning ourselves as young ladies and keep our heads straight up...And to the guys, keep decieving girls all in the name of love,defile them by sleeping with them but in mind that karma is still in existence...This post just made me sober.
ReplyDeleteHahahahaha @ from compound to compound
DeleteChi oooo.....LMAO
Dis is for those who expect marriage from any guy dey re dating. ... I always tell ladies dis-not all relationship leads to d altar stop expecting too much from a guy u dating jst because u allow him had sex with you does not mean he most wife u, secondly is ur choice to decide to let him had sex with u or not.... most men decide to date we ladies for SEX/fun luckily at times d guys fall in love den wife d lady involve not all ladies re dis lucky. ...... when u re dating ve it in mind dat it is jst dating bf/gf things, when he engage u den he's ur fiancy when he wife you he's ur hubby..... if d relationship don't lead to dis jst know u guys wasn't meant to be. Shekina!
ReplyDelete@Chick felix,pls confirm u are a chick by improving ur English language.What's d meaning of "is ur CHOICE to DECIDE?how can u use both words in a sentence? learn more about punctuation marks and past/present tense. reading ur comment most times is hardwork. i hope i didnt sound rude,just trying to correct you in love.
DeleteGbagaun mistress
DeleteTruer words have not been spoken..
ReplyDeleteCorrect...
ReplyDeleteTell that to my foolish ex boyfriend that keeps coming to pester me for sex yet won't marry me! I'd sooner shove a bottle down there than let you touch me again!
ReplyDelete100% accurate
ReplyDeleteVery true.
ReplyDeleteSo true.
ReplyDeleteFact#
ReplyDeleteHe or she dat has ear let him or her hear.
Help me tell dat Anonymous wey de talk sence for hw she de thief Pricks
ReplyDeleteStella am soo guilty of this,i met this guy 3years ago,i love him with everything in me,i love him more than I love myself! And I believed he love me too,things were going so well between us,at a point he started pleading with me to take in for him so my mum will allow him marry me(am an only child and my dad is late)my mum knew about the relationship! And she likes him too as well! Though I refused to take in for him. Last year,i stumbled on a chat between him and a lady,the lady was crying and lamenting that he don't care about her anymore,that he asked her to do an abortion and she did but he didn't bother to check up on her to know how she's doing,she kept telling him that he's changed and he was telling her that he's sorry and he will see her soon...I felt as if my world has crumbled,i couldn't stop crying,then I asked him who the lady is,he told me she's his girlfriend of 6years but he's nolonger interested in the relationship,i couldn't believe what I heard,i have been with him for over 2years and I never found out he's in a serious relationship,i spend his birthdays(him and the lady share the same birthday but he always make sure am with him on his birthday),his special moments,with him! He has never given me any reason not to see him or be with him whenever I want,i pay him surprise visits most times and I have never caught him misbehaving,i actually trusted him so much,which made it so painful when he told me about the girl...then he pleaded and cried that I shouldn't leave him,that he will sort things out with the lady,and I accepted and stayed with him! 4months later,I don't know how the girl found out about me and the day she called,i was with my guy! To my greatest surprise,he started crying over the phone,begging the girl to forgive him,right there in my presence he went on his bbm and whatsapp and used the girls picture as his dp with the pm*my life is incomplete without you baby,please don't leave me* I saw his updates,and I lost it! I ran into the bathroom,looked the door and used a piece from a glass that I broke to slit my wrist!!(I tried to commit sucide) Hmmmmmm....i woke up in the hospital,I opened my eyes and saw him standing there with tears in his eyes,he begged me to forgive him,did all sorts of things,and I forgave him!i still have that mark till date,it always reminds me of how much I love this guy,my story is so long but I just want you to know that I am still dating this guy,he is my first love,my first and only boyfriend,i have never cheated on him,i will never cheat on him,i love him more than life itself,,,hes still with the same girl,i am aware of that and I respect his relationship with her but the girl is not aware that he's still dating me.just last week I was in abuja to see him,spent couple of days with him and I loved him more! I can't seem to let go of this guy,he's more than a lover to me,i know we don't have a future together but as long as he still wants to be with me I will be with him! Unless God intervenes and gives me strength to leave him!
ReplyDeleteUmmm.....how old r u again?....Ok......continue.
Delete@Anon 4:00
DeleteAfter reading your story, all I fell for you is pity.
Your self worth is in shambles and that guy will be your undoing, mark my words.
You need help ASAP.
It's either you are just dumb or you have been bewitched.
You are sick my dear. ...I pray God intervenes. ..suicide cos of man? OK! Sharpen sword of, cos there'll come a time when you'll need it....This time, make sure u hide where you will not be found until after some days, and slice ur throat and wrist.... silly girl! He's probably still with u out of pity....Telemundo dey disturb u......TC
DeleteCould dis b love? Nei dis is not love. I reject dis kind of love ijn Amen.
DeleteEhwuu! The witches in your village are frying garri with your brain. Hang on to him, you hear? You will end up a baby mama and side chick, he will never respect you. Give yourself some brain bikonu, nyere onwe gi aka!
DeleteThis not about him deflowering you or the sex you have with him. It about true love/foolish/mumu love. The thing is you will probably die for him or die because of him. Until you realise what you want from life and what you should be getting from life you won't move forward.
DeleteJeezzzz is this a movie script or what? Hian babe u are thinking uncle clockwise haba! Ur brain cells are in active right now u need prayers
DeleteReally how old are you?...you sound like a clueless teenager. You better give yourself brain and start weaning ur mind/ heart off that guy. What's ur problem! Can't u see that that guy is toxic and ur r/ship with him is unhealthy and dysfunctional. Look for someone to advice u. It would have been easier if u had an older sister to, but that one no b excuse to dull as u dull so.
DeleteNne I repeat collect sense from somewhere and leave that guy alone stat! Pls my darling u deserve better, u will find someone that will love u and only u. So much so that u will wonder what u were doing with this present cassanova all along.
P.s- I think u should see a counselor or some professional cos slashing ur wrist stems from issues deeper than what u just described.
NewBie!
I fear u oh.
DeleteChai! Anukwa m ozo ooo!!!
DeleteNne u need serioussss deliverance!
Whosoever did this to you shall never knw peace...
DeleteYou are in bondage without even realising it..Free from that psycho now b4 u eventually run mad...*Smh
I understand, you're an only child without a father famished (this one pass thirst) for love and a father figure, It's so unfortunate you fell into the hand of a callous user, I hope someday you'll realize that there is so much pure love out there. You love hard because you had no one but mum to share it with, but you deserve better not just for you but your mum also.
DeleteU need help my dear.that man doesn't love u,leave him and run fastttttt
DeleteHmmmmmmmmmmmmm......Chai!...*jogging by*
DeleteLMAOOO am I dreaming or what??? What's this nonsense I just read?!
DeleteEeyah,hope u have been taking ur medications properly? Get well soon dear. May God heal u quickly.
DeleteBabes,u are sick and seriously sick if you dont know.I hope ur mum isnt just sitting. She should be in MFM now casting and binding cos ur kind of sickness is a rare one and needs divine intervention ASAP. Babes,you are sick. wish u speedy recovery.
Self worth babe, self worth! I won't judge you cos I've also made mistakes but babe you need a re orientation. You are the price! Never settle for less! Leave that mo' fucker please and make yourself useful! Please, love yourself more..
DeleteCome to think that you are an only child...wow! Wow! Wow!. Ooh well, ilI'll console myself with this. "Experience will be your vest teacher" and when you finish learning dontdon't hate yourself.. Just look back, smile and thank God from delivering you from bondage. God be with you.
Ok, Hmmmmmm Bia young lady, this is an evidence that the evil ones want to destroy your life. Don't u ever learn
DeleteBe there loving him up and down until old age gets you. My friend better pack up that rubbish this is to show that you either do not have a self worth or you are dating him for money. Believe me u will commit that suicide on the day he will marry some other babe.
Na Aga abuja up and down. Ewu
Its either you are been Jaazed, or you lack father love from ur childhood. Or you are a born fool.
DeleteP.S. Do not love something or someone to the point of 'idolization', that is the quickest way to losing that thing or person. The only person you should give your life to is God, and He did not mean you should kill yourself except you're martyred.
DeleteHe is just with you out of pity, you deserve to be loved not pitied.
@Stella, kudos; let's help you add the word of God to the sermon;
ReplyDelete16There are six things the Lord hates,
seven that are detestable to him:
17haughty eyes,
a lying tongue,
HANDS THAT SHED INNOCENT BLOOD,
18a heart that devises wicked schemes,
feet that are quick to rush into evil,
19a false witness who pours out lies
and a person who stirs up conflict in the community. Prov. 6
Did you see the "s" in hands there. Guy, if you suggest or suggested to your girlfriend to abort it, you've joined hands to shed innocent blood. Babe, if you terminate it, your hand have shed innocent blood. Nurse, doctor, you accepted to do it for money etc. your hands is blood stained and the Lord says that he HATES your hand; not you. If you all repent, he will forgive you. Blessings
Nonyelum Alfred said: spread the word, not the legs!
ReplyDeletewow thnks
ReplyDeleteI was actually going to see one of my friend's with benefits this evening. After reading this post I don change plans.
ReplyDelete@Timetable, ask your wife if she will like God to bring up a time table for her to have a baby and put it at once in 10 years? Or would she have liked if the Lord put the time table of her having a husband at between the ages of 50-60? Just ask her to examine her conscience and what she want to achieve. And please, you both should seek God, the maker of the institution called marriage; he said:
ReplyDeleteThe wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 1 Corinthians 7:4.
the problem I see here is that you both seems to be too busy to feed from God's word. When last did you and your wife read the Bible?
Sex ought to be offered by a lady only to the single man who was bold and matured enough to love her and make her his wife after the marriage. Many girls will find this very offensive in today's world.
ReplyDeleteTrue talk.......I hope those sahel savannah's girls will learn.
ReplyDeleteSex ought to be offered by a lady only to the single man who was bold and matured enough to love her and make her his wife after the marriage. Many girls will find this very offensive in today's world.
ReplyDeleteStella,tanx o.Nice one but it aint easy jor.Iv not had it and its not bcos of lack of opportunity.Inshort,iv bn with bf for 3years and he really has been patient(twas a long distance relationship) but now that im back home,my body is just doing me gish gish and i really wanto wait,i hope he will be able to wait some more b4 lagos girls go do me strong thing
ReplyDeleteYou can't use SEX to tie a MAN.
ReplyDeleteMbanu!
True talk SDK
Guys don YIMU you die Stella.... I can totally relate with this. I don't enjoy sex that much, but with the few I've enjoyed it with, it's so difficult to let go of. ...especially the only two who made me orgasm during the deed....its like rocket science to my body to orgasm during sxe. ...oh well....I pray my hubby will perform magic......lol. Honestly, the best thing is not to have sex at all with a man, especially if you are not sure of his feelings twds you, even if you are crazy about him. I was once crazy about a guy, so crazy that I saw a future with him, but I wasn't sure about him. He later told me he had a gf. She was from another tribe, but he wanted a girl from his part of the country. They'd been dating on and off for a while....I was crazy about him....But I never had sex with him....oh how my body wanted him, but it's head over heart....I slept at his twice, but head over heart all the time....I cried days un-end when he got married....but I was able to let go, cos I never had sex with him. What if I had the best sex of my life with him? I would still be suffering today, unable to let go.....so ladies....Help yourself! .....TC
ReplyDeletenice post! But there is an increasingly large number of nyphomanic-induced clitorially sensitive ladies who can not survive without a daily screw, prowling the streets. And they dont just reside in brothels and hotels, but pretend to be responsible choir-mistresses, househelps, bankers, airhostesses, secretaries, clerks and even married. So they should heed this call! Afterall wild female dressing they say attracts wild men!! If you carelessly display your sexual anatomy, sexually careless men will invest in it
ReplyDelete@ kik...am 24years,,,now does my age really count?
ReplyDelete@24,you are still this foolish?? I only pity ur mum cos if u continue in ur foolishness, you may end up causing her sorrow. Where did u keep the functioning part of ur brain in all these??
DeleteAnon,let me tell you a story.I am not good in writing epistles but i just pity you so much and i hope you will learn a lesson or two from this story.
DeleteSome years ago when my mum was still in Lagos state civil service(she's a medical personnel but retired now) she was working then at GH ikorodu. There's a rehabilitation centre in ikorodu where nurses and doctors in GH ikorodu and other government hospitals are posted to work especially those who have knowledge in psychiatry.
That year,my mum was posted there and she was heading other medical personnels there. I was still an undergraduate then and probably just got my admission.
I went to see my mum at work one day,and as we both stepped out of her office when i was leaving, one psychiatric patient just came around and called my mum by her first name,adding AUNTY to it (like aunty toyin for example). My mum and I were shocked and my mum asked her "do u know me"?( they were communicating in yoruba). the patient answered YES, my mum asked her "from where"? The patient said Ebute metta and then she went ahead to quote the address of d place in ebute metta. My mum was shocked and she told me she lived there with her maternal uncle when she was in secondary school.
My mum then asked for her name which she mentioned and where she was also living at that time in Ebute metta. By d time she was almost through explaining,my mum was able to recollect her surname,her siblings and her family house at Ebute metta.
In shock,my mum asked her how she got to psychiatric/rehabilitation center and she told her story.
One would actually think she was completely OK for her to remember all these things but one thing about psychiatric cases is that THERE'S NO TOTAL CURE FOR MADNESS. it can only be managed if the patient takes his/her medications regularly and even with that they still RELAPSE once in a while.
This was her story: the guy she was dating and planning to marry then,had an opportunity to travel out of d country. After he traveled,they were still communicating somehow but when this woman least expected,d guy sent her his wedding pictures from abroad. She couldnt handle the whole thing and she just allowed herself slip into depression. From that stage of deoression,things got worse with her and at the long run she became a psychiatric patient. Her family members took her from one place to the other to see if she could get cure but when the burden was much on them,they eventually dumped her at dat rehabilitation center in ikorodu.
The man who was the "causer" moved on with his life,has his own family now(am sure his kids are all grown ups now) but the woman who couldnt handle her emotions properly lived a wasted life and is still wasting away at the rehabilitation center. No husband,no kids,even her family members have abandoned her there when they saw that her case was a hopeless one.
My mum felt sorry for her and me...
ehn,goose pimples all over me.it was like i was watching a movie but my dear,i heard d story from d horse's mouth....no be hearsay.
My dear,this story i heard from the horse's mouth that year made me determine within me that i will never hurt myself because of any man. Its not worth it after all. You hurt urself bcos of a man,u live with the pains of what u did to urself but d man moves on with his own life cos as bitter as it sounds LIFE GOES ON!!!
Dear Anon,keep slicing ur wrist cos of a man.That is d mark that shows u love him abi....WHAT MARK OR PAIN HAS HE INFLICTED ON HIMSELF TO SHOW HE LOVES YOU?? abi una love na one way traffic?? I hope u wont slice ur throat one day. I pray you dont end up like this woman but if you dont love with ur senses and guard ur emotions,i fear for you. I only pity ur mum cos u are all she has(u said u are d only child and ur dad is late). Do you want to cause sorrow for that woman because of one foolish man that sheds crocodile tears anyhow? USE YOUR HEAD OOOO.
Dear anonymous, who wants to commit suicide on top man, I can see that you do not love yourself hence you don't know your true worth. Your supposed boyfriend is still dating a girl he told o go abort his child for, and you are there killing ur self for him. Until you let go of him, You may not find the right person for you, who will appreciate you, and not treat you this way, you are obsessed with him! You are living in an illusion. Plssssss leave that relationship now, you only allow people to treat you the way you want them to.. If he truly loves you, he will make a choice, he can't eat his cake and have it.
ReplyDeletePls let go! And learn to love yourself.
It depends ooo, sex has nothing to do with love.Whether a person is married or not, if they love somebody, they would want to have sex with that person both for women and men. Some girls actually don't want to get married as virgins while some men want to marry as virgins. This life is not a one way street, many things come into play in relationships and in life in general.Marriage is not the end, some girls that married as virgins still have difficulty in their marriages while some that were Dora the explorer are living and loving life with their husbands. What I don't support is having sex to make a man stay, that a warped and misconstrued mentality most girls have these days. A girl should have sex because she wants to and she feels comfortable doing so with that person, sales goes for a man.
ReplyDeleteBTW some men are also very attached when they have sex, so it doesn't only apply to women and the same goes for women who are not attached after sex in any way, shape or form.
Its not everybody that wants to get married and that will get married for example myself, so this closing leg thing does not apply to my likes.Im not sleeping with everybody ooo, but I have nobody to keep it for so all this talks doesn't apply to my likes, and yes some girls can actually let their "disvirginers" go, if someone has a bad character and you guys are not compatible, then it's bye bye, for the relationship, it has nothing to do with sex or whatever. The most important thing is that stick to whatever principle you have as a human being and nobody should pressure you into doing what you don't want to do!
Exactly. Not all women are emotionally connected to the men they sleep with e.g runs girls, etc while some men will stalk you and go about sulking if you have sex with them with no emotions attached.
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DeleteThank you. Not everyone wants to get married at the end of the day and I think this generation has gone past having sex and being emotionally attached. Not everyone is religious so those looking at it from the religious angle should understand not everyone sees it that way. I'm not preaching having sex with everybody, im just saying have sex with an open mind. Just know that this person you're doing might nt be your other half. Enjoy it while it lasts and if it works, fine. If it doesn't, mmove on with your life.
DeleteNA prick de sweet the stupid child . Fuck on ,NA you go tire .
ReplyDeleteTrue talk but how person go take know if both are sexually compatible if u know feel am @ least? .........hehehe
ReplyDeleteChai! Anon 4 pm, I just feel like hugging you. I won't insult you, some feelings are hard to control. But please think of your dear mum when next you want to kill yourself because of a cheating bastard like that. Just sit in a quiet conner all alone and think of what that will do to the poor woman.
ReplyDeleteTrue talk but Stella we must nack!
ReplyDeleteHearts are rarely broken when legs are kept close!!
ReplyDeleteI had sex with my ex after we broke up(I was a virgin before that),I just wanted to let it go
ReplyDeleteWell we are not dating,we are just friends but to be honest I know deep down that he'll always have a special spot in my heart
As a christian,i know pre-marital sex is forbidden and i'm working towards it.
ReplyDelete......Bt come to think of it,xex can sweet die.My fiance,from Imo can do it eh.CHoi! Yeah xex is nt love bt it does create bond between us.
*What us sweeter than honey?
*Even if anyone of us is highly stressed or having abami headache,after Xex,the thing wl just vamoze fian like smoke.
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Stella you really amazed me with ur post, do you think an average naija girl loves sex? No they dont but one thing always lead to the other. Pls talk about their love for noney and that they should study or work hard to be independent. No be Germany you dey? Pls stop this jor and face the fact. Tell a naija girl u have a house in Lekki she will see you automatically as 'God sent' pls preach the right thing because virginity no be the issue but they should believe in theirself.
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