NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
CONFUSED AND IN LOVE WITH A MAN ABOUT TO DO TIME
Dear Stella,
I am a regular blog visitor but I usually dont comment. I've been in a relationship with a guy for 8 months now and I'm totally in love with him. However,there are some issues going on with him that's making me confused.
I feel like a bad person even having these thoughts.You see Stella, he has a child from a previous relationship that's not even the major problem. The first problem is that he has an ongoing case in court that if he looses, he'll be facing a minimum of 5yrs in jail.
And with the evidence against him, we're just praying for a miracle. Secondly, He has this dead end job because its been hard getting a better job due to all the ongoing court case. He now lives in a shared house with friends cos he couldn't continue paying for his as all his funds go into paying lawyers.
I am very patient and hoping that things will change but sometimes, it feels like I'm taking too much as I just turned 21 and he is 8 years older than me. However looking at my parents and how they started and where they are now and it gives me hope but sometimes I still question my staying with me.. All the "what ifs" just make me confused.
I truly love this guy, he is the most caring, loving, patient, kind guy I've been with. Even with all he's going through he still tries to provide for me even though I tell hom there is no need for it. Stella I really need your help.
I dont know if I need reassurance or if I need to be brought to my senses.
Please can you keep me anonymous.
Thank you Stella.
*Since all evidence points against him,what will you do if he is jailed?You wait,he probably comes out an angry man and takes out the anger on you.
You want to gamble away five years of your life because you think you are in love?No,I dont think you need reassurance,you need to be brought back to your senses.
This is my two cents and you dont need to agree please.
Stick with him through this trial period of his. If at the end, he ain't guilty, good for you both, but if found guilty and sentenced to jail, you waka. Simple.
ReplyDeleteAfter all, 5years sef, pikin wwey dem born, don start school, even enter primary 1. You don't have that kinda time to wait for him to get outta jail.
Best advice from bloglord! Pray that his case works out for him, but if not...see him off to prison and et on with ur life. You are too young and life is short
DeleteWhat is his supposed offence.
DeleteIs this person in Canada?
DeleteOne kid or two?
Pls tell them the truth.
Hmmm my dear poster here's a poser for you.
DeleteSay you marry him on Saturday, and on Monday he gets picked up and thrown in jail (touch word). Would you leave him and move on, or would you wait till he returns because you are now his wife?
And say if you leave him today and he is thrown in jail afterwards...after thanking God in ur heart that u left him before the jail verdict, and say 5 years go by and yet u haven't found a replacement husband. If by the 5th year this guy is released and he asks u to marry him, would you still marry him?
Or...perhaps, if he is released and he finds that u haven't found a man, and out of anger that u left him because he went to jail he now decides to pick a new wife, would u feel pain that u wasted 5 years and missed ur luck?
Upon whom would u direct ur anger? The jail returnee, ur destiny and God, or the alternative that never found u in those 5years?
I too talk abi? Na so. I'm just being pragmatic. And whatever your answer to my posers is what you should do. Good luck
Poster, you are still very young so no need to sound desperate.
ReplyDeleteYour narration somehow shows you want to leave cause there is no hope for you in that relationship. You just want people to node in agreement with you.
End it subtle but that will be after the court verdict. He will understand as he wouldn't want his own sister being in your shoe.
My dear, if he's going to do time, I beg you in God's name, move on with your life. If you wait for him, he may come out and not send you again or you may not like who he has become. 5 years isn't beans.
DeleteThat's how I wasted 5 years of my life in a relationship. I was with this dude when he was in Nigeria hustling, earning like 70k. Dude travelled to the UK in 2011, now earning serious money, living big, permanent resident. I was in Lagos forming serious faithful girlfriend, thinking dude will come back to me like he promised, saying No to potential suitors as I wanted to be true to him. Well, long story short, dude broke up with me 2 months back for no reason. Now I'm 28 and single. How do I start all over? *sigh*
So babe, if he's gonna do time, jejely move on with your life... These dudes ain't loyal!
Awwwww! My darling anonymous 6:02pm, the concluding part of your comments tugged at my heart. It's sad to see what family/peer pressure and myopic societal expectations and beliefs can affect a young, intelligent and morally upright lady's mindset. Honey, at 28years, with all you've achieved, how can you use words like "where do I start from now?" baby, who told you, you ever stopped? You're still very much on your game. So you sacrificed 5years of your life to learn a life lesson, so what? I'll take 10years "wasted" on a boyfriend, than getting divorced 2years post matrimony. A guy who treated you that way is certainly not husband material. You need a man who will be like a pillar and a panacea when you face challenges.
DeleteI'm in noway downplaying marriage, marriage is one of the best institutions in life but, the caveat is, you have to be married to the right partner. Please honey, don't rush in because of pressure. I was lucky to marry the love of my world when I was 24years, I'm 36years now but I know that the success of my marriage is not because I married early, it's because I married the right man for me( by God's divine Grace). Which do you prefer, marry at 23years and divorce at 30years or marry at 35years to your soulmate and enjoy the rest of your natural life with him?
Sweetie, keep your chin up and thank God you didn't marry the wrong person. Sometimes, the best gifts from God are our unanswered prayers. Your life is yet to begin, my love, hang in there and trust God, HE is known for amazing surprises. #e-bearhugs and lots of kisses.
First time commenting. I like your command of English. And ur advice is on point, ronalda.
DeleteStella, I swear sometimes, your advise dey tear my boxer..
ReplyDeleteHahaha
Deletebabes, ur mater get as e b o, na b4 love blind o but nw love shine eyes wela, u see trouble and u won cary ur sekf enter in d name of love. my dear, wat if he gose to jail? u will like b d wife of an ex- convict pls, wake up coz I sure say na sleep u de sleep, tink well.
ReplyDeleteYour silence over the nature of his crime worries me. That's the most important issue here. Why is he staring at time in jail?
ReplyDeleteTo wait for him or not depends on you. If he ticks all other boxes, why not? Afterall you will be 26 when he gets out and that's not too late for you to start life together with him.
Left for me, I'd prefer he goes to jail with an understanding on both sides, that you are both free to explore other love interests
There are 3 scenarios involved :
1: You fall in love with another guy while he's in and move on with zero guilt.
2: You wait and marry him when he gets out; with the attendant risks of marrying an ex-con
3: You wait for him, shunning all others. He gets out and dumps your arse.
Choose wisely.
4. You wait for him to do his time n he gets out wen u r 26 n u starts spending d money he stashed away in catman island(d one he's goin to d pen for)cos his present broke state is a camouflag...n u both move to one island with u wearing bikini sipping pina colada,long island,bloody mary n flaming lamboughini everyday n u both live happily ever after
Delete@goldscent,u no add dat one
A Million likes for your objective and coherent advice Goldscent Diamond.
DeleteGoldscent, you mirrored my sentiments with mathematical precision. I find it curious that you are silent on the alleged crime he committed. Any offence punishable with 2 or more years of imprisonment, is regarded as a felony. That, my dear, is quite serious.
DeleteWhat most people fail to realise is, the conviction of a criminal offence, especially a felonious offence, is even worse than the actual imprisonment. Of course, the misconception is not unconnected with the fact that the lifestyle of inmates is as awful as can be expected. But, the infamous title "ex-con", haunts a person for life. You can as well kiss all good job opportunities goodbye, alongside any political ambition. The ex-con stigma is horrible and it hovers around a person throughout his/her lifetime like an albatross .
My darling, aren't you too young to be saddled with such a colossal responsibility? Have you considered the fact that the man you love who may spend at least 5 years in prison (which may even be 7 years) will change drastically when he finishes serving time in prison? A lot can change within 5years of long distance relationships, let alone in prison where communication is controlled and the inmates become hardened in order to survive.
Sweetie, if you decide to follow your heart, please drag your head along as an escort. You have your whole life ahead of you, my love, please choose wisely. #e-bearhugs.
*u start *cayman island
DeleteSee this one. Is that all there is to this story? What did he do? Are you sure he is not married? my tiny finger is telling MOI that you just told us 30% of the gist. Marry some one that will go to jail for 5 years? I laugh in yoruba.
ReplyDeleteGod bless u Moi. He is married. Very married man. He even has a pregnant wife. All these small children coming here to post incomplete stories. Sisi poster, leave than man alone. That apartment you think is shared is a lie. He has a busy wife who travels out of town at times. He then brings you home with his friend to claim they share d apartment. U dirty silky uncultured girl . U visit a man and leave the whole house dirty with ur cheap lipsticks stains on cups and cutleries. Even sticking gum to furniture in the house. I advise you flee. Am d stories he has told you are fake. Flee from him before you face the wrath of God. Useless stupid 21 year old who re. Go get a life rather than complicate ur useless life further
Delete*heavy sigh* I'd say u should stand by him 4 now,i mean, what if that miracle actually happens and u deserted him already.I'd just say stay with him 4 d time being and if he eventually goes to jail?Yea,twill be very very difficult but u will get over it and find love again.
ReplyDeleteI lost d love of my life at 19 and twas like i was gon die too but here i am today(3 years later),i'm dating again and i'm happy
I pray d lord sees yu thru
Stella said it all. You should also consider what brought about the court case that all evidence points to him. My sister, love with your senses on alert and make the best decision for your future. May God help you.
ReplyDeleteStella didn't say anything all learn to think for yourself @Sexy Sapphire and leave what Stella said alone. The ass licking is becoming annoying.
DeleteMtcheeeew.
You mean you are just 21? Why gamble with your future. Please hold on till the case is decided. The future is very much brighter for you pls. Good Luck.
ReplyDeleteU know d answer to ur question, ask urself does he really worth d stress?
ReplyDeleteAll these desperate girls, women that think they are passing marriageable age, will go for anything. you better leave the guy and dont waste 5 years of your time. Listen to stella advice and move on. God will give you someone that will not make you loose sleep. I don talk my own
ReplyDeleteI think u are too young to get involved with this guy cos he seems to come with some baggage which u don't need right now.
ReplyDeletefirst of all Hw sure re you that he is innocent nd can you Rili wait for 5 years nd my dear I Rili don't know Hw to advice but will say just pray nd trust God fr direction cos fr me you are too young to b involved with such person biko.
ReplyDeleteIf he's really all you've said and you're sure he's innocent and won't change in future, then I think u should wait for him. You're just 21 in 5yrs time you would be 26, still young. That's if you're very sure of him and ur love for each other
ReplyDeleteYour head dey there jare.
DeleteWas he really caring and amazing like u say before the whole court ish?
ReplyDeleteOr he's forming awesome cos of his present predicament just so he can pin you down?
You need to ask yourself some questions Can you wait for him patiently for five years if he's found guilty?
Ok what am I even saying; did he propose? Cos I suppose that's the only reason why you will wanna wait.
Anyways, you are just 21 and if incase you wait for 5yrs that means you will only be 26yrs. Still young tho'
But putting into consideration that he will have to start life afresh after the jail term.
Weigh all options and let your heart guide you. Maybe you are so in love and I can't help you break your heart.
E-hugs*
first of all Hw sure re you that he is innocent nd can you Rili wait for 5 years nd my dear I Rili don't know Hw to advice but will say just pray nd trust God fr direction cos fr me you are too young to b involved with such person biko.
ReplyDeleteLemme just read comments.
ReplyDeleteDear poster you re too young for this kind of drama. He has a child from previous relationship n there is a possibility he might go to jail for 5yrs Hmmmmmmmmm if na me I no will stay put oh.
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts exactly! U ARE TOO YOUNG FOR THIS DRAMA!! At this ur age, u ought to let ur hair loose, relax and be going on dates but nothing serious.
DeleteWhy dont u give urself time to grow before burdening urself wit anoda man's wahala?
is he guilty?
ReplyDeleteyes I'm asking, cos I know you know...
if he isn't, you can wait all you like afterall "you just turned 21"!
love nwatintin.
e-hugs dear.
I will wait for him ... like u all will say love endure all things. In dis I will stand by him,,, if he loose d case den I will move on with my life but still check after him time to time, if he win den I will be d happiest. Please my dear don't leave him alone in dis condition....
ReplyDeleteWhat was his crime?I think you should be more concerned about the crime he committed.Forget love and know why exactly he would be jailed for 5yrs if he's found guilty.Did he steal,kill or even rape?I'm sure u don't want to settle down with a man that is not trust worthy.Whether he's found guilty or not,if he's been accused to have committed a terrible crime,I'd advice you not to marry him.
ReplyDeleteIf you are ready to throw away 5yrs of your life based on the evidence against him..fine go ahead but remember that the jail term is at least 5yrs which means it could be more and when he is finally out he will be an ex convict too and getting a really good paying job would be hard except he has a handy work.
ReplyDeleteAlso remember that 5yrs in the pen will most likely harden the soft 29yr old man you know now and so you should be psychologically ready to handle the changes in character,age and even appearance .having a child prior to meeting you is not even problem compared to being locked up and doing time.
I sincerely pray his sentence would.be light or he should be acquitted though I don't know the magnitude of the said crime.
My 2cents is there are some people you love but from afar they don't necessarily have to be a part of your life in total. YOLO
What did your "boo" do to land himself in trouble?
ReplyDeletePlease this man has a lot of baggage in my own opinion ooh..
You are too young for this heavy load...he has a child out of wedlock who he might not even be taking care of from his present situation...
You cannot pledge your whole life for someone with a lot hanging on his neck!
Ladies don't get me wrong ooh,if a man is still struggling...by all means stick with him if you have faith that someday...both of you will be happy for forever..but for the life of me,i cannot advice my younger sister to wait for someone that is about to be incarcerated..plus you are way too young to dabble into this drama...
It will hurt you more if you wait for 5years then the Ex-convict will be the one to dump you...we might never know...for you to have brought this here,it means you are not sure..go back for your masters if you are done with your ist degree..lol,it will keep you busy!
Touché !!
DeleteWhy are women like this? Ask yourself "will most nigerian men wait for any woman that's about to go to jail"?
That should give you your answer.
Men never settle for less. If YOU were the one about to be in jail , You would have been dumped ASAP.
African men (especially Naija men) expect their women to be PERFECT yet want you to tolerate their EXCESSES.
First what is he accused of? You did not inform us.
You are 21. Better concentrate on your studies and face your friends.
What a man would not accept don't accept it. #OkBye
isn't this what we refer to as "being in a situationship" in here?
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry I had to comment twice without being sympathetic. e-hugs again
Sad much for u poster.
ReplyDeleteThis thing called love!!! Hmmmm.
It is well..
Face reality my dear
ReplyDeleteYou're in love with a potential convict? My dear its not everyone that ends up as Akon. You're still young though, maybe that's why you can't see clearly yet.
ReplyDeleteLol no b small akon
DeleteLong hisssss
ReplyDeleteLong hisssssss
Long hisssssss
E be like say una think say we no get work to do abbi?
Which kind yeye Toriment be ds?
Ok oo...you re 21..,marry am now.....aabi no be the thing wen u dey wait to hear be dt?.....Then u fit go jail go dey greet am.....Mthcewwee
@Galore
Adonbelivit. If there was nothing like SDK blog, u want to tell me you can wait 5 years for a man? You must be joking. I wanna slap sense into your head.
DeleteNne pls run for your dear life. You are just 21. Things will get worse when he is out of prison o.
ReplyDeleteIf he s dat good and loving and everthing why isnt he doing all that to his baby mama.
If you can't break up with him now, wait till he enters prison, visit one or two times and then quit.
Besides you ddnt say the reason he s going to jail.
Imukwa anya?
Let me just wait for the comments to drop...Stella where is the Richard card na
ReplyDeleteGirls and mumu love, at 21 what do u know about love, u should be in sch and not loving a criminal to death,
ReplyDeleteWhat if she's a graduate at 21 and has her masters sef? Just because you didn't find love at 21 doesn't mean she shouldn't. People and beef sha
DeleteMy dear you're too young to be carrying all these loads. Only him baby daddy, only him soon to be a convict, only him homeless. Haba!
ReplyDeleteDid you meet him before or after the alleged crime? If after, then don't trust him, 'cos he should have sorted out his ish before roping a 21yr old in a relationship.
I'll advise you tread carefully, don't/stop sleeping with him. You can be a friend, because everyone needs a friend but you don't have to put your life on hold for him. Again if he committed what he's being accused of while you're together, then you bear the consequences together, because if na money na una two chop am. Good luck.
Let her sleep with him n wen he goes to prison u can tel ur kid his dad is in prison!! U r too young madam poster,, explore n get sense
DeleteI think i second ur opinion
Deletehave u finished school and gotten a good job???that is what u should be worrying about and u just turned 21...please go and sleep instead of wasting your precious youth and vigor on a human being u think u are in love with...better leave him and find someone sensible...kmt..love kor lust nii
ReplyDeleteWell firstly before anyone can advice you, what exactly is the offence. then your 18 you should invest your time in advancing yourself.
ReplyDeleteAre you in school, Getting a degree put all your effort into that, this fellow has too much baggage for your young mind.
But then Love Is blind and it is totally your decision to make
You av a long way to go....u're still 21(young)....I agree with aunty Stella ooo...
ReplyDeleteAv u tot abt the next 2yrs, 6 months or 5yrs wif him???? He might b doing all this naw bt wat apens after¿ #MyOpinion
#TeddyBearHead
Hmm...srzly I wish I knew what to say bout this... u didn't tell us what he's about to do time for and if they have evidence, it actually means he might be guilty! just sit down and really think about this but if it dsnt feel good with you, move on..not like it's bad that you are there for him at thins trying time,but better still think about the future!
ReplyDeleteJust follow it as it comes, dt miracle might come n u ll b happy together bt if it doesnt show as much support as u can n move on with ur life.
ReplyDeletesorry to digress;
I read in the rant post whr a girl said she has slept with countless men just to sell insurance.
So u r using ur body to make money for someone else just cos u want to ans working class?
Look u r worse dan prostitutes or run girls cos atleast dey r self employed.
Since u r willing to sleep around, u wud ve done it properly n am sure u for don save enof money to start business for urself.
Quit dt job n enter proper runs.
Ah! in kan beeeee, well listen to Aunty Stella, 5 yrs no be yoke oh! If he really loves you he will understand too! My own 2shillings.
ReplyDeleteHe may most likely come out an angry man if he serves time...my advice is that yoummove on. you 're still young and truth is you may meet someone nicer, n even more caring. don't tie your future to one man with plenty wahala dear.
ReplyDeletethis is the time to prove your love,whatever happens,just stay by him and pray for God's miracle...i really do not think opting out of the relationship is the best idea since you both loves yourselve genuinely
ReplyDeletethis is the time to prove your love,whatever happens,just stay by him and pray for God's miracle...i really do not think opting out of the relationship is the best idea since you both loves yourselve genuinely
ReplyDeletethis is the time to prove your love,whatever happens,just stay by him and pray for God's miracle...i really do not think opting out of the relationship is the best idea since you both loves yourselve genuinely
ReplyDeleteIf she was ur sister will u tell her dat? This is d time ke!
DeleteAre you for real? I support Aunty Stella cos you really need to be brought back to your senses. You are taking too much at 21. Just loosen up and enjoy life, you are way too young for all this baggage.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, the issue with having so many doubts is that your instincts are kicking at something. You just turned 21, you don't need baggage.
ReplyDeleteMake no commitments until the court case is over. He is not your hubby, so don't stick your neck out just yet. Being with someone doing a jail term is not funny AT ALL. I would advice you to be a friend, a shoulder to lean on, and watch out for what happens next.
Good luck!
Deae poster , do yourself a favor, move on with your life cos come 5 yrs you will begin to ask yourself if he was worth the wait.
ReplyDeleteI laugh in isoko!!! Dnt u av an elder sister or a matured friend to advice u? Wat are u doing with such a man with too much problems? Am sure u have ur own problems too.. So if u join his problems to urs, u have trailer load of problems and challenges at 21.. If Na live de worry u better borrow ursef brain nd if am te elder sister Nd am aware of this, I will slap u back to reality bcos e clear say na you and eddreams de stay Jupiter
ReplyDeleteLove*
DeleteBe positive...a miracle could happen and ur man will win the court case..jes believe
ReplyDeletesheeshhh! Tight one here. The guy obviously really loves/likes you. he goes out of his way to do the 'manly' things he's sposed to do despite his tight sitch. it all boils down to whether or not you guys are sposed to be together. I think you should take this to God in prayers. No amount of advice that BVs will give you here will perfectly capture what God has in store for you. If you guys are really meant to be, no matter the pressure and troubles now, you guys will turn out better and stronger. Just be patient and take it to the Almighty. I really hope he doesn't do time, what will happen to his son if he does?
ReplyDelete*sigh*
Good luck dear
you are just 21 and this is all too much for you, women love easily and quickly, men nor get time at all, please keep it moving.
ReplyDelete21! Am sure u confused
ReplyDeleteMove on with ur life
Prison make beast out of them
The human in them die wen they return
I wish u know what prison is!
Is another world entirely
Never been to one but heard stories from an ex con who was on death row in naija
Run 660 abeg
Ur still young and have a beautiful life ahead if u instead of holding on to an ex convict
Please leave him. Even if he doesny spend up to 5 years he wont come out same man. Wont get another good job. Horrid marriage. U are young, you will find love again.
ReplyDeleteLmfao @what if he comes out an angry man, then i guess she'll have to deal with what he's become....dont worry SDKers will restore your senses to factory setting....Hahahahahah
ReplyDeleteYou can wait for him for five years if he's eventually jailed after all they say love conquer all things
ReplyDeleteIf you love him that much, then pray for him not to be sentenced. For there to be so much evidence against him does he mean he is guilty as charged?
ReplyDeleteIf he eventually gets sentenced, please move on with your life because he will definitely come out a different person trust me.
You are just 21.
Don't tie down yourself for a man,(onebaggage for that matter).
Will he wait for you if the reverse were the case? Can you answer "YES" to this question with 100% certainty?
Anyways, follow your heart but take your brain along with you.
All the best.
If u truly love him, get pregnant for him now but don't marry him. Just have the baby, cross your legs and observe...
ReplyDeleteLol
DeleteThe things I read on here though..
Poster please ignore this one o
Hahahhaha
DeleteSweetest pussy is just an air head.
Jesus Christ!!!!!!! See comment!
DeleteOh! See the name of the owner of the comment sef. Ndi Ara!
I wanna read comments.....
ReplyDeletePls vote boo and i in the Big Nigerian wedding contest every 24Hrs. the link is http:/woobox.com/dymgeb/vote/for/5292277. The link might request that you log in to fb, pls kindly do that so that your votes can count for us. Thank you as u vote every 24Hrs.
Hmmmm.... This is tough sha. I definitely understand that its hard to let go of someone you think you are in love with. I was in your exact situation when I was 19. I was in love with this dude but then he was arrested and had to do three years. Omo, see me forming down ass chick o. I was there to visit him 3 times a week, every week. I was even putting money in his commissary and buying him clothes. I did it for like 7 months until one day I asked myself: what if you do all these and then this man comes home and focuses on another chick? When this man comes home, with a criminal record, what type of job will he get to support us if our talk enter marriage? The next visit, I told him gently, babe just do your time first. If you love me as much as you claim then you wouldn't burden me with all these responsibilities and uncertainties. Let everyone find their square root. When you come home, if its meant to be, we will continue. If not, life goes on. He was very upset but he was fine with it. Fast forward to today, we aren't together, but we are really good friends. While he did his time, he called from time to time and i visited whenecer i could. If i had extra money, i would put in his commissary. I loved him enough that i supported him without hurting myself financially or emotionally. You can definitely love someone, but you have to love yourself more. My 2 kobo.
ReplyDeleteBest comment. Poster, be a friend not a bae. If it's meant to be, it will.
DeleteBut make no commitments now. If he goes to jail, he would come out at 34. He would have changed in appearance, not really because of age but prison life.
Sweetheart at 21 u re too young to entangle ur self with a guy dat hv dis complicated life. Pls move on, there is more to love dan u knw
ReplyDeleteDear poster ask your self is it worth it?
ReplyDeleteThis man is not even your hubby yet,
Five whole years (wastage)And besides you didn't metion what d case is.
Don't you think he's been nice because of the present choas?
You are just 21 very much young.
Is this what you really want for your self?
Please ask your self these questions I'm sure you will known what to decide.
This your blog name sha
DeleteOnly you Poshest Finest
Nawa oooo
Leave some for other BVs Jor
Lol
ohh stella! why do i always love ur responds to bvs? infact u too much, always sounds matured. i wish u be my sister chaiiii.
ReplyDeletePoster, you are too young for this, you just turned 21. U said he's the best guy u have ever been with right? .well, u will meet other guys, better guys. Just set your priorities right. And the sky will be your limit.....u are just too young to want to carry such a baggage. Don't waste your youth.
ReplyDelete21? Are you a graduate with a nice job? If yes, go out there and get your grooves on than crying over a 8months old relationship that you don't know where it will lead to.
ReplyDeleteAnd if no, go get your degree and make something out of your youthful life, you are still young to have emotional breakdown over a man that you don't even sure of his freedom.
Young girls of today eh....
Don't no what advice 2 give u biko,just keep praying for him!
ReplyDeleteopen your eyes
ReplyDeleteStella has said it all, don't start a journey that you cannot finish well or become unhappy with yourself
ReplyDeleteFive years of ones life??? Your life, your choice!
ReplyDeleteYou totally love him like you said. Which means you can totally gamble 5 years for him. So in all, you can as well wait for him to do the jail time totally. Well, Na talk of small pikin de do you. But if he comes out a damaged man from jail, I guess you will still be with him. Seems you are totally confused really.
ReplyDelete#Mz jenny# dnt waste 5yrs of ur life nd I dnt think he will wait if reverse is the case
ReplyDelete@poster 21 years:my dear you know in life when people are vulnerable;they term to be sober and good;that's the case of your boyfriend. He is in a tight position now and needs someone to cling to;so you can not know his true nature now;also going with your age you are too tender to deduce some things;so please you are too young to be in this situation and even marriage. The older ones in marriage are finding difficult to cope not to talk of a young girl who has not learnt or seen a lot of life experience. pls channel your energy to meaningful things that will help you in life before you get to the marriage stage which sometimes doesn't permit all you want.
ReplyDelete***HEALING-RAIN***
ReplyDeleteWill he wait and waste 5yrs for you if the table were to be turned?
You want to waste your youth and freshness for 5yrs and probably babysit his child till he come out.
What if he doesn't make it out alive,l mean shit happens in jail with other inmates all the time doesn't it?
For a young woman of 21,you sound as if this is the last man on earth.
Snap out of your daydream asap.
If una 2 love each other,stick with him. If na sex,u can arrange a deal with the prison officials to allow una 2 av some hours to your-selves(winks).
ReplyDeleteU can use that 5yrs to build up an empire to your-self. Renegade says so.
Prison sex for an 8month old relationship?? Eewwrrry!
DeleteWen belle enter how person go explain am wen bobo dey prison
DeleteOK where my post?
DeleteI had to comment again !! How can u waste 5 years of ur life for a boyfriend? Are u ok? Do u tink he wud wait if u were d one Goin to jail? U r just 21 and u might end up dating 2 or 3 more guys before u end up with Mr right.. So get sense now or never.. So can u proudly tell ppl ur guy is in jail? U r still young nd Mumu love is shacking u.. Fast forward 5 years from now u wud b wise.. I beg u liv dat guy cod men are selfish, all dis yeye niceness and love he is showing u is bcos he wants u to make eba n bring to prison for him.. He is usin u, a word is enough for the....
ReplyDeletePls dump this guy now while you can
ReplyDeleteHe has too many baggages already
Cant deal!
Ok jerry springer!
DeleteHahahahaha!
I agree for sure
He's got too much baggage for sure!
Am scared of Love everybody thinks something is wrong with me but sincerely am scared! My dear you won't understand now until the only choice you have is to understand. You are just too young for these, be wise
ReplyDeleteStay wif em bt date sumbodi else if he goes to jail bt nva give up on em cos ur jst 21 n u dnt kw if he is ur God gvn husby.... Life is all abt risk so try some
ReplyDelete~@iamjbankz SA to President Jonathan 2015~
Young lady, don't! Concentrate on your studies and future career, regardless he goes to jail or not. He is already carrying excess baggage into the relationship and you are too young for all of this drama.
ReplyDeleteHe should break up with you anyway. Or at least he should give you the option. Otherwise he is the selfish one.
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