MOTHER INTERFERENCE IN WEDDING PLANS
Abeg make una help me judge dis matter oh cos it's getting out of hand. Me and my mum have been having it hot for the past two months on the dress I want to wear for my registry wedding. Let me make a few points clear: am having a Registry wedding and a traditional wedding. That's all. No church wedding because it entails a lot of stress and at this point in my life am not looking for all the pomp and pageantry involved with weddings. I just want to have a simple wedding and be done with it.
Now the issue is I don't see the point in wasting 35k to rent a wedding gown that I will wear for only one hour just to please her. I have bought a very beautiful white knee length dress that I plan to wear but this woman says no. I must wear wedding dress. That it's not her I want to disgrace. Make una see me see trouble oh. She says she will not come if I wear the dress. I say fine. Don't come. Looks like you have been happy that am still in your house at 28 years so belle dey pain you as I wan marry so you are using something irrelevant as wedding dress to hold me.
I say hoha..that 35k I no go spend am on one useless bulky gown that I won't wear again just to please people. It's waste to me. Even if you pay for the gown yourself I will still not wear it. I have never liked wedding gowns. They are like white elephant projects (useless and expensive).
So I want you people to help me talk to her to let me be. It's my wedding. Not hers. And I have abided by all the traditional outfits/rules she has asked so let me wear my white knee length dress.
Kini big deal?
She reads this blog so she will see your comments.
*Check in house news for the blog visitor that is giving away her beautiful wedding dress....please hurry oh.
I always write Narrative number one even when there is none other...just my style..lol
Nawahhh for some mothers,
ReplyDeleteIt's every mothers wish to see their daughters in a white wedding gown .so u cannot do just that one thing to make her happy u are a very selfish person there are cheaper wedding dress to rent must it be 35k own abeg I know your type
DeleteI cannot believe you brought your mama issue to a blog. For Christ's sake a blog. So people can start saying all sorts. Read the comments for yourself.
DeleteHow stupid can you be? It's not like you even k ow anyone here and whatever they say will almost definitely male no difference. What will it cost you to honour your mom and grant her request. Some children sha, layer now you will come back to say your mom is doing this and that bla bla bla. You no go talk say na you first bring the mama issue come Judge Judy ( Stella' blog) .
Mama Biko free your daughter Abeg, since she has bought something beautiful, allow her to wear it Biko, ogini bu Ife ndia?
ReplyDeleteThere shd b a way to pass across ur msg to her dat & she ll reason with u, get pple she respects to talkt to her.
ReplyDeletedo wat suits u..its ur wedding
ReplyDeleteI think you should get other matured people to talk to her and not just you alone doing to talking to allow you wear what you want.
ReplyDeleteAll the best with the wedding preparation.
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My dear, u just have to try and make her understand, hop she reads all de comments dat will flow in.all de best.
ReplyDeleteI have directed her here to read d comments.
DeleteYou are one very funny woman, I like your personality tho. You are doing a great job!
ReplyDeleteU sound disrespectful choi was stupid about wedding dress? If u don't like it jst say so and move on. Stop calling wedding dress diff names all bcause u don't like it biko. E blike say u first d fight ur mum. Nonsense hisssssssss
ReplyDeleteThat's bc she no see church wedding some people are like that what they can't have they rubbish it
DeleteAs far as I'm concern marriage without church and commissioned by an ordained person..unda God's eyes it is still FORNICATION! fornicate wen u are single,still fornicating after marriage..odikwa egwu..as for d wedding gown ish.dia is no wedding dat pole would not find something to point out dat is wrong.even if dey finally do.for how long will d gossip kip up..dia are still some afordable wedding gowns..during my own tym I hid my gown cos once my pple see it ,it will look fun but if u tell Dem d price it will be called ugly gown..so weddin gown is a tribal matter wen it comes to wedding cos after wedding comes marriage.
DeleteChick Felix and cocaine finest r u both mad or are u trying to be mad?
DeletePoster,i must commend you for having a good head on your shoulders! What shall it profit you if after impressing the world,you come home to realise you don't have a lot to fall back to??
ReplyDeleteYour mom should even Applaud you for being such a girl filled with wisdom...
Well,lemme make my humble suggestion..lets do it this way..why not stick to your gown..but go to church for blessing on a quiet sunday or a scheduled day with just your immediate family? Momsie might love this idea...
Once you throw in this church blessing,she might peddle down on the gown issue.. Good luck dear
Ps;Stella,from her write up..she doesn't want any gown with frills and thrills of a big wedding...she doesn't even want one for free..thank you
Xhirted P and Fab mum!! You guys are owing me explanations. Ooh!same town,same birth month?? Lol
@xclusiv Esther..God bless you dear,Eve Ume..hugsssss!!
Thanks sweet for trying to understand me.
DeleteA pastor will bless us at the registry so I don't have to go to d church. She has already agreed no church wedding because she too no want stress of church wedding.
Hahahahahaha, BV U r just so funny, wen some people are praying dat their mothers shld be alive and well for them u r complaining, l think it's just a mother's pride dat her dauta is getting married and nothing more dan dat: Find a way to reach a compromise buh then, drive Ur points home with d help of Ur siblings and family members, perhaps she will succumb:
ReplyDeleteMama, pls let Ur dauta get done with her wedding cos after wedding, marriage starts o.
CALL ME SMART
Mummy, since u read dis blog, plz allow her to wear wat she wants biko. Thank u ma...lol
ReplyDeleteWhy are you making a big deal out of nothing? You won't die if you wear a wedding dress will you? Your mum shouldn't force you to wear a wedding dress, I agree but sometimes you need to compromise. Its just a wedding dress oo. She didn't ask for the toe nail clippings of your husband to be na.
ReplyDeleteI'd it's the money that is the issue, then I have a tailor that can sew a kowelu wedding gown of 2500 for you without sweat.
Huh? Wedding gown 2500?
DeleteInfact if she wants the toe nail clippings I will prefer to give her than get married in a gown I have never liked?
DeleteWhy doesn't anybody understand dat I don't like wedding gowns? Am not a loud person. I don't attend parties. Am not used to being the center of attention. I just want to get married and go home.
Na case?
It's her day. Shouldn't she be allowed to wear what she wants.
DeleteMama, abeg cool down for Jesus. Iphie, nice one @ suggesting quiet church wedding.
Poster, congratulations and may God bless your home.
Lol aunty Stella ehn nawa
ReplyDeleteHope I win in the give away o
to save ur self from unnecessary trouble wear the dress ur mom is willing to buy for you it that simple.. don't be a disobedient child.. my 2 cent ur mama nor fit c somtin wey bad mak she say mak u chuk yah head.
ReplyDeletePoster it's not a serious matter, Just make her happy,m sounds like you like disagreeing with her, Initially I felt if your mnum should let you be afterall she won't be the one to spend and if she's insisting too much she should rent/buy for you, till I saw where you said even if she buys you won't wear. Did she offend you?
ReplyDeleteAre you sure the wedding dress is the bone of contention here?
If you hate bulky over the top wedding dresses, they are simpler ones you could rent, with the veil and all it would still look very Simple and elegant.
She's has probably dreamed of your wedding all the 28yrs of your life and the image of you is the one where you wore a "bulky" gown.lol
But why would she even say she won't attend cos of a gown?
This Matter is a very simple one. Patapata wear two gowns.
I don't like disagreeing with her. We fight. We make up.
DeleteWe are like best friends.
She is d only one who I have told d exact amount in my account. My fiance isn't even privy to that info.
So dt just shows u how close we r.
On another note I experienced dis robot ish today having to sign out of my Google ID to reply una.
Wheeewww!
ur mama harsh o na she wan marry abeg fashy her and for d mama do u want her to wear wat she don't like abi u no want her to leave ur house @ 28
ReplyDeletePoster, pls just wear d dress, do it for ur mum! U can change to d one u bot eventually.
ReplyDeleteBia poster!
DeleteI sincerely hope this isn't how you speak to your mum in person.
Sometyms parents want us to do that which isn't convenient for them. Why not indulge them? My mum wants a very big wedding for me, I'll rather have a simple wedding but guess what? I'll indulge her just to make her happy. I'll have a big wedding, I already told her that but it will be after I get a job and she will be responsible for entertaining her guests. I am happy, she is happy. I didn't resort to insulting her or asking her if she didn't want me to get married.
No mother wants her daughter to be 'dalemosu' or 'aunty gwe gwe'.
I think you should tender an apology to your mum and wear the gown!
You are lucky sef!
My mum wants all three; church, court and trad!
And you know my pple can elaborate party for Africa!!!
Make your mama let you do your wish abeg why she dey find trouble for you everything comes from mind and spirit as you no want am so be it let her leave you alone ny ur thing and it has to be your way not all way all she could do is to give your total surport and guide you through not comanding abeg
ReplyDeleteSeh you hear mama
leave her alone to do what her spirit wants shikena
Please listen to her and wear the gown.You can happily change it once you are done with the registry and then wear your beautiful dress.Do it as a form of last respect before leaving the house.
ReplyDelete@poster, I understand how u feel n at d same time I no how ur mom feels also.....she is scared dat people will curse out 4 nt wearing a wedding gown thinking dat u cannot afford it...just apply 4 d sdk wedding gown give away and u sounded as if u mother doesn’t wnt u 2 settle down or dat she is not happy 4 u?? Good luck
ReplyDeleteThat's the problem with Nigerians, what would people say? Poster, do what pleases you. If you want to wear your dress go right ahead and damn the consequences.
Deletelaffing in spanish! so happy cuz i am now visible! no longer dat anonymous chick!
ReplyDeleteHmmn, I think your mum is right, a knee length dress for ur wedding?? C'mon dats absurd. Look for a cheaper wedding gown, u'll wear 4 1hr but wat abt d memories it leaves, dat u'll show ur children and grand chidlren (I mean pictures). Try and think twice
ReplyDeleteyour mummy should calm down biko..its your wedding not hers..ogini sef?? some mothers are like that they want to have a say in everthing you do.i understand its a registry wedding and u dont want to look dramatic..its your choice..u cant fufil her fantasis..just make her understand so she can show up..some mothers sef..everything they,wil put mouth
ReplyDeleteNawao, let me read comments
ReplyDeleteHe yah! Sorry sis
ReplyDeleteYour mama busy body dey too much, plz tell her to wed again if wedding gown dey hungry her to wear.
ReplyDeleteIf there is a reception after the registry u wear ur own gown. Then u wear d wedding dress for the registry. And there are very beautiful wedding gowns not bulky @ all. @ the end of the day everybody wins
ReplyDeleteHian stella you are recommending my wedding dress for her.
ReplyDeleteSince you don't wanna waste money on wedding gown,let your mum pay for you.sebi your own is just to wear it.if she don gree no wahala.@poster
Please dear,wear the wedding gown for her.u can stil change later to ur white knee length dress.she is your mother.she nids 2 be happy on ur wedding day.
ReplyDeleteDon't get too upset poster, she's had a picture of u in a wedding gown since u were a little girl & wants to see it in reality.Get elderly people to help talk to her,it's your day & not hers.
ReplyDeletethank you,hw can poster b insinuatin her mum nt happy she's getin married all bcos she wants you 2 put on weddin gown,na wa o
DeleteEven if its a registry wedding, try and put on a wedding gown, at least a priest/pastor will join you guys....btw check for the wedding gown post like Stellz said
ReplyDeleteMother plz live ur daughter alone she has told u wat she wants to do plz allow her it is her wedding not urs so she deserves to make her own choice
ReplyDeletelol u are just like me. They called me the wahala bride. When i saw the wahala was too much sef i didn't ell any body the day of the court. After we had finished , my mother called that they are on the way for the wedding I said its over sorry it's like in told you wrong date by mistake. when I think of all the wahala. abeg abeg.saved myself soo much headache. I wore the simple gown i was supposed to have changed to after big white. ain't nobody gat time they never serve me rice
ReplyDeleteI don't think ur mum was I huge part of ur life dats y u had d mind to go tru ur wedding without her. Haba! U get mind oo
DeleteAnd that's exactly my problem with parents. Ahan han. What is it. Abeg wear wateva you want. ITS YOUR WEDDING! What kinda thing is this. Aniwaiz. Bless God for my mum. She respects my opinion. Whateva makes me happy makes her happy. #thatsall
ReplyDeleteI am not happy about you telling your mum if you don't wear a wedding dress she can choose not to come, i can't imagine any of my children telling MOI a thing like that i will be so heart broken. I want you to know your mum want's the best for you. This is something you can nicely talk to her about. Remember it is her day also, parents make a lot of sacrifice for their children.
ReplyDeletelol u are just like me. They called me the wahala bride. When i saw the wahala was too much sef i didn't ell any body the day of the court. After we had finished , my mother called that they are on the way for the wedding I said its over sorry it's like in told you wrong date by mistake. when I think of all the wahala. abeg abeg.saved myself soo much headache. I wore the simple gown i was supposed to have changed to after big white. ain't nobody gat time for they never serve me rice
ReplyDeleteEh yaaa, i totally understand your mother's point and feelings. Since you won't be doing a church wedding where you are supposed to wear a proper wedding gown (not compulsory still), she wants you to wear it at this registry because it will be her only chance of seeing her daughter in a wedding gown. Please wear buy and wear the gown. Please just do it out of honour and respect. So peace can reign.
ReplyDeleteThe way the dota is running her mouth..oriegwu really as in kilode? Its your wedding but your mom being alive to witness it is a blessing. No wedding gown is your choice but discuss nicely with her to start well. Mom, we know you want to be brides mom so chill for your dota. Let her enjoy her day and look forward to omugwo. Congrats girl and happy married life.
ReplyDeleteHmmm.Poster's mum,abeg free your daughter. Its her wedding. Hers
ReplyDeleteIf the knee length gown will make her day wonderful, I don't see why she should be forced to wear what she dosen't want to.
But poster,come o,it seems you have issues with your mum, cos the tone of your mail speaks volumes. Issorait.
My dear, do whatever suits u, its ur wedding not hers
ReplyDeleteMummy if u are reading pls let her be, d traditional marriage would make up for d wedding gown since she's not going to church, for me I find it somehow to wear wedding gown for registry nd few people would be present, so the people u want to see ur daughter's gown wnt be there
DeleteWas already stretching my eyes to read narrative number 2.anyway,take am easy with ur mother.
ReplyDeletePoster.... I know your type aka gum..pomp and pageantry indeed. If you don't have money say you don't have instead of ranting about. If she doesn't make it for your wedding fine, I hope when you look back at your wedding pictures in 10 years time you won't regret not having your mother in it. She only wants the best for you, so sit her down and talk to her and meet her half way. Poster wan do toke style, you don't like white wedding Oshi skor.....PH GAL
ReplyDeleteWas already stretching my eyes to read narrative number 2.anyway,take am easy with ur mother.
ReplyDeleteLemme just wait n read comments
ReplyDeleteTesting testing. Please wear the dress to please her. If she's willing to pay then let her pay
ReplyDeletesinging....*hear ur mama hear ur papa life go better for uuuu ***
ReplyDeleteObey ya mom n just wear a wedding gown! U ve alrdy robbed her off d "feferity" of white wedding jollification. Don't u knw d joy of a mother on her daughter's wedding day...abeg obey ur mom,u don't have a case here
i understand ur mum perfectly pls do it for her.....wat state are u cos 35k is too expensive o i can help u get a very nicedress for 12k pls make her happy bikonu....thank u
ReplyDeleteBLOG ANALYSER: This issue is a trivia matter. Just do it for her nd that is it. She won't nd can't control ur home. End of matter
ReplyDeleteWhy would a girl want to sell her self so cheaply and have a rubbish dead wedding for the sake of pity.
ReplyDeleteBetter wake up and let ur experienced mum influence a proper wedding with dignity.
Men are assholes and when you marry him u would regret u didn't let him suffer to have u.
Let him suffer n know ur worth.
He u sell urself cheap,you gonna end up cheap.
What's your complexion btw
Lol
DeleteShe's black that's y she's thinking that way.
*jstkidding
Poster dnt mind Mamie water ooo
omg! my mamie water is back....#dancing#
DeletePoster, if she is willing to pay for the dress and the dress is beautiful, why cant you just do her the last favour and wear the damn dress, whats the big deal you too? am not supporting her but this is the most irrelevant thing you should be worried about, you go still marry your husband and have your own home. i dunno but i feel since two wrongs cant make a right, avoid unnecessary wahala and be the grown lady here. it wont change a thing in your marriage. and yes apply for the giveaway wedding dress, lol since you are acting like a cheapee...
ReplyDeleteLemme wait n read comments
ReplyDeletelol@ check in house news for wedding dress...Thats if its her size na cos d dress is a size 8
ReplyDeletePoster wear the wedding dress to please her and change to your beautiful knee length dress for the reception,case close everybody happy.
ReplyDeleteYour mama busy body dey too much, plz tell her to wed again if wedding gown dey hungry her to wear.
ReplyDeleteSome mothers do not know when to draw the line. Dear poster, ur wedding day is ur day and as such u shld wear anything that makes u happy. Pls find a way of making ur mother see reasons with you.
ReplyDeleteListen to ur mother..first time commenter on diz blog..
ReplyDeleteAha
ReplyDeleteUr mum reads this blog and she'll definitely read where you say 'belle dey pain her as you wan marry'
Oga ooo
Some daughters really do have them.
After all said and done it's ur wedding sha and you gotta do what makes you happy.
Ur mum is just being a 'mother'. Talk calmly to her.
Buh stella she doesnt evn want a weddg gown.
ReplyDeleteHehehe funny poster..
ReplyDeleteStella she didn't say it's just bcos of money dat she doesn't want, she just doesn't like wedding gown is all..rme
Pls do what pleases u but desist from insulting ur mother, she might be one of those moms dat like to control everything/everyone around them!! HML in advance. .
Lol mothers and paparazzi...
ReplyDeleteEeyah, seems you are the only girl or her first time giving a child out in marriage. I don't blame her honestly I really feel what's she's feeling. She just wants to have that euphoria of a churchy wedding feeling since you are not having church own. Please cool down and talk to her cus it seems you yourself you be fire. If you decide to like the ivory wedding dress up for grabs that is if its your body size I bet you, there would be a change of plan; not for a church wedding o but to wear a wedding dress.
ReplyDeleteSome modas are like dat... Mum, I am a firm believer dat wearing the costliest dress or celebrating it in a star studded style does nt make a gud marraige.. Wedding is nt marriage..wedding is an hours affair wile marriage is a life affair..bt at the end of the day, u nd ur mum shud reach a compromise..kial
ReplyDeleteI am coming
ReplyDeleteLet her leave u na, it's ur day not hers, I wonder y parents feel they have 100 percent say in their kids wedding, dats y like oyibo ppl, they give their kids a bit of freedom, abeg maale cool down, u have done ur own wedding nd ur daughter no shook mouth, so remove eye and pray for d marriage instead of wedding gown, Idnt even lol wedding gown sef cos u wnt use it again, I rented mine
ReplyDeleteMummy please allow her wear what she likes its her day...
ReplyDeleteU sef ur mouth 2 sharp. Tell mumsy u're sorry.y u go reply her like dat...
Oh mummy pls understands you daughter
ReplyDeleteBiko do it to make her happy......ur mum's blessing is important my dear
DeleteDear Poster,
ReplyDeleteIf you are a size 8 i can give u my wedding gown- my mail address is selexlee@gmail.com
Make her happy now abi? if she will pay please wear for her.
ReplyDeleteYou reserve the right to wear what you deem fit on your wedding day.but seeing as its your mother you are talking about,you have got to placate her into allowing you wear what you want..all you need do is to placate and smooth-talk her.it wouldn't be nice for your mum to wear a frown on your wedding day now,would it?
ReplyDelete"Don't come. Looks like you have been happy that am still in your house at 28 years so belle dey pain you as I wan marry so you are using something irrelevant as wedding dress to hold me"
ReplyDeleteNa yhur momma yhu dey refer to so???
You have a problem.
Berra go hurry to IHN n beg for dat gown.
N borrow that bridal shoe of yesterday too.
Mtchew
Your disrespect for your mum automatically mks me dislike u.
Biko gerrout.
If you like tie white wrapper. Naso the marriage dey hungry you.
As in eh
DeleteShe's so arrogant.
No respect for her mother.
Please who will u respect?
Your husband ? I doubt .
Dear mummy, it's her day, let her have her way, moreso, its only Registry, not church. Thats how my mum forced me to use bridesmaids fot my Nikah and they turned out to be useless because it was really not necessary. Poster, try n talk to her, make her understand that its your day.
ReplyDeleteOga oh.... i have neva liked d idea of church...trad..court wedding nd even reception.... i really want to have it simple so i understand this poster.... Infact i said i only want maximum of 50 pple strictly by invite....lol... Mum is always smiling anytime i make my funny rules nd she always object but i know when the time is right....she will do my bidding o cos na me get wedding..... Madam poster...calm down and talk to ur mum calmly instead of flaring up this way....it will solve nada! u know some mums na...lol it is well with u.
ReplyDelete@xclusiv
pele o sister wedding,is dat how u talk to your mum even if she insists that u must wear wedding gown.the problem is how u take d matter.kindly talk to her in a gentle manner,make her c reasons y u dnt want wedding gown in a polite ways and c if she wudnt go along with u.easy oo
ReplyDeleteSeriously its waste of money but i understand your mums point anyway. May be she has friends that are loud mouthed and she is scared at what they might say. Pls if you can do it to pls her it will be nice..************ I love your mindset anyway. I dont give a fu*k about white wedding and even traditional. Its all waste of money and unnecessary noise
ReplyDeleteCongrats for ur wedg coming up,,,ur mum should allow u to wear ur desired dress,,..Mothers and der wahala..
ReplyDeleteLol...the bible says obey your parents.
ReplyDeleteThese lady your post kept my mouth ajar,
ReplyDeleteCause 99% of women dreamt of wearing a wedding gown even if it is just for 5minutes
You think it a waste of money,u think it look like an elephant bla bla bla.madam mumsy is just trying to protect her name cause must people will just conclude you are pregnant that is why u ain't wearing a wedding dress,abi are you pregnant? Go for the free wedding gown in IHN
Pls stella has said it all,Go check inhouse News for the wedding dress give away. Is your day we know but is also on you to make your mum happy that Day. You are not even giving her a church wedding and you are complaining about wearing a gown for 35k. Pls try and make her happy at least for bringing you to these world.
ReplyDeleteNa wa o..mama,please its her day,why d talk of embarassing you kwa?you shud be thinking about how happy she shud be not about embarrasing you?
ReplyDeleteI know u carried her nine months bla bla..I feel same way too with the one am carrying as per if after this suffering I tell u do this; and u don't..I will show u I carried you bla bla..but its her life madam,get over yourself and leave her be.
Why not do what your mum want, u don't have another mum, do u? But then the point is......If u wear a wedding gown u won't be allowed to take pix outside the hall, y not xplain dis to her aswell. And lastly u can see a wedding gown of 15k.but my dear never u in your life exchange words with your mother nomata what.HML in advance
ReplyDeleteKini big deal my dear... its ur day, wear what u please. i dont even understand y people wear full blown wedding gowns for court marriage, i think its ridiculous. if ur mother doesn't wanna attend cos u dont want to wear wedding gown then thats her container of zobo. I just hope she hasn't allowed herself to be used as an instrument to put asunder what God is about to join. Hian! some daughters really do have them.
ReplyDeletemy sister, I will suggest u consent to her, after all that's the last honor u ll give to her as ur leaving her house and besides and importantly its her day too as the mother of the bride, so pls my dear try and patiently tolerate her excesses so she can be happy and bless u from her heart. Its not a big deal cos u can do it
ReplyDeleteLike Stella said, contact the lady giving out the bridal gown dats if e go size u ooo.
ReplyDeleteAnd I really think you should consider a church wedding pls..involve God in your marriage and not just the law and tradition. You can go for a low key reception with just few families and friends.
Wish you all the best.
Ele yi gidi gan o. Poster pls calm down and see reasons with her too. This may be her dream that one day she'll see her daughter wed, wearing a white wedding gown. This could have been 100% possible if ur having a church wedding but since you said no church wedding, she still doesn't want that wish of you wear a wedding gown to be dashed. She's elderly you know and must have attended other people's wedding and wishing it was you.
ReplyDeleteAbeg spend the money if e dey, God go provide another. Besides you won't want to see your mom frowning on ur traditional wedding if she doesn't attend that of registry.....My opinion though. HML in advance
Hmmm. .its a bit complicated to give advice here considering its ur mum. .u know how mums can be when their daughters are getting married. .they want to show off to their friends and want everything to be perfect. .I guess that's what ur mum just wants. .on d other hand I understand it's ur day and it's once in a lifetime thing so u gotta wear what u like and are comfortable with. .The only issue I see here is that u don't wanna spend 3k5 for gown. .so I think it's not d gown that matters to u but d money. .so how much did u buy ur knee length gown? Or why don't u wear d wedding gown to d registry and wear d one u bought for reception? At least with that u both will be happy. .anyways I wish u a happy marriage life in advance. . .may God bless ur home..
ReplyDeleteBiko Nne, dont fight it out with her on this. Though the gown will only be worn for few hours, but plss listen to her if the cash to buy it won't be a problem.
ReplyDeleteThe fact that you are not having a church wedding may sadden her heart cos most parents love the glitz and glamour that goes with the church weddings.
Now,to her, you dont wna put on a PROPER gown also and this she could feel may denote some kind of inadequacies to her friends and thereby reducing her status among them(I tell you our mothers love this social status among their friends like seriously). So, jus do it for her. Don't make her too emotionally down on your glorious day
From your narrative,one can tell that you have little or no regard for your mum. If wearing a wedding gown would make your mum happy,why not give her the pleasure and stop sounding vulgar.
ReplyDeleteLol.
ReplyDeleteWahala!
Your mum visits this blog?
I'll love to hear wat she has to say.
Oya, Mumsy, wetin happen na? Why don't u want her to wear what she wants to wear?
I go just read comments abeg.
Eyyah,pele dear,dats mothers 4 u,am sure she and ur dad. Had a white wedding too,so she wants her daughter 2 do same. Try and change ur mind if u can to make her happy.aii
ReplyDeleteYour mum should give it a rest...
ReplyDeleteStella you just crack me up about your own style
ReplyDeletestella, u make me feel u form all dis stories u put on this blog....cos dis particular story is pointless nd am vry sure u re short of news...
ReplyDeleteKnee length gown ke?its a wedding 4 heaven sake nt a date....na once in a lifetime ooo except u wan be like some celeb wen dey wed more dan once...
ReplyDeleteOne and only poster one" please use in house gown promo ooo, its so cute and slim,i bet you wdt be looking like an elephant in it. You would be looking by Kate of England...
ReplyDeleteIf you are in Abuja I volunteer to do your makeup...
#shewinks
is ur mother on SDK? but she should let u be since u are not interested and ur spouse is ok with it.
ReplyDelete*prove you are not a robot to read*
Madam Stellastico, I just Love everything about you. You be my sister o as per delta tins. you are just different and your style is very Unique and i just loff you too much in agape way. **smiles** - Iyabo
ReplyDeleteHello
ReplyDeleteMama Poster abeg free her joor!!! Its your daughter's day and not yours. Allow her to wear what makes her happy. Poster biko wear your knee length gown. HML in advance.
ReplyDeleteyour mama should leave you alone jaree
ReplyDeletePls bvs help me oh! I started using this cream 'skin solution'. It's in a grey bottle. Pls who has used it before? Is it bleaching? It's hydroquinone content is 1.5%. I noticed I sweat more under the sun now but is the cream good. I think my skin is getting TONED now but I don't want to end up with crazy pimples. Pls help me oh
ReplyDeleteHelp you do what?
DeleteAm speechless
ReplyDeleteLmao Chei Stella tho
ReplyDeletePls wear wat will make u happy oh....its ur day and everyone shud respect that.
ReplyDeleteAh ah!! To the mother of the lady doing her registry;its her day and not yours soo whatever it is she wishes to wear,please just let her be..
ReplyDeleteIf she and her husband to be are quite comfortable with what she is wearing,why not just respect their happiness and privacy by allowing her enjoy her day with all smiles..
@poster;i understand how you feel but if your mum wants you to wear a wedding dress of 35k which she is going to purchase with her own money(soo long as she is working for her money and you aint the one keeping her on allowee) then kindly make a nice choice since she is the one buying....saying even if she buys that you wont wear might try to convey another message about ur relationship with her..
Pls you two should try to understand yourselves as mother and daughter and in the actual sense you both are supposed to be happy that day no matter what...and not keeping faces cos of wedding gown..
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Biko she is ur mother ,mind how you talk to her,you sounded like someone who dsnt respect her and I must tell you the truth.mothers are precious biko I love my mum and will do anything for her if I have the cash.it only makes them happy and make them live longer for you. What is cloth,me sef will buy car for her. God please keep my mum for me.
ReplyDeleteYour mum just wants the best for you.
ReplyDeleteAbeg wear a wedding dress joor,i understand your mum points,since you're not going to church she feels you must wear the dress because it synonymous with getting married,she and her friends won't consider you married without the dress please don't be self centered is just this once,you will be out of her house soon,so sweetheart please wear a wedding gown to please mummy just once
ReplyDeleteHml to you
chai poster na wa 4 u o,imagine wot u saidd abt ur mum,abeg dat tin is vry normal,she feels dats d best 4 u na haba,yea i remember wen i told my mum wudnt wan2 go 2ru d stress of white weddin she said so u mean u wont put on weddin gown like oda of my friends's children,u see som of our mum sees it like competitn,abeg plz try and make her happy b4 u leave d house o,please dont say such of ur mum again,wish say u b my sister i for nor happy say u nor won put on bridal gown o,seems u vry rude sef,
ReplyDeletei totally understand your mum........she is ashamed that you are not having a proper white weedding.so she wants you to wear a proper wedding dress so she can show off to people that u did a wedding......i guess you should just go with her or come and take mine.its been in my wardrobe for 1 year now.uuche13@gmail.com
ReplyDeleteFor God's sake, find a straight and easy wedding gown for d occasion, there are cheaper and less bulky wedding gowns. It will be a win win for both u & ur mom. Its no biggie really! Its ur day but its also a mothers pride to see her daughter all dressed up in a wedding gown.
ReplyDeleteLolz @ Stella... narrative number one indeed. Its Cool though
Unbeatable
Gaddammit!!!
ReplyDeleteMama bride,it is not your wedding
Leave your daughter alone!
Abi do you have a hidden agenda?
Hian!
Bride to be,you can allow your mama to buy wedding dress of your choice
Then change into your 'knee length dress' after the ceremony
This is as a sign of last respect to your mama as you are leaving her house forever
My 2 cents
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Its your wedding, your day so in my opinion you should be allowed to make your decisions. At least you aren't getting married naked. Make mumsie park well oh.
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Some mothers are like that oooo. They will be like 'Wetin you want make my friends say' am sure all this paparazzi about dress is not bcos she is actually looking out for the daughter, Just her image. I will advise you to do your thing dear afterall it's your wedding. But if you can spare the money go ahead so as to let the sleeping dog lay.
ReplyDeleteGood luck
I have seen d gown. It's lovely. Am a size ten tho. But I don't just like wedding gowns. I admire it on people when they wear it tho..
ReplyDeleteAm 5"3 so I don't like long dresses.
I tot u hv a problem, if this is ur problem den u hv no problem @ all
ReplyDeleteMama, Abeg allow sisi wear Wetin she wan wear. It is her wedding. I understand that you want her to wear the traditional white wedding gown but she is old enough to know what she wants. Na God I take beg u, allow her wear the knee length white dress.
ReplyDeleteI like your style. No. I love your style. Buy don't shut her off, biko. Trust me, it'll not end well. Make her understand its what you want. Make her see reasons, and reach a compromise, on her part.
ReplyDeleteI wish you luck. And I sincerely pray my future woman would have such simple mindset.
Mums should know when to stop,haba
ReplyDeletethat was how my mom planned mine including the trad meanwhile we only wanted to do intro, she even collected the money they sprayed us.
Madam if you are reading this, butt out of your daughters dress ish, its her wedding and not yours. Poster wear whatever you want, its your wedding, your mom has no right, I repeat, absolutely no right to tell you what to wear on your big day, next thing she will start dictating the days you can sleep with your hubby. Abeg o
Ehm stella no o! That dress is mine biko at least she has 35k for dress and I don't.
ReplyDeleteWell poster,as you like like wedding dresses why don't you compromise witth ur mom a little,at least you both should balance the equation in between. Cos mom and daughter's are each other's pride at weddings. So mk her happy a little by having a little compromise,take it as a last single girl-mom respect. But leave my dress alone!
Wedding drama tiz
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Poster, please continue to appeal to her, she is your mother and you need her. I know you are both talking out of anger.
ReplyDeleteDear mother of the poster,
Please, if you are reading the comments here, abide by your daughter's wish because it's her day as it's also yours. She has abide to all the traditional requirements as she said, so please ma, let her fulfill her wish so that she can always look at her wedding pictures with happiness and not regrets if forced to wear what she does not like. Thank you ma.
Just look at how you are talking about your mum....so condescending!tufia!
ReplyDeletemy wedding is this saturday, and I'm getting married in a blue short dress. what matters to me is the fact that I'm getting married shikenan.
ReplyDeleteI know it might seem as if its your big day...but it's also hers too..find a way to explain well to her without being rdue...she's first and foremost your mum before anything else.
ReplyDeletePoster I feel you. But just understand ur mum. U're not going to be doing a church wedding meaning u won't be wearing a wedding gown... That's why she's insisting. It's true it's ur wedding. But what she's asking for isn't over d top. Just for peace to reign. U don't hv to spend 35k there are pretty wedding dresses for hire at a cheaper price. Just give her d pleasure of seeing her daughter in a proper wedding gown. Don't quarel or make problems with her over it. She's ur mum, u'd definitely need her in d future.. Its no biggy.. U can rock ur other knee length white gown any other time.
ReplyDeleteYour proud and haughty! And very conceited! I was irrritated reading ur write up! Ur type go stubborn well well...i hope ur hubby has studied u very to avoid chronicles like my wife wont bulge on the choice of school for the kids.
ReplyDeleteA piece of advise. Calm down. Yes its ur wedding. But its also kinda hers too. Shes your mother for crying out loud. Haven't you heard of the word compromise?
Why don't u wana be married before God in the 1st place. How then can you call on him to intercede for you wen problems arise. How dare you place more importance on tradition than your God???? What is wrong wih you?
How can you have it so wrong?
Please stop talking to your mom like a bastard child. If u cant respect her, how would u respect ur hubbys mom?
Pls gt off ur high horse and come to a compromise. While at it learn a lesson or two in humility. Also learn respect too!
Am pained! Wtf!!!
Good talk. And some will blame the mother forgetting that they too will be mothers someday.
DeleteMothers and their wahalla. But is wrong to tell not to come to ur wedding sha... lol
ReplyDeleteThink about when you were kid and your parents bought you something you wanted so bad, maybe a toy, and you wrecked it in less than 2 days. It made you happy to have it and they gave it to you despite it being a waste of money.
ReplyDeleteSometimes we need to do things to make those we Love and who love us happy.
Its your mum and she looked forward to this day, make her proud.
Thank God you're back! I've been an ardent reader of this blog for close to two years but I only recently started making comments. God bless you gor this analogy. Aboki na Mallam...making sense since 1800:-)
DeleteTake it easy. You sound rude.
ReplyDeletePlease explain to Mummy with patience that the norm now is to appear in smart dresses. Enlist the support of your her friends and your younger aunts to convince Mummy to concentrate on the traditional wedding.
She doesn't even have to go to the registry. Most couples go with a few friends and young family members.
I personally don't like the sight of long, bulky wedding gowns at wedding registries.
I've seen one bride struggling with her bulky dress in Ikoyi registry, jumping over muddy puddles. Not a pretty sight.
Abeg mama, let her wear what she wants o. It's her wedding not yours.
ReplyDeleteUr moda jst want to c u in dat dress,weda is 20sec or so.... Jst mk her happi n let it go.
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ReplyDeleteI admire her simplicity.
ReplyDeleteBut Stella she said she doesn't want to wear a wedding gown, so no need referring her to the in hous news giveaway wedding gown.
Narrative poster: I think your mum and my mum are twins in thought of reasoning , my mum as we speak has told me the type of wedding gown I will wear. Infact I have told her that sey! She is the one getting married in.
She even uses that phrase that, "it isn't her I will disgrace"
Me I'm waiting for that day, I no say na fight we go fight
Wahevr rockss ur boat hun
ReplyDeletePlease yourself, it's your wedding and you are no longer a kid. Mum, leave your daughter alone, it's her choice. U can only advice her not impose on her.
ReplyDeleteI think your mum should just allow have it your own way. Its ur day, so everyone around you should accept whatever you chose to do for that special day.
ReplyDeleteFind a way of making her accepting your choice without nagging or sounding harsh.
And from the way you speak, i hope u aren't going into marriage out of desperation thinking you are too old at 28?
Congratulations in advance.
No love. I ain't going in out of desperation. I took my time to settle with someone who loves me like kilode.
DeleteAnd FYI groom has okayed my dress. His aim is to please me.
Na mama no want make I do my thing.
Blue is my color.
DeleteI wish I were getting married in a blue dress. But this one them never gree for white short dress so I better not push my luck
dont sweat it.... she will come around on that day she has no choice really. Congrats on your wedding..... Some mothers can overdo shaa
ReplyDeleteits ur wedding and u shld make d decisions.i understand where ur mum is coming from though.
ReplyDeleteThanks dear.
DeleteI knw its ur wedding but,u could just do this to please her,after all she gave birth to u n it's supposed to b her happiest day. U are even lucky she accepted only d court wedding,most mothers wont accept any other than the church wedding.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, please do her that favour. She may want to see her beautiful daughter in a wedding gown. Mothers are very much attached to their children. Let her fulfil that fantasy. Rose
ReplyDelete@poster's mum, please let her wear what she wants to wear. It's her wedding not yours.
ReplyDeleteFor ur mother's information that's not her wedding,so she's in no place to decide unless she doesn't want u to get married,go ahead with ur wedding abeg,she no get talk
ReplyDeleteHian!!! Mumsy, abeg leave her na...its her wedding day, and I know she didn't mean it when she said you should not attend if u do not lyk the dress...lolz...mumsy,u sef ehn!
ReplyDeleteAbi ooo, Maama pls free her to wear wat she wants to wear afterall its her day. Bico nu...
DeleteIt is well o. Some mothers can be possessive n controlling,all tnx 2 ds culture thn bot on d other hand,u get married once n she might av bn told a thn or two or knowing d kinda friends she has;wht they might say. 35k aint much now 4 ur day,u using it on u nt ny1 else. As 4 me, resect her n buy/rent d wedding dress. No insults needed n stuffs
ReplyDeletei always send in comments but unfortunately have never seen any on the blog #sadface# i don't even know if this too will get there #sobbing#
ReplyDeleteMy dear. Wedding is more like d mother's joy as well as urs. Just do it for her. At the end both of u will be happy. Don't let ur mum feel bad. My opinion.
ReplyDelete.....goodness!i think its a mum thing cus my mum and i were at it too when i was getting married. Wanting to plan everything from decor to food to how it should go, my dress...lol....I think in their excitement that their daughter is getting married, they want to impose their ideas and how it should go just to show off to their friends. Some also want to relive their moments....ha ha.
ReplyDeleteTake it easy with your mum, its not intentional. Thats just how they are, who knows, we may also be just like that...
There are cheaper rentals for wedding gowns,u don't necessarily have to spend that much.in my opinion u may not like ur pictures down memory lane so maybe u should wear an actual wedding dress.i had a traditional and court wedding too,and trust me I feel very bad when I see my trad wedding pictures because I wore traditional outfit alright just that I sewed English wear with it.i feel like I would have worn george used a lot of beads and all that.if I could go back in time.....Lol.my dear have fun jare.
ReplyDeletePoster your mum sounds exactly like my mum, except my mum's issue is that I must do a big wedding and me I want something small becos i no fit for wahala, except of course I have the funds to hire a wedding planner. My advice to you is that you just find a way to get her on your side, even if it means bribing her, hehehehehe! And to the mother of the bride leave her to wear whatever she is comfortable with wearing, after all it's her day, why don't to let her have hers like you had yours.
ReplyDeleteDear poster,wedding really is not just ur day alone. Pls try to reach "a bit " of compromise wit mama. She also ws praying and looking forward to dat day. I pray u be favoured to get d gown.
ReplyDeletefunny story.. no be by force to wear wedding gown na especially since it ends at the registry. Wear what makes u comfortable please. And mama it's her day not yours.
ReplyDeleteMama pls reason with her in this pls. Wishing you happy married life dear.
ReplyDeleteDear mother of bride, pls this is your daughters big day, let her have her heart desire.... I am sure there is more to d ceremony than a wedding outfit. please accept her wish and make her happy.
ReplyDeletePoster, I share your sentiments about wedding dresses.... a simple outfit should do.
Good luck to you. It's not about the ceremony but the life path you are about to begin afterwards.
Babes,please contact d person who wants 2 give away that wedding gown in today's in house news.I pray she gives it to you,it'll end all this wahala between you and your mum.
ReplyDeleteHoney I get money to buy dress. Even if a wedding gown is given to me I won't wear it cos I simply don't like them. Am 5"3 for Petes sake. I don't wear long clothes.
DeleteDear Mom, pls let your daughter be, Poster's obviously not changing her mind.
ReplyDeleteI think you shld just oblige her cos by God's grace, you won't hv another wedding again. She's ur mum, respect her wish even only this.Mothers are always like that(brides mom effizy). God bless you n urs!
ReplyDeleteI respect her seriously. We play and fight like best friends. This is the only issue we haven't agreed on
DeletePele dear
ReplyDeleteYour mum wants you to wear a wedding gown.
ReplyDeletePlease obey her, what's there ?
What do u mean by she's unhappy u are getting married?
That quit disrespectful, I can't say that about my mum oooo
WEAR A WEDDING GOWN
So I should please her and displease myself?
DeleteWithout me we won't be having a wedding. Without her there can be a wedding.
Poster ur mum wants u to look like a bride. If she hires d gown wit her money, jx wear it n after d weddin @ d registry, u can change to ur choice of clothe, for d reception.
ReplyDeleteThat's what am trying to say. D registry in d morning then trad following in my compound immediately so there will be no time to wear my knee length dress
Deleteehyah....ive also decided that when its times too im only going to do the court thingy,please dont quarrel with her o
ReplyDeleteHahahahaha.....
ReplyDeleteSome mums and their wahala, pls save your money, if she refuses to turn up at your wedding then she can tell whoever asks her it's because you didn't wear gown.thats how isale eko mums will allow their sister's friend's younger sister's cousin pack crowd to their children's wedding.
ReplyDeleteSDK, you know why I like you? Becos you stubborn wella, lol. You say Narrative number One must continue kwo? Who no like must like, hehehe.
ReplyDelete@OP1: Choi, I swear i don't even know what to say. Frankly I can't stand parents who refuse to see their kids are all grown up and have minds of their own. OP, please sit ya mama down and talk heart to heart with her. Like you said, it's your weddding.
But if finally it's going to be a do or die affair, weat teh damned wedding gown and after exchange of vow, wear your own dress for pix and the rest of the celebration.
Best wishes on your marriage and have the ahppiest celebration ever.
First Time for me to Read from someone that has same view like me on wedding dress and white wedding rubbish.
ReplyDeleteI've never seen any where is the bible where white wedding was stated neither have I ever seen any white woman that has ever dress in African attire on their wedding day
Poster it's going to be your registers not your mum's let her know that. Wear whatever you'll be happy in
It's unfortunate that you posted this question for nigerian girls to give you an advice on. As far as they are concern only white wedding or wedding gown is what will make a woman to be seen as properly wedded.
Congratulations sis wish you happy maried life in advance
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Abeg do what mumsie want.people don't know the value of mothers until they are gone.i want my mum every day of my life to com back to life.
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ReplyDeleteDearest Mummy,
Please kindly allow big sis to wear what she want, it's her day.
There is nothing like disgrace for not wearing the usual wedding dress provided she is happy with it!
Just pray and wish her well, that's all that matters.
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