Three short Narratives at a go....
The addict..
The X factor
The nagging
Hmmmmmmm......
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
ADDICTED TO S*X
Hello Stella,I greet you warmly.I have a problem that is seriously affecting me both mentally and spiritually,its S*X!. I made a promise to God to stay off it since last year(I think,can't remember when) but for the life of me,I just can't.
The more I try to,the more I can't just help myself when am with my boyfriend.and the dude don't help matters at all,after each session,I get depressed and ask him"Babe when are we actually gonna quit this"and He goes" we will with time bla bla bla!" Same promise,all the damn time.and he is the only person I just can't control myself with.
I do love him(not that sickening kinda love though)but the deal is that I am just tired of having s*x,it makes me sad and spiritually low (don't get me started on that one,you really don't wanna know) so I beg thee,and my fellow BV,how can I stop SEX please,I need advice,suggestions(and even insults,yea!
please help me.
PS.he is hinting bout marriage,and I have no intention of getting married now,I am finding myself and honing my skills.I need to have a purpose before settling down.thanks Stells.love ya
Stay away from him then...if you dont want sex,get off that relationship and get busy with your time.since he is the only one that makes you fall,stay away.
you dont want to get married because you are still finding a purpose and 'honing' your skills? well you might consider his proposal as an option if all else fails..good luck!
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
IN LOVE WITH MY YOUNGER BROTHER'S EX.
I am in a relationship with a lady that has had sex with my younger brother,but this was before we began dating and I was aware of it.
The thing now is that i am in love with this woman, but she feels we can't take our relationship into the future because of her past.
I need advice, Stella please I plead with you post this, we've been together for almost two years, the thought of losing her kills me.
Thank you for this opportunity and any advice i might get. I pray God blesses and strengthens you, big hugs.
Why is she dating you if she doesnt want to go to the next level?Just how serious was her relationship with your brother and how long did it last?did your family members know about it?
She might be scared of being rejected because of this....fear and shame.
if your family is approachable ,please try to find out how they feel and encourage them to show her some love.
And please be careful...becareful that her past relationship with your brother doesnt come back to haunt you both if you marry her....just saying.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER THREE
NAGGING SPOUSE
Dear Stella, I urgently need BVs advice. my husband is killing me. Its like my head wants to explode,I have never met a nagging husband as mine. Stella he complains about everything you can think of. He's bossy and very manipulative and insults me at any provocation and calls me all sorts of terrible names,like stupid foolish thing,useless idiot, stupid smelly prostitute and these are just a few o. If he's quarrelling and I dare to say one word he will beat the shit out me.
Now he's complaining that i am fat,he'll be like ''elephant in the house or the hippo'' I keep wondering why he humiliates me so much and he tells this to anybody he meets that cares to listen.
its so frustrating how someone who you love and marry can make life so miserable for you, right now I don't want to leave cos of my kids.but if this doesn't stop i am afraid I'll do something stupid. I am so miserable and dont know how to handle this anymore..what do i do?
WOW!...I am gobsmacked and dunno what to say.you sound like you are in a one way situation.
Abeg make I go eat first, I de come back.
ReplyDeleteN1 : from experience and from stories. You can't do it on your own. You can't. Surrender to God. And ask Him to help you.
DeleteNow see...from the way things are going, you would have to break up with him or at least take a break and really feed your mind with God's word and ask him to do same. now why I asked you to go on a break is because until you build your resolve and learn how to surrender to God, it would be dangerous when you guys are together.
Something else : does your boyfie have the same belief or does he want to desist from sex? Find out. If not I would put it to you that oil and water cannot for a continuous solution .
And with wisdom comes grace.
In any rshp, avoid sleeping over. Staying in enclosed places. Smooching and touching and petting and necking and kissing...yes! kissing.
You have to make up your mind and den allow God to lead you.
Go to God's word and feed your spirit with God's word.
Pre marital sex robs us of our boldness before God in His presence.
If you really love God, den you have to.
Phew!
N2: ha. Stella has said it all. Find out
N3: Nne, your case na serious issue o. But nothing pass God.
Btw.. didn't he show these signs before marriage.
That's why we have to be super sensitive before we say yes I do!!
Well, go to proverbs 5 : 17-20
And speak. Pray and decree that your pleasant in your husband's eyes and he is satisfied with you. And ask God to arrest him and visit him like Paul on his way to Damascus.
Okay ma'am.
Your beautiful, your royalty and your special.
And God loves you.
Remind yourself of these. Don't lose your self esteem.
*hugs
Poster 1: be there deceiving yourself....if u dnt want to engage in premarital sex help yourself 1st by not going to his crib for the now, have more of outdoor activities with him, movies, dinner, parties, church programmes, meditate on the word of God and build ursef spiritually 1st nd let the holy spirit be your guide, as for d marriage proposal; u beta say yes wen e proposes, since u love him, no let xpress pass you o.
Delete2: 1st tin is trust, do u trust her enough to leave your brother with her nd not think otherwise??? Is your brother aware of the relationship? Do you stay in the same town with your brother nd family??? 2 years is a long time for you to know her and her capabilities sha..............ABEGI LEAVE THE GIRL!!! wat rabbish, wife-ing(hope im right) your younga brodas ex, to me its a no No!
3. God have mercy on your marriage, please you need to build back your self esteem. Read "The confidence woman" by Joyce meyer . Either get a job, learn a skill, or do business. Lose dat weight, visit friends nd family, attend church activities, dress well, always be neat and watch him worship you, not all marital issues should lead to divorce. Above all invite christ into your home, make him your best friend.
Nagging husband.. I hope no Hw @Charles novia wife bring him matter come here...d man can NAG for Africa
DeleteUnto better gist...
Poster 1....stay away from that ur guy for a while...stay away from anything that make u wanna have sex....also pray
Poster 2.....you are not a serious person...u knew ur brother dated ds guy, but u went ahead also with her......ye yetalk
Poster 3......unto ur nagging husband....if hr start nagging, just on ur radio and give it the loudest volume...... He go tire if u no listen to am.....do that for one week
@Galore
@galore, what an advice to d woman with nagging husband. Poster, pls don't take her serious ooo, such attitude will only earn u more battering from it husband.
DeleteMy advice is dat u improve urself learn a trade, get a job, improve ur appearance and shed some weight. It might not be easy but just put an effort and see some turnaround in ur marriage.
Above all, commit ur marital situations to God for He is able to melt a heart made of stone.
Narrative 2 I swear you are mad! Of all the babes in this world, the only one you saw to love is someone that your brother has slept with? Abeg abeg abeg, even if it was a one time thingy but, for the fact that you are aware says the kind of person you are. Na wa oh for ndi uwa. It's no longer friend's ex oh, your brother, as in blood brother oh. Biko it's that bad and that girl should continually hide her head in shame.
DeleteIt's just like two brothers sleeping with one person knowingly oh
I'm so pissed. Calls you smelly prostitute, hippo etc. Beats you. Insults you even in the presence of outsiders. And you're still trying to figure out if you should leave or not. Oya nah. Continue
DeleteNum1 Come i can help u i know a baba that would do it.numbrr 2 u are very useless so na only your brother babe of befor u see.that means u can also sleep with his wife-num 3 divorce him
DeleteStop joking with sensitive matters@cocaine finest perhaps you are high on cocaine.
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ReplyDeleteNarrative 2: how can you date someone that your lil brother fucked. You both should get a life and quit that thing you call a relationship. It will get to a point that when having sex, you will begin to picture your brother banging her. Think with your head and not your dick.
DeleteU wanna marry her, then your brother will get drunk one day and says "Damn! I banged her left, right, centre and she hung her legs on the burglary"
You will end up being her worst nightmare in future.
N1: Cut ur clit off
DeleteN2: Stop dating
N3: Poison him
@jamara.hahahahahahahhahhahahahhahhhahaahahhahahaahahha cant*stop*laffing*
DeleteJamara bet y?
DeleteAbeg make I go eat first, I de come.
ReplyDeleteNa wa for people and sex ooo!!
Delete@poster no1;there is only one solution to you staying away from sex;it has been emphasized on this blog for as long as i can remember and i always say it aloud to anyone who cares to listen(wink)...
Sex is just a thing of the mind and if the mind isnt 100% focused;it cant be initiated into it not to talk of carrying the ACT out..it isnt always all about seeking the face of God(pardon me) but first of all,you yourself have to discipline your soul,mind and spirit before you get started with the journey of going celibate...
Now here is just what you need to do and its just the simple trick soo far;GET YOURSELF BUSY WITH WORK or anything that can add something positive into your life every single day...when you work for like 10 to 12 hours(or more) in a day and you get back home,cook,do some chores,what else do you think would be on your mind??? just how to prepare for work the next day..and not how to go see your boyfriend soo as to have that mind blowing sex...
If you are a student(my favourite part) then its just much more easier..just read Everyday as if there is NO GOD,during your spare time just visit sdk blog and go through the news for the day,comment where you deem necessary and laugh off your stress where its called for...before you know it you will fall asleep with your phone on your hand and boom;its another new day and off you go for lectures...if you continue like this;then tell me how on earth you would ever have the time to think of sex??
Lastly;just reduce your circle of friends who have nothing to contribute into your life but just the everyday story of how they had sex with mr A and how they prefer mr B to mr C...my dear just keep yourself busy k,and dont forget to cut-off your relationship with your guy soo as to avoid you visiting him and having sex after which the guilty conscience sets in all over again...wish you all the best!!
NOTE:staying away from sex before marriage aint an easy deal ooo;and also remember you need to seek the face of God alldsame soo as to be developed spiritually and physically..
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Wow!
DeleteMartino Martino!
My dear take a hi5 for this wonderful and very sensible comment.
Poster 1 Martins has said it all.
Listen to him if you are serious.
Martins
DeleteDon't I just love you?.
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Delete@mma cee;i love you more ooo...**E-hugs to ya**
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Narrative 1
ReplyDeleteIt takes only determination and the grace of God, if you are really determined and remove that devilish thought from your mind that your Bf is the only one you can't resist when you are around him and ask God for help then you will win the battle to stop having sex.
Its is called controlling powers, because the bible says "we do not fight against flesh and blood, but against powers of darkness" so there are powers of darkness that wants you to continue, that's why they keep making you believe you can't hold yourself when you are with your BF, remove that thought and be determined and seek for God grace and boom! You'll conquer.
Narrative 2
If your brother is not against it, then there is nothing wrong with taking it to the next level, and I don't understand what she want from you if she don't want the relationship to graduate.
Narrative 3
Please understand that communication is a key aspect of marriage, you need to seat him down and tell him what he has been doing and that you don't like it, and its hurting you. And if he refuses to stop, probably you have to involve someone he respects and listens to, let the person talk to him.
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U and that guy always in jupiter are always posting comment on LIB becos of the cash. Oboi I dey see una post ooo. continue u mite win
Deleteanon give it a rest Alloy no send
DeleteAnin 3.45 leave Alloy alone.. he has been on dat blog for yrs..u too stat commenting there so u will get money u hear.. in d meantime stop being a bully.
DeleteNarrative #1# you want to stop having sex,then break up with him or marry him,as for you not ready,i don't know that for sure
ReplyDeleteNarrative #2# what type of relationship did she have with your brother and where is your brother now?is he aware you are fucking his ex,this is Nigeria am very sure your family won't accept her once your brother tell them about her
Narrative #3# your husband is an animal,am sure he is driving you crazy or he want you to leave hhmmm,why don't you tell him you don't like the way he talks to you,one thing I hate is abusive marriage verbally or physically, I hate disrespect and when I found the trait in a relationship I don't keep quiet
Wish you all luck
Oboi just like my hubsband but does not beat me. but when he starts that his Abusive words I will challenge him back becos I cann;t swolle Nonsense. After I will go beg him because I don't know how to keep Malice for so low. Him his always ready to keep Malice. Lol
DeleteMy hubby too o, e can nag!! Nah bfor I dey beg o,i nau leave em to suit em sef.....
DeleteNawao.. grammatical error
DeletePoster #3: you are in an abusive relationship. QED. Pls google "emotional abuse". You will see your life. All will be explained. The only person you can change is you. There is NOTHING you can do to change him. It will only get worse over time. Emotional (and physical) abuse escalates. LEAVE that man while you are still alive. Your children will thank you for it.....mine do every single day.
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it is well with poster two
ReplyDelete@ titidiva
I feel too weak to type but to the poster with an abusive husband, I will advice you to give yourself some self worth and ignore your husband.Get busy with things that make you happy, dress well and carry yourself well. Trust me your husband will come crawling to you when he discovers that his nastiness no longer gets to you. Believe me abusive men love to see you break down but once it becomes clear that their attitude no longer affects you they become sobber and change for the better.
Delete@Queen Arabella, did you attend Babcock University? I ask because you said spiricoco, it's a very common word with BU students
DeleteNarrative 1, all these spiricoco people, hmmm! It is not that serious jare.
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2: Your YOUNGER brother's left over? WRONG on many levels abeg.
Narrative 3, He hits you? LEAVE!!!!
Queen Arabella, it's not spiricoco,
DeleteIt's seeking to please God our father.
Don't mind them.
DeleteThey will be looking for newfound virginity in the name of celibacy.
Truth be told, most of these ladies practicing celibacy are those that 'banged' their lives away, now pussy is looking like an ill-dug well. Notice, I said most.
And she said, she isn't ready for marriage. Na so, you sure say homeboy dey hint on marriage ?
No dey bobo us for here, Biko.
Anyways, in view of sounding cliche, sit your boy sorry man down and feed him with God's words about immorality and its consequences.
mma cee abeg tell her,which one is spiricoco again?go nd read 1cor 7vs1nd 2,4 heaven sake dis God is tryin 2 help us we shud try and help him too by tryin our best 2 keep his commandmnt,aint u tired of everyday God hav mercy?wetin sef?we knw he's ever merciful bt lets nt try 2 take advantage of his mercies,notin like spiricoco abi badtin nor de tire person,smh
DeleteI disagree, how can u say his brother's left over. If u classify it that way every one is a Left over. someone elses Ex. Because they are brothers. Forgetting u can plan to fall in Love. @ Poster 2 there's nothing wrong in dating or getting married to your brother's Ex. After all that was in the past. Discuss with your brother tell him ur plan of getting married to his Ex. No big Deal. poster 3 talk to your hubby Men are always aggressive but u can have a better understanding with him in his good Mood. poster 1 u can abstain from Sex if u choose to. U have ur Body not him
DeleteU should be determine. leave the rest to God
Okay Mma Cee, I hear thee. While seeking to please God, I hope she keeps all ten commandments and not just starve herself unnecessarily.
DeleteLmao @ill-dug well. Mrs. Bitchbiko, you will not kill somebody. I just tire o. See hypocrites everywhere, I carry solid nyansh for una.
Deleteit's not about being spiricoco,u must understand that ur body is the temple of God and therefore should not be defiled. Look the bible says every sin a man commits is outside d body but any one who commits fornication does not only sin against God but also against his own body.
DeleteMrs bitch Biko if your igbo, you should understand this : oge iji te te ura bu otutu gi( it's when you wake up from sleep that it's your morning) .
DeleteYes she may have done all that but then she wants to change. Why call her a hypocrite?? I think it's wrong to do so. Because I know you won't call a theif who wants to repent a hypocrite, rather you would cheer him on. Why not do the same for her. Don't you know pre marital sex is fornication??? And God said those who indulge in it have no place in him??
We are meant to please God!
Miss arabella...the commandment is this : love God and love your neighbor. that's the commandment in this dispensation. If you truly love God, you would fulfill the whole commandment. And it's not an unnecessary starving as you put it bae...it's putting your flesh under.
Let's all go back to the word peeps.
I rest my case
@mma Cee Wher do I send ur kiss to. God bless you so much. It alwas gladens my hrt 2 see ppl dt knws God n knws his word... kip it up, u will neva regret dis part u av choose trust me.
Delete@1, u don't want sex yet u visit ur guy every other day, abeg shirt.
ReplyDelete@2, how did u even end toasting ur younger brothers ex, na wah 4 u.
@3, u don enter one chance, did u not know he nags before u said I do, na u sabi.
N3, hit the gym, dress well, read books to help you inflate your ego, above all LOVE YOURSELF!
ReplyDeleteAfter that, get busy. Get a job if you don't have one and then save money. Save! save! save!. The only one that should save more than you is our Lord Jesus Christ who saves souls.
Be a good wife, don't argue with him.
Pray.
When you have enough money in your account, plan your getaway.
If he doesn't change after everything, I don't need to tell you the next course of action. You can continue the prayers from afar. That way, you remain in the land of the living and not a ghost crying out to your relatives in their sleep saying "Avenge me!!! Avenge me!!!.
May God visit your marriage.
Omg Where is the like Button for this.
DeleteYou got me rolling on the floor..hahahaha
DeleteI just feel like giving this anon a hug. U saved me from typing an epistle.
DeletePoster 3,read and take the above advice. E-hugs to you dear
Thanks anon,u do well.Poster one,you are not ready yet,when u'r ready u will take d necessary steps.
DeleteLolllll@ avenge me.
DeleteYour so funny!!
lol@avenge me
DeleteLmao. Best comment ever
DeleteGood bless you Aunty Anonymous. Where do I send your kisses to?
DeleteUr husband calls u elephant in d house and fat hippo? Jeez. Emotional abuse is as terrible as physical abuse. Think ur way out of dt house bcos he obviously doesn't want u. The way love n marriages turn sour, is terribly frightening.
ReplyDeleteNo. Leaving is not the best option. Dialogue is always the best and leave the rest to God. Some Men could be violent when they are financially down, job stress etc. Or may be his wife talks when he is scolding at her. Most Men don't like it
DeleteNo. Leaving is sometimes the best option. Would u rather she stay there and die? Marriage is not the end of the world. If you're not happy and can't fix it, LEAVE. Heaven helps those who help themselves. Why should a man scold me? Am I his child? Nigerian women need to snap out of this and stop making excuses for men. You came out of a woman's puxxy, I came out of a woman's puxxy. What makes u feel you can treat me abyhow/? Chinyelu, if u don't have meaningful advice, go to bed.
DeleteChinyelu dear,
DeleteYour comment made me very sad, I must confess. I kept shaking my head while reading it. You need to change your orientation my dear. I'm being honest here my sister.
Please how old are you?
No offense meant please...
SMH
Chinyelu, dialogue eh kwa. With someone who beats you...dialogue. Ok dialogue na N3. You na no dey hear word. A man that is abusive either verbally or physically is a monster. Same as a woman too.
DeleteIt is because of women like Chinyelu that men will continue to treat women like trash. So much low self esteem! God please save womankind.
DeleteN1, if you enjoy it, why do you want to stop? Enjoy ursef while it last. Tomorrow may never come. Lol
ReplyDeleteN2, don't know why it's your brother's ex dat enticing to you. If she's had set with your brother, then it's not right for you to go ahead with her. #myopinionthou#
N3, learn to keep quite. It's not easy but you just have to learn how to do it. Bullies derive joy when they see that the insult is getting to you. When he calls you fat, reply that you know you are fat but you are working on it. I wish you good luck.
U're 2 mouthed,u asked her 2 learn 2 keep quite & if he calls her fat she shuld reply all 4rm ur mouth...Na wa Õooo!
DeleteMadam first lady, am not 2 mouthed. Becos I've given her a reply to his calling her fat has negated the advice of keeping quiet.
DeleteOk o. My people says a soothing word can bring out kolanut from the pocket. I still wish her patience and good luck.
Poster one. You need Jesus. When he comes in he helps you overcome this. Cause on your own you are still going 2 fall. Stop visiting that bf behind close. Meet outsyd. And if you and that young man are not on same page, 4get it. Unequally yoke.
ReplyDeletePoster 3 you are in an abusive rship. Start living for urself and kids.
Poster2. Why date 4 2years?
Am speechless at the 3rd narrative... say what! I can't stand a man that calls women prostitute like seriously who the fuck does he think he is. You should have ran when you guys are courting cos some characters never die. I pray peace reign in ur home. #2- I can relate to your problem lol..the best thing is to break up with him, that's how I solved mine not that am too happy but is ok
ReplyDeleteNarrative 3, your husband is a frustrated fool. Men that nags are men that cant provide well for their wives. Dont allow him to intimidate you. Am sure he is jealous of you may be because u earn more than him, the only way for you to submit to him is to humiliate you in every way possible. It is very well.
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2, if you love the girl go ahead, tell her you dont care about her past but dont use it on her when you marry her and quarrel start. Am sure she is ashamed of what she has done with your junior brother. Get as he be for her part ooo. Juniour brother to senior brother. na wa
Narrative 1, stop being alone with him. You made a promise to God and you did not know the devil was there listening. You better start going to a church or start doing recreational activities to remove your mind from sex. I know it is not easy. Your boyfriend na oshofree.
dey chop wetin he never pay. foolish boyfriend. Yo too am sure you dey enjoy the sex.
Because of your promise to God, after sex, devil use depression to tell you say you don break your promise to God. It is very well with you. God will see you through
Poster 1:just stay away from him or meet him in an open place but if u want to go to his huz make sure he is not alone maybe his frnd or a family memba.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: maybe she does not feel comfortable knowing her ex whom she slept with is ur broda, even me if I was in her shoes I won't feel comfortable but wat is d point of dating u for two yrs wen she does not want to get married to uu is not nice at all...just tell her dere is nothing dere it is past and Shud remain dere and also tell ur family members so dat dey won't start all dose side talks dey Shud accept her.
Poster 3: Hmmmm nagging Hubi dat is bad but did u not notice dis b4 getting married??? My advice just snob him weneva he is talking and do tinz to kip u busy and hapi cuz if u cont dwelling on all he is saying God forbid u mite get BP.
Poster 3: did ur hubby just start nagging or he has been like dis when u were dating him and u married him believing that he will change? Any man that calls his wife a prostitute has no regards for her. I suggest u sit him down when he is in a good mood and discuss that with him.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: if u really want to stop, I suggest u stop seeing ur boyfriend or alternatively marry him as he is already hinting that.
How do you guys think na. She came for advice. You think she has not talked to the man? Do you know you cant dialogue with an abusive man? It equals more decking.
DeleteNarrative 1, stay away from the guy..its as simple as that..
ReplyDeleteI'm feeling so bad and speechless for the last poster, you saw this traits while dating him but you chose to ignore it. Please pray there's nothing or situations prayer cannot change
ReplyDeleteSorry!
ReplyDeleteposter1 it only takes d grace of God to stop sex oh.
ReplyDeleteposter2 I don't c any tin wrong in her settling wif you unless she has something else to hide like mayb she had aborted for him wch I don't c any deal in dou.
poster3 sit him down nd explain how you feel to him, talk to him nd mayb start looking nd taking more notice of yourself Ur dressing hair nd weight too.
#1 i get yu so well.What i think u should try do is engage yourself, with church activities too.I also think u should break up with him, it doesnt seem like he is gon be helpful on ds journey of urs.
ReplyDelete#2 I'd say u should think deeply abt ds, are u sure u r really gon put it behind u forever n ever n NEVER bring it up again???.She might nt wanto go further prolly cos she thinks it might b used against her later in d future.
#3 This is serious.Try playing the sheep n then the wolf n see which pays off.
Poster 1- try to avoid been alone with him, make sure u guys re always in a place where their re other people. Poster 3 - just work on ur physical appearance,make sure u look ur best at all time,even wen cooking n ignore ur hubby totally. Ur silent n d way u look will make him rethink.
ReplyDeleteposter 3 ur husband is evil. he has no respect whatsoever for u. i really dunno what i should tell u to do
ReplyDeleteThe nympho, you can do it (that's ditch the bedmatics) if you really mean to, all you got to do is try (ditch the dude) and you will succede @ last with serious adura biko. @ poster 2 with aburos ex, no qualms if you allow what happened in las vegas to stay in las vegas which might be difficult for a guy who knew who had farmed in the garden he intends to savour. Avoid stories that touch the heart and scratch the ass and leave that relationship..mbok.@ poster 3, you are a woman of worth and rise above that and first build your esteem, make yourself happy and attractive to yourself and let tbat man stew in his beans when he sees the new you. Its emotional abuse/physical abuse so give him space and build yourself, physically, emotionally spiritually and he will eat his words. Don't let him push you to self destruction but defend yourself and be alive first before thinking of the children. Woman thou hast been loosened and made whole by God so let no man hold you down. Ekushe and hoping to hear your victorious testimony. Naija sun can fry the brains while the cold can freeze th gray matter I tire ohhh,
ReplyDelete....poster 3...an abusive relationship is not just where the spouse is violent physically. He is abusing you emotionally and that is even worse because it breaks your self esteem and makes you feel so worthless!.. Then you become even more easy to manupulate. Talk to him about it it and if he doesnt change, advise yourself.... Marrriage is meant to be enjoyable so do not settle for less.
ReplyDeleteN1, please park well..N2, Don't marry her, she slept with your brother and may still sleep with him again.. N3, look's like you married your hubby by fire by force, I have never seen where a husband will talk to his wife like that.
ReplyDeleteN1. You aren't ready for marriage but you love him? End the relationship then so he can meet someone else to have a productive relationship with. Out of sight, out of bed too.
ReplyDeleteN2. True love can be found anywhere. Due to the uncomfortable circumstances,especially on her part, its left to you to convince her and make het feel truly loved. I guess her not wanting to settle down is a defense mechanism, she's probably guarding her heart and doesn't want to have such high hopes'
Narrative 1
ReplyDeleteYou and your boyfriend needs to avoid been alone together especially behind closed doors, since you can't control yourself. one thing about sex is once you do it the first time with a person is so easy to do it the second, the third and so on. You need to also work on your mind, try and stay clear off anything that will cause you to have sexual thoughts.
Narrative 2
Like Stella said I think your Gf is just ashamed of what your family might think of her and all. Just have a heart to hear talk with your brother and find out what he feels. In the long run if it's going to bring hatred between both of you, I think u should better end the relationship with her. It's kinda awkward though. Above pray about it to know the will of God.
Narrative 3
First of all you need to take the issue to God in prayer, ask God to give u wisdom in handling the situation and after that have a heart to heart talk with your husband. I don't preach divorce and all but my dear if the beating is becoming consistent, my advice is that you pack your things and scale the fence before he kills you. You can always pray for him to change from a distance.
You don't want to leave abi? Then stay there till he kills you.....which children are you staying for? Children that are already being fed a bad example of a marriage and will probably repeat the cycle of abuse into the next generation? Why do women think they have to always be a matyr in a marriage? Is your self esteem that low?...God will not give you any special place in heaven if you die in that marriage....your husband is not God and if you leave that marriage heaven will not fall......no human being has the right to oppress or make another persons life miserable....,
ReplyDeleteReport him to his family or pastor depending on who has authority over him.....if he does not change over a period of 6 months then leave the marriage.....what women do not realise is that the longer you stay in an abuse marriage cos of your kids, they turn out worse, angry, scared and form anti- marriage Mindsets cos of what they have seen in their parents marriage...
Honestly am tired of women who just don't learn...everyday we read stories of women killed by spouses yet you are in a marriage that the man beats you, treats you like trash and you want to stay cos of children who will grow up and leave u with the man..
God bless you for this comment.
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ReplyDeletePoster 1,sit down and think of what u want to do with ur life and don't waste d guy's time. U r not ready for marriage yet u r in a 'sexful' relationship. Hope you were not molested in any way dat made u detest sex ds way cos. Pls do not waste ur yrs while d good men pass u by doh I dnt know hw old u r but be decisive
ReplyDeletePoster 3,u have been taking everything he is doing,why don't u stand for urself and tell him how he hurts u by his words cos he has gotten so used to it that he feels its a normal thing.u don't need to insult him back but whenever he say something bad to you,reply him there and then dat u r not fat or like God gave u the fat.some men need to learn d hard way how they hurts with their words
Poster 3.. run. Dts your only solution. Talk to him all u like he won't change. U are in an abusive marriage. Dey rarely change
ReplyDeleteMy 2cent:
ReplyDeletePoster 1...Stay away from that guy for now. If he leads you into temptation/sin this much then I think it's best you quit or avoid him for now.
It seems he is not even bothered, I didn't read where you said he is making efforts too to stop you both from having sex.
If you both must remain friends, you need to stop seeing each other in a private place, meet in open places if you must.
Give your life back to Christ and urge him to do same.
You also need to work on your will power. Learn to resist him. Learn to say no and mean it. Learn to control your body.
All the best.
Poster 2...Don't start what you can't finish oh.
In a few years time, you will start feeling insecure and probably start having trust issues anytime you see her smile at your brother. By then, this love "sharking" you now will vanish.
There is also a possibility they can resume having sex. You never can tell.
Love with your head my brother.
Poster 3...Hmmmmmm!
The best solution would be for you both to separate now. I didn't say divorce oh. That's entirely upto you.
You need to leave that toxic environment for now before you lose it completely.
You are not being fair to yourself and the kids. Do you know how hurt they will be feeling each time the watch their dad hit and abuse you? Do you want your daughters to grow up believing this is normal. Do you want your sons to take after their dad in future?
Please, separate for now and sort your issues with your husband from wherever you are. If he changes for good, then you can move back in.
If you decide to stay and he eventually kills you or drives you to commit suicide or do something stupid, those kids you think you are protecting by staying put will be exposed to wolves.
Your husband won't stop till he breaks you to pieces. That's how his type are. No amount of respect, cries, shouting or silence changes his type. They derive joy in doing this. He will only change when the holy spirit arrests him and decides on his own to change for good.
My dear, desperate situations calls for desperate measures.
You only live once.
All the best dear.
Pray for grace and wisdom.
I pray God restores peace, love and happiness back in your home, Amen.
#deepsigh
TGW spot on!
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DeleteI have been baptised.
Wonderful.
Hiii ChyAdaJesus.
Howfar?
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DeleteMy sister, I dey oh.
DeleteWe thank God.
@ number 1, just abstain frm him ans stick to ur hobbies, tinx dat u love doin, also go closer to God and pray about it just incase he did sumfin to u.
ReplyDelete@ 2. If u love her den go for her, let her past be her past, just make sure she s not still inlove wiv him
@3- pls just kip shut to avoid beating, allways belive ur beautiful no matter how he sees u, and also get sometin doin so u can make some decisions witout havin to tink of his hurt and dnt spend all ur time tinkin, cryin and bruddin,
How long will she keep quiet to avoid beating?
DeleteWas she born deaf and dumb? Or you have forgotten she is human!
As my papa mouth long reach...I have never heard him say such horrible things to my mom....
@Poster,it is quite unfortunate that you found yourself in this situation,nobody ever prays to be in your shoes....
From today,change your whole look...revamp! take a short training in makeup or go online...
Register in a nearby gym..just find time and make it work...take more of smoothies...get your pineapple,watermelon..other fruits you like and blend together....
Drink a lot of water for your skin and whole well-being....
You should lose weight in some months time if you have a strict regimen(you can get more tips)
Then change your wardrobe...if there is money...but if it is tight,you can go get the ones you have tailored to suit you better....
Become this posh lady overnight,so tidy,with your well-manicured nails...going about your business whistling happily..smiling to yourself...this will not take a day..lets say by next year,this man is still behaving like a mad fellow...you might have to move out with your kids till further notice..thank you
Poster No 3, people will say sit him down, talk to him, let him know how you feel. But my dear your husband is a bully and if you want the bullying to stop stand up to him. Talking won't do the magic, crying and complaining won't either. The only language bullies understand is bully them back. If he has anybody he respects report him to the person. And am sure your husband has fallen out of love for you already. Please dear don't be confused. I am Feeling your pain cos it's annoying when an outsider call you such names let alone when it's coming from one person that is supposed to be protecting you. But you have to be strong and sound to face this challenge. You will be victorious in the end.
ReplyDeleteToo many stories. Make I read comments.
ReplyDeletePoster 3, I think your Husband is dating someone else, hence his behaviour. It is important you find proof so you can use it to gain some ground. Please Madam, the beating is a NO-NO. If I were in your shoes I would start telling anyone that cares to hear that he is violent with you. Tell people so he will be embarrassed. If all else fails maybe a little separation will help. Separation in the sense of working, starting a business or taking your children on a LONG vacation to somewhere far from him.
ReplyDeletePlease stay strong and be very prayerful. May God give you wisdom and strength during this period, because this storm too shall pass. God bless.
Exactly,she should tell ppl,maybe small shame go catch ur hubby,u hate men who beat women,crazy men
DeletePoster1: You are a bloody hypocrite who knows what to do. You are the spirikoko type that leads service in church,yet you dey straff as if 2mao no dey. Leave the relationship or get married.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Give yourself brain, I mean come back to your senses. I tell you, all these love you are feeling that makes you think you can reconcile with her past will fade off sooner than you can imagine. I know its not easy, but you must handle things like a man unless you are desperate. There are so many God-fearing, innocent and loving ladies out there.
Poster 3: I am a young man but I will advise you from my little experience, please do not discard it.
When a man starts behaving as your husband does, you must get a grip and act fast. You need to examine yourself ,your self -esteem. How can you improve it? Do you have a job? What is your career like? How do you dress and speak?
In short, you need to step up and keep your man on his toes.
As per the physical abuse, abeg start planning a getaway because you've been living with an animal. If you do not leave he might just kill you (maybe mistakenly) oneday and that will be all about you.
What do you mean by God fearing and innocent. .?? Is the poster any of that? Abeg he should open his window and look outside, and marry any girl he sees apart from his young brother's ex jor. Namsense!
DeletePOSTER:1: This the reason why i avoid bn in a secluded place wiv my bobo, just to avoid sex, you cant be spending the night in his house and expect that nothing will happen. You should take hole of yourself, yes u can do it
ReplyDeletePOSTER2: Why should you keep her when she says she isnt seeing any future wiv u. The question is WHAT IS SHE DOING WITH YOU. Ask yourself if she is worth keeping, then decide on what to do.
POSTER3: Sweetheart, i have this feeling that the FOUNDATION OF YOUR UNION IS FAULTY. No matter how bad a man is, For him to call you a USELESS PROSTITUTE then there is more to it, we dont know but you do, so check yourself.
PEACE OUT
Ambitious please make una dey try with spell check. Secondly, your husband calls you a prostitute and you say she should check herself. Mschew
DeleteYou married a beast nar3, I mean him calling u those names indoors is one thing him calling those names is another. Tell him you want a divorce if you have money moveout of that house, you have to inflate your ego, pride and self confidence cuz wat dat man is trying to do is deflate it and you ain't taking that rubbish anymore, stop looking for advice and start working on yourself, your emotionally and physically abused, tell him you want out even if you don't mean it and see his reaction I mean say it to him where he won't beat you up, let's see if that would change him, make him beg and promise not to keep humiliating you. Goodluck
ReplyDeletePoster no 3, do u love the way u look ryt nw? If no hit d gym, try sum exercises watch ur food intake bt if yes, dear ignore ignore ignore smile wen he nags before he lands u in depression u are d only 1 responsible for ur own happiness oooooo. Ehen I don talk my own
ReplyDeleteShe should,smile when he nags and calls her names. Poster also serve him tea when he gives you a black eye. Naija women!
DeleteHmmm.... today's chronicles no be hereooo
ReplyDeleteN1 Pls get busy with work or something n spare your future hubby the left over. And you think that guy actually wants to marry you? Pls think n think again cos he's just using that as an excuse. Get your relationship defined and examined as well. Take control of your body and use this as new year resolution. You might not know it but you are being deprived of so many good things. Pls think!
N2 I know you are really in love but i bet your brother's ex is not the only girl and can ruin things for you in future. Would have been better if the said ex is your friend's.
N3 Pls brace your self in confidence. 3 things i hate are intimidation, Bullying and Ingrates. Pls hit the gym if you are really going out of shape. Try and rekindle the luv in your home. In all these pls be patient and prayerful. The Lord will restore your marriage.
@ N1 - Marry the guy and make the sex legit or leave him and keep your vow to God
ReplyDelete@ N2 - is it that you have been dating secretly for 2 years!!! if not y is her being ur younger brothers ex now a problem
@ N3 - If you want to keep staying with an abusive man, the Lord is your muscle....
Stella my darling, why you come remove the Yvonne dubai post na? Just when it was getting juicy. The blog has been a little dry for a few weeks. You better have collected money otherwise those babes no deserve your soft heart. They like the publicity.
ReplyDeletePoster 3:you need to work on your self esteem.know your worth please.Dont let a man Determine who you are.
ReplyDeleteNarrative 1..I feel you die..i can imagine but like everyone has said..stop going to his house...i know it can be difficult..i am also in the same shoes....
ReplyDeleteMine is worse because we are now both married but cannot seem to let go of each other...he was ready to make me a second wife but i didnt want that so i went ahead and got married to someone else..
we are in different towns and never really get to see(havent seen ourselves in over 8 years) but we still gist a lot and talk about those days when we are still us....i went to his town a few months back and my greatest undoing was telling him i was coming in...he personally picked my up at the airport and drove me to my hotel...we just sat eating suya and the next thing....we were having sex twice....no words spoken or mentioned ...just shows you the effect he has on me..my mind kept saying no...but my body went into remembrance zone and kept saying YES...
Stay completely away from him....that is what i have vowed to do...i have deleted all contacts and stopped picking the phone or replying his messages....
Adulterers! See how he is using you fa. If you guys were as fantastic as you claim, why didn't he marry you? I dey pity you.
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DeleteSweety ooo
You did not break the soul tie between you guys
Chai!!!
I advise you follow @ solaadio on twitter so you know what to do.
Don't worry, you would be fine.
Ask God to forgive you and give you wisdom.
Okay?
Narrative 1
ReplyDeleteYou have two options.since you are not ready for marriage,either you end the relationshipasap and move or pray and ask God to speak to you on the matter cos I know its not easy to stop on your own.
Narrative 2
The situation is dicey o.Think deeply about it.
Narrative 3
Its well with you IJN
I dont understand how these men do it
ReplyDeleteBecause I kw he wasn't like that when you met him.
What changed?
May God heal your heart
Dont wait till he kills you for those children you are tryna protect
Protect them while you are alive by leaving that man atleast for nw
Calling you fat?
Loool
Stupid man!
He should pay for gym nau or buy you diet coffee
Mtche
@Alloy, so you can actually make a contribution this reasonable..weldone. I haven't been taking you serious though...BLOG WHORE.
ReplyDelete@AngelRay,you xrayed my mind and wrote the report here...I tire 4 this people.
@Desire, how could you give that kinda advice to poster 1...u no dey go church ...REPENT OOO. Premarital sex will lead you and poster 1 to hell.
@Poster 3, keep eating and add more weight, that's the only thing most Nigerian women know how to do best.
@Stellahipsy. stop swallowing my comments biko.
Everybody has their opinion. I've given mine. Give yours.
DeletePremarital sex leads to hell, so does judging people. Don't know what gave you the impression that everybody goes to church. Mrs do good.
Maybe we should go back to the meaning of the word judge .
DeleteI think it's being misunderstood.
Desire...how this thing come dey pepper you for body like this??
Make i read comment cos all these s*x ish tire me
ReplyDeleteDear Narrative 2: Praise the Lord!! (if you are a Christian)LOL.
ReplyDeleteKindly open your bible to the book of Leviticus Chp. 18 starting from vs 6. Please look more closely at Leviticus 18:16.
Now, what you need to understand is that MOST (if not all) of the common laws in the judiciary system and taboos we still make reference to were gotten from the 10 commandments and other instructions God gave unto Moses, to say to the people of Israel - against killing, stealing, covetousness, lying and bearing false witness.... Before we even talk about adultery, fornication and the likes. They can be found in Deuteronomy and Leviticus.
Now, vs. 16 clearly states that "Thou shall not uncover the nakedness of your brother's wife. It is your own nakedness"
In this case, the lady in question is neither married to any of you, but if you choose to marry her you should really pray about it. Because she will become a wife, whose nakedness has been uncovered by your brother, at some point.
I am not here to judge or lay instructions, but you should understand the sensitivity and seek proper counselling for this decision.
Plus, when she becomes your wife, would seeing her with your brother cause any stir of emotions? Would you keep it a secret, from the family? Would your brother eventually spill? If he does, and you are already married, what would everyone's reaction be? You can agree to keep it a secret for now, but honey I come from a family where in the heat of argument over grandpas land and property, siblings went as far as hiring assassins to kill each other- yes!! my uncles and aunties. So, if you want to keep it a secret, you need to be double sure about how well your bro will handle it.
In the end, you owe only God and explanation. Make sure that He is at peace with your decision. I have only written what I read, according to my biblical understanding. Perharps, someone who is spiritually rooted can give you more insight to what exactly fits into your situation.
It's intriguing how flimsy mistakes of the past come back to hunt our happiness later. I really feel for you both. *hugs*
Ehen
DeleteFor a moment, I thought I was in church while reading your long comment
Inukwam shout Halleluyah
I hope your in holy ghost congress o.
Are you?
Or Shiloh
Would I meet you there.?
None of the above oh! Lol. Oya go and meet the Holy Ghost there.
DeleteDnt kw wat to say...mak I leav m fr odaz
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Narrator 3, you're an adult. If someone treated your children the way your husband treats you, what will you do? Whyare u being treated like an animal and still stay? Some people are telling you to be more quiet and meek and bla bla. Listen, when you start being more submissive, he feels his abuse is working well and he will keep it up. If you start trying to stand up for yourself, he will say you're more stubborn so you need more beating. I'm speaking from experience. Its a lose/lose situation. LEAVE. After leaving, take care of yourself. Lose weight, get a job, be happy. Don't do anything for anyone. If you want to change yourself, do it because YOU want to. Not cos someone intimidated you into doing it. If you need to talk to someone, I'm here to talk. It seems hard but you need to stand up for yourself and your children.
ReplyDeleteDis giveaway tin is real o, I got a mail frm a BV al d way frm Imo, she saw my comment nd decided to assist bt unfortunately am in Lagos.am so hapi for dat kind move by u rikiescakestudio1. God bless
ReplyDeleteNa wa for people and sex ooo!!
ReplyDelete@poster no1;there is only one solution to you staying away from sex;it has been emphasized on this blog for as long as i can remember and i always say it aloud to anyone who cares to listen(wink)...
Sex is just a thing of the mind and if the mind isnt 100% focused;it cant be initiated into it not to talk of carrying the ACT out..it isnt always all about seeking the face of God(pardon me) but first of all,you yourself have to discipline your soul,mind and spirit before you get started with the journey of going celibate...
Now here is just what you need to do and its just the simple trick soo far;GET YOURSELF BUSY WITH WORK or anything that can add something positive into your life every single day...when you work for like 10 to 12 hours(or more) in a day and you get back home,cook,do some chores,what else do you think would be on your mind??? just how to prepare for work the next day..and not how to go see your boyfriend soo as to have that mind blowing sex...
If you are a student(my favourite part) then its just much more easier..just read Everyday as if there is NO GOD,during your spare time just visit sdk blog and go through the news for the day,comment where you deem necessary and laugh off your stress where its called for...before you know it you will fall asleep with your phone on your hand and boom;its another new day and off you go for lectures...if you continue like this;then tell me how on earth you would ever have the time to think of sex??
Lastly;just reduce your circle of friends who have nothing to contribute into your life but just the everyday story of how they had sex with mr A and how they prefer mr B to mr C...my dear just keep yourself busy k,and dont forget to cut-off your relationship with your guy soo as to avoid you visiting him and having sex after which the guilty conscience sets in all over again...wish you all the best!!
NOTE:staying away from sex before marriage aint an easy deal ooo;and also remember you need to seek the face of God alldsame soo as to be developed spiritually and physically..
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#1 The best option is to give him space and watch his reaction. Engage in church activities if need be.
ReplyDelete#2 Find out from your brother not when you marry her, your bros will start sleeping wit her.
#3 Try loose weight, make yourself happy. Try ignore him and look beautiful I bet you, him go dey suspicious n jealous but above all always pray. Don 't leave. Control ya mouth
OK. So she gets beautiful, he gets suspicious n jealous and accuses her of cheating n beats her to a bloody pulp.......what will you say then? An abuser remains an abuser. Even if she turns to a nun, he will always find something to be mad about. Control her mouth? How? Why cant he control his miserable fists? Mmmnnsshhh
Deleteposter 1- stop visiting your boyfriend in confined spaces. spend time with him but in open spaces..malls, marts, restaurants etc. he can't have sex with you in public. can he?
ReplyDeleteposter 2- do not decieve yourself, that relationship cannot work. yes you love her and all of that but we don't always get what we want.
poster 3- you husband is trying to kill what is left of your self esteem. never argue or throw insults back at him. difficult yes. but what you can do?
I'll tell you..always look good despite your weight. never leave yourself looking flabby especialy around him. package yourself and look happy. if you can register at the gym, fine otherwise, just look 'put together and happy'
I have seen some fat women I so admire..why? they are so well packaged that I jus feel like becoming big like them. love yourself more honey.
men matter? na shoulder dem de carry am. if you carry am for head, you fit die for nothing. hugs darling.
#1 what do you want us to do for you? You fuck finish, then come here to lament so we can share your burden with you? Are you a child? What you don't want to eat, don't bring it to your nose to smell! Its always women that talk about chasity, what of the men? Poster, know that most women advising you, fucked the brains of their husbands out before marriage! The hypocrisy stench is so bad! I dislike women! Pretentious and liars! Men don't pretend to be whom they are. As long as you are not a virgin, stick your celibacy up your ass!
ReplyDelete#2 I fear siblings like you! Long throat! The babe is a family wrecker! This will cause friction in your family! Let her go!
#3 I hate men like your husband! Cowards and weaklings! Did he not see you before marriage? And did you not notice this in him before marriage? You can get panache for your pain and anger, when he is nagging, picture him in your mind as a spoilt brat, throwing a tantrum, and be grinning, while you cuss him inside of you, silence is the best answer for a fool and idiot like him. To avoid beating, stay at arms length and close to a door so you can make an exit or dash into a room and lock the door for safety and be shouting to draw attention, men don't like scenes or make frantic calls to relations to help you.
LA KATIE
ReplyDeleteI don't know whats making you angry with Poster 2,he doesn't seem like a bad guy and even if he is, I commented without judging him and what exactly makes you think he doesnt deserve a God-fearing and innocent lady? Its self-righteous people like you that gets life's bad share. Please change and stop bring unnecessarily sentimental.
Self righteous? Maybe you should make use of your dictionary often. Inukwa bring unnecessary sentimental
DeletePoster 1 abstinence from s*x is not mouth my sister, it means setting boundaries and forcefully following them thru, i remember how bad I felt after s*x when I wasn't married, it's reeks of guilt and self condemnation, commit it to God, listen to messages from Joseph Prince and watch the things you watch and listen to. Continously renew your mind with the word of God very soon it will cease to be a battle.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, I don't think it's a good idea to date her, have u that of all the thots that will be flying thru your mind anytime both of them are alone. Think again
Poster 3:slience is the best response for a nag..
Poster 1 abstinence from s*x is not mouth my sister, it means setting boundaries and forcefully following them thru, i remember how bad I felt after s*x when I wasn't married, it's reeks of guilt and self condemnation, commit it to God, listen to messages from Joseph Prince and watch the things you watch and listen to. Continously renew your mind with the word of God very soon it will cease to be a battle.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, I don't think it's a good idea to date her, have u that of all the thots that will be flying thru your mind anytime both of them are alone. Think again
Poster 3:slience is the best response for a nag..
Hian Nigerian women biko nu. See advice. N3, you do not love your kids. You stay with a bully so they can gain??? Ok siddon dia. My people please, let us stop encouraging our women to be in bad situations. N3, take your kids and go to your papa house or rent a place if you can. When your husband's people,come for you, tell them you will not leave that you can not be killed by their son. He must change before you go back(cause una no dey get life outside your husband so no need to ask you to do otherwise). Stand up for your children, if he continues, your kids will be affected. Woman up, and stop taking trash. You are not a kid and he is not your god or God. Please stand up to that bully not by insulting him but by action. Any man that insults his wife, does not deserve to be married. He is probably sleeping around too. God save us
ReplyDeleteChai. If only all women on earth were like you and i, who born the man well to lay a finger on a woman? God bless you
DeletePoster 3, you need to watch the movie, why did I get married? If you have watched it before watch it again, see the way that guy(forgotten his name) treated his wife called her all sorts of names but she was beautiful she just didn't know it...
ReplyDeleteYou deserve to be treated right you are a treasure..
Jesus christ same things happen to 2 different people @ same time....narrative 1, is sooooo me can't help it and it's killing my spiritual life have been to confession and am even tired of it
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2, me again that's the same thing killing me now am so in love with this guy and he is equally in Luv with me and wants to marry me but the thing is have had a fling with his elder brother and we never saw each other again until I met this person am in love with now which happens to be his younger brother
Been scared of commitment with him and his insisting it's in my past....but my heart is heavy, bitter and scared of the unknown #weak
How do you girls do it?
DeleteDnt marry ur brother 's ex, that would be ur greatest undoing, u know dis is Nigeria and ppl Wud talk, she shd b filled with shame cod this is embarrassing nd d woman with d nagging hubby, report him to his pastor or anyone u tink he respects, Mayb he go shame small, domestic violence is not something to hide,speak up so lots of ppl wud know d kind of person he is,dnt hide him n if u know he wud hit u,dnt reply him, go to d gym or b on a diet to get a better shape, for all we know he might av a girl friend now, just empower ur sef, some men r not worth it, if finally there's a reason for separation , u wud get a better person that would Accept u n ur kids
ReplyDelete#1. say no to sex and stand by it. reduce the rate at which u see him at home. finally tell him of your reasons. if he loves you. he will understand. say yes to his proposal when it comes.
ReplyDelete#2. why do u prefer to eat from the same pot your lil' bros ate. pls stop that relationship. its unhealthy.
#3. i want to believe that before now ur hubby was not nagging. something must have gone wrong. identify it and threat it. anaylse his insults and check on where you are found wanting. finally. pray always. note. divorce is not the final solution to marriage prbs. make him love you.
#1. say no to sex and stand by it. reduce the rate at which u see him at home. finally tell him of your reasons. if he loves you. he will understand. say yes to his proposal when it comes.
ReplyDelete#2. why do u prefer to eat from the same pot your lil' bros ate. pls stop that relationship. its unhealthy.
#3. i want to believe that before now ur hubby was not nagging. something must have gone wrong. identify it and threat it. anaylse his insults and check on where you are found wanting. finally. pray always. note. divorce is not the final solution to marriage prbs. make him love you.
#1. say no to sex and stand by it. reduce the rate at which u see him at home. finally tell him of your reasons. if he loves you. he will understand. say yes to his proposal when it comes.
ReplyDelete#2. why do u prefer to eat from the same pot your lil' bros ate. pls stop that relationship. its unhealthy.
#3. i want to believe that before now ur hubby was not nagging. something must have gone wrong. identify it and threat it. anaylse his insults and check on where you are found wanting. finally. pray always. note. divorce is not the final solution to marriage prbs. make him love you.
#1. say no to sex and stand by it. reduce the rate at which u see him at home. finally tell him of your reasons. if he loves you. he will understand. say yes to his proposal when it comes.
ReplyDelete#2. why do u prefer to eat from the same pot your lil' bros ate. pls stop that relationship. its unhealthy.
#3. i want to believe that before now ur hubby was not nagging. something must have gone wrong. identify it and threat it. anaylse his insults and check on where you are found wanting. finally. pray always. note. divorce is not the final solution to marriage prbs. make him love you.
Poster 1,might not be Easy buh if u REALLY put ir heart and Head to it,u CAN Do it!
ReplyDeleteTo help u achieve ur goal,which i commend u on by Way babes,stay away from being wit him in an enclosed place.no more weekends at His place.no sexting and necking and kissing n petting and looking Deep into each oda's eyes(dere's nothing dat can arouse one like dat ish)lol
and pray Sweetie,God wil help u.
buh it all starts wit u love!
Jisike nne.
Póster 2,in ma own opinion,i am not sure anything is wrong wit it except,pls kindly note that...Except she has slept wit ya brother,den Bro,its a no no!
buh if not,and d Chick is a nice gal,i dont see d biggie dear.
Strictly my opinion.
Póster 3,Come take a hug baby....
Ur own wife??? Ur very own wife??
The woman u are supoosed to protect wit ur life!
Nne i am Soo Sad for u...
honestly,i am Soo Sad right now....
When real Men are wirshipping Their wives and that animal of ur hubby(pardon me) is emotionally tearing His jewel apart.
Sending u warm hugs darling....
dont Pau Mind to him!
he is a coward!
And u know u are Beautiful,kind,loving,a good mom,unbreakable and a strong woman...
And dats why d Morón cant deal with His idiotic self!
Dry ur tears baby and Hold that Beautiful Head of Urs UP HIGH!
Mr Man,may God punish u!
@poster 3 do u just sit n watch him beat u,n u do nothing?Please next time he raises that his hands against u,beat d living dayiight out him as well, bcos i know u're not a weakling.
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ReplyDeleteThis anon really went all out. Real and undiluted.
You don vex. Lol.
The hypocrisy of these women makes me weep.
I mean, stop forcing your religious ideologies down our throats. Thank you.
And please, no use having a boyfriend if you don't want to have sex.
Abi, no be the same bible talk say flee from all appearances of evil.
Anonymous 5:50pm, you couldn't have said it any better.
This is serious !
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