Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative

Happy Friday......*wink*

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE.

PLEASURE WITHOUT CLIMAX.

Hi Stella of Africa/Germany..Your blog is my favourite of all times..i know you have heard this countless times and probably always yimu..lol.But Its true plus I love you like I know you.You are fun and blunt to the core.

Ok...I have this issue that I would like bvs to shed more light on,maybe from experience or something.I am a happily married 30 years old lady.Married to a wonderful man .We have amazing sex but I have never had an orgasm through sex.The only time I have orgasms is when I masturbate and the type of masturbation I do isn't by putting any dildo inside of me.

I just rub my clitoris on a folded cloth while fantasizing about my husband touching me or think of a porn scene I watched ,basically any sexy thought in my head.

All my life I have had about 10 lovers and none of them could ever make me come through penetration even though they were very good lovers.i would get wet and enjoy it all but never have an orgasm.

Size isn't the issue with my husband as he is very big and pleases me a great deal,so what I always do is to fake orgasm most times  during sex with him and later grind on top of him with my clitoris during foreplay and I would have orgasms sometimes even though his finger or dick isn't inside me at that time.

He doesn't know that I don't cum through penetration cuz I don't wanna bruise his ego plus after all my serious orgasms faking he would probably find it difficult to trust me .

Sorry for the long gist but I hope you guys get what I mean...Summary of it all is that I don't have an orgasm through penetration.

There was even a time I consulted a doctor about it but he tried assaulting me sexually and said something about his dick being probably bigger than all those I have sex with.

A part of me has learnt to live with it but I am sending this mail to know if any other thing can be done to make me have orgasms normally through penetration.

Is this normal or I should be worried?

Please I would like to know if any bvs have this same issue

Stella  bae u sef should chip in something with your red comment at the end this chronicle*side eyes*

Thank you..Thank you..Thank you..mwahh

Not everyone must have orgasm abeg.sebi you are enjoying it so?manage it like that and stop asking for more and face your work.see the long epistle to ask one small question,nah food?LOL

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

COLD AND UNFEELING TOWARDS MEN

Dear Stella,
I trust everything is great with you. I'm writing to you because i know a lot of people have gotten answers from advise given on this blog. I read, I comment, sometimes i just pass by. lol
I'm a young lady in my mid-20s, graduate, and working. I'm a very lively person on the outside, you can't be around me without smiles. But, the irony of it is that people don't really know what I go through on the inside..There's a huge wall around me on the inside. I think of this sometimes, and i weep in my closet (sometimes I have mood swings unexpectedly).

Stella, I find relationships uninteresting, because it makes you lose yourself. My greatest fear is, getting married to the wrong person, and because of that i find it difficult really committing myself in a relationship. I don't know what true love is . I get into relationships based on compatibility. You adore me, I like you, I may consider. So just like that. I'm a very free person. There's hardly any guy I have dated that doesn't want something more serious (but i fear they might change in marriage). 

I'm loveable and humble. But whenever the issue of marriage comes, I flee. I start deliberately behaving annoying, and before you know it, it ends.

I have listened to a message by Pst. Sam Adeyemi which talked about marrying for the right reasons and I have not really seen that thing that will make me desire marriage (my friends say this is a problem). With my experience and people's stories i read and hear everyday, it gets worse. 

Truth is , I'm not scared of being single. I pray God brings the right person my way to share my life with otherwise, I'll make my money, help family,help the homeless children, give to charity.

My growing up was quiet tough. Parents separated when I was still a toddler (they're both remarried to different people now). I grew up with an Uncle who didn't stay with one wife for more than 2years. Altogether, i stayed with at least six women in that house, each bringing their own torture upon me. 

I had nowhere to go, i was my own friend. I weep and wipe my tears, and life goes on. I didn't have home love growing up. I get sick, and they call it pretense. I was my own doctor and motivation. Amidst all of these, i still topped the class in school. Wherever i go, i get leadership positions.

These and many more. Stella, it wasn't easy. I'm hardly moved by things.  

I'm not an emotional person but I'm a strong activist against child abuse. I see men as the same. Growing up i was molested by people around me ( almost raped), neighbours, teachers... still i had no listening ears from anyone. I was too scared to open up for fear of being accused of being a bad child whereas i was the victim.

At every stage of my life, there has being highly respected people who unexpectedly have made passes at me, so i see them as the same (sorry guys I don't mean to be rude).
I don't believe in a woman making a man feel her whole world revolves around him.
Now, most of my friends see my view about men, relationships & commitment as not right. From your opinion, and that of blog family members, do you think I have a problem? What can I do to change this?
All responses will be taken in good faith. Thank you.

'BAE' I think even sending this mail is part of your healing process which has began,you need to open up and talk more about this.I am sorry you turned out this way .
Let me sit back and see what the enlightened and educated BVS have to say on this.