I say it the way it is...so should you!
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
TOLERATING AN ADULT CHILDS EXCESSES
My issue... I have a very useless and stupid senior brother who has refused to change his life for the better. My parents have tried everything from counselling to prayers, to rehabilitation centre at home and abroad,showing him love, care etc yet the idiot has refused to change. And to think that this "agbaya' is 33yrs of age, attended good schools, lived a comfortable life, in and outside the country yet he still lives in his parents house, he was in one of the top private schools in Nigeria but was expelled 10years ago due to bad behaviour, he was flown abroad atleast to cover the shame, but came back penniless and with no certificate to show.
He steals my parents money, jewelries, home appliances etc . he looks so tattered,dirty and mad. when you look at myself and other siblings, you will think he is our "mai-guard".
I have gotten him arrested several times but he becomes friends with the police officers who just talk talk and talk yet no action.When i look at him i feel so sorry for my parents, my father has begged the police to help him lock him up, but this man will always find his way home. Several times after he commits an offence he will come back begging and saying he is a changed person, he doesn't steal or take drugs anymore but for where... give him 1month he will go back.
I got a call this morning that he almost beat up my mother because she was begging him to change and join her to church atleast. i am so pained. maybe someone in here has a solution to this unending trouble.(if you suggest prayers, pls let it be known that for the past 10yrs we have been praying).
My kids are still young and so i ask mothers in the house, how long can you accommodate your adult child's excesses? Cos sometimes i tell my mum to send him out of the house but she keeps asking me "send him to where"? While my Dad is desperately in need of a solution to end this reproach.
Thank you Stella, thank you BV'S .
Seems you guys have tried everything else but throw him out,that might work but the truth is that it is not easy for a parent to throw out their child.you didnt give us a history to his upbringing,perhaps your parents are to blame for this filth he has turned out to be,perhaps they spared the rod and spilt the child.
This is a serious situation,please be very careful how you intervene cos he is your elder brother.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
CROSSING THE LINE WITH YOUR BEST FRIEND WHO DOESNT QUALIFY.
My best friend for four years and I have decided to go into a relationship.
He loves me so much but me I don't really love him .I just like him as a person,now he jus graduated awaiting to go for NYSC and i am about graduating...
...But I noticed something about him,he writes poorly and academically he is dull and now i am about walking out on the relationship because I can't stand a dull person and i am scared that he is not employable because he might not be able to pass interview.
The truth is I need a relationship and for now he is the only one that really loves me.
I need advice on if i should walk out or manage him.thank you.
You should never have crossed the line! becos you badly needed a boyfriend you had to use him?What a p**sy you are!
..Please do not manage him,leave him alone but know that the relationship between you two is destroyed.
have a nice day!
Poster1..Don't ever stop praying to God...I have so many troublesome older ones but God has touched their hearts... The troublesome one now works in a good company.
ReplyDeletePoster 2...Hope you find what you seek...I hope that guy proves you wrong one day!!!How can you access someone's future!!!Are you God!!!!
P1,almost same situation as u o bt mine is younger, he jst came bck afta selling my dad's car, so far he's bin good bt we ain't sleeping wit our 2 eyes yet. P2. dnt go brking ppls heart cos karma is a real bitch
DeletePoster 1 always pray don't say you hv been praying for 10 yrs God is never late just continue with your prayers,he will hv an encounter that will change him.
DeletePoster 2 just like Stella said...hv a nice day.
Poster 1. Some mothers do have them, how many of us remember Spencer in the 90's sitcom
DeleteTake it to God in prayer
Poster 2 just say you need ideas on how to break up with this guy....so since you were friends and now fuckes you didn't notice all this?how can you mouth wash some one that's you supposed friend sef...Babe...shift....just tell him relationship ain't working
I will go anon on this cos its a personal story. I'm taking it personal with Narrative 2; u are very stupid for qualifying love with academic performance. Do u love him or not? If u don't fine, but if u do, how dare u measure his success in future with classroom education. Whoever told u one cannot succeed without formal education. I will tell u a lifetime experience.
DeleteMy younger brother cannot spell anything aside his name. Yet he went to higher education but couldn't graduate cos of this problem. He is intelligent however, not brilliant. I was d brain in d family, yet I wrote my o levels nine times before making my results. There was no neco in those days. He wrote his just once and cleared his result. Make that one.
At the age of 21 he was already making millions. Ask me y. He got a job as a labourer somewhere to assist some white guys on a site job. One day, the white guys went AWOL and his boss did not know what to do. While in his confused state, my brother walked up to him and told him he could do what he employed the white guys for. He did not believe him but he gave him a trial anyway, cos he had no choice. My bro met d deadline and that was how he got employed into the company. Make that success 2.
Today, he has 4 cars, trailers for haulage, 2 houses and married with 2 kids. What more does a guy want in life? He still calls me to help him spell some things but that does not affect his future.
So misisi soothsayer. If u can't take the poor guy as he is, abeg face front. U wey sabi book, u don get job? Psheeewwww.....
thank you jare..some people reason with their anus...he is dull and you re bright shey? Idiot..u obviously dnt knw wt u wnt its d guy i pity dt is yet to knw d kind of monster dt u re....someone you call ur friend u re using dt ur stinky mouth to arrange his future..better change the way you think..FYI u re nt better than him..
DeleteTake him to Ibadan there's a man they call alefa he specialised in training both young and adult that uses drugs or dissobidient. Tough rascals he will bend them
DeleteHmmm, much has been said to Poster 2. Awon eleyii riran gaan. You have not even graduated and you already know how the future of the one who has graduated will look like? You are not worth being called a friend not to talk of lover. You're filled with empty pride, imagine you saying u want to "manage" him. Choi, dis guy don suffer. You are so brilliant, intelligent, pretty, and u have a "good handwritting" (i never knew good handwritting has become a criteria for love) yet no one found you worthy to be loved except this "dull guy". Guess u wrote his exams for him from nursery till this stage. Stay away from him already and let him find true love. *if man be God oo, some people for chop sand oo, the Almighty plan ooo, e no dey we hand oo, wororo* (singing in Sunny Nneji's voice).
DeleteNa real have a nice day @ poster 2.
ReplyDeleteI cud have sworn that the first story is about my bro but my bro doesn't smoke,steal...he goes to church but lazy as fuck....we have been praying ooo, but what can we do that a man has refused to be a man....hes dependent on us for every, food, clothes n upkeep...we are tired but we only pray that God intervenes o
DeleteLOOL
DeleteThrow him out , life will teach him better. When he doesn't change give him a helping hand.
ReplyDeleteok Poster 1. I think ur parents got it all wrong while u guys were growing. I think he had access to everything @ such this non chalant attitude. I wish i could suggest anything. But i am obviously clueless.
ReplyDeletePoster2: hehe nobody wants to be friends with a Graduated illiterate. Lmao. Im sorry but that is how it sounds..
Its well. Poster 1 have you tried rehabilitation centers?
ReplyDeleteSending him out for a while may work to if you haven't tried that b4.
Poster 2: you shouldn't have entered into d relationship. Let him go though.
I'll sit and read comments for post 1
ReplyDeletePoster 2-U made a mistake crossing the line and entering a conditional relationship.Find a way to end it without hammering on his dullness
**lululiscious**
Hmmmmm I don't even know what to say.
ReplyDeletePoster1...you need to thread carefully..dont apply so much force cos the devil is wicked..i pray the devil will not make me go the extra mile
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God men...abeg run for ur dear life.cos that kind of man can never change plz i advice u run some test and think of what best for you.good luck
ReplyDeleteI guess this is not for this post
Delete@ poster 2.... you are so mean,what make you think is not employable. You describe him is dull, but d guy graduated.ahhh.....Miss intelligent pele oooo
ReplyDeleteThis one is hurting you badly anony.lol
DeleteN1, all this names for your blood brother? N2, Did you hear yourself? You want to manage a human being? Please go away so that he can get a girl that will love him just the way he is.
ReplyDelete@poster1 :may b he was spoilt when he was little or he is possess by an evil spirit.......take him to MFM
ReplyDelete@poster2 : pls take a walk, u will find love cos I don't think u can cope with him and beside, all u see/say abt him are all negative tins.
Poster 2:why do you get into a relationship thinking about what you can gain instead of what you can give. You sound so selfish, he is not employable, he is dull, if he were your friend like you said, you would have lovingly put him through.... You will see how successful that guy will turn out
ReplyDeletePoster 1: once someone character is cast it will take a miracle to change the person, that's why it is important use the rod of correction to drive foolishness from the heart of a child..... I got no advise for you dear.. Just prayer maybe God will change his heart.
Hahahaha....Stella this your Smiley eh... poster 2:please let the young man be..you don't love him..y date him??
ReplyDeleteNarrative 1.
ReplyDeleteThe world is full of evil....
My mind is telling me it's spiritual....
Is he the only son???...was your dad or mum stubborn when they were growing up?...
Boss Lady, he is not the only Son. D other son is older a medical doctor. Tell u d truth, none of my parents have stubbornness in their gene. As disciplined as u can imagine.
DeletePoster 1 I think you all have tried so much for him.infact over tried....unless its not ordinary but there are children like that.only God can intervene and at times an event in their life can bring a turn around for them. Maybe he needs to attend funerals more often so he can appreciate life
ReplyDeletePoster 2 you already know what you want so since you know you can't stand him,they don't toil with his emotions.You aill find someone of your choice so you don't make a decision you would regret later in life.
Poster 1. Maybe your parents need to send your brother abroad were he would need to work very hard to be able to eat or pay his bills. He needs to be given his own dependence.
ReplyDeletePlease click on my name to get that smooth and silky unprocessed virgin human hair that looks and feels great. Thanks
Narrative one, I think your parents need to throw him out of the house or they will continue to feed him for the rest of their lives.
ReplyDeleteAbeg this one pass me. That's how my friend's elder brother almost killed their parents. He said the mum took him to one prophet when he was young to wash his head, since that day he became stupid. So his parents made him stupid in their bid to protect him from enemies.
Ask your parents questions. You never can tell. Maybe there's something your father or mother did, maybe...
Narrative two: Clap for yourself. You need advice? Really? Really?
Shame on you! Shame on you!
Never settle for anything less than what you want! You need an smart guy, wait till a smart guy comes along. You need a rich, older white guy, wait till he comes along. When you go shopping with a list, but what you have in your list. Do not settle for any product, otherwise...
Never, ever, settle for anything less than what you want.
Yes! Shame on Poster 2! He's dull yet he was your best friend for four years! You never even really liked him as a friend and were probably just managing him. Free the guy let him find who'll love him! Tomorrow now when he makes it big you'll be searching for him. You think it's only academics that determines the amount of money somebody will make. See your mouth like you need a relationship. Den dey use am cook rice? If you stay single what will happen?! Why must you manage him when there's somebody out there who will love him dearly. I feel like slapping you, poster. You are a goat.
DeleteWell,even dou the best option is kicking him out,the problem with throwing him out is that he will commit more crime and be a bigger menace to the society while on the streets,and the blame and shame will still be on d family!dats d annoying thing abt such.ur family will still bear the burden,the longer he stays on d streets,the bigger ur shame!.....such pple,shoot them?...#just kidding.they are a typical illustration of pain in the ass.
DeleteSorry oo cos I don't even have what to advice!
That shooting... If I could I would have done that a long time ago. D disgrace is too much.
DeleteMadam korkus has said it all.. I waka
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2,
ReplyDeleteTruth is you don't like this guy making you to see faults in everything he do....
He is acting like he loves you because their is no money.....
Broke ass niggas are always loyal....
Biko, leave him jare after all,it's not a must to have a boo....
Face your studies and work on been successful,trust me the right guy will come....
N1, throw him out ke, he will send hired killers to kill the parents. If I say you guys should leave him here and travel out its still the same thing as throwing him out and one day one day that mother/child feeling would get hold of your mum and guilt will envelope her, my sister she would break down and she will cry, as in better cry. Well, even the Bible has said it, pray without ceasing, please continue praying that's all I have to say. N2, you just play the guy local 419. You didn't like him yet you carried him on till now, bobo don like you now but you don see excuse. Too bad....
ReplyDeleteAm confused depressed now.dnt knw what to do atm.am in d uk pregnant no paper my bf no paper.he wants me to keep d baby but am afraid bcos of our status here want to go for abortion 2morrw i wish to keep d baby but scared what d outcome will be.plz any bv wit any idea of what i can do please i wil gladly appreciate it help a sister not my wish to terminate plz God bless.
ReplyDeleteWhen you were engaging in adult activities you didn't know?! You didn't think about the possible consequences, what advice do you want now. KMT.
DeleteHow much is condom in the UK?
DeleteBroke people na them dey fuck pass.
Mtcheeeeew!
Keep the baby....even if the father rejects the pregnacy keep it....it's a bed you laid and so will you lie....worst case scenario you are back go naija
DeleteWhy did u date a man without papers? Haba!!! Whatever decision u take, dump that guy and look for a white guy to give u paper else u go come naija empty handed with shame
DeleteThen come back home. Na b force to dey yonder
DeleteKeep fucking your boyfriend the belle go comot then una go miraculously get papers to stay for UK. Mumu! Omo I must go abroad
DeleteKeep your baby abeg, if the authorities find you and depot you good and fine, at least you have your child. Maybe your destiny is back home and you're there living like a fugitive. Sorry for predicament though.
DeletePoster 1: some families always have dat 1 person dat gives them hell,I think he needs prayers......
ReplyDeletePoster2: na everybody way go school dey succeed? Do not look down on him,cos u don't know what 2moro holds 4 him.....
Buahahahaha
ReplyDeleteThis second poster reminds me of that chronicler early last year that was referring to her fiancé as bush from a bush place and bush family and stays in a bush place..
Lmao
Like seriously to be in a relationship or get married is not a requirement to make heaven so y be with someone who is 'dull' or 'bush'?
Buahahahaha
I remember tha bush narrative hahaha
DeleteNarrative 1, people like your brother is what define the word irresponsible.. gosh i hate irresponsible men..
ReplyDeletesolution- throw him out, let him go hustle and get a good life..
narrative 2, Yoruba as a saying that nkan ti eyan koni je, koma fi run imu..
-meaning (wetin you nor go chop nor carry am dey smell nose).. lol.. na God go helep ya case.. you use the poor boy finish na now you know say he nor sabi book.. he nor know book and him don already wan serve they wear copersioun uniform.. shuoooo.. hw he take dey pass? abeg carry your bum bum go siddon for one corner ojare, if you dont love him stop giving him false hope and let him be.
Hmmmm, make I take water cool body first, this sun is much here for lagos, poster no 1. He's ur elder brother right? My sis stop calling him names, his problem is from ur parents, its either they over pampered him while growing or one of the two has a similar character, funny enough there's noffn to do now cos is late, he's now a grown adult. Use this as an example since u are now a mother, do no spare the rod to spoil the child. Poster 2, u never love him bt u open ur pussy wide for him! Clap for urself, u de try wela.
ReplyDeletePoster 1. Send me his pix and details, Lemme tidy him for you people.
ReplyDeletePoster 2. Leave him alone o!! Atleast his poor grammer still graduated him.
Graduate your own first..
Brighter Grammer Like you.
Mtchew.
@ pst 2; do u want to tel me d@ dull pple cant make something good out of demselves u tink it al abt office job
ReplyDeletePoster one: it is well....with u and ur family.....ur broda will change wen he wants to cuz life will teach him an ugly lesson...u people Shud let him stay in d huz but I tell u have seen people worst dan wat u just described dey changed so he will too.....
ReplyDeletePoster two: u can't stand dull people but he was ur bff since...u don't tink he will get a work.....ARE U GOD....just let d boy b so he will look for someone dat values him
My dear poster 1,i feel ur pain.
ReplyDeleteu guys have done everything do-able except throw him out.
ma dear,just Keep praying.ur prayers Wil b answered.the answer to ur prayers Might seem long in coming.its just delayed and not prayers unanswered.
If u throw him out now.Might be worse.Might go join à bad gang,Turn to armed robbery.
and If décides to rob those that threw him out,nne dat one is worse.
Just Keep praying.
buh I am also worried about d safety of ur folks.pls dont wait til he pulls à gun on them.
pls get better security for them.ok?
Your poor Poor mom...chai.how she must have suffered.
Poster 2,u be with someone who loves u and who u love right back.and not cos he loves u buh u on the other hand,does not love him...
pls free yaself.and d bobo too.
Poster 1
ReplyDeletePls don't advice your parents to throw him out...what if he dies?You and your parents won't forgive yourselves for the rest of your lives!What your elder brother needs is a serious deliverance from a strong MOG.His behaviour is abnormal...its spiritual!
Poster 2.
I pray you meet someone you love with all your heart and then, he sees you as a dull person,treats you like shit and manage you!To you,he could be dull and writes poorly but some girl out there could see him as a genius!You don't deserve him as a friend in the first place,pls leave him alone so that he can find true love with someone else,then go and look for your own proffessor. He is dull and yet he managed to graduate.Mtchewwwww
Don't mind poster 2.I have a friend everyone thot was dull and coil don't speak very well but today he is the most successful of us all and doing well in an oil company.Never underestimate anyone
DeletePoster1: he sure needs deliverance. Pls pray for him.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: you are a selfish being. So cos you are lonely you want to use ur best friend who doesn't fit into preferred to while away time abi? Don't worry bla la awaits u
he just graduated and he is dull and isn't employable,who told you that? you are wicked,is obvious you had someone already, why waste his precious time all this while knowing really you dnt love him.some women are born jezebel yet they are the ones who first cry foul when they are dumped.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 still pray....pray without ceasing bcos wen d Lord turn d captivity of zion we where like dem dat dream. Poster 2 hmmmm na God get power oooo. Never ever I repeat never ever look down on anybody bcos no one knows tmr.
ReplyDelete#mistress of spices
Lest I forget.... Stella dat ur simile is epic.....hahahah
ReplyDelete#mistress of spices
NO 1..u guys should take it easy on him cause I feel there z more to his behaviour..I think its spiritual.get real prayer warriors to work on him.I ve seen firsthand what evil ppz do to innocent kids especially first born..if I write wetin dem do my senior brother erh!but @ d end God aint asleep,he fights 4 his own..
ReplyDeleteposter one .sometimes you dont blame your brother ,african science still works oh ,prayer ,prayer is the key .
ReplyDeleteposter 2 -get a life and leave the poor boy alone ,you are full of concubility
Narrator 1: it's obvious your parents didn't raise all of you well. Just see the ease with which you call your elder brother names. The solution to your manifold family problem is not here but with your parents especially your mom,go and ask her where she went when she was pregnant for all of you especially you and your brother. Mtschew born trowey.
ReplyDeleteThat was too harsh now, haba
DeleteAnd where wld u go for treating someone's problem wit such disdain? And to include her mother in it? I was brought up niice so all I can add is I wish u well
Delete@Imelda the trash can, u evidently are the born throwey and obviously raised badly by frustrated parents or let's just sey u are a BASTARD! Yes u are.
DeleteReally is this what you hv to say @ Imelda I pray one of ur kids don't turn out like this, u need to be in her shoes to know the embarrassment she might be going through
DeleteMr Lyca
Poster 1, I think the problem started from the way he was brought up. Its really hard to bend an already dried fish. The matter pass me
ReplyDeletePoster 2, you knew he was poor academically yet you accepted to date him. Nawa for you o. Now you will end up breaking hs heart
Narrative 1 there's no history to this your tale, am sure he didn't just wake up one morning and became a miscreant.
ReplyDeleteNarrative2 you are just a desperate User! You've been besties for years but you just realised he's dull??? Hello???!!! GTFOH!! Dirty geh!
@poster 2 just angry about the way your describing the guy, baba na, all all these while you didn't know he has dull brains, who told u he isn't employable. This Nigeria that the people dont get job based on grades, its by God and who u know. If you don't want him move on joor and stop describing someone like that cos no one is dull.
ReplyDelete@poster 1 are u sure your brother hasn't offended someone that laid a curse on him, with all you just said, this is beyond the ordinary. God would help you people get solution soon
The two narrative are extremely funny,lmao
ReplyDeleteAgbaya brother to dull and dumb friend,i can't deal joor
Poster 1. Put rat poison in his food. Let him sleep...lol
DeleteNarrator 2: you go shock when that Olodo land better job or hammer from one business or contract. It happened to me krokro.na so I dump Olodo pitch my tent with brainy. While the Olodo is doing exploits now and has become a multiple landlord, his wife and kids living the best life in Canada, na so so grammar and ITS brainy take dey bamboozle himself, still a tenant in a 3 bedroom flat in a ghetto part of Lagos and still forming gragra ITK.
ReplyDeleteI wish you luck sha.
Lol. ..that's naija for you..
DeleteStory1: I've seen the likes of your brother and today they are better but filled with regrets. There's nothing you guys can do for him, he has to realize it's time to change by himself. Also don't stop praying because it's a manipulation. No1 in their right senses want to live foolishly and stay behind while others progress!
DeleteStory 2: hmmm, leave that young man asap! You don't have genuine feelings for him and you don't even want to grow such feelings so don't joke with another's emotions. As for him being olodo just sit there and watch. It will shock you what that low brainer will achieve in this life. We don't know tomorrow and the others destiny. I had 1 bf who wasn't so intelligent academically but we were so in love. Today he is doing well but we ain't together cuz dude cheated.
@1, like Stella said, maybe ur parents spoilt him bcos he's the first son, who knows maybe if they marry a wife for him he will change, i hope ur father's source of wealth is clean, just asking.
ReplyDelete@2, what is wrong with u, u knew he was dull yet u dated him, u obviously don't know what u want.
Marry a wife ke? Is marriage the solution to his insanity??
DeleteVery clean source of wealth. Wife ke...can put any woman's life in jeopardy.
DeleteProfessional Counsellors pls come in here. Today's chronicles no be child's play.
ReplyDeleteN1: I really feel your pain and can relate very well what if feels to be in your shoes. Since you people have prayed, have you guys gone to seek if this problem of your brother is spiritual or man-made. This is not ordinary cos if its not the case of spare the rod and spoil the child just like Stellz mentioned then you guys should go in search of this. Above all, don't cease praying it works wonders.
N2: Please don't manage that relationship, kindly walk away if you can't bear all those as your mind is made up with those reasons of yours. BTW your happiness is paramount in any relationship you find your self in. Pls walk away happily.
Narrative 1: I guess your brothers rod was spared and now it has spoilt the adult in him. He doesn't need prayers but real deliverance.
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2: You did not only cross the line, you seem like someone who could tolerate ills to satisfy your immediate needs. I think you knew what you wanted with him all along. In the future, don't accommodate things that contradicts your aspiration. End the relationship now in a nice way. You yet need his usefulness tomorrow.
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"I am scared that he is not employable and might not be able to pass interview".
ReplyDeletePoster 2 you are wicked oooo.Are you God? Who says he wont be able to pass interview? Abi you think say na by wu no book pass. I nor blame you sha. You neva finish school.When you grad come out, ur eye go open.Very obvious you belong to all those "I must graduate with first class to get a good job" kind of student. You neva see anytin. I pity you. Your eye go soon clear . Please leave the guy alone. You are a VERY BAD friend. He doesnt need people like you in his life. I hate to insult people so Ill just stop here before I say something I might regret.
Poster 1...the matter pass me; but nothing pass God
Dear bvs
ReplyDeletePls am newly married
Hubby's younger Bro n sis live with us. They r twin and am
just some months older than them.
But the brother Will always bring girls to the house
Take her upstairs n they spend hours in the room
When I clean the house n dispose the trash can in the room
I usually see used condoms meaning they usually have sex
there.
I hate that.
Now my problem is if I should tell him kindly not to bring
his female visitors upstairs which is like the private part of
my home . They should spend time at the sitting room
downstdownstairs. Or should i tell his twin sister(she's not
so nice tho I just take her excesses for peace to reign).
They r both serving. Or I should tell my hubby that I don't
like that so maybe he can talk to him. I guess he was doing
that when he was staying with hubby as a bachelor but
seriously this is now a home. And I already have a baby. Or
am I just being unreasonable. Or shud I just ignore n keep
the anger to myself... I just don't want in law wahala but I
also need my happiness.
Newly married, n u guys already have ppl living with u?anyway,i think the best solution is to talk to ur hubby about it,but it seems ur scared of talking to ur hubby,cos that would av bn the first thing before coming here.wish u all the best in your marriage
DeleteI read something like dis yesterday.or am I dreaming?
DeleteIt's your home darling. Its already cool of you to accommodate them peacefully. If you don't want such escapades in your home I will say you should tell your inlaw 1st how u feel and do so nicely. If he continues tel his brother.
DeleteI thought I read this yesterday and saw Gennybaby's advice to you?
DeleteDearie, tell ur hubby dnt confront him yourself. Is your house and he is defiling it for Christ sake... if he is big enough to buy condoms he should be big enough to rent a hotel room! And to think he don't know dat condoms are to be flush down the toilet, it is annoying and me can't deal!!!
DeleteNwunye Okeke
This issue of your hubby's siblings living with you n hubby shud have been sorted out before u got married. Try talk to your hubby abt it in a very subtle manner
DeleteU expect a grown man not to gbensh d girls he brings to d house?spend time @ d sitting room ko,spend time @ d kitchen ni...why didn't u talk to ur hubby about his siblings living with u as newly weds?...dats ur own mistake,I believe newlyweds need privacy,n since u didn't handle dat with ur hubby initially,u'l continue to live with it till dey move out...though I stayed wit my married broda briefly n brought my gf home(to d room) but wen his wife was around,na sitting room we go dey or quickie wen dey r in dia room
DeleteThis same nonsense happened to me. 2 of my bil were living with me and one of them always brought his gfs to my home. I don't clean his room, he asked me why? I told him his girlfriends should be cleaning his room and not me. I didn't see any CD. In your case, you have to tell your husband and let him know the implication of improper disposition of used cd. Or whenever you see it, don't touch it, take a picture of it and send to your husband. One of them will eat with his friends and leave it for me to come and wash after coming back from my shop, I complained to my husband, and he corrected him.Today he is married and treats his wife like a queen and he wanted to treat me as a slave! Idiot! When wives don't want in-laws to stay with them, they call them names. If only men know the emotional effect it has in their marriage, they will think twice. I don't blame ladies that are selective. Fight back! Don't care if they call you names. Stupid in-laws! Mschewww
DeleteHunay at chick felix you are not dreaming
DeleteMadam carry your wahala comot here yesterday till today....if not no answer you, you no get brain?
#1 Don't even know what to say...
ReplyDelete#2 I can imagine his kinda person, believe me when i say IT WON"T WORK!!!
Poster 1,there is nothing much to be done than prayers since every other measures didn't work,even though you guys have been praying,continue.
ReplyDeleteHe must have been spolt since childhood maybe cos he is the only son(if I am not mistaking)
Pls don't try arresting him again o before he does something drastic to either you or your children.
If you send him out of the house,he can organise his friends to do something bad to your parents and he will only be remorseful about it for some months.
He is just the family's black sheep and only prayer and deliverance can work
Poster 2,pls free the guy,how will you say you are friends with someone for four years and you are just finding out he writes poorly,.don't be too desperate for a boyfriend,wait till your phonetic well-writing guy finds you.
Let him know you prefer being ONLY friends with hiim so that he can look elsewhere for someone that will love him the way he is
Poster one.....just hand him over to God....He is not ready to change.. But I know my GOD will change him....I will put him in prayers....He mumsy be a source of joy and not bitterness to your mum....A child that hits or fight with his or her parents his curse...The Bible says..honour ur father and ur mother, so that it can be well with you.
ReplyDeletePoster Two.... U don't have any problem at all.... Na indecision dey worry u. U can brush him up ,if u really think he is not intelligent...... Am sure he wil have his good side as well that u WL love for someday......
Is not by force to date him...just be sincere with him.....tell him u guys can only be friends... That u wish to continue aah friends and not lovers anymore
Friend zone him again kiakia....
"Heaven on earth!!!! Wonders without end,that's my new realm"
@Galore
Stella grandma u too harsh on poster 2.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, its better you leave the guy now. Tell him you love him but just as a friend not as a boyfriend and you wouldn't wanna lose his friendship. Sefini. But you acted selfish sha .
ReplyDeletePoster 1, it's only when your parents throw him out he wilk realise he is a man and needs to work to look after himself. But its hard..... just put it in prayer. There is nothing prayers cannot do.
Stella sef with all these your funny emoticons....
ReplyDelete1. I understand your anger about your brother's behaviour but the insults are just too much, he's still your elder and blood for that matter. How do you expect to see a positive change when you're already speaking negative things into his life? I know you feel frustrated, please take it easy and take prayer as the only weapon to change him. Pray! Pray for him, I believe his case may be spiritual. God will change him someday. Just have faith. Its not easy for your parents to throw him out.
2. If you think you can't cope with him being your boyfriend, kindly let him know now that you prefer to be his best friend. You don't have to tell him your reasons for your decisions but let go now before it gets too deep. He might be an interesting person to be with if you give him a chance. My opinion though
Oh just shut it already. With your wowo face be giving silly nne Mary advise there. Notice me or I die mbeke
DeleteFace your 50k month work ojare
Anon.u are a bitter soul. What is the "notice me" in this comment? You call her mgbeke but you dont know that classy people dont pokenose into other people's affair. BTW, everyone cannot be an uncouth, loosed tongue person like you. Your comment speaks volume of the kind of upbringing you had. And did she complain to you about her 50K work?At least its a dignified job. Let her be and learn to mind ur bizness. Hian!
DeletePoster1 me think that his problem stemmed form too much everything. He always had his way and was sure over pampered I guess. Just keep praying and pls be careful with ur intervention cos he is ur brother and you don't know his plans too.
ReplyDeletePOSTER 1. Pls leave him already, he will surely get someone who wouldn't mind all this flaws you just listed. You know what, this kind of guy ends up with d best job and you will be wondering how come, I've seen it happen. So pls don't manage him pls let him go and meet someone who is worth his time. Moreover why go into a rship you know you can't go into even if forced or bribed.
Poster1 me think that his problem stemmed form too much everything. He always had his way and was sure over pampered I guess. Just keep praying and pls be careful with ur intervention cos he is ur brother and you don't know his plans too.
ReplyDeletePOSTER 1. Pls leave him already, he will surely get someone who wouldn't mind all this flaws you just listed. You know what, this kind of guy ends up with d best job and you will be wondering how come, I've seen it happen. So pls don't manage him pls let him go and meet someone who is worth his time. Moreover why go into a rship you know you can't go into even if forced or bribed.
Narrative Number 1: your brother needs deliverance. Are you from a christian home? Ask ur parents especially your mother if she ever visited any native doctor or spiritualist in order to concieve or while she was pregnant for him, Ask your parents if they dedicated your brother knowingly or unknowingly to any family idol or shrine. These could be the root cause of his problem.
ReplyDeleteThere is obviously an evil spirit trying to destroy your family and if nothing is done about it, your brother could end up killing ur parents.
Your parents should take your brother to SCOAN or install emmanuel tv in the house, he could get his deliverance by just touching the tv screen praying along with prophet TB Joshua.
So people now get deliverance by just touching tv screen? O ga ju!
DeletePoster one.....just hand him over to God....He is not ready to change.. But I know my GOD will change him....I will put him in prayers....He mumsy be a source of joy and not bitterness to your mum....A child that hits or fight with his or her parents his curse...The Bible says..honour ur father and ur mother, so that it can be well with you.
ReplyDeletePoster Two.... U don't have any problem at all.... Na indecision dey worry u. U can brush him up ,if u really think he is not intelligent...... Am sure he wil have his good side as well that u WL love for someday......
Is not by force to date him...just be sincere with him.....tell him u guys can only be friends... That u wish to continue aah friends and not lovers anymore
Friend zone him again kiakia....
"Heaven on earth!!!! Wonders without end,that's my new realm"
@Galore
Poster 1,ur elder brother's case is spiritual,certain old witches in ur village have sworn he will never be useful,he shld be sent to the monastry cage,there,he will receive deliverance.
ReplyDeletePoster 2,take stella's advice.
Pls o what is monastery cage
DeleteFirst poster, does your father have a textile mill? I used to know one guy in Ife then with a similar description as your brother, too similar infact I could have sworn you were talking about him sef. I have forgotten his name now sef, such a long time now. It is well , keep praying g for him noni.
ReplyDeleteP1 dunno, seems he gets whatever he wants without much ado from any1.
ReplyDeleteWhenever he commits an offens,
Make una carry am go navy barracks..
Let them drill him into reality
Steady drilling each time..
Else if he continues n he steals outside, they
Might kill him oneday.m shikiina.
#2: Sweetie, what's done is done. Before you venture into your next relationship, have it in mind that it is advisable to start as friends but the minute you discover certainly qualities that are deal breakers, either remain within the friend zone or call the whole thing off, politely. A relationship isn't what you "manage", it's either the person does it for you or they don't. I recommend being straightforward when emotions are involved. I don't know about you but I could normally can tell from the start which zone a guy falls into. I know there have been some pleasant surprises when the one you've been looking for has been right in front of you ,hidden in plain sight but in most cases, it's pretty clear from the beginning. I don't believe in "charity dating". The aim is attraction and love not pity.
ReplyDeleteDarling, relax. Don't go on a hunt for a boyfriend, focus on improving yourself and you'll be amazed at how love will find you. Don't be too eager to date or you may end up making a lot of avoidable mistakes.
From your write-up it appears you were never his best friend or did crossing the line cause some resentment? Surely you couldn't have just realised he was academically challenged. Come clean with him as to your true feelings. If he still wants to be friends with you it may be very awkward but if you can work through the awkwardness, you guys may be able to rebuild a better friendship. Only then, when your friendship is now solid, you can suggest ways of improving himself academically. It will be too much rejection to breakup with him and bring up his intelligence issues. You've tainted your friendship so you can't be as blunt as a best friend ought to be. If he is really as dull as you say, trust me, you don't have to say much. Events will unearth the truth and he will need a friendly shoulder to cry on. This may be a good opportunity to suggest ways for him to brush up so he doesn't keep missing opportunities, support him the best way you can.
The choice is yours, honey. But whatever you do, never manage anything when emotions are involved, be true to yourself. It never ends well.
#e-bearhugs.
# 1. Whatever is happening to your brother did not start today. Revisit the root cause of the problem. He was probably a spoilt/pampered brat who always got his way. Proverbs 19:18 says "Discipline your children, for in that there is hope; do not be a willing party to their death." and 22:15 further buttresses "Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far away."
ReplyDeleteYou can only bend a plant when it is young, not when it is dried and stiff! Your parents should accept their blame in the turn out of your brother, It isn't just enough to send your child to the best schools and provide him with everything he needs (and does not need!)
Prayers and rehabilitation will help but he has to be a willing participant or else........
Best of luck!
BLOG ANALYSER: @1 tor, I think u pple should engage a professional pyschologist without his knowledge this person will enter in to his life as a friend nd then change his thoughts. @ two,I follow u confuse oo. U are still young and u have NYSC to do moreover this ur wahala is something that can't hinder one's success in life. He might turn out very successful. Don't always judge by that. In another vein u can leave him so that u will have peace of mind
ReplyDeletePoster1 i suggest u n ur family bundle him to a mental home. it could be that he took much of d hard drug while growing up which is badly affecting him now or better still to a strong man of God cos dias notin God cannot do. i've seen worst cases and they were delivered out of it.
ReplyDeletePoster2 u r dating some1 u dnt luv just bcos u need a boyfriend? na only u waka come?
Stella sugar,lmao@ what a p**sy u are,poster 1 keep praying for ur brother one day he will change,poster 2 why go into a relationship when u know u don't love him.
ReplyDeleteHuh???..pussy ke
DeleteStellalisticokursourcesensational !!grab a kiss baby mwahhhhhhhhh
ReplyDeleteim loving you
German brother
Poster 1, its still prayers i would recommend... e be like say haters dey use ur bro cause una parents grief.. prayer changes things.. God will hear n answer
ReplyDeletePoster 2, na wa for u... u suppose chop knock for head till d top of ur head flattens out
@Poster 1 : Maybe ur bro's problem is spiritual
ReplyDelete@Poster 2 : U dnt want him cause u feel he is dull and won't be able to get a Job ...buh nowadays dull pple get Job ooo while the intelligent ones are unemployed
Poster 1-Not every child turns out to be a responsible adult no matter how well the child was raised and the advantages given him.Accept that you all have tried all you can but he has chosen to remain a stubborn and irresponsible child.I think you should bluntly discuss with your parents about cutting him off.He has been given the opportunity to change times without number and cutting all ties might be the shock that would jar his system to reset.He needs to be made to grow up.By force.
ReplyDeletePoster 2-The saying,'birds of a feather flock together' is very apt.
You seem as dull as you claim your bestfriend -now- turned- boyfriend is.
Just saying......
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ReplyDeleteride on woman you refuse to taya IN DA MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS !!!! IF U TRULY LOVE STELLATASTY SHOUT HALLELUJAH
GERMAN GUY.
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Happy birthday Stell
DeleteStella, u nailed it. Good day BVs. TinaBlack
ReplyDeleteTHELMA ENEMUWE said...
ReplyDeletePoster1--- i feel your brother is under a demonic influence who is set out to destroy his life and cause your parent pain and reproach....y'al sud please bundle him to MFM(prayer city)let dem pastors cast out the forces troubling him...this is a classical example of 'THE RICH ALSO CRY'
Poster2--you alone know what's best for you so go for it...morova,is its just dawning on you that ur BF is a bimbo???...
STERRAKORK,,more ink to your pen,more shoki to your aaarrhhnnnn!!
*faithful BV enemuwe thelma*
Poster two : u started it, end it.
ReplyDeletePoster one : my younger broda is 18yrs but is as senseless as what I dunno (God 4give me). We r tired of praying and we have left d matter to God o. So just 4get about him and take Care of ur mum plz
No 1,Ur parents Ve used Ur elder brother's head for rituals,he will continually bring shame to me and no police can keep him locked up!!!
ReplyDeleteEven church cannot save him unless Ur parents unlock d key to his destiny that was stolen!!!
U better look for a way to understand him because d fire that I am seeing that is coming will turn Ur family upside down.
Tell them that Ezenwanyi Oke Osimili says they should free him!!!
I see blood,pain,sorrows. ....do something quick cos d expiry date is near and pls I am not joking.
Shame to me????which one be my own there?????
DeleteEjo oooo........
Hmmmmmm, madamuuuuuuuu.
DeleteOn point ezewanyi. Was about to say same.
DeleteYou are managing a human being? Who and what are you again? Leave him for somebody else to love! Mschewww
Na you talk, na you answer yaself. Lol. You funny sha
DeleteEzenwanyi you are scaring me.
DeleteNoted.
DeletePoster 1... the best thing is to throw him out, throw him into mfm church for serious deliverance. if you guys can go to mfm talk with some of the pastors to keep him as long as they can to help him.
ReplyDeletePoster 2... it is obvious you don't love your man, so I'll advise you to leave him.
Stella this your side face na die.
ReplyDeleteposter 1:this is a wrong up bringing that turned worse. never you spare the rod in order not to loose him in future.you can not change a full grown adult
that is why we have to mould and catch our kids young because if they pass the developing stage;they are lost for life but there is nothing prayers can't do.prayers; regular loving counselling and patience are your last and only options. know that there is no over dose or limit to prayers.his ways are not our ways.
note: pls do not call your brother names and your write up shows extreme hatred for him; which will only worsen the situation. harsh words and environment will only make it worse. show him love.he is your brother and don't give up on him.at 33 years he has not passed the age limit of being in your parents house.is not good he hit your mother but nothing can be done now. if hardened criminals can turn a new leaf; your brother can also change by divine intervention through the whole family's love and prayers.God may be delaying his conversion so that when he is finally changed and preaches or talks to people to change their ways; they will listen and those who has given up hope on this kind of problem; seeing him a changed man will have hope that all will be well.
Poster one...
ReplyDeleteAsk your mum the father of your elder bro
If you know his dad,that settles it.
Poster two
Never marry an illiterate to avoid asi na m ma....
Cheers
Werey! U still dey talk. I hear say dh don turn u to puncing bag; una never start.
DeleteStellahipsy! U r indeed mouthed.. u really say it as it is.. No a** licking.. kai!
ReplyDelete@Poster 1: Your parents possibly over pampered him while growing up. It will take time for him to change, keep praying and watch what happens when he is 50 @Poster 2: Dont ever manage a man. Also, you saw all these and still went ahead to date him so why complain now. Love isn't all about perfection you know. Also, you are not his God, so dont judge him. Walk away and watch someone better than you walk into his life. You so dont know what you want.
ReplyDeleteStellahipsy! U r indeed mouthed.. u really say it as it is.. No a** licking.. kai!
ReplyDelete1: push him out of d house
ReplyDeletePush???
DeletePoster one: it's quite obvious that your bro is a drug addict...am sorry to say this. Locking him up ain't the best way. I've had an experience of a homie here who's a drug addict too and behaves like animal. The family resorted to lock him up and he contacted an unknown infection from the police cell and died, so you guys ain't gonna risk that. If you guys can place him under house arrest; lock him up in a room inside d house and leave him there for one week without him taking any form of alcohol or drug...and then you'll see if he improves. Have tried it on a homie that's a drug addict and it worked!
ReplyDeletePoster 2:
If you can't date him with your full mind, then let d nigga be.
N1.: kirikiri prison
ReplyDeleteLol
Just kidding
Ask God for wisdom.
N2: work on your self esteem
You NeEd a rshp kwa???
Hian
Can't you stay alone till the one you want comes along?
Oriegwu.
Oya break up with him and move on na
N1.: kirikiri prison
ReplyDeleteLol
Just kidding
Ask God for wisdom.
N2: work on your self esteem
You NeEd a rshp kwa???
Hian
Can't you stay alone till the one you want comes along?
Oriegwu.
Oya break up with him and move on na
Writes poorly!!! hmm!! you wear the shoes, you know where it hurts.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, keep praying God is never too late, and there are no impossible cases with Him.
Visit the Blessed sacrament and tell God to take charge of his life.It's well with you and your family, I refuse to blame your parents because it's no use crying over split milk, but I will give you this advice don't make the same mistakes your parents made when raising your kids, sending them away just because they misbehave isn't gonna change them, you have to put your foot on the ground, never stop talking and praying, Your kids may say mummy talks too much, don't listen to them, talk till they change and when they grow they'll have every cause to say thank you.
@ Poster 1: only God can salvage this situation. Don't get tired of praying for him and never ever give up on him. I heard a story of someone who used to be like him but he's very cool-headed now and even has a wife and a kid. His family members, especially his mum, couldn't believe it on his wedding day. And to say that his father was a man of God (now late). There's no one God cannot transform.
ReplyDelete@ Poster 2: during your four years of being best friends, didn't you see all these flaws? If you did, what steps did you take to make him get better? This your kain friendship na wah o. If you know you can't help him to get better or be proud of him, leave him the way he is.
N1, is your brother a drug addict? I have a relative like that but he's 35. Weed has almost ruined his life. The story is really long. But he has started trying to pick up. We kicked him out of the house a while ago. Try tough love and prayers.
ReplyDelete@ poster 1, let your parents show him the door, throw him out and pretend to mean it, he will comeback to his senses. My 2 centsf
ReplyDeleteI need a female BV that lives in Nyc for friendship, it doesn't matter whether you are single or married
ReplyDeletePoster 2 u r so selfish.....damn, u think he is unemployable???? who the hell are you?, dat guy deserves someone better than u.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, u pple should relocate n ex communicate him.
N1 visit a herbalist and put voodoo on him never to know his way home again...Castaway voodoo...since he refused to change, he'd do his yanma yanma till he meets his maker without bringing shame upon the family...drastic times calls for drastic measures..
ReplyDeleteN2 leave the dude alone but do it in a subtle manner...don't throw it to his face about how dumb or retarded he is...just be nice about it because after all that's how God created him...
Hahah.. this your advice na die..asin.they should use juju and pursue him?..lmao
DeleteYup...when prayer don't worry, you lace him up with juju so when he wan finally crase he won't remember home where he often runs to for comfort...
DeleteNna na wa oh.. the advice we see here tho
DeletePOSTER 1: all i can say is dat u pple sud keep praying definately one day God will touch his heart nd he will change.
ReplyDeleteposter 2: u have seen all d hand writing now boldly written on d wall yet u re asking if u sud manage. well u re free to manage if u re very desperate but after u av done dat dnt let me hear u come here 2moro crying over his excesses. dats ow 1 came crying here dat her husband doesnt wipe his bombom after pooing, dat he farts alot, dat he doesnt wipe his hands wit towel etc haba! dnt she notice all of dat in dia 1yr of courtship? i guess she did but chose to manage. now u too is contemplating joining #theteamletmemangeit. well, all i can say is "gud luck to u in Buhari's voice".
N1: you av given ur parents d best advise, that is d way out. He really has to learn d hard way. I am a parent nd will not hesitate to send such a child out of my home nd beef up security around d house. Maybe there is something your mom is not disclosing to you. I am sure your parents especially ur mom contributed to his waywardness. I am a single mother nd I tell you, no child of mine is wayward.
ReplyDeleteposter one: i dunno wht to say bout ur broda. its so unfortunate, but he myt need to be thrown out. ur parents shld get him a small self contain (not flat o). let him leave alone and b responsible for his life. dey shld stop financial support. mayb he wld smell d coffee den.
ReplyDeleteposter two: pls leave dat young man alone. dnt put him thru unnecessary anguish n heart brk.
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You didn't just write that comment studd!!!! Your own blood brother cast away spell voodoo!!!! chai. Amam ihe ga si gi
ReplyDeletePoster1: kai its very unfortunate
ReplyDeletePoster2: rily dunno y u went in initially. U sef
Poster 2. U can't stand a dull person? And u where best friend for 4years. U didn't notice all these?. How can u even say he is not employable which kain bff u be? Please leave him. Smh
ReplyDeletePoster 1 he should be sent out of the house
Narrative 1, Your parents must have spoilt him alot while he was growing up, You know all those rich parents that thinks doing whatever their children ask them to do is the best way to nurture them...You guys should keep praying cause if we as christians have time to pray,God has time to answer and there is no situation that is beyond the reach of our messiah.
ReplyDeleteposter 1, dis z nt jx bein a spoilt child,he z possesed or beta stil, check ur family background 2 c if anyone bhved like dat in d past. poster 2, i an enter into such rlatnship too. but in ur case, ur friend now wants to cross d line cus he knws his weak points n sees u as som1 he can lean on. Be wise plssss
ReplyDeleteLol, funny stories o, dull bestie, thiefy thiefy broda, hahaha
ReplyDeleteP2. Your case is typical 'if the desirable is not available, the available becomes desirable'. Why didn't you wait for your super intelligent better half? Besides you said you were friends for a while before graduating to 'lovers' you must have known the level of his IQ so what are you now saying. Anyway, since you're no longer interested just graciously let him go ok without bruising his ego. This should teach you to be patient.
ReplyDeleteP1: Your brother will change for good so long as there is no permanent damage to his mentality, even that can be healed by God. I think he's a spoilt child, instead of sending him abroad to cover his shame your parents should have left him in Nigeria and disciplined him; at least ten years ago he was 23 and still salvageable, am not saying he is permanently damaged but it's a will be difficult now. Keep praying, one day he will realize that his mates and every other person has made progress with their lives and he will come to his senses, but I pray it won't be too late for him. As for adult kids, don't wait for them to be adults, start now to direct their path on the way it will benefit them and the society. Sorry dear I know it's heartbreaking, hope he changes for good.
Nemerem darling she don see rich bobo she dey find how to breakup she just need ideas
DeletePoster1,ur parents knows what up,they r just keeping u guys in the dark
ReplyDeleteUr brother's destiny had been exchange for wealth. Until they confess, nothing good can come out of him
#1 sending him to go die? He needs thorough deliverance n your parents have their part to play by confessiong if there's any.
ReplyDelete#2 are u intelligent or falls into d category of gals that sort their papers via. cash or kind
Poster 1 ... check your family ooo. They must have done something to the boy.... spoiling him rotten and made nonsense of him. Continue in your prayer, God will help him. All dis ajebutter children wey dey misbehave hmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteposter 2, are you better than the dullard. leave him and look for brilliant guy.
my sister whose marraige is having problem because of the inlaws, like i said your happiness lies in your hand. take the bull by the horn. it is well with you
Poster 2: your friendship was avery fake one..i cannot a friend to someone who has such challeng as you claimed and not try to make the person better..what was your worth in his life.what did you impact in him over the years?and please go pick your self esteem from the gutters if not wanting to be alone made you compromise as such.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: your friendship was avery fake one..i cannot a friend to someone who has such challeng as you claimed and not try to make the person better..what was your worth in his life.what did you impact in him over the years?and please go pick your self esteem from the gutters if not wanting to be alone made you compromise as such.
ReplyDeleteyou have been praying for 10 years and so what? God is not a babalawo, pls do what they like and come to God only when they have problems and expect him to change their situation overnight....was he spolilt? your mum needs to sit up and take hard decisions.send his arse packing.. that said nobody is beyond redemption....you cannot be living in sin or not committed to the things o God and think answers to prayers is your birthright....he will answer when he wants, your part as a mere mortal is keep believing and stay faithful....all the best
ReplyDelete#1 If you really wanna know what's wrong with him, tell your parents that you'll be bringing in a powerful Man of God from MFM and if any declines or give excuses, their hands dey for ya brother case period.
ReplyDeletep1..please b careful how u handle this, i dont think ur parents did anything to his head, rather he was overly spoilt during his tender days..i suggest u find out wat he likes doing(nomata how belittling it may look to u), make sure he is accountable for wateva biz dat will b. Dont throw him out pls, gonna b worse...keep talking 2 him,n do it wit LOVE!!
ReplyDeleteP2..dunno oo...ask Ronalda!!
as it drops in my heart poster 1..your parents are not unaware of the cause of his predicament..whatever it is,they are not unaware...make i stop here.
ReplyDeleteP1: In my honest opinion, your brother needs spiritual help! I have experienced such first hand. I wish I could advise your mum directly... I am a grandmother and this situation is life experience... I comment as Anonymous, but I could leave an email address if I get a response. I also want to assure you that there is no impossibility with God and it is God Almighty that is able to sort out the matter!
ReplyDeleteposter 2 i hope that boy proofs you wrong, marry a 1st class that will beat u up. Ode! instead of you to help him out ur complaining. guys will always marry a doll girl and brush her up.
ReplyDelete#1, your brother is a ganja man, help him stop or free him
ReplyDelete#2, just see how you are describing someone you call a bestie.....#dull #unemployable.....shior!
come see the official i met @inec office today, i found it difficult to even understand his pidgin english sef, but he was very nice, attentive and knows his job.....no be person employ him?
madam supri supri
Poster 1.
ReplyDeleteSometimes you just have to let people be. Your parents have obviously done all they can do and yet he remains obstinate. You can't force sb to be sth. Keep praying but let him be.
I have a distant relative who was like this. After many years of pain and heartache from this son, his parents ignored him and allowed him to go on living in the house and even feeding him.
One day he got up and started a car wash business. They were surprised. The next thing, he brought a girl home. Today he is married and has moved out of his parents home. Still crazy a bit but no longer causing trouble. Don't give up hope.
The anonymous married woman. What ur bro-in-law is doing is very disrespectful. If it were me, I'd talk to my husband about it first. I doubt that your hubby will condone this kind of behaviour. You both shud then agree on the best course of action.
The best you can do for this spoilt man is to lock him up. Allow him to commit an offence, then let him be charged appropriately to court and jailed. By the time he comes out, he would have been weaned of those drugs. This is the only option left for you now. You need to protect your parents too. some drug addicts are usually mentally deranged. Act fast before it is too late. Rose
ReplyDeletePoster 1. Ur brothers came is more spiritual than physical. Continue praying to God he will change.
ReplyDeleteI have seen guys who were like this but later changed for good.
Poster 2 pls leave d poor guy alone so that a serious babe will see him abeg.
poste r 1. your parents spared the rod and spoilt the child. make una marry wife for him ooo.
ReplyDeleteposter2: you already knew his future nawaao. what do you want from bv. thought you are the ever know all woman.
Poster1, i understand the hanger towards your brother the insult on him is too much!he still needs prayer.but let me be sincere with you guys have seen issue like this in another family do not let ur brother push ur parents to their grave i reject it in Jesus name.let ur parents take a bold step n send him out they should get a place for him to be stayin if possible with frds or take in to a military babse to chill!!!!!poster 2 just because the guy is dull u want to leave him u better hear your self out sit him down n talk tins over
ReplyDeleteStud, you no well o. Use juju and pursue him ke. Your comment made me lol. I think the guy's problem is very spiritual. His parents should ask themselves questions. It's not ordinary.
ReplyDelete@ poster 1, there is nothing prayers cannot do. Do a background check as to what may have caused this, as in before and after he was conceived. All these things we watch in movies are actually true life stories... May God direct you aright.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, don't you think it is too early for you to judge? I bet you will be shocked if he makes it at his first interview. Secondly, a relationship cannot be managed...its either you're in or out! How would you feel if the reverse were to be the case, your so called best friend sending in this sort of narratives about you? Think about it.
poster 2 you don't love yourself. that's why you rushed into a lie.
ReplyDeleteposter1 it is well. thanks for sharing your problem. God bless you and your family.
Well you have been praying quiet alright. Have you asked God to show you the root of your brother's problem? HE might have told you guys but it's been ignored.
The general target is condemnation and pray the Ephesian prayer that he knows the love of Christ.
The Lord will reveal to you and will give you instructions on what the next step.
You see only when your brother knows God loves him and has a purpose on this earth will he stand to fight for his right for freedom. I wonder why it's strange for you guys. Most first born males are targets for any enemy to see the downfall of the family.
I will also recommend you to speak Good things about your brother and your family to go for three months fast not talking or gossiping about him. All that should be said is the blessings God has for him. He is blessed highly favored. And listen to his rants and not GOSSIP. tell him it is well.
Testimonies are to lift people's faith up.
A relative had a persistent problem that only came to my attention after a decade of it's existence.
I was busy praying as a teenager for my own needs. And I only told God please help so and so. The Lord revealed to me the root of the problem. I am not from a pentecostal background so all these I tot was my imagination. This made me concern. I confided to another relative who unbeknown to me the Lord had also revealed and the person who we were praying for confessed it being the truth. Yes the person in question was first born. I learned my first lesson. First born's are targeted well and well.
Do not harbor resentment keep praying.
God bless you.
Poster 1, I hope you find useful tips on how to help your brother.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, don't be surprised if the same guy you write-off today becomes better than the best your lineage has ever had.
Na small kind v a nice dai afta callin her a pus*y....anyways she is selfish,u started wat u cnt finish n u say he is ur bestfrd n u cnt b open to em dat u dnt love em dat way. B wise bfr u loose d only man dat will gv u joy.naso una take de lose future DH,afta una go de go do 90daiz fastin fr DH to come. BS
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poster 1 you can never pray enough. keep praying and also try getting him to seek therapy
ReplyDeleteposter 2 well the decision is yours to make. but i never advice people to cross the line with a best friend because when you realize you are not compatible and end the relationship, you cant go back to being friends
@poster2, I believe you are still a teenager. Pls leave the dullard for us that are looking for boyfriend and wait till your professor locate you.
ReplyDelete@poster2, I believe you are still a teenager. Pls leave the dullard for us that are looking for boyfriend and wait till your professor locate you.
ReplyDelete@poster2, I believe you are still a teenager. Pls leave the dullard for us that are looking for boyfriend and wait till your professor locate you.
ReplyDelete@poster2, I believe you are still a teenager. Pls leave the dullard for us that are looking for boyfriend and wait till your professor locate you.
ReplyDelete@poster2, I believe you are still a teenager. Pls leave the dullard for us that are looking for boyfriend and wait till your professor locate you.
ReplyDelete@poster2, I believe you are still a teenager. Pls leave the dullard for us that are looking for boyfriend and wait till your professor locate you.
ReplyDelete@poster2, I believe you are still a teenager. Pls leave the dullard for us that are looking for boyfriend and wait till your professor locate you.
ReplyDelete@poster2, I believe you are still a teenager. Pls leave the dullard for us that are looking for boyfriend and wait till your professor locate you.
ReplyDelete@poster2, I believe you are still a teenager. Pls leave the dullard for us that are looking for boyfriend and wait till your professor locate you.
ReplyDelete@poster2, I believe you are still a teenager. Pls leave the dullard for us that are looking for boyfriend and wait till your professor locate you.
ReplyDelete@poster2, I believe you are still a teenager. Pls leave the dullard for us that are looking for boyfriend and wait till your professor locate you.
ReplyDelete@ yemisi you are the biggest foooooooooooool of our time. Is linda not human? So because she's not married means she can't be fucking? You know if her future husband dey on top woman now? Abi na only you dem do fucking for?
ReplyDelete@ yemisi you are the biggest foooooooooooool of our time. Is linda not human? So because she's not married means she can't be fucking? You know if her future husband dey on top woman now? Abi na only you dem do fucking for?
ReplyDelete@ yemisi you are the biggest foooooooooooool of our time. Is linda not human? So because she's not married means she can't be fucking? You know if her future husband dey on top woman now? Abi na only you dem do fucking for?
ReplyDeleteThe problem with the anon. complaining about her brother in-law is this, before you got married your hubby was living with his brother but because you were eager to get married you pretended that it was ok by you, after marriage you want to now show your true colour ( most of you are like that ) The kind of person i am, i would have told my man that i can't live with any body after marriage because i don't know how to pretend, i let you know the real moi from day one. Why do most of you hide your true self before marriage??!! You should have told him before marriage! I will advice you to be patient or talk to him like you will talk to your own brother.
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