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Thursday, January 01, 2015

New Year's Day Chronicles Of Blog Visitor Narratives


Na wah!........wetin person no go read for this blog?
Ladies,this is 2015,shine your eyes abeg!





NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

SNOOPER CONFUSED ABOUT RESULTS FOUND
My story is quite confusing. I have been seeing this guy for about one year now, I really love him but we live in different towns and we dont see often. I decided to spend Christmas at his this year.

I being an FBI decided to snoop around and I stumbled on his account journal. I was very impressed at first, I love a man that is very well organised and keeps his finances on check. I hurriedly scrolled through.

I had already kept the journal back when I realised I saw a name that was consistent. People, my mouth was wide open when I realised he has been sending money everymonth to the same name for four years! In different amounts, from 10k to even up to a 100k and he doesn't miss it like he is paying tithes.

This got me suspicious. I found another journal where he had names and numbers written out and then I saw the full name and name, I realised it was his 'ex'. Now my problem was why he has been sending money to his ex even up to 3months back when we had been dating? Meanwhile the journal stops 3months back, he probably continued somewhere else so I have no way of knowing he isn't still giving her money. 

I confronted him and he told me this long story of how she was there for him when he had nothing, but they couldn't marry when they figured there were of the same genotype. So he respects her etc. My fellow blog visitors biko help me analyse this situation, am confused as to going ahead with this relationship.


Hmmm another snooping wahala.I hope you are happy now.let your co-snoopers advice you abeg ,this na new year.
you used your hands to fish out problems and i dont think whatever he explains you will believe..na you sabi.

oya team snoopers over to una.
Mscheeeew!







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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
DECEIVED INTO MARRAIGE-USED AND DUMPED

I met him 8 years ago when I was posted to his office for my Industrial Attachment. He was a nice boss and gradually we became friendly. He came across to me as a man who was not happy and was struggling with issues. With time, he confided in me that he had marital issues and his wife was leaving him because they had been married for about 10 years without children, the doctors had certified them okay but she was tired of waiting and believed their destinies were not intertwined and they should try other people as they were both not getting any younger. 


I felt really sad for him and tried to cheer him up the best I could till my Industrial attachment came to an end and I left. About a year after our paths crossed again, he told me he was single and asked me for a relationship which I obliged. Everything was fast, he came with his family to meet my parents and ask for my hand in marriage, we got married and the kids came in quick succession, his job took him away a lot of times, sometimes for weeks or even a month , he isn't around. 

Then he changed, he will complain about an irrelevant thing, if I try to explain, he will get angry, call me a nag and leave the house,stay incommunicado for weeks on end. Ha, I became an emotional wreck. 


Sometime last year, I ran into an old colleague from his office and she gave me the shocker of my life, my husband was still married to his wife, they never separated, like me, she has 2 kids now, same age with mine just four months difference, each time I got pregnant, she got pregnant too, while I have 2 girls, she has a boy and a girl. 

I confronted my husband, he insulted me and told me to stop snooping on his wife and kids that if anything happens to them, he will kill me. While she lives in the highest brow area of Lagos with kids in a school that the school fees can buy a good car, I live in the dungeons of Agege with my kids in a school that combined the fees is not up to 100k. They travel round the world at will, we have never even gone to Cotonou.
 The other time the wife was ill, they both called to threaten me that if she doesn't get better, I will be done for. If her kids fall down, it's me, if they have fever, it's me. 

My husband doesn't come home again but sends our upkeep peanuts regularly 
Stella, I have become their common enemy. I am sad, I am pained, I know I didn't snatch anybody's husband, I was simply deceived, used and dumped. I have a strong feeling he did it all in collaboration with his wife. I don't deserve this at all. The man is 50, wife in her 40s while I'm just 30. Wicked people. My God will judge them.




huh? there are too many holes in this story.
The people who escorted him to marry you said nothing? you knew nothing? you asked him nothing when he came to ask you to marry him?
I guess in your desperation to marry you forgot to do your homework.

Why would you think he planned it with his wife?what does he want to achieve?

He probably used you as a rebound and went back to her.

do you work?if not,please get busy and forget about him,he isnt yours and will never be...sad but true.
May I add that something about your mail just suggests to me that you nag?I got that impression from the part where you confronted him...I am sorry if i am wrong but it is what it is.





257 comments:

  1. Happy New year......God bless you....
    #okbye

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    1. Hmm Stella first you're against snoop now here you are asking the lady how she didn't know and if she didn't do her homework?? Which side are you on? If she snipped now and found all these you would have scolded her for doing so... I tire jare! Ladies do your homework like your lives depend in it (cause it actually does) snoop oo do thorough research however you can. It will save you a whole lot of heartache in the future

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    2. Poster,I hope you read this.... Tht man used you,yes! And the wife knows....

      She prolly couldn't give him children and the man had to marry a younger woman for some spiritual whatnot. You said the other children and yours are abt the same age,which means thr were no children before.check! The wife called which means she knws abt you and your kids,check,check!! You've been used dear... May God vindicate you,dear

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    3. Hpy new year people. Wish U guys d beat

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    4. *yawns*
      Poster 1- pele
      Poster 2- pele, ndo!

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  2. Stella, ofcourse he would he told them not to tell her (P2), maybe they consulted someone who told them they can only get pregnant if someone else gets preggers for him. I really dunno.

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    1. Yes it happens but the Man is wicked.

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    2. Thank you my sister!
      I am pretty sure that's what happened.
      That he loves his wife.
      That she couldn't conceive,and he was told to marry and get someone pregnant and his wife would conceive which he did,or he sincerely married poster for kids and when his wife got pregnant he lost interest.
      However since the colleague says they were never separated I think the first scenario is what happened.
      Pls count your losses and move on.

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  3. P2 enjoy D repercussion biko...men can promise u d moon just to bed u, they can marry u just to bed u n dump u...enjoy jare,u thought he was single...hehehehehehehehehee..ode!!. P1 shine ur eyes o, so u don't become a side chick, shebi u c as Dem do poster2? Learn o.

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  4. Poster 1 snoop further, u'll find d answers u need. Get in touch with d babe nothing confrontational. Hear how she responds to u n draw ur conclusion.

    Poster 2 Speechless.

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  5. Poster 2, you have been used. I don't know how it happened but it seems like your being married to the man triggered his wife to conceive. Too weird. Do seek superior knowledge, leave that man but secure your kids future. They could harm you at this rate. Poster 1, if he pays his ex salary stay out of it. As hurtful as it is, you are in his life because his preferred option didn't work out. I'm sure the ex is still single that's why he does that. Pray that she gets a boo so that she can leave your boo alone. N work in being the core focus of your boo.

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    1. All this plenty things in the name of relationship not even marriage

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  6. N1, he might be telling the truth. N2, am confused. Am having headache trying yo digest your story.

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  7. Happy new year!N1,dear poster its good u snooped but really d other lady will continue to be his bed mate even though she can't have kids with him,while u will be the baby factory.If u are ready for that then go ahead with d relationship. N2.sorry but like Stella said in ur haste to get married u didn't do ur homework,they must have gone to a herbalist who must have told them until he impregnates another lady his wife can never have a child unfortunately u fell victim.Pray to God and he will make a way for you but don't even think of breaking up his home

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    1. Your head is there!!! Happy new year

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    2. Stella please stop that abeg. What do u mean by she nags? Do u know how it feels to abandoned? This poster 2 ' story is a spiritual thing, he never loved her he just used her for his wife and his wife knows about it. This things happen very well and the sad part of it is that if he continues to treat her and her kids bad am sorry for what might happen to him and his family. And for u dear, I wish u all the best life can give. May God give u ur own husband who ll love u and ur kids that u won't need his peanuts. God ll give u better story this 2015 in Jesus name. Just be strong thru it all

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  8. I will read comments. May God help both of you.

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  9. Madam stella na wa for you,so she shouldn't have confronted him, even when she found out that he was still with his wife?*confused face*

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    1. I wonder oo... Stella is always contradicting herself. Don't snoop but you're now blaming her for not "doing her homework" mshew.... he told her he's single his people came so what exactly is she to do... and so you fins such news you should confront your hubby?? Just swallow it and act like nothing happened? Please

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    2. Stella that was too harsh and in reading her narrative, I didn't feel she was nagging. Just trying to get her supposed husband's attention to fulfill his duties. Ma'am, I think they consulted on your head and thus as you put to bed, your supposed co-wife does the same two. But don't think they will kill you despite the threats cos it seems your kids destinies are tied to the wife's fruitfulness. Just that one in this case will keep benefiting than the other. Just dust yourself up and start a new life. Leave the judgment to God. They are not even comfortable with the life now such that it any of them sneeze, they become afraid. Smh.

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  10. Poster 1, your husband might be telling the truth. I know how it feels to struggle with your loved one and then at the long run, things doesn't go well as planned. What if he is doing all that to compensate her somehow? You never can tell, he might be doing nothing wrong just showing concern for his one time love.
    Narrative 2, i agree with Stella. There is something fishy about your story. It's a pity you fell a prey to this so called marriage. I pray you come out of your worries soonest.

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  11. Is nt gud stellz,u refused 2 post my mail n comments. Bvs I still nid ur help,dis is d only n last hope I have. Am so sincere abt dis,I wil b startin my exams soon n am yet to complete my fees. Pls wateva u can sow into my life pls kindly do. Email is larryfresh09. Tnx

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  12. Poster 1 it's possible that they have a child together and he is paying for their upkeep. Maybe.

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  13. Is nt gud stellz,u refused 2 post my mail n comments. Bvs I still nid ur help,dis is d only n last hope I have. Am so sincere abt dis,I wil b startin my exams soon n am yet to complete my fees. Pls wateva u can sow into my life pls kindly do. Email is larryfresh09. Tnx

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    1. You beggars are bold o very bold. Do you have humility at all!!!! So Stella is now your bank someone you don't know from Adam. God bless you Stella

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    2. Stop this rubbish. Is your dad or mum here?

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    3. Haba Larry, you even scold Stella. Are you paying for her web hosting? Why dont you post your story here on the comments then. Summarize and post, if you are sincere...God will touch people to,help

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    4. Your email is larryfresh09@??? Come on now...and you say Stella didnt answer

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  14. Chai!!!!! Stella, decipherer of life....from your mail, it seems you nag.
    Poster 1: abeg use your snooping to sniff the ex out and go ask her all you want to know cuz as Stelz says N̶̲̅☹ matter what he tells you, you won't buy it. But if he says he respects her, well tread carefully and don't go hurting yourself.

    Poster 2; please move on from your mistake. Get a life and be a strong woman for your kids. Leave that environment and try 2 fend for yourself instead of waiting for his meagre peanuts. May God help us ladies in our seeming desperation to always be in control or on top.

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  15. Team snoop!!!!! Na we dey hia nothing dey happen!!! If they do anyhow we give them anyhow.

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    1. Gbam!!!
      Snooping saved my marriage.

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    2. Snooping saved me from a husband that was messing around and hated me with a passion.

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  16. 2nd post- say what! This gave me an instant headache...I am almost sure you knew they were not divorced, you only wrote her off as barren and for your own benefit. I may be wrong sha
    You also got pregnant and nagged him to put a ring; just a strong feeling again..
    You typed this mail with bias and painted only your 'good' sides...
    You've threatened them before, hence the suspension...

    This is what some get for looking for ready-made husband.
    Just get busy my dear, it is well with you and yours...

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  17. Na wa o!! Different issues. Don't even know what to say

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  18. Na wa oo! Abeg this is new year. Make we still dey merry than these people wiv their news. Madam snooper! Gues uv gotn wht u wanted, u came to spend the time nd u begin snoop, even up to journal, Odiegwu! oya kill urself na. Your relationship simply lacks basic trust. Ladies stop worrying over uncertainties. Cherish wht u hv nd leave the rest to God. As for the other lady, ur story us a pathetic one wiv so many holes, as Stellz said. You also sound depressed, pls get up nd mk something outta ur life, so u dont hv to worry abt d peanuts he sends. Who says u hv to depend on a man. Take a second luk at those gals nd wake up from that "syndrome". It's stil a new year bikonu, wiv it's refreshing grace. Drop all worries aside nd luk unto the brighter side. Happy new year Stellz! SDKers nd all snoopers lol..

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  19. Stella why will u say she nags simply because she confronted him when she realised he was still married to his wife? Was she supposed to keep mute over an issue like dat. Will u keep mute and not ask if such happened to u? Truth is she didn't dig deep into all the guy told her b4 she married him but for a man to treat a woman like with two of his kids with such negligence then he is a wicked man.
    My dear this one they re blaming u for every single thing that happens to them, the best is for u to stand up for urself and ur kids. Get a job, earn some money and over time cut the stupid guy out of u guys life. Relocate if possible. It will only hurt for a while but I believe joy comes in no time. Take care of u and top getting emotional for someone that doesn't care for u. Focus on ur kids. Smile often n be happy. Ur case is not the worst. E-hugs to u dear

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    1. Okolie Chioma you gave words of encouragement
      You have made her strong.

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    2. I love you for this comment. Chop knuckle.

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  20. Please am still in my new year new me mood* rme* tho am lonely but really don't care.
    Make I seat down for Sdk couch read comments biko.

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  21. i can bet that these people r yoruba....theyv prolly told the husband and wife "ori omo nii pe omo waye" bt the way they went about it was very wrong. they used the poster to get their own kids which is y dey suspect her wen anythng happens to them cos they know she is the reason for their fruitfulness and she deserves better.nd yes, i think the wife knew about it too

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    1. Anon I agree with you. but the Man is so Wicked, His suppose to treat the girl with Love. Poster don't worry God will vindicate. Get something doing and move on.

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  22. Na wa ohhhh I snoop but trust me am not proud of it cos u will end up loosing ur mind. Poster 2 ur story is so complicated u were indeed used n dumped just move on n pick up ur pieces face ur children and turn to God although it's difficult but God will see u through. All d best

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  23. Life is full of mistakes.Now,your concern should be your children.The man is soooo gone Madam.Count yourself without a husband,work hard for yourself and children and most importantly..PRAY for yourself and children.
    They probably did some jazz..tying her womb and all to yours..#JustSaying.

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  24. Second poster I feel so sorry for you.
    This is the kind of thing one Yoruba couple did to one longer throat open eye girl who thought she was living life to the fullest by fucki her boss.
    By the time she was totally In like you are,she realised she was done for!
    She was just a baby making machine.

    Confess!!
    Are you a longer throat?
    Did u ef your boss while he was still married?
    Did u think your jazz that he should pursue his wife would last forever?
    Have u seen dat jazz doesn't tie down forever?
    You husband snatcher!!
    Are you willing to shamefully submit your babies to their owner and go find your own destiny?
    Cry here again n let me catch u!
    Home wrecker!!

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    1. LOL at cry here and let me catch you. Hhahhahahahhahahaha

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    2. Shut up jare I really dislike your comments u respond as if you don't read..how was she a husband snatcher...smh Nigerian women always tearing each other down

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    3. Haba this is not a good way to start the yr. You would have ignored the poster. its not good

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    4. Chai Mamie water oooh. Lmao! Please go easy on her. She get long throat n I must marry b4 30 syndrome but.... easy biko.

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    5. LOL at cry here and let me catch you. Hhahhahahahhahahaha

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  25. Poster 2: pls leave the man, get a job and pray for ur own husband. Its well.

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  26. Hian!

    No holiday? We are still working on chronicles today? Okay o.


    Poster 1:
    Stella, let it be. Leave the snooping like that.
    Girls that snoop have reasons for doing so.
    Is it not stupid for the wife of a trustworthy guy to snoop?

    On the other hand, girls that are having a hard time reading the confused handwriting on the wall need the snooping to confirm their position and make their move timely.

    Snooping has enabled some relaxed wife to sit up and "face their career" when confronted with the fact that their husbands have a parallel family outside the home.
    Would you rather BVs get rude shocks from irresponsible men?

    Poster,

    It's his money and he can spend it anyhow he likes.
    When he puts a ring on it, you can put your feet down.
    Don't relax, keep monitoring events.
    As long as it's across the ocean wiring of money, no shaking for now.

    Poster 2:

    Hahahahahaha.
    You have been defrauded sexually, physically, emotionally and financially in the dungeons of Agege.

    No need to pick holes in your story, you know you lied about certain things.
    You married a supposed "divorcee" without sighting divorce papers?
    You and your family members did no search? No due diligence? No investigation?

    You have not started!
    You better remove your eyes from high brow schools, high income accommodation and the trips.
    I hope they are not using you for ritual purposes.
    Greedy person. I only pity your poor kids.

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    1. I copy and paste
      And in addition I would like to add that when you trust someone, you won't have any reason to snoop. You know why?? Cos everything is open. Build trust in a relationship and you can just enjoy while still being watchful.
      When both of you walk whole heartedly with God and seek to please Him, trusting d next person won't be a big deal.
      Gold scent, I like you.
      Lol
      Happy new year!!!

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  27. Hiannnnn can't deal,will read comments

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  28. Hiannnnn can't deal,will read comments

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  29. Poster one, your man has a child or children with his ex. Poster 2, I don't know what to say.

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  30. N1: you be side chick
    N2;you were not smart. Advice,try get a job,change location.stop all forms of communication between you and him.

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  31. First you said you are the same age with his wife but 4months difference but now he is 50, she's in her 40's and you 30's....hmmmmm my dear you lying...

    All these people that come in here to lie so people will dash them money.. There is indeed God!

    1st poster seriously I have nothing to say but this. I'm not against team snooping totally but whoever he sends money to he still loves...shikina.

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    1. Zizzy u seriously need a Memory Set so when you read you understand properly. Go back N read posterz comment again before you start posting bullshit. Because people are commenting you want to.

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    2. You really need to go back and read the post. Gosh!

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    3. Dear go bk and read again, she never said they both ve 4months age difference. Dear poster 2: please tell us d real story but if it is as Uve posted then cut off all communications with ur so-called hubby n take control of ur life and that of ur kids then let God b d judge. Poster 1: Uve seen what ure looking 4, deal with it.

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  32. Even if she nags dat doesn't warrant d treatment she is receiving frm her husband...ur just 2 judgmental...o well I shld knw betta.

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  33. Aunty Stella Abeg make i relax with alomo bitter for this your chair read comment!oghene Biko

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  34. Nawa o! Make I siddon wait for comments, this one pass me abeg.

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  35. N1 it happens o I guess he told u the truth, the fact that he sends money to her doesn't mean they are still dating. N2 men sha Na wah o, ehrrrm I tink u the source of dia marital bliss(kids), if u wia not in the picture the oda woman wouldn't hav conceived.

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  36. Let me read comments



    @Galore

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  37. Poster 2: You are not married; point blank! Simply move on with your life and leave the judgment to God. Do not take revenge me friends, he said . . .but leave room for God's wrath. If your enemy is hungry; feed him, if he is thirsty, give him something to drink . . . for by so doing you will heap coals of burning sulfur on his head . . . .

    That's the good book lady. You did not tell us what you are doing. You're a graduate . . . seek employment and give all those things he denies your kids. So many of us did not attend billion dollar schools; we attended public schools and wore shorts and dresses with "map of Nigeria holes" in the "shansh"; yet we are well educated professionals in the diaspora and Nigeria. Sis. the earlier you leave and don't depend on their hand out, the better settled you are in your mind. If along the way, the Lord gives you love; take it with both hands and move on. At the end of the journey; in future too, we will see. Stay away from sin my dear and let the Lord fight your course. Those two kids you have are worth more than gold; even a mine of diamond. Mrs Obama is a girl; is she not? Remember that while she was growing up, America experienced racial segregation and she probably was not able at some point to attend "white schools", perhaps, she got up from her seat if a "white" person entered the bus etc. I don't know details but I'm just saying probably. But today America has changed. Life is not stagnant; okay. God bless you madam.

    Call me HB.

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  38. 1] Nne this guy is not ur husband yet nd you're already snooping like this nawa oo...I dunno what to tell u abeg
    2] Babe you are one funny person...from ur message eh I can detect jealousy in ur voice. So if u had been living in VI nd found out about his wife, it would ve been ok, at least u will be consoled with the money abii..but now u are vexing cos she's enjoying but u re suffering bah...odiegwu really
    You either divorce him nd move on or u stay nd suffer...shikina

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    1. Offcourse no one deserves to be treated more special. Because the way the married the other woman they married the complaint. Why will some of the Man's kids go to high grade school while the other ones will go to Lower grade schools when their father can afford High Grade. The Man is just heartless someone that brought the lucky for his first wife to concieve. Human being with selfishness
      Poster please get a means of livelihood so you can re marry to a Man who will love you who you are and Cherish you. God is with you

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  39. P2- u were used. Maybe they were told that unless another woman av kids for him,they can't n they planned it or maybe not. But i think u shuld 4get about him,move out frm where he rented 4u n move on with ur life.

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  40. Poster 1 my dear let it go oo,dong start ur new year wit heart break..he already gave u reason y he sends her money,jus use style nd let him knw dat u aint too comfortable wit it but u cant change it,d gal was dere wen he had nufin nd he has he wants help her.. if u love him nd he does too..let it go ooo,no snoopn..

    poster2 m confused on ur story o but dont be an emotional wreck for ur kids sake..stand up nd go find sumfin to keep u busy if possible let d man go sef..

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  41. Aunty Stella, please I sent you a mail tagged "Dear Stella, my heart bleeds". I typed in Correct English, no abbreviations (I know you hate that). Please post it na *sad face* ... thank you

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    1. Poster 2:are u saying that ur parents gave u out in marriage without bothering to find out the family their daughter is getting married to. It is called "Iju Ase" in Igboland. Are u also saying that u agreed to marry him without finding out about his wife who he claimed was no longer his wife as @ dat time? Did u do church wedding with him? Cos that is another way to find out if what he told u is d truth or he just paid ur bride price n probably did traditional wedding and u started popping babies? I think u got married to the man either cos he is rich or becos u were desperate to get married. Better tell ur parents to refund the bride price cos u r married to urself.

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  42. HNY BVs love you guys @Aunty Stella its to early in the year for us to start deciphering pples' emotions abi dem no dey do new yr ni.

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  43. Hmmmmm serious gobe.lemme read new year advice lol

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  44. @Poster Num 1 :Whatever you seek you shall find.You have found something about your man and his 'ex'.
    Well..am not discouraging you but this 'ex' may not really be an 'ex'.Might be his wife or baby mama or even Main Chick.
    Snooping is not entirely wrong Stella oh.It helps sometimes to know where one stands.The problem is dealing with its consequences and revelations.

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  45. Sorry poster 2 and ladies don't rush into Marriage okay. shine your eye and use your brain

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  46. Yea it is what it is dear poster 2. Move on.

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  47. Poster 1,if wot he said is really true.den that is no problem.there are stil some very loyal People out dere.and as especially as he said d lady was dere for him.that he gives her money doesn't necessarily mean he is still seeing her.
    mY only concern is that he should have let u know about it.if he had told u earlier on,I am sure u would have understood.buh u finding out d way u did is Soo suspicious and i dont blame u.

    For now,be still and keep your eyes very open and ur mind alert.kk?

    Poster 2,is it even possible that a whole gidigba family wil go and pay bride price and marry off a daughter without knowing their said "son-in-law and horseband to be" is already married?
    Is it possible?
    in Igbo land?

    Anyways,shit happens.and if it happend d way u narrated it,I am Soo sorry.
    Which kain wahala be dis?

    U just fell into to trap of d age-old lies men tell to get women......I am not happy,mY wife doesn't give me food,mY wife beats me and so on and so on.

    There is an option though....
    ur bride price to be returned,making u a free and single woman and with God's grace which is bountiful,ur own husband wil come.
    cos mY dear,dis ur situation needs u to make a quick exit o and as quick as possible o!

    Jisike and God's Strength and Grace.

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    1. @tgw..
      Ur response to poster 1 is nice, as an AS girl currently in a relationship with genotype issues, I m inclined to believe the posters bf. However, I disagree that the boy should have told her..its really none of her business, at least not yet. If they are engaged or married..then definitely.
      But his finances and how he spends it is his business for now.
      The fact that he explains however, counts for something. if a bf went through my journal without me sharing, ill be pissed. Bf wey I fit no even wan marry sef.

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  48. Stell, u take style heartless o. Your blog reader comes up with a grieving situation she's found herself and all u had to offer were your misjudged, myopic, insensitive and heartless counsel? Please stop already, that wasn't fair. Look, I'm not hating, I love you as a person, but sometimes your bluntness and pinch of cruelty tells me you've been through a lot; and sometime along your growing years, you were badly treated. Hence the 'emotionlessness' if there's any word like that!
    First, she wasn't desperate. Read the story all over again. If she were, she would have been dating him while she still worked with him( of course remember there was every chance to do that then. Oga was 'feigning' heartbreak now!
    But she wouldn't.
    They met sometime later, and they kicked off. Mind you, some family members are fair-weathered. No one is probably on her side now, cos the other wife is obviously fertile with babies now, and they're probably trying to play the 'good relative' that never caused her pains. Copy?
    If you call it 'nagging'.... that she had to confront her hubby, then I support the nagging! who wouldn't? Omo, I go over nag o. It's my life, my kids..
    Well, you poster... be strong... get out of that house fast. Hope you've got a job? If not, look for something doing, and keep those hands busy. If some widows out there manage to climb up ,by the grace of God, you can.
    Love your kids. Be a strong woman and mother. Wipe your tears. Remember there's someone out there who has it worse than you.
    Then lastly hold on to God. He heals, he provides, he comforts. Stay well, dear.

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  49. Came here alone to say amen amen amen.
    Wait for my own testimony.

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  50. If it doesn't make you happy, you have no business being in it


    Narrative one, so he had been paying monthly allowance to his ex and he never deemed it fit telling you? I hope you guys defined what ever it is you are doing? Reevaluate your relationship and make some necessary changes, if he can't deal biko, let him go. Hope you have been collecting your own allowances oh? If not, you are on a very long thing.

    Poster two, you now see why they always advice people to be careful of married men (whether divorced or living single) ba? Instead of doing your IT peacefully and going back to school, you decided to poke your nose in a married man's business. Hope you have gotten what you were looking for?

    This is a sound warning to the people that are close friends with people's husbands, dem go dey use una die!

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  51. Poster 2: is 20yrs difference not too much? I wonder how you girls relate with very older men hian.... guess you guys aren't on the same page so he got bored and went back to his true love please move on its your cross gurl!

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  52. @Poster1 there is nothing wrong with your man being a benefactor to an ex the problem however would be if there is more to the story mbok do more research.

    @poster2 you have been wronged yes! but you can't cry over spilled milk can you? I think you need a divorce you and the girls cant live in such a toxic environment if not for yourself do it for the girls they shouldn't grow up feeling like they are second best he was never yours to begin with.

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  53. P2, something about your story dosent add up. I don't understand it when people come to blogs crying fowl about sth that could have been remedied by a simple investigation. When my sister was about to get married, my dad and his kinsmen conducted FBI examination sotey I raise yansh. For the avoidance of doubt let me explain to intending couples. 1st they took my sis with intending hubby to hospital for genotype test, after that one, they did famiy investigation, can't remember the ibo name but I know it also involves some spiritual investigation basically to ensure the two parties are in no way related at any point down or up the family tree, then they also do investigation of lineage. This addresses issues as does the family have any curse following them, is there a particular negative reoccurring trait in that family,then the last and final investigation is the xter of the man.has he been married. My dad sent emissaries ati gbo gbo eee.

    These plenty FBI took about three weeks ooo b4 they accepted the guy and gave him brideprice list. At the time these things were happening, we were all irritated and pissed off, but after 3 children and an immensely happy home. I'm sure my sister will do the same for every single child she has. The only thing I can say P2 is sorry. Truth is in law and in God's eyes she is the rightful and lawful wife of that man. U call the man and his wife wicked, the man mebbe if I hear his story, but u call his wife who stood by him, who bore the shame of childlessness for years wicked, hmm, may ur children not come across a similar experience.

    We have said it severally on this blog, when a man tells u about issues btw him and his wife, Biko jump and pass.
    I will advice you to get a proper divorce if u guys married legally, return brideprice, get sth doing,repent of ur ssins and lick ur wounds...in shame if you must!

    @P1, read carefully P1' story, read my comments above, digest carefully BVS comments and advice and give yasef brain. Success to you.

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  54. Poster 2, u really was blinded to so many things. Like you said everything was fast but you chose to allow the deceptions to fly unnoticed. May God comfort and keep you. I really have nothing much to say but can only advice you to totally forget about the man. Concentrate on changing yourself. Improve yourself. Assume you are a widow now, work hard and fend for yourself. Who says you can't be successful enough to take your kids round the world on ur own?.pls I beg you to stop comparing yourself to the other wife as you do not know how they started or what role she played in ensuring the man is a success.

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  55. Aunty Stella I actually think the husband and the wife of the poster planned it! Yes, I seriously do. They are both still in love and they both wanted kids and could not give each other and the woman agreed her husband could go out and have them unknown to her(1st wife) that her (1st wife) own babies were right at the corner. Then as soon as poster 2 became pregnant, the wife also became pregnant! God is punishing the two of them(husband and 1st wife), when they say God's time is not our time, human beings would always want to fast track things and enter gbese, now everything is a mess. They were very impatient. Poster 2, you too your excitement smeared with a little bit of desperation did not allow you to see something was amiss. Thank God you have your two girls, please forget the man and his wife, get a job if you don't have one and pray to God for guidance. You're still super young and that man was not, is not and never will your husband. Calm down, think and do right by CHRIST, things would fall into place.Trust me women have been in worse situation and are very okay now. You can do it.

    Poster 1 to be sincere with you, anything that has to do with the "ex factor" never goes down well. I hate it when people have not moved on from their ex lovers, it puts a strain on everybody even the new lovers. Please tell him to tell you the ish with this girl except you're okay with being the next best alternative, then you can sit back and watch, if you're not tell him to be sincere and tell you what's up and if you are still not satisfied, please stroll out of the situation. It's never too late to start again. He strikes me like the type that would be married and still be doing ex factor.

    Okay to happier news, Chysugar I have been around oo, I think you just don't see my comments because of late postings.Happy new year dear. Yeah, Ronalda this is our year of elopement( tougue out to your hubby). What else..... Oh yeah, there was this BV that said she was dating her crush I think she's Tayo Oluseye or a name close to that. For some reason I feel like saying congrats, I don't know why, maybe because it's super rare for crushes to do anything other than crush and grind hearts to pieces. Okay Happy new year y'all, it's been my pleasure to be a part of this family and I pray we will all continue to have the privilege of the breath of life. God bless you everybody! Phew I can talk!

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  56. Stella I dnt support you on this,hw did you know she nags,biko let's not judge who we dnt know cus it might be your turn tmorrow

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  57. N2 ur own matter no be here o.

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  58. N1-awon mama snoopers,twale,haba instead make u dey sleep,u dey do CID,kk.N2-you dint pray about dis thing,you dint pray abt it b4 u got married,you can still re-trace becos it seems they asked him to marry another wife b4 his wife could birth,I don watch too much yoruba films but my dear,watch yur back & yur children's,be prayerful cos you're already in a polygamous home,she means business wiv u.so be watchful,Olohun a duro tiie o.happy new year.sdkers,lagos countdown was the bomb,sisi stella e gbayii o.yetinde.

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  59. ENEMUWE THELMA said...
    Todays chronicles dem too dey wan kind biko,dunno where to start with advices...*looking left and right**den quietly sitting down on antysterra chair*to awaits comments mbok!!,its too early for me 2 stress ma cute head with advices biko**side eyes*
    *faithful BV enemuwe thelma*

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  60. N1: snooping destroys trust. It's either you make do with the information he gave you or you take a walk out of the relationship and try not to snoop in your next relationship.

    N2: I always advice long courtship period. Get to know the people in your partner's life and their roles. Do not go blindly into any marriage and avoid long distance relationship/marriage like a plague.

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  61. N1 hmmmmmmm see what snooping does. U just used your hand to buy market this korokoro new year. He has explained to you now what are you goin to do about it because I sence from his explanation that he has no intention of stopping at least for now. N2. You definately didn't do your home work at all before marrying him. You didn't even ask for evidence to prove he was really devorsed. A man can tell you anything just to get what he wants and we allow foolish love to cloud our judgements. When push come to shove we are left hanging. You are just a baby mamanow because your marriage to him in not legal since he is still married to his first wife. Brase yourself and take charge of your life by becoming something at least for the sake of your kids. The man is not worth dieing for else its your children that will suffer. Its not the end of life there is still hope all you need is for you to be strong. No time for smeh smeh

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  62. @ narrative no 1, it seems his ex has a child for him, if its so then he's a good man taking responsibility. He just ne needs to tell you the truth.
    @ narrative no 2, I'm in the same situation, same story but just that I've not yet committed to marriage yet. Something stinks and I don't like the way it stinks, so im walking away from the relationship.

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  63. Poster1, stop snooping around! That is just so wrong. Whatever told you you could pry into his finances? gosh! women like you are the reasons why men lock their phones and stuff. You snooped, confronted him and he even explained, yet you are not satisfied. If I were him, I wouldn't grant you any explanations.
    Poster2, I feel very sorry for your situation. I suspect two things here. First, I think his wife was in the know and they probably used jazz or something, cuz I don't knw why she conceives around the same time you do.
    Secondly, it's possible his family forced him into getting married to someone else and that was why he married you, but coincidentally, his wife became fruitful afterwards making him despise you cuz he never fell outta love for his wife.
    Whatever the case is, please move on. Get a job, a business, whatever and re-build your life, it isn't ended, and yes, meet knew people and consider getting involved, you were never married.

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  64. New year and men wahala already, chai. At least wait till middle of the month or ending. Ok, waiting for comments and waiting for my jellof rice to cook.

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  65. 1.Ndi team FBI!!u don't snoop now and can't sleep well anymore abi?2.take stella,s advice nne.

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  66. I totally disagree wit u Stella as per poster 2: that was quite harsh. From the letter u could figure out shes a nag? She confronted her hubby when she found out he was still married with kids after being deceived and she's a nag.? Lol. Anyways poster pls move on and and as long as he's sending u money just ignore him. Men sha. Stella post my comment oh

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  67. Aunty Stella Happy New Year, every story you put up against snooping reinforces to me,why I should consider snooping. The last one, you were not happy she found out he was a chronic cheat. Would you prefer people keep catching diseases or being dumped unexpectedly? You have to understand that for a woman to have the feeling to snoop, she must have sensed something. I do not get how you feel this lady did wrong. Is a relationship a must that the lady should keep her eyes closed instead of looking out for herself? Thankfully all the cases you presented snooped. If not they would be blindsided in the worst ways. I am just asking what you feel a woman with a suspicion should do if not snoop. I say snoop and address it, if he gets mad then he is just using reversed psychology on you.

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    1. Help me ask Stella o. I tire for her reasoning sometimes!.

      "What you don't know won't kill you" is the lie from the pit of hell! Let's be smart in this new year. Stella take note!

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    2. A thousand likes for u. Snoop till I die.

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  68. Nah wah oh! Poster 2 you are not telling the whole truth oh! so a random man will come with his people to ask for your hand in marriage and your pple will not ask questions.you were de sperate to get married.hence didn't care if the husband was a second hand husband. ntor!and for all the desperate ladies looking for whose husband to snatch may Poster 2 dilemma be your potion in Jesus name!Amen.

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  69. 1. I think the whole issue is clear. He still love Ms Ex, but they can't be together due to.... Stop complaining and stay if you think you fit in.
    The real line is, he will not continue his nice attitude towards Ms Ex when she eventually get married. You know what I mean. Maybe you found a good man, don't ruin it with jealousy
    .............................
    2. Your case na wha. Maybe they actually used you. But they didn't totally used you. You still have a share, don't expect the man to give you equal love... You may not know the genesis between the two of them. Just try and be the best mom to your kids and pray he plays his fatherly role.



    .................................
    My Birthday loading... January 5th...
    #TeamCapricorn
    #TeamJanBorn
    »»Jealous SDKer««

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    1. Good man kwa. It is a new year make,I no,vex

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  70. Poster 2 eh...., I know this your story wallahi. are they Yoruba? They probably planned it, they used you to do " ori Omo ni' pomo waye". This sane thing happened to my Aunty, she no gree o, they settled her wella.she had only one kid though. She's remarried now to a good man

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  71. @2,Stella I don't like how u talk sometimes, wats wrong in confronting a man who deceived u into marriage, like stella said get busy and forget abt dat man and his wife.
    @1, don't even know what to tell u, is too early for all this snooping wahala.

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  72. P1...you better know you are on borrowed time there. Get your bags packed and ready to drop from this bus. A man heavily financing an ex and he has another woman...dont worry when they decide to run away together and adopt your eyes might clear.

    P2...You are single, annul that marriage and get the courts to sic that man with a good child support settlement. Do not have any more kids for him and stop sleeping with him. I dont get why Stella said you are a nag but discard that part. If you stay in that marriage, they will kill ypu someday and your kids will definitely be their househelps.

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  73. Na wao will just wait for comments oh

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  74. Stella has said it all get a job and take good care of your children, it will take time but he will come, it's never too late get your life back you will be surprised what God will do for you, and don't forget be prayerful.

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  75. Its not allowed
    So men can deceive sha!
    Mrs Korkus, u said cos she confronted him suggests 2 u that she nags,pls o,in such situation what shld she have done? Opens her legs 4 him n do d shoki ahn shoki dance?
    Ur hubby must be so disciplined in all ur years of marriage that u've probably 4gotten wht it feels lyk 2 b insecured cos u know ur hubby/fiance cheats 4 u 2 see snoopping n confrontatn as bad. #luckyU

    Poster 2,get a job as Mrs Korkus said,tAke care of ur kids,u r still young n can re-marry.

    Poster 1: u be side chic, don't fall 4 that crab. Dnt be surPrised the 'ex' might be his baby mama. *talking from experience... Av a side guy too 2 avoid stories that touch.

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  76. 2nd narrator dats d gain of getting married to som1 's husband...deal wt it....

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  77. Poster 1:dere is definitely something going on btwn ur guy and his ex...y wud he constantly give her moni????dat reason he gave is not good enof...if I were u I wud just pickup my shoes and run now b4 he does something worst....u neva know d heart of men cuz it is unpredictable
    Poster 2:very sorry how tins turned out....dis is to show u how wicked some men can be...wat is d nid of getting marid to u and u having kids wen he was still with his wife...dat man has a plan but don't worry b prayerful cuz God will definitely judge both d man and dose who escorted him wen he wanted to get marid to uu...Serusly dis chronicle broke my heart.......may God have mercy on us

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  78. Narrative 1: I don forget your story. It a bid to quickly comment before my phone go roam as I just enter Swiss again.

    Narrative 2: I smell rituals! Maybe the juju man told your hubby when he marries a second wife the way will open for her.
    Abeg my phone don dey roam.
    See you guys tomorrow.

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  79. Stella said it all...#theprison

    Son of Solomon

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  80. You guys are here again with all these stories that tickle the bumbum in 2015?
    Poster 1: he has explained to you. If you can't accept his reply then too bad. Make I no hear say you won pour sand for the ex garri oh. Happy snooping!

    Story 2: I agree with stella, you were in a haste to marry n something tells me you have big eye that's why you didn't go for the everyday single young guys but a made boss that's far older than you. My advise is this; use love and gratitude to suffocate that man. Don't fight, don't be mean or sorrowful. For every dime he gives you show him much gratitude and just be a humble wife. Let's see if he notices with time and betters your lot.

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  81. Poster one : pls dig deep, I think there is more to unfold, some men say they lie to protect women they love!! I hate that bullshit line !!
    He has been sending money consistently for about 3 yrs, are u sure it isn't also for the upkeep for a child he probably has with his Ex?

    Poster two ;: I'm too shocked at your story , it's amazing the length some men go to, just because of a new pussy!!
    You were even manipulated to think he was in a marital crisis
    One question for u, IS his wife aware about you?
    Where was she when he did the wedding ceremony!!!
    I don't want to believe that u r not so smart to have made important enquiries!!! Before taking the leap

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  82. Hmmm, sum stories always make me to open my eyes wide.


    HAPI NEW YEAR ANTY STELLISTIC

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    1. See Stella no matter how u like to paint it black or red #team snooping is the best
      How can you say it is better to live in ignorance than find out the truth? Na wa oh. Let me tell you a life event but take note if my blog ID shows then it's a friend's story but if it shows anonymous then it's my story..lol because I signed out of my account to post this.
      But this is a true story anyways 
      I have never been the snooping type but 3 weeks to my wedding I decide to browse thru hubby's fone and my eye was drawn to one bbm chat..lo and behold it was hubby talking sexual relations with another chick. As recent as two weeks oh. Imagine he was asking her how his sexual performance was 
      Oriegwu 
      My head burst. What to do? I ain't calling off this wedding no doubt. But I have to make him pay. I quickly called his attention to it and acted big drama that I was going to disgrace him to his family and friends. That infact am telling d pastor the reason why am calling the wedding off (na lie oh, I nor dey go anywhere. I was just threatening him) 
      He knelt and begged and begged and I formed and formed and told him before the wedding wil go on he must double all I contributed to d wedding and return it to my account by the following weeknd. 
      He agreed sharply. And since then thru the wedding till now he has been carrying me like egg..
      Yes oh. Snooping works. But just have it at the back of your mind before ‎you snoop what you plan to do with the information. 
      Snooping without having a back up plan will only hurt you in the long run.
      Yes I snooped and found out ‎that he cheated on me 3weeks to our wedding. I did not dump him because the next guy might be worse. But at least am wiser and won't be caught unawares and I won't live with my head in the skies thinking DH can never cheat and my heart won't be broken.

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    2. Posting this again incase the first one vanished. My network has been crappy today.


      See Stella no matter how u like to paint it black or red #team snooping is the best
      How can you say it is better to live in ignorance than find out the truth? Na wa oh. Let me tell you a life event but take note if my blog ID shows then it's a friend's story but if it shows anonymous then it's my story..lol because I signed out of my account to post this.
      But this is a true story anyways 
      I have never been the snooping type but 3 weeks to my wedding I decide to browse thru hubby's fone and one my eye was drawn to one bbm chat..lo and behold it was hubby talking sexual relations with another chick. As recent as two weeks oh. Imagine he was asking her how his sexual performance was 
      Oriegwu 
      My head burst. What to do? I ain't calling off this wedding no doubt. But I have to make him pay. I quickly called his attention to it and acted big drama that I was going to disgrace him to his family and friends. That infact am telling d pastor the reason why am calling the wedding off (na lie oh, I nor dey go anywhere. I was just threatening him) 
      He knelt and begged and begged and I formed and formed and told him before the wedding wil go on he must double all I contributed to d wedding and return it to my account by the following weeknd. 
      He agreed sharply. And since then thru the wedding till now he has been carrying me like egg..
      Yes oh. Snooping works. But just have it at the back of your mind before ‎you snoop what you plan to do with the information. 
      Snooping without having a back up plan will only hurt you in the long run.
      Yes I snooped and found out ‎that he cheated on me 3weeks to our wedding. I did not dump him because the next guy might be worse. But at least am wiser and won't be caught unawares and I won't live with my head in the skies thinking DH can never cheat and my heart won't be broken.

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    3. Abi na, na to shine eyes wella oo.La oju e bai loro awon obinrin gba, vice versa.

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  83. Today's narrative is HOT. Am short of words! Lemme compose a response and come back to comment.

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  84. Ha! If ur story is completely true then humans r really wicked. I can't even comprehend, I don't know what exactly to say.. Na wa oh... Life!

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    1. Stella you're so harsh? You seem to be be for the offender. Please even if you have your own bias try to sympathize with them a bit.

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  85. Poster2 just lick ur wounds, there's nothing we can advice u here, like stellonzo said , if u Dnt av a job yet get one and move on like a moving train

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  86. I just weak to comment cos dis our babes no wnt get sense, everytime girls falling mugu wit all the recycle happenings in relationships in different dimension aunty Stella don post for chronicle of blog visitor e reach 16yrs old to learn. N1: boy mind dey with ex reach to know dere is fire on a. Mountain what stops him from introduction dis festive period to prove he's serious,u cheapen ursef to do kwakrikwo dis Christmas break, ask him where d relationship dey go. N2: desperation do u so Tey u end up with divorcee, what makes u think he will make a good husband, an impatience man dat discusses his wife with u no common sense to tell u he's not a good man, u put ur head cos to u young men never attain d level him dey mk u enter so suffer no go catch u na long. Throat make u jump inside God arrange d equation as ur life go be so face it and struggle to attain d kind of life u v been daydreaming,no advice to tell d man to go back to him wife and settle d difference ,u want to b automatic Madam.

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    1. Errmmm!. *scratches head*
      Wetin you talk
      Me seff no understand am.
      Hian

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  87. POSTER 1. For your own interest just ignore your husband. what he does with his money is not your business. I have ex that is married and we communicate like we are still dating. at a time she was bringing her baby to my house but we never for once crossed the line. You dont know the chemistry that exist between some ex especially when it was true love and it matured to the extent he/she sees each other as family members.


    POSTER 2. Na better one chance you enter.... I hope you go remember to come down for your bus stop

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    1. P1 is not married to the guy and God forbid a married woman,should sit and,allow a man be financing his ex. Na so rubbish dey start

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  88. Hian! The things we read everyday.

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  89. Poster No1. U v gotten what u truly are looking for, so face it no advice frm me sort it out urslf. Lik d saying goes "advice given to oneself is d best"
    Phew poster 2 how can u get married with out finding wat happened to his previous marriage? Am not judging u but the truth is that the deed has been done. U jst have 2 brace urslf and b strong for ur kids, life and fate can b curel somthings and when it hands us lemond we should try to make lemanade out of it.
    Its a tough call but u v 2 come out of it for the sake of ur sanity and ur kids. Wish u all the best

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  90. N1;Team snoop,shine your eyes,it might be that the lady is his baby mama,in my opinion you are a side chic,how people keep different relationships for that long is what I don't understand
    N2;how come you didn't know,I'm not trying to blame you,but some things are just obvious!!!please women do not meddle in married people's affairs,it always goes the wrong way,even if you caught the wife shooting her husband biko leave them alone!stop turning to onyeoma m eliza;his people didn't say anything when they came to marry you?did you tell your own people the history of this man?your own people didn't they ask questions?and how come its when you get pregnant that she gets pregnant too...so many things just don't add up with your story nne,but I suggest first of all go for serious prayers and stand up to that man and tell him to get out of your life,this is 2015,take charge of your life!!umunwaanyi unu dirikwanu wise biko ,shine your eyes,what's not your own will never be yours

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    1. How are we even sure poster 2s husband didn't hire people to represent his family that day. I heard that some people do tHat. The babe go dey happy say inlaws don come she no go no say nah one chance

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    2. U funny die! Lmao @ onyeoma eliza

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  91. N1 - are you sure this ex of his doesn't have a child for him or he is actually married? Carry out further investigations dear and get back to sdk
    N2 - too many holes. I swear. Are you sure you didn't know know he was still married but decided to have children for him with the hopes that he will send his first wife away. How do you know they travel around the world if he goes incommunicado for weeks? How do you know of their location and the type of school his children attend? Seriously babe this your story has way too many holes in it. But if really you didn't know he was still married, relax yourself, get yourself busy and take care of yourself and daughters. One day God will strike him for deceiving you. It will happen. He can't escape it. Take care dear

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  92. Stella what rubbish are u saying? So she shouldn't confront him about something that grave?!!! C'mon! Fine she may have erred by not carrying out her research properly but if what she said is anything to go by, d guy must have deceived her into marrying him. It's very unfair to suggest d lady is a nag. Very! This is why I don't like coming to ur blog, you're always too judgmental and think u know everything! Gosh!

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  93. N1 - are you sure this ex of his doesn't have a child for him or he is actually married? Carry out further investigations dear and get back to sdk
    N2 - too many holes. I swear. Are you sure you didn't know know he was still married but decided to have children for him with the hopes that he will send his first wife away. How do you know they travel around the world if he goes incommunicado for weeks? How do you know of their location and the type of school his children attend? Seriously babe this your story has way too many holes in it. But if really you didn't know he was still married, relax yourself, get yourself busy and take care of yourself and daughters. One day God will strike him for deceiving you. It will happen. He can't escape it. Take care dear

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  94. Am damn sure this couple did this with a spiritual inclination. They must have told them that for her to get pregnant someone else would have to have babies for for him first. Yoruba would say "ori omo lo n pe omo waye"

    That explains your case. Let your family take it up with them and their family. Ma je ki won fi agba re e je. They are both agbayas.

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  95. Biko it's a new year and i really can't deal with some ladies being foolish in a desperate means just 2b called Mrs and dt goes 4u both N1 & 2

    N1- got no comment 4u cos i beliv ur guts telling u something and I'd advice u stick by it
    N2-sadly enough u enter one chance and it's nobodies fault bt urs,so deal with it..well,d only advice id gv 2u it's 2try and rectify d issue bout them blaming u wen ever either she or her kids fall ill cos God 4bid bt if something happens 2her although not ur own accord b rest assured dem go com arrest u

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  96. No 1,just negodu ihe imere onwe gi.
    Anyway,a child is involved.



    2,u ain't married.

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  97. Poster no 1: he might be paying her for child support or out of guilt for something he did to her whilst they were dating.

    Poster No 2: your story sounds too familiar.The woman is the financial backbone of the family, they were school sweethearts, they both probably consulted a spiritualist out of desperation to conceive and he was told to take another wife. His wife was aware from the start. He does not love you. You are just a tool to achieve his heart desires. He will never leave his wife for you.

    What is done is done, move on.Get a job and be open to finding true love elsewhere.

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  98. Poster number 2, u ar just reaping what u sow. So, u just jumped into marriage without proper investigation, now u are shouting.

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  99. Poster 1, it is gud that u asked him, so u will get d heavy load off ur mind, in every relationship communication matter, so my sis is good d way u asked him, and he told u everything. Poster 2, ur story get Kleg, b4 rushing into dat marriage, why didn't u go and find out, if he was still married to d 1st wife, u made so many mistakes, kindly move on with ur life, unless u want to be a side wife, when his prick his scratching, he will come and meet u. Find a way to move on with life. God bless you.

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  100. Poster 1
    If he is truly sincere about his explanation....maybe it is just harmless...but I just can't tell with men these days..lolzzzz..they have become wiser and "craftier"...

    I don't know why Stella has this huge aversion to looking around in the house you live in or intend to live in or handling your partner's phone...and she has decided to push it down our throat or call us out at every point in time...Stella,did someone check your phone and realise you have been two-timing? Or did you find out something you wish you never did in the past?All the same....everybody cannot have same opinion dearie!

    Poster 2
    Don't you wish you "snooped" against Stella's own belief? Am sorry,as I scrolled down to the part where you said you have one sex while she has both,Nigerian men! ...I had to laugh!! How dare you say God will judge the woman? Are you sure she was aware of her husband's "tricks" did she come for your wedding ceremony?

    Do you know how many nights that woman cried? Still crying? Or you think she enjoys sharing her husband of 10years with a freaking stranger?? At your age,and in this age,you got married to someone without knowing his marital status especially where you have access to his company and can quickly scoop out info from your former colleagues..now you want to even travel around the world!!! Is that the fucking problem here?? Are we not supposed to be discussing how you got here,solutions and maybe empowering you so you fend for your kids??

    Please some people have two wives,you are wife number two....that woman did not cheat you,God will not judge her. You will be doing yourself a great disservice if you do not redefine your life this new year...I will not tell you to leave your "husband's" house....get your CV ready for circulation if you do not have a day job... happy new year dear.

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    1. Where have you been Iphie dearie been looking out for your comment. Nice one there God bless.

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    2. YOU SOUND VERY STUPID....SHUT THE HILL UP!!!
      SHE WAS DECEIVED! SINCE ITS A SPIRITUAL THING, SHE MIGHT'VE HAVE BEEN HYPNOTISED! YOU FOOL! COMING HERE TO TALK RUBBISH!

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    3. Anonymous 5:34...... Shuooo why d insults.... How are you sure it was spiritual since it wasn't categorically stated....the way you spew such vermin you sound like the poster....

      Occur along your line of thought...she was deceived what then does she expect from us afterall her don clear now...so she fit see road.. And are we sure she wasn't the one going spiritual to snatch a seemingly unhappy married man
      Madam poster 2..I don't have much to say you write up is too condemning....your stating that his kids from his real wife are in high brow schools makes me wonder if you entered the so called sham marriage hoping to snatch the man.....it's not for me to judge
      If it was spiritual and they used you make God fight for you

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  101. Stella am just pained cos my bf of many years just broke up with me that I cheated on him with ramdom men....hmmmm I really want to deal with him that he will never forget in a hurry but few friends are suggesting I let God deal with him while others are saying I go ahead.it doesnt really take me days to destroy all he has cos am really pained. Please what do I do ?

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    1. Vengeance is mine says the lord.move on.its a new year

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    2. It's a new year my dear, just let it go.. You'll be fine.

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    3. It's a newyr and I'd say let go and let God deal wv him bt abeg giving him a lil taste of his own medicine won't b bad o...u said uv got d resources 2deal wv him,abeg carry on jare and deal wt him a lil bit so next time he'd learn

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    4. Did you cheat? If you did then let it go, you did wrong. Even if he was a cheat as well, because you decided to put up with his cheating does not mean he will do the same for you. Move on

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    5. SHUT UP AND MOVE ON! DID YOU CHEAT? I SURE YOU DID SINCE YOU OMITTED THAT!

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    6. Babe were you really cheating on him? If yes, shush but if he is accusing you falsely,leave him to God..

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    7. Leave vengeance to God! Some guys deserve a pat with hammer on their shit head! Have been down dat lane, sometimes I feel like destroying d idiot! Don't worry karma is a bitch!

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  102. Hmmm poster no 2, Your story is really wierd. But I would like you to answer Stella's questions because, the holes are too many. Meanwhile get busy and forget about him, God is the judge.

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  103. Please who is aware of juju killing a cheating wife in akwa ibom culture,I'm about getting married and hubby just told me I'm scared ooh,I'm from delta pls I need a reply

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    1. Lol, do u intend to cheat?

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    2. What are you scared of? Or you have already planned cheating and you are not yet married. Fear God o

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    3. SO YOU ARE GOING IN WITH THE INTENTION OF CHEATING? SORRY FOR YOU!

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    4. Are you planning to cheat? Why are you scared?

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    5. Don't even consider cheating, you go just die like fowl! U never marry u don dey contemplate cheating, better close those legs of urs. When babes like me never see guy to marry, u even get one, u don dey reason hw to test microphone outside! Best of luck

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  104. Abeg am in my villa network no dey so no advice.......
    I don go my village stream go wash my face......
    I no get strength 4 d more u look,d less u see dis yr.
    WHO MISSED MUAH???

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  105. I don't know what it is with guys and their 'ex', they just can't let go even when with another girl.

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  106. Please who is aware of juju killing a cheating wife in akwa ibom culture,I'm about getting married and hubby just told me I'm scared ooh,I'm from delta pls help if u know I hate anything juju abeg

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    1. As long as you don't plan to go into the marriage and start cheating...I doubt if any juju will locate you from the way you sound I hazard a guess you will still marry him if the juju story was true

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  107. Stella you've said it all. Desperado I don't envy you at all. Let me tell you the wife did know no shit about your stupid love affair with her husband it's just that the two of them are so close and understand each other very well. When you are desperate this is exactly what you get. You didn't say where the man was staying before your marriage. Was he staying in the Agege dungeon or he just got married to you and all of a sudden relocate. In fact I must draw my younger sister to this bcos the way she is going now she will surely make worse mistake if she doesn't take care. Nonsense

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  108. Narrator 2, ur story dnt just add up, u would have asked for the divorced papers first, I almost went thru the same thing, my boss in the hospital that I worked in, but I was too smart for all his bullshit.. Take hrt ok!

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  109. Snooper continue wit ur relationship, I think dat guy is sincere, number 2...u re single bt married, face ur children, d mistake has already been made, he married u cos of children, den his first wife took in, he went to her cos he really loved her. Goodluck

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  110. Poster one:
    I laughed in spanish wen I finished reading ur narrative. Like seriously u believe dt?

    It's either ur boo has an ex who got pregnant 4him and perhaps struck an agreement with the Ex to keep the baby,plus financial monthly upkeep attached.
    I may be wrong though...

    Yea,i snooped some years back in my past rship and dt was wat I discovered...We've all passed thru some stupid situations as a result of dating the wrong men before the right person came along.

    Inasmuch as ur boo doesn't owe u any xplanations regarding hw he spends his money.(most men hide dt even frm dia wives)...I think u shld jes chill and make do wit wateva he tells u and make serious plans to DUMP his ass...He is nt for REAL abeg.

    Poster 2:
    I was angry @ 1st afta reading ur narrative and I was very eager to bash u buh on a 2nd thought I decided to actually understand things and take it easy.Afterall,nobody kns it all.

    It's a very tough one and I kn hw u feel @ dis point especially nw dt u kn d whole truth abt ur husband.

    U made a very big mistake in d 1st place,i have to be frank with u.
    Marriage is nt something you dabble into without doing some thorough investigations so as to be sure of wat u are getting urself into.

    Pls look for a job or start a trade so u can atleast be able to take good care of ur kids and supplement the "peanuts" ur husband tosses ur way monthly.

    There's no need crying over split milk...It shall be well




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  111. Stella stop ds nonsense. What has nagging got to do with this. This post left me dumbfounded. Too many questions on my mind. What about his parents, ur parents, those who came to ask for your hand in marriage. Have you reported the situation to them. At what point did the wife know about you or she knew from the beginning. Too many holes in this story. The case of deciet is a big one. I can't be deceived into a marriage and be sending chronicles.

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    1. What nonsense? Stella gave a good response to narrative 2.
      The story doesn't add up,its one-sided.

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  112. God.men are wicked. ... I believe dis story cos something similar happen to a friend of my friend years back....

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  113. biko,how do babes get successfully deceived? well,am not a snooper,so I sit down dey read comments,but mk I talk small sha.
    this snooping gives headache poster 1, then for poster 2,u were so desperate to answer mrs somebody,its alright.

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  114. Poster 1. I think he already has a kid with his ex and paying for his upkeep or he his married and sending his wife upkeep.
    Poster 2. Mehn that wickedness is real. You didn't mention if you have a job. You can either report the whole thing to both your families and hear what the have to say or better forget him. Don't depend wholly on the stipends he sends you, find your own means of survival.

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  115. N1, you do not have any problems, why create one for yourself.

    N2, My heart goes out to you.
    I think it's a planned work between your husband and his wife.
    Courtesy of African magic, I've watched a lot of movies where the couples are advised that the husband should be allowed to have another wife and birth children so that the wife at home can also get pregnant (ori omo lon pe omo waye).

    But then you probably didn't do your homework very well.
    You might have to consider yourself as not having a husband. That chapter of your life as closed.
    I wish you well.

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  116. @poster 2,dere is more to ur story

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  117. Poster two . It's a spiritual thing they had to use u to bear their own children , be happy at least you put a smile on a barren woman's face . Nevertheless he should've told you ,and he should look after you and ur kids properly to compensate u for not telling u from day one . Take heart dear I know it's painful .

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  118. I encourage snooping a lot because it helps you to tackle some situations before they get out of hand. It also gives you directions on how to pray. It has saved a lot of people from miserable situations.
    Let's assume the first poster snooped and discovered the man was still married I'm sure she most likely would not have married him in the first place.
    Poster 1. Please look for a way to dig dipper. I suspect they had a child together, hence the consistency. I doubt if the guy in question can be trusted.
    Again it's up to you to judge, not only by your latest discovery but by overall situation of things- the guys character etc.
    Poster 2. I will not blame you even tho I'm tempted to, but please try and work harder and save some money for your girls. I forsee a situation where he will stop caring for you and the girls. Best wishes tho!

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  119. Poster 2 the man and the wife just used you to achieve their aim, but know that you aint married yet. I c don't blame you some people can deceive others even if you know their enitire village. I think what you have to do is don't nag again be a good wife for a short period ask for money(ask wisely) even if u av to lie of what u want to do it for and dump him

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  120. poster 1
    you did well by snoooing! Your boyfriend is still in love with his ex.He feels that his ex was there when he had nothing and you are just with him because of his money! His ex is smart and I like what shes doing, she is busy collecting her own allocation at the end of every month.She suffered with him and since she knows that they cant get married due to their genotypes, she is milking him monthly and your bf is falling for it, smart girl!He will continue to send her money even after he marries you (that is if he marries you) ,so I wont just advise you to dump him move on oh, start increasing your demands now! Make sure you create fake financial problems for him to solve and have it in mind that you dont have a boyfriend!

    poster 2
    i am sorry for what you are going through.He used you to fertilize his wife's womb.Am sure he and his wife went spiritual and he was asked to marry you first b4 his wife could concieve.He loves his wife dearly and she is his only wife if you ask me, you are just his side wife.kpele but didnt you ask about him before you married him? I will advise you to get a job or start up a business so that you can be financially independent.Tell your people about what you are going through and divorce him.Go and rent another apartment and move on with your life.Goodluck.
    my 2 cents.

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  121. poster 1....some exes remain good friends,but with consistent allowance?..i dont get that

    poster 2....your narrative reeks of lies..you laid your bed,sleep on it...next time you will think twice befor sleeping with a man because his wife cannot give him a child yet,thinking he will leave his wife for you...KARMA!

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  122. This is new year. We need stories of good things ooo

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  123. I don't see how confronting her hubby @ Poster 2, made her a nag please. What was she supposed to do, keep quiet and play the dump fool?

    I don't know what to tell you sha, Poster2, you are already married to him, if only you'd done this 'asking' when he came after you again. This is why I simply don't believe in marrying 2nd-hand man/woman... in case of incasity.

    Speak yo your family about your situation. Keep yourself busy with your own work/business and then focus on your kids.
    Best of luck.

    *@Poster 1: what your man is saying is a huge bullshit! However you want to deal with that shit is left for you. But personally I won't advise anyone to sit around in a relationship where you are clearly a second-hand citizen.

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  124. Marriage is becoming too scary, should I just stay celibate???

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  125. Stella, stop contradicting yourself. You are saying poster 1 should not have snooped but poster 2 did not do her homework. How do you do your homework without snooping.
    Poster1, they probably have a kid together.
    Poster2, move on with your life

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  126. #1 Let it be. You love him don't you? so comot ya eye from that side you hear? doh.

    #2 I feel for you. My only ish with you is the comparison you are doing, please face your own children. This is where a family meeting ought to called to iron things out. kpele.

    Best of luck to both posters.

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  127. Stella you need to apologize for confronting the lady. ... You should have a spirit of empathy when commenting... This is new year.. nor let me vex for you

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  128. P2. God has a way of fighting his children battle. I am sure the 1st wife was not aware her husband wants to marry you. Free jazz pls. Ready stories of barren Christian women. Most of them conceive when pushed out or when their husband marries a second wife. I put it to u that u knew this man has not divorce his wife b4 u married him . You were dating him while doing IT & got carried away by his money & the thought of being the fruitful wife. See how God rewards greediness. It pains but its true. The 1st wife is his love. You are just a concubine. See how u are pained that he takes care of them more than u. Haba dear. U nag, l support Stella. Go back to God. Try and be friends with the first wife and everything will fall in line for u. May God almighty grant you more wisdom. Stop going anon 2 defend yourself in the comment section. Happy new year all. Stella love. Happy new year to u.

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