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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

DATING SOMEONE WHO HAS SOMEONE THAT IS ABOUT TO BE EX-ED

 Stella Good day!

Greetings from a Neighbouring Country and may God bless your hustle and all you've been doing for People through your Blog.

Please, i would like the opinion of BVs on this issue i'm having right now. I just want to be sure of what i'm doing.

I met this nice, intelligent and down to earth dude recently when i was in Nigeria through a friend.  We got talking and later exchanged contacts. Then the communication continued till the day he opened up to me that his Initial plan was to have fun, but now he's fallen for me. Of course i felt bad about what he said, but also appreciated the fact that he was bold enough to tell me what he had in mind towards me. 

I decided not to cut him off straight up, but tried to get more information about him. One day, he came to visit me and a girl called him in my presence and he tried to play smart which i understood very well. But i had to pretend as if i didn't notice anything, later that day i asked him if he had a girlfriend and he said no, which i didn't believe too.

Then one day, he invited me to his house to meet his parents and siblings, everything went well but still wasn't convinced he had no girl in his life. I later picked up his phone, told him I want to go through his pictures, which he didn’t decline. I had the opportunity to go through his call log and BBM messages. I found out he has a girl in his life, but their conversation was kinda funny like off and on thing, maybe once in 2 or three days. I decided not to ask him that very day, but 2 days later. Then he told me yea, he’s got a girlfriend but they aren’t in good terms, he’s trying to leave her but it hasn’t been easy for him.

I asked him why he didn’t open up to me at first and he apologized that I should think about it, he’s a guy and it’s not easy for a guy to open up everything at once. Then I thought about the text message the girl sent to him saying he’s gradually pushing her into the arms of another man. I asked him the reasons behind his actions, why he wants to leave his girlfriend and he said he’s no longer feeling her that love fades, he no longer love her and that there are other reasons which he can’t discuss with me nor the girl. He’s got his reservations about the girl. But I told him it would be nice for him to talk to her about it, even if he’s no longer interested in her, but it will definitely help her later in future. Now he wants us to get serious, he talks about the future with me, uses “we” instead of “I” in most of our conversations.

 He’s been so nice to me too, and my friend found out from his closest friend that he’s gonna leave this other girl for real but he doesn’t want it to look as if it’s because of me he’s doing that. I told him I just can’t come between two people knowing very well that I’m a girl too. He should sort out things with the other girl first before coming fully into my life. That would be better abi?? But he still insist I stay because he believes that would help him get over her easily. Though he’s straight with me whenever I confront him with some issues I’m not cool with. He’s not doing bad for himself if you ask me, he’s got a very good Job too.

Now my question is, should I give him a chance? What if he’s trying to play on me because I’m overseas? Please my fellow BV, has anyone been in this situation before? Matured opinions needed and please do not curse me out.

 Stella, I’m sure he visits your blog sometimes so please my id should be hidden.

Hmmmm.....i dont know what to say but it looks like you have a serial lover on your hands.that is how they jump from one person to another and tell sob tales when they want to move on.he will love you right,treat you right but he will have no reason for dumping you with the same story he's telling you now.

Do not get involved emotionally or sexually until the missing parts fall into place.

Tie your legs together and pretend to be a mermaid.close your heart and use your head.good luck and let us know how it goes!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

ASKING A MAN OUT AND THE NIGERIAN MENTALITY.

After my last breakup I have had this hatred for men, but recently there is this guy I have suddenly developed likeness for...He comes to my gym, why I line him, he is so reserved and focused. He comes to the gym focus on what brought him to the gym and leaves, you never catch him chatting away like other guys at the gym. 

We have talked on few occasions asides the regular hello/hi, I have not been to the gym since December  and you won't believe I miss seeing him around, I returned back to the gym last week but didn't set my eyes on him till today he walked in on me making a call outside the gym, i hope I was able to hide my excitement when I saw him. I tried though, he too seemed glad to see me. We exchanged pleasantries and all the long time no see and how have you been and so on. 

I really do like him and would want him to be my friend. But reality check "THIS IS NAIJA" a girl can't even approach a guy without been labelled slut or desperate or the guy in question thinking of taking advantage of you ...i don't have friends in this town and he looks so responsible i'd like to have him as a friend" just friends ". My question, can I ask him? If yes, how? Or should I keep hoping that one day he'd say he likes me too. I hope he doesn't read SDK...lol he will just know it's me. Stella please do help me post so I can get advice on what to do...God bless you Stella honey

Why dont you invite him out for dinner and start from trying to get to know him....and please unless it is sex you are after,make it clear from the first date that your legs are tied together like a mermaids.