STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
WHEN DOES ONE SEND THE HOUSE HELP AWAY?
Good day stellakork, I need fellow bv's advice on how to handle my house help. Since she came October last year have been nothing but nice to her,for the first two months I thought her on how I like things to be done,told her to always let me know if she needs anything like
If shes not full or she's hungry. I buy her toiletries and make sure she's good. I don't eat breakfast, so once I take care of my hubby and son and they both leave for work and Skool respectively,its just me and her in the house.I serve currently so I don't go to work everyday, i ask her to eat what she likes.
The problem now is ever since she came I told her to wake up 5am yet she wakes up by 6:30 or to 7..sometimes I have to wake her up by 8..I send her on little errands around,errands that shouldn't take more than 5mins she spends 30-40mins.have been pleading with her telling her I don't want to start beating her n she should always take corrections..for where?
So yesterday I was so angry I gave her punishment cos I sent her to buy detergent and she came back after 40mins I asked her what kept her so long she said she was watching aboki's that where fighting.I was so angry I asked her to pick pin, she did it for 5mins then she stopped I told her if she doesn't continue she should get out of my house,then I pushed her and she hit her head on the wall.
I didn't know she was hurt.
All of sudden my I know all things neighbor came to my house and started calling me mean,that I injured her. Well I eventually told her to pack her things that am sending her back to the person who brought her to me before I kill her cos have really been nice to her and this one time I touched her someone is calling me mean and that's not who i am at all and am tired of correcting and shouting at all times.
She started begging that she doesn't want to go,I called the person who brought her,the lady said she can't leave that I paid too much. Please what should I do. Should I keep her or let her go? Cos have really been careful with her after reading and watching what has been going on with helps lately.
Do you really need a house help?
Why dont you get one that does not have to sleep in,resumes 8am and closes 6pm....something like that.
I heard of someone who maimed her house help cos she stole meat.
I dont like house helps stories cos they always end up pregnant and become some husbands side chick right under your nose
Just let her go.
ReplyDeletePoster! To avoid stories that touch,to avoid regret, to avoid people that are not even up to you to start insulting you and lambasting you and to avoid husband snatching LET HER GO! You don't need any help abeg. LET HER GO!
DeleteLet her stay for one more month, take care of her till the wound heals. Once That's over with kindly take her back to her people. No time for Rubbish.
Delete'watching aboki's fighting' Lmfbao, I'm so loving that line.
DeletePoster, from ur story, i dont think you need a house help. If you cant tolerate her, pls send her away.
DeleteMost House helps have gone thru some sort of abuse while growing up,they have psycholgical issues,No matter how Nice u are 2 some of dem they will never change.get some 1 dat resumes in d morn and leaves in d evening,preferably an elderly lady.Goodluck.
DeleteErmmm you "wake up, take care of your husband and son, when they go out it's just u and the maid". Pls what do you need a made for if you do the work before your maid wakes up?
DeleteMadam,u don't even have enuf work on ur hands to need a maid?so
DeleteEven at dat,this particular gal is lazy and stubborn!she doesn't respect u enuf for u to punish her and she stops on her own?hehe!this one go pass ur power oo'..well for now since she's begging,give her one last chance,but stop being too nice,treat her as a worker and if there are extra things u do for her with ur money,stop it!let her do it herself..etc(u know everything u do to make her feel at home,yes stop it!)cos it's obvious she has taken ur kindness for weakness.
If she doesn't change afterwards,send her away,let her go out there and meet a madam dat fits her.mtceew!some of these artisans are so cursed that even when u show them mercy it boomerangs on ur face..
She's LAZY send her away! Regardless of how much u paid, ur happiness and peace of mind is more important. If she doesn't meet your work requirements, insist on it that she leaves!
ReplyDeletePoster is the lazy one here, a small girl should wake up at 5am, while she sleeps and she is not working o, u pushed her and she hit her head, would u push dt ur child too?
DeleteExcuse me please, when it comes to housemaid matters these days, some people like to play holier than thou by cussing out their Madames.. it is easier to apportion blames online without knowing the actual incident that happened with every particular story that we treat.
DeleteAnonymous 19:58. To answer your question, even though I am not the poster I also employ the services of these maids.... yes yes I can push my child and even spank him or her further if am infuriated by their unruly behaviours. Just that my method of discipline might be different to that of Mrs x.
So applying the same discipline on a maid shouldn't be totally condemned... let's be sincere here. I am one who advocates that women of the house should avoid laying their hands on a maid...because anything can happen.
You can take full responsibility for flogging ur own child, but may not be able to walk free if u did it to another person's child. in fact I have never touched any maid ever since I started having one. Even growing up, my folks had several maids attending to us in the house and my mother never for one day beat a maid. So I do not subscribe to beating another man's child.
But for those who like to spank their maids, I say be reasonable with it. If I can slap my child, which I do, I should be able to slap my maid if I wanted to. For as long as u treat them like human beings and as you would your children, why should anyone tolerate the excesses of a lazy maid?
If she doesn't wish to work she should go back home. You are paying them, feeding them, giving them the comfort u enjoy in your home...yet some people will scream 'blue murder' if u as much as disciplined them? Abeg no way.
I know thar there are wicked madames, we've seen all sorts online of women who starve their maids, brutalize them, treat them as slaves etc.. to those women, only God can judge them for treating another person's child with so much disdain and cruelty.
However, some maids need to be disciplined because they can be obnoxious. But you have the option of sending them back home if their excesses become unbearable for u, no be by force. But if u do not send them back, correct them as u would do your flesh and blood. The day we start to view our maids as one of our children, it would be hard to be wicked to them...and it would stop the re-occurring trend of maids facing brutality in the hands of their masters.
Only a woman without the fear of God and a conscience will enslave a person and make her life unbearable because u pay them stipends to wait on u.
What this poster did was an error that could have been fatal. She did nothing wrong by punishing her. Even the pushing wouldn't have been a big deal if the girl didn't hit her head. That's the downside to it, all ur kindness towards her would be forgotten if this one push resulted into something major. World people would have called u names that u do not deserve. Apply discretion Madame
As we treat our maids so would our children be treated IJN
Since you do most of the housework yourself I don't see the point of a maid that will not respect you. Send her back already. She is lazy so what makes you think she can care for your child when you are not there without transferring aggressions...
DeleteJust send her away jeje
ReplyDeletethis story may not be complete. Ma it seems u are hiding some things. I lived with an aunt from ages 9-13. And trust me. She has this angelic look outside. Her husband was a nice man. Well mannered. But inside. The wife always beat the hell outta me @ that age. But when ma Mom or any relative comes to visit. If u see how she changes. I was too scared to tell because i never knew what the repercussion would be. Untill the day she injured my left arm with Iron. I ran out of the house. Used a nearby call center agents phone and informed my mom. The scar is still right here for show. This doesn't mean that i am justifying ur House Help ma'am. But it will be best if u took care of ur household urself. One may never understand u. At the end. The ball is at ur court to play. Fast Forward to 5 years now. My so called Aunt never speaks to ma Mom. That is a semi definition of Blood Sisters.
ReplyDeleteGpharm, so sorry to break it to you this way but all that you've just yarned is off point and has no bearing on the narrative. Ish!
DeleteG-pharm so you're 18? *Side eyes*
DeleteI have a friend who has a similar story to yours. In her case she was with her mom's friend not sister. At a point the woman started accusing her of sleeping with her hubby and then she was barely 15 oh. The woman showed her hell ehn. She won't give her food but she'll do all the housework. She had 2 kids and one was almost d age of my friend but they could not even wash their pants.
Anyway, on the other hand some househelps are from the pit of hell. I've seen worse than what the poster is complaining about. Poster just send her away abeg to avoid stories that touch.
I ddnt see where you stated that you're working so if it's just house chores you can do them yourself. All the best.
I believe her story, same with my former househelp, she came in November, throughout her stay I shout everyday,so lazy,i told her to wake by 6am but this girl wakes up at 7am, so I told her to start waking up by 5:30, so I wake her up myself every morning. She's so slow and anytime I correct her, she puts up face as if she wants to stab me,she really tempted me to beat her, but I held myself back. During Xmas we bought her things worth 25k, I haven't seen that kind of girl in my life, I would be working and she would be watching TV,as if she was in her house,i sent her packing last month,she cried n cried n held me to let her stay but I had to let her go. My advice is let her know you are not lazy and that you can do without her. I don't allow househelps to cook our meals,feed my baby or bath my baby. That's my job. Househelp at times can be frustrating.
DeleteMy bad. Somehow skipped where you stated you do not work full time/everyday.
DeleteLast year I had delivery thru Cs. My mil came and left after a month. As a result, the only option was to get a maid. We finally got one.
DeleteI was really nice to her, will take her to salon to make Ghana weaving, tush her up real good. Gave her a store to manage cos I had 2 and could not go out. She will wake up 7am, my kids would get to school late, and she will run to d store before I wake up so I won't be able to inspect what she did in the house.
When she's around, I will have to shout to the point of coughing and this girl will only respond with a low *maaaa*. Ha! It was so frustrating. She will use d toilet and will not flush, she will say its my kids that used it. And I always told her, I employ u to assist me, not add to my problems, we have 3 toilets n I had to inspect it myself.
It was like that for like 3 months, by then I was already going out to inspect the stores. That was when I realised she was always entertaining different men in the store, when I complained, her response was 'u can't tell men not to visit me cos I work for u, u r not the first person I will work for'. Odiegwu! That was d day I sent her packing. I can't shout abeg abeg...my children r girls.
I can totally relate with the posters.
Lol@answer maaa' with a low voice.is she a cat?
DeleteQueen Bee, no kill me with laugh I beg. Lol
DeleteLol @ watch aboki's fighting, she must be a very small girl.
ReplyDeleteMaybe you should assume she were your Child or younger sister, that way when she errs you can give her an appropriate punishment and forgive her too.
You haven't said she disobeys you or she's disrespectful,she's just too playful(acting her age) forgive her and try to chastise her immediately, holding them in will make you over react when you decide to act.
....the "aboki" fighting part got me laughing too....lol
DeleteReally like your comment Nuvi Honey.
DeleteIts always like dat,but do u sell food,for her to be waking up by 5am
ReplyDeleteOlamide where re u?
Do u have sense at all? So she should wake up by 7 and her little child should go to school by 9 or 10? U and ur fish brain. U shouldn't comment on every post ok cos most of these post are meant for mature minds not fish brains like u!!!
DeletePlease let her go already.
ReplyDeleteI even prefer a nanny that will come and go in the evening to all dis help.
Let her go now ooo
DeleteBefore she will punish ur son in retaliation.
Exactly Stella, some will even give your kids winch to chop *hehehe....House help palava?? cant deal biko
ReplyDeletePlease click on my name for Fashion/Fitness/Beauty tips
If you want to keep her you will need to work on your temper....don't let the devil use you,something really bad could have happened when you pushed her against the wall.....but since she's getting out of hands,I think you call her agent to come and pick her o
ReplyDeleteY will u push her n she ended up having injury, it's better u ask her to open her hand and flog her than pushing or hitting her out of anger, if u can't handle her, send her bck b4 u put urself in trouble
ReplyDeleteWhy would you beat another person'so child or ask the person to do a punishment as brutal as pick pin? That is damn mean! Treat her the way you would expect your kid to be treated if your child was in her shoes. If she's not good enough, then Fire her.
ReplyDeleteWhat is wrong with beating the girl? She lives in her house and eats her food so she has to abide by her rules or be disciplined. Its the too much talk she has been doing with the househelp (who is obviously a small girl) that is bringing this funny behavior in the first place. Spare the rod and spoil the child.
DeletePick pin is brutal?
DeletePlease choose your adjectives carefully.
It's not by force to comment!
You people are forgetting that maids are not your children. How would you feel if your boss at work told you to pick pin and pushed you? That is degrading. Just because your maid is poor doesn't mean you should abuse her
DeleteSo to pick pin,ordinary pick pin is brutal and degrading?!na wa oo for some pple dou,they'd be acting nice bcos we are all faceless here,but in real live are d ones dat use hot iron to design maids bodies.mtceeew!
DeleteUna well done ooo!#hypocrites#
I will punish my child if he offends me,so I can make him disciplined, talk more of an adult maid!#rubbish
Oh anonymous spare me biko. What's wrong with asking her to pick pin? If I can ask my child to pick pin why not my maid?? Degrading u say? Biko let me vamooze from this thread because I'm reading unrealistic submissions here
DeleteLet her go or go with Stella's advice
ReplyDeleteYou don't really need a help at this stage from what I gathered in your writeup. Doesn't sound like you've got so much hardwork around you. Like Stella said, look for the day help that will resume and close at an agreed time. Don't give way to a lazy way of life. Seems the gal de follow madam de jones. Lol
ReplyDeleteLike Stella said, ppl now go fr corporate maids. De resume 8am n close 6pm. Dts better. I don't like house helps.
ReplyDeleteDear poster,watch your househelp and your hubby closely for a week,something might be going on between them,send her away when she leasts expects and stop allowing your househelps to live with you.Let them work from 7am till 5pm(monday till sunday).
ReplyDelete*Monday till saturday*
DeleteYou must be a wicked person. Is there no allowance for a day off? Even God rested on the seventh day.
DeleteSince she doesn't wanna go give her a second chance.thats how they r. mine broke my show glass wit all the ornaments in it n just because I talked to her angrily she packed her load and left the house while I was at work,leaving the house open.
ReplyDeleteI always tell people if u can't train a maid then let them go. If it were that easy to train a child, they would be with their parents and not live as a maid.
DeletePlease send her away to avoid stories that touch...
ReplyDeleteIf you don't work everyday, do without a maid for now, from your narrative, you practically do everything anyway as she wakes up late and all. Besides two months is a really long time to teach someone what you want her to do.
If cleaning the home is a problem, get someone to come clean for you two to three times a week, and do light cleaning yourself on other days.
Poster you dont need house help
ReplyDeleteGet some one to come work for you and leave,only in nigeria you hear house help here house help there ,in abroad people have four kids ,wake up 4 am to prepare their kids and husband to work ,and still go to work too .I dont understand the crase for help
house helps and their wahala, abeg let her resume in the morning and close @ night nau, better still if she no dey stay dt town she shud set alarm dey wake 6am abeg, which kain help dey slip til 8am? house help with dia plenty wahala and diff spirit.lol
ReplyDeleteWhy should u beat someone elses child
ReplyDeleteYour husband should also start beating you
After all our wife's are our househelp and una too dey fuck up
Anyway I go just find side chick dey fuck, whilst u dey email Stella up and down
Bitches are evil
This your comment no make sense. You too foolish.
DeleteWho is this? Imbecile.
DeleteSTFU!!!
DeleteYou are a FOOL. NO, i am.not sorry to say that. How dare you refer to women like that? I pity the woman in your life cos i cant imagine the extent to which u ridicule her.
DeletePlease send her away. If the person that brought her says you paid too much, tell her to refund your change or she should keep the change. No be by force
ReplyDeleteI heard house girls in nigeria have an auora that oga always find them attractive no matter how unkept or dirty they look .
ReplyDeleteThat's the point. But I'm trying to figure out how old the girl is. My elder sister's house help showed her SHEGE but in a very quiet way. She ended up almost knocking their heads together (my sis and her hubby). Now her daughter stays with us.
DeleteAnything house wetin wetin, huh? Count me OUT!
PLEASE POSTER, SEND HER AWAY ASAP!
Necessary evils; my mum calls them. You can actually do without a maid. Organise yourself well. And for major jobs. U can have someone come to d house probably weekends to help. No hassles, no heartache, no headache.
ReplyDeletepls let her go o. for ur sanity. if u feel u wnt to giv ha anoda chance, pls do. but first warn her n inform ha dt d nxt issue equals bye bye.
ReplyDeleteHow to mess up your best friend's wedding
....If there be anyone here who knows any reason why these two shouldn't be joined together in holy matrimony, you are to declare it, or forever hold your peace." The Reverend announced.
It's funny how every time these words are spoken at a wedding all the guests start staring at each other ...QUESTIONABLY.
And why does society always assume it's a "he" that would ".....make himself known?.." It always made me laugh when I heard it.
As the questionable looks continued, I watched ADA ...casually glance across the sea of guests....Her eyes suddenly caught mine.For a few seconds, I could've sworn she was about to scream.The look of shock soon became one of ....PANIC.
I simply smiled at her....then I STOOD UP, and my brother and his men stood up with me. continue reading
Calabar house boy is better!!!!!
ReplyDeleteYou don start now
DeleteWhen Madam born BGs now
@poster in oshomole voice tell her to go and DIE.
ReplyDeleteHow old is this "maid" I have a suspicion she might be a CHILD herself. Abeg poster TALK TRUE. This your story dey one kain. What do you need a maid for, when you don't work full time?
ReplyDeleteFrom your story it seems you are not so experienced with househelps. At the last count, I think I had 14 helps. As soon as my last baby started school, I sent the help away. So..For 18 years now, I have done without a single house help in my house and I have coped really fine. House helps are not worth the struggle, trust me. Save your energy for more productive things like training your own children and looking after your husband. She is going to turn you into a monster overnight if you aren't careful. If your right hand will cause you to sin, cut it off. -Send her packing. Must you use a help? your son goes to school. You will find it more useful and rewarding in the future training your own birthed kids to take care of a home.
ReplyDeleteIf it gets too difficult, get someone who will come in on days you are at home to help you clean. That's all. The person who brought her doesn't want to return the money. Its for selfish reasons. Make up your mind on what you can do without. If you continue, you might find yourself having quarrels with your husband over the way you are treating her etc. These are unnecessary stresses you don't need in your home. Except you are so so lazy and spoilt that you cannot do without a live in help!. My 2 cents.
Thank you madam for this advice. Very useful. And no, I'm not the poster.
DeleteYou are right ma'am.
DeleteThese helps know how to bring out the demon in you.
I have peace any period I'm home alone with just my kids and hubby.
Housegirls houseboys, sales girls nwa boyee, all are ungrateful lot. Always jealous of their boss wishing they were in their shoes. Please be watchful of any help you bring, if possible be watching them with side eyes and in 3D.
ReplyDeleteIf truly you have been this nice to her as you claim, then just send her back, I believe since you are not really doing much, you can do most of the chores yourself. There're millions of people who would want to take her place. Just to avoid peace, send her back to where age came from. That's my candid advice to you.
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People will doubt you, ignore you, ridicule you and write you off. The question is, CAN THEY STOP YOU? Believe in yourself.
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U pushed her and she hit her head on the wall madam? Na person pikin ooo
ReplyDeleteHelp me tell her o!
DeleteYou don't need a house help. Use the money you are spending on her and buy yourself a washing machine if you don't have one. You can be buying things in bulk on Saturdays. Cook once in a while and preserve in your fridge. Don't use your hand and buy trouble for you and your household. My two cents.
ReplyDeleteLive-in house helps is(are) totally becoming old fashioned my dear
ReplyDeleteSeek for helps that resume in the morning and departs in d evening...what else are u looking for again???
Or better still do ur house chores urself....is as simple as that
Do the chores u can do/chores u know ur strength can carry you and leave the rest for Oga...period!
After all you both are the owners of the house!
If that girl had died,what do u think would have happened 2 you????
Sometimes the devil tends 2 b a harbinger of regretful disasters my dear.
Just do the needful...you know what to do!
You didn't state her age. Since u have jus one kid why not look for someone who will just come, take care of laundry and other major stuff for you like two or three times a week. Except she's willing to change, I advise u Snd her away.
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U are a lazy woman, u ve just one kid that goes to sch same time as ur hubby ,so tell me, what do u need a house help for, u dey form madam abi, is not as if u go to work everyday, so u can't clean & cook for ur hubby & son, na wah for some women sha, wait for my advice am coming, long hissssssssssss.
ReplyDeleteThank you for stating the obvious
DeleteVery lazy woman
You don't go to work every day
With just one kid
And u have house help
Mtschwwww
Better take care of your family yourself
Truth is bitter...
My thots exactly, Very proud madam n lazy AF
DeleteYou are always angry. Lol
DeleteI can kiss you for this comment Angelray.
DeleteMadam poster, it is too early for maid. Ah ahnn? Be responsible for your family and home biko.
Pls send that househelp away, infact u don't need a househelp yet, u have just one child and u don't go to work everyday but if u must get one, pls take Stella's advice and get one who wouldn't live in your house.
ReplyDeletePls poster, send her away and take care of your house by yourself. Before we hear story that touch on SDK blog biko.
ReplyDeleteYou are not working so, no stress.
Let her go, before u finally injure her.
ReplyDeleteIf she isn't doing too much work for you, I feel you should let her go or better still get someone who will leave at the close of the day.
ReplyDeleteI don't really like having house helps because of issues like this and husband snatching things.
I don't like househelp stories...try employ d services of professional cleaners that will not live-in and let d lil girl go
ReplyDeleteU should be arrested , u silly stoopid slave driver! if you had a daughter, can someone else hit her head on the wall. An injury that the neighbours can see and you cant see!! you are an animal. My heart weeps for that child!
ReplyDeleteGod help us!
It wasn't intentional she said. People should stop judging people,you can do worse ma sef.
DeleteMaybe when your own boss in the office slaps you and tells you to pick pin, you'll tell people not to judge your boss. Mschew
DeleteMR EDDY said this heat wan kill person o.
ReplyDeletePlease let her go to avoid stories that touches the heart..
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She should go and get dat i too know neighbour to beg on her behalf.
ReplyDeleteHmmm......na I'm.make some people go say dem nko need house help
DeleteBut house chores go kill person now
We should just pray for a good house help.... We still have the good onesones
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Hahahahaha @ Stella this your talk but you are right end up becoming side chicks to Hubby.
ReplyDeletePoster since you got her through an Agency tell them to replace her with someone else.
Meanwhile if you must continue with her you have to be patient with her and tolerate some certain things. But truly housemaids can make one start to talk so much. You turn Talkative Overnight. They will start to act up as if they are doing you one big favour. Rotfl@ Watching Aboko fighting. Just take it easy before you get BP before you get BP on time.
dt one no b house girl again o na hse madam t be. she's probably looking down on cos she's bigger than u in physique or taking ur niceness for granted. abeg just b careful, give her som mor tym if she wil change. if nt delete her commot bfor she makes u do something rash.
ReplyDeleteThis poster doesn't really need a house help na, why is she punishing herself?
ReplyDeleteplease send her out if you dont need her. since you dont go to work everyday why cant you do the work yourself.
ReplyDeleteafterall my mother took care of us 6 children without househelp. our naija mothers that can look for help when they can do the work themselves. we are not better than our mothers who took care of everyone including you.
You are truly mean.. What's up with pushing her against the wall? What if she get concussion? I'm against the notion of houselps like that. . It's often forced labor, you can't you be nicer by sending her for any sort of formal training while she lives with you...
ReplyDeleteExactly!!!
Deletegood advice Stella
ReplyDelete#GODWIN
You pushed her and she hit her head on the wall, right? If it was your daughter would you not check that she was ok? If something happened to her they will call you an evil woman abi? I am sure this girl is a small girl, please send her back before she puts your son in the in a box or drawer.
ReplyDelete*am out*
gbam!
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Madam kuku pursue her b4 wahala gbas abeg and frm what yu wrote i really cant see her use in that house though.....
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You told her to pick pin, You pushed her and she hit her head on the wall yet you are not mean.
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of punishment is that?
You are mean.
The difference is ...you are on level 1
If you continue like this, you will reach level 100.
Most mean people are always like...i am not mean or please tell me, am i mean?
Keep correcting her with your mouth biko.
XOXO MYSTERY
Exactly my thought,how old is this your house help again because from your narrative she seems like a child,look @ the way you are shouting am nice to her,because you allowed her to eat whatever she likes abi,did you send her to school or send her for skills training,mean and lazy woman mtcheeeeew
DeleteAbi o! Boasting that she's nice because she lets the girl eat food in her house. Mschew. I'm sure she's a child trafficker. What she cannot tolerate someone doing to her or to her own child she's more than happy to do to her house help. Wickedness.
DeleteNa true o!...Better to send the househelp away!..For all you know,she's already pregnant as a result of whatever keeps her away for up to 40mins(quickie sex)... You're lucky you're still somewhat at home and not working full time.. Focus on taking care of ur hubby and son..get short term help,if need be...better to be careful than sorry...
ReplyDeleteHow old is your girl?
ReplyDeleteIf she is under aged,please send her home or just train her for her people if you fit, it means you do not have a help! I don't encourage under aged helps abeg.
Immediately you start feeling like beating an adult(if this one is up to 20) it means is time for her to go! It is a rule I haven't broken yet! If you can't listen, maybe we are not meant to be..lol
I hate neighbour interference,she has probably aligned with them..trust me,you cease to have secrets in your home from this minute.
You see,my little experience with nannies/workers has shown that most of them are so used to been treated bad that they come to you and take you for granted immediately they sense you are kind.. Never let this experience stop you from being kind and nice.
Personally,this is when my contract with the person expires sha..cant deal!
You can only make the decision yourself dear..goodluck
Dear poster, until I stopped using live-in house helps before I knew peace o! Now, I use a woman who comes in a few hours a day, does all my chores and leaves. I swear I've never had this much peace of mind without shouting in the many years of my marriage.
ReplyDeleteHow old is the househelp?
ReplyDeleteWhy do you need a live in?
How much do you pay her?
If she is under 18 please let her go its child abuse, she is simply a child acting her age.
I don't believe in live ins or small kids its abuse.
See how you and the greedy agent are talking about her like some property, you paid so much for her????????? Is she an item?
Nigerians and slavery sha
Send her back to avoid an irreversible situation...since she's giving u problems then let Her go,ur neighbours are involved now and the law might be involved tomorrow.mutual understanding and peace is key..pray to God for a better one, not all helps are bad......Stella u must enjoy me
ReplyDeletePoster, i smell the spirit of witchcraft in you.
ReplyDeleteHow could you push her?
If someone does that to your kid, will you accept it?
Accept that you are a wicked person and change.
You paid too much money does not give you the right to hit another's child. Aje.com
Lol@ smelling the spirit of witchcraft!!
DeleteReal aje!
DeleteYou are serving, one husband and son yet you have a house help that lives in! You should check your head. A young marriage like yours don't need live in house helps. If need be, get people that provide you the services such as laundry and shopping. You never hear of bulk buying! You need house help to go buy detergent????
ReplyDeleteWill wait for comments. Aside that, some house helps can be more than mean. A house help once pointed a knife at my mum with serious warning simply because mum told her to learn how to greet when she meets her elders. Na wetin come provoke the girl oooo. You can imagine that which was even the least she did before she was sent packing.
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ReplyDeleteMadam poster,like stella asked do you really need a househelp?
Just one son for now maybe in a 2 or 3 bedroom flat and you can't take care of things yourself?
Sorry if this help disappears for 30-40mins on a 5mins errand she may be sexually active so the nonsense will repeat itself so for the sake of your home,your son being hurt and your peace of mind send this help to the hole she came out from
Let her go o. I am talking from experience o. I've vowed not to have a young person live with me o. My nanny now is a grandma and I usually get someone to clean and go. Let her go o. They are always ungrateful.
ReplyDeleteMadam if you tell your son to do something and he doesn't would you push him to hit his head on the wall????
ReplyDeleteGo and hire professional house helps that you would pay. So if they misbehave, you sack them.
Eastwestern
Pls where can I get a professional house help?
DeleteAaah! Like Stella said househelps stories never end well. sometimes from witchcraft to being stubborn /wicked to becoming madams/husband side chics. If a woman can plan her time well, its beta to avoid househelp wahalas oo but if u can den get d par-time househelp not like dey are any beta cos my friend's sister's help use to give their baby sleeping drugs while their family friend's househelp gave their child dog food. They are necessary evil but they can also be avoided if only d woman is ready to take up all d stress which is better than everlasting pain.
ReplyDeleteAhn Ahn! Just one narative? See me gearing up for prt 2. Lol
ReplyDeleteAnyways, me too I dnt like househlps. Too much dramas attached to them. But what can one do? Combining motherhood with wrk ain't eazy especially in this Lagos whr traffic is inevitable
Gbaaammm!!!
ReplyDeleteMadam Stella has said it all.
You see, with the way things are going, she's gonna frustrate you and you might end up misbehaving which might land you in trouble (God forbid).
Take for instance, she might one day do something very very wrong and you, holding a knife at that moment can throw it at her out of frustration and anger. Remember, if such happens, nobody will be ready to understand what has been going on.
send her back if you can't condone all she does in order to avoid stories one will regret later.if you are not compatible with the person serving you; no need keeping that person
ReplyDeleteMadam, I am going to be harsh with you and this is unusual for me because I always side with wives and mothers, but your own is different.
ReplyDeleteMadam, you are a lazy wife. You do not need a live in house help, because you only have one child and you are not working. All you need is for someone to help out with cleaning and washing of clothes. Stop being lazy, send that girl home and get one that will come and go. Also, you are a bit wicked, if she does not need to wake up at 5am, why are you waking her up by 5am? What time do you send her to bed? Be honest o, because I doubt you are as nice as you are painting yourself. Go and buy your detergent by yourself!!! If something has run out in your home, you are not working, get off your lazy bum and go and buy it. You sef, behave na!!! I am a mother of two babies and a 3 year old girl and I work full time and I am managing a girl that comes and goes and I am fine, what is your excuse?
If she wakes up by 5am its not bad don't be too hostile Meanwhile Poster set Alarm.for 5am so you wake her on time. Meanwhile are you.paying her or she won't go to.school? My Househelps wake up.by 5am plus all my kids because they must go to school.on time
DeleteNa wa o for advice.
DeleteShe should go and buy the detergent herself despite having an house help. Issokay
I honestly thought most of the people saying she doesnt need a househelp are unmarried folks and just thought to myself that they are speaking out of ignorance. Even with just one child, and even as astay at home mom, it is not easy to run the entire household without any help whatsoever. People have done it and are doing it but what is the quality of their life? what is the quality of their relationship with their children and especially their hubby? what is the state of their health constantly?
DeleteUnless you are dirty, taking care of a baby and a home is very tasking with zero help. Im talking from experience so i know what i am saying and i am not lazy at all!
Im not advocating for live in helps but please stop cussing her out for having someone who can help her with minor things that can make her life easier abeg. When she handles hubby, son, home and part time work all alone, will she have energy for oga at night? You want her to start another chronicle on how oga started sleeping out because she always gave excuses of i'm tired, not tonight.
Dear poster, please send her away and get a help that comes and goes. Dont mind those saying you dont need one. Everyones relationship with hubby and abilities and strength is different. If you cant handle it alone, then you cant, dont feel bad that you have a maid!
return her jare whether the person agrees to collect her back or Not. She wont change her character o. She can only become worse.
ReplyDeleteTalking from experience, please send her away NOW. Someone is encouraging to do all she is doing Its either who brought her or the neighbour who called. Have you wondered what connected her with your neighbour? Some maids are spies. Also, note that if you allow her stay now after asking her to leave, she will take her revenge on you either directly or indirectly. Forget the cost sermon, let her go and get someone who resumes in the morning and leaves in the evening for now. Its well.
ReplyDeleteYes some are spies, my neighbour keeps sending househelps 2 me, begging me 2 take them....she might be innocent tho but I am not cool with it.. don't need help pls
DeleteAll these househelps ehnn...God forbid!
ReplyDeleteYou are nice to them, wahala
You are mean towards them, same wahala.
I can't deal abeg.
I can't stand them
Anywhere I fit work reach for house, na carry over. Afterall, housework no de finish.
Bloggie we dey d same level o. I no get strength for house help wahala.
DeleteHouse chores no dey every finish.
Hmmmmmmmmmmnnm.......
ReplyDeleteMadam,I don't think you need a househelp,@ least not yet. You can manage. You can get someone to come wash clothes on weekends and if you need water,get aboki pple to help.
ReplyDeletePoster you sound wicked o. Forget what you think. Someone wakes up late and your way of handling that is to tell her to wake early or you will beat her? What happened to getting her an alarm clock or sending her to bed early (you sound like those wicked types that will keep her working till midnight).
ReplyDeleteYou also asked her to pick pin and she even did it for up to 5 mins and your wicked soul wasn't satisfied? You try picking pin and time yourself to see how long an average person can last.
You then went on to push her cos she couldnt continue your sadistic punishment and you seem oblivious to the fact that a person whose head hit the wall could be injured? Really? Please the next time you are upset with your son feel free to slam his head on the wall and go about your normal business rest assured that he won't be injured.
I'm glad you have good neighbours in this Nigeria where a lot of people tend to look the other way on matters like this. Your neighbours did well.
As for you, you need to change your ways. The only reason the girl wants to stay with a mean being like you is cos of poverty.
By the way I have a maid too. I buy her toiletries and give her food. As she is human she slips and I correct her. She has annoyed me before and I corrected her; sternly if required but I have never shouted at her or beaten her. She is a human being like me and just because she is unfortunate to be a househelp now doesn't mean she won't have a good future. She never wants to leave on her day off and leaves later than I ask her to and returns earlier than she's required to.
As you are doing nysc I'm sure you expect to get a job. How will you feel if you had a boss as wicked as you? Please change your ways and stop coming here to look for sympathy. Rubbish.
Chai! Chop knuckle. An alarm can solve this problem. Most of us depend on alarms to wake us up, otherwise Na lateness go be our next name. Do that for her and don't over labour her. If she doesn't change, kindly send her packing before you land for police net for killing someone. But how can you truly hit her head on the wall and think she will not be injured? Is her head made of 'konkiri' (concrete)?
DeleteMadam, my own go put alarm clock under her pillow it will ring endlessly she won't hear meanwhile, I will be in my room hearing it, if manage to wake her, ask her nne u didn't hear d alarm she will say NO! Is funny bt is as bad as dat. I wake her up if not na 7.am she will wake. She's 18yrs n abt to write waec. I can't w8 for her to kukuma finish d waec n zuz out of my house. Abeg lemme manage wit my kids jor. Some house helps re just mean n stupid. Period!
DeleteThank you! You have said it all! If she has a boss will she tolerate the boss doing such to her?!
DeletePls send that house help away cause she's out to destroy ur home...how can you have a helping hand that does not take corrections. If the house work is too much for you get someone that can come doing the cleaning maybe Saturdays. Then the rest days you can manage by urself
ReplyDeletePlease let her go quietly, forget what you paid to the agent, because her staying will actually cost you more in the long run, and yes its very true if you hit a house help, they will hit your child or tell the child to serve whatever punishment you give them.
ReplyDeleteI once hit my help, I corrected her and when I turned my back she was making faces at my back, unfortunately for her I could see her clearly as I was stood in fort of a mirror, so I turned around and hit her. A couple of days later my baby's face was swollen red cuz he is quite fair skinned and it looked as if he had palm marks on his face, when I asked what happened she said he fell. I cried and told my friends who asked if I had ever hit my maid, I replied yes and they told me to sack her immediately, I did and since then I never hit maid, because yes they push you to become the nasty person you don't want to be and at the end your kids suffer it.
So please dear poster let her go. Cynthia Ikota
Means the maid revenged the beatings on your son! Ever since I watched that devilish Uganda maid, I have written off maids from my chapter!
DeleteOh u cried that they hit you son....you didn't think your help 's mother too will shed tears if she saw the way u hit her own child...heartless woman
DeleteYou pushed her and she hit her head on the wall and yet you claimed not to know she was hurt? Like Stella asked, do you really need househelp since you do most of the things at home? Please send her home before you kill her.
ReplyDeleteTemptation.just be careful if she doesn't change send her packing.
ReplyDeleteWonders shall never end!!! Oh Chim o!!! What arrant nonsense.
ReplyDeleteMy dear poster better send that girl packing ASAP before she turns into a big madam under your very nose. If she has the nerves to tell you that she was watching aboki (hian oh) people fight which might be a lie. Nne I smell trouble for you. Err I go slap thunder comot for your yeye eye, you dey craze.
And the lazy that brought her telling you that she can't leave your house 'cos you pay too much MUST be a theif or witch in her formal life to bring her grand daughter/sister to torment an innocent woman like you with young family.
Biko I rest my case here. O chim oo. I can't deal biko.
God will protect you from the hands of your enemies & bless your home...
Please U do not need a maid if U ask me
ReplyDeleteThat's how my neighbour's house help is( very gentle, slow as in dodoyo slow).
ReplyDeleteCall this girl from morning till night, she can sleep in the kitchen n will come out only when she's ready. My neighbour cannot finish a 33cl bottle of coca cola without giving her some. But d day she's scolded! She'll squeeze face like old oko. Babe had to report to the help contractor. Wetin them give this girl phone: see transformation : speaking 100 words per second in fast n furious Hausa. All them " I did nothing, she'll just start shouting" ish. I fear helps o. Big time. And babe has a 10 month old baby. Now she's scared to leave the baby with the help.yet she can't do jack herself. I just tire.
Dnt send her away yet, put her on one month probation . She prob took ur likeness for a fool. But pls watch her closly like mother hen nd dnt tell her she on one month probation. Dnt hestitate to send her away b4 one month if no changes. Maids r neccesary evils. D once dat comes nd go are worse (stealing, gisting her ppl abt ur family ish, many more)
ReplyDeleteWoman; you sound nice but you have a huge problem . . .and that is laziness! Yes; just a husband and a boy that goes to school and you are looking for a "house help"; to help you do what? Very soon, you come here and tell us stories that touch; that your husband saw her vagina and the color is better than yours . . .bla, bla, bla . . . or that she caressed your little son's penis bla, bla, bla. Ok, she hit her head on the wall, supposing she slumped; is it not in the papers that we'd be reading you paraded before the police? Madam do your home work okay; you need no help except you want who will help you manage your husband's libido!
ReplyDeleteSorry poster but pls take it easy with her, yours is mild compared to what I go through with my ward. I feed her send her sch.(ss2). I didn't know she has been messing around right from home. One day I sent her fuel at 6:30 pm. Gave her money for bike to and from the fuel station. A journey of not more than 15mins on foot.
ReplyDeleteNa so we begin wait for this girl,7,8,9.pm. My self and DH started calling all the people in the area. Search parties where formed. That night I reached places in my area I haven't heard of. 9:45 I said let's go to the police station this girl has been kidnapped. She didn't run away because someone gave her 22000 to give me and it was in her room.
You know all those boys that hang around all day in your area that you always overlook ?they see everything. My husband tips them a lot so they like him. One of them said let's check her in this last place if she isn't there we will go to the police. The didn't allow us to follow them. They came back to say she is on her way. See this girl as she started acting like person wey dem jazz. Crying,very dirty clothes, I was so scared I tot the bike man has raped her and jazzed her.
I called my neighbor a certified nurse inside we proceeded to examine her, to determine if she had sex first then to ask her what happened. Na so finger1 enter,finger2 enter,she didn't flinch, my neighbor asked her "are you a virgin"?. She said yes.finger 3 enter.
My people to cut the story short. She apparently had sex in the bushes with a guy from school. She is still with me because people begged that if she was my child would I throw her out.
Inukwa finger 1,2 and 10... Is that even legal?
DeleteOchim!
Wicked person forming angel. If she were really to have been a virgin is that how you would have used your fingers to disvirgin her? I don't blame you and your nurse neighbour. Its her I blame for allowing you put your fingers inside her. Smh.
Deleteahhhhhh, you are a very wicked woman oooooo. chai stella pls we have to call out people like this. You caller nurse to be putting finger inside her because. ..... chai!! chai!!! chai!!!! I don't know what I have read that has pained me like this. Nigerians- we are very wicked people ooo. how can you do this? If she was having sex nko? Send her back to where ever you got her. If i say it will be visited on your own children now is it too much? Madame if you are one of those people that think you are not mean pls take it from me - you are evil and you just don't know it
DeleteAnon 16:16
DeleteThat was so wrong madam!
You just allowed the nurse to violate that girl.
There are other ways to find out what she's been up to instead of sending a nurse to fist her.
See the way you are even saying it as if you own her vagina with her.
Please in as much as these helps are under our care, let's not cross boundaries.
They are entitled to their 'privacy'.
What business do you have with her virginity anyway?
So far as she isn't shagging your husband or kids, you don't have much right over what she does with her vagina.
Your duty is to let her know you won't tolerate any form of sexual immorality.
If she fails to abide by that, you send her packing immediately not calling a nurse to finger her.
Please don't try such again.
It's soo soooo wrong!
It's demeaning and embarrassing.
Your sick, get help! That is sexual abuse! What's your problem if she getting fucked? Are you jealous? Leave the girls vagina alone and mind your own!
DeleteYou are a retard, how can you be complaining about your house help when you clearly violated her... You feed her and send her to school is that not what you are supposed to do, is she supposed to starve??? Even animals get fed.... you and that stupid idiot of a nurse should both be arrested.....
DeleteChoi u go regret this narrative o. Lol
Deletemadam you sound aggressive cool down lol learn to handle your maid with iron hand sometimes don't be nice everytime
ReplyDeleteMadam fear God, I kept on saying this any one that has a wicked hrt will not hide it, u are a very wicked woman, only one child u are having house help, it shows how lazy u are, and another person pikin u hit her head on the wall, can u hear yourself? If ur pikin teacher @ school treat ur child that way how will u feel?or if ur child is behaving the way she did will u kill her? Won't u correct her? That money u paid to bring her is paining much, Better send her back from where ever u got her from before u answer to government. U are very lucky that noffn happened to her.
ReplyDeleteWhat is it with Nigerians and the need for a house help?
ReplyDeleteCant you clean and manage your house yourself?
This is all strange to me, especially as you dont actually do anything so I dont see how you warrant a need for house help.
What will Nigerian women do if they all said you to London?...will you all suffer?
we don't have households here and everybody gets on with things.
If you as a human adult can not clean and tidy your space yourself, then you have issues.
Hahahah lol @ anonymous 15:52, from what I have read and concluded the help is just a little gurl acting her age @ poster u just have to exercise some patience and understanding she could be ur sis or child. Just find a better way off communicating and correcting her if that does not work then send her back to avoid stores that touches.
ReplyDeleteBy the way ur hubby goes to wrk, son goes to school wat abt the maid y is she not in school? Sinces u r so nice.
Why not get someone that will come and go. It appears that this girl is so small. Pls send her away and get an elderly woman that comes around 8am n closes 5:30pm. Save yourself this headache.
ReplyDeleteMy dear poster, in this world, we have bad people just as we have good ones. No one is perfect, but inability to take corrections is what I cannot take. Since she is taking you for granted, send her home. Let her go and sleep as much as she likes in her mother's house. It is not easy to train other people's children. Employ a help who can work and go home. Keeping outsiders in house is risky too. Rose
ReplyDeleteLol@ Watching aboki's fight. She must be a small gal.
ReplyDeleteMadam, please do not hit another person's child like that. It is wrong! If you know you will keep hitting her, please send her packing.
ReplyDeleteImagine, my sister cries for her house-help, she is too soft hearted and the girl takes her for granted. The girl comes from a poor home and my sister is taking care of her education. So my sister is a bit reluctant to let her go. Some of these house-helps don't even expect you to rebuke them at all, whereas, my mum rebuked her girls and beat the hell out of us when we were growing.
ReplyDeleteAs for me, I have told myself, when I start having kids and need to get a help. I can't shout, if you give me issues, I will show you the door. If I'm interested in helping you, I can be sending you money or sending you to school but not in my house. Nobody should come and turn me to a shouting monster abeg.
How did your neighbours get to know of what happened? I suggest you get a house help that is a bit older, get the one that would come in the morning and leave in the evening. Whatever needs doing by 5am can be done when she resumes work in the morning. Make sure she is not going about taking to the neighbours. Please stop beating your house help so as not to put your self in trouble.
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Please let her go back to wherever she came from.How can a househelp sleep till 7am even 8am sometimes when is she going to help you nah?Thank God you have been able to settle what happened the last time.Arrange some money for her transport and let her leave cos you can never please them no matter what you do for them.#talkingfromexperience#
ReplyDeleteSince u do most of d things at home, y keeping a house help? U better be careful bcos of them are possess.
ReplyDeleteThe mistake you made is hitting her.
ReplyDeleteDon't ever hit your house help no matter the provocation.
As it is now, you should still be able to cope without one as your son leaves home same time as hubby.
But if you think you can't do without one,tell the agent to give you a replacement and always keep in mind that most house helps gotten mid and late in the year are always rejects from somewhere.
Am sure boys are already calling her, dats why she takes long on errands.
It's well.
"The maids are not to blame"... Can't remember the author now.
ReplyDeleteHonestly this lady doesn't need a house help.
ReplyDeleteJust u,ur son&hubby?right?
Let her go&if need b get a cm&go help. U dnt need her,u re home.Some of these women if Mrs A has a help dat calls dem madam&dey dnt,it seem as if is theirs isn't perfect,dats how u see sm of dem yelling where is my gurl"is my help dere" where is my maid seated?wen dey go outing. Habaaa.
Sorry to deviate but I really need an answer to this question. Dear poster of ulcer cure for in house news today, please should the plantain be cooked before pounding or pounded raw?
ReplyDeletePersonally, carrying out any form of corporal punishment on someone else's child is a major No! No! In my books. I've seen too many cases where what seemed like a "mild" punishment, at the time, turned pretty ugly and in some cases, fatal. Suddenly the "executioner" is faced with serious criminal charges and all the cries and explanations become moot after the fact. When my angels get naughty, I give them a spanking on their butts or withdraw certain privileges. But that's just me, feel free to discipline YOUR kids as you deem fit, but please don't throw caution to the winds when dealing with someone else's child(ren).
ReplyDeleteSweetie, I hope you realise the effects of making a child assume a position where the head points downwards causing blood to flow to the head due to gravity and the body weight is supported by only one leg and a finger? Children in this generation do not possess the stamina of the children in the 80's or 90's. A lot has changed. Too many toxic stuff and chemicals in their food, drinks and even the environment generally. That you survived such punishments in your time isn't a guarantee that kids now can cope with same. You've already inflicted injury on your help unintentionally, what if she fractured her skull when she hit the wall? Do you think you can easily explain it away?
Perhaps, in trying to be nice and making her feel at home, you blurred the boundaries and ended up spoiling her. You know what they say about good intentions and the road to hell. Please send her back to wherever she came from. The minute your staff becomes unruly to the point where you feel compelled to vent physically, that's a perfect time to send them on their merry way before you maim someone else's child or worse. Keeping her around isn't even safe, she can plot her revenge and take it out on your kids or even you or your hubby. I remember a case I handled where a 16 year old househelp used the toothbrushes of the kids to wash the toilets and returned the brushes back to the original place. She kept doing this till the 3 kids became violently ill. It was horrible!!! You'll be amazed at how treacherous an aggrieved help can be. Please dearie, apply wisdom.
Madam u hit her head against the wall...? U re a nuisance... Aja lo ma Je oju omo e... Wicked soul... U will rot in d pit of hell.. .... She -goat
ReplyDeleteSorry to deviate but I really need an answer to this question. Dear poster of ulcer cure for in house news today, please should the plantain be cooked before pounding or pounded raw?
ReplyDeleteHabba Jolly Saft Habba. But how you go dei ask dis kin qweshion?Lol. Do you pound your yams raw while making pounded yam? Oya apply the same principle. Bless
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ReplyDeleteIgnore all these people saying you are wicked. You are not wicked. Frustrated, yes, and for good reason. I understand ur plight coz i've been there. Some people just have hot tempers and low tolerance for insolence.
Most people here have not seen house helps from hell. How dare you tell ur madam you were watching a fight when u were sent to buy sth? It's intolerable pls. The girl deserves punishment.
What is wrong with waking up at 5, when the kids have to be ready for school by 7? Some pple sef.
After my mum died, we brought in nannies for our 2 yr-old-twin boys. Since then, we've had more than 10 house helps.
All the nasty things they did is a story for another day.
These girls will provoke you to do what you won't do on a normal day.
So pls, be patient with her till the end of this March after which you should replace her.
With the next one, refrain from physical punishment that can injure or cause grievous bodily harm. You can mete other punishment like withholding their allowance and stuff like that. If they remain stubborn, keep changing them till you find one that clicks or you resort to hiring someone who'll come and go.
Having a help is not a crime, whether you can do the work or not. Many of these girls come from very poor homes and we help them by hiring them. Let them go and stay with their parents or guardians now, since they don't want to work nor be corrected when they misbehave.
The bashing on this narrator is too much Kwa! Look at all of them talking as if they won't and don't do worst! Those abusing her if she was her child? I want to ask you, will her own child behave like the maid? Would you disobey your own boss that is paying you your monthly salary? Let us stop whipping up sentiments and know that this is a work relationship! If she wants to send her to school, let the maid earn her trust! Is it beans to pay school fees or you are suggesting she takes her to the run down public school? Please be real people! Most of you grew up with maids that didn't go to school or learn a trade!
ReplyDeleteWell, just as many of you are saying she was acting her age, the narrator also acted out of anger! Nobody is above mistake! Narrator, you better send her away asap! Forget the money! The days you go to work, make an arrangement for who to pick your son from school until you come back from work.
This is CHILD LABOR & CHILD ABUSE. How old is the househelp? You are maltreating this kid. Why do you have to beat?
ReplyDeleteWe need stronger labor and child protection laws that are enforced.
Madam poster,I dnt believe U. 99% of women DO NOT take care of other people's children like their own,only very few barren women do.
ReplyDeleteFirst,U are lazy,with a kid,U shld be able to cope,even two kids,wake early,prepare dem,then,prePare breakfast,have sm1 that comes to clean and goes.
Even if its a relative U hv living with u, u will still hit her. Pls stop painting Ursef like Angel joor,U are no saint,send her bk to her home.
Madam poster,I dnt believe U. 99% of women DO NOT take care of other people's children like their own,only very few barren women do.
ReplyDeleteFirst,U are lazy,with a kid,U shld be able to cope,even two kids,wake early,prepare dem,then,prePare breakfast,have sm1 that comes to clean and goes.
Even if its a relative U hv living with u, u will still hit her. Pls stop painting Ursef like Angel joor,U are no saint,send her bk to her home.
U and your nurse are very stupid to do that. insert fingers into your househelp vjay, may God help the two of you.
ReplyDeleteif you suspect she is sleeping, the best you can do is to send her away before she becomes pregnant or even get HIV because it does not show on faces.
stop fingering little girls abi you be lesbian.