NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN IN A RELATIONSHIP
Hi Stella, this is my chronicle...
I've been dating this guy for sometime now, and I did love him, but now I want to end the relationship because somehow the love is lost, it's been replaced by fear....fear of what he's capable of doing. I guess i am still in this relationship with him because he can be suicidal. Anytime we have an argument he falls terribly ill.
The last time he almost lost his life cos he was thinking, if not for his neighbours that checked up on him he would have been gone. There are times where he was almost knocked down, or he fell into a ditch. This one don pass me. It's like I'm being forced to stay in the relationship with him because I don't want anything bad to happen to him.
Because I've not been responding to him as before cos the love has waned, he went silent on me and I didn't disturb him cos I thought that would help, but he resurfaced after sometime telling me how he's been ill, and that if anything happens to him, his blood will be on my head, that his spirit is very bitter and angry with me....
How do you say such to another person? I want to break up with him, I really do but I don't want to be the cause of anybody's catastrophy. How do i do this and make him understand or minimize the effect? Please post for your readers to give me advice not bashing
SHUO!!!!...This wan na ozeba oh...
Make i siddon look comment oh,this wan na fish bone when hang throat.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
BABY MAMA BAGGAGE AND AN EX WHO LINGERS.
Hi Stella,
Please help me post this mail I need our good hearted BVS to talk sense into my friend's head.
So I have this friend who's been dating this guy for some years (not sure of how long but its been over 3yrs) this guy has ticked all the wrong boxes of what a man should be, starting from squatting with her to borrowing and never paying back, treats her like dirt, womanises, has a baby mama and everything bad you can think of.
I had always advised her to leave him but she kept giving excuses for him, at some point they broke up (I was so happy ) Recently she told me a story of how something went wrong between them and he told his mum and she started abusing my friend and it involved both parents and all that and I was like why channel so much emotional energy into an Exs' matter?.
I talked more sense into her then she dropped the bombshell that they have a child together (we don't live in the same country so I didn't know)
I have been advising her to get her life back and move on not withstanding the baby, she can't subject herself to a miserable life becos she doesn't want to be a baby mama. She keeps making lots of excuses for him that he's trying to get better and bla bla (meanwhile he beat her when she was preggy) doesnt keep in touch with her and the baby, she hasn't seen nor heard from him in months, people always tell her of how they see him in the club with different girls.
I really don't know the kind of jazz he has on her or my friend is just been s***y
I told her to give him space and get closer to God coz in Him she will find strength.
I told her about this blog and the wonderful bvs and that I was going to send her story here and send her the link. My fellow bvs I need you guys to help me talk sense into her head, I can't watch my friend destroy her life just because she had a baby.
Hmmmm.....let me read comments abi na advice ooooooo
poster 1:nigga is looking for pity party.if u break up with him ,come back 10 yrs after he will not die.My point is u av tied urse;f up in sympathy for a man and yet u aint moving forward.if suicide is that fun when u leave he shud try it,and no u r not the cause of his illness, problems or death.He is just a boy refusing to man up
ReplyDeleteposter 2:i usually advice ladies,when u have a friend who intends to be buried on a mans matter allow her,so long uv played ur part.It wont be long the regrets will roll in and she will remember u.So kindly stop d talking.
Poster2 Can you please mind your business? You might think you're advising your friend but honestly in matters of love its better not to interfere. You love your friend alright, since you've advised her and she's not listening leave her alone before them use you settle! Mind your business
DeletePoster1 why is your bf suicidal? Why not try to find out the main reason why he is and help him get through it, instead of thinking of running away from him? Did he lose his job?lost a loved one? People don't just get depressed there's always an underlying reason. Try to help him out.
DeletePoster One: Valar Morgulis
DeletePoster Two: tell your friend, she owes her son the sanity of a responsible childhood. Ask her this, does she want her son to be that kind of man. If she does, let her stay, if she wants her son to be a loving, respectful, patient and responsible man...she better send that guy "To the left
@poster 1 too much home video is disturbing yiur guy..pls take a walk.
DeleteSo many issues, God will grant the two persons involved in this narrative the wisdom they need to go on with life.yours sdkly dazzlinglizzy
ReplyDeletePoster 1; u re dating a psychiatric patient..its nt evn abt u,dt dude is sick
DeleteHian!!!
ReplyDeleteOk....
Later Guys!!!
P1, U know him better, if he's TRULY suicidal, don't leave him at once like bvs advice, make it a gradual process. Bcos, he myt change his orientation of killin himself and kill U instead, he myt be drinkin wt a frd and he explains his relationship tellin his frd "omo, if that babe leave me I go kill myself" the frd will say "U be mumu o" jokingly, why U wan kill urself cos of woman, wey dem yapa everywhere,if na me, I rather kill the gal.
DeleteFrom there the brain settings go change. If really he can do it, he will jus kill U jus like silverbed Aisha. Na play I dey play oooo! But e fit happen sha.
P1 does ur bf has a good job?
ReplyDeleteIf he has a job, he won't be suicidal.
Plus d love is lost cos another maga is spermatizing u abi? Lol (joking)
Anyway if u wanna go, go.
Don't stay outa pity.
If he wants to visit Amy winehouse,give him TP.
Lol.
P2..leave dat ur friend..
She has a penchant for pain.
Tell her that,
The thing that killed mother hen is nearby to make sure d chicks don't open their eyes.
Chaii, BB, I respect you I swear. Your mouth na die. Am a fan for real.
DeletePoster 1 & 2, you both are suffering from emotional blackmail from your boyfriends.
ReplyDeleteMy advice for you both is... being single is smarter than being in the wrong relationship.
Gbam
DeletePoster 1,
ReplyDeleteThat's how broke ass niggas behave...give a guy his calls to answer and he will stop disturbing your life...trust me,nothing will happen to him....
It's not you leaving him is making him sick...am sure it's cos of the poverty wey dey wire him dey make him sick...
Poster 2,
My mtcheeeewwwww ....I don't waste my advise on some useless people like your friend....let her continue deceiving her self...
Please let her be jare afterall it's her life or is the story yours????....
Lmfao @poverty wey dey wire him dey make him sick
DeletePoster 2: I will leave d floor for other bv's to advice her. I don't waste my advice on people who clearly do not want good things. If she did appreciate good things she would have Usain bolted from that situationship before even getting preggers
ReplyDeletePoster 1: how in hell do people meet and date such lily livered pussy men? Like wtf!?!
He wants to kill himself? By all means let him be. Pls send him the link of this post so by the time he has read all the comments today he will finally hang himself. And forget all that talk of blood being on your head. It only works in films and novels
Poster 1, your matter is simple....relocate if u can....or stay with some friends for a while. ..away from where he knows you stay. And change your phone number while at it....do this for atleast 3mnths. Lets see if he will live or die within that period.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, na your friend hold herself. U have troed with the series of advices. The best you can do now is pray for her.
relocate kwa?? Change phone number bawo?? Poster 1 you will just end up losing important calls if u do this.... Bcos of one yeye weak boy, Pls don't try it.
DeleteKadybia forgive me, I know its ur opinion and e nor concern me but I couldn't help it.
a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
ReplyDelete.
One: yu dont love this guy and yet yu are still sticking around bcos yu felt sorry for his condition.... If yu knw what is better for yu leave that psycho or else yu regret it...
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Two: ur frnd is inlove lmaooo.....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
POSTER1....leave that relationship! damn the consequenses ...what nonsense? is it by force to love or be in a relationship with someone you dont love? Pls leave that pitiful relationship...He wont die and if he should then RIP... How do u blackmail people into loving you? Or do you guys have some kinda convenant thingy going on?
ReplyDeletePOSTER2 ...One thing i have realised is that 'love' like that is hard to break.... Your friend is keen on that relatuonship not bcos of that.child alone...but she is kinda hoping he will change and she doesnt want to be found wanting when he does... Madam...men like that rarely change... take charge of your life!
p.s..You have control over how u feel always...any time i see people write sob stories of how they cant let go...i begin to wonder if i live in a.different planet.. Always put ur self in a position where you can easily leave if d feelings changes! Ladies use ur heads pls!...Stop putting all ur life into ur relationships! Have a life outside it! Dont let relationship validate u! okbye!
This is funny@D guy na monitoring spirit I go call am.If you have genuine reason to break up with him then do bcos the worst thing is to be with anyone with pity ,pple like na really monitoring spirit d best thing na to stop to give d guy attention, give him excuses, I tell you with time no be person go tell am to go.@poster 2. Your friend is j7s thinking of wat pple will say, if she will get a chance with anoda, and self pity. I will tell you something sweethrt Nobody treats you like a queen unless you tell yoursef your one. having a child is not a barrier, bcos it is a gift.The most important thing is you been ready to stand tall putting that guy behind you and move forward.if not old aga go quick catch you.
DeleteLmaoooooooo. Sob stories? Well you guys are better internet warriors and blog badooos many of you have it worse in real life but come up here to form hard. Poster 1. You guy is either blackmailing you into a relationship or he is really psychotically obsessed with you. Like one comment read it can turn on you fast. Emotionally unstable fellows like that would end up hurting you directly or indirectly. It would be if I can't have her no other person can. Take a hike babe. Don't break up with him. Runnnnnnn! Poster 2: she knows she's scared of being lonely. The thought of having a man no matter how sick makes her feel wanted.
DeletePoster 1.hmmm dis guy na bone 4 ur neck o.why dnt u luv him again?As it is my dear u no fit leave am o make e no go commit suicide.if u dnt like sum tins abt him u can make him a better person.
ReplyDeleteWhat nonsense r u talking abt..is she married to him or what.so she shld b decieving herself and b miserable cos of someone treat..let him kill himself now..psheew.love is not selfish and not by force..
DeletePoster 1
ReplyDeleteAbeg DUMP him jare; note that my dump is in capital letters. You cannot be in a relationship because you pity your partner na. BTW what does he mean by "his blood will be on your head" you carry knife kill am?? mtchwwwww. I hate such kinds of pitiful guyz.
Poster 2
Your friends life will be even more miserable if she stays with that guy, it might be a hard decision but Let her leave with her baby, the guy doesnt deserve her at all. Any man who beats his woman is a BEAST. cant deal!!!
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ReplyDeleteYour friend need Jesus
@Galore
Poster 1: pls try and talk with his parents to intervene cos you know if you break up with him like this he would do something bad to himself!!! Just say you are hooked with this one!!! May God guide you through this path!!
ReplyDeletePoster 2: it's a different game if a 3rd party reports this.... just like a post said the wife and husband view varied!!! So am guessing this is what you understand cos of what she told you and you were not in the country....
P1: This burden is too heavy for you to bear. How did this guy live before he met you? Maybe you should relocate & change all your contact details that he knows. If not, soon he would kill you & may(or not) kill himself. Obsession is so sick & the end is always unpredictable. Creepy!
ReplyDeleteP2: Love is a beautiful thing! I doubt if ur friend can ever leave the guy. For this kind of people, something disastrous has to happen for their brains to do a hard reset. So my dear, let her experience it herself...I hope you are still in one piece after it's all over.
Hawt Mrs nki gbogbo yin o.
Kisses.
Poster 1,
ReplyDeleteYour guy is just and Emotional blackmailer.
Fleeeee!
I bet you he won't die.
Forget the suicidal drama, all na wash.
His type turn into violent husbands in the future.
Be warned.
BTW subtly suggest he checks into Yaba left.
I think he needs to visit there...
Never date anyone out of pity.
YOLO
Good luck.
Poster 2,
I don't know what to say here oh...
I'm not coordinated at all right now.
Hopefully other BVs will have a good advice for your friend.
Thanks for looking out for your friend.
You are a rare gem.
God bless you and yours,Amen.
This story reminds me of tony and prinkles abi na rinkles susidal love story.poster one, dump that boy abeg
DeleteLmao@subtly...
DeleteThe guy falls into gutters thinking of you??
Can't Deal!
Lol@ subtly suggest he checks into yaba left lol
DeletePoster1.tell him you are going to London,change your number.you can get a UK line that works in 9ja use it to call him and see if it will work.with time he might get his mind off u.. Poster2.its not jazz abeg
ReplyDeleteHmmmm na wa ooo. Make I siddion and watch as d comments roll in
ReplyDeletePoster 1....I hate weak people..whats d difference between u and d guy? U are afraid he might kill himself when u leave? Get out from dat emotional blackmailer..Dont stay ina relationship out of pity..Let him kill himself..If he dies bcos of woman nothing go happen..Heaven will not fall and life goes on.Let him go and relocate bcos dat kind of person can kill..do it faaast..
ReplyDeleteMy immediate younger sister's ex boyfriend once called me(when they were dating), dat he broke up with my sister and she threatened to kill herself..i told him to maintain his stand and allow her to kill herself dat my family will be happy to carry her corpse and bury...though they later made of after sometimes but my sis did not kill herself..
She is getting married dis easter to another dude she met last year and dis guy she threatened kill herself over is d one threatening to kills himself and calling my sister's husband threatening him to leave his girlfriend alone..
I bumped into d guy last week and asked him why he hasnt killed himself yet?? He hissed and walkd away..
D fact is dat they wont have d mind to kill themselves but if they do,R.I.P to dem.
Dnt talk like that, d babe is scared bcos d dude is showin signs...it will be a gradual process, if I was ur broda, u'd be beggin d girl cos u wudnt wnt 2 watch him die!!!!
DeleteDnt talk like that, d babe is scared bcos d dude is showin signs...it will be a gradual process, if I was ur broda, u'd be beggin d girl cos u wudnt wnt 2 watch him die!!!!
DeleteLmao Chizoba. 1 million likes
DeleteBabe,what is happening with your Blog ID?? Seeing conflicting comments and different pictures???
DeleteIts been awile iphie dearie.still in need of ur email jst need sme1 to talk to and back den ur words were quiet encouraging
DeleteIphie dearie, I think she's gat an impersonator....some people nor just get work.
Delete@Iphie....My google acct has almost 59,000 views..daz d difference..Just click it open and confirm...as for d impersonator,she will soon get tired.
Delete@ Iphie someone cloned her blog I'd oh.
Delete@d original chizoba, I don go view ur profile cos of all this gbege......chai u are beautiful!!! Hope you are from Anambra. Ooooooo???
DeleteNarrative 1- talk to God.
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2( aka busy body)- tell ur friend to talk to God.
Lool ...Stella u must enjoy me ...
To poster 1 u don't stay in a relationship out of pity it makes both you and your partner miserable. Call him abd talk to him tell him that u are leaving cos a relationship should be built on love and not pity and my dear after that don't look back oo. Leave him for real he will not kill himself.
DeletePoster 2, u av a low self esteem dts y...being a baby mama won't make u any less a human being...I'm very sure d guy has been maltreatin u even b4 u had d baby...dnt make one mistake twice...walk out of d relatnship flipin ur weaves!!!
DeletePoster numerous uno. Please leave that guy he is psychological ill.
ReplyDeletePoster 2. He abuses you and you still with him..wtf. He doesn't take care of the baby and you still with him.. Is that love or you have given yourself a death sentence. Bcos very soon he will go get HIV from somewhere and infect you with it and guess what you will die faster than he will bcos emotional you will be down nd lose the will to live( I have seen it happen)..
Why are you subjecting yourself to sorrow.. You better get out right now before you become the architect of your own death. RUNAWAY from that beast ..
I still don't understand why some ladies prefer to suffer in a relationship instead of getting out.
Poster 1, you're not ready to live. What spirit is bitter and angry? All these chewing gum boys sef. Mschewww.
ReplyDelete*****leave***
DeleteIt is well ooh
ReplyDeletePoster 1. Your story got me laughing o.
ReplyDeleteYou are obviously just sticking around out of pity. Please wait till he is with family, maybe Easter break, when he travels, then break up with him.
Inukwa akuko.
How i detest weak men.
Poster 2, Friend. Grab a seat.
You go hear advice today.
P.S. Miss Glo, i have sent you a mail dear.
My Jamb score is 235. I applied for international relations in Delsu, but now I want to change to law. I'll buy change of course form, but what are the chances I'll get admitted for law if I do well in their post utme? Please I need advise.
ReplyDeleteMake up ur mind first...u r nt likely 2 get any sha...goodlk
DeleteMake up ur mind first...u r nt likely 2 get any sha...goodlk
DeleteInternational relations is not bad as well. What you can do is start with your international relations then write another jamb next year and apply to read law if you get admitted then you can move. ( that's what i did. Am a lawyer. Graduated in 2008) whatever decision you take anyway I wish you the best. SDKxxoo
DeleteN1 free that man quick and fast! What nonsense is that? He should be able to deal with the breakup.dont be cajoled into staying longer in a relationship you don't wanna be in. You are doing him more harm than good because you'd eventually leave and he'd take it bad...the earlier you bounce the better
ReplyDeleteN2 how about u mind ur fuckin business?? Damnnn How is it ur concern how or who ur friend chose to be with? Experience they say is the best teacher. Let her learn thru experience what's good or bad for her...free her yo! You don talk ur own let her be! That's all
Dnt officially break up with him although its only a suicidal person dt wud kill himself bcos of a girl....just keep him @ arms lenght, look for xcuses 2 be far away frm him
DeleteDnt officially break up with him although its only a suicidal person dt wud kill himself bcos of a girl....just keep him @ arms lenght, look for xcuses 2 be far away frm him
DeleteStud, free the BOY you mean???
DeleteHmmmm
ReplyDelete@poster 1, Does he have any mental issue such as depression he is battling ??
DeleteIf you want to opt out of the relationship please do but inform a close friend or his family on his recent behavior tending towards suicide.
@ Poster 2, this your friend self her matter tire me sote I knack am for pidgin!! Women please we don't need a male specie to validate our existence. Please ask her what vision or plans does she have for herself ? When does she want to actualize it? How ? And where does she see herself in five years time , with or without the said boyfriend !!
Ladies ladies ladies know your worth please !!! If only we all know how price less we are which could be referred to in proverbs 18:22 { The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favour from the lord "NLT version " }.Emphasis on "treasure" that's how priceless we are as women !! Best wishes and I pray your aforementioned friend finds her purpose in life !!
Poster 1 ... your boyfriend is maniac. you dont need to fear if he dies. just want you to continue being with him. am sure you are the one feeding him. lazy men everywhere.
ReplyDeleteposter 2 ... your friend is behaving like a village girl. am sure she went to the university. there are single mothers everywhere and doing well for themselves. must be in a relationship by fire by force. she should leave the guy and package herself well.. she will meet the right guy.
so make i still wait for more comments
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ReplyDeleteGo to shoprite and buy cake and card,send sm1 to deliver sharp sharp na. Time frame too slim,d response u willl get here will not be as fast
DeleteI am not in Nigeria.
DeletePoster 1 - the truth is his madly into you ,the best way to break from such relationship is to change location
ReplyDeletePoster 2 -
Your friend is sitting on a lontin.broke as men i hate them like snake
Poster1 you are dating a lunatic,he is psychologically disturb is that the type of man you want to spend your life with,call me heartless or anything,but I don't give a fuck about this type of things
ReplyDeletePoster2 I don't what to advise your friend,am sure have been talking to her before now
Poster 1-you sound young. Leave him! Nothing will happen to him. He is trying to blackmail you and he keeps doingoit cos it is working.
ReplyDeleteposter 2-your friend will have to decide on her own. Just keep being a friend and support her when it happens. We all know that relationship will end cos it will never be better
Narrative 1
ReplyDeleteWhat makes you think that you obsessed boyfriend will not die when you leave him? Na wa for some people sha.
Really do not know what to advice but his attitude is really not healthy for the relationship
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Na sit don look I dey too. Posters we wanna hear the other persons chronicle. Let's be sure.
ReplyDelete1] A na akosasi..
ReplyDeleteMana afuro onye akolu..
Nne I no kwa n'ofe. Better leave that mumu make em die, go and marry before you turn to Aunty gwegwegwe lolzz
2] That your friend be correct mumu
Some babes can be stupid sha oo...nywaz u don try for her. It's time you keep your mouth shut!! I nugo nwanyi oma
Poster 1
ReplyDeleteI think he's manipulating you and acting as if HE is the victim!Tell him(on the phone) that you don't want to date him anymore.Am advicing you to break up with him on the phone because if you break up with him while looking at him,he will give you a sick look and you will take him back.Am assuring you that he won't die(he didn't die when you left him earlier),even if he dies,his blood won't be on your head!
Na by force?Pls stay away from him and get busy with yourself.Mtchewwwwww
Poster 2
That guy did no Jazz on your friend,she's just been blind and stupid at thesame time.She has a very low self esteem and that guy is using it to manipulate her.
She has decided to be in a shitty relationship,pls let her be and focus on yourself....don't try to live her life for her.All you need to do is to pray for her to realise her mistakes now and she doesn't die prematurely because of him!smh
P1, you don enter am, this one love you finish no be mouth. P2, your friends love is blind and wearing dark shades join. Until she hears or the guy tells her that he's married maybe the scale will fall off her eyes.
ReplyDeleteAProko
ReplyDeleteLeave your friend to face reality
Your friend is a second hand and frankly no man in Nigeria will manage her that's why she's holding strongly to the one available.
Let her suffer,it's her destiny.
You,mind your business and face your work
Alika 7 up
HHahahahhaha na rily let her suffer it's her destiny lol
Delete@poster 1, COME ON WILL YOU CARRYING YOUR TWO LEFT LEGS AND GET OUT OF THERE!!! ARE YOU CRAZY OR WHAT? YOU DON'T WANT ANYTHING TO HAPPY TO HIM AND SO?? ARE YOU HIS MOTHER OR SISTER? OH, SO YOU NO KNOW SAY AS NA ONLY YOU WAKA COME, NA SO ONLY YOU SUPPOSE WAKA GO? MBA, STAY THERE, JOIN BODY WITH DESTINY KILLER AND BE DOING ELIZA-NURSE WORK, ! ONYE APARI!!
ReplyDeleteWhy type in capital letter na. It gives headache
DeleteEka Joy, it's the best I can do since I can't give her the slap she deserves for being a stupid girl.
DeleteSerious headech
Delete@poster 1, COME ON WILL YOU CARRYING YOUR TWO LEFT LEGS AND GET OUT OF THERE!!! ARE YOU CRAZY OR WHAT? YOU DON'T WANT ANYTHING TO HAPPY TO HIM AND SO?? ARE YOU HIS MOTHER OR SISTER? OH, SO YOU NO KNOW SAY AS NA ONLY YOU WAKA COME, NA SO ONLY YOU SUPPOSE WAKA GO? MBA, STAY THERE, JOIN BODY WITH DESTINY KILLER AND BE DOING ELIZA-NURSE WORK, ! ONYE APARI!!
ReplyDeletePoster 1: your bf remind me of my ex... It may seem harsh but I think he's bipolar. My ex told me he would hang himself if I left him.. He's currently engaged to someone else although he still calls me often (I don't answer) the point im making is.. I left and he's still alive. Don't allow any man to manipulate you and force you to stay when you're not happy. Pray to God to heal him and give him comfort. Write him a letter and explain exactly how you feel and why you're leaving him and cut your loses with him. No contact. It will be better in the long run coz you will both end up finding people that you truly love. Trust me you're doing him no favours by staying knowing you don't love him. You just have to do the right thing and that's walk away. In time he will heal... Just pray for him and yourself. Good luck x
ReplyDeletePoster 2: please advice your friend to buy self help books about self love and tell her to pray. This man doesn't deserve her ONE BIT! I know so many single mum's that are doing incredibly well.. She's not the first and won't be the last! It's better to have your self respect and dignity and stay single then to have a man that disrespects you and makes you look like a joke to everyone. That's not worth it! God did not die on the cross of Calvary for any woman to be second choice!
For the sake of that child... Tell your friend to WALK! It's not fair on that child to be raised in a dysfunctional home.. It will affect the baby later. It's better to be raised by one parent that loves you then two parents that can't stand each other and fight everyday. God will give her a perfect man... Good luck
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DeletePoster one: That ur boyfriend is not serious...its only broke guys dat like to commit suicide on top girls mata. When he is made now,he won't even remember there is someone like u. He should go hustle and and make money. When he is made now,even u sef,no go wan leave am again...cos I am sensing u wanna leave cos d guy no hold. So forget that one.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: I don't even know what to say abt ur case. I guess ur friend wants to learn d hard way by the time he infects her with disease.where did she even meet this kind of leech? And a baby is involved. Nawa oooo
Lmaooo ur blog id. Hahahahahahaha... Chai. U sdk people won't kill me
Deletelove turn sour is the major problem from the two relationship.THE FIRST LADY SHOULD TOTALLY Leave THE GUY BECAUSE THE GUY IS DECEIVING HER . YOU DON'T LOVE HIM AND YOU ARE FEELING PITY FOR HIM AT THE DETRIMENT OF YOURSELF.......FOR THE SECOND THE GIRL(baby mama) SHE TOTALLY NEED TO LEAVE THE GUY BEFORE SHE SEE HER SELF IN THE EARLY GRAVE..........LOVE IS GOOD WHEN TRUE EMOTIONS IS IN THE RELATIONSHIP -PST.CHEKELEKE
ReplyDeleteThis thing called love ehn......
ReplyDeleteposter one, Nne abeg leave his sorry ass. which kin nonsense be that. his spirit is angry Ewu, no be only spirit.
ReplyDeleteplease aunty stella i want to send in my chronicles too but the email i sent it to always bounce it back. please help me with the valid email address. thank you .
ReplyDeletePost 1:
Please dump the guy, if he kills himself his blood will be on his own head not yours. He needs a doctor right now not a relationship. You deserve to be happy and you deserve a beautiful relationship. in the future stay away from PSYCHOS. Lastly don't rush into any relationship after this give yourself some pampering and plenty alone time, just loving yourself. SEVERE the relationship FAST.
Second Post: Having a baby out of wedlock does not mean the woman is valueless. Please take your baby and yourself out of that horrible situation and get your life back. Incase in the future you want to remarry I guarantee you there are men out who will treat you like a princess. You need to act fast because the more you stay in the relationship the more you emotionally damage yourself. Please Please you do not deserve to be treated like trash.
Felix GEE
Poster 1, leave him already but make sure you are prayerful! His spirit can do nothing, I mean nothing so long as God is on your side!
ReplyDelete@Poster 2, they are frying garri with your friend's brain, if not she would have moved on. How can a man be all that and she is holding on, chim o! @poster's friend, biko, joor, abeg, move on and cling to God like poster said. Your ex is useless biko!
Poster 1: I think he needs psychological help
ReplyDeleteposter 2: run as fast as you can - the signs are there
Poster 1: which kind emotional blackmail be that? If u r not happy in the relationship, pls take a walk. Do not let urself be blackmailed into being in a relationship u r not okay with. After forming his illness, he will get better.to think that he even swore for u shld let u know that he is a bitter person. Beta usain bolt out of that situationship.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: ur friend just has low self esteem. Y would she still be rooting for a man that treats her like shit. Having a child together with the man shldn't make her love herself less. She shld start planning for herself and her child and forget about the man. She doesn't need to run after him cos the man will definitely come on his kness to her if she becomes successful.
Poster 1. Hmmmmmmm I think he is trying to blackmail u into staying in the relationship. Since de love is gone ( true love never dies anyway), make up ur mind and walk away instead of wasting ur time with someone u don't love just becos he claims he'll kill himself. All na wash!!! Naija guys hardly commit sucide ontop woman matter (just a few sha). U mustn't break up with him verbally, do it with ur actions. Don't call
ReplyDeleteDon't txt just ignore him. If possible leave town, change ur number. Wateva u do, be very careful cos he may want to hurt u. De Lord is ur strength.
ReplyDeleteI 'yam' on comment sabbatical till Madam Millionaire and Poster Obodo Oyibo of Monday's Chronicles. No vex.
Ayeesha
Show women love, dem go complain, no show love another complain. .....@poster1 dat kind of love is wat I wish for. A man who can't live without me!
ReplyDelete@poster2.... some girls think dey can change a man by by turning dem into baby daddy. Forgetting dat dey wi be d one to carry d baby for 9 months and still continue with d responsibilities, y boyfriend go dey enjoy dey go..... let ur friend die untop d baby daddy. ..
Narrative 2 this is your life story,u are just pretending as if it's ur frd dat is involved.
ReplyDeleteHmmm, abeg make i follow Stella read comment.
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Poster 2. Maybe ur friends needs to learn de hard way. I trust my fellow Bvs, dey will take her bak to her default setting.
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Poster1, he said his blood would be on ur head lol, which yeye blood ? Na better blood ?.. His spirit is bitter ? Abeg live that guy if he wants to die then let him be na shuooo! Poster 2, no advice for ur friend, she loves suffering so let her continue
ReplyDeletePostet1 ur case nor be here ohhh,poster2, gurl u need pick d remaining of ur life up and wake away ohhhh
ReplyDelete********LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*********
Poster one leave him joor that was how my ex was.... I finally left him n nw he is still very much alive wt a new gf sef, his own was even worse then he wud send me a text dat he wants to kill himself n switch off his fone...it wasn't easy Bt after we broke up barely 2months he had a new boo n even sent me her pics n insulted me...dnt leave at once jst giv him som signs like nt calling him n all dat before u finally move on
ReplyDeleteAt poster two dat ur gf is has esteem issues, she never see anything make she dey linger on there wt one yeye dude wen there are a hundred n one guys out there...babe wake up from ur slumber it's nt easy Bt it's worth it....take a bold step
Poster one, just tey and break up with him as gently as you can. If he decides to kill himself, Na im own saka be that. But that guy sure needs help. Serious psychological evaluation.
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2.... your friend is only trying to kill herself before her appointed time. same thing happened to my cousin who has a baby for a man who has nothing doing and has no intention of getting anything doing anytime soon. It is pathetic watching people you love ridicule themselves and reduce themselves to minus zero (-0) all because of a man or because they are trying to avoid the babymama stigma.
ReplyDeleteMy advice to young girls remains.... you ve already made a mistake bringing in a child into that toxic relationship. dont compound issues by staying with a man who will NOT add to your destiny. It's best you move on with your life and try to make something good out of what's left of it.
Na wa. It is well.
ReplyDelete1. He is doing all that rubbish coz he knows you are always around to see him die. You need to get out of there fast. Tell him you're going to see an aunt, move to a place he can never find you. Don't take his calls or msg infact change your lines. Make sure nobody tells him where you're staying. But if you can't run away for a short while then report him to his people ASAP. Relationship is not by force. Safe your energy for when you have your kids and stop pampering a grown ass man.
ReplyDelete2.Hmmm......l believe people should be allowed to live their lives. But your friend seems like she is still sticking with the baby daddy coz of financial issues. I've you tried giving her some money to start up something. I think she lacks independence.
Poster one, that guy is a paapi water o...
ReplyDeletePoster two, why do women always make excuses for their failed men? I give up.
poster one, i really dont knw wht to say concerning ur predicament. is he sickly normally or u r d owner of his sick button? anyways maybe u shld try gradual withdrawal.
ReplyDeleteposter2: i dont understand y ur friend has decided to hitch a ride with a driver dt is not only a dangerous one, but not willing to give her a ride. na by force? obviously she is just forcing herslf on d man. her eye go clear wen he gets married.
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This is it. She thought to herself.
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Poster 1 please tread softly cos its a dicey situation already.if possible involve his family or any of his relations he is close to,let them know you re no longer keen on going out with him and Please make them see reasons with you. This type of obsession is capable of ruining you.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 love Nti ike,so unfortunate that your friend is being abused and she prefers to stay in an abusive relationship,making excuses for him. Is that guy the most handsome in this world?( Even if he is) what is her problem? My dear please think of your child and make a U- turn today.
If you die in that relationship or something bad happens to you,know that you ve wronged your child. Please leave that relationship today and do something meaningful with your life,being a baby mama is not the end of the world.
Poster 2.choi exactly what am pasing thru with my so called baby daddy..I am so tired of forgiving the unrepentant flirt,,I want to move on..but I can't .The guy wouldn't let me be.how do I cut him off from my life totally?
ReplyDeleteBy cutting him off,simple. Some people just want to eat their cake and have it
DeleteYou still clinging to him because of your baby I guess?? Get a job, no matter how little d pay is, that's the first step. It might b hard in the beginning but in long run, u will be happy you did. Wish u well dear
Delete@poster1 : he needs help but at the same time you need to run 4 your life.
ReplyDelete@poster2 : your friend should continue giving excuses until she sees herself @cross road
Lol. Chizoba you just made me laugh with your narrative. You are just funny.
ReplyDeleteposter 1: the Lord is your strength
ReplyDeleteposter 2: the Lord is thy strength
all this anonymous. you are begging for a cake for your sister that gave birth and you are still asking us to drop our mail. seems your head no correct at all.
ReplyDeleteare you not suppose to drop urs or you are among those that abuse people here on this blog
Narr1...Do not be blackmailed into staying in that relationship,be strong and end it. trust me,nothing would happen to that dude. All those crap about him falling sick or killing himself are all his gimmicks to keep you in that relationship. There are some decisions you take in life to hurt someone else for you to be a better person. Narr2. That your friend abi na sis is headed for destruction,if she has refused to take your advice,let her be. Experience is the best teacher.
ReplyDeleteOloshi bastard pikin like u!!!
DeleteOkija wife, Chi Exotic's impersonator insulted you, noit this Chi Exotic up there. Na wah o, it's now a season of impersonation.
DeleteOkija wife, Chi Exotic's impersonator insulted you, noit this Chi Exotic up there. Na wah o, it's now a season of impersonation.
DeleteP1:Shuo Stella which one is ozeba....this poster is dating a boy ,secondary school love. So so easy to tell a guy off one simply ignore his call and dont see him , asking BV on what to do tells you aint sure of your decision.Leave eh and nothing will happen.
ReplyDeleteP2: There is nothing BVs will say that will make your friend listen the only solution is for such people to learn their lesson in another world as long as it involves prick girls will never listenthey do what they want to do .
Poster 2 repent from destroying people happiness or i believed that ur friend has asked to borrow money from you before all this your advice,,,how can you come here to seek an advice for ur friend you never heard before or seen that she was ever pregnant or have a child together with his man?u must be a gossiper and a destroyer,from swiss
ReplyDeletehmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm! ok ooh! O jare, show some support for joyobidike.blogspot.com
ReplyDeleteLmao, chizoba u r one cray fellow i truly love in on this blog ur comment cracked me up.
ReplyDelete@poster one, he's just saying that crap to keep you, trust me, he won't kill himself, poster two, u've tried ur best, let her be, don't worry, experience is the best teacher
ReplyDeleteI was in one toxic relationship and my Ex threatened to kill himself if I leave, I left and it's been a year plus and the dude is still alive.
ReplyDeletePoster1, your situation is called "emotional blackmail" You dont need such. Get on with your life and live the looser alone. He wont die, trust me.
ReplyDeletePoster2, there are obviously alot of things you dont know about your friend's relationship. How is it that you didnt know about the child? She tells you what she wants you to know. I would advise you to mind your business and face your life. No one forced her to remain in an abusive relationship. When she is ready to move along, she will.
Poster 1, please while planning your grand escape, be very careful and secretive. Useless men like this have been known to pour acid on ladies or kill them outrightly when they perceive you are about moving on. Be wise please. The idiot Ileft almost tried it with me but for the fact that I am a service personnel. We have seen lots of such cases.
ReplyDeleteP1 hell NO! No selfish blood will be on your head and no one is dieing. Don't they all say that? My EX pulled even more stunts way back. He would cry and stand in front of a car to get killed lol even though it wasn't funny then. When he ran out if ideas he started to threaten me with acid and all cray sorts. Run run run! #LALA
ReplyDeleteBeing with sm1 for d sake of pity is bad cus dey will gt so addicted to it an misinterpret it for love and it's breaks them more when dey realise they hv being hv being in love all this while alone. So d early u let him no u don't love him d better. Just let him no u won't stop being a friend. So if he decides to take his life his own blood is on his hand not u.cus him not allowing u live ur life freely is a crime cus u r displeasing urself to pls him. It's right to an extent an wrong to a greater extent . don't b stucked in dt with him.
ReplyDeleteP2 she will realise on her own. Just pray it won't b late
STELLA STELLA .....
ReplyDeletei have the same story as POSTER 1. the difference is that ammarried to him,i need help on how to deal with it.
ReplyDelete@Okija wife,how do you feel calling me a bastard when it is obvious i wasn't the one that dropped that comment insulting you on IHN? This is exactly what have been avoiding. Someone opens a blog id with my name and a different pic of me cussing you out and you call me a "bastard" when i dropped a comment on Ihn clearly stating that wasn't me? Everything is getting fucked up here.
ReplyDeleteIt's ok then...tot it's d real chi exotic,nd ws really really ready!!! @ d fake bastard,keep it up as ur cup go soon full well well!!!
DeletePls someone should give me stella's email I want to send her my chronicles. Just post it on here
ReplyDeletePoster 2 talking sense into your friends head is only the begining to an answer. I commend you for being a concerned friend.
ReplyDeleteNow to your friend I hope you are reading this. You attract what you got. Don't mind those who are bashing you. You have had sexual intercourse with your partner in convenat with this guy. Start by knowing that you are loved by God. Start by receiving love from God. Start by speaking to yourself daily and appreciating your self. Take time off to meditate and know that you are loved. Break the soul tie with this guy. Fast and pray. God will give you the courage and tenacity. Continuously pray to God.
You attract what you got. If you don't love yourself you will attract another person who doesn't love themselves and treat you without respect.
So all those who insult you don't realize that it's the Grace of God that empowers you breaks all soul tie gives you revelations and Love that surpasses all human understanding empowers you and fulfills the void and fear.
Don't be hard on yourself. Those who insult you and are hard on you it's bc they haven't forgiven themselves of their past. Note for a fact. One day at a time... step by step look to Jesus Christ: the woman at the well.
God bless
Poster 1
ReplyDeleteyou attract what you got. why throw a pity party and not take responsibility? Both of you are selfish. Please start praying for urselve and the guy for wholeness. Stop fornicating. THe guy is crying for help and all you think about is urself. So he is trying to trap the only thing he thinks can help him. You better carry yourselves to church and start praying fasting and meditating on God's love to fill the void.
God bless
#1: Honey, I honestly hope you are cordial with, or at least, know some of his family members. Assuming you don't, now is the time to get acquainted with them. Clearly this dude is mentally unstable. He might have some spiritual issues as well, people like him are amazingly volatile and erratic. It's best you call off the relationship with some family members present. Should this trigger a manic or depressed reaction, his family can get him the help he needs. Also, you will feel a lot better knowing his family is now responsible for his welfare. If you can't reach his family, try to locate his friends.
ReplyDeleteA person with such psychological issues needs to be around a solid support system in the event of something traumatic, like a break up.
Sweetie, time is of the essence. You can't be constantly manipulated and emotionally hijacked without it taking a toll on your psyche. You fear his reaction, as you should but I worry about you and how this can mess up your mind without you even knowing. Darling, his irrationality is already rubbing off on you. You have to be vigilant, never be alone with him in a private place. Turn down any invitation by him to be together, make up a reason why you can't and make sure you tell him as "lovingly" as possible so the rejection wouldn't be that obvious. People who exhibit such behaviours are usually a shy away from the ludicrous "if I can't have you, no one else can" mentality.
Once you break up with him, be sure to cut off all contact with him because he will misunderstand any form of concern from you as a chance at reconciliation and the last thing an unstable person needs is mixed signals. Sweetie, I wish you the best.
#e-bearhugs.
#2: My darling, you can't be more Catholic than the Pope. I know your friend means a lot to you but you can't be more concerned about her life than she whose life it is.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry, my sweet, but this is one of those sad situations where you see a train wreck in slow motion and you're transfixed, watching helplessly from the sidelines. Until your friend hits rock bottom, nothing is going to move her nor will she realise she's in a toxic relationship where the only way up is down.
Some people say the most addictive love are the ones where you keep loving the one who causes you so much pain. The more he treats her like trash, the more helplessly hooked she feels. He becomes like her personal brand of heroine, she keeps running back to get high like a junkie. It will amaze you to know that she has been so brainwashed by her abuser that her subconscious mind has accepted the abuse as a normal occurrence in every relationship or even a gesture of love.
Honey, you're a good friend. You've done the best you can but it is time to back off. Leave her to her own devices but keep praying for her. Be the shoulder she needs to cry on. Don't be too hard on her because you may just lose a friend. Remind her as offen as possible how beautiful and amazing she is, your words will help build back her confidence and improve her self esteem. Never bring up her boyfriend's gist nor rub it in on her how horrible he is because she will start resenting you. If she brings the issue up, by herself then you can tell her about your concerns.
Unfortunately, my love, not everyone can be saved. So don't be too hard on yourself.
#e-bearhugs.
Poster #1: Nothing as in i mean nothing will happen to him when you leave and i know for a fact that he knows your kind of person and hes using that against you...my sister you r not getting any younger,do what makes you happy and move forward with your life.... poster#2: you are a good person that is concerned about the well being of your friend but as she no wan gree leave her alone abi wetin concern agbero and overload...pls leave her be before you turn to topic of their settlement..
ReplyDeleteMadam Stella nawa o, I didn't see my comment on domestic abuse traits I may be facing. Guess I will send it another time.
ReplyDelete#1 BVs have said it all - leave him and he won't kill himself and even if he does, na you kill'am?
ReplyDelete#2 Since she doesn't want to use her tongue to count her teeth, leave her to remain until she gets old...inshort UNA NEED JESUS aswear.