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SPOTTING A FAKE MARRIAGE PROPOSAL FROM MEN IN THE DIASPORA.

Hello Stella,

I have been following up on the ladies sharing their experiences on fake marriages and how they were almost deceived into one and I thought to share my own experience and also to advise ladies on this issue.its kind of long but please bear with me.

 I am 26 years old and I have never been the type to be desperate for marriage because I believe I have lived a responsible life and when it's time the right man will come. In august 2014, My family friend introduced me to a Nigerian guy who is based America and  as God will have it I was traveling to America the next month. 

From the first time we spoke he wanted to speak with my father( which he claimed to know when he was younger and still in Nigeria), my mother and brothers but I only allowed him to speak with  my mother and within the next 3 days he was already talking marriage. before I was introduced to him I was applying for my Phd in the UK, I told him about my plans and he told me I shouldn't worry, that there was a way to give me a stay in America and I bought that. 

Even before I got to America he was already trying to control me, he would complain when I missed his calls, told me to stop speaking to other  guys, and would ask for what I wore daily and even Try To control  my outfit, he always wanted to talk to me up to the extent that i started getting irritated by his calls, I kept quiet and said nothing. 

His brother called me and said he wanted to come to my house and see me, I wasn't having that because they were moving too fast, I told him I haven't seen your brother before and he replied ''we want your family''.... even his mother wanted to come see me but I refused.

Fast forward to when I got to America, I was in Houston, Texas and he was In Oakland,California, I couldn't get a line the first two days and as such we had to communicate through whats app and this guy insulted me,(normally i am not the type that takes shit from anyone but i was trying to change and be a better person).

when i arrived Houston i stayed with my uncle for like a week before moving to a hotel with my sister and her husband. I told my uncle about him and he insisted on speaking to his guy and he didn't like that, he  said my uncle didn't want my happiness. my uncle finally spoke to him and told me to forget him because he felt the guy was a liar and isn't a citizen but my uncle was assuming based on their conversation.

i finally left for the hotel to be with my sister and her husband and this guy nearly blow up our hotel phone, he called every two seconds, I got mad and decided that I wasn't interested, I didn't like him.he went ahead to report me to my mum, he always did.My mum called to scold me,she even went as far as not speaking to me for 3days, in my mom's mind her daughter had found a husband, and i was trying to destroy the opportunity. let me just add that this guy had a sugar coated mouth and could make almost anyone like him,except me off course.he could make noise, always boasting to the extent that we thought he was a millionaire.

After my mum stopped speaking to me over the fact that i wanted to destroy this opportunity,i decided to go to California to see him,he booked a one way ticket. when I got out of the airport, I saw this short thing and by the way i am a tall girl, this Mitch lied to me that he was 6ft and he was like 5ft7, I kept quiet. then we got to his house, this guy lived a ghetto!!!

Then came his room, one room ,mattress on the floor, old TV, dirty rug, I thought I was dreaming, he was completely the opposite of what he said he was, I was very disappointed but I played along, he would fight to wash my panties, wanted to spoon feed me, this guy was so protective that he even followed me to the toilet, he didn't want me speaking to anyone, even my friend who is a married woman who lives in San Diego.

He would get mad when I spoke to her, it was so irritating, we fought a lot, his mum would call,and my mum would call, I got fed up and told my mum that he wasn't who he made us believe he was that he was a broke ass liar.

Then I asked to see his passport, he said he wasn't a citizen but he had a green card, okay fine, can I see?, he couldn't produce it, then I knew I had to leave. 

His mum was the most irritating of all, she would call and be begging..... We finally made an appointment to see a lawyer who was supposed to process my stay , but I couldn't leave In the projects for one more second so I booked a flight, came up with a lie and left with the pretense that I was gonna come back, got to Houston and soon my return date back to Naija came, a night before my return, I decided to call the lawyer and check her out on the Internet, this lady studied law in Akwa,in Nigeria and I know very well that someone who read law in a particular country cannot practice outside that country , I gave her a call but she didn't seem to know the guy I was talking about, then she told me the only way to stay was either a fake marriage, asylum or through work permit, so I promised to call her back the next day which was the day of my flight. 

I was at the airport when this lawyer lady called me back, and asked for my age and I told her, she said if she did anything to me God will never forgive her, she told me that she didn't know this guy, he called her and begged her to co-operate with him to dupe me of about $10,000, that I am from a rich home and they will make a lot out of me, i was shocked, wow!

 She told me he had no green card or what so ever in America and to be very careful with him, I kept my cool and came back to Nigeria and I told my mother about this and she stopped taking calls from him and his family, I finally confronted him one day and he denied, I called his mum and brother and threatened them to never call me again else I was gonna get them all arrested, then I became convinced this guy was a psycho because he refused to leave me alone, he would message me in the morning afternoon and evening liked nothing happened, I then threatened to report him to the American authorities that he was an illegal immigrant and also to include his address and that was how I never heard from him again.

  Ladies, if you observe the pattern,These fake men are always In a rush to marry within a week of meeting you,secondly, they are always reporting to the parents, always watch out for this signs and others. patience is the key, now I am my soul mate and the love of my life, never be in a hurry, God Has a plan for you, the right man will come along ,

Stay blessed.

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Wow,aint you lucky?....some Ladies dont get this lucky because the pressure on them to marry makes them so desperate and blinds them.

I wonder why they lie to get married...like lies sustains a marriage?..Hissss!

Some will read this and wish they saw the signs cos we have very beautiful well brought up Ladies trapped in Marriages like you described with men in the Diaspora.