NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
SEX IN THE FAMILY
Sdk please I need your blog visitors advice as i am so confused right now..
A family member has been disturbing me now for sex and I don't want to
but don't know what to do still,I am single mother of one and though
have been working to make ends meet but it's not paying because the
load is just too much for me.....so this family member,is a son to my
cousin,his dad is my cousin.we went to the same secondary school and
departed after then....he got my number recently from someone and he
has not allow me to rest that he wants to be sleeping with me and he
will be be giving me enough cash to me and my son's school fees,please
should I?? Am very confused..thinking about 3rd term fees as have not
even balance the one of 2nd term
Honey i know how temptations can come when one is down but please do not do it,the sex will be messy and it will mess you up.DONT DO IT.
Some of you will come here to lash at her for asking this kind of question and might lash at her but some of you have done worse things for money...if you cannot encourage or advice,do not bring anyone down with your words.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
THE CROSS ROAD QUESTION.
Stella Please is it right for a woman to attend a church different from her husband on the basis that her husbands church is not spiritual?
I cannot answer this question but i know of a couple that broke up because the wife refused to attend the Hubbys church...She totally refused.
I THINK INTENDING COUPLES SHOULD TRASH THIS OUT BEFORE MARRIAGE!
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NARRATIVE NUMBER THREE.
MOVING ON AFTER LOVE DIES....
Good day Sis.
I had(as he broke the relationship) a boyfriend and we were going on very strong for 3years with all 'em marriage talk at first so i convinced and didn't bother when other girls say they are looking for or praying for marriage .i was very sure because i had no cause to doubt my boyfriends love for me and i loved him so much as well.
When we started dating we were both corpers, struggling but happy...i got a job and he also got something though not permanent but was ok to sustain him.
Sometime in between the relationship i asked him how far, that i would love to get married o! he said i should go and get married, that he has many things to accomplish before thinking of marriage....he wanted to blow it out of proportion i calmed him that i didn't mean we should get married now now as i know we aint financially ready that i just needed a reassurance i was still the one whenever he decides to settle....
my dear sister na so guy bone oo....
He finally told me that he doesnt want the relationship anymore as he doesn't love me anymore and his priorities are changed.
Na so i crrryyy like crazy begged and told him i cant be without him that i am ready to be in the relationship even if he doesn't love me anymore that we should continue that things will come back to normal. After much begging he accepted and i had to put in several efforts to make sure things are back to normal (which they finally did).
After almost a year i asked same question "marriage talk" wanted a reassurance (so i know he has loved me like before and still wanna settle down with me once everything is OK) i was wiling to wait that long...na so my guy tell me to get "plan B" as he never ready.
I now told him i didn't say now now or a time frame....he remained mute about the whole thing And his attitude changed, he now finally told me he needs a break.. this time i accepted without putting pressure.
But Stella i am hurting greatlyyyy....cant seem to get over him for months now, thinking with time it will pass but it seems not to be healing, i dont know how to move on as i have given my all in the relationship, my heart is stone cold towards men now, i fell betrayed and used for close to 4years.
i dont concentrate at work anymore(though he doesnt know i am this hurt as i deleted him from my social networks) . i cry every night after work, and pretend to be strong during the day but at night i am totally heartbroken, please i have totally given up on men as this came to me as a blow and i am still in shock coz if i was told years back that he would wake up and quit i would never have believed.
I really need advice on how to move on..
It is a process,before you heal,you have to hurt...dont worry you will be fine,we have all done crazy things before.
I remember when i caught my first love Nndi another lady in a very compromising situation,i cried none stop for days until a guy who was consoling me asked me
''Stella person die?what if this guy isnt the one for you? what if in a few years you cant stand him?isnt it better to let him go now before he does more damage?''
That was an eye opener abeg.He is still my first love,he will always be but I dont care about him anymore.
Moral of gist - move on,the pain will pass,love will come again!
Face God
ReplyDelete@poster 3 Stella said it all .. Time heals and some day you will look back and say thank God I dodged a bullet *wide grin*
Delete@poster 2 please don't give in to such temptation, it never ends well . God will see you through !!
Sorry I meant poster 1 not 2 .
Delete@poster 2 ... Not a good idea. It's advisable you both attend same church . It Helps to foster oneness , reasoning of thoughts etc and the kids too !!
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Hmmmm! Stella ready today o, I luv all her replies, @ poster 1,2,3 : it is well
DeleteTime heals all wounds Poster
Deletea.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
ReplyDelete.
One: saying yu are confuse mean yu want to slp with dude, so i wish yu all the best but i pray yu wont get caught though
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Two: i will never attend a different church frm my partner though
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Three:untill the guy marries another gal then no one is using yu abeg....
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Hahahaha @"Stella, person die?"
DeleteN3: So sorry hun but maybe he's scared of marriage
@poster one, I think you wanna commit incest, please don't do anything the ng that would bring curse to you and your generation please, there are other guys out there.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, I wouldn't advise husband and wife to worship differently it won't be good for the family, so when children start coming what would happen, some would join you to urs and others to ur husband own abi, please stick together and help him build his spiritual life.
Poster 3 don't worry healing is a gradual process, with time you would get over him and please don't go back begging him, your a priceless jewel, he should be doing the begging, know your worth so no man would take advantage of you.
Poster 2, he's not ready for marriage now,I think he's still a young guy,u guys should be of same age because u said u finish nysc same year.And u are desperate to get married.Please leave the poor guy alone.
ReplyDeleteP1...I know it is not easy but dear keep your head up and God will step in for you. Don't sleep with that boy. He might not even give you the money and when it comes out, you will be so shamed. Dont allow him to use you. You are not a tarnished woman because you have a child. Let this motivate you to HUSTLE. Do honourable things so your hands will be clean before God. It is not easy but it will pay off.
ReplyDeleteP2...Naija man no go gree so you have to find a means for him to leave his church. Maybe invite him to the new church for programmes. That way he might start to like it.
P3...You used and dumped yourself honey. Why beg a man that asks you to leave? He stayed in for the extra year to enjoy benefits of a desperate woman. You need to chill. You will not get a serious man by doing this. All men are not evil, you went and forced yourself on someone who had other goals. Your relationship probably ended 6 months into it but you dragged it out. Next time, date men that are serious about marriage and if he doesn't ask yyou, then know that nothing for you. I stand by this: when you have to ask a guy how far...you are already on your way out of the relationship. Even the shy men will keep their women in the loop and make sure you are assured of your place in his life. Not you having to remind him every 2 days. Ask happily married women, not the ones managing o. They will tell you, their men made the move.
How come u're anonymous ehn, A thousand likes........I was gon say the same thing.
DeleteAnon 15.11.. ur advice to N3 is the truth.. She used herself, dumped herself and broke her heart by herself..
DeleteYou are a darling are you a man or woman? abeg i wanna av u as gist friend atleat
Deletecos u spoke ma mind
N1- What are you waiting for?? CHOP AND CLEAN MOUTH JARI Cause you've gotta pay school fees soon..
ReplyDeleteN2- Madam Ivite your Husband to CPA Rev King's Church Ajao Estate Lagos, Your Wahala is solved..
N3- Love can be sooooooooo Blind. Ma Dear, Leave that dude alone, you've got a life to leave without him. If you can't leave without him still, STAY THERE...
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.NOTE: Raise Your Words, Not Your Voice. It Is Rain That Grows Flowers, Not Thunder..
Do u realize ure telling poster 1 to commit incest? Na wa for some people. gosh!
DeleteLike seriously?
DeleteSmh!
Tufiakwa @ your advice to poster 1
DeleteSuch action by her will certainly attract curses into her life. You suggest such to her yet to poster 2 , you advice church.
Can you SEE the irony?
Poster.1,don't even think of doing such.you guys are related in a way... Poster2.i have a frd.the hubby actend winners while the wife can't leave her christ embassy church. Poster2.move on with your life
ReplyDeletePOSTER 1.
ReplyDeleteSay no.
If he doesnt want to help you without visiting your oil well,too bad. He is a bad man. For him to even mention it.
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P3,
why mention marriage to a guy wey no too hold na?
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P2,i dont know
Poster 2, he's not ready for marriage now,I think he's still a young guy,u guys should be of same age because u said u finish nysc same year.And u are desperate to get married.Please leave the poor guy alone.
ReplyDeleteHe didn't love you enough to marry you
DeleteNarratives 1
ReplyDeletePlease don't give in to his sex advances
It's very wrong
Narratives 3
Pls you need to put yourself together and move on with life, Your heart will be glued with time and you'll not be heartbroken again.
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Poster 1.
ReplyDeleteWhere I come from,this is an abomination...Biko,look for someone else...abi na only him dey ask you out??...
Poster 2,
Yes if your husband is comfortable with the whole arrangement why not??...
Poster 3,
So you want to kill your self because of a man???....which kain nonsense love dey do you this??...
You have a very low self esteem...abeg gather your self and move on jare...
Linda poster 3 na loveth leave her e go soon clear ,poster 2 -wives be submissive to your husband .poster 1-listen to linda.
DeletePoster 1 matter jus taya me. It can be tough, we know, but sleeping with your cousin's son?? Cmon! I don't know what you might be going thru now, but believe me, people have had it worse and they didn't have to go so low to survive. If you can't afford this current school, take your child to a cheaper sch. Abi u sef don get d man for mind? That man sef is a wicked person for him to suggest sleeping with you before giving you money. O ga oo. You will still do what u want to do, irrespective of what you are told here. But I hope u don't go ahead with this abomination.
DeleteWhy is he urgently wanting to sleep with you? What is his mission?
DeleteIf he is in a cult or into rituals, you will have set up yourself for big time problems that even your son can be affected or even die.
Only the living/healthy can go to school o!
I pray GOD opens a door for you and gives you wisdom to see it.HE doesn't open such cursed doors.(your cousins offer)
GOD'S (His thoughts towards us is for good and not for evil to bring us to an expected end)
HE maketh Rich & addeth NO SORROW!
HAVE FAITH AND PRAY ALL THE POSTERs, GOD still ANSWERS PRAYERS .
P1: Oh my! Your chronicle breaks my heart because I know how hard it can be for single mums, but dear do not do it atleast not with a relative. may the Lord strengthen you.
ReplyDeleteP2: I feel family should attend same church, it is said that "the family that prays together, lives together"
P3: Your story made me angry a bit. When he said he doesnt love you the first time was when you should have moved on, you dont force love, you dont beg for love cos you deserve better dear. See, its a thing of the mind...yes! you will hurt but you have to let go. Go out with friends, have fun and be happy.
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Hian! That 3rd narrative though!
ReplyDeletePoster 3 the guy Don tell you b4 but you no wan hear! If you had accepted your loss then,all these things wdnt have hurt this much, by now you for Don forget.
ReplyDeleteN1, as far as I'm concerned, it is an INSULT for your cousin's son to be pestering you for SEX, whether or not you people are close in age. What rubbish? And isnt that incest? Mtchweew. No atom of respect. You are both adults, do what you feel is right abeg cos your narrative sounds like you're already giving in so my advice wouldn't make any difference.
ReplyDeleteN2, parents attending different churches is a big NO for me Because on the long run it affects the children especially when there's no understanding. When some decide to follow the mother and some decide to follow the father trouble will start. Then you will send Stella a mail explaining what you mean by highly spiritual. I'm a Catholic and I married a Catholic. I would never have married from another denomination, not because I hate other churches oh. That was one of my prayer points. Church can bring plenty wahala.
N3, you should go on your knees and thank Jehova that Le Boo showed you the red light early enough. Pick up the broken peices and find love again. It's not going to be easy but one day you will look back and say 'Thank God I left'. All the best as you heal.
PS/ The comment box is so small, too small. I wish google could do something about it. I wish it could be as large as my phone screen. Sometimes when I try to scroll up to edit a comment, it goes to another page. Mtchweew.
1, don't fall for the temptation dear, GOD will create a way, amen. And family member? Incest.
ReplyDelete2, I believe in sorting this problem of different church before marriage cos I was a victim.
3, Sweetheart, you ve got to move on as obviously the guy is not ready to settle down. You will be comforted by a better man.
It is well with u all in jesus name
ReplyDeletePoster 1- pls don't do it, for the sake of son work harder to sustain both of you, the Lord will help you
DeletePoster 2- take it to God in prayers
Poster 3- Hmmm. I blame you for one thing- continuing with the relationship even after he made it clear he doesn't want to be with you anymore, but thank God you've seen the light finally. It may hurt like crazy right now, you may feel you are at the end of the road, but this too shall pass my dear. God has something better planned for you; make sure you remain close to Him, you will get it.
Find something to occupy ALL your free time, this way you have no time to think about him, and before you know it the pain becomes less.
P1, Don't!
ReplyDeleteP2, Don't confuse ur kids abeg, if ur spouse is comfy with it, go ahead.
P3, This too shall pass, look fr new distraction.
D pain will always pass. Don't sell urself short, pick up d pieces n u will be fine. Always wear a smiling face, n be happy. N d oda person asking if he can sleep wt his cousin for money, pls don't do dt, u will feel horrible afterwards. N for d church issue, I av rejected to marry a guy just bc of different church issues. Its always good to discuss such matters b4 marriage bc u may think it doesn't matter, but it's d best thing dt really matters. Goodluck all.
ReplyDeletePoster 3. dis is why I don't believe in having just one boyfriend, (make una come crucify me). So in case one breaks up with me or I have reasons to break up with him, I'd have something to fall back on and d break up won't hurt as much. Pele, time heals or wounds, get a rebound or something or fall in love again, you'd get over him faster. Poster 1, don't do it, its incest and I'm sure u don't wanna have dat on Ur conscience.
ReplyDeleteYou are on point.
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DeleteLool same way ur boyfriends will keep other girlfriends..
DeleteNarrative number 1 ..If u need a man to pay your bills and u offer sex to that's if u feel that would solve your problem plz not cousin brother sister child abeg waka far. He would only use u and u can't do him nothing u can't even report him to no one it would be a shameless act .There are so many Maga out there package your self if that's why u want. narrative number 2 . A big NO to you couples should attend same church it's as sign of unity that's why bed of marriage u should sort all these things out.......narrative number 3 sorry I got bored reading get advisers from other goods students
ReplyDeleteStella u correct
ReplyDelete********LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*********
P1...looks like u've made up your mind to allow him spermatize ur privates.
ReplyDeleteU just need a boost.
I may be wrong.
P2 all these are trivial issues naa
Better stay at home n sing halleluyah..
P3..na b4 guys dey use "marriage talk" woo babes.
Shine ya eye!
Those days if a guy use "marriage" toast me,
I normally turn him to maga, if it doesn't work, no wahala afterall naa one leg in.
A man that wanna marry u will marry u without u reminding him. U were ready to wait abi?
U never jam.
Lmao @ allow him spermatize ur privates.
DeleteP1 Don't do it! The earlier U remove ur mind from him as a financial option,the better for U
ReplyDeleteP2 not good. The family divides internally. The spiritual foundation in ur family wil disapper
P3 If a man loves U,he'd be the one to bring up marriage talk. He wud ve a marriage blueprint and present to U to analyse. Not the other way round. Desperation doesn't help at all, besides him don tell U as e dey go but U decide to turn mario (ibi loma ku si)
Nice one stella on this post u sounded good sha
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Poster 3, I've been there before. I thought I was going to die. I stupidly built my world around him. I had no plan B. He was my plan a,b and c. When he told me he needed to move on, I cried, begged and reluctantly we carried on. I put in all the effort. Months later, he finally dumped me again despite my tears and begging ( even got my family members to beg). I thought my heart was going to actually stop working. I thought I was going to die. Wept non stop for over 4 months. Slowly, I started going out again with friends. A few months later, I met my now husband. Eight years ago, we became husband and wife. My ex had the effrontery to call me even a few weeks before I got married begging to come back. Even sent me his ugly photos. I actually spat. Lol. Whenever I wake up, I look into the eyes of my husband and three children and realize that God allowed me to meet a Bastard to appreciate the good man he was sending my way. So dear poster, it seems difficult now, maybe impossible. But one day, u will thank ur ex. I hope u get a happier ending than I did.
ReplyDeleteOr an ending like mine :-). Hugs
DeleteHmmmn! Great testimony!
DeleteI thanked my ex with a cow..........lol
DeletePoster one: biko, don't even try it. What nonsense some men are dogs. ahan.........see, don't let your situation make you do things that would end up messing your life up.......focus on God and he will help you. Please stay away from that yeye relative..... nonsense.
ReplyDeletePoster two: when two marry they become one. And as a Christian..... your faith holds your marriage. If you don't have am agreement on what you believe, forget it, the marriage gonna fall.
Poster 3: I fell like giving you a warm hug....... I can't just imagine what you are going through.....do you know what I want you to do?.....I want you to cry very well, scream, break things and afterwards take a bath, eat and then sleep........just try to do things that will make you feel better dear.
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Poster one, don't do it o. God will make a way for you. One you will look back on and feel no shame. Stay strong.
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P3. So sorry about what's going on with you, but soon you will heal and that sweet guy who will sweep you off your feet and make you his Queen is right around the corner, so girl wipe your tears and move on, No man is worth your tears dear.
ReplyDeleteP1. Do not sleep with that man, if he can't help you without getting anything Return, then he should go to blazes, its all going to be Alright, may God send your helper to you, before third term begins.....
Poster one, don't do it o. God will make a way for you. One you will look back on and feel no shame. Stay strong.
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1. Don't do what he's asking cos you'll regret it later. Try to get a job to support yourself and child no matter how little. Everything will be fine by God's grace.
ReplyDelete2. This should have been discussed before marriage. Its not wrong to attend a different church from that of ur husband but if you tell him that your reason is because his church isn't spiritual, that may not go down well with him. Talk to your husband but be diplomatic about it.
3. Don't worry, you'll be fine soon. Thank God you have a job, let that keep you busy, try to go out often and open your heart for another even if its just platonic friendship. That will ease the pain. Sorry sis.
Cynthy, no prayers today?
DeletePoster 3
ReplyDeleteI've been there and I understand how you feel but I want u to understand that it happened for ur own good.Thank God he didn't marry u only to show u pepper later...he doesn't deserve u.Forget about him and concentrate on your Job,hang out with ur friends and be happy.
All relationships don't always end up in marriage,never ask a guy when or if he will marry u,it scares the hell out of them...if a guy is serious about marrying you,his actions would speak louder.
Don't stay faithful to one guy,have as many as you can keep but shine your eyes oh...these men aint loyal.
poster 1:When it all comes crashing,the disgrace will be on u.Fold ur hands n legs and pretend to be a burger ozugbo.
ReplyDeleteposter 2:not all couples are strong in this religion aspect,it works for some it doesn't for some.Its best one is with someone who they share the same values to avoid stories that touch tommoroow
poster 3:He did not use and dump u, u both defrauded eachother both sexually and otherwise do not look for pity.If u like do not for what to channel ur energy into u think marriage is the end of ur tears?Its worse if a man wifes u n hurts u so y dont u make do with this to make U a better person?Next time stop the desperation u ask him every year what his plans r for u, if u have wisdom will u not borrow urself brain bfor it got to this point?Girls lets try to stop making men look bad.Na we be the artitecht of our misfortune at times.
P1: Run for your dear life,God will see you through, remember not to sell you dignity for how hours of sex romp.GOd will provide it not easy but just trust God.
ReplyDeleteP2: nothing wrong if two couples attend different churches as far they have common understanding.
P3: The devil is a liar,that guy doesn't love you at all.So don't waste your time if not you will turn 90years without getting married.
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Stella I like what u said, I feel sad when I read some people's comments when people come out to ask for their advice, instead of advising, they will be insulting the people.
ReplyDeletePoster1. pls do not do it, your cousin wants to take advantage of ur situation and I hope he is spiritually clean because a man who knows and fear God wouldn't advice u to do what he's proposing and I hope u know if u sleep with ur blood u will be committing incest(abomination b4 God). I also hope he doesn't want to use money to trade ur destiny and that of ur son. Many people put their hands into all sorts for money these days. Be careful please, so u don't say "Had I known". Please keep praying to God, He's too dependable to fail. I wish I could flog my keypad, its been misbehaving and having a mind of it's own.
Poster one: don't do it.......
ReplyDeletePoster two: talk to ur Hubi about it......and see wat he has to say
Poster three: give ursef respect and worth...no man Shud treat a lady dat way...in all indications u have bin in a relationship with ursef cuz d guy has bin tired of u since d ist time u talked about marriage issue...just know dat he does not deserve u....though it is not easy to move on especially Wen u loved d person so much...but just try little by little u will get ova it....but plz don't try to call him back to beg ohhhh...plz let dat tot not cum to ur mind.....dere are beta guys out dere dat are begging to treat u d way u deserve....stop wallowing in sorrow
Postr3. Love can hurt ehn kai, that's why ii rather be single coz I'm always around when I need me
ReplyDelete@1, no matter ur condition u are not supposed to ever think of having sex with ur cousin, there are a million and one men u can fu.k to get money, must it be ur cousin, how ve u been taking care of ur child before he asked u for sex, u ve a dirty mind.
ReplyDelete@e, love is not by force if d guy doesn't love u y are u forcing him, Moral of this story, never love foolishly.
Gbam remain poster 2
DeletePoster1/pls decline the offer,that guy will hunt you with that ok.
ReplyDeleteWorry not your child's school fees will come.
Poster2/i have no word for you.amen !
Poster3/don't worry real love will surely come.
@poster 1 na so life hard reach you want to sleep with your cousin's son for money. Stella say make person no lash you but you are something else. How can you think of such. Let me step aside, this world indeed is rapping up.
ReplyDeletePoster 3
ReplyDeleteI completely understand what you are dealing with, but let me share with you my experience. I dated a guy from age 19 to 24, I built my world around him he had command of everything in my life. I loved him with my mind, body and soul, he could do no wrong in my eyes. Everyone around me saw him for who he truly was, and I was warned but I never listened. A month before Christmas I found out he was cheating on me with numerous girls, and to make it worse ever one around me knew except for me. I can't begin to tell you the pain I felt. On Christmas eve he picked me up from work, and on the way home he told me he needed space and time away from me. I begged and pleaded but his mind was made up. For a whole year I was a zombie I eat, slept and worked but I was dead inside. While going through that a friend of mine introduced me to his cousin, I reluctantly agreed to just be friends with him. After 2 years of persuasion I finally agreed to date him. Fast ward to now we are married with a beautiful daughter, I can truly say he is a God send he isn't perfect but I have grown to love him. It wasn't easy to love again but with much prayers and a wonderful group of friends I did it. Please know that he left your life to make room for the right man for you. Don't give up on love it will come again when you least expect it. May the same God that brought me out and set me up well do the same for you.
I laugh wen I hear ppl talk about hrtbreak. I've been thr but b4 then I never ever thought I wud xperience it. I ws in same situatn wit poster 3. Mine ws evn for 10yrs. I never bothered about marriage wen my frnds did cos in my hrt of hrts I don already get 'horseband' cos I ws 100% certain we were goin to end up 2geda. He assured me of marriage even few days to his brk up.his family knew me wella & evn cld me 'wifey'. Lol. Few months aftr d brkup oga got married to some other girl. I prayed for the world to end already. Lol How did I get over it? I watched Toke's vlog episode on "how to get over a heartbrk, naija style". & followed all her tips. O boy eh! I began to think of all the bad times we had, & all his short comings I overlooked just to be with him. It's been 13months now,& whenevr his matter comes up my frnds just yab me & we just laff it off. Sometimes I wonder how some1 wud still feel love for an ex that shattered her hrt bcos what I feel for my ex now is pure hate. I cnt evn imagine getting bk with him. The brk up opened my eyes to a lot of shit I tolerated. Abi is it his small penis? His stinginess? His gbagauns? His poverty stricken self with 50k salary? Plus I ws even dashing him money sometimes sef! Chai! I really tolerated sha. Experience is indeed the best teacher cos I now knw better.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 pls dnt do that. It's an abomination.
Wow. *gobsmacked*
DeleteHmm is this cynthia did u date ....... for 10 years or 4 remember u were smoking weed and practicing lesbianism he found out and never told u about it just secretly left and got married to another lady fear God except u are not the one coz this is the same story
DeleteMen men men! Smdh
DeletePls my dear.. can you explain to me why u dated a guy for 10 solid yrs of your life.. 10 years?! Pls dont repeat that mistake again... Your Mr Right will locate u soon.. Be strong.
DeleteI think I know ya babe. Hmmmmmm@ anon,she is a les?she smokes weed?interesting.i dint knw o.
Delete1: woow I'm speechless!
ReplyDelete2: religious bigot!
3:are you that ugly? Surely you can find someone better!
Poster3. I FEEELLL u. I have been in ur shoes before, I thought I would never move on, I quietly cried in my ofis, sometimes I had this feeling like my heart was literally in pains. I lost weight, cried so many nights buttttt today I tell d story laughing and I thank God we never got married sef.
ReplyDeleteDon't worry, time heals, my prayer point then was God please heal my heart, make me feel better. I even had to put my hand on my chest while I said my prayers. God heard me.
N1
ReplyDeleteThere's something called incest and from where I come from, it's an abomination. Even if u need a man who can take care of your needs, not your blood relation...... you sound like your mind is made up though
N2
Am not married, therefore might not be in a position to give u an advice, but one thing I know is this.... a family that prays together stays together. As a family, praying and going to church should be things families are supposed to do together........ pray poster, make devil no come use church matter scatter ur family
N3
That a man broke your heart is not enough reason to hurt yourself, dust yourself up dear, go out, have fun do things you love doing, gradually, you'll forget about him and move on.....
He actually did you a huge favour 'cos he doesn't deserve you. You'll definitely find him or he'll find you.......
Hey! Don't give up on love, everyone deserves hapiness
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Na them sabi.....
ReplyDelete@all of you may God grant your heart desires. Not really in happy mood
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Na them sabi
ReplyDeleteNarrative 1) please I beg u in d name of God don't do it. U better go into runs dan sleep with ur relative, maybe he's an occultist member dey might ask him to sleep with a relative of his , and he knows how desperate u are in need dat is y he comes for u, wise up ...
ReplyDelete2)my dear ur man is d head of d family. ..I can't imagine not attending same church with my hubby in future, ,,
3 ) my dear I know it's very painful, I can't even wish my enemy to experience heartbreak. ...... believe me with time u will get over it, see if u go and beg him now because of d pains u passing through babe with ur explanations d pains is still waiting for u in future. .....y not jst bear it now once and for all? He loves you but he doesn't ave dat wifey love for u.... babe I almost lost my job all because of heartbreak but today I think I am among d happiest people in d world right now. .... I keep asking myself if I truly love my ex den ....... u will not b d one to find love, love will find u and once ur heart accept it u will be happy again. ..... u don't even have mouth to say u won't love again, it comes like a magic and u fall for it like a baby.....
DO MEN REALLY WORTH OUR TEARS?
Babe wasup?
DeletePoster one....
ReplyDeleteYour cousin's son is even marriageable ask anyone who isn't blinded by religion.
Let him have you and give u money.
Offers like this don't come often.
Hurry up before he finds himself someone else.
By the way,single mum=no options
So know he's doing you a favour
You're a sick bitch.#psychoalert#incest#curse#outrightwrong...
DeletePoster one. Are you asking us if it is right for you to sleep with a relative of yours? What did i just read?
ReplyDeleteNo. It isnt. HABAAAAAA. Your relative?😯
My dear trust me d pain will pass. It wont be easy but eventually everythng will be alryt. Thank God its just four years. What if it was ten years?? What wld u Av done. I remember wen I use to beg my ex everytime he broke up with me......i would weep and beg and call nobe stop...even calling his frnds to help me beg him as if my life depended on him....truth be told at that time I thot my life depended on him oooo. Eventually he still broke up with me after abt two years and went on to sleep with my frnd.....infact he told me he was leaving me so that he would have chance to sleep with my frnd well....asin life and direct. Even after that I was still begging him to take me bak that I don't mind sharing him with my frnd......i even went to his house to beg him...na so my guy drive pass me, I dry run follow car dey cry dey beg lyk say na Indian film.....lol. Not until I went to church....knelt by the altar and cried to God for strength was I able to let go of him.....God heard me and he strengthened me....abt a year after he started msging me on wassap forming friendship...asking for us to have a drink....my sister I just very politely turned down d request. No hard feelings....bt now I knw who I am, am no longer that little lost girl that wz crazy abt u, I knw my worth now and I refuse to sell myself short. Now I'm cry picky wen it comes to guys cos u dnt want to be stuck with d wrong one. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. I can't begin to say everything that happened btwn us if not Una go tire and everything he told me and how he insulted me.....looking back I no blame am, na me wen put myself for that position....begging a man to love u. My dear he never truly will.....he'll only tolerate you and at d slightest chance hel Neva fail to remind u dat ur d one forcing him to stay with u. So pray to God to give u strength and just be patient.....time is the healer of all wounds......give time some time.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, heartbreak is a big bad bitch!
DeleteDeborah ur advise is exactly what the poster need, that's good of you. @ poster 3, my Hubby and I worship in a different church, sometimes he'll come to my church, same with me.pls don't tell him that his own is not spiritual, just be polite about it. Pls. My people how do I change my blog I.d?
DeleteDem never born the man I will beg to take me back...not even my man when I can easily get a sexy fine girl or a sugar son...
DeleteOriegwu!!...
Some girls can Mumu sha...
Mumu raised to power 1million..U dey cry dey run after ur guy's car..Ode! Foolish girls everywhere..after u will come and start dishing out stupid advice to married women with ur daft brain..See as d guy take chop u clean and dumped u still..ugly musheshe!
Deletelmao!
DeleteChizoba oooh!
Chizoba is it that your brain can't churn out something better than this or that you enjoy been out rightly nasty?
DeleteThis lovely woman has just shared her story to encourage a fellow woman who is in pain and all you could do was insult her?
Is your life really that sad? I mean if you are happy where you are you wouldn't need to be dishing out insults everywhere. Did you listen to yourself? How relevant is your reply?
You just wanted to be nasty. I wonder what sort of mother you are, if you enjoy putting people down at the slightest given opportunity.
You have a psychological and behavioural problem. I hope your children will be shielded from it. God have mercy.
@Amakanwa....Thanks for that. As a man....i just can't understand why some women like to pull each other down.
DeleteP, thinking of even doing of it is wrong. I know and feel the hardship you are going through as a single mum, I really do because am in your shoes as well but don't think of sleeping with men for money not to talk your relation. Please be prayerful and steadfast, manage yourself and carry yourself with your head up and God will remember you (us) for the best. P2, its wrong to be attending different Churches as a couple. P3, with time you will heal, it shall pass
ReplyDeletePlease the single mum, don't sleep with him you will regret it. The Lord has a way of providing for people who trust Him. If God can take care of the birds in the sky, surely he will take care of you.
ReplyDeleteStella Stella , so you have 'first love' . Lol.
ReplyDeletePoster one: pls don't do it. No matter how finiacially challenged you are, it's not worth it pls. Help is on the way by another means.
Poster two: compromise, both of you.
You can attend his this Sunday, next week yours.
Poster 3: hmm 4yrs pele dear. So much hope right ? You believed he was the one and you worked towards that.
What's the name of that book 'TIME CHANGES YESTERDAY by koforowola.
My dear! Time will change the past of yesterday and it's hurts.
Happy Easter everyone
Sweetie, Time changes yesterday is by Nyegi Koin...Kofoworola was the protagonist
DeletePoster 3. Trust me you will be fine. I experienced something similar to what u are going through. Difference is just that I had only invested one year into the unfortunate relationship. Dude just stopped loving me, all d plans we had made came crashing down. I had to start explaining to family, friends and everyone that the cookie had crumbled. It affected my work. I lost faith in myself and guys. Its seven months since the breakup. Am better and stronger, I no longer cry when I think about all that went down. Cutting every form of communication is the first step to healing. Try to surround your self with positive people. Go out, meet people even though I know u are not ready to date. Being scooped indoors won't help you. Do things that u enjoy doing. Pray and depend on God. With time the pain will fade. The pain may seem unbearable, but dear u will be fine. I am a very emotional person, but if I could pull through, then poster you will be fine. Don't be too hard on yourself, give urself time to grieve. To greive the death of your unfulfilled dreams, plans. To grieve the death of your loved one (my ex don't exist to me again). Cheers.
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ReplyDeleteWith time u will heal..when it comes to matters of d heart u don't just seem to take people's advise cus we always hope for d best in our relationships. The hurt is usually something else Nd ntn u hear will make sense now..so hurt al u want and believe It's just a phase dat will pass.
BPoster one, don't do it..help is on the way..be steadfast
ReplyDeletePoster 2 it is not right for a couple to worship in diff places o..what if d kids start coming,which of d parent will they be going with? It'll cause division in d family.
P3, I don't really understand heartbreak because my heart rarely feels, its just there. Infact, I am the one who breaks off my rships. Anyways, just be strong and move on...he got tired so u shud be tired of him too.
ReplyDeleteP2, try to convince ur husband to leave the church. It will be a gradual process so don't be in a hurry
P1, chinese marry their cousins so you can try getting dual nationality
I lol @heart rarely feelsz. Jas b careful so dey don't break ur heart too
DeleteThis is just me, V alwz bn d1 breaking up and i'm really scared any1 wl break mine
Delete@cocoz: I was exactly like you till it hit me. My sister I never thought that shit could happen to me of all people but it did. Beware darling, even d mighty fall.
DeleteMe and u get d same heart...My oen strong like rock..dem no fit break am..lai lai!
DeleteBe careful if you think you stand lest you fall
Delete-culled from The Bible
Human beings are what we are flesh and blood
We pray not to fall into the hands of the wicked ones, that's all.
Dear Poster 3: It's a phase... it shall surely pass. it's better u hurt now than force btwn u two and hurt forever. I wana blv he wasn't meant for u but damn,wasting ur precious time is almost unforgivable. I'm so sorry. True love will find u soon and u shall get back what uv lost in multiple folds. Uv loved,therefore love will find u. Ur own man shall locate u soon. Cheer up darling and keep faith.
ReplyDeletePoster2: No,its not right... except ur hubby allows u,then uv done no wrong. But it's always good for u guys to discuss about it b4 getting married.
Poster1: don't do it! I repeat don't do it!!!
@P1. What a wicked family member. Does he not know that you are related. Please don't mind him oh. Let him help you if he wants to help without any string been attached. How can you be so sure after sleeping with him that he will fulfil all he is promising. You don't need that extral baggage at all. @P2. Did you trash the issue before marriage. If not try to make him understand. If he no gree to avoid wahala follow him to his so long as they don't call any other name thann Jesus there. Unless you don't mind a broken home then you can go to yours and darm the consequences. @P3. Dear the pain will go with time. You might look back years to come and ask yourself what all the fuZz was for. Let him go. You can't force a man to marry you. If you do you will keep on begging him all tru your life and believe me he will give you shit. Remember a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. A man that is worthy of you will locate you in Jesus name.
ReplyDeleteYea.....
ReplyDeleteI still remember my first love, but we dealt with each other in a bitter/sweet way, bwahahaha.....
Ijeh live sef.........
Poster 3, it took me over a year to get over my ex .. I felt like a fool, he clearly used me for sex but i was so blinded by how handsome he was.. he treated me like trash and cheated on me.. .
ReplyDeleteTo add salt to injury, shortly after the break up, he went ahead publicly displaying his new gf (white girl) while I was single and hurting. But just a few months later, I met a guy who totally changed my view on men. Showed me what love truly is and treats me better than I could have ever imagined... we are 2 years strong now and making plans towards marriage.
I'm truly in a happy place now and that ex is out of mind forever. My dear, u can move on too.. What is yours will locate you.
Stella, just sent you an email - a Memo To BV seeking Business Ideas.
ReplyDeletePlease don't let it end in your Comments Pot.
SDK Fan.
I got a gist too but it never mature. This will be chronicles of hope and muru anya ka azu.
ReplyDeleteBiko send it ASAP make we learn...
DeleteYou want to have sex with a relation of yours madam? Lekwanu ajuju.
ReplyDeletePoster 3, Nne try and move on. Get busy with other things. Go out and all. With time when you look back, you will even wonder what really attracted you to that guy. Di di uko, but people still de marry every saturday except on election days. You will surely get your own man mehn.
Ok, poster 1. stella said we should not call u names, I hear oo. But madam do u have moral at all? Even if na for ur dream will u be able to open ur legs for ur own blood to fuck all bcs of money? Am not sure u don suffer reach me oo cos me to na single mother, a first child for that matter. Papa don die leave us, all my siblings and mama bills, food oo, clothing oo all na my head. But I no even fit do ashawo work not to talk of my own blood fucking me for money!! Where u from come sef? U come from china? Cos I know say them de fuck dem self. My sis fear God if u be christian oo. Do u know why God destroyed sudom and gomora? Ur case is never the worst my dear. Do not do it. Try asking that ur brother to go for deliverance cos I de see am like somebody wey carry curse come life. He is an idiot, he can't help u without fucking u. This kind person go sleep with his own daughter oo. Tufuakwa aru kwonnwa na azu bu nkea oo
ReplyDeleteLmaoooooooo! I'm crying!!!
DeleteBiggest abomination..vex no gree me comment on it..Imagine coming here to ask if she should commit incest and madam stella said ee should notjudge her..Do u think we all have committed incest before? So why eont we insult and judge her? By d time d curse will start affecting her life,she will come back here with her chronicle.
DeletePoster1,pls even if u want to sell ur body for money,not with ur blood relation!dats not just a sin,but a curse!dont know why some cozins don't feel wrong trying dis sh#t.had a cozin like dat when I was in university,by d time I finished blasting him ehn,i was already on my way to tell my dad. And my uncle (hiis uncle)stewpid boy.
ReplyDeletePls poster,dis is not supposed to be a question cos it's not doable!
Poster2,what exactly do u mean by ur hubby's church is not spiritual? As long as they are not preaching or doing what's contrary with God's word,u can always pray to God on ur own,its even more effective!no find spiritual church enter witchcraft coven oo,cos all dese churches of nowadays #commentt reserved
Poster3,i think u have refused to let go,it's a mindset!engage in activities dat can help u forget d issue eg reading d bible,praying (ask God to remove d feelings from ur heart),drink a lil alcohol before u sleep,it will help u sleep off jare and u will forget ur sorrows,afterall no be who no sleep dey sitdown think of boyfriend?abeg jare,life has no duplicate oo. Aunty lover girl,set urself freem
Okbye#
Narrator 1, that temptation is so tempting o Lol, but please try to hold yourself and ignore him. Narrator 2, i don't think it a good idea for hubby n wifey to attend different churches o because it helps in breaking up marriages. You know some of us ladies are usually so desperate to marry such that we don't take a lot of things into consideration including the church the man worships. Narrator 3, its just a matter of time and no matter how deep that wound is, it will surely heal. There's this saying a friend of mine usually say, "in every situation in life ( wether relationships, jobs, marriage, friendships, projects, business, journeys...etc) anything can happen" it may be good or bad. When you have this kind of mindset you won't easily get hurt and if you are hurt, you easily move on.
ReplyDeleteNarrator 1, that temptation is so tempting o Lol, but please try to hold yourself and ignore him. Narrator 2, i don't think it a good idea for hubby n wifey to attend different churches o because it helps in breaking up marriages. You know some of us ladies are usually so desperate to marry such that we don't take a lot of things into consideration including the church the man worships. Narrator 3, its just a matter of time and no matter how deep that wound is, it will surely heal. There's this saying a friend of mine usually say, "in every situation in life ( wether relationships, jobs, marriage, friendships, projects, business, journeys...etc) anything can happen" it may be good or bad. When you have this kind of mindset you won't easily get hurt and if you are hurt, you easily move on.
ReplyDeleteI give up
ReplyDeleteSweetheart, hope you're okay? Don't give up on God because He hasn't and will never give up on you. You will not only smile but laugh with joy again. God loves you.
DeletePoster 1: Sleeping with someone you have blood ties with is described as INCEST. Not even fornication.
ReplyDeleteIt is abominable!
I'm sure he is even married or he knows he can't marry you that's why he wants to sleep with you.
In the Northern part of Nigeria where relationships between second cousins are permitted, you are mandated to marry each other just like Sanusi and his first wife.
Run away from that wicked soul. Send a plea here, we will support you even if it is only with our widows mite.
I'll tell you one thing I know for sure, that man will abandon you once you give him what he wants. And by then, you will have to deal with the shame the dashed hopes of money you did not get.
Poster 2: I suggest you humble yourself and follow your spouse to his church.
I hope it is a church and not a Buddhist temple.
Christianity is a practice of the heart and not the physical place you go to every Sunday.
Your husband is the head of the home. Refusing him is disobedience which God detests. Declining that request might bring serious friction in your home.
Poster 3: You placed your boyfriend far above your own self that is why you continued to beg him over a period.
I 'think' you did not expect to date 'someone like him'. Maybe he was much more posh or educated than guys who would have ordinarily asked you out.
We've all been there honey. There is only less than 1% chance a man can take a girlfriend back when he is fed up with her. So LET HIM GO FOREVER.
One thing I know for sure is that the day the man that deserves you will put a ring on your finger, you will say to yourself "Kai! What why was I rubbing myself in poo dating that guy?"
This too shall pass....
#1 plz dnt, its an abomination to ve sex wit ur relative. If he can't help u wit sex act then he is not ur helper. I really understand ur pains buh plz hang on God! 4 ur provision. God is faithful! #2, is ur hobby's church worshipping the almighty God! What is not spiritual? Attending church together is of more benefits plzz!#3 plz move on by counting it by the day, tnk God u works, used up ur energy@ work, come home very tired, eat ur favourite, play ur fav music n sleep! Also make time 2 reason wit God, he wil see u tru!! Pele dear!
ReplyDeleteP1-Don't~do~something~you~will~regret~for~the~rest~of~your~life.It's~not~worth~it
ReplyDeleteWoow I always love Stella's advice... May God continually grant you the wisdom to give them.
ReplyDeletePlease fellow Bv's...Am told i won't make a good wife if i don't change my method of washing clothes... i normally sit down to wash....cnt stand to wash. please how true is it because am sacred....
ReplyDeleteWat nonsense! When people are even buying washing machines for their spouses. Someone trying to scare you for what? , tell that person you reject the anointing of washer man in your life in JESUS name.
DeleteSo far the clothes get washed clean if you like wash while dancing skelewu! (This is how they put people on high jump, SMH)
Poster 1::don't succumb to that..if he really wants 2 help u he would without demanding sex I know its not easy but focus on God..
ReplyDeletePoster 2 ..I think its best both attend 1 church..u can go 2 another probably during d week days if that will help u spiritually..
Poster 3 pls leave that guy n focus on ur job 4 now.all d best
Poster 3: you are not alone, it will hurt but you will heal.
ReplyDeleteI say this as much to you as to myself.
Been going through a very rough patch, can't see the light at the end of the tunnel (one of the reasons I hardly comment anymore) but I know THIS TOO SHALL PASS.
The darkest hour is before dawn, ARISE & SHINE
Delete3rd attempt at posting this, this is how much I want POSTER 3 to read this. Though it seems as if your world has crumbled and your heart shattered, you would shake your head when you lol back at this point in your life soon and wonder why you were with him in the first place. I'm 100% sure of that, but only if you have realised you deserve better. I'm truly sorry bout the heartache, you will be fine in no time. Look to God, his love is more than sufficient.
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1...dont ever give in....maintain urself cos it will be a disgrace to u
ReplyDelete3. Pls move on will be better before you know it
ReplyDelete#1: I usually have a liberal perspective on most issues but sweetie when desperation pushes you down abomination lane, it's time to snap you back to reality with tough love.
ReplyDeleteMy darling, the major difference between humans and animals is the ability to control our impulses. I can understand prostituting with strangers to take care of your child. I certainly do not approve that, it is immoral and despicable but I can understand why a mother will do that to save the life of her child. However, courting incest for financial benefits ??? Now that's inexcusable! You will end up placing a curse on the same child you seek to take care of. Exchanging cash for sexual favours with your cousin's son tilts more in the direction of psychological depravity than desperation, to be honest.
My darling, I'm sorry if I have the facts wrong but you don't come off as a desperate mum in a life or death situation trying to save her child, rather I get the impression that you are contemplating committing this abominable act to upgrade your standard of living. So will you consider a menage a trois with your cousin and his son if the price is right? What values do you hope to instill in your son as he grows up? Assuming your son is all grown up and you discover he is shagging your auntie's daughter for whatever reasons, how will you react?
Have you even bothered to ask yourself the type of depraved,mean soul your cousin's son is to know you need financial assistance and he would rather pester you for sex before he helps out? Or you are too carried away with the offer? Such a sick dude can secretly make a sex tape of both of you and either blackmail you with it for more cheap sex with zero payment or edit himself out of the video and leak it online. Sweetie, how will you explain a leaked sex tape to your loved ones? I can imagine the kind of kinky and sh*ty stuff he will subject you to. He's gonna make sure you "work it" to earn every penny.
You can totally judge a man by his character and what comes out of his mouth. He doesn't give a hoot about you or your child, he's looking for a cheap thrill t. Ladies and mums, especially, we have more to lose when we sacrifice our womanhood on the altar of lust and financial benefits. That twisted cousin of yours may even "hit it" once and feel totally disgusted by you and the act. There are so many cases where normal guys(not even relatives) fantasise about sleeping with a particular lady, it becomes like an obsession. At that point in time they actually believe their emotions are real and they are ready to sacrifice anything just to have sex but immediately after the act, they go from 100 to -1 within minutes.
I'm against putting a price tag on your "lady parts" but you are an adult and owe us no explanation but permit me to add a caveat, if you must, please make it one hell of a price so you can deal with the consequences in a stoic manner and still live with yourself.
#e-bearhugs.
N1.....Pls never let the pressure of finances make u sleep with any man or your cousin.It is totally wrong.Pray n trust God,he will send you helpers.Don't sell ur body n put curses on yourself n child pls.It is well with you.
ReplyDeleteN3: Never let ur happiness depend on any man.Pls forget this guy that doesnt know your worth.Be happy for urself.Do things you enjoy,ask God to strengthen you and make you forget him.Be angry in your spirit n ask God to bring the bone of your bones your way.When God does it,you will be truly amazed.This is an opportunity for you to pray for the right man.
Stella stop being biased.....when you bring stories of people you know that's when u tell BVs not to bash them...I. Believe every body who brings a narrative to you does so cos they need advice and not insults.....
ReplyDeletePoster 1: you are obviously not Hausa cos Hausas marry cousins.....even 2nd cousins......it is not incest but most African tribes don't so just let it go if not u will be creating unnecessary stress for the whole family when anything goes wrong...it's a shame some men cannot help a woman even a relative without demanding sexual gratification....
Poster 2: there is everything wrong with it.....but if it is a so called church where they do questionable things I will not attend.....e.g synagogue, cele, etc...
Poster 3: just get yourself busy, it's not easy but with time the pain will pass....the guy obviously does not love you cos nothing wrong in asking where a relationship is taking you. When the right man comes along trust me you won't need any meeting to address where you are going, he will set the pace and do things accordingly...it's ok to cry but don't build a tent on sorry street and have a pity party.....
Ronalda shut up with your lectures Abeg.....no be everytime you go dey write thesis.....do u know some tribes marry cousins? I think it's even allowed in Islam..... For her to be worried that means in her tribe it is not allowed but there is no curse there Abeg...alot of what we forbid are man made not from God.....Rebecca was Isaac's cousin......if your own tradition frowns at it then don't but if it is 3rd or fourth cousins dont see any abomination there....
ReplyDeleteChizoba get lost you lousy character.....must you always insult even if Stella does not say so? U are disgustingly annoying and irritating....is that how u were brought up to always insult? As if it's your birthright to insult every poster...mschweeeeeew
ReplyDeleteNever beg anyone to love you, they end up always hurting you.
ReplyDeletePoster 3: if he manages to accept you, he'll treat you like trash in marriage, don't you read many chronicles here? Do you want to come back here some years later to tell us you regret marrying him?
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ReplyDeletePoster 1: No need for the much explanation about how u are related. Ur cousin's son is ur nephew. Don't try it. It's as bad as sleeping with ur immediate elder/younger brother's/sister's son.
ReplyDelete#1-I don't knw your tribe but mine forbids such thing. No matter what you're doing or how much you're earning you are better than some Baby Mamas/single mums. Money gotten in a sinful way doesn't make useful value in the long run, find out. One of my Aunties had 2 kids so early, in fact she left her husband bcos the man was always beating and maltreating her, she suffered eh, sold Akara, moimoi, pure water from there she went back to school, got a job with an Insurance Coy and she's happily married today. So you too can make it.PLS DO NOT GIVE IN TO SUCH TEMPTATION. Let me tell you the truth if you can't manage N10,000 believe me, you can't manage N500,000. Be wise!
ReplyDelete-#2 To me if the church is not spiritual, you can be spiritual and help them out. Read your Bible always.
#3 Atimes na we (ladies/women) dey cause our problems o o, your guy told you that n you begged him, well e don happen-e don happen, cry more and try get over it. Not the end of the world. Look good and make yourself happy. God dey!
My DEAR @POSTER 2, I HAVE BEEN IN YOUR SHOES INFACT MINE WAS WORSE THAN YOURS MINE WAS 7YEARS, WE HAD DONE INTRODUCTION AND MOST OF MY STUFF WERE IN HIS PLACE, I WAS BROKEN DISPRESSED I WENT AS FAR AS TRYING TO COMMIT SUCIDE, BUT LOOK AT ME TODAY AM DOING WELL EVEN THOUGH I AM YET TO GET MARRIED, TRY TO BE HAPPY PLEASE CRY IF IT WILL MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER, GO TO CHURCH ATTEND EVENTS EAT WELL, TRY TO BE HAPPY AND PLEASE DONT SHUT YOUR HEART TO LOVE AGAIN COS THAT WILL BE YOUR BIGGEST HEALING.... I KNOW AND UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL. IF YOU NEED A FRIEND YOU CAN CALL ME ON 07061842664, OR MAIL ME njokuvivian27@yahoo.com, you will be fine my sister....
ReplyDeleteMy dear yours is small mine was 6 years we where already planning on how to see my family my mum knows him very well I had even told my mum that he will soon be coming for introduction I had already gone to see my dad that I don't even no (he forced me to go and see him) then came the misunderstanding that kept us apart for 3mnths mean while before the problem I was pregnant he told me to terminate it which I did fast-forward to 2015 he called me that we should settle our differences and continue with the relationship of which I accepted because I was finding it very difficult to start a new relationship but do you know that March last month this same person that assured me to wait for a little time that we will get married went ahead and engaged some else to make the matter worse I was writing exam that period I was diverstated I will just seat down and the nexthing you see is tears rolling down my check it was that bad as am talking to you now I have someone that loves me so very much so I will advise you to forget about him and move on with your life he doesn't deserve you
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