Now the interesting thing is that some of you might be in this exact condition but wear your good two shoes into this post to cuss out!
Talk to the man in the mirror!
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
TIRED OF CELIBACY AND DYING INSIDE.
Dear Stella,
I read one of the chronicles you posted on your blog re single girl and once she gives up the cookie the guy starts misbehaving and the relationship ends. Swear down i have experienced the same thing, just that i'm not
the "cooking wifey materialish" type, i'm probably the lets have fun we gist and i hold you down kinda girlfriend. Dont get me wrong i can cook up a storm ,just that its not my favorite pastime. Truth is i am not really sure i'm ready for marriage, but i want to be in a serious relationship and just be genuinely
happy and carefree.
Stella, this generation of men are just......(words cant even describe), its crazy on these streets. it seems everyone has an agenda both guys and girls trying to outsmart each other. as in the stories i hear and my own experience has got me so scared, like any guy i meet now that mentions marriage i just write it off as scam.
Now my issue is, my last relationship has been over a year now, and yeah i gave up the cookie and dude started acting up so i just freed him, but i made up my mind that going forward any single guy i date,its no sex before marriage. its now like this decision "done over me" cos i tire. i have some random toasters but nothing serious, and i havent really met someone i like.
My major issue is i'm tired of this celibacy (if using sex-toys and not having sex classifies), this past year that vibrating lipstick they sell at ann summers has been my best friend. For some strange reasons i dont fancy dildos never used one and dont see myself using it, i'm just at a point in my life were i think i need the real deal.
Its either my personality or my looks, i've got loads of admirer's and people never believe i'm single but now i am dying inside. As single guys have decided to be douchebags i am leaning towards agreeing for this married man. Sincerely it is not about the money, dude lives in a rented apartment (i mean if i wanna date for money i will go for dabota lawson's kinda money).
I work and pay my bills i am actually content with my finances. So now married man and i have gotten close and really i just feel like using him for the fun of it. Because besides boredom i just need a man's touch in my life, as single guys have decided to be funny this seems like the next option.
Just that i feel gulity (I am born again and God has really been good to me) but stella at this point what's a girl gotta do? cos i am tired...
Right now after reading your writeup,i am honestly confused of what kind of advice to give you.....however if it is so bad and you must,please do not go near the man on your ''hit'' list because of his status....get a ''douchebag'' ease yourself and go back to your celibate mode.
Make I siddon read comments abeg,I have just recovered from being under the weather. *Innocent side eyes*
Let me sit and read comment
ReplyDeleteEyah kpele dear. Our stories are so much alike. I've bn celibate for well over a year....no vibrators, no dildos nd no kissing. It wld help to stop using d vibrators as ds will help u remove ur focus frm sex cos if u stay constantly thinking bout sex trust me u will be frustrated. Sometimes I get this uncontrollable urge to have sex, Il be alone ooo nd Il just be horny aa fuxk.....i just quickly say a word of prayer to God for him to give me strength nd He does. Its nt easy Bt plz just leave someone else's husband alone nd look for a matured douchebag instead that wont kiss and tell biko. Be patient....everything good will come.
DeleteI need d popcorn mbok
DeleteNo be small word of prayer.
DeleteQuicksilver like I said before, I hate your comments. Deborah God will keep helping you jare. Poster please learn from people like Deborah
Delete17:44
DeleteYour hate would consume you o, be guided.
Keep trolling my comments, today, I'm in the mood to reply you.
@ (I am born again and God has really been good to me) ...... ..So you want to thank him for being so good to you by sleeping with someone else's husband ?????? Smh
Delete@ (I am born again and God has really been good to me).......... So you want to thank him for being so good to you by sleeping with someone else's husband ?????? Smh
DeleteI dont remember the last time i had sex yet i live in the same house with my bf and its not like we had a mutual agreement to not havw any sex.
DeleteI came to buy popcorn n read comments. Pls keep the comments coming, Stella upload comment on time nah, today am very free. Biko
ReplyDeleteWell I think there's some deep seated reason why u are so disturbed and u are thinking sex will ease your tension and solve the problem. But we all know that most women do not know how to have casual sex. Infact 90% of women cannot detach emotions from sex.
DeleteMy advice to you is this, please search yourself, get to the real root cause of the void and loneliness in your life that is making u so restless and tackle it accordingly.
Having indiscriminate sex will only open u up to all kinds of danger, including heartbreak and diseases.
Goodluck!
I'm sorry that you're a douche bag magnet. I'm also shocked that you don't realise that married man is also a douche bag and that's why he's warming up to you. Stay away from him. The problem with pretty girls is guys don't expect them to be single , but ironically, many of them are. Most of the guys asking you out don't want to have a future with you because they either want a trophy gf for a short while or they want someone to pass time with until they find their dream girl. Someone guys don't like the competition that comes with dating a pretty chic because of their insecurities.
DeleteMy dear narrator, stay celibate until you meet someone who's worth giving it up . If you can't cope, get a friend with benefits. But no married men! Ruining someone else's home makes you a douche bag too.
Hmmm all is well..
ReplyDeleteMake i sitdown for stella side and read comment as well
Am quite busy today but I had to comment cos ur story seems like mine...although it past now
DeleteIf u have sex with that married man, he would leave when he is tired. N u would cry ur eyes out.(Am talking from experience &.my own was the like of dabota ) the money u get u would hate it
Focus on God n he would help u
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Lemme sit and read comments! One pop please! Keep d corn!
ReplyDeletePls dont ho near them married men cos you wont like wen other girls come near your man.just be patient you will get the right guy..i dont understand...is it that you looking gor FWB kind of relationship?
ReplyDeletewww.glowyshoe.blogspot.com
Hmmmm
ReplyDeleteJejely marry a godly Muslim guy!!!
ReplyDeleteU can ask the blog visitor ismail Aminu!!!
Fatimo pls what is the point you are trying to make?
DeleteDid you read and comprehend the post?
I swear u're a compound fool. Wetin dem dey talk....wetin u dey talk? parboiled ode!
DeleteSo what do we tell you? Celibacy isn't a do or die affair, do what you must madam, you are an adult. As for the married man, kindly note that he is there for the fun too, don't scream heartbreak tmr. .....
ReplyDeleteShall we remain in sin and ask that grace abound? Impossicant. If you're born again,then you should knoww that sex outside marriage is a sin let alone sex with a married man. Keep looking to God,stay off immorality,and he will grant the desires of your heart.
ReplyDeleteGod forbid!!!!
DeleteFierce pls help me tell them . All these born agains of nowadays . What happened to work out your salvation with fear and trembling . Where is the fear of God... Hmmm Lord have mercy, born again asking if she should go sleep with a married man
Incompleteness is not the result of being single ,but of not being full of Jesus.only the process of reckless abandonment to Jesus does any woman ever finally understand that in him she is complete.Dear poster read about Ruth she wanted Gods will not hers ,Gods assignment not her foolish plans,now ask yourself does your commitment to Jesus cause others around you like BVs to seriously consider if Jesus is your lord and personal saviour? Ami camicheal one of the greatest single lady missionaries who ever lived once remarked "the saddest thing one meets is a nominal Christian" you need to determine to wrench yourself loose from the grip of our times and return to biblical ways.please get a genuine relationship with God and trust him to give you his best in due season I mean why borrow another woman's husband for the weekend when God can give you yours for a life time .I suggest you read " lady in waiting God bless you!
DeleteI ignored the born again part because I don't know which church advises a born again to sleep with a married man or with a man that isn't your husband.
DeletePoster, I'm in the same shoes as you are. I'd rather fuck a married man, not for relationship though, cos these dudes are not loyal.
ReplyDeleteYes, I spread my legs with my eyes open, I have nothing to lose cos I know dude is married and I don't intend to snatch him from his wife. He pays my bills, and gives me a good fuck. Better dan fucking a single guy that dumps you later
I hope you will remember this comment when you find out another babe is sleeping with your man just for the fun of it, esp when you are married. Trust me, you will understand things differently then and regret every moment you spent with that man till you die. #justsaying.
DeleteWhat is the difference between a single man' s and married man's dick? Fuck is fuck. Say it is the money that attracts you. Single men are not loyal, is it the married man that is loyal to his wife? Be consoling yourself that you are not going to snatch him from his wife, the money you are stealing from her, nko? Nansense
DeleteTheir type will scream loudest when they finally get paid in their own coin. God can't be mocked
DeleteAnd whom are you deceiving ? Is the married man you're sleeping with loyal? Isn't he disloyal to his wife. Please don't bore us! If you don't have good advice, stfu!
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ReplyDeleteYou sound very sincere quite alrght
But have you stopped to ask yourself what if tmrw you were married and someone is fucking your husband for just the fun of it?
How do you think you'd feel?
Always consider the next "sister"
Don't let your sexuall needs becloud your sense of reasoning.
If you need a fuckmate, there are lots of single guys who wants same with no strings attached.
I agree
DeleteWhen I was single I had a single friend with benefit no strings attached. Better to run this kain thing with a fellow single person abeg, when you get into serious relationships you both separate mutually
I feel you babes..any guy I meet now just say 'oh I want to marry you,then when I tell them I'm not interested that's when I hear stuffs like 'o I just wana have you and shit! Dude fuck off..its so annoying they think all girls are desperate n they think they doing us favors by saying that shit! That's how one be saying he wants to marry me tht he'll do anything even if it means him going for body surgery(if I don't like his body) or go for testicle surgery if I want half cast kids..I stood my ground tho,now nigga says I just want to have u!Nansense..Enhen back to you bae with your write up you sound like a really cute lady, but why celibate na nne?Abeg free yourself, get a cute guy with a big dick..life is too shot to stay horny!
ReplyDeleteI love you already. Um nt a lesbian oo.
DeleteLife is too short to stay horny. That line killed it. Lmaoooo
DeleteNice one...
DeleteLife is too short to make God very angry poster don't take this advice please and sdks own
DeleteHmm just look at this lyf oh I know am not innocent of this crime but most people would go to hell becos of sex and u commenting pls keep telling every guy no because ur not desperate don't worry when ur 40 without husband you would understand but sha like u said life is to short to be horny...Lolz
DeleteLeave married men out of your to do list! Get a douche bag have fun with him and go back to your celibate life!
ReplyDeleteI don't even know what your problem is sef msheww
just forget the married man. If u feel u can't let up the cookie jar for nobody, just call up one of ur male friends that u trust and just tell him u just want to have sex. At least he won't be a duchess bag
ReplyDeleteIf you masturbate do not start saying you are born again afterwards. Okay?
ReplyDeleteI used to think like this too until I changed certain things about myself. Dear poster, there are good men out there. But I really can't help this ya situation.
I know , stay away from all appearances of evil my bible says. I like the Deborah lady's comment.. She silently cries to God in her moment of temptation, just like Jesus did and the Lord gave home strength to deal with it. When the urge comes and sincerely you want to be faithful to God cry out to him and he will give you the strength to overcome. We all fight different battles of temptation, might not be sex
DeleteAww sweetie, I can't even fault you cos I totally understand. But about the married man part,nah girl...stay tf clear, if it's just sex you after then you might as well just sleep with one basic random toaster yea? Cos devil no be pikin, you just might start feeling some type of way after sleeping with the married guy(I mean catch them feelings girl) so plz let sleeping dogs lie.
ReplyDeletePopcorn plz
ReplyDeleteLol its allowed but not with a married man.. Celibacy ain't easy abeg. I have sex whenever I feel like but ain't constant. As for the S and M, my God I got too many bbm request. Right now am even confuse. All want a relationship, can u imagine. You barely even know me!!!!!!....
ReplyDeleteFor the SandM requests,dont get too excited,cos most of them are players,married men and golddiggers!just be very careful.hmmm
Delete.....what gate is it sef?ok lamidey and missmaygate.!make ur story not be part two!lol
Stella scrap dis SANDM stuff,its only making it easy for pple dat jump from one relationship to another.nothing more!
Abeg give me popcorn let me read comments too
ReplyDeletePls stop asking this question!
ReplyDeleteBorn again?make I hear word
Your conscience wouldn't have allowed u to evn think of a married man
As u are already fed up with d shingles of single menfolk, kindly put urself in the shoe of a married woman.
U finally found a good man to marry only for another gurl to write this kinda chronicles on your hubby head, will u find it alright?
Pls look for a cool single guy and gbensh till thy kini come but I beg u, free a married man
Lol.. gbensh till thy kini don cum -pun intended
DeleteThank you cocoz for telling her the truth. You want to have fun, but with a married man? Why not single men who want sex without strings attached? Nansense. Have fun with someone treasure, they have nurtured and polished to look attractive and irrestible? Rubbish
Delete@poster:please go and sit down, you don't have problem
ReplyDeleteYou are still confused about what you want!
Stop following married men........
Stop mingling with the wrong people.
If you can't keep up with being celibate,then u get married.
As if the husbands abound on the street for ladies to pick abi? Abeg throw one my way and stick d price tag on it.
Deletefor me this is a personal thing and you are an adult so I assume you know what you want but in all sincerely I don,t think you know how to go about it.i can,t advise with what I have just read as I would have asked some other serious questions before arriving at the best advice wish you luck and ehugs.please fellow bvs visit www.africaintels.com.help a sister grow
ReplyDeleteBiko Na wetin be d meaning of ds ur comment?? Did u actually say anything?? 11lines of absolute nothingness
DeleteAnon, stop talking plenty.
DeleteI was wondering what in the world
DeleteIssorai........................................................
ReplyDeleteI tire for pussy and dick matter!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteWow,im so in d that shoes of urs right now poster. Infact I got tired n now only date married men. And sincerely,its not the money. They just seem to understand us well enuf. My dear,do wat u hv to do to mk urself happy.life is short. *hugs*
ReplyDeleteHmmmm.....it is well with you! Im sure u intend getting married some day too? I hope u would cope very well with the likes of u when they show up. U don't sound like u are doing anything out of place???? It is well with u!
DeleteUnderstand you well Kwa? @ the expense of his wife who he has used as a 'lab-rat' to experiment on? Nansense.
DeleteSee why I say women are the worst. Later you will cry for a husband and expect God to hear you
DeleteDid u say that u are born again? That's not true or maybe u don't know what it means to be born again.Leave another woman's husband alone.Fear God.
ReplyDeleteDearie if u are born again then u know that what u are proposing is not an option. Tame your flesh and bring it to obedience. You control your flesh, not the other way round. Curb it and keep working on urself till u attain perfection.
ReplyDeleteBrilliantly said
DeleteBrilliantly said
DeleteReading thru advices and I'm sad, truly am! Christians we say we are, Christ - like! What will Jesus do though?
DeleteBest comment so far !
Deleteposter, pls leave the married man out of this. Go 4 one of d single guys instead
ReplyDeleteSay d truth poster!
ReplyDeleteU want something that's y u r going for a married man!
Anyway u might be the wife's karma o
Lol, just saying...
Cos nothing happens for nothing!
Na turn by turn.
Hehehehehehehee
Enjoy while it lasts, nothing does u.
Very realistic individual u are! Most times these gals are the wives' karma. Poster i've been celibate for 3years and some months now. I'm very beautiful and I get plenty toasters including them taken men but ii stand my ground always. It's not my making but God's. Yes there are times I feel like pouncing on that cute guy out there... no I don't do toys never indulged in any b4 and won't! Condition ur mind and pray about it. Challenge God that he should reward u with the right guy since u are keeping his commandments. I'm very confident. Will send my IV soon *winks*
DeleteIt's a cycle then cause she will have her own karma. God doesn't work like that
DeleteBoring
ReplyDeleteMen, men, men
We keep going over the same narratives.
Chronically single girls blaming their problems on Men.
XOXO MYSTERY
Lmfao! People need to accept some blame in order to change. When all she/he says is 'it's not me it's them' and he /she doesn''t ever take the time to think why everyone seems to be at fault but him/her, when truly, he /she may be at fault.
DeleteThe shit just got real...... Babe whatever makes you happy abeg.
ReplyDeleteCelibacy isn't easy o... I feel ur pain. Pls dnt follow d married man o, look for a single one instead.
ReplyDeleteMake I catch any babe with my hubby, chai!! Na to waste her life be that, as for hubby, I tell him all the time, the day I catch him cheating, na that day marriage end, me, my toto, and my kids will leave his life for good.
DeleteAnd yes I fucked married men when I was single, I don't believe in that karma shit!!!
Well,it happens,pls I will advise u take this matter to ur pastor and pls always read ur bilble to see all sort that God has 4 us.I feel ur pain
ReplyDeleteYou wonna high the pastor s spirit!!! My dear free yourself
DeleteI just came to read comments!!!
ReplyDeleteVirgins and secondary-virgins i greet una *side eyes*
*munching popcorn and drinking soda*
#ok
Poster sounds confused.
ReplyDeleteAs a therapist,i advice you to have sex. Good 'ole,safe,sex.
JUSTDOIT
Peace
Babe please go for a single guy and Ave fun jor not all relationship leads to marriage .... For me I can stay without sex for as long as there's no man in my life, but being a celibate is a no for me! Except I still b Virgin! Some babe's will b forming no kpanshing before marriage but dey got all types of dido at home, dey kiss and do all sorts and still be forming celibacy hahahahahahahahhahh na me u dey deceive? Yeah I kpansh oooo as far as it was protected I got nothing to fear. #fuckresponsible!
ReplyDeleteJust so what your mind tells you. Follow your instinct.
ReplyDeleteJust so what your mind tells you. Follow your instinct.
ReplyDeleteYours is a yearba, mine has been for about five years i pity the guy( who must be DH) that will break this, am certain cobweb don cover down there. Its not been easy but i believe it will be worth it.
ReplyDeleteIt is worth it pls. Keep fighting the temptation, the Lord will give you strength
DeleteStella did u have an abortion? Cos this your recovered talk is fishy.
ReplyDeleteHow does it concern you
DeleteHahahahahaha! Na wah for you oh, abortion ke! Hain!!!
DeleteHmmmm. I feel your pain girl. Been there
ReplyDeleteI don't really kknw wat to say but I ll advice u frm ur experience n not wat I ll really had want u to do. From ur experience I ll say u shd go 4 d married man. Not becos its d right thing to do but its wat u can do to save ur sanity. Only d condition dat u won't turn to be clingy n destroy his home. Just knw dat all u want from him is a fling n nothing more. I prefer it dan u going to all d immature boys dat ll promise u d whole world n after duping u emotionally,body n money dey turn to monster n kiss n tell. But wt d man u knw wat u r into n its up to u if u can cope. The man ll av no hidden agenda n he ll care 4 u not only financially but emotionally n u ll av a shoulder to lean. In all, give him space wen at home n always respect his privacy wen at home n don't call or text him wen at home. Don't based ur happiness on him n always av it in mind he is married n u r just aving fling n not his woman. It takes a woman dat matured emotionally dat can be in dis kind of relationship. So ask ur sef if u r?
ReplyDeleteCaring for you emotionally and financially at the expense of his wife and children. Selfish women and men every where. Nansense. Why don't you have the same detached feelings for single men as you claim to have for married men and just fuck, the fuck your smelly pussy is yearning for? Oloriburoko somebody.
DeleteWomen see the type of things trolling around. See what this one has said. God have mercy on lazy women.
DeleteShe obviously isn't emotionally mature and that's why she's falling for someone whom she knows is unavailable. She'll rather have him than face rejection from a single guy. It shows she doesn't know what she wants. If she wants to be celibate, then she should put her foot down. If not, then she should start dating . Celibacy doesn't guarantee you a good man. Life isn't black or white . If it was, runs girls won't be marrying good men. She should make a choice and hope for the best .
DeleteHave you started ante-natal Stellar? We must eat that your jollof rice this time around!
ReplyDeleteAll comments today will be, I married as a Virgin, I didn't had sex with dh till he puts d ring on it Bla Bla bla bla..... Even dem baby gat something to say.... D truth is everybody can't be like u or do as u do. Married as a Virgin does not make u holier dan thou. I respect all Virgins though.....
ReplyDelete*baby mama*
DeleteAll these girls that have slept around and are so insecure.
Deletethis is the best time to say "konji na bastard"
ReplyDeletejoey na hin talk am
Hello Md,don't even go near d target.U jus wan to have fun so why not have fun with the single guys,pick ur bag and walk out.Pls oh!don't spoil the plans God has for you,its not how long but how well.
ReplyDeleteIf u decide to be celibate until u get married, then u Ve to erase d fantasies of sex from ur mind, however, if u must wank, pls get a single guy, and pls stop generalizing that all single guys are dutchebags, we still ve responsible guys in our society, maybe u need to change ur psyche and environment, then wait for God to do what He kns how to do best. Pls stay away from married guys, it's not fair on their wives
ReplyDeleteMy sister that makes the two of us but i have decided to still remain in my celibate state than have one man/guy use *I love you* chop my snail.
ReplyDeletegirl my advice for you is to stay off married men cos the aftermath is worst than what you think thank you and concentrate on you work since you are born again
ReplyDelete#GODWIN
Poster born again kwa
ReplyDeleteAnd u have been using sex toys?
My friend stop deceiving yourself
You need a man's touch
So its someone else's husband u desire..
Plz go and look for an unserious unmarried man like u
After all u ain't ready for marriage
Leave another woman's husband alone
Omg! Poster this is just me,single guys are mean even after swearing to man and to God that nothing will take me to a married man but now I see my self dating them.its bad I know but I need that man touch,attention and care.people don't believe me when I say I hv no serious guy in my life,i post a pic on FB in few minutes I see 100likes*sigh*crying*
ReplyDeleteYou are as unserious as the single guys. Your mates have serious men and you are chasing peoples husbands so please tell me how you plan to have a single good guy when you are as bad as the men you insult
DeleteYou are bent on getin laid,so go ahead but don't try it with a married man
ReplyDeleteWould have advised you keep yourself if only its the guys disturbing you for it but as it is,you want it so badly,so go for it but be careful and don't catch any disease from your adventure
No amount of keep yourself can do at this stage of yours.your prognosis is baaaaaaaad
Babe I'm married but I feel you on every level. Sometimes I feel for single ladies cos it's not easy. I think Stella has said it all. Get one of ur admirers and start off something. You alone know what you are looking for in the relationship, and who knows it might just lead to something. My two cents.....
ReplyDeleteBest advice so far!
DeleteI have to go ananymous on this. Sounds like my story too. early 3os and single. People don't believe I'm not in a relationship.I'm not ugly but I'm no beauty queen. And yes, I'm fucking a married man for fun. Maybe if I find a mega rich one, I might just consider being his permanent mistress.I'm tired already and want to back off and probably buy a vibrator. Don't bother cussing me because it won't work.Single men have decided to be unserious with me. Not like the married men are better but my secrets are better told to them than the single ones.Or is it about the single men that like livig off working women? hell no. But my sincere advice to poster is that you stick to your dildo. If you sell sex toys, kindly drop a comment below.
ReplyDeleteThat married man will do you in very soon. No be swear. Na true talk honey
DeleteDate a married man and face the consequencies that will affect your future . Babes, calm down biko. Get busy more. If you are not under a curse my dear not every guy you get down with will dump you after. You are probably meeting the wrong guys or there is something wrong with your person. Are you dating the same kinda guys?
ReplyDeleteIt seems all the good guys have been taken or happily married me sef I don tire o. Babes deres not in we can do than just wait for God's time which is the best. But please don't do this to urself coz u're disrespecting ur body and soul and God frowns on stuff like that. OK bye
ReplyDeleteGo and fuck
ReplyDeleteLook for a cute single guy with big prick and fuck and go ur way
Not Tryna judge u but u don't sound like born again oo
Please leave that married man and have fun with a single guy inugo?
Poster I understand your plight,but please don't use the married man I take God beg you,just get any single admirer you like,when you done you free him!!!!!
ReplyDeletePls make use of a single guy,why married man?? Pls dnt okay. U are looking forward to getn married,wld u be hapi if another girl does that to ur hubby in future?
ReplyDeleteall i have to say is this: u go for a married man, cool...BUT IF and WHEN you eventually get married, and a single girl like u decides to also use your husband for satisfaction, please do not get hurt...u mentioned that God has been so good to u...are u about to lose HIS favor for temporary pleasure? pls leave married men alone
ReplyDeletePoster like Stella said, just look for a douche bag that is single. The thing is it might just be fun at the beginning and you might end up developing feelings for the man. Its not easy this days because of the kind of men out there. Its better to take your chances with a guy with no family. You might just end up putting another woman in misery. I am single and i have been celibate for two years. My colleagues at work make fun of me. Is it easy, no. Infact ,there is this one singing wanting to settle down but i know its just sex he wants.Has it been easy hell no, but i will rather not sleep with a married man for just one reason,i don't want to cause my fellow woman pain and i have dignity.I deserve better than being a side chick for any man.
ReplyDeleteMadam, follow Stella's advice but use a condom o. But #teamcelibacy dou its nt easy.
ReplyDeleteClick my name for your organic skin care products.
Pleas lady you are not born again. The bible says you are a new creation when you give your life to Christ... Well from all indication you have not completely surrendered. Take your mind off sex, don't even know what is hungryjng you single ladies out there ... Get busy, I don't know about sex toys cos my bible did not state it in black and white but I believe anything your heart condemns is wrong. If you like go sleep with the married man, you will reap what you sow and he'll fire is waiting for you . Now let the "don't judge people come and attack me, we keep condoning nonesense in the name of don't judge. Standards are standards , if the bible says no then it is no. Not judging just stating the truth
ReplyDeleteGod bless ya. It amazes me when single "born again" christians talk of using sex toys to masturbate. Devil has really taken control of the church of Christ.
DeletePoster you really need to accept Christ and stop being carnal. When you fall in love with our Lord Jesus you will find out that you will go the extra mile not to be far from him. Though you may fall, but you are also quick to confess and go back to him. Make use of your Guardian Angel. Tell your Angel what you want and It must obey.
Remember God will never bring down his standard for anybody.
This poster God will bless you... As stella said lets leave married men out of the hit list. I cant shout!
ReplyDeletehello poster, i dnt rilly undastand u, there are guys out dere n belief me if u luk well u will see dat one guy rilly close by is dying to luv u.but the ish is u may nt like him or imagine urself with him.so dnt try or cosider doin a married man,please i beg of u. dnt do it, instead go out n meet a random guy n help urself not a married man.
ReplyDeleteWotever u do to ease urself just stay away from d married ones cos it will add to ur problems. A Lot of women say bad prayers for their husband's side chick as in d kin bad luck way go follow u dey waka. Even though she doesn't pray directly God took note of LET NO MAN PUT ASUNDER. (is a curse).
ReplyDeleteJust stop being too choosy, change ur perspectives on men, go to d right places, u seem to have a madamish attitude.
Am staying celibate and my man is rushing everything so he can c it...lol!...
Finally, challenge God by ur celibacy. It works!
Another babes husband. Think twice
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Sweety we ear wearing the same slippers.my own anger is lots of admirers,toasters and sex wanting both dabota kinda men,single+married. I need real sex although I have never used any toy before.My body calls for it. I wish to hand it over to my husband. Awwwwwwwwww nipple charging now I have to talk a walk because I don't wanna touch myself it's crazy.Any time I think about sex,my temperature rises and nipple firm+very hard. So I don't talk about and try not to think towards it but now my body is getting crazier by the day. Omg stella get me a single ready for marriage cool dude. I am hotter than fire
ReplyDeleteFainting anonymous
What happened to doing the right thing above your feelings... Honestly this generation of "born again"are clueless, yes it seems like am judging but no am not, just stating the obvious...
ReplyDeleteI fear churches these days sef
DeleteGaskiya!
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ReplyDeleteI feel you my sister. I was the same way before I got married. My congi went on for years because I was busy with work and school and family matters. But just when I was about to break it, I ended up bn rewarded with my horseband. Just don't do it with the married man. You sound like a sincere person and I think the guilt will eat you alive. Since you are not looking for relationship, you can just find a buddy and let him know what it is, no strings and get one off and move on. I have a feelng your situation is about to change for the better. This is just a fork on the road, good luck.
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DeleteLaughing in Spanish......people be deceiving themselves since 200BC. So na married man no b douche bag? Common u would v even made sense if u said u wanted the money! So on top that he will not commit to u, he will probably have u and 3 others , somehow he is better than a single douche bag! I pray u jam married man with praying wife na den u go know say being horny is the least of ur life problems! This oneself na chronicle? Sleep with him away just no say an dis one go pain u pass......wen e dumps ur dirty born again I am starving for sex ass.
ReplyDeleteLol 1 million likes for this comment
Delete:* *: for this comment. I also laff in Swahili.
DeleteMs Stella, forget that thing you write there. I don't buy this sob story and I will diss her. Because you don't live in Nigeria and married to a Nigerian Man, you won't know what married women are undergoing. I don't know where to start my story, but know that these single gals are not smiling and are ready to bounce on any married man who makes the mistake to say hello or smile at them. It is for the money biko. When they start the affair, they don't want to let go anymore. Forget all these talks by them that it is for fun. They eventually falls in love with their married lover who is the actual person having the fun and best of two worlds. Some mistress will start hating the wife out of envy, and start their plots to keep him either through pregnancy or mama dolphin way. These men leave all their evil spirit at home with the wives when they visit their mistress, that is why these fish brain confused ladies think they have no flaws. Wives will use their money to foot bills and feed at home, while the men will be using their money to foot the bills of their mistress. Wives will be on their knees, fasting and praying for their husbands progress and protection, but he is with his mistress, spending his blessings on her, while the long suffering wives will be begging for money from him. God is not asleep. I always read single and mingle posts and shake my head at the ladies. Now you know why, many of them are sleeping with married men. Long hiss. Who are the douchebags Ms Stella? Men that they are praying to wife them? Someone brother and son? Let me find my comment Ms Stella.
I won't even lie, na married man I dey take help my situation when I was still single. He who is without sin should cast the first stone.
ReplyDeleteHummmm
DeleteSo we see why
DeleteSame story line different tactics looking for marriage partner
ReplyDeleteHmmmm....there are a lot of single ladies going through a lot at the moment concerning either their stand in a relationship or not committed to anymore...in as much ladies come to rant here every Saturday through the year there are at least 20 weddings every Saturday we see them on instagram...I admire the grace u have in being a celibate and I think u should pray for more grace and focus on other things...be patient dear....when u unexpected blessings are here, the devil just bring on things that will distract you...pray and fast make ur confessions daily until they become part of u...before you know u are on ur way to marital bliss
ReplyDeleteP.S - my boyfriend is being heady about this marriage talk and we are in out late twenties and same age but says he has set a standard for his family and won't like to get married now...so I have turned myself to God, so he can have a discerning heart and if not God should bring what's mine
Life is too short to be giving what you and ur husband should enjoy to another man....
shot of words dear, suits yourself
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DeleteLmao!
DeleteWhat's love got to do with it?
ReplyDeleteGo and do, man wen go marry you go marry you whether you fuck him or not...Most of them that will come under my comment carry belle sef b4 they got married...If you meet a good guy, mbok do but don't do married man!
ReplyDeleteHehehehehheh spot on jare........
DeleteAbegi shift
DeleteBabe must you have sex? Yes is sex food? Well I don't want to be too hard o you, people really differ but baby girl don't do it with that married man, trust me, it ain't worth it! For the fun if it ehnn kwa? These are type tpu just get stuck and fall head over hells and you hate yourself now not just men. FOCUS!
ReplyDeleteMy dear rili sex no b food òo. D tin wey u go do wey go tire u wen u Mari. B4 I got married my fantasies abt sex no be for here, now I know beta.
DeleteU ain't no kid@poster u know wat u want.
What? You feel single guys are somehow so you think married men will do the trick. I pray his wife catches you and pours you hot water. Why are some of you so impatient and wicked. When you marry you will be the ones sending us chronicles yet you want to go after a married man to satisfy your urges. Close your legs and if you are bored, go out there and help out someone in need.
ReplyDeleteBV pls help me understand this...are you born-again in the sense that you cannot have sex with married men?
ReplyDeleteLADY IGO SAYS:
ReplyDeleteLADIES "OPEN YOUR LEGS" AND YOU'RE NOT WORTH A PLATE OF LEFT OVER BEANS FOR GUYS;
Yes, I am married and my fiance was my friend for seven years . . . engaged to him for 4 years and now married for more than a decade. I was (please permit me to talk about personal experiences now) a virgin when I married him in my mid 20s and . . . yes while in courtship we were in the most secluded of places; he respected me and I did same, never touched my body or any intention of such . . . we had all the passions of youths and managed it well. We kissed; yes we did (someone once asked me in this forum if I was a virgin when I got married and the answer is YES, YES AND YES). We talked a lot from the outset I said yes to him . . . we began to talk about our "vision"; his profession (which is purely faith based), our finances (joint accounts all the way), our kids (discipline issues, sex preferences and parenting), we discussed relatives and how to manage them . . . and in all these drawing biblical experiences (yes; that's the manual of life and marriage) . . .we talked about wedding (the low keyed type of it and concentrate efforts and finances on our marriage) . . . this man was with me . . . in his house (parent's house actually), in every lonely places you can think of and all we did was talk, discuss, study scriptures, (yes we were fasting most of the times and so the passions were under check and both of us were Christians) he did not touch me. From the day he asked; "will you marry me" I knew that the relationship was marriage bound and of course we both had visions of each other seeing that we both were seekers of God not "Man of God " or pastors or prophets. We trust each other like no other. If you tell me you saw him with a lady; i'd laugh you to scorn; yes, is it the same man that stayed for four years with me in courtship and all he did was respect my virginity and love me. . . I can go on and on . . .I've live in a blissful marriage and enjoyed good sex for more than a decade. . . and the security of a loving man's heart for that long too . . .
Why am I writing this ladies; Close your legs, devote your time and seek God who created you and give your life to Christ . . . If you begin to open legs now, what will you be doing when you get married. You have not even been proposed to and you are opening leg . . . you forget everything you should discuss and know about this man you say you love and only know all the sex styles . . . baby, you are not preparing for marriage. I've met and counselled innumerable ladies facing marital and relationship challenges and all I see is eroded foundations . . . for like the manual says; if the foundations be destroyed what can the righteous do? People say that in marriage, there is bound to be quarrels and I ask, where is the quarrel? I've live with my husband for more than a decade and faced some real challenges and yet we never argued talk less about quarrel.
Poster, I want to believe that you became "born again" after all the "giving up the cookies" (sexcapades) you flaunted in your story. If not, there is nothing like "Being born again" and "opening your legs" for sex while you are not married . . . ladies, choose this day which God to serve . . . learn to fast (discipline the flesh) if you want to keep your passions in check.
LOVE TO ALL OF YOU
FROM LADY IGO WITH REGARDS.
You marry pastor na!
DeleteBut your fiancee is a man of God na
DeleteChia! I don fear this woman shebi you said on the other post that you married at the age of thirty...
DeleteWat do u expect from a man of God? Madam enjoy yourself. ..
DeletePastors nowadays na dem dey do pass. She married a man after Gods heart. Sister I tap into ur anointing . God pls prepare my own for me.
DeleteMbok lady igbo I key into your story my question is....am also single and a virgin but am getting a bit concerned about how much is too much to give when ur dating. I looove the Lord but how much is too much excluding sex I mean. Cos I read one chronicle where the lady refused to sleep with DH even after court wedding but had given BJ until her mouth formed like whistle. I don't want to compromise what says yea?
DeletePoster am sorry I can't relate to your struggle so I dare not judge you.I just think you should ask yourself if this is what God would want of you who he spent so long and put in his best in creating.
Mbok lady igbo I key into your story my question is....am also single and a virgin but am getting a bit concerned about how much is too much to give when ur dating. I looove the Lord but how much is too much excluding sex I mean. Cos I read one chronicle where the lady refused to sleep with DH even after court wedding but had given BJ until her mouth formed like whistle. I don't want to compromise what says yea?
DeletePoster am sorry I can't relate to your struggle so I dare not judge you.I just think you should ask yourself if this is what God would want of you who he spent so long and put in his best in creating.
Hope your so called husband was not getting it from some one else. Cos I know of a so called man forming pastor and holier than thou for his fiancée, meanwhile he had girls he was sleeping with and Na him pray pass. Of course when d gist came out it was hidden from the fiancée
DeleteAnywayz, just as SDK said..if you must...get a "strictly sexual no strings attached" single guy, ease yourself and continue on your celibacy journey till yours-truly comes around or just get that Dildo..you might neva know wot yu bn missing..hehe
ReplyDeletePoster 2 go and serve in church, the right guy will find you. Aftr ur boy toy changes your oil what nxt? Man is insatiable. God has not forgotten you, ders a light at the end of the tunnel
ReplyDeletePoster follow your heart abeg.
ReplyDeleteRemember you have just one life to live don't waste it whining and pining in loneliness and starvation.
Echo.....
DeleteE-virgins and E-christians will flood this post today.
ReplyDeleteEven the ones sitting on their sugar daddy's dick right now typing a comment will come here and say "Leave married men alone", bla bla bla.
Mtcheeew.
Poster, fuck whoever you feel like fucking!
Quicksilk abi Na quicksilver, I always hate your comments. As long as you don't claim to be born again, I am ok. Just keep sleeping around and one day God's mercies will locate you
DeleteYou don't exist, anon.
DeleteNow, run along, will ya?
No,u r not born again...but God has been good to u as u say.
ReplyDeleteContinuation of my saturday chronicles......
My friend came to my place ystaday n we wento a near-by bar to watch epl games...we cldnt discuss cos of d noise dia n a few minits later he got a call n stepped outside only to see him come bak inside wit d said babe. I gave him my house key while I watched as Chelsea n arsenal bored me wit dia game...an hour or so later they joined me n we drank n ate fish dia till d girl left. Den he told me he cldnt bring himself to trying to persuade anoda lady to have sex with him dat it's awkward enuff doing so with his wife...den I advised him to report her to her mum since he's very close to d woman..I told him to grab her n start makin sex moves immediately he gets home n his wife opens d door for him without even askin or saying anytin. Den asked him to tell her everytin dat happened,how he almost slept with anoda lady cos of what she's doing. Den I told him "i'm proud of u son" ...he laffed n replied "d condom u stylishly left by d bed is still dia,don't worry about buying anoda one"
*yawns* wtf is dis???
DeleteLol, I remember your previous plea for advice for this said friend..
DeleteAwwww God bless u for that advise!
DeleteBabyface assassin aka ole gunnar solskjaer,ur comment on d chronicles about d lady with a bf n 2 oda suitors really got me thinking...I asked my babe(side eyes @ eka joy) n a very close female friend n I didn't like d answer dey both gave me...u said he shld annoy d guy n see his level of patience n how he reacts to things...dats so unfair,why wld u deliberately upset someone cos u wanted test his temper.I believe in letting things happen naturally...remember ,human beings reactbdifferently to d same situation,one cld lose wat cldv been a good relationship just by unnecessary test @ d wrong time...dats my opinion sha
ReplyDeleteEka joy,u must enjoy me
My love please stay way from married guy to be honest with u I'm in ur shoe we have same thing in common but trust me fucking this married man is not the answer. First control ur emotions don't put ur heart first on any guy u see. I do have my fun with guys not with heart. I fuck cos that's what I needed at that moment with the guy. Give ur self a break from relationship. Focus on what really makes u happy. Discover ur internal happiness first, have fun with girls, fuck without love move on with God. Build a career buy urself some gifts don't wait for man to give a reason of happiness. Then wait the right man will come ur way don't rush it sweetheart. From ur girl eve.
ReplyDeleteLADY IGO CONTINUES . . .
ReplyDeletePLEASE FOLKS PERMIT ME TO WRITE AS I'M INSPIRED TODAY FOR MANY LIKE STELLA SAID ARE THE SHOES OF THIS LADY HERE. SPEAKING FROM EXPERIENCES OF MEETING LADIES.
Ladies, you are the caretaker of this nice body God has given us for procreation in a marriage. If you do not open your legs, guys will not see a vagina to browse outside of marriage. My husband tells me that for the innumerable men he has counselled, (including those who became Christians after "browning" so many skirts), they postpone marriage and become uninterested once there is "free sex". And most of the ladies (from my end of the experience spectrum) are always thinking about "marriage and keeping him" in the course of "opening legs". The men on the other hand once legs have been opened do not value the lady anymore as wife material. Some ladies will come up to say that the had sex on day one with their husband and yet they are well married . . . yes I've met such a lot. The question is; how is that marriage? If you see him receive a call from a lady not known to the family won't you become a "snooping dog"? Trust issues bedevil such marriages . . . the unwritten code is "if her browsed me the first day or during our courtship and pretended to our parents or pastors or church that "nothing happened" why should he not 'browse other ladies" and pretend to me that nothing is happening? Ladies tell yourself the truth and do not lie to yourselves.
Everyone must not be like me . . . no matter how abused a body or life you are, Jesus will give you a brand new life. He said whoever comes to me, I will not cast out . . . I've known "professional prostitutes, call girls, runs girls . . ." call them whatever you like; become successful mothers, housewives, professionals and home makers and not "home breakers". Jesus does not "repair lives", he gives "new lives".
LOVE FROM LADY IGO.
Candid. Some girls fake it. The Lord shows u the truth. Yes premarital breeds mistrust.
DeleteCandid. The Lord shows u the truth into marriage 💑. Jesus is ur rock. Have u madam poster considered the soul ties? Sex is not a joke oh.
Deletei read this post and i thought i wrote it myself,i understand u alot cos im actually in the same situation apart from the married man ish,lets jst be patient and not resort to married men,trust me im as tired and fed up as u are dnt loose hope u'll definitely find someone special *hugs*
ReplyDeleteWhat is this ishh about married men,a lot of chics date married men,please all those throwing sand in our garri take am easy,Married men are human as well and we have feelings too.
ReplyDeleteDon't be stupid..face your family and stop ruining the destiny of young girls. Mtcheww. *clicks tongue* God will soon shrink the size of your junior.
DeleteMarried boys cause honey you are not a man
DeleteMmmmh, my dear you are not alone. I have been struggling with depression lately. I have been celibate for three years, I was talking to a guy I tot was my everything for 13months. He was really constant with me and told me all know. Well, we had sex last week and that was the day he stopped calling me. I cried , cried more and fell into deep depression, I actually to the whole gesture for the past months was love. For the first time in my 26years I felt USED ABD DUMPED. it's not fair because I was good to him. Well, I'm recovering slowly, but I thank God the sucidical tots R reducing! Lol. May God forgive you..
ReplyDeleteMy dear, it is well. Use that situation as a prayer point. I know that his own reward is coming. Just focus on you and trust me, for every tear, every worry shall be rewarded. Some men can be dumb thinking they are smart but when karma visits them, I just wonder.
DeleteAbeg no kee ursef ooo. D guy def knew wat he wanted from day 1 u were just blinded by love abi na infatuation.
DeleteWipe ur tears. Meditate on cor 13 send the guy a gift
DeletePray 🙏 4 urself and the guy. U r worthy. Look for passages that talk abt ur worth and God loves u. It is well u shall survive. Now Christ b ur head n follow the prompting of God. Get to love urself first honey. Coz the bitter truth is u attract what u got. Peace n restoration b with u.
Not every guy you treat as a King is meant to be Your King, but never blame yourself for thier mistakes. Save your heart darling until it's ready to Love again.
DeleteBorn again and you're complaining, God might be testing you with that married man, do not cause wahala to another woman because her prayers might scatter God's plan for you.
ReplyDeleteTry remove your thought from SEX and see whether God won't bless you only if you'll believe. THINK and THINK.
My dear for admitting what you feel is kool, I don't have the right to judge you but the truth is that you shld stay away from married men , I know that feeling,you can kill it. The right guy will come, get yourself more busy, be a worker in your church. I close from work 5pm and almost everyday of that week I go to the gym and church, I get myself so busy that when I get home I found out that I'm too tired for anything except to watch my favorite TV programme, take stock of my day and plan my tomorrow.Stay put, I know say body nobody no be wood. The right guy will come, just be patient and When that time come na you go tire o according to my Mama.all the best.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, give yourself a break! A lot of girls are in worse situations than you are. Sometimes hormones get the best of us but that doesn't mean we should go down the wrong path. A lot of men are dubious, silly, unfit, annoying, wicked, the list goes on but there are many that are really good. Who knows, what if you go ahead and sleep with this married man only to find your Mr.Right the next day? Women are far different than men. A man will sleep with a woman and might not place any attachment with her but a woman, that's another story. Women are more emotionally involved and before you can say jack, you might fall in love with him and become clingy hence do a lot of things you never imagined doing.
ReplyDeleteMy only advice to you is that you pray and wait to hear God's word, then, you can take the next step.
I wish you good luck.
LADY IGO;
ReplyDeletePARDON FOR THE ERROR IN FIRST POST; ENGAGED IN MY MID TWENTIES AND MARRIED IN MY LATE TWENTIES . . .
PLEASE, NOTE THAT like I wrote when I began commenting here . . . if I write my name or exact age (figures) and timeline, some of the ladies whom I've counseled whose identities I love to protect will "decode" "US" and that will affect our work. The sole purpose of commenting in this blog (since my husband introduced me here) is to "help" hurting ladies who need help and nothing more.
Because we presently stay in the western hemisphere (we are "missionaries") most folks in Nigeria and Europe wake up before us and when I come here the post is almost full . . . so I type very fast (without proofreading) so as to have a reasonably early post.
THANKS.
YOU ARE NOT BORN AGAIN.
ReplyDeleteLADY IGO TO “ANONYMOUS 18:02/18:05
ReplyDeletePlease it is not “lady Igbo” BUT “LADY IGO” . . . I am going to reconstruct your question: WHEN IS MARRIAGE CONTRACTED? YES; BECAUSE THAT IS WHEN SEX SHOULD START.
LOOK AT APOSTLE PAULS TEACHINGS: He said that marriage is a mystery but he talked about Christ and the Church . . . Ephesians 5:32 . . . When did Christ pay the (bride) price for the church . . . on the cross of Calvary, he paid with his blood isn’t it? This answers your question; ANY FORM OF INTIMACY (SEX; IN WHATEVER FORM YOU CHOSE TO DEFINE IT; LET’S TALK ABOUT DECENCY HERE. . . IT IS NOT THE DUTY OF ANY MAN TO TEACH A HUSBAND AND WIFE HOW TO DO IT . . . EXCEPT THEY ARE HAVING PROBLEMS INITIATING IT AND WENT TO A DOCTOR; GYNAE ETC.) SHOULD START WHEN THE BRIDE PRICE IS PAID TO YOUR DAD! The moment your father has received the bride price in a ceremony (i.e. witnesses no matter how small) and you tell him that you’re pregnant; wouldn’t the man start dancing?
Pitiably, we’ve seen a lot of women (including Pastor’s wives . . . tears writing this) abort (kill innocent kids) the baby in the womb because they had sex after “traditional marriage” (this is Bride price payment) and they have not done church wedding because “their church will not wed a pregnant woman”! Oh my good God. They are in error not knowing the scriptures or the power of God. And we met some of these ladies with the burden of conscience driving them to insanity . . . yes it’s that bad.
NOTHING IS WRONG WITH “WEDDING IN THE CHURCH” after all Christ and the church will still do the marriage supper of the lamb above. The thing is that Christ did not (from scriptural point of view) give the church the mandate to join folks in marriage (check from Genesis to Revelation and please share with us if you find a “wedding in a church/synagogue or temple). You saw a wedding in Cana in Galilee where “Jesus was invited” (John 2). Etc.
Yes, remember the chronicle you referred to; the lady was wrong and she knew it . . . many times indoctrination (your congregational doctrines) play a role in putting you in bondage. God will not judge you and I with your church doctrine but with the scriptures; it is written . . . But if you mean giving what you called “blow job” while your Bride price has not been paid, lady you are on your own . . . the scripture says; FLEE EVERY APPEARANCE OF EVIL 1 Thess. 5:22 . . . IMPURITY IS A WORK OF THE FLESH and we did mention earlier that when you fast (discipline the flesh) you will not give in to its desires . . . that erect thing will end up in your “opened legs” (and when pregnancy result; next is abortion; isn't it?) and if it does not (for any reason) your conscience as a Christian will deal with you and isn’t God greater than our heart; if our heart condemns us? . . . Jesus taught that believers should fast at least twice weekly (scriptures; our righteousness shall surpass that of the Pharisees . . .; Matt. 5:20, the acts of righteousness includes; fasting Matt. 6 NIV AND THE Pharisees fast twice a week . . . Luke 18:12). So to deal with the flesh and its desires believers in Christ should fast as a habit . . . not just when they have problems etc.
LADY IGO WITH REGARDS.
Over wise and too much of i too know has make alots of ladies loose there real husband today...and when ever some ladies are with a fake man they always acting foolishness but wen they find a man that truely love her she will start acting wiser to make the man look stupid till he walk away
ReplyDeleteLol I know the feeling.just distract urself hun.married men is a no no.dey seem so sweet and understanding but later drop u.lets pray we find our own soulmate
ReplyDeleteWait o, you ladies don't have work? No business aspirations? Nothing only man, sex . Tufiakwa half of you can't find husbands because the men see you as liabilities. Do you see the women marrying, they are not obsessing about man man man. Please Nigerian women stop this disgusting habit
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ReplyDeleteI am fuckibg tired of hearing single ladies whining of no man and no man us loyal. Who are the single men I see in universities, churches and offices? The truth stellistica is that they don't want broke ass niggas. They want denzel Washington kind of look. And from the comments I read here everyday, some attitude sucks big time. Stellistica, I got married in 2000. My husband was living in a room. Only bed, a chair, fridge and TV. Maby people were using one toilet. We struggled, today, we are blessed. He has aged well and look very attractive. We quarreled several times over his numerous affairs. The latest mistress, got so jealous and angry when he left her for another single lady, she was spewing fire and brimestone. I sent her a message to cool her head down. Then I moved my things out, contacted a lawyer for divorce because I was fed up. He came prostrating, crying and sworn that he was done playing around. My lawyer said I should not believe him, but my family intervened. I sleep with him using condom. I still don't trust him, though, he is always at home. Please stellistica, don't encourage these pitable stories, seeking for validation to do what is in their mind. Married men only go for desperate single ladies, and pretend to play the shining knight on a white horse. Kindly post my long comment, it took me time and MGB to type.
I hope the poster will read this comment.
ReplyDeleteMy dear a problem shared is a problem half solved.
Yes my dear you are born again. And I appealed you for your honesty and candid ness.
My dear note, God loves you, You are the righteousness of God in Christ, You are born again a beliver in Jesus Christ as your Saviour. Who will redeem you from this challenge.
I would obviously like to share my story. From the moment I rededicated my life to Christ. God tried to address some things that make my present state. But I was so heart broken I just wanted a miracle for healing and restoration.
I have always known God as my Father. I talk to him always that I am tempted to do this. I want to do this. And if I heed to His Grace I overcome the challenge. I have always known my God not to be angry with me. A person I can talk to.
Yes my dear in the past I use to wonder why I attract unserious guys. Yes honey. I use to feel the strong connection. When I enquire about the person. Ah the story was never good. I always kept this the back to my mind.
My dear on numerous occasion I have heard seek yeah first the kingdom of God and all will be added to you. I didn't understand. God one hundred percent understands your journey and is patient with you.
I was guided to the woman at the well. I kept reading the story and wondering whoa. I don't get it. This the holy spirit always prompting me. You see I was like by fire by force I must marry by force. So on my prayer journey here is my story.
On absurd occasions I was prompted to read the woman at the well. Then a preacher on tv clarified it. The water Jesus was talking about was love (fulfilment) which can only be found in Jesus Christ. She had so many husbands now living in adultery. Jesus Christ didn't even condemn her. Another story I was guided was the woman in adultery. The Lord didn't condemn her and told her do not sin again. Jesus Christ was hard on those who thought they could save themselves by themselves. In no need of a Saviour.
My dear Jesus Christ died for us so we can get stregthen fulfilment in all our challenges. Coz there isn't a perfect person since the fall of man and the ten comandments. So always look to Jesus like Deborah said above.
What am trying to say which I have seen similarity is relationship is on your mind 65 percent. That's why you now considering a married man.
My dear when you continue fellowship reading about God's love for you. Meditate on God's love for you. You will discard all of these things.
Do me a favor. For 21 days, do not use any of the gadgets, once sex tots come to mind call Jesus Christ. Fast once each week,in all of this three weeks. Take every tot captive to the obedience of Christ.
Now what made me to start taking responsibility for my relationships. YOU ATTRACT WHAT YOU GOT. tho' I was discipline by the Grace of God. I recognised that the guy wasn't. You see we manifest our lust differently. So write down what you don't like in these men. And see how you ur self manifest these characteristic traits.
Next my dear on numerous occasions Pastors spoke to me. Once that don't know me. Met me on the way. I should focus on Jesus Christ first. The day I said to God okay I will focus on you first. That's when I started seeing how I got to where I got. Why guys are on my mind constantly.
If I were you I will throw away all the gadgets even novels that are porn in written languages.
Take responsibility for your life. Coz masturbation invites spirit husbands, cousins also of perversion, etc. Get rid of all of them. God said he will satisfy you so that's where you need to start from.
End of part one.. anonymous
continuation .. part two from anonymous
ReplyDeleteI don't know you personally but JESUS CHRIST your Lord will save you.
My dear I have been celibate for a long while now.
yes years. All by his Grace. I do have my moments like Deborah I ask God for help. Don't be condemned.
Men have confessed how they are trying to make me their spouse via witchcraft.
Honey on this blog there is the prayer of you are worthy. Someone wrote it on this blog. Copy and read and meditate. Elisha on Marriage and thanksgiving.
You are blessed and Highly favoured. You are Jesus Christ disciples. Those who are hard on you are those who haven't forgiven themselves.s Yes funny don't date the married man. Inshore he should not be your best friend coz his wife has to be his best friend. I need to also tell you that the vow is a serious covenant. so don't got and break what God has put together. Just bc all are doing it. Ignore all that bullshit. You are already feeling guilt and this guilt is the gate way to your downfall.
Let God fulfil your loneliness put on messages. Go to bible gateway and go to audio section and put the Gospel on blast in your home. Get rid of that sexual energy in your home.
FLEE FROM TEMPTATION.
God be you guide and you get rid of all those sexual tots in Jesus Christ Name amen. God bless
Holy spirit be your stregthen and comforter.
God bless you.
Peace and Love.
Born again poster, please free the married man don't forget that karma is a bitch.
ReplyDeleteMarried men bawo?when they are not the best on bed.Pls,why don't u just go clubbing and have swore moment, instead of imprisoning urself with a married man.
ReplyDelete@Fatimah adura,wetin she won use me do?