Na wa oooh...LOL
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
HUBBY OF POSTER REPLIES HER NARRATIVE
RE - DATING VERSUS MARRIAGE DIFFICULTIES.
She sent in her narrative and i posted it on Saturday and DH hubby replied on Sunday.....Read her NARRATIVE.
Hi Stella, how are you doing? So I opened your blog and read something similar to me and my wife but I thought it might be a coincidence. Not until I snooped and saw she sent it to you. Nawa oh! Where do I start from?
My wife's wahala is too much, yes I dated her for 8 years but she was calm.
Now we are married and all she does is to question why I do stuff for my sister. She is my elder sister yes, but what I do for her should not be a problem. Because of her my sister moved out of our house and I rented a house for her, bought her a car and gave her some money to start up something.
My wife didn't have any problem with it, but she just started fighting me because my sister requested she wants me to give her husband some money to start up something that the money I gave her wasn't enough. She is claiming my sister is being greedy and selfish And saying that our first child is on the way and we need money to take care of her too.
Yes I know she is my wife but my sister is more important. And I know she is mad because I have refused to help her family. But my family is more important to me. Now we fight over every little thing and she is chasing me away. Yes she is a good wife she should just try and accept the fact that I can't stop helping my sister''
A lot of couples read this blog and so when either party codes and sends in their narrative the other party suspects and snoops..lol.
It is all good if we can use this platform to counsel couples and help them back on track.
Your wife loves you but probably does not understand your loyalty to your family.Oga i am sorry to say but your mail sounds somehow,like you force decisions down your wife's throat.
Can you not sit your wife down and have a heart to heart?You say her wahala is too much cos she is trying to control who you spend on?I agree it is your money but the minute you marry,two becomes ONE ......And that means her family becomes yours as well.
You seem like a smart man who has invested 8years of his heart,surely you didn't make a mistake.Try to initiate dialogue into your marriage and stop closing the door on your wife's point of view.
I am sure you will get good counselling from the comments that will follow.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
THE CONSEQUENCES OF DARLING HUBBY WATCHING YOU
GIVE BIRTH....
My own question is after 2 kids I don't think my husband is sexually attracted to me any more,I think it's an ordeal to him when we 've sex.
Sex before marriage and before the kids was mind blowing and we couldn't take our hands off each other,we could undress each other with our eyes but now we hardly ever 've sex even when I tell him i am horny he will just smile.
I am wondering if it is cos he was there for the birth of our 2 kids and he is just scared by the whole experience or it's me???. Stella he reads your Blog so i am sure he will see my fellow BV advice and comments .
For some men watching their wives give birth scares them and kills their sex drive.....but only towards their wife.
Some get it back and some never do.Most women do not want their husbands near the labour room after hearing tales of what happened to other women' marriage.
You and DH need time alone together...without the kids.
If you can,please give the kids to anyone who can look after them for two days and both of you go off to some nice hotel somewhere and some two days indoors talking,listening to slow jam and some nice wine or champagne by the side.......it will do some good.
All the best.
As in ehennn na real wahhhh
ReplyDelete********LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*********
I will only address n1 cuz I dey vex seriously, Mr husband abi fowojona you are mad. Very very mad, see the BS you sent in to Stella, you no get brain at all at all. Your sister is shameless too, who the fork sent her to go marry one broke ass chewing gum boy ( in okija's wife's voice). Issok I can see your sis and her hubby don jazz you, I don't blame you it's cuz your wife has not born yet. Kids are expensive cut your sister off and start saving for your children because the expenses will do you like film trick.
DeleteMadam wife abeg no vex just use wisdom because when this your so called hubby cut the sister off the family will blame you, so you and hubby should sit down and work it out and he should protect you from his family blaming you bcause that's how jazz start o. Iyawo use ya head and start forming your husband don't give you shi shi. Make his family come dengepose for your house and you two should form broke.
My only prayer is that your hubby come to his senses after reading the comments.
Stella you fall my hand you for don abuse him life in that your red pen.
Poster one,did I hear u say ur sis is more important? Am sure u are d one creating problems in ur home with what u av said
DeletePoster 1...your sister is more important than your wife????????????????? Ngwanu go and marry your sister.
DeletePosters wife, im sure you saw the traits in the manchild you married while you were dating and said nothing...
Eastwestern
Oh God Stella no post don annoy me reach ds useless poster one, oh God ph God oh God.....stella I'm shaking with anger....oh God, see d way I dey shout for here. Poster one God will not forgive u! Ur sister more important than ur wife?! Ur sister?! And u had d guts to say it out?!...oh God! Stella y u no insult this man nau?! Why?! Kai see as I dey boil!!! I need ds man's number. Have u nt read in genesis that....it is for ds reason that a man will leave his mother and his father and shall stick to his wife and they shall become one flesh! Or u no hear the place for new testament wen say....A MAN'S FIRST MINISTRY IS ITS FAMILY and any man that neglects his family is worse than an unbeliever! So u can help ur family Bt u cnt help ur wife's family and u even get mind to talk am come out....mr man u are a wizard! A veryyyyyyyyyyy wicked person....letme tell u something....u are sowing seeds in d air, nothing u go gain bkos tmrw ss ur sister wen she's done sucking u dry will walk out on u nd face her family ND u will be d one looking for help. A true helper does not do selective helping....he helps all and sundry. Ahh ds man ds man. Ure lucky u did nt Marry someone lyk me.....i for don teach u lesson. Y u no marry ur sister make she born for u. God plz oooooo make person no follow this type call am husband oooo.....i weep for d woman that calls u husband. U re a disgrace! Big disgrace. Choi Stella y u no give ds man mouth nau?? Why?! I dey xpect say u go blast am I swear! He sounds just as senseless as that babe that brought in d pokello ND elikem gist.....dude has no idea abt right and wrong. He just cant see. Gosh may God strengthen ur wife.
DeleteDid I hear poster 1 say your sister is MORE important? , I was okay with you helping and all, but then you say your sister takes presidence over your wife? ?????. SMH. A lot of people need to learn the concept of leaving and cleaving before attempting to get married. Nah wah!
DeletePoster 1 you are an IDIOT!!!! How can you say that your sister is more important to you than your wife and unborn child??? Why did you even marry this poor girl if you don't love her like that? You are an idiot. You better cut your sister and her lazy husband off and start taking care of your pregnant wife. Wicked fool!!! You think her mama born her for you to treat like shit?? Idiot!
DeleteTo slap this Poster 1 just dey hungry me, how can only one man reason like a 12-year old na? Bia nwokem, your wife comes before all these your family members you listed. And yes, your sister is lazy and selfish, people like her won't allow such happen in their home! Rubbish, I'm soo angry! Better go home and take care of your wife or she will move on to a more deserving man. Okenye umu azi!
DeletePoster1:oga how can u say ur sister is more important than ur wife?dont u know u two are now one?,...I kind of feel from ur narrative that u are too controlling, u bought ur sister car,set her up for business and she had d guts to come back for more for her husband, dat d money u gave her is not enough, dats not greediness,dats pure wickedness on her part,. Maybe u should place her and her husband on monthly allowance so u can answer good brother,..o tire for u ooo,. ..oya pretend things are not well with u and beg her for 10k two times and see if she and her husband won't start avoiding u,..be wise man...ur family comes first, ur wife and children are ur family and what ever remains will then be given to extended families...please think about it
DeletePoster one, u are a fool a very most wonderful fool ooo! To say that ur sister is more important than the woman u married to be the mother of ur children, other men use to protect their wives from there family u u are using ur hand to course trouble between ur wife and sister, u are not even a shame of urself that u have the gut to post this to Stella "my sister is more important" very soon ur sister's children will be more important than ur own children then u will still blame ur wife if she complains, u can't even hlep ur wife's family if it is other people that u want to help or do u think that her own family is not also urs? U better go and plain ur life with ur wife to avoid further problem or another chronicles.
DeleteSpace booked!
ReplyDeleteDo they give award for booking space that everyone has started booking space, this new trend is wack. Read before u come n comment
DeleteAt poster 1. As a man, I really understand you. You may be have been flabbergasted by the way your wife goes about the whole thing, failing to understand the type of bond that holds some siblings, some wives can tend to be forceful, and to a man who tends to be always on the defensive, But your presentation is bad, this reply to me is not even necessary, the kind of attack you will get from some of the women here, might even complicate issues for you. My advice let the love go round, but don't fail to help your siblings when you are capable.
DeletePoster one receive brain n sense IJN! How can a man say he prefers his sister 2 his wife! Like seriously? You must b a man wit fish brain! With dis nonsense u sent 2 Stella! Your wife try 2 stay wit u n talk more of getting married 2 u
DeleteHey Faceless Anon 16:45... mbok just paddle ur own canoe! How e take affect u wit d booking of space?
DeleteFunny Enuf, dat ur Sister might not even choose u as more important Dan her hubby, ego do u like film. Just help d much u can an put ur family first, why do u refuse to help her own side? Did dey do any tin 2 u? I tink u dnt love ur wife...
Deletemarried people for this blog I hail o
ReplyDelete#GODWIN
Funny Enuf, dat ur Sister might not even choose u as more important Dan her hubby, ego do u like film. Just help d much u can an put ur family first, why do u refuse to help her own side? Did dey do any tin 2 u? I tink u dnt love ur wife...
DeleteLet me sit and read comment
ReplyDeleteP1 I can bet my left toe, u r sleeping with ur sister!
DeleteU r screwing Shege from her head!
Ur wife is important than ur sister who is married,u hear?
What kind of sissy are u?
Can't deal abeg!
Ladies n dia wanting to make decision for their husband! I hate women trying to persuade their husband on some issue. Aunty Stella ur advice is zero on this case.
Deletewe the smallie ni dey solve una problem through our comment *smiles* marriage counsellor
ReplyDelete#GODWIN
Poster 1: you are wicked, how can you say your sister is more important than your wife, your family comws first? Is your wife not your family, your priority?
ReplyDeleteYes she is right your sister is asking for much, why is she leaving off another man while her hubby does nothing? Ohhhh you have to feed the hubby as well.
Thanx 4 saving me d stress of typing. But pls next time add verryyyyy 2 d wicked. Imagine d non sense he's saying. U want 2 give ur sister all Uve and ur wife's family u can't care 4? Oga go marry ur sister. Yeye man. May ur type never meet any of my siblings in Jesus name.
DeletePoster 1.. You are wicked and heartless.. The Bible said a man and woman will come together and bcom one and you are here blabbing nonsense about your sister being more important that your wife.. Say what?!
DeleteAm so posses at the rubbish you proudly typed.. You have a good wife that wants you to concentrate on building your own family you are there talking about your greedy sister.. She knows you are a mumu boy that why she has the audacity to come back to you to ask for more money for her shameless husband that can't go and hustle on his own he wants to collect money from a Boy years younger than him..
Go and apologize to your wife and start listening to her bcos it's seems she's the smart one..
As in! . You guys have said it all!. I can't deal abeg
Delete10 COMMANDMENTS OF MARRIAGE BY ED YOUNG! . Thank me later
Poster 1 u strike me as a man with misplaced priority. You shouldn't even be married in the first place. You are still a child
ReplyDeleteTnk u
DeleteGbam!
DeleteGod bless u Anon.
DeleteMr man ure very very wicked for saying your sister is more important than ur wife. Can u imagine!??
You get luck say no be me be ur wife, namesense.....mtecheww.
Am so angry with you Mr man!!!!
May God give u the grace to enjoy and last in this ur marriage. I just feel sorry for ur wife, can u imagine?????????
Even with CS guy man no near d door.
ReplyDeleteI made sure he sat downstairs.
Don't come close to my birthing room biko.
Poster 1,
ReplyDeleteYou are a very mean wicked husband and yes,your sister is greedy and lazy...
You rented a house for her and her husband,gave her money for business instead of her to work very hard with the money you gave her she is requesting for another money for her husband...
You are lucky you are not married to my kind of person,I would have shown you hell...
My brothers are very rich but I don't disturb them for money...
I work very hard to earn mine....
Your sister should leave you and your family alone!...
You have tried for her and her lazy broke ass husband...
You better start saving for your unborn children...am sure you don't know how much school fees is....
Advice to your wife,your husband has been jazzed by his sister...
Thank you Queen and Boss!
DeleteLol linda
DeleteGbam!
DeleteE-hugs for saving me typing stress. The husband is simply selfish and unwise.
DeleteEziokwu oo
DeleteThe man di very very wicked and mean
Save,Save for ur unborn babies.
Lord May this type never cross my path
Kisses to Linda my dear sister.
DeleteI love u babe
DeleteExactly, d guy na serious mumu for his wicked sister,I just pity d wife
DeletePoster 2. May be you are right. As for me, I don't think I would wanna stand there and watch my wife give birth, I faint easily
ReplyDeleteLol@ I faint easily.
DeleteROTFL dis guy won't kill me. @ I faint easily
Delete'Yes I know she is my wife but my sister is more important. And I know she is mad because I have refused to help her family. But my family is more important to me.'
ReplyDeleteMr man! Wtf is that. Respect yourself. Why won't u help her family in d little ways u can. Is she not Ur wife??? Thank God u acknowledged that she had no beef with u giving money to Ur sis for an apartment and to start up something. Now u wanna give her hubby too??? Is her husband Ur family??? If u can help Ur sister's hubby, u should be able to help her family too.
I tire for the man oh, he should be able to carry both families along, Mr man ur not a good person
DeleteTnk u,please let him kw
Delete@eka joy, pls ask him, if the sis husband is family too, Mr man make ur brother in law, get up and go and work, he is one lazy man. I didn't get that part that u bought ur sis car, instead of ur sis to sell that car and join the money with d one you gave her to start up something with her husband, she is still begging for more,ooh she want to be driving car like a big woman abi, I don't blame you, is your wife I blame seriously. Oga ur wife and ur unborn baby is ur 1st priority now, let ur sis and d horseband leave u alone joor. Bye
DeletePoster2, my husband was in the labour room, filming when I gave birth to my 2nd and 3rd babies, well sex have been wonderful till now, ur man should get hold of himself and rape you ( wink). Oga if you are reading dis, pls don't drive ur wife outside, pls do the needful. Bye
The poster one man is just useless
Delete@ Poster 2,
ReplyDeleteI volunteer to look after your kids so you can have a "Get Your Husband Back Time" with him. If there is anything else, I can do, please ask Stella for my contacts. Dearth of xes in a marriage is the death of marriage. I shall be doing community service to revive xes in marriages. This is an intervention!
Kenny kenny
DeleteGood boy you are,K.
DeleteHow on,earth will your hubby give you head after watching his plate tear,break n even sown back.
My hubby listened to my shouts only. He didnt come in.
Oyeah
DeleteHahhahahshaha
DeleteKpevuge, ud never change
Delete@ Eka Joy, yes. I dey hear you
Delete@ Irene B, the notion of holding your wife's hand during labour might be romantic but the reality of that gory sight down there is a psychological blow to a man's xesual appetite. Some things just don't go away.
@ Jbaby, I hail o.
@ Efe Kevin, how you reason am?
@ Salt E, I learn from you. Lol. Have fun
Poster 1: With all due respect, You are an ASSHOLE!!!
ReplyDeleteI hope stella posts my french cos u need to know this urgently.
Your sis is more important to you than your wife and your unborn child?
Your sis is married yet you still fund her? Her husband also needs funds from you? Her husband is also more important than your wife and unborn child?
I don vex! Biko Stella I don vex!
Abi Stella cooked this up ni?
E nor possibu na! Your sister jazz u ni?
Hahahahahahahaha!
DeleteShut up and go and sit down...Kpomo
DeleteKnow this urgently. Hehehehheheehhe
DeletePoster 1:
I don't support you oh.
You told your story in the best way to garner sympathy but still sounded childish and petulant. Infact, you vindicated your wife.
Your wife's narrative was very much an underestimation of the kind of man you are.
You know surely that your wife reads this blog, yet you sent this narrative where you said that your sister and your family are more important than her. That will be a heavy blow to a pregnant woman and she may even cry. How fair is it?
We all know that pregnant women can be overbearing, over sensitive and complain(frayed nerves), is it not your duty to stomach all that? Did you marry her cos you didn't find someone you value better after all your years of searching quietly while you both were dating or do you love this woman at all?
There is nowhere a spouse isn't more important than a sibling except in your warped child-like mind.
In religion, a man is to leave everything else and cling to his wife.
In medicine, a woman who is married and giving birth, they usually ask for her husband 1st(as next of kin)
In politics, you don't hear 1st sister, u hear 1st lady.
In Law, when a man dies intestate(without a will), and they want to administer his property, his wife comes before anything else in order of priority.
Even in tradition, the widow of a dead man bears most of the burden of mourning. Not the sister.
Perhaps you were a rebellious son growing up or you were really broke at the earlier part of your youth and now you're seeking to make up for what you couldn't do in the past. News flash: you don't owe them anything more than you owe your wife, your loyalty is 1st to her, and hers to you. When the chips are down, it is u she will stand by and not her family.
This sister you do these things for, if you die tomorrow, be rest assured they won't do anything much for your family. If you read this blog well, you will learn from experience. This is the time to save your money and build an empire for your children. Whether you like it or nay, your sister and her hubby have no business living with you even if you live in a mansion, it's inappropriate. If anything happens 2 you, don't think they won't claim the property or their sons won't say both of you contributed to build the house. In the bible, Lot and Abram had similar problems. Open your eyes, your wife is trying to save what is yours. She is trying to conserve your property and help you. Don't mix family and marriage or family and business or family and property because it's difficult to tell the difference and boundary. Thank God you came here cos you need urgent warning!
Don't talk too loud in anger. Maybe you believe a wife is replaceable and a sister is not. But you're just bragging sir. If anything happens 2 your wife(God forbid), you will never forgive yourself for all this.
Poster I, with ur narrative, u are the one with plenty wahala...y will u kep helping ur family members and ignore ur inlaws?
ReplyDeleteDid u read where the scripture says a man wld leave his father and mother to cling to his wife and vice versa?
Abeg stop looking for excuses where there is none.
Another one for # TeamSnoop
DeleteWomen bikonu,stop allowing your husbands to go into labor room with you...
ReplyDeletePoster,there's nothing you can do about it ohh..you allowed your husband to see it all...
Sorry!!...
Don't get it twisted. Dear Poster 1: Your wife and children should be your first responsibility.
ReplyDeleteDon't mind d inam ikot!
Delete@poster1 ur reply doesn't make sense and ur sister is greedy....u bought her a car and rented an apartment 4her and shez shamelessly asking 4u 2do more for her husby oya clap for ursef MR luv my family oshiwo...u beta treat ur wife well!
ReplyDeleteYes, tour sister is being greedy and selfish. Doesn't she realize you're a married man with responsibilities?? You too you're doing like someone who cannot reason on his own. Save up for your kids! How can your sister say the money you gave her isn't enough? Isn't she supposed to get profit from the business she supposedly started? Or is she seeing you as her bank simply because you're her bro? Oga, please try and get some sense. You can receive from Sense Distributor. Nonsense and ingredients. Smtcheeeeew!
ReplyDeleteHaba poster 1,how can you say your sister is more important to you? I am not saying you should not help your family members but pls plan for your immediate family also.
ReplyDelete@ Poster 1: you sound like you don't love your wife, did u just write that your sister is more important than the woman you wooed for 8years? Pls sir, pay attention to your wife. Undstand that she's fighting for the future, a baby is on the way and you need to understand that she's protecting your interest. U may not understand it now but in future u'll appreciate her
ReplyDeleteWhen a man says this, "Yes I know she is my wife but my sister is more important." about his wife, that should give the readers an insight into what a horrible husband he is, and what kind of a father he's gonna be. This dude is a very stupid and horrible excuse for a husband. Yes, I am a dude, in case you're wondering! If I could ever say that about my wife, why get married in the first place? You place your sister's welfare above your wife's and you still call her your wife? Wow! Na wa for naija men o. Now my heart aches for my sisters.
ReplyDeleteNot all Naija men...
DeleteThis poster is a pussy..
Infact he is going to be a horrible father. So mr poster would prioritize his sister's kids over his own. This man is not matured enough to be married.
DeleteDis guy is an excuse for a man, not jus a husband. E should b stroking his sister and d hubby since they both are more important to him than his wife and his unborn baby? I know dis guy is gonna go back and make trouble for d wife for bringing this to a forum but pls if u do have balls, and using it, then start acting like a real man, not yr sister wrapper
DeleteDude is an asswipe.
Delete@mr man who sent in his reply, "my elder sister is more important" where did that come from? Totally wrong if u ask me. "My family is more important".... is dis what u say to ur wife all d time? do stuffs for ur family but don't think ur wife's opinion doesn't count plz. Just like a close neighbor who married a very young girl cos he is d only son and needs to start having children as his parents wants, he practically takes permission from his father before doing anything for his wife. Even down to giving her money for upkeep. And I ask myself Y? If d wife complains he will say "he is my father and my wife is my father's wife too"..... I think we should know where to start and stop abt dis family thing when it comes to matters involving couples.
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2: just follow Stells advice if u can.
N 1. WAITTTTTTT!!!!!, dis i just read that his sisiter is "MORE IMPORTANT" na wa for some men ooooo
ReplyDeleteNarrative 1: I think you are being selfish. You said your sister and your family are more important to you, meaning your wife comes after them which is wrong. Please marriage is an institution of two people becoming one. You do stuffs only for your family members, but haven't done anything for hers. Remember you promised to treat them as yours, and she will treat yours as hers. Every woman wants to protect her home. Her questioning your decision on whom to help means you don't seat down and discuss it with her, you just tell her after deciding. For your sister that isn't working, you gave an apartment, gave money and even bought a car, and planning to give money to her husband, i don't think is wise, and in all this things you said you haven't done anything for your wife's family. Is possible your sister may be extorting money from you, but to be on a safer side discuss family issues with your wife,it draws you guys closer and remove chances of doubts. I pray for God's understanding and love in your marriage.
ReplyDeletePoster 1- seems like u love ur sis n her family more than ur own,it also seem like u like ur wife but not love,cos if you love her,u'll listen to her and u both can figure out a way to help ur sis n her husband. Family is good but wat if u r not alive will dis ur sis n her husband take care of ur wife n child(ren) d answer is NO,(thank God for nollywood and real life experiences).Mr macho who says his wife's complains too much,u better watch it before u loose ur life or ur wife in d process of helping ur family. You know ur sis very well cos u both grew up together,but do u really,i mean REALLY know her husband?
ReplyDeletePoster 2- it was a very big mistake allowing DH into d labor room,anyway follow SDK advice and we all pray ur get ur Sex life back.
Poster1;oga you are arrogant oh,look @ the way you are speaking,very rude your sister is more important than her,your family is more important than hers,what is the meaning of that,i thought marriage bring two people together as one,it is very important to have a job as a married woman. You sound like a man who makes decision on his own and shove it down your wife throat,like a man who will wake up one morning and bring in a family member without discussing with your wife, oga you need to communicate with your wife about things,i don't think your wife hates your sister but the way you go about it must be annoying just like the way you sent this email,take her family the way you take yours,discuss things with your wife,listen to her opinion,advice and guidance it doesn't make you a weak man,it makes your wife feel she's still part of you
ReplyDeletePoster2 your husband have a side chick,because, you forced him to the labour room, just pray he gets himself back,your pussy dose not attract him anymore
Stella what happened to my comment???
ReplyDeleteI don't understand Stella dis days,
DeletePoster how can u say
ReplyDeleteur sister is more important than your wife?
The bible says and the two shall become one
So ur sister is married and was living with u?
U sound like 'a Gadaffi kinda man'
And yes ur sister is greedy n selfish
Isn't her husband a man like u?
Let him take care of his family!!
This lines really made me Lol!!
ReplyDelete"If you can,please give the kids to anyone who can look after them for two days and both of you go off to some nice hotel somewhere and some two days indoors talking,listening to slow jam and some nice wine or champagne by the side"...
Choi madam stellz you must really be "onye Oringo"....God punish poverty for me!!
#life is good....
@poster 1;help her family as much as you help yours..it would really hurt your wife to know her family needs help/love from you but all you do is only give to your sister..
Mind you when you took that vow of "together an one"; your wife automatically becomes your priority above any other thing/person and her happiness as well as that of those she cares about now become your own isshh too...so stop giving your sister priority over your wife in as much as your wife is still humble and performing her wifey duties to you!! Just learn how to balance stuffs between your immediate family and your extended family so there wont be any form of jealousy coming from your wife to your sister,mother or any other person related to you by blood...
Mind you i didnt say you should give your sis money;but that you should learn to balance giving out between both sides...Ndewo!!!
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Poster one: she's your wife and she should be more important to you except you don't love her...the bible said a man leaves his mother nd father and clings to his wife! talk to your wife, show her she's more important.
ReplyDeletePoster two: pele, take your husband to see a psychotherapist or else he'll stop having sex with you and starts getting it outside. He needs to over come d trauma of his experience or else it's d end for you.
LADY IGO SAYS TO POSTER ONE:
ReplyDeleteLOVE IS NOT SELFISH . . .
and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? Matthew nineteen vs. five.
Yes, we've quoted from the manual of life and marriage. You judged yourself poster. Your wife and the unborn child is THE MOST IMPORTANT PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE! Believing it or not does not change. In fact, the scripture says that if a man DOES NOT (note; not "cannot") provide for his immediate family, he is worse than an infidel (first Timothy five vs. eight). There is no need "fighting you wife". Yes, your sister is greedy; her husband should provide for her etc. Or better still, they should share the much you've been able to give them. If your accounts and every other investment is not in your wife's and unborn child's name; Man you goofed big time. Is your sister answering your sure name now? What did you discuss and promise this lady called your wife during courtship; has all those "I love" you changed? She is a good wife; so why are you fighting her?
A man we know did same thing like you; he did things like investing without the wife and kids being part of his life. The very day he died in a vehicle accident, his brothers went to his house while the wife was still grieving in the hospital and ransacked everywhere and took all the documents to his businesses. The wife could not even pay hospital bill or claim his corpse which the brothers all abandoned. The lady became a beggar with her 3 kids till date; the mission is taking care of them. It was same mission that buried the "foolish man". Do not be like this foolish man dear.
FROM LADY IGO WITH REGARDS.
Lady IGO has said it all. Dear poster if what you sent in is true then you need to reflect on your marriage and stop punishing your wife and unborn child. Don't be like the foolish man in the story above.
DeleteNa wa! This two narrative today get as e be.....p1, the love weh you get for your sister na make your wife sidon look things she deh so o. I hope you have invested in her financially as you have your sister and her husby. Its a case of blood is thicker than water here but your wife is the next person to you before your sister. Just my little opinion, I might be wrong though as I have never being married before. P2, Maybe you have changed physically and not attractive again or maybe your hygiene. Why not sit him down and ask him your flaws or what went wrong then you thrash it politely.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: am sorry to say this to u but u r not yet matured for marriage for u to say that ur sister is more important than ur wife. Even the bible said a man shld leave his family and cling to his wife and d 2 will become one. That statement/impression/opinion/mindset is WRONG. U even admitted that u refused to help her family and u expect her to be happy. If u were in her shoes, would u be happy seeing that u love ur family so much? Y didn't u marry ur family instead? On ur sister's issue, yes she is greedy and selfish. She wants u to help her husband right? If she has common sense, she would have asked u to use the money u used in getting her a car to give to her husband for his biz. For somebody that is not yet buoyant,u got her car. How will she be maintaining the vehicle? If I were ur wife, I will equally not be happy. My advice for u is that if u want to get the best out of ur marriage u seriously need to change ur mindset about ur wife. Thank God am not married to a man that reasons like u.
ReplyDeleteThe man is annoying
DeletePoster 1: how can u say your sister is more important than your wife. My God, that's so sad. Your wife should be next after God. Shame on you sir, please marry your sister.
ReplyDeleteN1, u sounded like a very proud, selfish and self centered man. Can u hear urself, u rented a house for ur sis, bought her a car, gave her money for biz and yet she is asking for more for her husband. It shows dt ur sister is lazy, n stupid on top, bc someone like me won't av dt shame to ask u for favour again after all dt u did. U refused to help ur wife's family and u are even bold saying it, u should be ashamed of urself. U better sort tins out with ur wife, come to a compromise wt her, av a heart to heart talk with her and settle tins wt her, bc if she leaves u today bc u said she is a good wife, den believe me but u can't marry ur sister. Am not trying to say dt u should now turn to ur wife's family ATM, but u are an adult and u know what's good to do to help ur wife family if de are in a problem dt u can solve. Be wise and stop allowing sister sentiment ruin ur family, bc once u are married, d most important tin is now ur wife and kids, dts d most important tin, ur wife and kids is more important even to ur mum. Bc bible said and two shall leave dia parents and come together and become one flesh, mr man bible said one flesh so u shouldn't forget that. I rest my case. N2, it's sometin dt u av to discuss with ur husband and hear him out. But if it persists after dt, u can go to therapy or better still, do as Stella said, go to a vacation. Goodluck to both parties.
ReplyDeleteI feel like slaping poster 1,u are wicked man,ur family comes 1st oda ppl ar secondary,ur wife try father christmas,go and marry your sister u hear,ur sister is greedy ad it's better u see dis on time. U beta apologise to your wife u ve hurt her.u need to hear ur self.
DeleteNo,dat his sister is not greedy,but she is a wicked bitch,i can't even look my brother in d face and say give my husband money to start his own business,when I know he has given me some money for myself(dat money is supposed to be for her family and not for her coming to request her own husband's own differently), she wants to drive car when her husband doesn't have a dime,...wicked woman.. I don't believe in juju,so I would say d man is just being played by his own sister.
DeleteI don't think Poster 2's scenerio aPPlies to a naija man.
ReplyDeleteIt cld be any oda tin, but not dat.
It cld be u?
It cld be financial crisis?
It cld be d man is worried abt smthg?
Or e cld be gettin it frm somwia else?
Naija men no dey get Psychological breakdown excePt its from substance use or juju.
Poster one... Sri to say but u are a self centred man.... Ur proud to say ur sis is most important...... Like serusly.. Wat do u tink marriage is.... D day u marid her u marid her family too and so d way u treat ur family ur suppose to do likewise to her family...... Truthfully if u were in her shoes how will u behave
ReplyDeleteU sound like a man dat does not listen wen ur wife talks... U sound like an authoritative man... But all d same u shud communicate well with ur wife and d both of u shud discuss at length tell her wat she is doing dat u don't like and she shud do same... If u do blif me ur marriage will b peaceful
Poster two... Talk to ur dh..... Ask him wat d Mata is and tell him how u are feeling
Dear husband of poster: You are arrogant and very disrespectful to your wife, your sister probably knows that so does your family so your problem go plenty if you continue this road.
ReplyDeleteYou said you sister is more important than your wife
You said your family is more important than hers
hers
Do you understand that you are married at all? Do you understand that you need to be one with your wIfe? Do you understand the meaning of " cleave" together?
I am married and financial honesty is one of the best things my husband and I agreed on
If I am loaning someone money he signs as witness if he is loaning someone money I sign as guarantor, if his mother visits he mentions an amount to give her I usually beg that we add to it hence we have peace money is not ruling us.
You are the head of your home and if your home is beautiful its to your credit if it's messy and nasty it's your loss. Better stop this selfish attitude and start regarding your wife as your partner and not some stranger who is below your family. What a shame, you need more maturity sir to be married
U said it all.
DeleteTo him his wife is just a baby carrier nothing else, no respect for her at all he just married her so she can give him kids and he can say he is married, he isn't ready to be a Husband
Deletea.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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One: i will really congratulate you for always considering ur family and i was clapping for yu untill i saw yu said yu are not helping ur wife people..... Frm what i read yu gat money and by spending for ur wifes side doesnt mean yu will spend half of what yu are spending on ur sister, just a little and believe me she will be ok but after doing it ur wife still complain then we will start seeing her fault bcos yu were spending on ur sis. Even before yu married and i dont think anyone gat the ryt to stop yu frm doing that unless yu urself..
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Two: i will never watch my wife give birth in the future thats for sure....
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Poster 1: u must be a very greedy husband. U helped ur sister, good. Now u want to help ur sister's husband. Bt u can't help ur wife's family? Mtsheww.
ReplyDeleteThe wife of Narr 1....GET A JOB AND STOP WAITING FOR THIS MAN TO HELP YOU...HE WILL NOT. His family is important to him, who is your family to him? What he has said shows you are not even on the ranks of important, you are just there. Biko get work, business or if you already work...get another business. Your man is not here for you Biko. His sister in her husband's house is more important. And if you like go and fill everywhere with kids, time will do this man will tell you your kids are not as important. Be wise. We work to avoid our husband's throwing this type of rubbish in our faces. Some of these men are like that but thank Goodness for the ability to get your own. If you were planning to be a housewife, please dead that idea and once baby is big, get back to an office.
ReplyDeleteNarr 2...This is quite sad as your husband is not meeting your needs again. This is the one time I will say this, has hubby expressed that you are too big now or unkempt. Ask questions of your lover and see changed happen ok. Be stern with him when you ask what is going on and why your needs aren't important to him. When he sees your seriousness he will think.
Poster 1 all I can say to you is a BIG msheww! Yes spend all you want on your sis but for saying your sis & family is more important than she & your baby that is on the way you sound silly & I guess you didn't assimilate jack from anything said durning your marriage class. Marriage is like a triangle - husband, wife & God. No wonder your wife is seeing red... Poor woman is feeling like a 2nd class citizen in her own home & I put it to you that you don't love her as you claim to do. If you truly do, you would have figured out a way to assist your family, show love to her own family (after all they allowed you to marry their daughter) & also show her that she counts in your life & in any decision that you make. She's pregnant so don't use your foolish behaviour give her hbp before you put her life & that of your baby @risk. Be a man & put your house in order jare!
ReplyDeletePoster 2 - You & your hubby need to get your groove back. Have you searched yourself? Do you still look sexy & appealing like before? If no amend your ways, if yes then take a time out with him to a romantic place & reconnect... I hope & pray that there is no side chick sha
Put sister for bed n start a family since d love is unconditional naa,very immature male specie
DeleteTHELMA ENEMUWE said...
ReplyDeletePoster 1,you sound so rigid and contrlling,you don't have regards for your wifey's feelings,how can you claim to love your wife and not extend a helping hand towards her family???and ure expecting her to be happy on the way you've made urself an ATM for your elder sister and her hubby and ur sister is capitalizing on on the fact that she can get anytin from you however and whenever!!,,how can your sister be more important than your wife????Uve got a misplaced priority here sir and with this I DON'T CARE ATTITUDE of yours,you're gonna use your hand to destroy your marriage....need i add that ure so selfish!!!,....
Poster2---spice up your marriage and give your hubby the ride of his life!!!
*faithful BV enemuwe thelma*
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DeleteTHELMA ENEMUWE said...
ReplyDeletePoster 1,you sound so rigid and contrlling,you don't have regards for your wifey's feelings,how can you claim to love your wife and not extend a helping hand towards her family???and ure expecting her to be happy on the way you've made urself an ATM for your elder sister and her hubby and ur sister is capitalizing on on the fact that she can get anytin from you however and whenever!!,,how can your sister be more important than your wife????Uve got a misplaced priority here sir and with this I DON'T CARE ATTITUDE of yours,you're gonna use your hand to destroy your marriage....need i add that ure so selfish!!!,....
Poster2---spice up your marriage and give your hubby the ride of his life!!!
*faithful BV enemuwe thelma*
THELMA ENEMUWE said...
ReplyDeletePoster 1,you sound so rigid and contrlling,you don't have regards for your wifey's feelings,how can you claim to love your wife and not extend a helping hand towards her family???and ure expecting her to be happy on the way you've made urself an ATM for your elder sister and her hubby and ur sister is capitalizing on on the fact that she can get anytin from you however and whenever!!,,how can your sister be more important than your wife????Uve got a misplaced priority here sir and with this I DON'T CARE ATTITUDE of yours,you're gonna use your hand to destroy your marriage....need i add that ure so selfish!!!,....
Poster2---spice up your marriage and give your hubby the ride of his life!!!
*faithful BV enemuwe thelma*
Always get him drunk maybe him prick go stand but brain nor go work
ReplyDeletePoster 1, Look, I know that your family is important, but your wife is the most important. I know you want to help but it seems your sister is taking advantage of you. Please don't get me wrong o, help your family especially your parents. But NEVER neglect your wife. She is now your first duty. Call her and talk to her before you make any financial decision. The worse is that you both will finally agree on a lesser amount. Plus I think that if you truly take care of her like you do to your sister and her own family, she won't be mad at you.
ReplyDeleteIts not fair.
Poster 2, Talk to DH, try and initiate some moves... I dunno what to say. Just follow Stella's advice.
Now I know that my hubby will not come anywhere near d delivery room biko. Him that things irritate him like this.
If your appearance is the only thing beautiful about you, know that you won't be beautiful for very long.
Appearance is temporary.
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Delete@ poster 1. Stella is right. You are a self -centred husband . You spend so much money on your sister but neglect your wife's family. She has every right to air her opinion on your finances because it affects her too. The two becomes one, therefore your finances is as good as hers. I'm not quite sure you attended marriage classes because if you did, you'd understand these things. You need to respect your wife some more and stop imposing decisions on her. If you're that generous, then you should extend the generosity to her family as well. Like I said earlier, you're a self centred man who doesn't understand the institution called marriage. How could your elder sister live with you a newly wed, ofcourse thats disturbing you and your wife's privacy. You can't continue funding her life, housing, car, business, don't you have better things to do with your money? Your wife is correct, invest in your future, your children's future. Raising and training kids now costs quite a lot. BE WISE. I do hope your sis is not controlling you spiritually sha
ReplyDeletePoster 1, is ur sister's hubby not workin? Why do u feel it's only ur sister that needs help n ur wife's people don't?? you said your wife is good person, y nt learn to treat her right so that problems wl b reduced cos a good person is hard to find..
ReplyDeleteSo your elder sister is still more important to you than your wife eh.....you should have married her....that was a silly statement to make...mumu
ReplyDelete@poster one...see ur nkapi mouth!!! Oya go and fuck ur sister naa!!! Smtcheeeeerwwww
ReplyDelete@poster two,abeg wet in you dey talk about?? Smh....biko check if ur pussy now stinks or whatever!!!
Pa Chiboy was there when I birthed our first son abeg!
Who knows,he might be fucking her...
DeleteLinda Nnem everything is possible n'uwa anuyi no n'ime ya. I won't be surprised. Kai that man doesn't know nada. This life ehhhn, conditions change. My momsi's cousin got stroke and the wife unleashed all anger and bitterness on the hubby. The kids didn't intervene because they saw everything when papa was ill treating mama. The son even invited the mom to USA and was like papa would be sorted out with the helps. He regretted life b4 his demise. One thing these efulefus don't know is that war against their mama is war against them too. No one cares about papa when chips are down.
DeleteI think he does cux a right thinkin man won't say dis nonsense
DeleteSo your elder sister is still more important to you than your wife eh.....you should have married her....that was a silly statement to make...mumu
ReplyDeleteJEEZ some men r selfish oo, ur sister is more important than ur wife? Why did u not leave ur father and mother and cling to ur sister so u both will become 1 ehn? Mschew, u r helping ur sister and helping her husband u r now the milk factory okwaya? Ur family is more important so ur bro in law is more family than ur wife? U deserve slaps.Gosh madam poster I don't blame u how did u cope with this dude for 8 yrs u r too patient joo.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: yes child birth scars some men but what I'd advice is do not conclude.Rather sit n talk it out and understand what the problem is rather than assuming.is it ur fault he got scarred? If he didn't want to he shudv not entered the labour room.Stop thinking that it's d view of the....that got him all like that.Secondly, it might naturally be he wants to flee from u n needs an excuse
1] Oga your ego is out of this world! From your mail I can see your wife is really suffering! So your sister and your family are more important to you than your wife and your unborn child?? I weep for your wife truly!
ReplyDeleteIn the church when you're getting married, you'll be told a man and woman will leave their mother and father and go live as one and start their own family!
Yet you're here saying your family is more important to you than your wife!! Nwokem si ebea zuzu puo...rubbish
2] I just don't understand why you women that allows your husbands into the labor room with you do it! Bcos i have never tried it and am never going to try it!
Nywaz do what Stella told you and see if it'll work! Good luck to una
Poster1- you think your wife getting angry that you are spending so much on your sis she been insensitive? OMG men the way you people reason disgust me, you rented a house for your sis, a car, and money for business and she still came back to ask you money for her lazy husband, your wife is too good cos if it me brim stone would have fall in that house,eventho your sis is the one that sponsor you in school it too much oga haba at the detriment of your wife happiness, your sis is so greedy and selfish jesu, and she angry because you are not spending on her family, my sis husband pays my parent monthly not that we don't have but a way of showing thanks for giving me a lovely woman, I'm so pained in your narrative, you for no answer self, which woman would have been happy, afterall she saw you grow, so gold digger is out of the story, better change
ReplyDeleteStill trying to figure out how things work on this blog but i will post my comment regardless.
ReplyDeleteFirst narrative ': how can you not appreciate that your wife has your best intrest at heart by wanting you to save a little for your unborn baby. If you drop dead today do you think your sister will go thta extra mile for your family? I will advise you listen to your wife more often and learn to draw a line between generosity and stupidity. Your generousity is borderline stupidity. Why couldn't your sister help her husband from the little you have given her. Why must she involve you?
I could go on forever but i will stop here.
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It's no longer borderline stupidity, it's full blown, unapologetic STUPIDITY!!!
DeleteI'm sooooo annoyed at this poster 1 right now.
1---Mr man. I'm sure she didnt say stop helping ur sister. She must have meant u shud check the amount of money u spend because u guys are about to have a family of ur own. Do u think its cheap to have kids ni? Okay o. Do as u please
ReplyDeleteU sound upset that ur sister had to move out.
Doesnt she have a husband? Why was she not staying with her husband? And why is it that u are the one who got her a place n got her a car? And why is it that u now have to send money to her husband to start something?haba!! Kilode! Dem wan kee u ni? Is he jobless? He apparently is if his wife can be living in ur house up till the point u got married.
She obviously didnt want to move out. What married woman would be living in her brother's house and reluctantly move out after he got married? A lazy greedy one. They get everything they need from you so why should they want to work.
They will always need money to start something and when that money finishes, u will give them again. Sometimes, tough love is the best. The day u refuse will force them too work harder to make their own money and stop living off u.
2- u guys need to sit n talk abt this ur issue. He most likely remembers the delivery everytime he tries to come close to u and it turns him off.
@ Poster 1. I don't interfere with couples talk but kindly look into this alight and rectify urgently if you won't appreciate it the other way round.
ReplyDeleteMy wife's wahala is too much.
I know she is my wife but my sister is more important
she is mad because I have refused to help her family
my family is more important to me
she is a good wife she should just try and accept the fact that I can't stop helping my sister as well as extending it to the husband.
Correct this Errors and stop destroying your Home with your MY MY MY attitude. If your wife was your exact will you accept it! Gush.
@Respondent and complainant go back to the drawing table and set some couple policies...Damm! Your cases are hereby discharged... Don't come to this panel without positive feedback, and complains won't be welcomed
But how can you say your family is more important than your wife?! O boy you never ready to marry. So your wife that left her home for you to come and live with you and have your children she's not from a family?! Even if you picked her up from the middle of nowhere one day?! Na wa o. Help your sister but do it wisely, not at a cost to your nuclear family.
ReplyDelete#1, DH of 8yrs, accomodate ur wife like u ve done 2 ur own family. U won't help her family? Why???They committed a crime by given their precious daughter 2 U?,,,,U re just hummiliating ur wife n its nt fair! U re the one chasing her away if u ask me, bc of the way u sounded. If ur parents inculcated so much love in ur family like u claim, then u shld do likewise to ur immediate family too. I pray u relate with her more like a wife(soulmate) than d way it is now n give her a sense of belonging in her home so she can birth beautiful kids with good heart 4 U oooo!!
ReplyDelete@poster 1, don't u feel ashamed to say u have refused to help your wife's family? And that your own family and sister is more important to you than your wife?
ReplyDeleteThank God I am not married to a man like you, your narrative is disheartening. And if your sister is married, why would she first live with you then now you have to get a house for her, can't her husband provide for her??
My hushusband understands what marriage is and he sees my family as his own, giving them all they require as well as providing for his own family and would never say his are more important to him than I am, shame on you for your words and actions. You should have married your family, you obviously don't need a wife.
The first narrator sounds like an arrogant, selfish husband. So proud to write that you don't offer help your wives family cos your family is more important.
ReplyDeleteYou won't stop helping your sister cos sge is more important. Who does that?
Why not listen to your wife and share ideas with her? After all , if you ever get broke, it is this same woman you expect to understand with you and stand by you.
Narrative number two, it is very common for men to loose interest in their wives after watching them in the labour room. My cousin confessed to me that after watching his wife give birth to their son, he stopped going down on her and doesn't think he ever will.
Now the problem is, most first time moms don't know the consequences of letting their husband into the labour room, they feel it's romantic of him.
Most first time dads have no idea what is ahead, they just offer to be in the labour room because they want to be supportive of their partners.
Poster 1,u are a very silly man.ur sister is more important? Ur family is more important? Na wa for u. Ur wife is cool I swear! Hw dare u say that? Hw dare u be so proud to say u refused to help ur wife's family nd u expect peace in ur home? U nor just try at all. Am even surprised Stella didn't dish it out on u. Yeye dey smell.#hiss#
ReplyDeleteThank God I didn't marry a man like poster one. Very selfish without remorse. Tufia. Well I'm sure your wife saw you the way you are and decided to manage you like that. Good luck to her. You can also decide to have a joint account with your sister and have her cook your meals. Shior!
ReplyDeletePoster 2..Na 'see finish' dey worry your husband. Learn to ignore him. Stop telling him you are horny and make sir u always look hot. He will come chasing you. Men love the chase you know.
Poster1.........No woman is more important than your wife firstly so receive sense.
ReplyDeleteAnd to the wife I know your type, You act all nice and lovey before marriage once dem marry u put for house u begin to show your real color rubbish,so u don't want him to help his family abii,giving inlaws body heat and chasing them away.By the way don't you have a job?look for something to do and take a chill pill.
Just like stella has said the both of u should sit down and dialogue
I see the money is there na how to spend am be issue.Ok
Did u just say this abt ur fellow woman? Did u read all this selfish man wrote? N u r forming u know her type.My darling u don't know half of who this type of woman is when she's married to a selfish man like this.Did she say he shud stop helping his fam? She said it is too much my sister. They have a new baby and u think d shameless bro in law shud be part of her worry? Rly? Nne pls don't talk like that.U don't know what women go tru with arrogant disgusting men like this piece of shit.
DeletePoster 1: my question for you is why did you marry when you know your sister is more important than your wife? Or maybe you are not explaining yourself better in your narrative. you are sounding as if you dont care about your wife and your baby, you are sounding like someone who doesnt care about his wife's family but they are also your family. you are choosing your sister over your wife and that is very bad. to me, i will say you are not being fair. i advice you and your wife should sit down and talk. DAZZOR!
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts exactly....
DeleteLADY IGO CONTINUES;
ReplyDeleteTO POSTER 2:
The foundation of your marriage was destroyed by "mind blowing sex before marriage . . ." (kindly see Psalm eleven vs. three). My husband watched me give birth to our first daughter and like I wrote in my earlier post; our sex life is far better and more fulfilling now than during honeymoon! Even yesterday (more than a decade after marriage), I demanded it from him twice and on both occasion had amazing orgasms and slept like a baby yesternight! If the foundation is destroyed what can the righteous do? That is from the manual of life. Well let's assume there was no "termination of life" during those "mind blowing sessions" in your dating etc. Yes, because you were a fertile lady.
We've counselled many in your shoe and the underlying factor was what I wrote above. In many of those cases, the man was also "playing away games" ; yes there rule in such marriages is suspicion and hypocrisy.
Our humble advice is to FAST AND PRAY; both of you or else . . . the marriage will be turbulent etc. Sex is very important in marriage and that is the way it is.
One lady once told the story of how they both lost interest in sex and even visited a gynae: He advised them to watch porn together and what resulted in that was the husband began to go to prostitutes . . . yes you know that a man is more turned on by sight. Their problem became worse and you know the man could no longer achieve an erection with his wife but the stuff stands at attention as soon as he enters the brothel or takes a prostitute in his car on their way to the hotel. Within weeks, they were back to the same doctor who prescribed viagra etc. The wife still saw no show. Of course the man never told the doctor of his escapades with the whores! He did not tell the counselor too . . . but the later perceived and sent the wife out and he opened up. He was asked to confess to the wife (helped by the counselor of course and went to tests etc.) and let them begin a 9 days fasting program i.e. till 6pm daily and it was after that that he was unchained from visiting the whores and they began to enjoy their sex lives again!
"The thief comes only but to kill, steal and destroy; but I (Jesus) have come to give you life and that in abundance" John ten vs. ten.
FROM LADY IGO WITH REGARDS.
This poster one just annoyed me. Silly man! The moment u say I do,ur wife's family becomes ur family. Hw dare u say ur sis nd ur family is more important. U are a very Wicked somebody
ReplyDeletePoster 2: I just believe he has someone outside that is why he not interested any more.
ReplyDeleteQuestions:
Are you still sexually attractive? Have you added so much weight that he once complain of? What of you dress sense? What about your sexy lingeries? Do you still do things that turn him on?....
Poster 1: Man no 1 team snooper. She is afraid of your spending,
Must it be her that shud be all this n many more? Have u also considered if the man himself has become distracted by an outsider which is no fault of his DW.Lets try to stop asking women too many questions.Some things in their lives r depressing already.
DeleteWow!
ReplyDeleteThe thought of my bf reading my chronicles will be weird.the first narrative is a very selfish fellow that doesn't listen to his wife.second with time he will surely come back to you.
Tell him 2 put a ring on it already
DeletePoster 1, Though In Marriage 2 becomes 1? Pls how Is Ur Sister More Important than the Mother of your Unborn Child? Please Somebody Explain that To Me, And if u wanna Make any Decision Please Let Ur Wife No About It... tnks
ReplyDeletePoster 2, You And Ur Hubby Need Some quiet Time together Alone, talk and have it All Over Again, it's gonna B Fine, Wish U All The Best... My 2cent
@Poster Ur narrative is evidence that you do not have regard for ur wife.Imagine writing "Ur sister is more important to you", "your family is more important to you". That is not right at all. Your first priority is your family(New family which includes your wife and unborn baby) even the bible says so. u and ur wife need to sit down and talk like people that have the same goals and reach an agreement.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 you are so selfish. Your sister is more important than your wife. Did you send this mail in a rush or you meant what you sent. Pls your wife is making sense by limiting your expenses. You rented her a house n bought her a car and still want to finance her hubbys biz. Are you a maga. Poster 2 it happens. Talk to your hubby and let him know your fears. Take stellas advice.
ReplyDeleteHonestly..mwas poster 1 expecting us to clap for him? Mr man u shud be ashamed of urself for coming to spew trash on a blog. Please retrace ur steps and get it right b4 its too late. Gosh!!! See how u even regard ur wife. May God help you.
Deletethis is for poser one, you dated for 8years and you dont think your wife is important enough to give you any advise.as married couple you are expected to make all decisions affecting the family together. i'm not saying you should not help ur siblings/family but to me someone that comes back requesting for additional money after all you listed you have done for her is truly selfish, without considering your own family that you intend to start. your wife was just protecting her interest which is her marriage to u. by the way if you do not want to assist her family that is your business but i hope one day you will not be requesting for assistance from her family. just saying.
ReplyDeletePoster1; Your marriage will not last , wat do u mean ur sister is more important to a woman carrying ur child? Na wa! If dis is marriage then I remain single ........Rubbish
ReplyDeletePoster 1 I am sorry to say but your wite up is very stupid. Are you not aware that when you marry your siblings and parents become your secondary family whilst your wife and kids should be your main concern?? How can you confidently write that your sister is more important than your wIfE. Are you high ni? Why don't you kuku marry your sister then. Your wife have every right to be angry with you. Please leave your sister who has her own family and will probably never put you above them and face your home. Na wa oo. Some women are trying.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, you are far from being mature and its quite obviious that you are not ready for marriage, cuz if you are you will understand that your wife has a say in every decision you make, be it financial or otherwise. Infact, at the rate you are going, you will end your marriage with your own hands.
ReplyDeleteBtw, if that same sister of yours were in her shoes, she would do same or even worse.
You need to learn to set your priorities right. And that you say that your sister is more important than your wife? A brain re-set will do you some good!!!
And yea, your wife is right. Your sister is greedy and insensitive, while you are plain foolish!
Poster 1, you do not have to tell your wife things you do for your family neither should you tell your family what you do for your wife. The truth is in-laws and wife's relationship is never going to be 100% cordial, it is now left for the husband to apply wisdom in dealing with both parties. I have two elder brothers and they never tell us what they give their wives and their wives do not know what they give us. I had surgery in 2007 and my immediate elder brother financed the whole thing. When he came to visit me at the hospital with his wife, I opened my mouth to tell his wife to thank her husband for me, but the look he gave me could freeze boiling water.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, which one is I am horny. Can't you make the first move, initiate sex? At least, you sleep on the same bed. Make the move abeg
Ur just dumb.what is ur advice here.idiot
DeleteNarrative one. Your sister is more important that your wife and baby on the way? That's the impression I got. I don't know why I feel so bad and betrayed in the place of your wife. You are a man, there's this delicate balance between your other family and your new family. You make her feel like a second choice that comes after your sister and your 'first' family. Why won't she have wahala? You're making her unhappy. Please strike a balance between both, you need wisdom to do this. act well, so you won't lose your immediate family while chasing the comfort of your 'sister'
ReplyDelete*than
ReplyDelete@poster1 : you are selfish and wicked.
ReplyDelete(1)my sister is more important
(2)my family is also more important
(3)you don't help your wife's family and u have the gut 2 even say it.
Anuofia........ur wife needs 2 poison you asap.
Am not against u helping ur sister, but 4 the fact dat u don't extend ur generosity 2 ur wife's family shows how selfish and wicked u are.
Keep encouraging ur brother 2 be lazy until they drain your account. ........teach him how to fish u dick head.
Mtcheew
@Poster 1: I read through your narratives and I saw a man who wants to destroy His marriage. Slow down and be sincere with yourself. Both of you will loss if something goes wrong. In your mind you think your wife is the one disadvantaged, but you are wrong. There is peace in your sis home, but yours is boiling. Tell me, where is the sense there. In marriage openness, fairness and sincerity are the ingredient for a happy home.
ReplyDelete@poster2 : don't worry, he will come around.
ReplyDeleteJust talk to him about it...
Poster 1 all i read was "my sister is more important" like seriously? Ur sister is more important than ur wife? Hmmm,think about dis what if ur wife comes to u and says her brother is more important than u how would u feel? Ur wife is ur wife ur sister is ur sister. Don't make ur sister ur wife. U and wife are suppose to share idea. Think about it. Family is important but immediate family comes first.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: I feel what ur wife is going through, how can you say she is mad cos you don't wanna help her family, I thought when you got married both family becomes 1, also u have tried for ur sister this time around I think u shld help just one person from ur wife's side!! It's Unfair to proudly say to her that ur sister is more important to you than her, it hurts anyone!!
ReplyDeleteYou sister comes first before your wife?????
ReplyDeleteHow will you feel if your own sister tells you her husband told her same? Can you make love to your sister or can she give birth for you?
Your family comes first before your wife? Seriously??? Ask your mum how she would have felt if your dad told her the same thing when he married her?
Yes! Your sister is greedy! Money your gave her is not enough, and she wants more for her husband? After renting an apartment and buying her a car? Why didn't her husband go and meet his own family?
You sound childish! Yes! Childish! Your sister is using her own marital burden to disturb you, and you are telling your wife that you won't help her own family??? Sit down for a second and think deep!
How do you expect your elder sister and your wife to be in the same house and there won't be friction? Your sister is married now abi? Let her own sister in laws come to stay with her too and see how it feels?
Mr Young husband, face your new family and prepare for the new addition to your family because more expenses are coming. Let me tell you one bitter truth...GOD forbids you lose your job or the unexpected happens, NOBODY, I repeat, NOBODY will help you with your responsibilities! That is when you will see the true colour of your loving sister and family!!!
Learn from other people bitter experience and the bible says; A man shall leave his family and cleave to his wife and they shall become one! By the time your sister and other members of your family start to have their own children and have a new family, then you will know that OYO.
Wifey, be patient and prayerful. Give him time to adjust to married life. You've been married for 8 months. He will soon change, when reality sinks in. Try your best for your family from the little you have. His elder sister is not sensitive and sensible, she is behaving immatured. Best of luck.
Nitty.
Poster one pride is just too much. His statement alone made M̶̲̥̅̊ƹ too think of wot d lady in questn dat got married to him is going through. Gosh dis man is mean.
ReplyDeletePoster2 I think stella have said it all
Poster 1, ha Nawaoooooo.
ReplyDeleteYour sister is more important than your wife, wrong. Your family is more important than hers, again wrong.
Am not saying you should not help your sister or her family. But once you are married your wife is the next most important person in your life after God.
You should draw the line when it comes to helping hour family cos now you have your family to plan and take care of.
The same way you care for your family is the way you should care for hers as well.
The thing with some siblings is they never stop asking and don't know when to draw the line.
Mr man draw the line. You can't say your sister is more important to you than your wife. Since she is not sleeping with you, and isn't doing wifely duties for you.
Draw the line. If your sister's in laws disturb her like she comes to you for help will she like it?
Remember it is somebody's daughter and child you have under your roof. You were not doing her a favour when you married her, haba.
All these tales make me scared of the big M....so poster 1, why did u marry ur wife since ur obviously obsessed with helping ur family. U have been a martyr instead. This Tory get as e be jare....
ReplyDeleteI don't know about the others, but am certainly not swallowing this.... Ife a di ka akuko e ji asa umuaka ishi, ifo chakpiiii, wooooh!!!
#mythoughts
I wonder y some women refuse dere husbands helping dere siblings, a man can marry as many wives but he can't buy siblings. Women please take note.
ReplyDeleteWhat is this one saying ? Did u even read d narratives at all. Ode person. Be talking nonsense.
DeleteI wonder if you read & understood what was posted. Read & assimilate before your fingers start itching you.
DeleteI wonder if you read & understood what was posted. Read & assimilate before your fingers start itching you.
DeleteNarative 1 u must b a very wicked and self centred man!u shlould have married ur sister and mk babies with her since she is more important than ur wife,fish brain ur sister is using u to. Build her family and ur using ur hand to tear ur family apart.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 I feel like insulting u... how dare u say that? If she's not as important, den y did u marry her? U r arrogant, supercilious and conceited, better go and apologise to ur wife n settle with her. Ur not mature enough for marriage to know what it entails, u gave ur sis money for business n she's asking for her husband...e be like say d money full ground. Better tell her husband to tkr of his family n u tkr of urs, stop giving a young pregnant woman(ur wife) headache. She doesn't need dis at all.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Awww darling, dnt be sad...just do as Stella says. It will be well...**hugs**
8 yrs of courting her and you didn't build an empire for yr sister and her husband. Na wa for you. You are MEAN.
ReplyDeleteYour sister should work harder, the more you do all these, the more her husband relax.Tell yr sister that you're broke and see whether she n her husband'll help you.
Your own mini-you is on the way and you're talking this cheap. Wise up Man and advice your sister to be serious with her business.Her husband shld look for a job whether driver or ... atleast it will bring food on their table.
#2 You and yr DH need some time off. Talk to him and I pray God will touch him.
#1 Why did you marry her if 8 yrs isn't enough to cater fr your family. "Your sister is more imp than your own wife" abi na yr sister you dey sleep with abi yr wife?
ReplyDeletePoster 1 you sound like your sister is your side chic and she is a strong side chic to be more important than your wife. Sir, I know a man like you that almost scattered his home, it was 3 months before he died he realized that he had done his wife a grave wrong. Leave a good legacy for your children. Treat your wife like you would treat your mother. She left someone's home to come to yours. If she leaves you today (which I know you think is impossible, but trust me things are changing nowadays) you will not know your bearing. I have a feeling she practically does everything for you, that is why you are taking her for granted. Mr. Man appreciate your wife and your children will appreciate you. If you treat their woman like a second class citizen, they will treat you like one in the future. Oga change, change o, before this issue gets out of hand. Humble yourself, retrace your steps and beg your wife like crazy. You have done her a great wrong by having this mind-set and please if you want peace in your home, keep your sister at arms length. You can show her love without messing up your home. You and your wife are one.
ReplyDeleteTo the sister: What type of woman are you? This same thing will start happening to you if you do not stop interfering in your brother's home. If you know what's good for you be good friends with his wife. Let her feel like the gem she is in her own home. Women like you always end up regretting your attitude eventually. Please Madam change o. If you want anything from your brother go through her, then she will discuss it with your brother. You know your brother and you know he is wrapped around your little finger that is why you are manipulating him. Please stop, it is so unfair. He has his own family now, have mercy on the poor woman and respect her position. Please be like the sister that sent in the story of her brother and his wife so he could change. God bless you.
Poster 1: You just spoilt my day with your stupid narrative. Men like you have a space in the deepest and hottest part of hell. Useless husband and son in law. If I were your wife, I would poison you. Idiot.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 you remind me of my husband 6 years ago. Elder sister and husband always interfering and my husband will always put them first before our home. I fought and fought but like you he felt they were important but you see as the money you gave your sister wasn't enough and she had to request for more for her husband? That will never end. They will always need more and you will always feel you have to provide until you get fed up and then they will get angry with you. Best advice, face your family...wife and unborn kid...cos you can never satisfy family members.
ReplyDeleteYour sister is very greedy. Oga you no try at all. she has every right to get annoyed.
ReplyDeleteif you are doing for your family do for hers too.
Poster 2; Most men loose interest once they witness birth of a baby. some feel pity. I pray your husband come back to his senses. In short let him receive full sense in Jesus name. Amen
#1: Dear sir, I read your wife's narrative but I was too preoccupied to leave a comment. From what I read, what came to mind was the disadvantage of having an usually long courtship because most of such couples marry out of necessity, guilt or obligation after spends so many years together. It's rare to see people who have dated for such long periods still marry with that initial burning passion and zeal. In most cases the relationship has run its course and what's left is that brotherly/sisterly bond brought on by overfamiliarity and complacency. It feels "comfortable" being together instead of passionate.
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately, dear sir, your reply confirmed my fears. Please sir, I mean no disrespect but sometimes, it takes an unbiased stranger to draw your attention to a fact you may not have even considered. If your wife doesn't come first in your life, then something isn't quite right. The minute you were joined in Holy matrimony, your wife comes 1st, the kids 2nd, then your job or business and your extended family. Same applies to your wife, you should come 1st in her life as well. This doesn't mean she has the right to stop you from assisting your sister, it only means you owe her the duty to pacify her and win her over to support your decisions. Guess what? If both of you had put each other 1st, you wouldn't need too much convincing, she would stand by most of your decisions even without you asking. I'm sorry, sir, but writing "yes I know she is my wife but my sister is more important" though honest, is an indication that both of you need to work on your marriage and fall in love all over again before the hydra-headed problems start sprouting out and making both of you miserable. According to the biblical standards, you ought to leave your family and be conjoined with your wife, body and soul. Your sister should be more important to her husband and not you, with due respect.
Since you guys are expecting, she gets a free pass because she gets to use the "raging hormones" as an excuse for her aggression, it doesn't matter if it's true or false. That's one of our "privileges", please don't rob her of that. Pregnancy takes its toll on a woman's body and "things" may never be the same, surely catching a few of her temper tantrums shouldn't put you off. It's a reserved right until the hormones regularize some months after birth.
@wifey, my darling, a wise woman builds her own while an unwise one tears it down.Timing is essential in every marriage. You must know what to say, where to say it and how to say it. Be as wise as a serpent and as harmless as a dove.
#e-bearhugs.
Poster 1: Gosh... i just cannot deal!!! how can u say such?? I don't think u are actually ready to settle down with wifey.. pls go and marry ur sister biko.. since u said ur sis is more important than ur wife and unborn child... PLS GROW UP MAN! and take care of the most IMPORTANT person in YOUR life right now.. YOUR WIFE
ReplyDeletePoster 1: Gosh... i just cannot deal!!! how can u say such?? I don't think u are actually ready to settle down with wifey.. pls go and marry ur sister biko.. since u said ur sis is more important than ur wife and unborn child... PLS GROW UP MAN! and take care of the most IMPORTANT person in YOUR life right now.. YOUR WIFE!
ReplyDeletePoster 1;oniranu niye.ode oshiii.
ReplyDeleteOMG, poster 1 you are such a wicked, selfish and self centered man, for you to your sister is more important than your wife and unborn child and again your family is more important than your wife's family, gosssh! May ppls like you and your sister be far away from my generation and I IJN Amen. I pity your poor wife I can now understand what she is going through
ReplyDeleteNATRATIVE 1:
ReplyDeleteWith due respect sir, U no get sense
It's either U are sleepin with UR sis or U just hate ur wife!
How can U say ur sister is more important? Important Ba wo? Tripple shame to U. Did u read whT U typed? Can u hear urself speak biko? Broken record sounds better than U.
Infact, give UR wife n her husband all U have in this life, mean human being of the highest order.
I can't believe a man wld say such and when they call men to step forward, U with UR very ugly heart wld come forward???
Am so angry.
Men, wen ur married, UR wife becomes UR all & all, UR 1st & Ur priority(not even UR kids), UR beginning & UR end. Treat that woman with the highest respect in this world!
Love her, provide for her, cherish her, worship her, respect her & all. Cos she wld be there for U wen no one else wld be.
Msst
This man, am so sorry for U. U for allow UR sis be UR 1st wife na. Make she dey dictate wat n wat happens in UR life. Tata
PLS U owe UR wife loadsa apologies... U better call UR wife & apologise n make things right with her! Else God will go in her stead & deal with U spiritually, physicall, materially & other wise. Sha just get ready for God's wrath on U if u don't make amendments
Once again shame on U
Bless u
Poster 1,u sound cool and dere is nothing wrong with u helping Ur sis.as long as u r taking adequate care of ya wife.
ReplyDeleteBuh wot I don't get is u saying Ur sis is more important than Ur wife....
Nna,Uche Gi adikwa ya?
Why compare n contrast d two in d first place??
Poster 2,nne Pele.I heard it happens.
if u ask me,I don't get that theory at all at all.
Biko I want d General present o.
For emotional support.
and nothing changed sex-wise btw us infact d love making is more banging sef....Lol
my dear ur the one with wahala .. how can u say such about ur wife ..the person that is going to by ur side throughout ur life and u open ur mouth to ur sister is more important and u even say it publicly u dont have respect for ur wife and u dont love her seriously u need to ask ur wife for forgiveness and start treating her like a wife not a gf .
ReplyDeletepost 2 u made a mistake by allowing ur hubby to be with u while giving birth he will come around but it will take time
So wait: at poster 1's wife did not notice all these stupid vices before marrying him??? How?? a man places his sister before you? and you still siddon dey form wife?? I cannt deal.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: please who raised you? the person did you a great diservice. Ah! Men, please treat your wives right so that your mail children can grow up to be gentlemen and your female children can grow up to know their worth!!!
This man should not be raising children o!
Poster 1, wow. I'm shocked, even appalled at your words. They seem to be coming from a very angry place. You lose respect when you talk senselessly as a man, a woman can get away with it but respect yourself as the head. Wtf is you care more about your sister than your wife?! What have you gained by having this disposition?
ReplyDeleteYou Come off as unreasonable and myopic, jeez. Do you understand what marriage is? Did y'all get counseled before taking your vows? Did you talk about the way things should play out in the marriage or you just force things on your partner? Did you take your vows before God? Do you know a house divided against itself cannot stand? If you are joined in holy matrimony, and you are one before God, anything your spouse doesn't agree with, and you go ahead and do, it won't prosper. Either that, or it causes a breakdown of that institution.
So Mr Cocky I-don't-care-about-my-wife little minded man, keep pulling down your marriage with your two hands and watch your sister's marriage prosper.
As for you madam, if he wants to help the whole world apart from your family, let him be. Ignore him and help your family yourself. Turn deaf ears and blind eyes to whatever he is up to. Engage yourself with things that make you happy. Save your energy for your child and keep your hormones in check. If I'm you, I will have just one child cos tomorrow, your husband might say he doesn't care about the child. At least one will be easier to care for. Always pray. Goodluck
So post,You just said ur sis is more important to u than ur own wife(ur second half).Your wife is pregnant at home,you guys are in for your first child ,you rented an apartment for ur sis also bought her a car(na u dy spoil am)how will u buy a car for someone that doesn't work where do u want her to see money for repairs and stuffs yet your wife is lamenting that u shld save more u told d mother to be of ur kids that ur sister is more important than her.You re a disgrace to manhood ohhh.Take away the fact that u don't help her family,but naw your sister is back again asking u to refurbish her own husband again can u imagine and u don't want your wife to talk.Dear poster 1 Your wife and unborn kids are your number priority,they should be d first thing n ur mind ,she has a good will for u trust me cause if she doesn't she won't even agree n d first place for u to help ur sister!And a personal letter to your wife madam on behalf of all d working class ladies dat fend for derselfs I beg u to please start thinking of a work cause it seems Dh doesn't have plan for u ohhhhh he prefers his family members than u
ReplyDeletewait, poster 1 said his family is more important to him???? make i no lambast dis man cs i trust my fellow BV most have dealt seriously and honestly with that statement of his....
ReplyDeletewhat a selfish and self centered niga!!
Assisting your family is no crime bt placing them above your wife???? dats bloody hell!!!
Poster 1: Mr.self -centered husband, please take these advice given to you today, or you might become poor suddenly!
ReplyDeletePoster 1 you are a big olodo, with your okporoko head
ReplyDeleteYou are absolutely correct, Stella. A lot of couples do read this blog and hub and I are one of 'em couples. If I write any chronicle im go catch me... but then if e don reach to write chronicle, na im be sai water don pass garri... hehehe.
ReplyDeletePOSTER ONE: Honestly you are the reason I'm commenting as I don't find the time to do that often these day.
I read your narrative and it first made me angry, then it saddened me.
It is clear to me that you have no comprehension what marriage really means, sir. I mean no insult, but it is true.
How can you say your sister is more important than your wife? Do you understand the import of that statement? You still consider your wife the outsider. The one who gave the honour of becoming a part of your family without really being 'family'.
How can one who has become one flesh, one heart with you be less important than one your sister?
You have failed yourself. And it is so sad.
Family is key and most important. But the moment you married your wife, she became your first family. The most important one in your life. You were meant to love her, provide for her, protect her and respect her.
Marriage means SHARING. Sharing your love, your time, your wealth, your life, yourself with your partner.
Learn to share with your wife. So, somehow your family will always be more important to you but that doesn't make her family less important. Please it doesn't!
Stop treating her like a piece of cloth you bought in the marketplace. That is not what she is. Neither is she still a girlfriend or a mere lover. She is your WIFE. WIFE means partner, lover, helpmate, confidante, best friend and One with you.
If your sister is comfortable having your wife pushed to the background, is she suffering same from her husband's family? And if you are so correct, why have your brother-in-law's siblings not come to the help of their 'all-important' brother?
Sir, be as wise as a serpent and as gentle as a dove.
Take your wife as a part of you and treat her thus. Do unto her as you would want her do unto you.
Talk with her and resolve your issues. But please stop feeling like a god before your wife, you are not one.
Best of luck.
POSTER TWO: The experience of watching his wife birth one of their children scared one of my uncles shitless, he absolutely never wanted her pregnant again.
Who knows if that is your hubby's situation. Talk with him. COMMUNICATE. It is the key to every good relationship. Let him know how you feel and listen to how he feels. And you two reach a good solution together.
Also, it won't hurt to seduce him. Dress right... or undress rightly *wink*
NARRATIVE ONE:
ReplyDeleteMy advice to the wife: Please pray and fast to break every manipulative soul tie between your husband and his greedy sister. This is not ordinary. I once knew a couple in a similar situation, the man's sister only have to say the word and the man will do her bidding without battling eye-lid but when it comes to his own wife and children, it is one excuse after another. He also rented an apartment for his sister, furnished it and set her up in a business, he stopped eating his wife's food and starts acting strange, beating the wife and children, calling them names like prostitute and bastards... The mistake the wife made was fighting the sister physically instead of spiritually through prayers. It got to a stage that he threw his family out and this his unmarried sister in her late forties started cooking his meals... the story is long and pathetic... PLEASE PRAY FOR YOUR HUSBAND, from his utterance, he is being manipulated.
Do you know the sacrifices the sister must have made for him which must have prompted that statement? He has come a long way with the sister.
ReplyDeleteDo you also know if it is the sister that trained him to become the person you are attracted to today?
Some women sacrificed their lives just for their brothers or sisters to have a better life.
Mrs Poster1, instead of trying to upstage the sister, it is time for you to make your husband see that you are in it for the long run, build trust and stop fighting him. Quit advising him not to help his family or you will be booted out of that house. Apply wisdom in all your dealings.
Is he supposed to stop helping his sister because she is married?
Once upon a time before you came in, they were little siblings making promises to take care of each other no matter what.
Mr Poster- Statement like this can make a woman feel very insecure and she will nag you well.No woman wants to be upstaged in her home. Learn to be diplomatic in your ways as a husband and brother. If you want to give to your sister, you should do so out of your personal savings and keep your mouth mute. Also save money for school fees ooo and future dealings ooo.
Drop your arrogance too.
XOXO MYSTERY
Poster1. Since your loyalty lies wit ur sister... Den bring her back and be doing her plus her husband useless man . Ur sister is using u... Her husband is also lazy... U can help ur family but can't help ur wife's family... How cute and polite... Greedy man... U think u smart but u just another definition of a mumu... Stella post ooo
ReplyDeleteThis is another call out to those in EKEDC Orile district, apparently they didn't see the first one.
ReplyDeleteFor more than 6weeks now, some streets in Aguda have not had light. Now we all know the power supply in most parts of Lagos is not constant but we still they manage d one we dey see, complement am with gen. Now, almost all the streets around have this "regular" power supply but 3 streets (ayo elegbede, adefowope and adegunwa) have not had light for more than 6weeks, this is so unfair because its not really a general problem, other streets have light.
How long shall we continue like this? plus this fuel scarcity? This is so unfair!!! Its stories upon stories, its either they are writing petition or they tell them that they will come n repair the transformer. How long does it take to get these things done? In an area like Aguda. Haba!!!
I'm calling out to those in charge. Please help us
Mr poster no 1, it's men lIke you that give siblings the RIGHT to interfere in marriages, I'm sure you're already bad mouthing your wife to your sis if you can so flippantly tell strangers that her own is too much...note that your family will treat your wife the way you treat her
ReplyDeleteAn outsider can only interfere in a marriages if one of the partners give that Chance..go back and build your home in love, you have done well for your sister, you think her hubby will do all that for you if the reverse were the case?
Don't let them use your head and ruin your home in the process!!!! You have a baby on the way...
P.s....reading about you made me sing songs of thanksgiving to God for my husband!!! Na me d sis go even approach to talk sef, they know he doesn't joke with my opinion...
This man is not serious, you need to reprioritize abeg, nothing wrong with helping your sister but do things with sense how would you feel if your wife says her family is more important. You have to realise this is your first responsibility and begin to live up to it abeg
ReplyDeletePoster 2 my hubby was in the delivery room though i had warned him to remain at my head end curiousity still made him see the whole ish, and i think it made him appreciate me more, physically attraction still there just take time to reconnect
Poster 1, are you for real? You are a very wicked man. It is men like you that push women to the wall and make them misbehave. Did you read this trash you put up there before sending it?
ReplyDeleteIf your sister is so important as you claim, you should have married her and impregnated her instead of putting ur wife thru so much problems. The same family that gave her to you is no longer important to you....right? Just cover ur face in shame with these silly utterances. Small small boys be claiming to be DH. mtcheeeewww. ***so pissed***