Who really is a Virtuous woman?
What does she do with monies given to her to run the home?
Does she squander ALL or save SOME?
I got this mail that is the reason for this post.....
''Greetings from Me to you all......
Straight to the point.
I live in between 2 churches and one of the churches is a CAC. their speaker Is so loud that i hear every word they say and its close to my window. every first Sunday they have this program ( family Sunday) they talk, argue and all about common issues/ happenings in most homes.
I got back yesterday from church and heard a debate about this sensitive talk.
Pastor's wife said its wrong for a wife to save from the money the hubby has given i.e. money for soup or money to run the house.
So if hubby gives 10k for something one should squander all the 10k as a virtuous woman???
Abeg this one pass me o, i'd love to hear bvs opinion as well as yours Stella'' .
*I am sorry i dont even know what to say because this is the first time i will hear anything of this sort..that a woman is not supposed to save a little aside from housekeeping money given to her?
I am confused!
Is this in the Bible?
A pastor's wife said that? A wife and a mother? *lips sealed*. I'll save and save and save mine. It's my money(husband and i) so I can do whatever I want to do with it
ReplyDeleteI will always save from the housekeeping cash.A virtuous woman doesn't squander all d cash given to her.U save against difficult times.in fact besides house keeping cash iv been in d attitude of saving part of all incomes.iv been a saver since I was 10.hubby easily runs back to me for help when when he s broke cos he knows I dnt eat it all. Proudly Team save for life.
DeleteThere are two sides to this. Maybe d Pastor's wife meant women who deliberately hype the amount of money they use to run d house just to be able to save out of it. It's sort of deceitful on d part of d wife having lied to her husband abt d amount she actually spends.
DeleteBut if DH simply has a fixed amount he gives to d wife for family upkeep, I personally don't see anything wrong if d wife saves out of d money after having made d necessary spendings, not before!
It's prudence.
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I don't care if am virtuos or not. I always divide house keeping money into 3. One part for me.
DeleteI guess she means you should return it to hubby as change, and not save it. Prolly IHO it is stealing.
DeleteKia......some church are really leading many 2 hell
DeleteWhat kind of Yeye talk be that?
That's our they teach their congregations the wrong things. Please a virtuous woman is a wise woman that makes the best of what hubby gives her. She saves and plans for the future both physically and spiritually. That's a virtuous woman. Pls wives save oh. If hubby gives 100k a month @ least save 10k out of it una hear.
Delete@pure inspiration. I'll have to align with your school of thought. Hopefully that's what she meant. Otherwise.. Errr
DeleteYes oO,she should save and save,secondly increase the item price if he's a stingy man.lol
DeleteYes oO,she should save and save,secondly increase the item price if he's a stingy man.lol
DeleteLol@increase the item price if he's a stingy man.
DeleteNa lie! Wat of unforseen expenses nko? So a woman shd squander all d money ko? E b like say dat pastor wife dy marry her husband! Make dem dey deceive members!
ReplyDeleteThey don't really mean squander as in waste everything. They mean if u give oga list that u need 20k to cook and buy things for d house then spend 20k on those things. Don't keep 5k for urself.
DeleteOh well!
ReplyDeleteThat pastor wife no serious!!am team save.I can save for africa.if una like squander all in d name of bering virtuous.
DeleteAm sure the pastor didn't put it right. In my own opinion, there are two things involved.
Delete1. Women who short the foodstuffs meant to last for a month just bcos they want to buy the latest shoe or bag or fabric that their friend from dubai brought to them. Or they want to gather change to pay the debt they incured due to Longerthroat.
2. Women who save the change incase of family unforseen circumstances.
Am sure and I hope the pastor meant number 1.
As for me, I try not to do number 1 but...
Who would speak for women who get nothing at all? Abeggy not everyday marriage talk.
ReplyDeleteImagine... if hubby gives me 7k to buy snail for Okro, who born me to use all? will just use 3k max and save the remaining 4k. Lmao *runsaway*
ReplyDeleteThis woman! U dey find drama with this ur 7k Snail. Abeg, I no dey house. Hohohoho
DeleteHere she goes again. Me crush. I'll give u 20k for just ofe akwu. Don't save a dime awta it.
DeleteHahahah.dont run o.u r saying ur churchmind!
DeleteIf I dont save from the house keeping money, who will?(dettol advert)
Lmaoooo 7k snail of life from GW
DeleteI don't know what you people see in this 7k snail. What if they cook various types of soup and store them in the freezer. If you see me preparing fish or meat, you will think I am cooking for a party. Abeg make una free her jare.
DeleteThis is what I call fallacy, a virtues woman knows wht best to do to maintain a peaceful, healthy, spiritual, n financially balanced home. So anything apart from dis is stupidity.
ReplyDeleteThumbs up.
DeleteWho virtuosity don help?
Yep.
DeleteGbamest!!!
DeleteWell! Let me read comments.
ReplyDeleteWell! Let me read comments.
ReplyDeleteMoney anwereth all things. why should i save money when my hubby gives me. The money is meant for house keeping, so i will buy all that is needed. It says house keeping not safe keeping.
ReplyDeleteLol... are you seeking for attention or are you serious?
DeleteI beg to differ please. Every reasonable woman MUST save out of every penny she receives for house-keeping. Wives have been doing it from time immemorial so ain't nothing wrong with it
Hmmmmmmmmm..... a Virtuous woman does not squander her husband's wealth. She helps him build an empire
ReplyDeleteThat being said, I would like to believe what the Pastor's wife we trying to say is that it is wrong to divert funds being given for housekeeping to other trival needs.
That being said,
No be everything wey they tell me for church I dey follow ( God forgive me sha)
I READ SOMTHNG LYK DS BEFORE FRM ALL DES PPLE DAT CLAIM TO GO TO HEAVEN AND COME BCK, SAYIN SEM DAT SAVIN SUCH MONY IS BAD..I WUDNT KNW WCH IS TRUE OR NOT,...TOMJERRYSWIT
ReplyDeleteTales by moonlight. Am not too sure the so called pastor's wife ever read the bible definition of a virtuous woman in the book of Proverb! These days people talk rubbish just to make a name. I don't blame her though,whether she saves or not, as long as there is church service every Sunday, offerings and tithes will never cease,so her purse doesnt dry off.
ReplyDeleteMost of this pastors wife are so daft, dumb and lack proper understanding. Some can't Even speak proper English. No disrespect to them, but it's the truth. And some are just religious bigot. So don't believe or listen to everything they say. They can be misleading, including such statement as a virtuous woman shouldn't save money from the money her husband gives her for food. She should make sure the family doesn't lack in terms of providing good food from What the husband gives, and are well catered for and should save from it incase of when the husband doesn't have. Especially if she's just an house wife, and has no work of her own.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was much younger, there are times when My mum makes food available from the money she'd saved from previous food money given to her by My dad, when My dad little or nothing to provide food. A virtuous woman should save at all time from Whatever is given to her
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ReplyDeletetruth be told, how many women save for the family? most save to spend on themselves alone.....the money is for house keeping so it should be used for house keeping...sometimes when I get money I make a hard bargain on a particular item then if I have extra I keep but I must buy all the money is meant for.....as Christians we need to beware of the little foxes that can deny us heaven.....any form of lie or deception is sin before God...
ReplyDeleteEvery aboki to em kettle...
ReplyDeleteif change remain,i go use am buy peanut,chewing gum n digestive biscuit.Inukwa save money???origewu!!
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Omo see as all the women just dey para... Pastor wife don provoke person neh....
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As for me, call me d house keeping money saver. Dat where I get money to buy toys and clothes for my kids. Am also my self and sometimes for hubby. Pls pastors wife should say that to the chickens.
ReplyDeletenzube shut your ignorant mouth. what has proverbs got to do with that? housekeeping money is not in the bible but it is a way for families to manage homes....as a Christian virtous woman how do you go about spending the housekeeping money, that is the issue here....lets hear the scripture that supports it from you....fools like you will always look for opportunity to insult pastors and their wives. where u there? are we sure she heard the full context of what the pastors wife said? if they give you 10k to buy food for your home why will you short change your family and must save? if you have extra after buying what you need to buy then fine....it is not everything you hear without getting the full context of what you hear you start running your stupid mouth insulting people mcshweeeeew
ReplyDeleteGood point
Delete@Anon 13:32, I jump and pass you. Tell them say I no dey house
DeleteI will say if your DH gives you pocket money then you should use the one for food to buy food stuffs but if it's the type that doesn't give you pocket money you have to save from what is given for the rainy day. If he gives you n says for housekeeping and that is different from feeding n there is nothing to fix in the house of course you should save it. My 2cents sha...
ReplyDeleteA wise woman saves money.
ReplyDeleteI think what the pastor's wife was trying to say is that a virtious woman does not steal from the money her husband gives her to buy food stuff for example if ur husband gives u 20k to buy rice and garri,then,use the whole money to buy the rice and garri or u can even add beans to it if there is change remaining from the 20k but don't take out of the money for ur personal stuff becos that is not what the money is mearnt for.If u keep the change or take out of the money,then,you are a thief,but if u tell ur husband that u took out of the money he gave u for food,no problem. if not,u are a thief because u stole from the money ur husband gave u for food and used it for selfish reason.
ReplyDeleteWell I save money from my monthly house keeping money but the truth is that even before the month finishes u notice u dont v any again thereby forcing u to torch your savings. You cant be saving while your family is hungry, so its all about wisdom.
ReplyDeleteUpe.....
ReplyDeleteAna Akosasi...
Same thing one of the speaker that was invited for our women convention said last year.
ReplyDeleteBut the truth is that most times eh, when you save a little from the one given, most times you still end up spending it on another family need.
Yes..o all the savings goes back to settle family needs.
DeleteTrue,even the woman uses from her salary 2 buy house items at times that he hubby dosent knw about.so saving is allowed.
Delete@ chummy Cho, well said. Most times we end up spening our own money to add to housekeeping money cos it is not enough. And the one u manage to save, u still spend on the house. Some wives don't even get housekeeping money self talkless of saving.
DeleteChummy chop kiss biko.
DeleteI think the lady misunderstood what the woman said, she probably meant not using that as a means of extortion. There are women that increase prices of items so that their husbands give them above the required amount and they save the rest, this can be seen as a sin because its a LIE. My opinion thou.
ReplyDeleteMake she continue to de tok Bcoz na only she waka cuuum!!mcheeeeew e neva ova her if e ova her her eye go clear.
ReplyDeleteDAT how all of them will be reading the bible thrOugh their anus, pastor's wife give you life to Christ.
ReplyDeleteI think she means don't divert funds meant for housekeeping. Some women demand for so much all in the name of housekeeping but use the money for wrapper,asoebi and other things,they don't really save the money for rainy days but for their selfish interest.
ReplyDeletePoster are you sure you heard the pastor's wife well?
ReplyDeleteYou want to read bvs opinions or you just want us to confirm how absurd it is?
ReplyDeleteHmmm, only the foolish will accept this advise from the pastors wife.
ReplyDeleteYou people shd read inbtw the lines about the topic.
DeleteShe said it's a gathering where trivial matters r bein discussed, It's such basic issues that brings irrelevant fight in the house.
It's a gathering where everybody has his/her opinion and airs it. At the end, everybody goes home learnin somt or the other.
Don't be in a rush to condemn the pastors wife.
Six feeta my brother chop knuckle
DeleteWe shouldn't be in a hurry to scorn or condemn
The devil is in the details
Learn, learn and learn
i agree with gifted hands
ReplyDeleteI hear.
ReplyDeleteDont mis-interprete what the Pastor's wife said.
ReplyDeleteWhat "Gifted Hands" said is absolutely correct.
Dont mis-interprete what the Pastor's wife said.
ReplyDeleteWhat "Gifted Hands" said is absolutely correct.
I disagree!
ReplyDeleteIt is wise to save from housekeeping, because, unexpected expenses can arise.
There was a day a pastor was telling non-working women to pay tithe from their housekeeping allowance! It became a debate, because husbands have already paid 10% of their income. If the husband is not a tither, she is still no under any oblige to pay tithe for money meant for feeding her home, because it is NOT an income!
This virtuous woman ish is being used to take advantage of women abegy! I once talked about the Proverbs 31 attributes in my old blog, and concluded that it is unrealistic in this modern time! For instance, I lived in Mile 2, and the closest market to me was Alaba/Suru and Boundary market, so because, the Virtuous woman went far away to buy food stuff for her household, I should go down to mile 12 / ketu to stock my home? And when she went for her long journey, who kept the home front? Was it not her slaves? And she woke up early to prepare food for her household, did she prepared it herself or simply supervised her maids? And how many women can afford this luxury of having many maids? Since,they are paid monthly and not bought from slave trade as done in the era of the virtuous woman? And in this era many women wake up early to cook for their household before they leave for school and work.
I see this Proverbs 31 as the wishful and wistful-thinking of a mother who simply wanted the perfect daughter-in-law for his son, but did she tell her own son how to be a perfect husband? NO! WHY? Because he was a KING! And that is the 'kingly' mentality, most men have! Because women were 2nd class citizen then!
I think basically it depends on the intent and purpose of saving.
ReplyDeleteThere is nothing wrong with saving if u have more than enough to "keep the house" adequately. However I have heard some women divert housekeeping money for personal interests, imagine giving ur kids ji mmanu on a daily basis cos u want to save enough to buy gold or other personal, not-so-housekeepingy stuff. That kind of saving is detrimental to the family's wellbeing and disrupts the home-balance and methink that's d one the pastor's wife is against.
My dear u said my mind.talking reality
Deletei think what she meant is dat a good xtian wife sud tell her husband she has savings frm money given to her for food and a correct man will tell her to keep d money.
ReplyDeleteSome women are something else.for example hubby provides money for provisions inside of wifey should use it to purchase d items.they become prudent by buying sachet things like milk,milo,cornflakesetc.therefore rationing dis things 4 their kids which at times is not up to d actual amount d kids need daily and use d remaining to do fashion
ReplyDeleteNo i didn't misunderstand her
ReplyDeleteSome pastor's and pastor's wives are not called by God. For example, a pastor's wife responded to the case of a physical assault on another pastor's wife by her husband in the following words "Maybe you did not humble yourself enough before him"
ReplyDeleteThis is a woman who works two jobs to put food on the table and still supports her husband in the ministry while the man spends the whole day reading the bible and eating.
Some of these ridiculous mentality counseling have messed up people's life and caused some people to go and commit suicide because the victims are blamed for whatever transpired.
I can't deal and if any pastor should preach any nonsense before me, I will not hesitate to cast and bind the devil out of them. Beware of devil advocates in churches.
Hello everyone.
ReplyDeleteA virtuous woman is one who spends her husband money so much that he doesnt have enof for side chicks 😛. Make una leave virtuous woman talk, woman wey wan good, go good.
ReplyDeleteAn empty pocket is one without money. U can have UR WALLET inside but if cash no dey......well,its empty pocket biko.
ReplyDelete#i may be wrong, but am Igbo, yes we love money#
all dis saving self. wat if u re married to someone dat doesnt ve money nd he gives u 3 to 5k weekends to cook soup ns stew, hw do u save? dat is frustrating
ReplyDeletePerhaps she meant there is enough to eat and live comfortable but the wife squeezing the money and feeding the family unhealthy cheap food instead. You should save some, but not a the expense of the family's health and well being.
ReplyDeleteFor as many people are condemning the Pastor's wife, pls make out time to read the message of August 5th (Ask, Don't Take) in Open Heaven.
ReplyDeleteI bet that lady didn't fully hear the argument to support what the woman said.
If this same statement were to be made by Pastor Adeboye, majority of those condemning this woman will believe him.
Let's all learn to ask God for wisdom cos the truth is that no one knows it all.