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What do you do when the person you are in love with is the best you ever met but.......

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE.

USING WHAT YOU HAVE TO GET WHAT YOU WANT!

Spare my situation some space on your blog, please I need the right opinion.

It's hard, very hard, things you gone thru, when life dramatically, with an overwhelming power suddenly completely turns your life to some kind of living hell, and there is nothing you can do. It's not easy being in this position.

My ex was my first boyfriend, lover and all. I have never, ever cheated on him. 

I just can't imagine having another man on me, all over me in nude. It disgust me. But nowadays I have been tolling with such thoughts lately. I have a home to manage with 4 kids. And a mountain of bills to pay, like every other woman.

Their father was a chronic cheat who eventually got an older lady pregnant. And I lost my respect for him. As much as we managed, things failed to work. I get this draw back that makes me despise him so much.

 Then I lost my job in 2013 and he changed further. So I got a teaching job months later with a pitiable salary, because he became very less caring day by day. Carefree about his duties and responsibilities, in-short he ignored them. Nags more than I do.

Then 11months ago it happened again. he got another lady pregnant. I don't understand, we had a healthy sexual life - experimentally adventurous. In fact anytime, any how he want us to do it and almost anywhere. And I had never ever complained. So I couldn't take it anymore because each time I see him my stomach aches so bad that I'd feel like throwing up. Suddenly I hated him that I felt like killIng him. Shamelessly, he became aggressive, always complaining of anything and everything. Tired of it all I called it quits. Because he was becoming too emotionally, psychologically, verbally abusive and still randy.

I'm romantic, sexy, still slim and doesn't look like a mum with 4 kids. I get toasters every now & then. From colleagues to passersby, even my proprietor disturbs me all the time - which I have never considered leveraging on. Because my salary is too poor. I'm a good woman Stella, inside out I am.

I have tried saving for any small scale business, but had never saved. Feeding and upkeeps eats it up. And now things are getting tighter all around me. maintaining my sanity is becoming a problem. And I can't keep watching my kids sometimes starving.

I have some single parents as friends, who opened up to me that they are using what they have to get what they need. And honestly, things are fairer for them compared to me. Mine is pathetically terrible. And they are encouraging me to take it up. But I haven't got the will. Wonder what my daughter and sons would think of me. Most importantly, how will I be able to look at my bible and easily pick it up again to read.

I want to know from Bvs who have gone through this path, how were they able to upstage this circumstance and subdue the growing urge to fall. How were they able to arrest the madness of lack in view of a hybrid temptation to whore. I really need opinions not insults please, I'm confused and in a desperate corner to pay bills - especially rent. My walls are closing up on me.

Stella, you are loved here, forgive me for the long write up, thanks.

*Looking for Panadol for my own headache*

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO.

VIRTUE VERSUS VICE - LE BOO SMOKES!

I am a 24 year old young lady,I have been in horrible relationships that I almost gave up on meeting any good men. I am beautiful,very down to earth and it's always a surprise to my close friends when we talk and am the one always having issues with men. I am a very honest girl and I have never believed in double dating.In fact all my life I have never dated more than one guy at a time. I've never really understood why I wasn't treated as a lady should.  

Earlier this year on my way back from work, I was walking down my street when  this car pulled over, the guy driving was good looking and sounded really nice so I gave him my number,  I can tell you that in all my life,  I haven't been treated better. He is a very honest guy, he loves me like crazy and can give me anything I ask for, I must mention that he is a very wealthy young man (a son to one of the past ministers), He also is God fearing, my only problem with him is that he smokes.  

He lived in the States for over 15 years of his adult life and only came back to the country 5 years ago to run his business. He respects me enough not to smoke around me and he tells me he is making conscious efforts to quit smoking.  He wants to meet my family at least to just let them know he is serious about me but I have been stalling because I don't want anyone to find out that he smokes.He is beginning to suspect that I don't love him like he loves me and he gets very upset about it.  

I don't want to loose this guy but I don't know what to do. 

Please give me good advice.

Thank you.

Let me ask you one question....Did you know he smokes before you got involved with him?

You didnt try to change him before getting involved and now you are complaining?He will pretend to change and wife you and then change back!

Let me just respect myself and read comments because if i start now,they will not concentrate on advising you but on cussing me out.

Ex Minster's son? *thinking*