OH MY GOODNESS!!!
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
WHEN EXPECTATIONS ARE HIGH
Hello SDK and my fellow BVs. Please I need your advice. I was introduced to my husband through a friend of my sis. And everything clicked and we got married. Then my sister was staying with her before she got her own apartment. I spent much time with them at times one full month before I got married. And now she's expecting much from me.
I'm not working for now,but I'm doing little business with little profit. I don't know what she's expecting, when she put to bed,we gave her money and gifts and during her son's birthday we shared gift and gave her money. But anytime I meet a friend of hers, she always ask me "hope you are taking care of Gloria? ( not her real name) she's your benefactor, you know? I don't know what she tells people. I have 3children now, and she hasn't given them a dime, not that I'm expecting her to give.
She's not poor, she's very okay than I am. They see us as rich people, because we don't run to them for helps does not mean we don't have our challenges. Please BVs what do I do?
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
WHEN EXPECTATIONS ARE HIGH
Hello SDK and my fellow BVs. Please I need your advice. I was introduced to my husband through a friend of my sis. And everything clicked and we got married. Then my sister was staying with her before she got her own apartment. I spent much time with them at times one full month before I got married. And now she's expecting much from me.
I'm not working for now,but I'm doing little business with little profit. I don't know what she's expecting, when she put to bed,we gave her money and gifts and during her son's birthday we shared gift and gave her money. But anytime I meet a friend of hers, she always ask me "hope you are taking care of Gloria? ( not her real name) she's your benefactor, you know? I don't know what she tells people. I have 3children now, and she hasn't given them a dime, not that I'm expecting her to give.
She's not poor, she's very okay than I am. They see us as rich people, because we don't run to them for helps does not mean we don't have our challenges. Please BVs what do I do?
Hmmmmmmmm
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
WHEN A VICTIM ENJOYS INCEST AND THE CONSEQUENCES.
I developed this habit of speaking with pre-teen and teenagers in my church and neighborhood due to personal experience. I was having a heart to heart discussion with a 15yr old in my church who has been reported by her mum for her constant failure in school (she's repeating for the 2nd time and in JSS2). I took her home after the service today and she opened up to me that her immediate elder brother who is 16+ has been sleeping with her. I asked if she ever mentioned it to her mum. She said "Yes I told her the first time it happened.
She told me to avoid him and never go closer to him and that our Daddy must not hear about it." I got to know that he has slept with her for more than 3times and they have an 28yr old cousin that usually come for holidays too that have been sleeping with her for 2yrs now.
Stella, I cried all day imaging what the poor girl has been going through. And the most painful part of it was that the girl claimed to always enjoy it to the extent that she keeps fantasizing about their next time in the exam hall (they are both in the boarding house so they get to see on holidays alone).
My only dilemma now is how to handle the situation. I can't tell anyone that knows the girl to avoid stigmatization but I need to help her. The first thing that popped into my head was telling the father but it might destroy the family. And I don't want a situation whereby any of the guys will start with the 2nd daughter of the family who is 13 now.
Please dear bvs, I need your candid advice on how to handle this and also want to use this medium to appeal to all mothers, please educate your kids and protect them like mother-hen does.
OMG!..She enjoys sex with them?OMG OMG OMG
IT IS WELL.
ReplyDeleteNot really.
DeletePoster 1 she didn't complain to your hearing why bother yourself? do anything you think you can do for her when you want to. You don't owe her noting.
DeletePoster 2.Just look for a child counsellor to cousel that child.
There was a time a man came to my church to speak with children, the kind of stories I heard ehn. May God give me wisdom when I start raising kids.
I'm so sure that woman has been encouraging her son to do so many bad things.
She should be counselled on how to go about it. Let her tell her dad herself since you're scared
P2, please try and encourage her and let her know that it's soooooooooooo wrong and that the best thing is to tell her dad. She's destroying herself and that old cousin should be banned from the house o, her elder brother should be punished.
DeleteP1, she's your sister, can you talk to her in such a way that she'll not be vexed? Please just ignore it and do the best you can do. God bless dearie.
It is well. Am going through same thing as poster 1. My husband's sister that introduced us will not let me have peace. She wants me to worship her and her children. I can't be a slave to anybody and that's causing so much trouble. I love my husband, he's a good man if not I would have left the marriage for her. Evil woman. Only God will judge her for what she's putting me through.
DeleteAnon 18:15 Just act with wisdom OK?? It's well dear....
DeletePoster 2, I was 6 when I got disvigined by a cousin of mine whose house we went for a holiday. I told my mum and she asked me to keep quiet about it. This molestation went on and on to an extent that immediately I saw him I was expectant... It's a psychological problem where d abused falls for d abuser,... It took an aunt who I confided in to break dat yoke of bondage... When I look at my mum now all I feel is pain and hate.i am 24 now and have never experienced what it means to be happy, I have never had a sensible relationship because of my complicatedness,I don't know if I ever will, but God knows
DeleteWhy am I sharing ds long epistle? So dat u can save a soul now... God bless you as u report to her father.
What's the meaning of "it's well" silly girls comment
DeleteIt's well!
ReplyDelete********LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*******
Poster 2. The day, the girl will get pregnant by either her cousin or brother, and something bad happens to her in process or worst still, she looses her life, don't you think that you'll be judged, knowing fully well that you might have prevented it.
DeleteCall the girls father and report to him, since the mother is useless!!!
Right on time.
ReplyDeletePoster2: talk to her mom, brother n cousin separately,they all need the services of a counsellor urgently,what if she gets pregnant?pls do this right away,do not involve dia pastor like some Bvs r suggesting pls,dis issue is very delicate,it'll be very difficult for sm1 to handle this type of secret,if u tell d pastor deres a chance he'll tell his wife n smhow she'll tell her children n b4 u know it d whole community will be singing about it,@least uve unburdened ur heart by telling us,now get to work
DeleteEPIC PARENTAL FAIL.............. no words
ReplyDeletefucking sad
The mother is an idiot!she caused it for the gal.how can a mum take such issue with a pinch of salt.?it must be that she's also from a home that has incest curse,cos it's a curse that goes from generation to generation.or better still the abused gal's supposed elder bro isn't her blood bro dats why he can have sexual feeling for his sister.
DeleteCos I used to dress in front of my bros and we can even sleep on the same bed without him thinking abt it! d brother sister kind of love is different for God's sake.this is sick!
Hmmmmmmmm *spreads rug* #commentmodeactivated
ReplyDeletePoster 2... so the only thing her mum said was 'don't tell your dad'????
Delete*sigh* I'm weak
I follow weak o. Gosh! Sick pple everywhere. That woman needs to be flogged for taking such an issue lightly. The girl needs serious help. Poster 2 God will help you in ur quest to redeem this child. It will end in praise.
DeleteOmg... what kind of a mother will shove such situation under the carpet like it's nothing? May be you should talk to the mother, then take a que from there.
ReplyDeleteMaybe d woman is not her real mother...... I think u ve to tell d father..... or maybe u talk to d girl..... just give er serious advice..... na wa o
DeletePoster one, pls don't let what her friends think bother u, unless there's a special thing she did, even if she did, u ain't gonna pay royalties till jisos comes naa. Fashi her....abi u na because of u them born her?
ReplyDeletePoster two...talk to d brother n d cousin, threaten to expose them...hopefully they don't kill u before u
Will read comments today...
ReplyDeletePoster 1;Just ignore her abeg expecting too much ke.
ReplyDeletePoster 2; Since the mother reported her to you this time, I think you should call her and talk sense into her one one before telling their father. The girl really need help, you can imagine her saying that she enjoys it,Some mothers are not worth to be call one. HMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM NA WA O
Pter 1. U don't hv a prob at all. If u hv anything to give her, give but if u don't hv don't disturb yourself. Come what may people must always talk. Even if u kill for anyone he can't bw satisfied. He must talk. That means it's man's nture.
ReplyDeletePts 2 u hv a serious issue which has to be handled asap. U can gather the 3 persons involved and let them kniw the implications of the act they r into without involving their parents.
People can't handle their family issues again everything na Stellas blog. Shebi your mouth dey pain poster one make we go fight your sister for you
ReplyDelete2. Please poster, tell their father. It won't break anything. Its best he knows before things gets worse. This life sef! So siblings can't be close without one thinking what shouldn't be thought about? I just tire.
ReplyDelete1. You owe her nothing jare. Keep being nice to her kids with gifts et al when necessary and to her on her birthday or marriage anniversaries. No kill yourself.
What if the father is violent? If a wife Can't confide in her husband with serious matters like this, doesn't that tell u that something is very wrong with this family? Abi you will be happy when u hear the dad killed his daughter Or his wife. Poster, please tread with great caution. This is a time bomb! The confession is also highly confidential. Think long and hard. Consult widely before you make any move. You are blessed.
DeleteHow can a daughter so young confide in her mother and the only thing the stupid woman said is to avoid the boy?????? Why won't she start enjoying it when the mother didn't scream blue murder when she reported?
DeletePoster, please visit their home with both parents, boy and cousin present if possible and tell them it's the sexual abuse that is affecting the young girl. Go with an elderly person they respect that will be discrete.
The cousin started taking advantage of her when she was 13 and now her own brother has joined. To think that was all her mother could say is so puzzling, iv literally developed a headache which I don't need right now. Please help her before it's too late.
The chronicles is here
ReplyDeleteOMG.....I am in shock@poster2
ReplyDeleteP1: I think you owe the woman nothing...quit feeling indebted to her.
ReplyDeleteP2: Please if the dad getting to know about this, will end the madness PLEASE TELL HIM.
Nma's Blog
Poster 1- Gloria is not your benefactor,God is. Stop visiting for now,and let them be,if not,she might one day ask for your husband,cos she made the connection.
ReplyDeletePoster 2- try and get the father phone number and send a msg to him,that is if you don't want to destroy the family or the girls trust or rather tell the girl she needs deliverance cos it's so bad to enjoy Sex with your siblings.
Poster 1- Gloria is not your benefactor,God is. Stop visiting for now,and let them be,if not,she might one day ask for your husband,cos she made the connection.
ReplyDeletePoster 2- try and get the father's phone number and send a msg to him,that is, if you don't want to destroy the family or the girls trust or rather tell the girl she needs deliverance cos it's so bad to enjoy Sex with your siblings.
poster one,hmmm
ReplyDeleteposter 2,pray,just pray for her and ask God to tell u wat to do cos dis is a very delicate case..
Poster 1
ReplyDeleteDo whatever you can for her just like you've been doing and don't beat yourself up about what she maybe telling people.
Anytime you re being asked such a question, tell them yes you are trying to do what you can for her. That does it! You owe no one any explanation as long as your conscience is clear.
Poster 2- you need to involve a counsellor to have sessions with this girl. She has been messed up. Sexual abuse victims are like that. Once the abuse is prolonged, they begin to enjoy it and it becomes their way of life. Seek a counsellor. Sessions with the girl and then get her mother on board. Need I say the mother of that girl is a disgrace and a failure..
Mothers of these days! Everything they try to conceal not minding the long term harm.
Namsense
Poster1 talk to ur sister's friend,tell her that u appreciate what she did and that it is only God that will reward her because u are human, u can't thank her enough. Poster2 Why not tell her mother?
ReplyDeletePost 1. Free that your sis friend cos you cant kill your self for her. So far you know you ve satisfied your conscience when you should, relax and concentrate on your family.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 hmmmmm! She enjoys tufiakwa!
Some women are not Just worthy to be called mothers, she is just a total disgrace to womanhood.
First and foremost report the issue to your pastor( if he is a true pastor oo) so he can invite the girl and mother and talk some sense into them.she may not know the consequences of her actions.
That girl needs to see a counsellor and also needs to be seperated from the monsters around her.
@poster1: i think you should meet with the lady and have a heart to hert discussion and make her understand that its your marriage now and not a dating relationship anymore..she shuld keep her distance or maybe shez had something wit ur husband in the past
ReplyDelete@poster2: hmmmmm dunno wat to say..pls report to the girls father
Glowyshoe blog
Don't have time to read tday..thinking
ReplyDeleteHmmm poster2, it's really pathetic but u have to speak up now, itl damage dt little girl.oh hell she alrdi is, Buh don't make d bruise go deeper dan it alrdi is now. I wish I had somone to speak up for me. *sigh*
ReplyDelete@ poster 1 do the little you can do and leave the rest for God.
ReplyDelete@poster 2 Jesus is lord. My mouth is open, what kind of a mother is that? After the daughter told her when it first happened she did nothing, instead tell her not to tell the dad, that woman is evil, she deserves HOT SLAP, jeez. Pls poster take the matter to the pastor so they can invite her over, so that after counselling everyone involved deliverance can be done.
Poster 1.... thise kinda people are insatiable.
ReplyDeleteWhy didn't she marry the guy by herself or does she help u service ur DH and take care of ur kids and home?
U need to bone her biko. It seems u are too soft. Don't ever give her anything again...if she like let hwe go to embelebe radio and report.
Postwe 2, that girl doesn't know what she is saying. It's psychology! They have made her into believing she is enjoying it with them.
This is child abuse!!
Pls report to the father or appropriate NGOs....they are usually discrete.
Her mother needs to be flogged! Gosh!!!
Both the girl and the brother needs intensive therapy! Their brains need to be rewired
This is the first advice to poster 1 that I like.
DeleteDear poster 1, I don't know what she did for you that made her your benefactor. Na marry you marry, no be heaven you go, and every marriage has its ups and downs. If you weren't handling your hubby well, you both would not be united enough to even do stuff for her so I don't get it.
What does she do for the person that introduced her to her own hubby?
Even if your hubby is the best in the world, it's because of who/ what you are to him, not because she introduced you guys.
This first chronicle de annoy me Abeg. In short, bone Gloria henceforth.
2nd narrative mind your business o allow them handle the problem
ReplyDelete#GODWIN™
P2, OMG!What kind of a mother is that? Are you sure those kids are of the same father?is the guy insane?Don't just know what to offer as an advice cos am confused
ReplyDeletePoster 1, please ignore them and face your family. Poster 2, confront the mother and tell her the dangers of neglecting her duty as a mum, that if she doesn't do something about it, u'll tell her husband or probably report to the police
ReplyDeleteNarrative 1) stop listening to dem say. From the look of things You're d one gossiping her. U're d one worrying about wat she's telling people, and u're also d one telling d world wat she's expecting from u, when in reality she haven't make d move to ask u for anything.....
ReplyDeleteTrue talk
DeleteEnglish na wa..
Delete*gossiping about her*,*hasnt made the move*
DeleteLol. Oyibo wu agbara. Pls excuse chick Felix grammar.
DeletePoster 1, please ignore them and face your family. Poster 2, confront the mother and tell her the dangers of neglecting her duty as a mum, that if she doesn't do something about it, u'll tell her husband or probably report to the police
ReplyDeleteSorry Stella, ....an 18yr old cousin not 28...thanks for posting
ReplyDeleteThis incest story is so disturbing. I don't know where to start. Is it to blame the foolish mother or the girl enjoying incest or the mentally challenged son/ brother. The question is, is that woman sure her children are not step siblings, did she play away match to have one of them or so cos that can explain a lot of things. In fact let the poster start by counselling and rehabilitating the girl. And the dog as son warned severely or face castration. That boy need counselling and deliverance too. The father should be aware, this is so serious. Why didn't the mother want the father to know, something is fishy here. That family get it be.
DeletePoster 1, face ur husband and children. Stop noticing anything. Focus on ur family. Let them talk. U owe her nothing. She connected u and hubby so what. Ur hubby married u cos he loved u, if not he won't. God just used her to join u to the man destined for u. So even if she didn't connect u both somehow fate will play it's part and u will still meet each other. U should only be grateful to God and not her.
Abeg,make I read comments.
ReplyDeleteIn Tuface's voice, 'Ihe n'eme, elelelenya... something wants to happen....
#WhiteDiamondOut
That's one messed up girl tho.
ReplyDeleteAeegurl...
That girl will grow to be a whore, she already likes the feeling.that mother needs to be arrested.
DeleteJesus pls fix this!
Jeeez!!!
ReplyDeletePoster 1... abeg deliver yourself from that woman. you have done more than enough for her. her problem is you dont share problems with others. waka pass that woman.
ReplyDeletePoster 2... forbidden fruits is sweet for most people. sorry about the girl going thru this. Tell your Pastor in the church to call the father and mother and talk to them. the girl's failure in school is because she is enjoying the sex and that is her punishment for failure and repeating class.
no be only Igbinedion dey fail exams and repeat class twice. people plenty. I hope she finds the desired help.
Poster one's story is exactly the reason I do not like matchmaking. The matchmaker will feel he or she deserves to be compensated, either financially, and would want to know everything going on with the relationship. That was how one match made my sister with a guy and wanted to know the ABC of the relationship. She was such an intruder that my sister got choked and had to flee.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, maybe you should make an anonymous call to the girl's dad. Trust me, it would work. I did that for a neighbor whose 14 year old daughter was being sexually molested by not 1 or 2 men. When I heard and saw it, I couldn't keep it to myself. I made an anonymous call to the dad and even used an handkerchief cos he is someone who knows me very well and would definitely recognize my voice. That was the last time he allowed the girl to come to his shop. At least, those guys in my area won't be able to exploit her sexually at their usual backyard. Jeez, remembering it now sef makes me want to puke. Mothers really have a lot of duties towards their daughters. They grow up too fast.
Control freaks and monitoring spirits like to match make. Mtcheeww
DeletePoster one's story is exactly the reason I do not like matchmaking. The matchmaker will feel he or she deserves to be compensated, either financially, and would want to know everything going on with the relationship. That was how one match made my sister with a guy and wanted to know the ABC of the relationship. She was such an intruder that my sister got choked and had to flee.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, maybe you should make an anonymous call to the girl's dad. Trust me, it would work. I did that for a neighbor whose 14 year old daughter was being sexually molested by not 1 or 2 men. When I heard and saw it, I couldn't keep it to myself. I made an anonymous call to the dad and even used an handkerchief cos he is someone who knows me very well and would definitely recognize my voice. That was the last time he allowed the girl to come to his shop. At least, those guys in my area won't be able to exploit her sexually at their usual backyard. Jeez, remembering it now sef makes me want to puke. Mothers really have a lot of duties towards their daughters. They grow up too fast.
1st narrative: Your ishhh is easy. you wanna give, go ahead. If you don't have, let them understand you don't have.
ReplyDelete2nd narrative: The poor girl obviously needs help. Call the father, mother and brother for a meeting and let everyone knw whats going on. Dont tell your pastor oo, just the parents and thats all. Let them figure out how they want to handle the situation and God wud bless u for bringing it to their notice.
Poster 2 - that mother is very wicked, d brother and cousin re worse my God...
ReplyDeletePoster 1- You don't owe dat lady anything, d earlier u distance your self 4rm her d better 4 u. Not malice, just cut off 4rm her.
narrative 2) omg omg omg omg omg....
ReplyDeletePoster 1: pls go and sleep
ReplyDeletePrick and Tohtoh bizzness sha, who don notice say the sweeter the sex, the more likey it'd soon end cus its wrong, wrong thgs sabi sweet sha.
1st story- are you ok? Did she force money outta your pocket? You listen to them say them say and feel like you owe someone something cos she helped you get a hubby, my friend pack well! Story 2- you better tell the father before the girl gets pregnant and it's a curse on her, I can't deal with some *mothers* abeg! It's beyond me!
ReplyDeleteThank you ooo is like people didn't understand dat narrative 1... Because I did not read were she write dat d woman came to ask her for money all because she dash her husband.
DeletePoster one, biko u don't owe her, in fact she had long taken her glory what else does she want. Please tell her polite that you don't owe her so she can off your back, as for telling her friends, don't let it bother u m, people must talk.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, chai! This is serious. The mother of the girl is an embarrassment. The fact that the girl is enjoying it makes it hard, u r not even sure if the girl wants to stop or not. So u have to start by asking the girl if she's ready to quit.
I was once they 15yr old girl but I never enjoyed it and its affecting my sex life with the best husband. You really need to talk with her if wants to stop. I hate to remember that part of my history. Please help her.
Delete@ada go read narrative 1 again...... From wat she state down I think is her conscience dt is messing her up. Cos d lady dat introduced her to her hubby didn't ask her for anything, even d lady friend didn't tell her anything. So was d fuse all about?
DeleteU might think is a fuse, but the fuse might be real, we are not there so we might not really get the drift, but with Nigeria of today, once they do u a favor , they think u owe them your life...in my opinion I think the poster should just chill until she hears from the match-maker, unless she's not telling us everything. *winks
DeleteI agree with bv mii I was sexually abused by my cousin at age 12 I just got to the idea he would have his way but after breaking free from that chain I never desired sex even with my bf of 4years I'll just make love to satisfy him but I'm not enjoying it..please talk to your pastor I'm sure he would know how to narrate or telling the parents
DeleteAfter writing one epistle I no sure say this network post am. Let me wait and see before I drop another one so that I won't flood everywhere
ReplyDeletePoster 1: pls meet ''gloria'' and ask her what exactly she wants from you and stop assuimg.The more u assume, the more u don't understand.Its only when u understand u know what to say, if u don't u will keep hearing things u don't expect.U can imagine the kind of crap she's told d world abt u.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: ud be doing that family a favour by telling the father.If a whole mother can say don't tell ur dad,huh? Jesus mothers y naa? Biko nne speak, speak, speak and let that family see that Devil is abt to destroy them with sin.that woman will not know d extent of harm she's concealing till that geh gets pregnant.
What a perversed world we live in, why would a mother handle such an issue so carelessly. Some pple are not worthy To be mothers
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ReplyDeleteo ma shey oooh!...devil don take dis family weave basket!...like hell their father should know sharperly...geez what if she gets pregnant?..#faints
ReplyDeletePoster 1
ReplyDeleteI respect the fact that you are seeking a solution and have said your part of the story but I find it hard to believe that someone would constantly remind you bout being a benefactor to Gloria like u said....it sounds absurd that anytime this said person gets to see you, she'll repeat same message. This is a trivial issue and i think you are bugging yourself over nothing. You are married to your husband regardless of how you guys met.....its a two way thing; your hubby shld also be grateful that he met you through the circumstance which you met him....so focus on your hubby and kids and be careful with who u listen to cos your reaction is partly formed by wht that lady constantly says.
Poster 2
A line from your write up reads...first thing that came to my mind was telling the father but it might destroy the family........Thats understandable, but that little girl's life is being destroyed already. You donot need to wait until the damage is irreparable....our childhood memories wld always stick with us and almost serves as d foundation with which we build our character even into the future. Please save this little girl cos God sent u into her life for an important reason.....arrange a meeting with her father and mother....they are a unit, so you don't need to isolate anyone.....talk to them and spill all you know plus hw deep it has eaten her. Afterwards, they can call her and gently discuss with her so she can open up.....the information you can get from her wld be very essential to tackle a whole lot cos they all need help, including her brother. Just hope they won't grow to despise themselves.... In my opinion, the 28yr old cousin should be arrested and properly dealt with.
Li-yon Vls.
Posted 1:yoruba people say "ti oro oko ati iyawo ba wo,alarena ma yeba"meaning when husband nd wife don click, matchmaker go Waka. But in ur case matchmaker no wan waka,I dnt undastnd why person go give u goat and stil hold the rope,she wants u to always acknowledge d fact that she linked u with ur hubby.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: as u ask me,na who I go ask???if she get Belle then family go dey shattered.
DAT 28 YR OLD NIDS BOYS TO BEAT HIM MERCILESSLY, DS 2ND STORI IS APPENIN ALOT I LYK DE CONCLUDIN PART OF SAYIN MOTHER SHUD BLA BLA BLA,..SAW A SMAL GRL OF 7, NOT FAT BT HAS STRTD DEVELOPIN BREAST, OUTA CURIOSITY I FOUND OUT WAT DE IMEDIATE BROTHER HAS BIN DOIN TO HER CUZ DEY MUM IS ALWYS LIVIN SHE N DE YOUNGER SIS IN HIS K TO ATTEND TO HER SMALL TRADIN..N NO ONE ARND DT KNWS VE BIN ABLE TO TEL, MOTHERS PLS NO MATA DE TTY SCHEDULE ALWYS MEK TYM TO INSPECT UR CHILDREN'S BODY..ITS D BREAST I SAW AT A SMAL GRL DT MADE ME WANT TO KNW IF ITS SMETHNG DAT NIDS MEDICAL ATTENTION WCH IF HER MUM SHUD LUK SHE WUD VE SEEN OTHER SIGNS DT WIL MEK HER QUESTIOND HER..B KFUL HW U TEL DE FAMILY CUZ IT MAY BRNG PROBLEM U CN DO DT ANONYMOUSLY OR U INVOLVE A SERIOUS NGO PERSON, ACT NOW IF U CN HLP DT LIL GRL BEFORE SHE TURN INTO SMTHNG ELSE..POSTER 1..WEN NXT U R ASKD IF U R TEKIN K OF HER TEL DEM SHE NIDS TO TEK K OF U TOO, IS IT HEAVEN U WIL BUY FOR HER BEFORE SHE GETS SATISFYD??ABEGG BONE HER JOOR, MEK SHE STAY DRE DE XPCT,,IF HER KID CELEBRATE ANYTHNG U CN SND GFTS TO DEM OF MAYB WEN U R CELEBRATIN OR FESTIVE PERIOD U CN VISIT HER WIT WAT U CN GIV HER..ITS NT BY FORCE....TOMJERRYSWIT
ReplyDeleteIs that why you are screaming.?
DeleteCouldn't even read what you wrote. You may have passed good opinion but Ur CAPs hurt the eyes.
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DeleteTom & Jerry, Can u stop using the big letters. It's hurting the eyes making it so hard to read ur comments.
DeleteCan you please write proper English?
Delete1st poster U get time nah.
ReplyDelete2nd Poster Wtf! Adonbilivit!
Poster 1, Declare your assets publicly
ReplyDeletePoster 2, try as possible to get very close to the. Girl, sshe is the only one that can let this continue and stop it from happening, it's tru blowing the cover would bring shame and disgrace to the family, Bong with d girl, get her to trust u den counsel her
*enjoying chicken, chips with salad from Omni restaurant*
@ 2nd narrative: stella she's 16 and has been introduced to sex very early so I won't blame her for "enjoying" it.. she doesn't know any better. I would tell the father and let the chips fall where they may. what kind of mother is she that allows this to be going on to her daughter and keeps silent? God help us!
ReplyDelete@2nd poster: God help us
ReplyDeleteP1 pls u might be wrong thinking d lady has been telling her friend abt u probably she also knew u met ur hubby thru d lady,so instead of running to dis blog to complain to people who dnt even know if ur accusation over ur friend is true or false,I ll advice u sit her down n tell her all wot u said here,boldly tell her u r nt hapi wit her for not hv even bought a toy for ur 3 kids when u gave birth to them,ask her why she did so,also tell her wot her friend alwaz ask u each time she bumps into u,I bet u it might not to be the way u understood it,after all she considered u gud enough to hv recommended u 4 ur hubby therefore dnt spoil ur r/tionship wit her cos of trivial issues that can be sorted out so easily. P2 pls beta tell d father since d mum has turned deaf ears to d poor girl,definitely it ll bring fracas in d family which can still be settled later but that poor girl's future needs to be protected asap,they hv already done enough damage on her body hence she now craves for d sex herself chai ,but some mothers r so pathetic I swear,if d girl is not put on d right track now she ll end up a sex addict thereby putting her life @risk cos she ll alwaz want to fuck anything fuckable,may God help her anyway
ReplyDeleteWhat did I just read???? Oh Lord have mercy!!!! I'm sick to my stomach!! I can't even say anything. Things are really happening.
ReplyDeleteHmmm fix it
ReplyDeleteP2, Inform the father immediately.
DeleteP1, You don't owe her a dime. Next time her friend asks if you take care of her, ask her to expantiate.
For second Post.
ReplyDeleteSiblings naturally have 'affections' for each other which they subdue by frequent fights in their preteen and adolescent years. Now that said, if your kids never argue or fight you should become suspicious. Mother's please teach your daughters from age 2 to NEVER allow anyone apart from you touch their privates.
I do not understand why mothers hide such things from their husbands. Is he not the father of the children and head of the home?
Most women lack parenting skills. I see some mothers and weep for the future of their children. You allow your child of 2-8 years sleep on same bed with you and your spouse, wat are you thinking that children are stupid? I think I'm ranting.
Poster should have a heart to heart with the mother of those kids. Speak with girl concerning the consequences of their actions (citing scriptural and cultural consequences).
In actual fact, those kids need a psychologist.
I'm so pissed.
You re so right.
DeleteMaybe these women feel their husbands will blame them. But then again so?
Nobody is perfect. Stop covering atrocities cos of shame.
Ok, look at the lady on ihn that is ashamed of telling the doc she had an abortion. This shame they re trying to cover will only escalate into a bigger shame. #ticking timebomb.
Do things right.
SINCE THE MUM KNOWN ABOUT IT CONFRONT HER AND LET HER KNOW WHAT HER NEGLIGENCE HAS CAUSE HER. START FROM THERE
ReplyDeleteThe mother is very wicked. You will still have to tell the girl's father at least once the mother knew and she is not helping.
ReplyDeleteNarrative 1.... Please do absolutely nothing and minimise your giving to her side. And please be prayerful too *sideeye*
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2... This situation you are in is very hard and terrible. I don't blame the girl she reported to mum like every girl should but mum decided to keep mute instead of raining brimstone and thunder on the boy. Please get yourself to talk to the father because this family done already scatter! Inscest fah! Auwusu billahi! And that cousin living with them is the one teaching the boy all this things.
oh my God nothing again i don't know why our mothers have refuse to learn blcos most of them have the experience yet they forget too soon. please poster find a way to help her i beg u. i don't have a baby girl yet but God knows that i will do anything to protect her from my brothers, uncles, cuisines name it blcos 95% of girls are being abuse by family relation is hard to suspect even when our parent finds out they tends to hid it.That child is in pain but don't know yet God! parent pls wake up it happens everyday!
ReplyDeleteP1, lol. U can't kill urself. Let them keep talking. P2, Omg Omg tell her father. The family scatter if it's going to change things.
ReplyDeleteHMM.. POSTER 2, LET HER SEE UR PASTOR FOR PRAYER AND DELIVERANCE WITH HER SIBLINGS OO..
ReplyDeleteP1: What u shld do? Do nothing. Don't live ur entire life feeling like u owe her something. The only thing u owe her is love.
ReplyDeleteLove makes u walk with a free conscience so dat no matter d side talks/ gossips, u know what's in ur heart. People are complicated. U can't please everyone. Bear dat in mind.
P2: I don't know why d mother of d girl doesn't want the father to hear about this but the father has to know about this abomination going under his roof cos he alone is d best position to handle this.
Even d mother isn't helping matters by keeping it from her DH when she herself can't handle d situation. If tomorrow d girl gets pregnant, won't d same father eventually find out and then d family u are trying to protect will be worse off? The father will be mad that nobody told him. Pls he has every right to know. Don't be a party to this abomination.
Best u meet with the father and tell him what's happening but as caution I suggest u first ask d woman why she doesn't want her DH to know about this.
Reason with her and get her to agree. At least she will be in d know of what u want to do. If not there is nothing much u can do. Those boys live with the girl under d same roof. If d woman still insists that u shldn't tell husby pls tell ur Pastor about it.
Another thing; incest is demonic and it's certainly affecting d girl psychologically and spiritually. So apart from counselling her, u need to also pray for her deliverance. This is going to destroy her future if it continues.
Do something or things will get worse. The bottom line is dat the father should be told about this or there's nothing u can do but pray for d girl.
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firstoffs madam stella.....i detest ur comment regards poster2. how do u mean she enjoys sex wit them....o ur god?? is that d only wrong thing u see wit d whole writeup.
ReplyDeletewe are all sexual beings and perharps....d brother disvirgined her hence her enjoying it.
at 15...she dosnt kno beta(meanwhile am sure d abuse started way wen she was younger). i dont blame her really(i blame d mom)but she nids serious counselling with loads of prayers.
madam...a gud work u are doing. God bless. please do not tell d father or blow it up.....the young girl might neva recover frm d trauma and stigma. if u hav d willpower....separate her frm her family and start counselln her immediately. lead her to Christ...as He alone can help her forgive herself and b free frm d guilt such tins bring. a new environment is paramount here. Her mind also nid to b engaged in other meaninful positve activities. in all...she nids rehabilitation.
her brother also nids to b called infor proper questionin....as he might prey on oda young girls if d sista is taken out of this whole mess.
shaa...am tayad of typing but i wil put u all in my prayers. Gods infinite wisdom is needed here. may He guide u aright. Shallom
Narrative 1
ReplyDeleteI had same experience. Do your best to her according to your means. It is a subtle kind of blackmail. You & your husband are not entitled to her forever . You will not go bankrupt b/c she hooked you up with your husband. Don't be depressed about her lack of appreciation. It's just ignorance and greed, greed, greed. Pray for her, let her long throat not lead to witchcraft. Yes witchcraft. Na small small ee dey start. I know you might say ee never reach like that. Some matchmakers feel so entitled, gosh!!!
Narrative2
That your job just became too complicated. I am developing headache already. PLEASE JESUS FIX IT.
It is spiritual, that incest is in the foundation of those children. Evidence, it is normal to them until the girl is fantasizing about their next session . It did not start with them. Somewhere down some generations way back it happened. Maybe from the Mother's line or the Father's line. If Jesus tarries it will re-occur in other future generations. It is deep my dear. It is very very deep.
Since the Mom knows , I would suggest deliverance @ MFM. It is a deliverance ministry with the raw power of God in display with very strong revelations of the source/ origins of this bondage. Not that of marine power, that will require 'spiritual bath'.. Lord have mercy. A psychologist will not help them. May the holyspirit who is the embodiment of the wisdom of God guide you as you're trying to help them.
Best comment ever. So far you are the only person that has made valid point. So many folks here are carnally minded. Things don't just happen. They happen for as a result an earlier act and I see her mum complicit to this act hence she doesn't want it mentioned to her husband. Maybe she did such while she was young. It's probably in their family hence the cousin is also part of the act.
DeleteSpace booked ..brb!!
ReplyDeleteP1, keep on doing the bit you can and leave her to her conscience. P2, speechless, in think you need to tell someone fast maybe your pastor or an elderly head of their family. It will disturb the girl from getting married on the future..
ReplyDeleteWOW. Stella, this is a deep one.
ReplyDeleteVery deep I must confess. You need to handle this carefully. As in very carefully. Gosh, she is so exposed to sex at a very small age, she will be addicted to it and it will destroy her. Just pray.
But first, you you need to help her change her view about it and see it as being a serious sin and abomination.
WHEN PARENT ALLOW THEIR SON AND DAUGHTER TO SLEEP IN THE SAME ROOM OR COVER THEIR BODY WITH THE SAME WRAPPER CAN BE DANGEROUS. PARENT NEED TO BE VERY ALERT. A friend of mine slept with her brother and cousin for 5 years from age seventeen.
Poster 1: Is she not your sister? I don't want to say confront since you are not sure she actually said or says things to people so talk to her. Tell her what people have been saying. Put a stop to being eternally indebted to her jare.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Hmmm...... Very dicey situation oo... Hold your evidence if possible record your conversations cos that kind of mother or the fear of her mother can make her deny what she told you. Omo it is a serious issue no matter how one looks at it. The 28 year old is an adult and needs to find himself behind bars. Infact I don't know what to say again.
Madam Stella why you no chook mouth?
Poster 1: abeg ignore the said friend. Will u kill urself for her? Rubbish
ReplyDeletePoster 2: no advise biko. Dunno what to say.
Can't deal Biko. Stelz give me seat let me scrutinize advice.
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Poster 2, please approach their mother. U need to have a heart to heart talk with her asap!!! They probably have more serious family problems, That's why the mom Can't focus on this. Find out about their father. It's only in dysfunctional families that some serious matters like this are glossed over.
ReplyDeletePoster 1; if this is your problem, then u don't have any problem. We Can't be cracking out head for matters like yours. There are people with rwal problems that need our attention. Attend to it as you see fit. Goodluck.
@ poster 2,stella sex is enjoyable,y wnt she enjoy it I'm sure she doesn't realise how bad what she's doing is.the mum shld be shot i swear y will she hide dis kinda thing, she shldve prevented it 4rm happening further the first time she told her. My advice is tell ur pastor codedly let him arrange a meeting with the parents,pray and resolve the issue privately. This girl needs prayers,this is how nympho's are bred,she's already enjoying sex too much that she cnt even concentrate and pass her exams thinking abt sex.something shld be done fast
ReplyDeleteExactly..
DeleteI guess una dey read upside down. Stella wrote "enjoying sex with them?" , asking a question. Then goes further to Scream in writing"OMG " 3 times.
DeleteWhich one be she ( Stella) is condoning it. Na wa for una.
Ahhh! Well, the best thing to do is have a deep talk with her mother. This will prevent such from happening in the future when she begins to take measures to ensure that the girl doesn't become addicted to such an abominable act and is not made an object of ridicule. SHE SHOULD ALSO BE TAKEN TO SEE A DOCTOR AND A COUNSELLOR. She must be psychologically imbalanced for her to enjoy such. Or maybe she has not been giving the right exposure concerning sexual relations. May God help u.
ReplyDelete*given
DeletePoster 1: you should stop the gifts and every other thing you do for her, you don't owe her anything, u have shown gratitude to her in the past so it's enough.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: you can't tell anyone, you will have to use wisdom to handle this matter.
First of all, make this girl ur best friend and younger sister, call her often and show her unconditional love,let her trust you completely then you can start telling and teaching her about her body and why it's wrong to engage and enjoy incest. Pray with her if you are really spiritual. Try and find ur way into the heart of all the family members so that you can gain their trust, then request that she spends some of her holidays with you that way she will see less of her brother nd cousin. I think her brother was also abused and that's why he is doing it to his sister. God is your strength.
I feel for the mother sha, she must be one sad woman, the guilt and pain of knowing your kids are committing incest and you can't tell anyone for fear of being judged, may God heal the family.
Thank you mummy j took d words right out of my mouth,my thoughts exactly regarding poster 2...
DeleteNo poster,don't ever bring her to your house if you are married...cos she will end up sleeping with your husband or son...
DeleteI know someone like that...she is now a keziah...
Poster1, forget the Gloria biko, she thinks u owe her ur marriage,
ReplyDeletePoster2: let me just read comment cux I'm speechless
@poster one ignore them both cos its not worth it @poster two chai!!! I ve never been dis speechless. incest kwa and enjoying it. I pray God sees dt family thru no matter d outcome.
ReplyDeleteHmm,dis is really serious
ReplyDelete@poster1 : ignore her,u don't owe her anything....
ReplyDeleteYou were destined to met your hubby tru her.
@poster2 : #jawdrops# I pray they don't get 2 impregnate her b4 something will be done about it!
She needs help!!!!!!!!!
Her brother/cousin needs to assassinated asap!
Speechless! God. The second narrative got me. I wish i can lay my hands on the mother. Is she crazy? she probably thought boarding school is keeping them apart but i can't believe she never called them to talk to them. She never warn the brother off. Please its the mother that needs help. She's mentally retarded. I hope she didn't introduce the boy into incest because her silence speaks volume o. She's hiding something.
ReplyDeleteposter 1-hmmmmmm. poster 2-pls tell d father.d family will survive after d storm than for dat young girl's life to be destroyed. see how d mother is hiding evil.when her son becomes a serial rapist as an adult,she go dey cast and bind winches.
ReplyDeletePOSTER 1, I know such people like the lady ur talking about. My friend once introduced me to a guy and xpected I must tell her everything going on in the relationship. Even when the r'lshp ended she still tried to put the blame on me, that I don't listen to advice and I didn't play my cards right, imagine that......
ReplyDeleteJust ignore the lady abeg, don't do more than maybe if she's doing bday for her kids, or baby dedication buy them gift etc.
Poster 2, this is a very dicey situation. Don't even know what advice to give, maybe you can confide in ur pastor and he'll find a way to tell the girls parents 2geda. Telling any individually is not good.
I cant just understand such matters, what if the girl gets pregnant for her broda, is that how she will keep it secret and take d poor girl for abortion.
I hate the way Nigerian women take dere sons/husbands like mini gods, everythn they do is right, even if they sleep with housemaid they will protect them and say the girl is wearing tight clothes to entice them, instead of casgating ur sons.
Mother's wil only teach their daughters morals and not the boys. Thats why they grow up and become terrible husbands.
The worst is when they are only sons,that one will be treated like master of the house, the sisters will cook and even bring for him in his room.
The devil has taken hold of that family, pls do smthn about it, that girl is going to grow up being loose and scared for life.
N1 I taya for world people o! She introduced you to your husband so what? People come into our lives for a reason and a season. Don't confront her or report her to anyone so you're not termed an ungrateful person. Do what you can when you can. You need not bow to undue pressure from her jor!
ReplyDeleteNonsense and ingredients!
N2 Maybe, just maybe you should tell the father of the home. Was it my eyes (I wear glasses) or did I read that she told her mother the first time it happened and she did nothing? Hmmmmm...........this is really complicated o! Sex is one of the best gifts to humanity so no one should blame the girl for enjoying it. But this is a home where teenage siblings are having frequent sex without the knowledge of their parents. It's a very dysfunctional family setup. Maybe your intervention is their chance at redemption. They need family deliverance and counseling. Crazier things have been known to happen in some homes.
Please in the name of all that you hold dear, please save this family. Let the father of the family know and you can suggest a well grounded and well respected servant of God to counsel them and help them through thus dark period.
Ife a na eme adiro easy !
DAWN
N1 I taya for world people o! She introduced you to your husband so what? People come into our lives for a reason and a season. Don't confront her or report her to anyone so you're not termed an ungrateful person. Do what you can when you can. You need not bow to undue pressure from her jor!
ReplyDeleteNonsense and ingredients!
N2 Maybe, just maybe you should tell the father of the home. Was it my eyes (I wear glasses) or did I read that she told her mother the first time it happened and she did nothing? Hmmmmm...........this is really complicated o! Sex is one of the best gifts to humanity so no one should blame the girl for enjoying it. But this is a home where teenage siblings are having frequent sex without the knowledge of their parents. It's a very dysfunctional family setup. Maybe your intervention is their chance at redemption. They need family deliverance and counseling. Crazier things have been known to happen in some homes.
Please in the name of all that you hold dear, please save this family. Let the father of the family know and you can suggest a well grounded and well respected servant of God to counsel them and help them through thus dark period.
Ife a na eme adiro easy !
DAWN
Of course she might enjoy sex with them,there is penetration and her little mind will not know the enormity of what she is involved in!
ReplyDeleteJeeeezzzzzzz!!!
I feel so sad for this girl!
Involve the whole family godammit!
*tears*
God bless you bv for knowing that this girl is a victim! She needs help,her brother needs help too. I pity that efulefu cousin of 28years old with his disease infested thing of a penis.
Poster one
You don't owe her anything!
Please get busier and even distance yourself from her especially if she's telling people that without her,you won't have gotten married.
People have "leaking" mouth!tufia
N1 I taya for world people o! She introduced you to your husband so what? People come into our lives for a reason and a season. Don't confront her or report her to anyone so you're not termed an ungrateful person. Do what you can when you can. You need not bow to undue pressure from her jor!
ReplyDeleteNonsense and ingredients!
N2 Maybe, just maybe you should tell the father of the home. Was it my eyes (I wear glasses) or did I read that she told her mother the first time it happened and she did nothing? Hmmmmm...........this is really complicated o! Sex is one of the best gifts to humanity so no one should blame the girl for enjoying it. But this is a home where teenage siblings are having frequent sex without the knowledge of their parents. It's a very dysfunctional family setup. Maybe your intervention is their chance at redemption. They need family deliverance and counseling. Crazier things have been known to happen in some homes.
Please in the name of all that you hold dear, please save this family. Let the father of the family know and you can suggest a well grounded and well respected servant of God to counsel them and help them through thus dark period.
Ife a na eme adiro easy !
DAWN
I can relate with the poster no 2.i have been down that road the poor girl is going tru .May God give all involved wisdom to tackle this. May God also heal and renew the poor girl. I was in 8yrs old when my senior seminarian cousin started fondling my private part. He would tell me he luved me. I couldn't tell anyone. The ist time he slept with me, I had turned 10,and he was invited for the get together at home since his seminary was also in Enugu where we lived. He told me I was now ripe. He continually ravished my young body until the day I summoned courage to tell mom. She was devastated. She called him, chastised him and told me to keep it away from my Dad. The seminarian was her nephew, so she said she didn't want to start a family feud. As an adult, I'm still haunted by my sexual experience at the hands of my cousin.... And he didn't get to be ordained as he was kicked out a year to ordination(woman matter). Maybe that was God punishing him.
ReplyDeleteWhy did ur mother do that...why exactly? People wnt evn understand d gravity of this thing o, i wish u could explain but i dnt know hw long that might take
DeleteI think I've posted my comments multiple times. I apologize to everyone for that error. Make una no fex.
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D mum should ve reported to d father n also made d son see reasons why d act z evil now see what her silence z doing to her kids.. Plz talk to the mum first since she knows, if she z nt ready to correct her kids make d little gurl report to her dad or u go home with her n tell d dad.. If dem like make d home scatter but will it nt b better to stop dis trash now b4 it gets outa control.
ReplyDeleteHmm this is really deep. LORD help our children.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 please you have to do something. See the father and mother together and tell them all. For the sake of the 13 year old if they are not raping her already they soon will be
P1: d guy is destined to be ur husband and dats y u got married. You owe her nothing dats if u aint hiding anything frm us. Pple meet tru diffent ways n pple help with accomodation ish so I dnt really get d gist
ReplyDeleteP2: she enjoys it so you can't help her. She is not being raped. Its like its a mutual thingy. Tell a pastor u know wud handle it with wisdom from above. Tanx for ur concern. D girls mother is obviously not concerned! Dts bad!!!
Poster 2: pls do not tell the father anything, cos it will just escalate the problem, if the Dad was approachable and Cool with his kids the girl would have told him irrespective of what her mom said. As for the mom, leave her out of this too cos she will build up a defense to save herself from shame and would make sure she keeps the girl away from you, in the end, the girl would be branded a traitor and betrayer who chose to embarrass the family in front of a stranger. This work is for you alone, the girl trusts you hence her confession, don't break that trust. Just think of her as ur patient while you are the psychologist, read books/ articles on Google on how to help a victim of incest. Help save a life.
ReplyDeleteWell that was how my elder sister's 20yrs old maid got pregnant for my sister son who is just 16yrs old. The matter no be here o... At night she goes to the boys room to suck his dick and take a ride. And yes he enjoyed it. Looked forward to their next meeting. One day his mother she entered his room and saw him sleeping naked.. With his dick erect, she was so embarrass that she quietly left his room. Little did she knw that he was waiting for the queen of the night. Let me end the gist here. So Stella it very natural for the girl to enjoy it... Abi Na d one wey my neighbour's wife is crushing on my son? Buying him expensive gifts? 18yrs old boy? Trust me i found out when i confronted him and we had this "come to Jesus moment". I promise to take him clubbing, teach him the wild ways of women, then he will decide if he wants to keep a girlfriend. Choi!! My son the bookworm.
ReplyDeletePlease teach him oh...
DeleteOnce my son clocks 18,I will encourage him to get a girlfriend...she must bring the girl to me first make I carry this my eyes inspect her...
Why spare the family shame when a life is being destroyed and another life stands the risk of destruction?. My two kobo is to call both fathers of the girl and the cousin and spill the bean. Let the men step up as fathers instead of figure heads. The abuse will not stop with the toga of secrecy and fear. Pls help these endangered girls NOW!.
ReplyDeletePoster 1,u are talking as if you gave out of compulsion.Anytime any of her friends says that,tell her you are really taking care of the Gloria bt more to God.
ReplyDeletePoster 2,Biko mind ya biz,ur trying to tell the dad may backfire oo,the young girl may deny that and the father won't be happy with you.Tell your pastor so that he can talk to the father.
Some Mothers need to be flogged. Your daughter confides in you and you do nothing. Instead of you to raise a storm so it will stop mba. GOD FORBID! The mother needs to be counselled. Unfortunately it is the parents that can end this. Please protect the victim's little sister by educating her on matters like this and also teach her how to hit a man's privates so she has some advantage if anyone tries to get physical with her.
ReplyDeleteNarrative two, abeg that girl is very sick together with her brother and the cousin.At 15 and 16+ and 18, they cant give themselves brain to know that incest is terrible? Even if the mother did nothing the first time, cant she tell the boy to stop when it is about happening and run to her mom or another adult? Is that why she should be failing in school. It was not rape, nobody raped her. it was consensual and she has been enjoying it, so what are we talking about? She might even be the initiator, this one that shes fantasizing about fuck in exam hall. Abegi I see her as a mental case, a nut job, a sick human being together with her brother and cousin.I see none of them as victims.Girls that have been fucking and even raped since 8 still pass exams and leave school.Do they need their mother to tell them it is bad before they know?My parents never said anything about incest but by just going to school or even going to church, one would know it is bad! Mistcheww!!! Rubbish family with sick people. Better remove your hand from their case. They are all mentally ill and deranged including the girl.That family is fucked up and dangerous.
ReplyDeleteI PITY any fellow that would have any relationship to do with any of those kids in future either romantic relations or sexual relations. May I never come across such type of family in my life. Chukwu ekwele ihe njor! Tufiakwa for them. You better stop crying over a girl that is enjoying fuck. In this day and age when 13 years old are out of secondary school, any girl 11 and above knows whats up.All these issues are in the media and all around.One cant feign ignorance. You are neither a psychologist nor psychiatrist, so remove your hand! I am not moved nor shocked nor empathetic because they are well aware of what they are doing!
Your comment shocked me. Really?? All this judgment for what na? Do you know how long or how old she was when the abuse started? It's people like you that blame kids when they report an abuse,.
DeleteIt's people with myopic mind like yours that life likes to deal with and slam on the floor. You are just an epic failure to yourself and society. Tueh!
Anonymous 17:21, you obviously did not get your education right! Be careful, it's judgmental people like you who run into issues like these.
DeletePoster 2 there's no guarantee on how the parents will react to you or those involved. Most of these things have gone south.
ReplyDeletePlease pray for direction. I would suggest you fast and pray for the child.
Tell the child you have heard and looking into it.
Start by rebuking the spirit of incest bind and cast it out I the household. Plead the blood of Jesus on the gurl and God should restore her. Tell her T pray pslam 23 and 91. Make sure you assure her its the point.
All these diabolic don't tell you the T and Cs on covenant.
Peace
Poster 1, be careful with people like that who are so ungrateful. They can go to any length just to squeeze something from you. However, show her love and help her when you can. Don't be bothered whether she is satisfied or not. You may never be able to satisfy her. God will reward you.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, I really think the matter should be brought to the light. When sins like that are covered, they multiply. Imagine the mother hiding it from her husband! She seems nonchalant and maybe the girl's father will take steps to curb the situation. This is too dangerous. If it continues, the repercussions will be overwhelming! Parents please learn from this.
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Poster 1 the problem is in your head. If someone tells you the lady is your benefactor then ask how and tackle that particular persons statement. Except the lady has complained to you directly then you are the one with the problem not her.
ReplyDeletePoster 2
Please report to an NGO cos the girl really needs a lot of help
Na wa o!Words fail me.God have mercy..
ReplyDeletePoster 2.please do the right fin before it's too late. Stories lyk dis make me sad.
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1- Madam be yourself and do not allow such to disturb you. Be positive minded and do not throw yourself at her just to please her. Na only GOD deserve our 'pleasing'.
ReplyDelete2. The girl's mother has failed. I think the father should get involve in this not a pastor that will use them to preach somewhere tomorrow. After that, she and his brother will have to go for deliverance. Please be fast before she gets pregnant, and our Lord will bless you as you help this girl. Pray for her too.
#peace
#sodeep
Poster 1: Keep acting nice, don't behave as if you have a problem with her but only give her aid or money when you want to and have planned for it. Trust me, it works
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Make the girl your friend so she can call you for help or prayers whenever she needs to, bypass the mum as she is afraid of consequences and make an anonymous phone call to the dad, the girl will keep giving you feedback while you pray with her and encourage her. My mum watched housemaids molest(finger) my youngest sister in front of her, till I got angry and quarrelled seriously with one of them. Some mothers are too afraid of rocking the boat.
P1 pls do your part and forget them side talks. Concentrate on your family
ReplyDeleteP2 talk some sense into her mum's head and then take it from there. She is a mum doesn't mean she is sensible. The truth is all women can give birth but not all can be a mother/parent.
Oh, what a sick sick world we live in! Fathers raping daughters, granddads raping grand-daughters, brother sleeping with sister. U dn't evn knw who's who again. My kids would never - I repeat, NEVER - spend evn a night in any relatives house, not 2 talk of holidays. No househelps, no boarding school, just me and dem doin face-me-I-face-u insyd house. Abi how we wan take knw who dey carry one kain dirty demon dey waka up and down?
ReplyDelete@P2, u owe it 2 dat girl (and esp d 2nd daughter) 2 blow it open, tho u first hav 2 gently and lovingly lead d girl 2 agree 2 it and giv her permission; don't do it w/out her permission so she wn't lock up 4 life and kip endurin terrible things all by herself, esp as she has been put on a likely track 2 sexual perversion. Keep quiet and watch her (and her sister) transform to an emotional wreck. As for their mum, I wldn't take it lightly wit her if I were 2 b d girl's dad. I mean, u'd let my daughter (our daughter) be abused continuously jst 2 keep it frm me?
@Stella, sex will always be sex, and sex is sweet. Haven't u heard stories of when an unwillin partner begins 2 enjoy sex at some point esp when it isn't traumatic? Dat's bcos evn tho d person/victim dsn't want it, d body's nerves in d genitals still transmit d sensation of what's happenin down dere 2 d brain and d brain interprets it accurately. In other words, d person myt enjoy it wen it's on but is nevertheless still bein psychologically and emotionally traumatised. So pls dn't just go there. D girl isn't lewd or watevr, she's jst a perfectly normal girl who was designed 2 enjoy sex but who is bein abused.
Some other people just wanted to send chronicle in by all means... Smh.
My dear call her pops and tell him buh obviously do it under cover oooo,he has to ban d stypid cousin and deal with d brother seriously!
ReplyDeleteBvs how do I prevent my breastfeeding baby from having chicken pox.The doctors said the milk alone is enough to protect her.Am just worried
ReplyDeletelol @poster 1 u need to make it clear u dont owe her. Just stop giving her stuff already.
ReplyDeleteLet's be logical here, yes she is going to enjoy it because there is stimulation going on. These occurrences have happened so much that she is beyond the point of shame and the act is pleasurable because it was designed to be that way. However, her sharing this with a stranger means that there is still a small part of her that knows what she is doing is not right, deep down she is crying out for help and the failures in school is one of the physical manifestation of that cry for help. The brother and her should not be living under the same roof, the parents should send him away, in truth he should be charged but I have a feeling they would never take him to the police about this. At the end of the day she needs professional counselling by someone trained to help those who have a history of trauma in their past, this sender is beyond your scope of expertise. She also needs career counselling to see where her strengths and weaknesses are, perhaps with the brother out of the house she will start to do better in school. The mother is highly ineffective, she is not ready for motherhood. I am always amazed at the number of women who tell their daughters to accept abuse and to just act like it didn't happen and to adjust herself, in effective she is teaching her daughter that she is the one at fault. Poor girl has nobody to support her at home. This is why this situation is beyond you sender, she needs a professional because her head piece is probably fck the hell up big time.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, ignore the foolishness and move on. Some folks expect that you should forever pay them back for some favour they extended to you in the past - that is blackmail. When someone else come to you and say that the woman is your benefactor; Tell them, God is your benefactor, tell them plainly that yes, she allowed you to stay at her home for a month and it is through her that you met your husband and you will be eternally grateful to her for everything, but you have a family of three children now and greater responsibilities so you are in no position to do anymore for her than to say thank you. Everytime someone brings it up say the exact same thing over and over and they will eventually stop saying it.
@Poster 2, I just had to comment on this one! cant believe what I just read! whaaaaaaat!??? reading that made me sick to my stomach and shed tears. Pls I beg of you, get a new sim and place an anonymous call to her father or better still send a text ask him to confront his wifr and daughter if he doubts the story and to tke necessary actions, if not this will alwys be on you. what if she turns out to be a nymphomaniac in future, a runs girls, gets pregnant or commits suicide? what the devil has to work with are limitless. meanwhile have her in your prayers, will do so too. God let you have such information for a reason, please let him use you!
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Firstly, I think you should call the mum and tell her about this, hear from her,because kids of this day can tell lies eh, after that ,pls suggest to them MFM Onike,Lagos. When they get there,any man of God you see there will direct them on the next step to go.
ReplyDeletesee everybody suggesting the poster to take the child to see a trained psychologist like we patronise them in naija. Mtcheeeeeew, when pple have issues they run to pastors who re not trained to handle most emotional, social, educational and even occupational problems. Let us learn to use the services of counsselling psychologists since its obvious our society is becoming complex like the ones we only read about. I bet you if this issues is handled by a pastor we will recieve a second chronicle very soon. having said this poster2 pls dont tell the mum YET take the kid to a counsellor and i know you have done your bid, if every adult in our society is like you we will have a saner communities.
ReplyDeletesee everybody suggesting the poster to take the child to see a trained psychologist like we patronise them in naija. Mtcheeeeeew, when pple have issues they run to pastors who re not trained to handle most emotional, social, educational and even occupational problems. Let us learn to use the services of counsselling psychologists since its obvious our society is becoming complex like the ones we only read about. I bet you if this issues is handled by a pastor we will recieve a second chronicle very soon. having said this poster2 pls dont tell the mum YET take the kid to a counsellor and i know you have done your bid, if every adult in our society is like you we will have a saner communities.
ReplyDeleteAunty Stella, PLEASE WE MUST KNOW THE END OF THE POSTER NO.2 STORY, PLEASE MA'AM.
ReplyDeleteNo.1: Ignore the situation. It is not that serious. You are taking things too much to heart. Just face your life.
ReplyDeleteNo. 2: The Lord is your strength. You must be a good person to not ignore the situation and take to your heels. I have a feeling God put you in this for a reason. Stella D'Kork, don't be surprised that the girl is enjoying it. Sex is meant to be pleasurable, and forbidden sex is usually more so ( but this is a trap of Satan). The girl is STILL the victim, esp because of her age. If something is not done now, she's going to end up really messed up and continue the cycle with her own generation. Its likely that the family is a cursed one, incest is an abomination and can run from one generation to the next. Hence, spiritual deliverance is a must. Mentally and psychologically the brother and sister need professional counseling as well as spiritual counseling. The brother also needs to be punished for his act and the cousin banned from being in that house.
All this cannot be easy because the abomination going on is being shrouded in secrecy, and where iniquity is covered, sin abounds. The mother's attitude is suspicious, and clearly you do not know what to expect from the father. You need to proceed with caution and wisdom. You need to pray to God to direct your steps so that you can take the right actions. I think this case is beyond you. If your pastor is a true man of God, why not confide in him, or his wife, or the other counselors in your church. The whole family needs to be sat down, counseled and prayed for, for a way forward, and for complete deliverance. Everyone should be in the know. Even the cousin, his parents also have to be in the know. Who knows how many people that man has been abusing and might still be abusing? So much to say, but all in all may the Lord order your steps dear poster, and use you as an instrument to snatch someone from the jaws of hell and a worthless life of pain and misery.
No.1: Ignore the situation. It is not that serious. You are taking things too much to heart. Just face your life.
ReplyDeleteNo. 2: The Lord is your strength. You must be a good person to not ignore the situation and take to your heels. I have a feeling God put you in this for a reason. Stella D'Kork, don't be surprised that the girl is enjoying it. Sex is meant to be pleasurable, and forbidden sex is usually more so ( but this is a trap of Satan). The girl is STILL the victim, esp because of her age. If something is not done now, she's going to end up really messed up and continue the cycle with her own generation. Its likely that the family is a cursed one, incest is an abomination and can run from one generation to the next. Hence, spiritual deliverance is a must. Mentally and psychologically the brother and sister need professional counseling as well as spiritual counseling. The brother also needs to be punished for his act and the cousin banned from being in that house.
All this cannot be easy because the abomination going on is being shrouded in secrecy, and where iniquity is covered, sin abounds. The mother's attitude is suspicious, and clearly you do not know what to expect from the father. You need to proceed with caution and wisdom. You need to pray to God to direct your steps so that you can take the right actions. I think this case is beyond you. If your pastor is a true man of God, why not confide in him, or his wife, or the other counselors in your church. The whole family needs to be sat down counseled and prayed for, for a way forward, and for complete deliverance. Everyone should be in the know. Even the cousin, his parents also have to be in the know. Who knows how many people that man has been abusing and might still be abusing? So much to say, but all in all may the Lord order your steps dear poster, and use you as an instrument to snatch someone from the jaws of hell and a worthless life of pain and misery.
No.1: Ignore the situation. It is not that serious. You are taking things too much to heart. Just face your life.
ReplyDeleteNo. 2: The Lord is your strength. You must be a good person to not ignore the situation and take to your heels. I have a feeling God put you in this for a reason. Stella D'Kork, don't be surprised that the girl is enjoying it. Sex is meant to be pleasurable, and forbidden sex is usually more so ( but this is a trap of Satan). The girl is STILL the victim, esp because of her age. If something is not done now, she's going to end up really messed up and continue the cycle with her own generation. Its likely that the family is a cursed one, incest is an abomination and can run from one generation to the next. Hence, spiritual deliverance is a must. Mentally and psychologically the brother and sister need professional counseling as well as spiritual counseling. The brother also needs to be punished for his act and the cousin banned from being in that house.
All this cannot be easy because the abomination going on is being shrouded in secrecy, and where iniquity is covered, sin abounds. The mother's attitude is suspicious, and clearly you do not know what to expect from the father. You need to proceed with caution and wisdom. You need to pray to God to direct your steps so that you can take the right actions. I think this case is beyond you. If your pastor is a true man of God, why not confide in him, or his wife, or the other counselors in your church. The whole family needs to be sat down counseled and prayed for, for a way forward, and for complete deliverance. Everyone should be in the know. Even the cousin, his parents also have to be in the know. Who knows how many people that man has been abusing and might still be abusing? So much to say, but all in all may the Lord order your steps dear poster, and use you as an instrument to snatch someone from the jaws of hell and a worthless life of pain and misery.
No.1: Ignore the situation. It is not that serious. You are taking things too much to heart. Just face your life.
ReplyDeleteNo. 2: The Lord is your strength. You must be a good person to not ignore the situation and take to your heels. I have a feeling God put you in this for a reason. Stella D'Kork, don't be surprised that the girl is enjoying it. Sex is meant to be pleasurable, and forbidden sex is usually more so ( but this is a trap of Satan). The girl is STILL the victim, esp because of her age. If something is not done now, she's going to end up really messed up and continue the cycle with her own generation. Its likely that the family is a cursed one, incest is an abomination and can run from one generation to the next. Hence, spiritual deliverance is a must. Mentally and psychologically the brother and sister need professional counseling as well as spiritual counseling. The brother also needs to be punished for his act and the cousin banned from being in that house.
All this cannot be easy because the abomination going on is being shrouded in secrecy, and where iniquity is covered, sin abounds. The mother's attitude is suspicious, and clearly you do not know what to expect from the father. You need to proceed with caution and wisdom. You need to pray to God to direct your steps so that you can take the right actions. I think this case is beyond you. If your pastor is a true man of God, why not confide in him, or his wife, or the other counselors in your church. The whole family needs to be sat down counseled and prayed for, for a way forward, and for complete deliverance. Everyone should be in the know. Even the cousin, his parents also have to be in the know. Who knows how many people that man has been abusing and might still be abusing? So much to say, but all in all may the Lord order your steps dear poster, and use you as an instrument to snatch someone from the jaws of hell and a worthless life of pain and misery.
Poster 2. I do not know what state you live in but, go and report to the police, let them invite the family and take it from there. I believe there are new dedicated rape lines in Lagos, rolled out this week.
ReplyDeleteAs for you Stella, vwe owo oheheh, yes, of everything you read and processed in the abuse and incest of this child, your focus was on the fact that there was pleasure? Eme O te kpokpo vwe dede? Vwe oni emo? Me ti se ovwe edoka, me te wuve.
nawahooooop.paying loyalty to somebody for husband finding .hhhhmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm . to the smalll girl tha enjoys dick at that age hmmmmmmmmm i wonder what this world is turning into. i pity her generation
ReplyDeletenawahooooop.paying loyalty to somebody for husband finding .hhhhmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm . to the smalll girl tha enjoys dick at that age hmmmmmmmmm i wonder what this world is turning into. i pity her generation
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