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Monday, 11 January 2016

Too Ugly For Love?Meet The Four Women Wary Of Dating Because Of Their Medical Conditions

For these women, finding a partner comes with an extra set of problems...


Michelle's Story
"I'm scared that a new partner would be off by the skin on my legs and feet"
Two and a half years ago, 37-year-old Michelle almost died. She’d been battling
what she thought was a cold for five days, she’d felt exhausted and dizzy, with hot and cold flushes and headaches. She even lost her voice at one point, but the normally healthy single mum carried on.juggling her busy job in outpatient care with looking after her daughter Kira, 9.But when Michelle woke up in the middle of the night and couldn’t move her legs, she knew something was seriously wrong. Terrified, she called an ambulance – but when the paramedics arrived, she couldn’t get out of bed and had to crawl to the door.

"In the back of the ambulance, I watched a purply rash forming all over my legs," she says. "I knew the medics must think it was serious because they blue-lighted me to the hospital."

Doctors quickly diagnosed Michelle with meningococcal septicemia (blood poisoning), and gave her just a 25%,chance of survival.
"I was delirious from the pain, but I remember them telling,me I needed to make plans for after my death," Michelle says sadly. "I lay there in terror, trying to decide what would be best for my little girl. My friends brought her in to see me, but I told them to take her away I didn’t want her to remember me like that."

As Michelle’s organs began to shut down one-by-one, doctors placed her in a medically induced coma in an attempt to save her life. Friends and family prepared for the worst. Miraculously, Michelle woke up two and a half weeks
later.
"I was so confused and couldn’t remember what had happened," she says. "I remember the horror as I looked down at my legs they were bandaged up but my toes were poking out and I could see they’d gone black."

What Michelle didn’t realise was that the flesh on the toes had died as a result of the infection. As they began to fall off, doctors took the decision to amputate them, and for a time it looked like she would also lose an arm and a leg. Luckily, her limbs were saved, but Michelle spent three months in hospital recovering. 

When she was discharged she faced another battle, her ex-husband, who’d left when Kira was just six months old, had gained custody of their daughter and refused to give her back. As she slowly learnt to walk again, Michelle was also embroiled in a legal fight to bring her daughter home.

"My morale was really, really low," she recalls. "All I wanted was to be
with my daughter, but I was also facing hours of physio."
Eventually, Michelle was able to walk again, but she lost a fifth of the skin on her legs, and was left with severe scarring and just two toes. A judge ruled that Michelle should have full-time custody of her daughter, so Kira now regularly travels to London from Bristol to stay with her dad. Michelle has gradually rebuilt her life, and says that, in many ways, she is happier and more positive than ever knowing how close she came to death has made her value life more than ever.

But there’s one thing still missing: a partner.

"I’d love to meet someone special, remarry and have more children," says Michelle, "but my condition has left me quite self-conscious about having a physical relationship.
"I’m scared that, even if I tell somebody about the skin on my legs and feet, when it comes down to it, they’d be put off. If someone complimented me I probably wouldn’t believe them anyway."
Michelle has started the dating process, and has been on a few dates and is always open about her condition. Although she’s yet to meet anyone special, she hasn’t fallen victim to any negative reactions and says going on dates is
slowly starting to build up her confidence.

A partner would be the icing on the cake for Michelle, but she knows that the world can change at any moment, and relishes her happy and busy life with Kira.



Abbie's story
Having an ileostomy bag 



Abbie, 22, suffers from debilitating Crohn’s Disease , a condition which leaves her exhausted and in pain, as well as forcing her to follow a strict diet with no alcohol. Not being able to party with her fellow students has made life difficult for her, and she admits it means her love life is ‘practically non-existent’. She also has to wear an external ileostomy bag on her abdomen which collects her
faeces, and this makes her feel uncomfortable about having a relationship.



Chloe's story
Having to wear a wig -
Chloe with and without her wig


Twenty nine-year-old beauty therapist Chloe has suffered from alopecia for 15 years. She covers up with glamorous wigs, but feels very uncomfortable revealing her condition to dates after several unsuccessful romances. Chloe is actively dating and is determined to stay positive.




Verona's
storyHaving excess skin 


Verona feels conscious about her excess skin after losing 7st
Verona, 27, lost an impressive seven stone in a year after a gastric bypass, but has been left with loose skin on her stomach, arms and thighs. She feels incredibly self conscious about her skin, to the extent that the thought of physical intimacy fills her with dread. The administrative assistant and mum-of-two hopes she can find a man who’ll look past this one day.

mirror.co.uk cullage.


82 comments:

Chysugar said...

And see me here complaining of excess hairs on my legs...uwa ezughi oke @ all...
man wey go love u go love u..d most important tin is self happiness and fulfillment

CHI EXOTIC CHI EXOTIC said...

Don't fret strong women
Love is going to find you all

Everyone deserves to be happy and you guys are not an exception.

NORTH DAKOTA SIOBHAN said...

I'm at a loss for adequate words to use.

Beautiful women.

Thank you jesus.

optimisticlady said...

??????

Ezenwanyi Igwurube Loves General's Wife.. said...

One would think treating those ailments will be uppermost in their minds and not looking for bedmates.

Who wan fuck??
Viewers discretion next time biko.

They all should consecrate and dedicate theirs to prayers biko.
Just negodu?.. These ones sef wan fuck.
Hian!!

What am I saying sef?? Some men can chop shit.

Anonymous said...

And I complained of pimples, Lord I thank you. God help these women, a woman is so much more than she looks.

Iphie dearie said...

Over there,they stand a better chance at love.

Esta Akpan said...

Michelle's story made me really sad.

Nina said...

All very beautiful people.

Joblesshousewife said...

Beautiful women.

IVORY 01 said...

The last person no really get problems joo when compared to the other 3. Oh! These women are beautiful. Life!

linda adaeze said...

This ladies are all beautiful

Suzie Pepi said...

hmmmmm

Pretty Asha said...

Hmmm

oluwakemi abosede said...

I am grateful lord!

mzjenjulius said...

Enter your comment...GOD forgive me 4 ever complaining

Cynthia Iyede said...

Hnmmm. In everything, I give thanks to God.

Loveme Jeje said...

hmmmm God help them to locate the men that will look past their diseases. If Jesus Christ can die for us for he loved us much more than we love him, why can't men fall in love with these beautiful women.

May God make them stay more beautiful

SMURF said...

They all look beautiful though.

Chidinma Grace said...

So sad! But love is not critic in nature, so u all will find love.

Ugochi Ocheze said...

It's well

Sweetheart said...

Jesus has fixed these!

White Diamond said...

Awwww

Everyone has one issue or the other.

Chloe should just scrape of her remaining hair, rock her baldness with pride and wear a wig occasionally when she feels like.
She still looks beautiful without hair.

#WhiteDiamondOut

BIPOLAR ME said...

The last two have no "serious problems" as compared to the first two.

People have much more serious health issues than would not even let their own "blood" relate with them.

God help us.

xxxTrinityxxx said...

I feel sorry for the first two women

Sharon john said...

The only reasonable one I see there is Michelle,I pray God direct you to your right partner that will luv u and cherish you,despite your condition.

Anonymous said...

Verona should go for surgery and remove the excess skin.
Chloe should do hair graft surgery.

QUEEN AMY said...

Chloe is not supposed to be here or when did alopecia become a big problem. I just pity the ist woman n pray she finds love soon.

Omoge Manchester said...

The 1st n 2nd ladies got me scared oooo. Omg. The wig n excess flesh ladies should just negodu.

Prince Young said...

Who told these women that they cannot find partners?? Now receive your partners IJN...May God send una partners from this blog

Ada-nne said...

God I thank you for me

Nwa Amaka said...

You all are beautiful and wonderfully made by God. The only person I really had pity on was Abbie and she is so pretty. Love happens when u least expect it.

lolyadekunle said...

God send divine partners to your daughters.

MISS PEPEYE said...

Only d 1st two ve real issues. D rest are just there jare. It is well.

DON -G said...

Thank u Lord for my life

#weldone sdk#
.

DRAMA QUEENN said...

Hmmmm
Nawa o
The wig lady actually doesn't have any problem,
She should just scrape off the few hair strands on her hair and rock the skin cut,
People with healthy hair sometimes just choose muru muru.

Anonymous said...

So says Ezenwanyi the frustrated bitter dog

Anonymous said...

Stupid being. Even in their present state, they are better than u. Ewu! How can u ask such silly question? We all need love no matter what cos God is love.

starjoy said...

They are all beautiful, just believe in yourselves, with prayers love would find you.

cutemum31 said...

God fix them

POTABLE viv said...

Nawa oooh
Love isn't 4 everyone jare

Dominic Okeke said...

Are you sure you are a human being?

Sassy 'Meruche' Fire said...

Very beautiful.

Goddesss of Dawn said...

So sad
Lord am so grateful

Onye said...

U must be very bitter,hmnn may God av mercy on u

Onye said...

May they find love

Onye said...

U must be very bitter,hmnn may God av mercy on u

Onye said...

U must be very bitter,hmnn may God av mercy on u

Onye said...

May God av mercy on ur bitter soul

Anonymous said...

Ezenwayi....i really feel sorry for you...just hope you never fall really ill it shows...

Anonymous said...

Ezenwayi....i really feel sorry for you...just hope you never fall really ill it shows...

Pink shell said...

Madam, how far?
Bin awile!
Ezenwa,I don miss u die oo. #Cheers!

tessbaby said...

N onye was bitten by Thelma?

Shennel Hyacinth said...

Love will find you darlings. Have u heard ? Love lives in strange places. It's gonna find me,you,you and you.

aisha jane said...

Ozu oke at all..

ed DREAMZ said...

a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
.
Nna i cant fit shah....
.
.
***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

Ezenwanyi Igwurube Loves General's Wife.. said...

@Pink Shell my Sweetie.. Wassup??..

Happy new year!!..

Worried Woman said...

I honestly wish love will locate me one day too. Heading to 36yrs. No man to call my own. Not even a side chick to any man. God forbid I should course a tear to any woman at this my age by befriending her husband just for sex and material things. I weep most times to bed due to loneliness. God Almighty, biko, let your mercy locate me. All I ask for is a man of my own.

ChyAdaJesus said...

Am telling you o...

Beautiful ladies by the way.

ziona said...

Receive your husband in Jesus name.

La'creamie said...

The right man will locate u and u shall feel loved till the end it's well with u.




*blessed child*

La'creamie said...

The right man will locate u and u shall feel loved till the end it's well with u.




*blessed child*

Anonymous said...

The last person with excess skin has no problem. If she can do a gastric bypass, she can also do excess skin reduction. Apologies to papa God for thinking i'm fat because i'm a size 18 and everybody call me fat even though i'm very shapely. Reading sdk and people calling others fat especially money maker, (where is he sef) made me to begin losing myself confidence.

La'creamie said...

I stopped complaining last year, that I don't have a man in my life, my man is already by my side all I need is Gods favour for him to locate me.#alwaysprayingintheblessedsacrament



*blessed child*

Anonymous said...

Keep on praying...God,s eyes are upon EACH one of us

Tesso said...

worried woman, fret not for your mate will locate you. i know is difficult, get busy, socialize, and above all pray and drop all childhood fantasies abi nah criteria. All the best.

jadeite said...

Often times we don't appreciate God enough until we hear other people's stories. Lord I thank you.

Anonymous said...

Please ladies if you are reading this please ask any Nigerian for pastor T.B.Joshua... Goto his site Emmanueltv.com or his church to get perfect healing. Even if it I not a spiritual problem God will heal you through T.B.Joshua in Lagos.

Anonymous said...

Na wa o what people say with their mouth Eh! A bitter soul very wicked !! At least pity their condition!

Freshdew said...

The first and second story is truly sad...it is well. I wish you ladies the very best in your pursuit in life.

Anonymous said...

I appreciate God,was always saying I look too masculine.

degoz said...

You must be stupid

Anonymous said...

May God answer you speedily in Jesus name. May His mercy locate us in Jesus name. It's truly not easy, i happen to be blessed with a good job, I've bought my house already (though I'm renting where i live now to avoid attention) but I'm so lonely. It's hard knowing who's after me because of my money too. Too many married men disturbing me, but I'm praying to God to continue giving me grace to resist cos it's not easy at all. May God answer all of us single women praying for spouses this 2016 in Jesus name. May we all testify.

Anonymous said...

The lady with the Crohn's disease is the worst on this list.I have a colleague with the condition and trust me pity is too mild to express what I feel for her. There is a while lor she cant eat cos it won't digest meaning she would have to end up in hospital because her tummy would keep swelling etc. Plus she also has nut allergies so imagine how life must be for her.

The first lady as well I feel for and she is blessed to be alive.

The last two, cosmetic surgeries can fix.

Whirlwind said...

Really??

Sommie said...

God is not sleeping dearies..ur own wil surely locate u!

sisi eko said...

Exactly. Even full bodied women haven't found a mate, so it's not unusual. Just that they'll think it's bcos of their issues that men aren't coming. Meanwhile they may be wrong. It's just all up in their mind.

sisi eko said...

Oh come off it dear. Don't u dare lose ur self confidence bcos of people's view about others. No No No!!!
If u feel comfy in ur skin then twerk it off. If u feel like losing weight then do so for ur self and not for anyone.

sisi eko said...

God can heal her of excess skin too? OK na. Things people bother God about. When there are far more serious cases to attend to. Well, some of the ladies above need prayers tho.. perhaps the first two.

yourstrulyblogposts.blogspot.com said...

Wow they are strong women - a reminder to never complain

Ify Tabansi said...

You can never change

Mao Akuh said...

God is still GOD and can do all things