Tuesday, 2 February 2016

This Is Wrong!

I saw this Meme and totally disagree with it!...Giving a man money is a woman's choice,because yours turned out bad doesnt mean you have to advice someone else not to do so....

It is a personal decision done out of love and received in love......






If however you agree with this Meme,then shame on all the women who have opened shop on a mans wallet...A woman is not a woman if she has to also depend on a man's wallet to get by...Get up and work and stop taking it for granted that because you give him booty,he owes you anything...BIG LONG HISS!



159 comments:

KAMARA De-RICADO said...

Whatever!

priscaempire empire said...

Stella no need to hiss.We know u are d one that feed your hubby.

Ibukunoluwa said...

With the rate @ which Yoruba guys dump girls this days....I think I will support the post o...lol

Nwa Amaka said...

I personally don't see anything wrong in doing dat. My man don't ask me for money but when I notice that d money is not flowing in the way it used to be a take some responsibility and pay some bills without him knowing.

Bibian Ezeani said...

I give money to my fiancé

Anonymous said...

Stells,why body just the pepper you dis afternoon? First it was built u called out,now na women wey no wan become mugu again?hian!e be like u dey ur period #sideeye@stella#AppleofGod'seye#

Oluchi Lambert said...

Lol, some of these Meme sef. Just that of these men take things for granted.

Eka Joy said...

I have never believed in this. I believe in supporting when I can and also expect to be supported in return. But what I most definitely don't hold on to is d hope that he'd end up marrying me just cos I've helped out in what little way I could.

Women will rush to tell u not to give ur boyfriend money except he's ur husband but then tell u that u should desert a boyfriend that doesn't support u financially.

If God forbid anything happens and my boyfriend needs my help financially tomorrow, God knows I won't think twice before doing it if I can afford it. Afterall, it's rub my back, I rub urs and he's done a great job in rubbing my back.

But on d other hand, if u have a stingy boyfriend, someone that has but won't give, abeg if he ever needs ur help, fold ur legs and pretend to be a mermaid.

Loveme Jeje said...

Give me i give you. That is my slogan

Anonymous said...

Na period dey worry stella,i know dat feeling..getting pissed over little things when u re on,hehbeheh.ndo Stells. It shall pass#AppleofGod'seye#

Anonymous said...

Na period dey worry stella,i know dat feeling..getting pissed over little things when u re on,hehbeheh.ndo Stells. It shall pass#AppleofGod'seye#

Doppelgänger said...

Why would my man keep asking me for money? What happened to his own?
I can get he needs my assistance one time but not every time. I ain't gonna be with no broke ass who needs my money every time.
I make my money, make yours nigga.

em jay said...

Na quarrel u dey find @SDK.

stunning slim shady said...

I second d above meme. Even if I manage to borrow a man money b sure to pay back wt interest.

The Sexiest Mother Of This Blog said...

I don't agree with the meme either. When u love someone as in true love no be all this kpako love. Giving comes from the heart and it doesn't matter who the giver or reciever is so far as its going to improve and better the persons life.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Stella forget that thing...
How can a woman gives her hard earned money to a man?...hian
Thank God I wasn't brought up that way...
WELL
I only give my sugar sons cos most of them are still struggling..,

Immaculate said...

Truth be told, is a personal choice and decision

One trillion said...

End time meme

Ihekire Tony said...

Stella a woman's money is like a ritual money, nothing good comes out of it, just insults and humiliation. I rather go borrowing than ask a woman for money, and I pray to God not to be in that situation.

Default Smile said...

Kikikikikikiki

181 comment 2016

Anonymous said...

It is wrong to give a man money all the time. The woman is only a pillar of support, the neck. The man is the head and the provider for the family. If he has an issue, or in a financial mess and his wife can help, it is a different ball game entirely. A true man will not stay put in such a situation, he won't be comfortable sitting back while his wife provides. He will make frantic effort to get back to providing for his family. Only lazy men do that and that is what I think this meme is all about that.
Never give a leach money. They will only use and suck you dry like orange.

oluwakemi abosede said...

Yes av given my ex money to travel out till date he didn't return d money back! Instead went off to marry someone else
No big deal!
Dat isn't stopping me from helping my spouse!
My friend married now to her long time bf 4 7yrs! Was d one helping her man, feeding him, he was even living with her, friends insulted her, said d guy would leave her wen he becomes rich!
Today dey are happily married wit 2 kids, living large! D hubby kiss d floor she works on! Treat are with respect! Gives her d best!
So it didn't work for u doesn't mean it won't work 4 others!

elizabeth nwankwo said...

If I opened a shop from a man's purse?...how wrong is dat bikonu???just negodu!

Anonymous said...

Stella leave that thing joor,I won't give a man money he should give me,but if he his my husband I can give in once in a while not like everytime..girls b wise

sassy chick yumyum yummyest said...
This comment has been removed by the author.
Anonymous said...

Stella PREACH!!!

ANGELRAY4SDK said...

I totally agree, y should I take up d responsibility of a man, in d name of what. A man should give me money & not d reverse.

Sandra Unachukwu said...

true. nothing wrong with giving a man money nah

CHI EXOTIC CHI EXOTIC said...

I cannot give a man money
Sue me SDK.

#Miss Kay# said...

Haba Stella, are men not supposed to take care of women, why did God make men to be the head of the family?

pax dimond said...

giving a man money is d choice of d woman. d money is not mine so who ever you want to give is also your choice. for me I will give but will check it well under accur banker first before it turn to be d more you see d less you understand.

Ade Esther said...

Yes, you don't give a man money if he's yet to be your husband. What for?

Didy Alexander said...

Not when it becomes a hobby for the man to alway receive from the woman.

natt nathaniel said...

End time beggarly konji defeated morally bankrupt men on d prowl.

natt nathaniel said...

End time beggarly konji defeated morally bankrupt men on d prowl.

Alexy Ohaeri said...

Oh please ladies, ain't nothing like giving booty. Get this straight, you gave him booty, he gave you his Dee. You both enjoyed yourselves.

Workhard for your own money, and if you feel like giving him money from time to time. Your terms.

#dropsmic#



*Ayah Shehu *

Alexy Ohaeri said...

Oh please ladies, ain't nothing like giving booty. Get this straight, you gave him booty, he gave you his Dee. You both enjoyed yourselves.

Workhard for your own money, and if you feel like giving him money from time to time. Your terms.

#dropsmic#



*Ayah Shehu *

Anonymous said...

Stella is old school that's why she disgreed

natt nathaniel said...

End time beggarly konji defeated morally bankrupt men on d prowl.
Small time now dey go send chronicles uphandan.

POTABLE viv said...

They will always give out of desperation.
Love my foot

BluntIjebuChic said...

Well for me I don't know where I stand yet so am gonnaa just say its a marra of choice..I gave my 1st boyfriend back then my university admission fee for him to travel abroad and after 2 years my dear member of bvn,he told me point blank am too low for his level*hahhahha*na so I see am..I learnt my lesson in a hard way but that wouldn't make me discourage others from helping cos not eveyone is an ingrate like my ex..its a marra of CHOICE

Chidinma Grace said...

Hmmmmm! Still no comment,

BluntIjebuChic said...
This comment has been removed by the author.
stelly ozoms said...

My moto #DO not give and expect nothing # it's lessens d frustration. My 2 cents tho

Alloy Chikezie said...

Giving should be a two way thing in every relationship even though the man is more obligated to.

Your comment will be visible after approval.

Roseflower said...

Lovers, partners,spouses have a right to support each other financially depending on who is more viable.

Anonymous said...

SDK... I love you more for this post, all those lazy girls who think it's by giving head and booty.. Wake up and be a real supportive woman to your man or else he will dump you if he sees the likes of DJ cuppy or the Adenuga's girls.

Anonymous said...

SDK... I love you more for this post, all those lazy girls who think it's by giving head and booty.. Wake up and be a real supportive woman to your man or else he will dump you if he sees the likes of DJ cuppy or the Adenuga's girls.

Laura laura said...

True...Stella I concur o...

SONYES SIGNATURE said...

I agree with you stella.

Long hiss? You and who dey quarel?

Fan Emmanuel said...

Stella i disagree with you on this. The memo is absolutely CORRECT.I remember given 1 idiot i called my boy friend money back in school days,cos he complained of being in a tight corner.The ekwensu went and spent my hard earned money on another girl,the worst is that he told the babe that am the 1 that is begging him with money.So the girl called me to heap insults on me that am chasing her guy.Imagine?? Tony, May God change my mind from cursing you shaa cos it haf do! Unfortunately, i can't stop

Laura laura said...

give cos u want to give weda man or woman... the man is human abeg

Lilian Fc Barcelona said...

Abeg o,if a man keeps asking a woman for money,then,it is wrong.

School Life said...

When I date a girl n she tells me she can't take a man out or buy things for a man Cus it is not a woman's responsibility, I just laugh at her n say in my mind, I'm just with you for the mean time. Not because i wanna be dependent on her no, but because she can't make a good wife for me tomorrow if she can't give me money or buy me things.

Anonymous said...

Stella try and read and comprehend before you start ranting, the key word there is "if he has to keep asking a woman for money"

It doesn't say don't give a man money but it says if he keeps asking for money all the time.

Where and when do you draw the line, how will the man get his own money "if he keeps asking a woman for money"

la effizy said...

Wow, coming from Stella, this is highly commendable. Most women are self centered, and play the gender card only when it favors them. What is. Good for the goose is also good for the gander. Linda Eze, take note...hahahahhahahah

IVORY said...

Spot on!

Ade Esther said...

Hahahaha badt girl... girls are not smiling

xxxTrinityxxx said...

I don't see anything wrong in giving a man money as long as he gives you too. It's a two way thing. Why be stingy to him when he isn't to you? If he can't go to you in his time of need then you're not a good gf or wife

xxxTrinityxxx said...

Exactly

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

See this lazy Mumu!...
Don't go and work...be looking for a woman to feed your lazy ass!...

Anonymous said...

1000 likes

xxxTrinityxxx said...

Exactly. Any woman that agrees with it is stupid. You'll just drive a good man away

UCHE OSONDU said...

I cn gv ma man if he caring, asin if e no stingy.

Ade Esther said...

Badt woman.... hahahahaha @ sugar son

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

See my Igbo brother talking...
Tony is a real man!...
Your mama born you well...

stella dellavega said...

You gave your Ex money to travel,he didn't pay back? He dint marry you? He married someone else..nne biko ikwuzina.ure disgracing me.
I won't give a man money tho..I won't! I can't!

MISS TRUTH said...

I agree with Stella. I will support my man any time any day. Most Nigerian ladies believe once a man f*ck's them he owes them marriage, gifts etc. Don't y'all enjoy the f*ck??!! is he not giving you the D*ck too?? I beg make uni park well jor. When y'all will be collecting the D and be speaking in tongue. *hiss* We women need the D just like men need the P.

Anonymous said...

Lmao you're wicked o prisca. Tell her jare

christabel said...

And u know this how?

Cynthia Iyede said...

A real man won't keep asking his woman for money. I don't see anything wrong in assisting him once in a while if he's financially down especially when I know he's not stingy. If he's a stingy guy, na to lock up nau. He should go and work biko.

Anonymous said...

God bless you!!!

Cynthia Iyede said...

Not all women Tony...

Eka Joy said...

Kemi, dont mind Stella dellavega, u did nothing wrong, he did. You are not disgracing anyone. Let it not stop u from helping ur future bf or hubby out wen he needs it. Any compensation for lending a helping hand is from God.

Taiwo Abdussalam said...

Abi oooo @ prisca empire

Eka Joy said...

But u sef no get sense that yr. Why will u give ur school fees to a man???

ILLEST music said...

God bless you. Some women won't learn later they will say life is cruel

Martins Aboy said...

A woman giving A man money or not;that isnt my problem..

what actually irritates me is when an individual who claims to "Be in love" gives their spouse(or lover) some cash,and when the going becomes bad;He/she starts recalling how they gave you money to do this,that blah blah blah etc..

like seriously you do something for someone you are in A relationship with,and you keep counting them??

To me,That is the utmost height of childishness..

Whatever tho!! This is actually none of my bizness..

I think Men should just respect themselves,keep working hard and just take care of their finances..

@MARTINS ABOY

Blessing Jackson said...

Na wa...o how u take know? Abi u be W?

QUEEN AMY said...

The only money I gave a man I was dating in school was 2k, he didn't beg for it just that I felt like contributing something na. My friend knows me very well aka gum hand for boys but I can buy gift anytime I see something he likes provided I can comfortably afford it. But in terms of giving money, I dnt n will never support it unless you know he is contributing something meanwhile in your life or family.

Blessing Jackson said...

True talk jare, women are helpmates to their spouse(it depends on the kind of spouse sha),if you see things are dry and u in a position to help,pls do. Some men will even refund u when he's back on his feet.

Jasmine said...

Hahahahahaha, choi!!! U r mouthed

Blessing Jackson said...

Your head is there jare!!

MzAnon said...

Before I opened the post. I was ready to insult whoever made this do. Upon reading it, the verb 'keep giving' shows thee writer is talking about continuous giving. Mostly men who don't work, so yea I agree. I'd assist my husband when the chips are down

Blessing Jackson said...

Lol... U this woman..

Olori Isis said...

How I love you right now Eka Joy. And some people here call you bitter? Nne iri uto he ri ahua

Shantelle loves Tuscany said...

Lmao!
@ christy read! Read! Reaaad!
From stella's comment u'd know.

SHantelle

Shantelle loves Tuscany said...

Lmao!
@ christy...from Stella's comment you'd know.

SHantelle

Jasmine said...

Word!!!

Shantelle loves Tuscany said...

Don't bring tribe into this.
Men in general

Shantelle loves Tuscany said...

Yagaaaa....

SHantelle

Mumzy Ewar said...

Lol

Shantelle loves Tuscany said...

@Trinity say whaaaat!
Why call others stupid cos they don't share same sch of thought with you?
So in your mind now a good man (in your words) is one who 'keeps asking for money'? Really? He Can't get on his feet and look for a Job?is he handicapped?
My dear i can see your definition of a good man.hold yours very tight and keep him well. Trust me,you won't have a contender.Smh

SHantelle

Concerned Womanpreneur said...

No need to argue with you. lol. you obviously give your man money. when a woman comes out in public to deny..... she might be doing the opposite.

Lara Peperenpe said...

Why he com dey pain Stella na.

I dont see anything wrong in giving a man your money but its a very daunting task for me to do, i just can't part with my money for a man. I dont have any reason tho and NO,i am not stingy. Even birthday gifts and the likes, i use his money to get him gifts, no time...

Shantelle loves Tuscany said...

Anon 13:09. You are a wise woman.

SHantelle

Lara Peperenpe said...

spot on! No time...

Gbenupo Cadmus said...

It's good a woman gives a man money too na.. Shuuu!!

em jay said...

He gat my credit cards.

ed DREAMZ said...

a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
.
Damn.... Stella onpoint today though.....
.
.
***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

em jay said...

Wow!
Nice1, I hope u do that in reality tho.

Anonymous said...

@ ihikere You always sound so sad, bitter and frustrated. Why? Are you poor or were you dumped?

Anyway you're a perfect match for Eka Joy, both of you can be drinking each others blood and biting each other at night.

Vampire and vulture tinz abi? happy valentine's in advance o.

Beht I no abuse you o, I just talk wetin dey my mind.

Anonymous said...

And the lazy men on the will be like,yeah Stella you are correct....for where?give a man money my foot,which kain nonsense be that one naa,Stella na so them teach you or its because you found yourself in the same situation as the breadwinner of your home,that's why you're supporting this, don't expect us to agree with you just because you said so.# if you like don't enable my comment,I've noticed you filter messages, you only post the ones that favours your ass and some you don't enable,it shouldn't be like that.

Shantelle loves Tuscany said...

It's already a hobby that is why he 'keeps' asking. Leave stella to be boosting some lazy idiots 'moral'.
Some will end up showing her comment to their wife and others their gf. Women with low self esteem dat all they live for is 'man matter' be licking her ass. Namsense!

SHantelle

De Unbreakable said...

I agree with is meme stells, it is a man responsibility to provide and protect his woman that y he is the head.

A woman who choses to give a man money should do it knowing that it is not her job.even if you are super rich, still ask from him.

The problem with giving a man money is that, only but a few men sees it as a favour, other soonest starts seeing it as their right. Thus becoming lazy

In conclusion, women when you give a man money, don't do it with the expectations, i repeat!! don,t do it wih expectations that he will marry you.

As for me I will not give any man my money,I no dey love reach there mbok.expect he has been over generous with me and na borrow I go borrow am no dash.

divalicious said...

I dont support giving him everytime especially when he turns you into his ATM. I respect men that find it difficult to ask a lady for money, lemme use my discretion to know u need money and I will glady want to help.

lara k. said...

When women stop having the 'I supported him and so must marry me' mentality, they'd know aiding a man financially isn't a big deal. I did so much for my ex, he married someone else. Today someone else is doing so much for me sans asking for anything in return, That's just how life works. And yes, I can give my man cash if it came to it, fortunately for me, he would never accept it.#edopride lol.

Eka Joy said...

Olori isis, abeg help me explain ur igbo, I no fit read igbo like that, my igbo teacher pursue me from class in jss1 first time wen I got a minus F, na Yoruba I read.

mama wonder said...

A man's money remains 'our' money,while mine is 'mine. Simple. Spending money on a guy is the same as hastening d break-up time of d relationship. It buys their 'see finish'

mama wonder said...

Whether ur man is stingy or not,if u are giving him,u are still buying d word called 'see finish' for urself. So u girls shld continue.

Shantelle loves Tuscany said...

I be man for prick and mouth.Go find job! Go and work!! Stop looking for women that will be feeding you day and night. What manner of dog licked out shame from your eyes?
The likes of dj cuppy and the adenuga's don't come for your type. Lazy ass gold digging bastards. They go for 'REAL MEN'.

SHantelle.

Shantelle loves Tuscany said...

My dear you get time dey explain.

SHantelle

Uyi Timi said...

Everything that has to do with love should be reciprocal, including money. After all discrimination is not ideal is it?

Anonymous said...

@Lara i think we are twins. I use his money to buy gifts only on birthdays. I don't give in vals or xmas. If a man knowing that i earn good money asks for a monetary favour, i will simply break up with him. I aint got time for rubbish

#Miss Kay# said...

Some gals are funny o! Have you gone abroad that you are giving a guy money for admission or to travel out??? #surprised

sholly pizzle said...

Stella,you cant blame these gals,everyone has a story to tell

oluwakemi abosede said...

@ eka thank u for understanding! I am a good giver and I woud continue to give! Hubby, friend enemy self! As long as I can afford It.
@ stella, my dear mnt disgracing anybody! U just disgraced urself! Mind u, he is married to a lawyer, and dat lady don't give a hoot about him, he have been begging for years now! Cus he isn't happy in his home.
Sometimes u like a fool but little du u know what God have in stock for u.

PL THE GREAT said...

Olori isis this ya igbo dikwa behuge! I've been following your comments because the dialect fascinates me. What dialect is it? I need some schooling cos the thing is just sweeting my ears. Lol!


Eka joy, beautiful comment.

akin akindele said...

God bless u amaka front and back a relationship shdnt be one sided both shd give love,money,encourage one another etc

PL THE GREAT said...

Nne, what happened to your own purse?



Lol women ehn! Smh

Dobis said...

100 likes

Anonymous said...

stella you are so stupid with your comments sometimes andu just need to think before talking....are u so shallow minded tothink that the meme means nevergive man money? some men are gigolos, some are lazy and are not ready to be responsible but allow their wives do everything.some will be out of jobs but cos their wives are working they will not make an effort to look for a job and will keep collecting money form their wives.....you are the one who stays here supporting girls not to marry a broke arse yet u come here talking rubbish..no sane woman who has a hard working man will refuse to give him money when he is in need, but when a man is lazy then no money for him

Dobis said...

Good point

Nwa Aba said...

Nigerian women and their sick characters what's wrong if u give ur husband ur money? Smh

Odofin Funmilayo said...

abegii stello, na true talk , when you too give man money sometimes dem go turn you to office , a man is suppose to learn from his young time how to be the head of the house and cater for his family , not turning a woman to your grace point , most of them are eventually turning out lazy... ive been dere and am not being judgmental out of experience but on the reAL SENSE MOST MEN WILL JUST TURN YOU TO OFFICE

I am said...

You are right. I pray hubby wakes up from his lazy slumber and start providing for his family, and stop depending on my #30,000 salary. I am tired of taking care of myself when am married. I hate the temptation I am being exposed to cos he doesn't care how I get the money and even encourages me to play men and collect their money without sleeping with them. That is the leach of a man I have.

Real Nutty said...

Comme ci,comme ca

kweenie[temmy] said...

Lmao...wicked somebody

kweenie[temmy] said...

Nice one

kweenie[temmy] said...

Lol @but you sef no get sense that year.

stella dellavega said...

El Oh EL @ I disgraced myself. Be consoling yourself .ion care tho #bye

Shantelle loves Tuscany said...

With this kine face who wan give you money sef? Oga pick another struggle.

SHantelle

Anonymous said...

what if your bf asks you for money when money is tight and when he is back on his feet, do you ask for it back?

Anonymous said...

STELLA CHOP KISSING THAT WHY WE LOVE YOU.

Anonymous said...

Stella has posted it....ure nw a celebrity right? y drag her personal life in2 dis? She aired her opinion,air urs nd move on....Abeg grow up

cute_shawty said...

Spot on Joy!

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Chop kissing kwa?...
Oriegwu!...

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Lwkmd...

Olori Isis said...

Eka Joy I said you are very very sweet. Pl the great that's asusu ndi owerre. Owerri people language. Very sweet to the ear. When it comes to igbo language, I am very diverse.

Anonymous said...

GBAM!!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

Shame on you too for stylishly supporting the olumofin boys to insult your fellow woman's vagina.
see who is talking!
Why are you pained?
Are you feeding your husband?

linda adaeze said...

Stella dellavega am 101 percent with u on this

linda adaeze said...

Pl biko park well,some of u ladies forming miss independent end up with chronicles mtchewwww!

linda adaeze said...

It's official I love u Chioma.

linda adaeze said...

Help me ask! They will even assume u are desperate and u are doing anything to get them wife u

linda adaeze said...

Ntooor!

linda adaeze said...

Broke ass!

linda adaeze said...

Pls how old are u again? Giving gifts is different from giving cash.i can buy u expensive gifts as far as u are benevolent to me

linda adaeze said...

Babe did u come to my head??? I love u already!

Anonymous said...

Lara n co, you both are stingy period!

Anonymous said...

Shantelle, but it's ok for a lady to always asks? It's the same you that will scream equal rights and opportunity for women.. anyhow sha, I don't blame the ladies supporting the meme, it's your African(nigerian) mentality at work!

Anonymous said...

Most of You girls get disappointed by men you have helped most times because you can't even help your own family or a female friend but you keep spending on a man and his family hoping for marriage,most times you will be disappointed but God will make a way for true givers

Anonymous said...

Shantel le you funny die

Anonymous said...

but she is right,yoruba boys this is their speciality. they don't have the word Shame in their dictionary.

Ebi said...

So oluwakemi, he is bn begging u for years for what exactly??to come back and marry him because according to u he isn't happy in his home...says who??? Keep deluding urself. Oya go and become his side chic and give free fuck on top ur money he travelled with. Fish brain!

sisi eko said...

@MzAnon.. thank u dear. There's a caveat to it Stella. If he keeps asking then he's not a man. Very self explanatory. No one is saying that a woman cannot or should not assist her man financially. Simply put, say no to gigolos.

kike bunmi said...

Lol 1000 likes like seriously wen it comes to money ish with me stella is always defensive

Anonymous said...

I remember when I was in Uni. My then boyfriend will collect all my provisions and pocket money. This is someone that hardly gives me birthday gifts. I was so naive. Oloriburuku Oloshi. Stingy bastard.

kokolet Bee said...

The last time I checked the writer dint say giving a man money is wrong but said if a man kips "asking"a woman for money then he is not a man which is very correct..ok look at it when a woman who is being referred to as a weaker vessel asks a man for money consistently,she being tagged dependent,shamefull,lazy and all other names.now the man Whoz been referred to as "strongest" keeps asking a lady for money consistently and you say there's nothing wrong with it..i put it to everyone that the writer is 100% right..i can give a man money but not when he keeps asking consistently.