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Sunday, March 20, 2016

The Misogynists In The Nigerian Senate

If you are a woman and you do not read this writeup,then shame on you...Senator Biodun's Gender equality bill is trying to give you a voice..cant you see?


What Senator Biodun Olujimi (PDP, Ekiti South) did with her presentation of a bill on gender and equal opportunities on March 15, is the equivalent of trying one’s luck. But she deserves praise for her courage and progressive views, and for forcing the issue so well. 

SENATOR BIODUN  -The woman whose bill on gender equality has woken up something in every woman


The subject has generated useful debate and the Senate President has been forced to reassure the public that the bill will be re-presented, after it has been re-drafted “to address some of the reservations that were expressed on the floor of the Senate.”  

       This is the third time that the Senate will throw out this same bill.  Senate President Bukola Saraki knows too well that to address the expressed reservations is to kill the bill completely. There may be no hope of a misogynistic Senate passing a Bill that seeks to empower women and the girl-child, protect them from discrimination and violence, rescue them from being treated like chattel, and ensure that women play more prominent roles in public and private decision-making processes.  The Bill further seeks to protect the rights of women in marriages. 


     It should not be surprising that the male-dominated Senate (102 men to 7 women) rose against the Bill. A few male voices supported Senator Olujimi, but those against the Bill were determined. They quoted the Bible. They cited the Quoran. They dismissed any thought of women having more powers or voice or being treated like equals to men. They even cited culture and tradition. One newspaper stated matter of factly, that Senator Olujimi “incurred the wrath of Northern Senators”.  

When the matter was put to a vote, the naysayers of course won. So, given the gender imbalance in the Senate and the shortage of enlightened men on the floor, if that Bill is presented a thousand times, the outcome is predictable. It is perhaps for this reason that a different kind of strategy will be required to make any progress in the important fight for the treatment of women’s rights as human rights. 

       Nigeria is signatory to different international conventions on the elimination of all forms of violence and discrimination against women. The Constitution also forbids discrimination against any person on the grounds of gender and circumstances of birth. Long before the internationalization of the struggle for women’s rights and its NGO-nization, there have been records of valiant Nigerian women pushing the envelope and demonstrating through advocacy and individual accomplishments that women are capable partners in society’s development, and that they deserve full citizenship rights. 

      But just as was demonstrated again on the floor of the Senate, religion, culture and male chauvinism are major stumbling blocks. Even some of the most educated men around cannot stand the idea of women being given more opportunities. Those male Senators who shot down the Olujimi Bill must have been wondering what gave her the effrontery to suggest that men and women should begin to share power and opportunities as equals. The man who led the assault against the bill and who reportedly later celebrated the victory is actually the same man who was once publicly upbraided for marrying a 13-year old girl, a girl about the age of his granddaughter! In that same Senate, one of the members while declaring his assets sometimes last year, listed his two wives as part of his assets!

       A gender and equal opportunities Bill should help provide stronger legislative framework for protecting women from all forms of discrimination, but legislative intervention may well not be enough. The real battle-field is in the identified areas of religion, culture and tradition, and the absence of political will to enforce relevant laws that promote social justice. Societies don’t just move from one level of enlightenment to the other: leadership is required. But as it is, Nigeria has leaders who are male chauvinists, whose attachment to culture and religion prevents them from understanding the true meaning of human rights.  This is why it seems so difficult to convince Nigerian patriarchs that certain religious and cultural practices simply do not make sense.  


        What kind of culture or tradition allows a man to marry a child, for example?  What kind of tradition recommends that a widow should be humiliated and subjected to inhuman practices in 2016?  In some communities in the East, a woman cannot taste the new yam of the season as they call it.  Men must taste it first. Among Igbos, even the most enlightened man will not allow a woman break kolanut in a gathering of men. Leviration is still practised in some Nigerian communities.  One year after the millennial deadline on gender equality, there are still families in Nigeria where the girl-child is considered fit only for marriage, and so when male children are sent to school, the girls are asked to hawk wares, until they are ripe enough to be married off. In other places, wives cannot inherit their husbands’ estates, and daughters are disinherited on the basis of gender.


 Patterns of this discrimination against the female gender exist even in workplaces today, and significantly in politics. I recall the case of one of these banks, which once instructed female employees not to get pregnant, within the first year of employment! And in politics, women are organized as separate groups with someone called Woman Leader, whereas there is no such equivalent for men. 


       The manifold existence of constructive gender discrimination explains the speed and alacrity with which the gender and equal opportunity bill is always dismissed whenever it is brought up in the National Assembly. The advocacy for women empowerment and an end to gender discrimination is also severely limited. It is restricted to non-governmental organizations, and a few influential voices in society who understand the issues, attend international conferences and who over the years have been organizing workshops and rallies to conscientize political, religious and traditional leaders.  But this has not quite helped, and this may well be because the majority of the core affected women are excluded from the campaign. 

      The Biodun Olujimis of Nigeria are not necessarily the ones seeking freedom from discrimination.  They can hold their own, they can negotiate power at many levels; the ones in need of help are the poor women and girl-children who are trapped under male domination, poor, disempowered, voiceless, and incapable of realizing their potentials to the fullest.  The ones in need of help are those poor widows who are humiliated by in-laws, the millions of girls who are out of school just because they are female, the under-aged girls who are married off to old men, against their wish, and the army of dispossessed women whose lives have been condemned to a routine of raising children, fetching water and working on the farm. 


       These victims themselves need to be mobilized into the struggle for the full recognition of the human rights of women.  They need to be given a voice.  It is not a task for NGOs alone. The struggle must become more inclusive. We have Ministers and Commissioners in charge of women affairs and social development.  

They are busy travelling from one international workshop to the other. Such a department of government can do a lot more. To get Nigerian men to respect the human rights of women, the womenfolk must work together and support each other, and develop the kind of advocacy that was defeated last Tuesday into a sustainable, organized movement.  The tone of the advocacy should also change: too often, gender and equal opportunity issues are presented as pleas, as if women are seeking favour and understanding from the men: please-give-us-more-powers, allow-us-to-also-exercise-authority; we-want-more-women-in-government. For as long as the language of negotiation sounds that beggarly, not much progress can be made.  Nothing short of an organized women’s movement around the core issues is what is required.


        In the long run, education is probably the best policy option. Every child must go to school and no child should be allowed to be an artisan until after secondary school education.  Once upon a time in this country, the social welfare department used to arrest any child found on the streets during school hours. The disparity in the education of men and women in Nigeria is alarming, given the fact that women constitute about 50% of the national population. The school drop-out rate for the girl-child is as high as 44%! There are extant laws, which prescribe punishment for parents who keep their children out of school; such laws must be enforced. State governments should vigorously promote education at all levels. 

       Education is the strongest weapon for liberating people from the clutches of harmful religious and traditional practices. Education in this regard means being enlightened enough to know what parts of religion and tradition are humane and progressive. Even where these prove resilient on the basis of social legitimacy, the truth is that it will be difficult to maltreat a woman who is fully aware of her rights. The Senators opposing gender equality and rights would never allow their own daughters to be exposed to any form of indignity. They quote culture and religion out of sheer hypocrisy. Their reliance on the Holy Books to justify the inferiorization of women as the weaker sex is dubious. 


        Successful women should be prepared to support other women. More women should take interest in politics, and seek political power at all levels. Nigerian women must get into the arena and seek decision-making positions, to enable them influence and implement policies.  Let Nigerian women form their own political parties and contest the public space with the misogynists. The women’s movement in Nigeria has lost its steam. Some Nigerian women are involved in partisan politics but they either end up behaving like the men, or they claim they are technocrats with no interest in feminist matters. They reinforce stereotypes and even work against the interest of other women seeking progress. Such women cannot lead the struggle; new recruits and role models are needed. To give meaning and bite to Senator Olujimi’s kind of intervention, progressive Nigerian women must unite and re-organize. 

 BY REUBEN ABATI.

       


36 comments:

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    1. Shame on you too.
      Kikikikikikikikikik

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    2. Reuben Abati has written another master piece. Preach it sir! Very very true!!!

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  2. Every women here should go to YouTube and watch Tedtalk with Sheryl Sandberg the COO of Facebook.
    She explains why women aren't leaders in the workplace or anywhere else.
    Thank me after you've seen it and don't complain about data. Just watch it.

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  3. Mr Reubens, this is Nigeria. This is Africa. We are not like the Americans and Europeans that supports anomalies like homosexuality.
    A good woman should prioritize taking good care of her home and children. Not running for political offices or forming political parties to challenge the men.
    Oga, I hope you are not another woman wrapper like Swanky Jerry.

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    1. He's definitely talking to you.

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    2. James jamessssssss jamesssssssseeeeee

      Becareful

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    3. Foolish! Foolish! Foolish! James with a block bram. A dimwit!!!!! Tueh!!!!!!!!! I Sooooo dislike you eh! And that's me being nice to you. What I feel for you eh! Pray we never meet!

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    4. James or whatever u call urself, what stops u from taking care of the kids too or are they not ur kids, what stops u from taking care of the house, u don't have hands or u don't sleep in the house. It is men like u, who at the end want every penny a woman makes. If don't know what to say, read comments.

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    5. James you are too daft and stupid

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    6. Anonymous cm mechie onu if una meet now in 24 hrs James go fuck you

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  4. All I see is a fine old woman with a nice hair. Can't read all dat. Some shud read and summarize.

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    1. Which is why a man will continue to oppress and suppress you.. Dundy united!

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    2. Thank you Oby, my thoughts exactly

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  5. Our senators are just shameless.

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  6. hmmm...this is very thought provoking. The truth is they are afraid of the resonance of our voices, they are scared of bring treated like dirt, they are frightened of the strength of our character. It is well tho...I believe one day, our voices will rise above the cacophony of what they are screaming at us

    I'm a first time commenter by the way.

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    1. Pls maintain your intelligence and sanity on here . There are wolves in here. Welcome to sdkb.

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    2. You have spoken well anonymous. They can never silence this forever!

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  7. hmmm...this is very thought provoking. The truth is they are afraid of the resonance of our voices, they are scared of bring treated like dirt, they are frightened of the strength of our character. It is well tho...I believe one day, our voices will rise above the cacophony of what they are screaming at us

    I'm a first time commenter by the way.

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  8. Wow! This man is a prolific writer! God bless you sir!

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  9. Men are afraid of competition. That's the bitter truth. Despite the way women are being relegated to play a second fiddle, we are still strong and can multi-task, imagine what will happen when the barricade is lifted?

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  10. The bill was a good one till they added equality in marriage! When next they try their luck, equality in marriage should be struck out and I promise you the senate will hasten to approve it!

    Women never submit finish una wan com add equality to am, Hia!

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    1. #gbam. The man is the head of the home, wife not equal with husband in marriage please! Woman submit is what the Bible preaches.
      Thanks Cheryl

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  11. I support women forming political party. Let mama Peace be the chairperson of d party. Abiodun Olujimi can via for presidency, that's will be the best way to test d water of gender equality in Nigeria. Mr Abati, stop inciting propaganda.

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  12. Women should rather advocate for a sense of dignity and value for themselves than for gender equality. Who made the men feel superior even from the family level? Women! Who forever breathe down another woman's neck on how to please a man? Women! Who made themselves a sex object of their counterpart? Who is constantly dependent both financially and emotionally on a man? A lot of us feel we are validated when a man gives us his name, yet we want equality? We will only be gender equal to a man when we have a high sense of self worth and esteem.

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    1. Well said Eminado,until we have a sense of high self esteem and self worth,we won't be able to get the much equality we need.
      Naturally as a woman,God has given us innate strength and power that men cannot fathom.
      It's just so sad that women have been objectified for so long.

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    2. You made sense. Most women don't even believe in themselves. We've had some female candidates in elections, how have they fared in view of the fact that women form a considerable portion of the voting populace?
      The average senator knows how much he parts with to women of easy virtue who enliven his pleasure itinerary. That will colour his stand as far as gender equality is concerned.

      Musical videos don't portray women as equals but as sex slave who must wriggle around to make male viewers salivate.

      Women fight with women over men and make the men feel more important.

      As for me, any woman who has proven herself in her chosen field should get whatever reward the position calls for. She deserves it. No woman should wait for gender quota system when she doesn't deserve it.

      My utmost belief is that men and women are equal but opposites and there are roles more suited to one than the other so that balance can exist in society. Crossing gender roles is like cross dressing, an eyesore.

      Various positions require brute force/strength, multitasking, gentility, delicate touch, varying levels of aesthetic appreciation, strenuous hours in hazardous situations, logical reasoning, emotional reasoning etc. Some jobs are actually more suitable for women while some are more so for men.

      Both sexes should pursue careers in jobs more suitable for their natural attributes and excel as far as they possibly can.

      Should a woman be lifting headpans filled with concrete or lifting blocks on construction sites in name of equality (many women already work on sites to survive anyway)?

      It sounds somehow for a woman to be a combatant at the war front engaging in hand to hand combat with men. That is why DV is bad.

      When the equality is enforced in the wrong direction, then, who gives birth to children, who opens car doors for the other, who pays bride/ groom prices, who should ideally provide for/nurture the home etc?

      Talking about educating the girl child up north, also take note of the fact that most boys in the south east are already shop apprentices at early ages instead of being in school.

      Finally, I say No to oppression of women in whatever situation, No to inequality in the workplace, No to domestic violence, Yes to education of both boy/girl child and every positive thing that will help humanity grow.

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  13. Word, Mr Reuben.

    Hopefully, it'll be reviewed as they said.
    Let's see what comes out of it then.

    #WhiteDiamondOut

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  14. Beautiful write up... but let's be very realistic... How many of these women up there are willing to help a fellow woman? Women see themselves as competitors. I'm being very honest, I once attended an interview where the madam @ the top clearly said I had too much charisma for the job and she didn't want to start looking over her shoulders and went ahead to comment on my look which she obviously had a problem with... point is, I dint get the job cos the woman saw competition... i'm still job hunting cos of one stupid woman's insecurity issues and did I mention that the job has to do with citizens rights and women protection? All i'm saying is that the men might not be our only problem... some women also impede our progress. A-B

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  15. *Clears throat*
    I am kind of in the side of women on this but you know, I am an advocate of common sense... doing things in a different way to achieve maximal result.
    I tell you something, Sen.Yerima and other people who opposed the bill are human beings even if they are kind of misogynistic... there is a way to appeal to people's conscience especially when you are seeking something from a higher authority.
    what I can say is that they advocated too much and like somebody here said "they spoilt the bill when they added equality in Marriage"! damn that itself is a fiasco...

    Don't get me wrong, I am not a fan of the feminist but I am an advocate for the empowerment of our women but we as a society must not lose sight of the main aim... societal building is all about team work and the role women play can never be over emphasised though most times they do most of the back door work... but the truth is you don't want the society singing your praise tomorrow when you have failed in your parental duties and all that... we should focus on educating our girl children first to become better women in future, because the only real thing that intimidates a man in a woman is when she has as much or more knowledge as he does, let them dream more and then they will be heard and have a better stance.. if you ask Mrs Biodun now, how many female doctors, engineer, writers, barristers, scientists have you empowered.... she may be looking at you just the way she is looking at me in that pix above...

    *Sips Hennessey from a platinum chalice an adjusts concave lenses*

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  16. Though the write up is okay but it's coming from abati imagine!!!.and let him be a role model in what he's preaching...he should allow his wifeto contest for just house of assembly member and let's see maybe he can endure the night meeting politicians do attend.

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  17. If only he will make is write short so that the message could get enough audience.

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