Hmmm!!!
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
THE WAITING GAME....
Good day Stella, please I need your advice and that of my fellow bvs.
I started dating my boyfriend in May this year.
Not long after, he applied for US visa and he was granted 2years. Before he travelled, he said his mum was going to file for him as her son so he could get his permit (mum is in the US).
Few days ago, while we were having a conversation he said he has to marry a white woman so as to get his permit. I thought it was one of his jokes and we laughed over it.
He mentioned it the next day again and sounded really serious about it, he said his options are to marry a white woman or seek asylum. He said seeking asylum is too risky so he's left with the other option. He said this will take 3years or more before he can get his permit.
Then I asked him if I'm supposed to wait for him knowing fully well he'll be married to someone else, he replied by saying I have to decide whether I'll wait or not. I can quit now since the relationship is still young. I'm already in love with him and he loves me too but 3years is a long time to wait.
If I decide to wait and things don't go the way we planned, where do I start from?
Stella please use your red ink.
Thanks
If I decide to wait and things don't go the way we planned, where do I start from?
Stella please use your red ink.
Thanks
Wait keh?You will not have this option again soon cos he will dump you for flimsy excuses...Soon!!!
....AND AFTER THAT YOUR BRAIN WILL RESET TO FACTORY settings..dont worry.
....AND AFTER THAT YOUR BRAIN WILL RESET TO FACTORY settings..dont worry.
Hmmmmmmmm!
ReplyDeleteYou will wait for someone that went to hustle in the US not just that, he opened his mouth and said he wants to get married to another woman and u have two options, to stay or leave. And you re confused about what to do because na idi very *****d! NNE make dem leave waiting and sacrifice for you oo
Delete@poster: you are just dumb
DeleteIs either you wait or u quit....I will advise u to quit,that's if u are smart.
That 3yrs is just for him to get his permit n not to come n marry u.
You are in love with a guy u started dating May this year?
U want to wait bcos he stays outside the country.....
Stop deceiving urself n borrow sense
My dear wait oh, a bird at hand is worth all the lions in the forest, yeye yeye men are roaming the street with smelling characters upandown, if u move on, u'd just increase ur bodycount and still nothing to show for it all..... So wait, 3yrs no plenty..... Imagine tools celebrating one month already, didn't u think it ws last week end in dubai?? Time thses days wear usain bolt shoes.
DeleteI can't believe you're thinking of of waiting. SMH
Delete*msFerragamo
relationship that is just one month old, u wan come die inside? the guy sef even give you option, e no beg you to wait and u are here asking queshion???you better quit while its still early and move on with your life....abi is it the obodo-oyibo that is sweeting you???
DeleteWait o! Please 3 years is not a long time at all. Even if you wait am sure you would still have side guy.
DeleteI think you guys should split while you date other guys within the 3yrs. If you two are still available after 3yrs you can then marry! Don't just wait a man society is bad already
DeleteWait ke, when someone is willing to give up and making you choose, he doesn't sound like one who wants t wait. He's making you choose so that no matter what happens he'll say it was your decision not his. I'll say let the future decide... free each other and let fate decide after three years
DeleteBullshit
ReplyDeleteEya Oh my! I hope both of U should remain open wit each oder... Since he will av to get hooked wit a white for permit U won't also av to lay ur egg in 1 basket incase it doesn't wrk afterall if you both re meant for each oder tins will wrk out wen he is ready dat is if bad gud guys like me never conner U God is ur strength
DeleteJo baba if u think you are a bad gud guy...try me. Tentacles go hold you by force.
DeletePls letgo....
Deletechronicles!!! God will help u all to fit it in jesus name. amen.
ReplyDeleteWhich kain "u all?"
DeleteSo you want to be a second wife??Forget him please.He is not the first or last to travel. As sad and painful as it is,he will never come back. You try and hustle too and make money,look for someone else.Kisses to you poster.
DeleteYou think he will marry you and take u to America,that's why you want to wait.sorry Bu afa gi nne
DeleteAbeg forget him, you will just wait in vain, which I don't wish for you
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Mumu poster!...
ReplyDeleteAre you that ugly and FAT that you can't get yourself another man?...
What's wrong with you?...
Well,lemme advise you since you are an ode...wait for him untill you turn to a gwegz!...
HIV patient.
DeleteI hope ure taking ur drugs sha, i now understood why ure heartless with ur comments, ur bitterness is from the disease growin inside u to full blown Aids!
I pity ppl ure spreading it to.
Don't I just love you? LMAO!!! Epic response! Poster wait you hear! Mumu...abeg park ya wheel barrow from here jare!!! Rubbish...see as you come here dey find insult for ya sef!!! You for just look mirror, say "I'm stupid "
DeletePlus an illiterate... hahaha, tueh!!
DeleteQueen Ola Otu abusing people since 1900
DeleteTell him you will wait, and move on with your life my dear, its as simple as that.
ReplyDeleteShe heard America and now wants to wait. Desperate bitch
DeleteWhat is this nonsense that I just read. You've dated for less than one month and you are talking about love and waiting. Desperadoes everywhere I turn. Your boyfriend na hustler.
ReplyDeleteYou of all people should not be dishing out advice because you are a whore, whore of babylon.
DeleteI'm a whore because of what exactly. Did I sleep with your husband that has pencil as penis?. Or your boyfriend with STD infested penis? Go and die.
DeleteAnd you are a judge, a judge of that place where they passed wrong judgement on Jesus Christ.
DeleteJust as ur body d stand for another woman husband abi?? A
DeleteAshawo, ur mother no raise u well
You'd die while fantasizing another woman thing.
But Mother confessor you are a whore and a murderer na. Out of the abundance of the heart,the mouth speaketh and the fingers 'typeth'.
DeleteLol too much hate.
DeleteWow I wasn't gonna commen but I had to. Omasiri pls tell us more. What am I missing here?
DeleteSmh
ReplyDeletePut on your running shot. American husband doesn't "pay" well most Times.
DeleteFrom experience
You were expecting your American husband to take responsibilities of you and your broke ass poor families. Who's going to marry you with all those shits you be saying. Stupid bitch! Loser!
DeleteAunty wait ooo. Small girls get sense pass you very much.
ReplyDeleteWhen una hear abroadian, una body go stand like she goats.
Mumu girl, stupid love, he loves u but he told u to take a walk if u can't wait, be deceiving yourself .
ReplyDeletedis is d comment hv bin waiting for....dear poster do yu kal dis love,a man dah loves yu wuld find a beta way to hold on to d relationship nd not letting yu go...nd mind yu its not in all cases yu hv to marry a white woman b4 getyn permit so use ur brain b4 getyn lost nd abandoned...*love indeed..
DeletePls move on,in 3yrs he might give you many reasons why he will not wife u..
ReplyDeleteI pray for God's wisdom upon u..
Shine your eyes..
Jehovah fix it for her..
Chai... wooooomen!
ReplyDeleteLol the hustle is personal
ReplyDeleteIts clear you are on diff lanes
Kindly move on ok, no hard feelings
Atleast he is been honest about it and didn't open his mouth to ask to wait for him.
No promises, so that you ll not come and swear for him tomorrow
Why does the female brain stop working when marriage is mentioned?
ReplyDeleteSomeone is getting married to another and you are talking about waiting?
Where is your dignity as a lady; if you are one?
As in ehen!!! As soon as them hear marriage their sense don lost be that. Very stupid and nonsense story.
DeleteU will start by goin to church,so dat dey will pray out dat spirit of stupidity in u,ewu merije
ReplyDeletePoster, you are a very shameless person. U hv no self worth. U must fat and ugly that you cannot get another man to marry you.
ReplyDelete
DeleteI am the queen and the boss of this blog29 June 2016 at 15:03
Mumu poster!...
Are you that ugly and FAT that you can't get yourself another man?...
What's wrong with you?...
Well,lemme advise you since you are an ode...wait for him untill you turn to a gwegz!...
James29 June 2016 at 15:06
Poster, you are a very shameless person. U hv no self worth. U must fat and ugly that you cannot get another man to marry you.
So queen and boss and James are same person, but to what end Linda Eze, am coming with more fact, just wait.
What is this one saying?
Delete@ Anon lmao
DeleteThey're not the same anonymous 15:15. They both lack any sense whatsoever so it can give the appearance of them being one.
DeletePicture 2 goats. They boat eat grass and trash and walk around bleating but that doesn't mean the 2 are 1
Anon 15:15 are you suggesting that I am the person as the Queen and Boss of this blog? OK. I admit it . U are correct . U are very intelligent. U caught me napping.
DeleteLwkmd ooo! Loool! Anon 16:15pm, I doff my hat! Here I was thinking my James takedown on an earlier post was epic, this takes d cake, 2 crazy BVs in one simple but deep comment, lol!!
DeleteStella, bia, make I no find this takedown for weekend laughs o, eh hen! Anon 16:15pm, I owe u several drinks, lol!
@anon 16:15 omg u killed them ....! Wtf !! That's bloody hilarious and on point !
DeleteNo waiting o o
ReplyDeleteJust continue with your life, if hubby comes fine, but still be rolling with him
Don't let him know you're not in again, if u'r sure of getting marry to someone else, after you don print IV then you can tell him
Stupid question! Wait na
ReplyDeleteSorry...
The relationship will wear out eventually... Why not apply the brakes now
Did you not read in the scriptures that LOVE SEEKS NOT HIS OWN. This toy boy is after his own aggrandizement and you are talking about LOVE here; where is love?
ReplyDeletePlease read your New Testament to know what love truly means.
Poster, you are a very shameless person. U hv no self worth. U must be fat and ugly that you cannot get another man to marry you. How sure are you that he will not find another love in the US?
ReplyDeleteJames I thought you changed
DeleteIs queen posing as James or is it that your stupidity is the same, that make you reason the same way
DeleteSo being fat is synonymous to ugliness in your myopic mind
The guy has indirectly given you an answer.
ReplyDeleteOr are you waiting for an, 'I told you to move on ', in three years time?
#WhiteDiamondOut
Poster is just a fool abeg, the handwriting on the wall is as bold as ABC but because she's desperate she has refused to read the signs.... Annoying chronicle, no time to waste on advice
ReplyDeleteDo NOT wait. I repeat, do NOT wait. 3 years is too long a time, and what's d guarantee that he will still want u then? My dear, move on with ur life, you'll find someone to love again biko
ReplyDeleteThe way the human body works within that 3 years u won't need anybody to tell u.1) u r most likely going to start cheating 2) u might be enjoying the cheating till it becomes a full blown relationship.u might not even remember le boo over time till d day u hear he's coming bk to naija by then u might not even give a damn.So, just borrow thyself brain and tell urself d truth u can't wait for him while he gets married n falls in love.
ReplyDeleteMARRIAGE and ABROAD? What a bad mix for the potato filled Nigerian feminine brain? You can see clearly here that the brain has packed up!
ReplyDeleteCome and see American wonder... Wait very well madam he'll come and take you to America mtcheww...
ReplyDeleteBabe we treated dis issue recently, isn't funny dt someone u met not less dan two months ur already inlove with him, u guys can love for Africa shaa, babe just leave ur life if someone better come ur way please start over with him. I don't trust dis abroad guys the one dt promised me marriage is dere displaying pics with another woman and am supposed to keep waiting if I hear.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, you can continue the relationship with him but please find someone else here to date. If he calls it off, you have a plan B already. When the new relationship is becoming serious, dump the US dude.
ReplyDelete😪😪😪ðŸ˜another 'common sense' chronicles, use ur common sense, its just May here na, fall out of love and move on. Haba!! 😱😩😩😒. Am not hapi u sound dis way, be sharp na.
ReplyDeleteHe loves you?
ReplyDeleteAnd he was so quick to tell you to move on without any emotion
You better dust your searching shoe and declare yourself available
Wo babe don't waste your time with him. I know a lady whose boyfriend got married to a white lady for papers in the UK. The girl in naija even got pregnant for him before he traveled. 6 years down the line this guy refused to divorce the white lady cos he claims he now truly loves her. Thanks naija lady was just wasting away whereas their daughter is now 6 and out of shame she has moved out of the guys parents house. A word is enough for the wise
ReplyDeleteAre you talking about Femi ? Thars ecatc his story with Toyin. She's out of her parents house few months ago.
DeleteIt's obvious he doesn't love u. sweetheart! he jus broke up with u. pick ur jaw off d floor and take a walk. duh!!!
ReplyDeleteIt's obvious he doesn't love u. sweetheart! he jus broke up with u. pick ur jaw off d floor and take a walk. duh!!!
ReplyDeletePlease move on. My sister's fiancé "married" and 8 years on still not been legally able to marry my sister. My parents wanted her to wait for him because they had been dating for so long and his family begged also. She was able to move to America and stay legally by studying. This is someone that was already a qualified doctor in Nigeria. She studied so much - after a medical degree in Nigeria, she did 2 masters, medical exam and was even considering a PHD if she didn't get a place for residency. She got fed up but my father did not allow her papers run out. Luckily for her, she got a place for residency which she has now completed and is working. The hospital filed for her so she can stay legally. I must tell you she got really stressed and depressed. Imagine being reliant on you parents at 30 something when your younger siblings are earning good cash. Thank God my dad was able to keep paying but it wasn't easy. They have been blessed with kids along the way but they are still not legally married! They have only done the traditional wedding so his family know she is their wife. She always comments on how she hasn't worn wedding dress. On the other hand, her finance has papers but the woman he married has refused to divorce him and he has become her cash cow.
ReplyDeleteDon't wait anything...
ReplyDeleteSee, oyinbos don wise up seriously.
I know of someone who did arrangee (paid) wedding with an oyinbo
Some weeks to their interview, the white guy started giving all sorts of excuse
Demanded for more dollars and threaten to expose my friend
He didn't even mind going to jail or facing the wrath of the law,
To him, he had nothing to lose.
To cut the long story short, oyinbo agreed by fire
But the prayers and fasting going on for naija no be here.
In another case, a guy was deported when the immigration officer found out
The union was arranged.
These people are trained to detect lies from a very long distance
A lot of hopes have been dashed by these winchy winchy immigration officers
So if you know you can wait, pray and endure the trauma, pls go for it.
I'll advice you to apply for a US visa too
God willing you are granted, you can start your life there
You and your guy can be seeing at least
With that you can monitor this white arrangee stuff(in case he actually plans to cheat and not to arrange for papers)
You also can be hustling your life over there ( that is if you don't have a tangible job here o)
If you are gainfully employed and doing well for yourself, Pls leave the guy and look out of the window...
Poster,waiting for him is like waiting for a Ship at the airport....or you want a bluetooth marriage?
ReplyDeleteWhat else do you want to hear ? The guy told you to wait if you can and that should be enough for you to know that you need to move on. Add three years to your age and get the right answer.
ReplyDeleteHmmm, did you say may this year? Hehe, babe, you're desperate oo.
ReplyDeleteWait, move on, doesn't really matter, you'll still get played by another guy cos you're desperate and obviously not so bright. I've got no advice biko. Do want you want. *sips coke*
*Do what you want.
DeleteWho can recommend a nice series for me to watch? Now that GOT is over... for now, dunno what to do with myself at night.
Send me your address,i know what to do with you at night. Lol. If you love GOT then Try Black Sails, thank me later.
DeleteHahaha, yeah...that came out wrong.
DeleteBlack Sails, haven't heard of it. Thanks!
You want to waste your time cos of one blokos when I have like ten of them calling my lines and am already engaged and preparing for my wedding. Are you that fat and ugly that no guy wanna be with you that you are trying to waste sweet precious three years waiting for your obodo oyibo blooms?
ReplyDeleteNne pack well you hear me, that means you are not smart and beautiful.
The point is that patience is good, but when you're waiting for nothing, what's the point in everything else? Long distance relationship don't work; unless you plan on moving to where your significant other lives or vice versa, there is no future with you two. Trust me, I know from personal experience. ☺☺☺
ReplyDeletePls wait for him and be a good girl, it's good to wait for someone you love most especially when the relationship is just a month...he's just trying to test you to know if you are patient or not...so don't miss that golden opportunity and wait for him..you hear? But u made a mistake you should have told him to give you a promise ring before he left so that you can be rest assured...it's not too late anyway u can tell him to send it to you
ReplyDeleteYou can even wait for 10yrs sef so far you have the following promise because a promise is a debt and a debt has to be paid. Goodluck!
Sarcasm 101. Hehe
DeleteWhen I started reading your comment, I thought you were being sarcastic. Hehehe, am shocked to see you're serious. Golden opportunity? Trying to test her patience? Promise ring? Haha,this got me rolling...who promise ring epp? Even men that exchange rings in a church, still dump their wives and marry someone else you talking promise ring? And it's not too late he can still send it to her? Haha, at this point I fainted!
DeleteOlori you say what? ????????
DeleteAm sure you are joking with you comment.
Olori thank you for saying my mind. Babe don't be deceived by these bvs cos they know not what true love is. Remember love is patient. Just tell him to get you the ring or necklace. If I doesn't send please buy and send instead okay. If yin oni daru oooo.
DeleteOlori thank you for saying my mind. Babe don't be deceived by these bvs cos they know not what true love is. Remember love is patient. Just tell him to get you the ring or necklace. If I doesn't send please buy and send instead okay. If yin oni daru oooo.
DeleteOlori thank you for saying my mind. Babe don't be deceived by these bvs cos they know not what true love is. Remember love is patient. Just tell him to get you the ring or necklace. If I doesn't send please buy and send instead okay. If yin oni daru oooo.
DeleteSimply put....Quit!
ReplyDeleteFix*
ReplyDeleteNne you want to wait because you think he loves you and you are already in love,biko let me ask you on what grounds are you waiting?is not as if he engaged you, but even if he did, why wait for someone that is going abroad not for a years or six months ooo but for a long while and he has even given you a hint about the future but you are blinded by love.nne muru anya ka azu before ncha abagi na anya.
ReplyDeleteIf he was a poor guy that travelled to Togo to hustle, will u wait even if he tells u to wait? Continue in your deception. For other Bvs the James we all know is a man but there is another girl impersonating him.
ReplyDeleteHe has just stylishly dumped you. You just don't know it.
ReplyDeleteSee don't mind all the people ranting.
ReplyDeleteYou know what you will do.
Form waiting, and let him continue to take care of you.
If you see a serious guy who is ready for marriage and is your specs, MOVE on !!!!!!!
Read between the lines. He even told you to decide. That should answer your question. That guy isn't ready to marry at all.
ReplyDeleteLong distance relationship is Crap, my dear move on abroad or no abroad life continues. E b like say you don use the guy pose finish.
ReplyDeleteposter...stella spoke my mind!
ReplyDeleteMy dear i will advise you talk a walk, anyman that will tell you if you like wait if you like dont wait, dont love you atall, my ex did same and i said ok, the next month i heard suitors asking for marriage and you na wait i am not even sure it will end in marriage, i quick quick accept the suitor, today am happily married and he keeps saying he did not mean what he said, i said no problem try with the next woman
ReplyDeleteI know how foolish we are when in love
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately, men's minds don't work that way
He likes you, maybe, but not more than his ambitions
Men are quite selfish when they are still hustling
He will not marry until he is READY
Ready can be anywhere from 5 - 10 years
Long distance works only when the relationship was at least 2-3 years strong before the distance, And when the future is kinda certain
If he was going to school abroad on F1visa or work on H1Bvisa, better
But going on a visitor visa to hustle for green card is a long long road
He may even be deported if he isn't careful
And even he gets the green card, he still needs to go back to school
Cos Green card does not guarantee success or wealth or good job
Only legal stay
So nne, biko, move on with your life. Let him go.
the guy is smart, he made sure not to commit or promise you anything
So really he owes you NOTHING
Pursue YOUR own dreams and Goodluck
This babe hasnt realized she has been dumped kai. You stupidity is been powered by the sun wallahi.
ReplyDeleteHahahaha! @ powered by the sun. Chai!
DeleteMy dear he has given you d answer Pls don't be foolish by waiting 4 him @ll their are gud and comfortable guys in naija,dont be fooled by obodo oyinbo things o. A word is enough 4 d wise if u choose to be wise.
ReplyDelete@tee-y
My dear you shouldn't be talking about commitment you are barely 1 month old in the relationship. Get your self busy and look forward to another relationship. Be Wise.
ReplyDeleteI need advice also, bf of 15 months travelled abroad and told me to give him a year n see what happens to our relationship, then later, he said l should see it as a 50:50 thing ....should I break up with him or just keep watching b??
ReplyDeleteI need advice also, bf of 15 months travelled abroad and told me to give him a year n see what happens to our relationship, then later, he said l should see it as a 50:50 thing ....should I break up with him or just keep watching b??
ReplyDeleteI need advice also, bf of 15 months travelled abroad and told me to give him a year n see what happens to our relationship, then later, he said l should see it as a 50:50 thing ....should I break up with him or just keep watching b??
ReplyDeleteU better leave him before u de ask number 7 question
DeleteHmmmmm all I c here is nothing but a big fool dat need 2 be borrowed half functioning brain.
ReplyDeleteAnon 15 :15 alias the special agent from the FBI. Na for where you learn this your investigation work? For motor Park abi na for inside market?
ReplyDeleteNawa...if you like wait for him for 10 years, na your age and na your body too.
ReplyDeleteDon't bother waiting, he did not even give you hope! Most of those "Contract Marriages" usually turn to real marriage sometimes.
ReplyDeleteAnyways, is your decision to make and don't forget you just met him this past months. America is kinda far away. It will be easy for you to end the relationship; after all, you have not really sacrificed a lot.
U started dating him "this May" as in "it's not even up to a month" n u r asking if you should wait ....okay ...brb ....let me answer u
ReplyDeleteWait wetin? Abeg move on. You should be happy he told you on time and very early sef.
ReplyDeleteWait for three years to become a confirmed second wife abi?
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of dumb people send in this chronicles?
ReplyDeleteAny man that is in America who says his only option to remain in the US is to marry an American is lying. And if he takes the marriage route it will take nothing less than 5 years before he can think of filing for divorce and what of if the woman fights the divorce? Even longer.
ReplyDeleteI wish you good luck and open eyes. You're not in love with him, maybe the sex was good and that's why you're not seeing clearly and mistaking it for love.
Very annoying somebody.
ReplyDeleteSo you have mind to ask this question.....how do girls feel marrying as second best, the thought of him marrying another women alone is disgusting be it for whatever reason. . Did they tie his umbilical cord with yours. Okay wait till jesus come.
My dear that was his plan from the beginning, trust me! His mum never had plans to file for him. If she did, she would have filed for him while he was still in Nigeria and he wouldn't have to go through the process of marrying anyone; be it white or black.
ReplyDelete