STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
REVENGE AND PLAYING SECOND FIDDLE TO AN EX
WHO MARRIED SOMEONE ELSE.
I need sincere and genuine advice for a good friend whom I can't advice cos of things that have happened before.
My friend is fews months away from 40 yrs old.About 3years ago another friend introduced her cousin who lives in the diaspora to her.She had been reserved about having a serious relationship with this man from day one,and when she visited the guy and found out that the guy is just an average or below average salary earner she made up her mind not to go deep with him.
She didn't tell our friend that introduced that man to her ,but she told us.
After almost 2yrs of dating,this guy asked to meet with her parents,she refused.He asked if she will marry him and move over but she said she had a good paying job in Nigeria that she doesn't see herself moving to where she will go and suffer.
After many excuses brother got fed up and broke up with our friend.Few months after break in communication ,another friend in he diaspora ran into this guy with another woman wearing look alike rings.
She rang home and informed our friend,on hearing that my friend put a call through to the guy and he denied wearing ring or having any woman with all his strength.
Stella all hell broke lose!
We called our friend all kinds of names,from spoiler,to enemy of progress,bad belle and carrier of bad news.
That was how our dear friend got mad and sent us pictures of this man and the woman wearing same ring down to our smartphones.
O ya now my friend called him again,and this time the man goes like though,"I am not married but you caused whatever you saw in the picture.I am a man with moral and dignity,I wouldn't have done that if you had accepted me".
Afterwards this guy called everyday and cried that he took the decision out of anger,that he doesn't really love the woman in question,after crying and begging for many days we all told our friend to take him back,that after all she caused it.
We started going from mountain to valley praying for the guy to forget completely about the new woman.
Things almost returned to normal and we did not hear about the woman again,my friend and her guy began talking regularly like before.fews months after the ring story,our friend gave us names to check up on Facebook and some whatsApp number,this time she distanced herself.When we got to Facebook and whatApp lo and behold our morally upright brother with his wife in front of the altar and the pastor opening windows of heaven upon their marriage.
Stella a day before church blessings my friend called this man,she heard a womans voice in the background but this guy denied it and ended the conversation sharp,sharp.
The truth now is that this man is married and we all know it,I don't know how to tell my friend to let go,because it is marriage we are talking about now,when I supported her ,we all thought it was just play.This man still claimed to be in love with my friend,but our friend who attends same church with this man went and interviewed the wife when the man was not in the church.The wife told her that she lives and works in another country and that she comes down every now and then,pending the approval of their family reunion.
This man works at night and my friend is always on whatsApp with him from night to morning,and when the guy wakes up in the mid day my friend is on whatsApp with him.
When his wife is around he will shutdown chatting or calling from the house.
My friend once told me that she is taking this guys attention so as to cause trouble in his marriage,that she has moved on with her life,but the truth is that she has not moved on, she wanted this man but she doesn't want be second wife,though our "born against"brother once suggested it.
She is doing everything to break this mans marriage.
My biggest problem is that I cannot give her a piece of my mind,because some of our friends are telling her to fight for her man.i also don't want to be called names.
I am afraid my friend might hit menopause while running after a morally bankrupt man and a serious medical entity.
*You see how some women just mess up what they want/have?If she wanted him,why didnt she say yes when he proposed?I dont get it!
And now she wants to break his marriage? And the man is offering to marry her as second wife?OH DEAR,I CANT DEAL!!!
I understand why you dont want to give advice and be called names but you encouraged her to fight for her man before so now it is your duty to be a good friend and tell her the truth.Let her call you names or shut you out but tell her the truth and have a free conscience.Tell her to stop trying to break that union and pray that God sends another man her way
Let me allow others advice you....
Look for an anonymous way to send her this link.