YEEPA!!!
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
MARRIED TO A CHRONIC SERIAL CHEAT
Stella, this is the only place I can think of to tell my story as I'm hoping to get the best advice from blog visitors. I'll try to make this chronicle as short as possible.
I am married to a chronic serial cheat.
We've been married for 12 years with five kids.
In our first year of marriage, my husband slept with my sister and my cousin, and some of my close friends, which is the reason I don't have any close friends today.
My relationship with my family is also soured as my sister and I don't even talk anymore. My husband admitted to his infidelity and asked for forgiveness, even my sister and my cousin did not deny their roles too. I forgave them, but the problem is that my husband has continuously cheated, thus constantly reopening the old wounds I've been trying so hard to heal from.
He chats with random girls and calls them the same endearing names he calls me. The sad part is that my husband is very kind to me and treats me really nice, but I hurt every time I discover his misdemeanours, even with married women. He is always quick to apologise whenever I confront him with evidence but how long will I continue to forgive a man who can't stay faithful for even one week!
Recently he's been having some financial troubles and I'm the one barely sustaining the home with my meagre salary. I thought his poor financial status would deter him, but alas, how wrong I was!
Just last month, I saw a whatsapp chat between him and a married woman in which they were professing love to each other and the woman even sent nude pics.
Stella, I died a thousand times!
When I confronted him, as usual, he apologised profusely, and you wouldn't imagine the reason he gave me....he said he wasn't really cheating but was doing it to see if he could get some money from her and play his role in taking care of us.
My gawd, I was livid!
I threatened to also start cheating (I'm really not even considering such taboo), or better still leave him (but I really have no plans for divorce), and he fell on his knees pleading and swore it would never happen again.
Well, I reluctantly accepted as usual and thought nothing again of it until last week when I just had a hunch to check his social media handles. It turns out that my dear husband has met even new lovers amongst whom are also married women. They also chat on whatsapp but he has become "smart" enough to delete the chat, but from the history, I know the chats are very recent.
My problem now is I don't even know how to handle this matter anymore. I'm considering leaving him before he infects me with something I can't handle, but who will take care of these kids because my salary can barely feed us. I've prayed o, still praying, but I'm tired! If I could afford rent, I would've moved out and start afresh with my kids but I'm not even sure that's a good idea.
In fact, I am confused, hence I need your advice and that of blog visitors so that I can make a better decision. Did I even tell you that he's right in front of me as I type this mail, but he's busy chatting with "them" on Facebook.
I know because I have his password and I'm reading their conversations from my phone here. From what I see, this man is not about to change anytime soon unless something drastic happens.
WOW...Dunno what to say!!!
Apparition 😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteNow u add up a guy who has two kids and cos u are not in the same town he deletes you?waoo,wonders shall never end!
ReplyDeletePls all those married guys putting their number or pin in SnM,you better stop it!
ReplyDeleteThe man must be under a bad spell! Who knows the lady he hurt that put a spell on him because it is not normal, sleeping with your sister and cousin! Always sorry and apologetic! Take him to white garment church so they use broom to beat out the spirit of adultery! Wicked man!
ReplyDeleteThis GOT quoting game is getting so cheesy.
ReplyDeleteMadam you sound like a nice woman please don't take any advice given from this blog except stella's advice the choice is urs ,i had one cousin like that he is married, this guy slept with the wife's mother and two sister he was a cheating pig I just don't know where to classify him,but the wife stood by him despite everything and today he is a changed man and equally doing very well.prayer works I believe God will answer you
ReplyDeleteGood advice Salt E, just detach yourself from him, emotionally, physically and stop checking his SM, don't have intercourse without protection.
ReplyDeletePlease continue praying. Remember that the Bible told us that even the 'King's heart is in His hands. I know that you're hurting. You are broken. You might even sound silly, but hold on, God who knows the beginning from the end will make a way for you.
Mine cheats too, I jejely closed my tohtoh, my plan is to make his stuff not to work again, any solution biko?????
ReplyDeleteAnon 18.38,so na you be the hotel attendance abi manager where we normaly visit? This one pain you reach borne o,
ReplyDeleteYour type na oso free you de do that's why its paining you this way, Pele kezaih, come lemme teach you how to make money from men without sleeping with them, anuohia Ghana
Buh for real is it really that hard to hook a guy nd get married? #sighs
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Hehehehehe@anon,poster I commit your case into my fathers hand. It shall be well
ReplyDeleteChei madam this man has murdered ur self esteem! U r nothing but a bloody slave to him. Ndoo o
ReplyDeleteHey poster....i just read your chronicle and feel like contributing this. You have been in this for TWELVE SOLID YEARS even finding out in your first year of marriage that he slept with your sister and cousin.
ReplyDeleteI now ask you why are still not in talking terms with your sister yet went ahead to give birth to FIVE children for your husband? I believe you blamed your sister and exonerated your hubby thus had issues with your father's family - correct me if I am wrong.
Again, you feel you are enjoying sex with your hubby that's why you still go ahead - AFTER TWELVE SOLID CHEATING YEARS - to snoop and monitor his phones and SM.
Let me tell you the truth woman:
1. your hubby has a cheating habit that cannot be tamed so forget him changing any time before God's Kingdom comes
2. you will soon be hypertensive because you have refused to mind your business and do your bid - taking care of FIVE wonderful kids
3. you love sex so you cannot keep your legs tied while living with your hubby in the same house as if he's your elder brother
4. you can't cheat, you can't leave, you can't pray again SO STOP SNOOPING/CHECKING ON HIM, USE YOUR LITTLE SALARY TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR CHILDREN AND YOU only...IGNORE HIM
5. he asks for your forgiveness each time you caught him yet he continues in his philandering ways because HE KNOWS YOU STILL CARE FOR HIM.....YOU HAVE NO WHERE ELSE TO GO .....AND YOU PROBABLY IGNORE YOUR PARENTS & SIBLINGS
I can go on and on but madam I will tell you to sit him down and tell him your decision to mind your business while he minds his - he should forget about sex with you because IT WON'T HAPPEN AGAIN but he must take care of his children - their feeding, clothing, schooling, etc. He must be up to his responsibility at all times. DO NOT LISTEN TO ANY OF HIS GIMMICK PLEADINGS AND MEAN IT.
Also, forget what he does with his phones and SM. reconcile with your siblings and parents and live your life with your kids.
May you find succor in God's Word and your children. Amen.
POSTER 1 you need to call him out and if things remain the same, i suggest you start looking for a way out and file for divorce because from the story he must be married to one whitey.
ReplyDeletePOSTER 2. your husband needs poison. he-goat. infact na you fck up sef, you should have ended things from the very beginning when he slept with your sister. that is just unforgivable, since you said divorce is not for you, give it to the Lord in prayer or consider returning the favor of cheating. sorry my dear.
There must be a cause for such improper attitude. Sometimes, things like this are spiritual,maybe a curse, and it takes spiritual power to conquer spiritual problems. I suggest that the couple should see a man of God for deliverance.
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