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Friday, 26 August 2016

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives..

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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
THE CRUSH THAT PERSISTS.



Hi Stella,
I'm in a state I never thought I could be. I'm a 26 year old lady.
Growing up, I had this boy in my class (primary school) whom I was in the same group with as most brilliant students and was the only girl in that group. 


We were young and never really got along because of the competition. But the teachers always teased us both then like we were going to be lovers. It's so funny. He's older than I am.


We got into different secondary schools and he got double promotions which made him finish before me, even University too. We have always been in contact as friends till date. There was a time, he actually asked me out while we were in the university but I wasn't ready. I had many challenges in my home. 


As a child, I battled to be loved in my home. My mom and dad separated while I was still very young but I grew up with my dad and step mum. It wasn't easy! He didn't know any of these as I never told him.
In all those years, my main focus was to be the best I could become for myself. 


I wasn't ready for complicated issues or any distractions. My growing up made me tough emotionally. I focused on my studies and wasn't prepared for any relationship. My first real relationship was after I graduated.
Even now, we still talk once in a while just to know what's happening in our lives and encourage each other, but something in my heart still yearns for him, even though I know he has moved on, may get married soon...I donno.. 

We're both doing averagely well in our different lives, it will get better! We're both focused and goal-oriented. Both working but live in different cities. I'm not even in any relationship, and I just wish he could take that bold step again and let's start something.

My heart yearns for him. I don't even know what to do. I'm very reserved and can't even tell him about my feelings. I'm not the type to show emotions until I'm sure of the whole thing. Sometimes, I just encourage myself with the saying that what will be will be. It hurts sometimes.
Please BVs, has anyone ever been in this kind of situation? How did you conquer it?



why dont you just ask him questions to find out if he is dating?As you ask him,I am sure that he will ask you too.
Is there no way to show him you like him and give him a heads on without saying anything?Dont just sit there oh,do something!..lol


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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
CHEATING PARTNERS
Please I'm sorry for any gbagaun. I hate to type on the phone. Please kindly take your time to help me read my story.

I have been in a relationship for 6years now and we have a year old child together although we plan to marry this year before but before I move ahead with the plan(breaking up), I want to know your views.

Before we had our child, there were some issues which broke us; I cheated on him with my ex boyfriend. He was the first one who started the cheating game. He had an affair with his neighbour, a young lady like me then, also he had another affair with his boss' daughter, also with a white woman whom he met when he travelled for a program from work for 3 months. 

He was dedicated to these people and we were still dating during all this time ooo. So I thought I should go back to my Ex and that actually pained him because he cried for like a week, he couldn't go to work throughout that week, we broke up and made up two months later.

During that breakup, he told one of my childhood friend on Facebook about the cheating stuff and from there they started dating and he even went to see her in school which is not even where we live. I noticed my friend doesn't pick my calls or chat with me again before I found out. Well I was not pained about it at all, was thinking of leaving him when going for NYSC and move on but I got pregnant along the line and gave birth during my service year.


We stay together now and he has started his cheating wahala again, although I notice whenever he's tired of them he moves on and get another person but I just don't know why he wants to marry me in particular but I'm not desperate for marriage. I don't want to live my life in regrets.


I haven't found a job yet so I stay at home with my child and he goes to work. I learnt some hand works which I paid for myself and he wasn't in support. May I state that most plans I have for myself, he finds a way to discourage me and imposes his decisions on me and also he doesn't have any particular responsibility on the child. I'm the one buying all the things the child needs. 
Now he has two girls on his neck from work whom he chats with but he clears the chats always before he gets home. He speaks some foreign languages so he chats with those languages which I don't understand.


My dad wants me to go for my masters but I want to get a job first because I can't rely on this my fiancee at all although he wants me to go for my masters as well. Even the things we need in the house we don't have like chairs, TV, fridge, even curtains, cooker, car, properties and all. If he wants to buy those things within a month, I know he can but he has this kind of nonchalant attitude towards things and so proud. Boasting of things he can not do in the next one year. I just get fed up a times, he can spend money on irrelevant things also spends money outside.


Please advice me on what to do because a friend of mine was asking if I wanted to move from one man to the other after a child and that the devil I know is better than the angel I just met. My dad will not even accept that I do not get married to the father of my child because he was very disappointed when he heard I was pregnant.


We have been together for six years now and he hasn't achieved anything at all, he just spends lavishly outside and pretends as if his rich to people outside. He is 36 and I'm 23. He doesn't listen to my advice and always saying I'm disrespecting him whenever I am advising him. We don't talk in the house at all just stuff concerning the child alone. We don't go out together, no pictures together, he is not proud of me outside and I dare not talk to any guy if I don't want wahala.

I don't want a broken home for my child but my happiness matters a lot. I would have moved out long ago but I don't know where to go, my family members are in the village, I don't have friends that stay alone and am not working yet and to even rent an apartment in Lagos, you have to be rich.
Please I need your advice. Don't insult me please because I've lost my self esteem already. Thanks!


Hmmmm!!!!


153 comments:

ukwu dimond said...

chronicles.

stunning slim shady said...

Kronicles ti de...

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Hmmmmmm

Sharon john said...

Hmm

Ibukunoluwa said...

Poster 1- don't you know how to stylishly toast a man nii?
Contact me,I get plenty formats as the yahoo girl that I isπŸ˜‚
Poster 2- and you want to marry that serial cheater @ 23
I raise Beyonce hands for u✋πŸ‘πŸ‘Š

Loveme Jeje said...

Poster 1 have you read in the Bible where it was written, ask it shall be given, knock it shall be opened for you. Girls are taking the bull by the horn. So be the first to ask him out.

Poster 2... your boyfriend never forgives you for cheating. Better look for another man

James said...

Poster 1, Stop pretending and dying in silence. Take the bold step. just tell him that you wish to have his big long dk inside your dripping pussy. That's all. It will work like magic.

stunning slim shady said...

@ Poster 2: *singing* Speechless .... ...

ANGELRAY4SDK said...

@1, the guy has moved on na, leave him alone and look for another man haha.
@2, u are a spoilt brat, dat guy will never marry u, stop wasting ur time living with a man just bcos u ve a child for him, go for ur masters, and since u can't rent a house in Lagos,better relocate to ur village.

telema Cr7 present wife(way maker miracle worker,that is who my father in heaven is) said...

Poster 2:The signs are showing..or what do you want to hear again?
You are just 23yrs your main focuse shld be on you carreer,how to get a job and other things.
Leave that man and run for your life....

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

Poster one must be very ugly to be crushing on someone that has already moved on with his life....I know your type...
Don't guys ask you out?...if they don't,contact me lemme give you thousands of them that are disturbing me(a married woman oh) for that matter!...
If you really want him,why don't you talk to him about it...must you wait for him to do the needful?...
Mtcheewww....

Poster 2 is a Mumu ...
See how your spread your rotten pussy and got pregnant for someone that does not live you....
You are desperate to tie up a man by force at 23...
Shame on you!...
Dude has the right to chat with anybody he likes afteral he has not married you!...be there wasting your time with someone that does not send you!..

ukwu dimond said...

poster one time wait for no one, you want to sit down there and dull yourself? be smart, have a talk with him and ask him about his relationship, from there he will understand that you are still into him.

Guy no dey market, the one way you see no carry pride and shy shy dash am to another babe.

amanda favour said...

Poster 1
Are you the one that posted a comment confessing love to one femi?
NNE biko respect yourself inugo!

Poster 2
Don't marry that man,I repeat don't marry him
Find a job,get an accommodation,take care of your child
With time love will find you
You're too young to enter into that kind of marriage
He's broke and a cheat as well
NNE biko run...

white Berry said...

Narrative one: Be here asking us question, you better go start putting him into conversation that will be giving him the red light.
Narrative two: keep praying for him, he will change.

Bheem Ekesi said...

poster 2, don't marry him

Anonymous said...

Poster 2 you have no future with him, you started dating such a toxic guy when you were 17? Hmn. You should hv left long ago, he doesn't love you and doesn't respect you. You've been through a lot but you have to be strong, try to get a job or raise some money and leave because he'll soon start beating you.
Kratos

Becky Divine said...

1) Take the bold step and ask him out, if he tells you he is in a serious relationship with someone..fine!
You'll be hurt but at least you can finally dust yourself up and move onto another man.

2) Keep pretending and managing until you find a job first!
Once you get a good job, rent an apartment and move out with your baby, period!

That guy is bad news and marriage to him is a death sentence. First class ticket to endless chronicles and life filled with misery, bitterness and unhappiness.

Hope you ain't still having sex with him ooh. If you are, stopeet now!!! Good luck

stunning slim shady said...

@ Poster 1: *singing* if u ask me na who I go ask.... Sit down dia make love train waka pass u inugo.

Anonymous said...

poster 2: I believe that you have realized the mistake you made by conceiving a child with this man. Your focus should be on getting a (good) job now. As for whether or not to marry you baby's dad, I will STRONGLY advice you not to. If you are a Christian. you can ask your Father in heaven to forgive you your past, and then pray for grace to make better choices in future.

School Life said...

P2, if you don't fight like married couple, talk like best friends, flirt like first love, protecr and care for each other like siblings, it's not meant to be. You are too young to work into a wrong relationship that you'll be crying in future. Talk with ya dad, if e doesn't accept, Make your decision yaself after all e won't suffer with you in the marriage.

P1, if you love somebody walk up to him and tell him you love him. It does no crime but just watch out if e Loves you too so e doesnt take advantage of you.

God Bless Us.

xclusiv esther said...

Poster 2... Don't manage that situation, get out and get your hands on something... See the way you keep making excuses to be a live in lover. Get a teaching job, be a sales person... Whatever comes first! Where do you people meet men that don't listen. ..? You also said he cried for a week? Lmao... Cry fire.

Tayan Taylor said...

Poster,1 in this modern age you are still asking such questions, if he is nice like you said, he will let you know if he is dating or about getting married, call him and talk to him or ask him for an outing in weekend drink wine and be tipsy so you can kill the shyness in you,then you can now ask him everything in your mind. Am sure he is still into you
Poster2 am sure your baby daddy is yoruba, they have that trait of boasting with empty house,your tongue to count your teeth, he will never change and he is going to be a chronic cheat and a bad husband. Run for your life you will get another good man

Kiks said...

Poster 1 You should be tactical in/with the way you go about asking. From his response, you will know where to go from there.

Poster 2, Insults you will definitely get not from me though. I hope the insults reset your brain. Why do girls do this exact thing always to themselves?

Ideato/ilaje blood said...

At 23 you have all these baggage? Just go for your masters and change environment. That guy will continue to cheat till he goes 6ft below.

Poster 1

Please make moves, ask soft questions.

Bee10 said...

Poster 1- take the bull by the horn so you can move on if he is in a relationship.
Poster 2 -in fact I am short of words for you,with the guy's age sef I tire to judge!

Obinna Okorie said...

Poster 2, ur father wants u to go for ur Masters......with which money? Becuz from d way u spoke, u can't do anything without ur baby daddy's support.

Chidinma Grace said...

N2, u av all d answers n u re still asking. Take ur child to d village n start afresh to plan ur life, for urself n ur kids future. That man will cheat on u more after marriage n will end up infecting u with d highest STD ever known. Believe in urself. Goodluck. N1, since u guys still talk, why not indirectly ask him "hi what about ur girlfriend during discussion n watch his reply n action" then from there u will know ur own direction.

Atheist. said...

Maybe her husband went to thank his ancestors in the village first, and since the money is in his account, he has to return back 1st...
Lemme make xcuse for her till i hear from her.

Jack Brenda said...

Poster1: hmmm I don't have anything to say to you. If you love him just let him know of it.

Poster2: that guy no serious at all, just forget that guy, in fact just push him out of your life

Blackberry said...

Poster two, you are already playing wife naa, that's how it would be when u get married, having a baby won't change a man u know! Better keep ur flank open codedly, just in case.

Martins Aboy said...

@poster one;call him on phone or message him on his social media;stating it's been a while and you just wanna check to know how he is faring..ask about work,family etc etc and from there he would ask about you blah blah blah!! And from there something might come up if he is still into you..
What really matters is you give him the green light;cos its possible he has finalized that you can never be his;simply because of when you were turning him down back then...

@ poster2;bring back your self esteem first!! Cos Only then can you make the right choice...
Truth is after reading all this bad attitude of his which you listed above;i believe you are only managing him simply because of what society would say if you virtually break up with him,or don't get married to him..but does it matter?? Or worths your happiness??

Leave with your child now dear,cos this relationship won't make you happy!! You deserve better and sticking to this guy won't pave way for better chances ahead..start from somewhere,cos change in life begins with a step...

@MARTINS ABOY

Uriel (Freshdew) said...

Poster 2, Please leave that situationship not relationship. Marriage is meant to be enjoyed not endured. That you have a child for him is not the end of the world. Be the prodigal son that went back to the father for forgivenes, speak to your dad(pour out all you are going through to him). The money for masters you can set a business or go for you masters if you wish.
But dont settle for the devil when you have Jesus!
Dont be decieved theres a whole new life ahead of you. Be courageous and take a bold step today!

Blackberry said...

Poster one, call him n fuck him, only then you'll know if u love him or lust after him

Anonymous said...

Your bf is nasty. He was 30 and you were 17 when started dating. He is a pervert. Abeg move on with your life. He took advantage of you and your innocence. You have made your mistake, learn from it and move on. I bet all those girls he is after are all young girls. You are too old for him. Please move on. There are better things awaits you.

Latoya Totsman said...

Poster2
Note this: No matter how hard you try to go blind on the truth, you two will NEVER work!(take this from me). I really don't even know why you're still seeking for advice when clearly you're fed up! I'm not in support with the fact that you retaliated by cheating with your ex, but it's also obvious that he isn't cheating cos you cheated, he's cheating cos he wants to cheat! Don't listen to anyone who reminds you of the child you both have. You're the one in the shoe and you know the exact place it pinches. Most times, I feel it's best a child grows with the mentality that their parents aren't together, than watch them love themselves, fight, curse and get separated(it affects them psychologically). Anyways, pray to God first before taking any decision. Be guided!

Rose said...

P1, tell him how you feel subtly. If you don't know how, google it.
P2, put to use the handwork you learnt,save up some money and move out. Your umbilical cord is not tied to his. He's only going to get worse after marriage. Good luck to the both of you

Derbyshire Williams said...

poster 2 don't expect a good advice from this blog except insults

Pure Nigerian said...

You met him at 17? You are dating someone 13 years older than you? I am not one to say if your relationship will work out or not, but you are so not in his league...not because he is richer or anything but because your ways of reasoning are miles apart.
For goodness sake, that man dated you when he was 30 and you were still a teenager. Please, go for your Masters. Don't get tied down to uncertainty

PinKy berRy said...

#2. You deserve better darling. Do not make the mistake of getting married to some who will add no value to you.
Having a child for a man does not determine you getting married together.
You are still a very young girl imagine 23 "fresh age"..
Move back to your parents in the village. If your mum is still living beg her to assist you train the baby while u bills up your life then u go back to him.

In igbo land, that child is your family's as he didn't pay a dime on your head before u had him. So go back and beg your family to accept you back.

Mrs. Romas said...

Poster 1, call the guy and tell him your feelings. Pride comes before the fall. Take a bold step ask him if he is in any relationship then tell him how you feel about him, but please, don't have any sexual intercourse with him.
If he's interested, keep your legs close and see where it'll lead to. God see you through.

Poster 2, you are just 23 years old and you were already dating a guy for six years and also had a baby outside wedlock. This is what happens when young girls don't listens to their elders and face their studies.
Your father wants you to further your studies, but you want to remain with a serial cheat! What are you even doing living with a man that is not your husband? even though you have a child together, go back to your parents, do your masters and get a job.
A better man will find you. Leave that cheat alone, don't let him infect you with STDs. Beware!!!

Anonymous said...

Hmmmm to both.
Poster 1, use style to ask about his girlfriend. If he tells you about her then he is serious if not tell him you have not started dating but thinking of it now. If he is still interested in you, he will take a hint. Dis is a lesson for all those holding back and taking their time.
Poster 2, you are so young. You got your life ahead of you. Abeg take your chIlder and go home to your parents for a while and think of what to do with your life. Can't you see dt your relationship with this irresponsible man is doomed? He does not want you and will frustrate your life. Secondly, he has no future plans. If you are my sister, I will use rope to drag you out of there. Go home and use the little handwork you have while looking out for something and better learn to make friends. I'm tired of reading chronicles of people who call themselves introverts. Some friends are better than blood relatives.

ukwu dimond said...

poster tow insult will help to reset your brain.

why do you both keep breaking and making up, are you both working in PHCN?

when you make yourself so cheap for a man, what else do you expect from him than insult and cheat? pack well joor.

ukwu dimond said...

*two

Great Lady said...

Poster 1, tell you like him and wouldn't mind dating him if he's single. The highest he would say is No. You're old enough to not feel ashamed opening up to someone you like. If he makes fun of you,then babe you dodged a big bullet.
If he's in a relationship, then kill any feelings you have for him
I wish you all the best

Butterscotch said...

Poster 2, even with a child, love will still find you. Pls dump his ass and move on. if you were getting married this year, preparations would be in full swing already. abi na inside house wedding una wan do?


Poster 1; what was your complaint again? Ok! loving someone that doesnt know your feelings. abeg find your own boo and let him be joor. what if he has a serious girlfriend that stood by him when he had nothing? Go and find your own Boaz.

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Jasmine said...

Poster 1: grab the bull by the horn nau. Haba!!! U r a lady. Stylishly ask him.


Poster 2: 23 and u r suffering from all this baggage? Hian!!! Madam, u av just one child. U can still see a man that will marry u with ur child. Leave that big baby of a man alone

Blossom said...

Poster1: act fast. Stir up a conversation with him and cunningly ask him if he is in a relationship. That was how I said I will graduate first from the university before telling my crush how much I liked him. The weekend I came back,they selected me in my unit to do ushering at a wedding. I didn't know it was my crush getting married. That was how I was crying sheepishly at the wedding.

Poster 2: it's obvious you guys are just trying to tolerate each other cos you have a child together. Try to get a job and be financially independent. Then you can move out of his house. If you marry him,you may end up regretting cos there is no love. All the best.

Anonymous said...

Pls who can help me with 1/2 bag of rice,before hunger finish me and my children

James said...

Women should always think twice before cheating on their serious boyfriends or husbands especially if he knows the guy you gave you Toto to gbensh. Things can never be the same if he is a real man, a complete man.
One of my ex gf gave a friend of mine her something to gbensh when we had problem . I would have married her after we got back together but I learned that the guy gbensh her. I asked her about it but she denied it, even swear. I asked the guy something about her that only a person that gbensh her would know and he got the answer. I just allowed her to go. She is married now. She once asked me for money to start business earlier this year but due to that betrayal and disgrace. I am still thinking about her request. But the two other better ones married to rich men , I will do it for them without thinking twice.

Lucky nice said...

WEY MA EDO PEOPLE THEM? PLS WHO KNOWS LUCKY NICE EDE? THE 419 MODEL GUY THAT MOVE AROUND DUPING INNOCENT YOUNG PEOPLE (ESPECIALLY GIRLS) ALL IN THE NAME OF MODELLING

Great Lady said...

Poster 2 one of the best decisions you'll make is leaving this guy. The fact that you made a mistake doesn’t mean; you must pay for it for the rest of your life. You have a child does not mean,you're stuck with a cheating guy forever.
He doesn't respect you, neither does he value you.
Move on and trust God to take care of you.

Anonymous said...

Poster one, so at this time and age you can't show emotions until you are sure? sure of what exactly, that you like him or sure about a relationship? My dear times have changed. If you like a guy don't just show him, tell him, massage his ego, be sweet and cute to him, make him laugh that he won't be able to go a day without talking to you but as you do all these, tie ur legs together and pretend to be a mermaid.

What? Don't you know how to win a man's heart? even if hes in a relationship, they say all is fair in love and war. Make a move my dear, the boat go leave u waka ooo. Or else i don't like that guy shege, i must get him, be playful and don't forget to massage his ego, it works like magic, look at him in admiration n tell him u look so sweet, i like ur body, the colour of ur shirt is turning me on, hian, no be only guys sabi wash girls head with omo and sponge oo, girls ti take over the washing of head gan. Dey there make pant dey wear you n be waiting for what will be to be. Ekwuchakwam, iga asa anya ofuma ofuma, soro ibe gi n'aga aga.

Jennifer Lawrence said...

@ poster 2 continue u saw the signs but instead of you to close ur legs and pretend to be a mermaid u decided to be a baby mama @23,now that u ve knw his character u re asking stupid questions jst negodu ur chronicles loading vry soon smh.....

PinKy berRy said...

While u build up ur life then u can go back for him( ur baby).

Anonymous said...

Latoya Totsman Etoti, this calabar prostitute. So you don carry ur market come here?! Oma se oo. Tueh!!!

Fire cracker said...

I don't think the age gap counts. The guy is just a jerk. A younger dude can do better.

Loveme Jeje said...

Chai @ Queen you be character oo "Don't guys ask you out?...if they don't,contact me lemme give you thousands of them that are disturbing me(a married woman oh) for that matter!..."

Atheist. said...

Oops i miss road.
*meant for the 500k gist from IHN.

Anonymous said...

Poster 2. It is well. I am still trying to find the Dilemma in your story. It's not like you want to leave him from the Epistle you typed up there. You want to work before Masters. Your dad that is telling you to go for Masters has no money..he is in the Village. You have been dating for Six (6) years and cheated on him with an Ex and you are 23 years old. Hmmm..
No advice for your story.Living in a house with no furnishings and all.
You want to move on but blah...blah..
No 500k for baby mama. Go and dust your Certificate and find a job. You seem like the lazy type looking for spoonfeeding.
Very sure you thought the baby will tie him down and make him serious. For where???
Please go and work. You want free money from BV's




I have a headache already.


Poster 1,
I do not see any issue there. Move on and stop dreaming about what has passed. He is not asking you again because he is in a HAPPY RELATIONSHIP WITH ANOTHER WOMAN. Move on and find your own and don't be a Man-Snatcher.


Stella biko no use my comment rub pancake.

Anonymous said...

U r living in bondage. That u have made a mistake does not mean that u will leave with the mistake. Go back to your parent with your child, and start and a new life, convinced your parent how you will be a better person without him. Thank God you r a graduate you will survive, n beside u have been the only one taking care of your son.

Atheist. said...

Runs girls sef won't put it that way.

Atheist. said...

I forcefull raise beyonce leg up for you oh

Anonymous said...

The second poster needs to be startled back to reality. How can you live with a wolf in a war zone and be calling him "fiance"? How can you bring up a child in a frontline? There is no relationship or connection here. Do you want to marry for your father or for your happiness and your child's well being? How do you allow a man to keep you in jail without food or anything to thrive on?

Find joy within in Christ, find a job and bring up your child. Every good and perfect gift comes from the Lord including a husband and the one you are living with is not even a friend not to talk of a boyfriend; he is not even a toyfriend. Move, move, move out of that house, that life and having learnt your lesson, close your legs.

Patrick Odine said...

I like the words pour out your all you are going through to him. It would help your situation. You deserve better dear. If he cheats now, it would be worst in marriage I can tell you this. If you not happy now, he wouldn't make you happy later. So cheer up, be strong for yourself and your beautiful kid, take a walk and see your life get a meaning. I wish you all the best

Dat Business Woman said...

I totally agree with you...

St.FranKooL.... said...

#When you have a good heart: You help too much. You trust too much. You give too much. You love too much & it always seems you hurt the most*

Atheist. said...

However u want to reveal ur true feelings for a man, don't ever be straight forward, keep dropping those bread crumbs here & there, and subtle innuendos, while looking making alot of eye contacts (sexy eyes oh, not Okpolo eye).... Believe me, he'd get the msg if trully he has testis in his sack that produces spermatozoa, he he dsnt budge, then he's not interested, pls don't go further to embarass urself by saying "i'm falling for you or i think we'd make a good couple".... Trust me as a man, if he hears these yeye lines, his antenna will definately give signal only to ur pelvic region, na fuck be that!!! .

Jenny zee said...

U would have moved on if u didn't have a child for him but I don't blame u cos u r young,go for your masters first nd c Wat life would offer u afterwards. This behaviour he is showing u is what u will get in marriage,do u want that?

Latoya Totsman said...

Chizes!πŸ™†πŸΎ

Debi Afelumo said...

Poster two please and please I beg you don't end up like me o. A cheat will always be a cheat. Please don't marry the father of your child unless you will regret it. That was how I was told that do I want to be jumping from one man to another after one child but look at me today, I'm back to my village (my parents house) with my daughter, no husband, no job, no money, no food, no cloths to wear. I quit my job because of marriage, I had the opportunity to go for my masters, I turned it down because I was in love with my ex husband. All my love and sacrifice didn't stop him from cheating. He got a corper pregnant, people said men are polygamous in nature story, I was hurt but the corpse had still birth. He got another lady pregnant again, I wanted to end the marriage, I got another sermon from church pastors and families. I don't know what happened to that one pregnancy sef. I focused on my business as it was doing well and I could take care of my needs. I took care of my daughter alone. No support from him. I was married but living single. My business didn't make me feel anything. Not until he got his so called sister pregnant. Then I end the marriage. People beg as usual but my mind was made up. You know what? I got punished for refusing to be remain married to him. I lost everything. I mean everything except my daughter, my phone and my life. Sorry for my long story. All I just want to say is, poster 2, the signs are already there. Please dont marry him. Concentrate yourself. Focus on your child and your career. Don't end up being depressed like me because marrying him will only bring you pains and depression. Infact you will loose your real self. It happened to me. If you see me, you won't believe I'm educated. Infact na village hunters dey toast me now sef. If I could correct or erase some mistakes of the past, it will be deciding to marry daddy ire.

Latoya Totsman said...

There's absolutely nothing wrong with the age difference. She just got into a relationship at the wrong age, period!

nekkyville said...

Poster 2 na wa for u oh..its clear u are a yoruba girl cox only yoruba's tolerate dis kinda lifestyle. So u started dating a 30yrs old "foolish" guy when u were jst 17??? It's is well!!receive sense IJN

Anonymous said...

Atheist Ure killing me, no more Game of thrones quotes.Please keep it coming.

Jenny zee said...

Just a pity, her father won't be supportive, if na Oyibo dem go support their child nd ask her to leave d relationship

Anonymous said...

Please Queen how do I contact you? I am interested

Anonymous said...

Poster 2, please leave that guy. U are not married yet and you have started feeling this way. U have started seeing d signs and u're still asking questions. Please go back to your father's house, even if it's in d village, with ur child. Take sometime out in the village to think and plan. Sometimes you have to go back to go forward. You might have to leave your child with your parents and come back to Lagos to start afresh. When you are settled u can come back to take your child with you. Please leave that loser alone or else u will regret it. Leave now that u have only one child because when it becomes 3, u have no choice but to remain there. Single mothers of 3 kids still get married and have a happy life let alone you with 1. Please leave to the village immediately. That man is going nowhere.

MamaOj said...

2nd poster, did I get u well? U are 23, been wt ds guy for 6yrs & hav an ex? Ok Jesus fix ur case.

ed DREAMZ said...

a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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Oky seen....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

Anonymous said...

Serial or chronic CHEAT.....U r welcome

Jenny zee said...

Good comment, pls leave that guy cos u will cry nd regret if u don't, there's a better place for u

Anonymous said...

Pray kor, prey ni! I pity u ooooo! Ure not even married! My dear there's nothing binding u, that guy is a bachelor ooo forget, and he will cheat till he marries one the ladies! U don't av a single say over him, ure just a baby mama, yes baby mama! U better move on.

Anonymous said...

Pray kor, prey ni! I pity u ooooo! Ure not even married! My dear there's nothing binding u, that guy is a bachelor ooo forget, and he will cheat till he marries one the ladies! U don't av a single say over him, ure just a baby mama, yes baby mama! U better move on.

Starjoy said...

Poster1 since you have his number and you still chat with him then look for a way to know about his relationship if he is in a serious relationship or not, don't die in silence take a bold step now. Poster2 you have really made a big mistake, what were you thinking, that having a child will stop him from cheating? Please gather yourself and move out of his house go back to the village if possible and start looking for a job.

Anonymous said...

Gerrout abeg,how dare u call someone's pussy rotten??? If u like reply and say ill things 2 me,God will make nations call your pussy rotten as well

Anonymous said...

Lol. Poster 2 seems u are dating my husband. Better run. Some men are weird. Now that we are married. I be mumu for house but outside, I'm me. The guy has got issues. inferiority complex and will kill ur self confidence. He hasn't started telling u how ur brain doesn't work. Ur house will always b quiet. Everybody walks on shells when he's around. My family calls him soldier. Even sex na same thing for d past 6 yrs . not willing to learn. Don't get trapped. Run. Else u will wait for him to die to regain freedom except u r strong

amanda favour said...

LMAO 😁
Chei!!!
You need JESUS..Hahahaha

PayUrsula said...

@poster1, call him and chat him up stylisly he will understand what u mean, u can start with a txt of "hi follow with hope u had a good day, nxt in d morning tex "wish u all d best" small small like that something serious will start abi u be learner? @@2 pls leave that guy alone the nxt thing he will start beating u. U are too young to enter that kind of marriage abi.ibu ewu. With all the red sign u are seeing u still dey ask stupid question. Run Run Run.

PayUrsula said...

@15:58 lol

vincent cent said...

Marriage is not by force, be wise, sit up and take the right steps while you are young....hard work will pay you and you son later, a man at 36 impressing members of the public will learn the hard way, at 23 you are still young to do put things right...

Anonymous said...

Martins boy and DoppelgΓ€nger be making sense on SDK since 1860bc

Anonymous said...

lol

Mary said...

Assin ehn πŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘Š✋πŸ‘. Marry him sharp sharp jare. Husband scarce na @23.

Mary said...

You are wicked!

Robyna Fenty said...

Poster 2 You've been together for 6 years so you guys started when you were 17 and he was 30? Na wa oh.Anyway, stay with him, continue to live like roommates, if you must have sex pls use protection.Under no condition must to get pregnant again. Get a job or start a trade. Make your own money. Make new friends, eventually you may see someone who needs a flatemate. Then leave him. The fact that you have a child with him doesn't mean you must marry him. If he's a bad bf,trust me, he'll be a terrible husband.
Poster 2: Errr why is this a chronicle? Are you lonely or what? Is that how people fall in love? Better get a hold of yourself. If you throw yourself at him, he will Fuck you and leave you. Most guys are useless. Aren't there other guys that like you? Must it be this one? Since you are desperate for him, go with Stella's advise. Chat with him and ask about his gf. If he says he has one, move on. Chances are after you ask him, he'll ask you too. You can then inform him that you are single. If he likes you, he'll want to meet up with you and probably ask you out eventually. If he doesn't move on. I have a feeling what you feel is lust. After you Fuck him you won't like him again. Dont ignore someone that likes you for him. Good luck sha.

Anonymous said...

Poster 2..you started dating your bf at 17...So how old were u when u started dating the ex u cheated with? Leave with your child..he only wants to marry u, cos u the only girl who can't do nothing about him cheating. ..He doesnt respect u.

Robyna Fenty said...

Look this person spells better. And that one is already going crazy in love. There is hope for this one.

BigChild said...

Poster one let me give you this advise from a man's point of view... He probably feels the same way about you trust me. All you have to do is send him a text and let him know how you feel about him. Don't live your life with regrets of what could have been without making any efforts. He has already previously made the effort so now it's your turn. Tell you like him and has been shy to state your feelings and if he doesn't feel same way, to tell you so you both can move on with your lives as friends. I have been in similar situation before and we both lost out cause of it.

Poster two... Your man is on an ego trip. Loves to act the bigboy outside while he can't admit that his personal life is messed up. He has the solution to everybody else's problems but can't sort himself out. Let me give you how to conquer that. Love him and take good care of him while at the same time ignoring him. When he's out, stop calling him and showing that you care too much. Take up other interest like photography or something to take your interest. Hopefully you get a job and start buying nice clothes for you and your kid. Make him seem irrelevant. Hit the gym, if you can't go to the gym, start running or do exercises. Try to look good always without been too loud. Don't fight, it never works. Make him his dinner when he comes from work and smile. He will think you have something up your sleeves and believe me he will start taking an interest. He's ego will start telling him to be a better man. Men like him are the best if you know how to fine tune them. You fine tune them by fine tuning yourself first. From your chronicle, I can see he has big plans. Sometimes, its not bragging but ideals. Make him your man buy making yourself a woman. Goodluck to both of you

Anonymous said...

I guess you just advised her, itk. Poster 2 you deserve better than that cheat of a boyfriend cos I wouldn't call him a fiance. All the best as you take the best decision for yourself and your child.

Lilly simple said...

James
The Billionaire

Anonymous said...

Poster 1:start by mere chatting in any of d social media,as u get along he may fall for u.i once had a guy I liked n we started by whatsapp n became lovers nd we love each other so much
Poster2:smell d coffee he's a nt interested in marrying u bt why re u still hanging on in spite of d cheating?he will never change.go for ur masters n u may meet a good man who will accept ur child as well..good luck

Lilly simple said...

AwwwwwwwwwWwww
God will see you through dear

Anonymous said...

Dear people please prepare for the Lords coming. He is coming swiftly and His reward with Him. Put to death the lusts and love of the flesh and desire the sincere milk of the Word of God.
Stella, I love you but are you truly filled with the Holy Spirit or is it just a knowledge of the Word of God? Remember it is the Spirit that gives life. The flesh profits nothing.
As you up the word of God on this blog, let the Spirit have his way in the holiness and light associated with the word.
Thanks

Anonymous said...

Oh my days!!πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚this right here is painful and funny!say what!!!

Latoya Totsman said...

Lol.. Not today Satan... Not today.
Obviously, you haven't met me before and just in case you do, say this to my face and not through an anonymous account. That's my real face up there, and that's my real name too... I won't do that if I had a bad record.
And just for the records, it's "Etoty" and not Etoti! Oya face bush!

jane okudo said...

Poster 2 Nne Pls leave dat dude at once!!! Get u a job, start making frnds nau nau ND move away frm he's house,u guys live in an empty house nau, no TV kwa nd u still with him?? While he's cheating away?? Odiegwu..

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Poster 1- wait a minute? In this day and age you're still dulling like this?
Nne primary school is long enough to let feelings die and if they haven't then better reach out to that dude. You never know. He might be single or still have strong feelings for you. Me I prefer guys I've known from childhood than these 419s we meet everyday. Biko, don't wait for him cos he already asked and you declined. Give him a call, tell him you'd like to see him to discuss something and let him know why you turned down his previous offer to date. And then tell him you do have feelings for him so if he's willing to pick things up from where you left off you can give it a try. Go to soemwhere like a quiet icr cream or froyo parlour. Sit and talk. If he goes on to say no or give any excuse ( I'm 90% sure he won't), then at least you'd know you tried.
We keep saying 'bad girls get the best guys' well guess what? Most 'good girls' are too shy, too reserved, to careful. And good guys (I know) usually just want that extra spark in a woman. You can actually tell a guy how you feel without looking cheap. As long as you guys still keep communication lines open, you'd be able to pick the conversation lines from somewhere.
Good luck!!!

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Anonymous said...

Poster 2, you said your baby daddy hasn't achieved anything in 6 years yet but he can procure home appliances and furnish the house in a month yet you're still using firewood to cook and he's chasing gehs upandan. Better run for your Dear life as I predict baby number to will soon show up. Better go and carry unemployment placard in the streets than sit back and ruin your self

Vivienne Nwabueze said...

James James. The helper of married women. I raise Beyonce hand for you

Atheist. said...

Stella pulled the plug on Game of thrones quotes, sorry guys

Anonymous said...

LOOOL ironically I think he's a calabar man! That's them to a T.

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Poster 2 -Abeg shift! What are you even saying? So a guy does all these things and just cos you have a child with him you want to go ahead with marriage? Guess what? He's with you because you swallow his bullshit. And many women won't. So you're his mumu button and that how he wants it for life. Keep suffering and smiling. Isn't it here that Monalisa Chinda got married after divorce? Haven't we seen people like ciara move on to better guys even with a child for an ex? Some of you don't even belive in yourselves, that's why you end up with rubbish men. Better take your father's money and go on to do your masters. You would be better for it. What are you even doing with that 36 year old shady man? He hasn't dealt with you yet. Stay there and continue speaking English. Mscheew!

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Anonymous said...

Lmfaoooooooooooo!!! #DEAD

Anonymous said...

Latoya you're contradicting yourself. There's no right age for a relationship, rather, she got into a relationship with the WRONG person.

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Poster 1 - don't drop hints oh. Tell him STRAIGHT! This is 2016 my dear. Just start by tell him why you turned down his previous offer. He might have been thinking it's because you don't like him. Tell him you did and still do, but you had issues. Tell him some of it.... Who hint epp? Don't drop hint oh! Before you miss out. I actually respect your discipline and focus at a young age. Many people don't have that my dear.
Na so my friend drop hint bobo no catch. We need to understand that men think differently. They are more 'game on' than women. Till she saw wedding invite. Met up with him at a school reunion party and they were having a chat and she finally told him. He was distraught. Said he's been in love with her all his life. When he was single she was dating. He waited oooh. Every year he would send her vals gift, even to say thank you na wahala. She dated on yeye guy for like 10 years. Since uni. The guy now decided to follow one babe in his office. That one grabbed him with both hands. So he was like he loves her but he needs to respect the other lady. He can't put her through any form of disgrace. My friend drove straight to my house and took the next week off work. She was miserable and crying everyday. No be small Peppersoup I cook that week. From catfish, assorted to goat meat. Lol. That was the only thing her runny nose could take.
Of kez the guy married the other babe and relocated sef.

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Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

James oh πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ Ahn ahn. ...

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

I'm sure poster 1 guy doesn't want to be disppoibted twice. Biko let her go and explain herself. And use style to ask him if he wants to pick things up. Shikena! It's either yes or no. Buy I'm sure he will give a yes.

Anonymous said...

Poster 2 please go for your masters and do not do not get married to him yet. I know his kind of man, believe me. Pls go for masters first and mayb afterwards u will be sure of wat next to do. Do not let your child be d

Anonymous said...

Mrs queen... I thought u wud b wise and matured but clearly, u aren't. M quite sure d 23yr old grl is way wiser dan u will eva b. Are u sure u are married? U don't insult someone who seeks advice. That is so wrong. And one wud think u wud advice maturely... Pls receive sense

Anonymous said...

To the best of my experience so far, a typical Nigerian man no dey forgive for cheating. The ones that really let it go are either a Konk genuine Christian man, the few ones with western mentality or a woman wrapper. If your man is none of these, forget it. That man holds it against you... and with that subconscious resentment, he will end up sabotaging your life because he hates and want you at the same time. The day you cheat on a Nigerian man is the beginning of the end of your relationship. Better pack up and leave him to focus on building your bright future without him. You are still young anyway....

Adanne said...

Poster 1
Remember what funke aka jenifa said about 'what will be will be", you have to play a role in whatever that will be in your life, don't live it to fate, and I think I agree with her. So do something girl.

Poster 2. @23 you are already in situationship, suffering and smiling...please get yourself a job and leave that guy.
You need your self esteem back, don't stoop so low naa, the world has gone beyond licking a guy's a** for your daily bread.

Is your choice if you choose to stay with the guy and live in misery

Olaide Davies said...

Stella why nau and I was enjoying it o.

Latoya Totsman said...

No dear... You didn't understand me. If she was 20 when he was 33, I'm sure people won't think the age difference is a multitude. The problem here is, she was only 17 when they met.

Fire cracker said...

All these anons wey no get chill. Monitoring spirit.

Anonymous said...

You are so wrong, there are lots of sensible advice here.

peace oyibo said...

Poster 2 u are obviously desperate

peace oyibo said...

This is not abt d age, its abt their ways of reasoning as pure Nigerian has said!

Anonymous said...

Poster 2

Nne, run o.

There is absolutely no love between the both of you. Marriage will make it worse, it will not change him.

For your own sanity and for your child, do not marry that man.

Better go for your Masters. Take on your dad's advice, but also find a way to honestly tell him about your boyfriend and why he would not want you to be in such a marriage.

Let no one force you into a marriage, it is you that will be in it, not them.


Weasel.

Anonymous said...

This useless so called queen and boss.y re u so stupid? Who do you think you are?calling ur fellow woman's pussy rotten Idiot.Are you not the same person that got married to a man who his mouth stinks.Fool.Gorilla is more preferable than you.
Calling someone ugly, u woowo abeg.
Men are pursuing you.who are you fooling? Stinking wide Asshole.Idiot.

Aya Okanlomo said...

Poster 2. Pls for the sake of your child don't marry that man. How can you live together and not talk? Pls marry a friend, not a cheating dictator

Ruth Amos said...

@chikito, I love ur advice, u know what's
Up

Anonymous said...

I hope she learns from all these wonderful advices! Most of them still hang on to abusive spouses and keep sending chronicles! A word is enough for the wise. The bible says a man that cannot provide for his home iis worse than an infidel. Your fiancee is even an infidel too! U stoill av a second chance now that ure not married, omo bibi o kin she arun o! Make friends and be a free bird! Introverts don't go far inlife, no man is an island, and u can't make it while keeping to yourself, u need people around u, Damn the world, Damn what they will say about u, swallow ur pride and go back home with ur child, kneel for your father and cry ur heart out, he'll take u back and help u on ur feet again. I hope u know that I know u very well, I'm ur makeup trainer and we live very close to each other, yeah, it's me Mummy A! Don't fail a second time please!!!! I don't ever want u to send a chronicle ever again, I won't even talk to u about this again, the choice is urs!!!!!!!

Ralia the sugar girl said...

I like you tho. You are very intelligent #myopinion. Loll

Debi said...

Amen Thanks

Ralia the sugar girl said...

Lollll

perfect God said...

Poster 1 don't be dull if you have money call the guy and tell him you want to see him,take him to a eatery buy food then start a chat like how is your life your girlfriend you know all those stuff before is too late o be smart and fast after every thing tell him it was a nice thing talking to you,don't tell him you like him o don't set love eyes for him before he start taking you as a.......

Anonymous said...

Agree with Chikito but she should first find out if he has a fiance so that she will not be an agent of breakup.

Anonymous said...

Poster 2, do u seriously want to know my opinion?
Please leave dt guy. If he ain't proud of u he doesn't deserve you. Come on use your God given brain to use. Bikonu. . I'm out...

Anonymous said...

Chikito take 5 for that. You have said it all. Poster 2 please you are too young for this. Sometimes we have to forget what our parents and the world would say, what matters is what is acceptable by God and our conscience.

Anonymous said...

Please how do I get a blog id? Helo pls

Anonymous said...

Lmao at the first advise. It is well my sister.πŸ˜‚

Anonymous said...

Nice one robyna...am sure a real genuine guy will be killing himself for her and she will be forming " I have tried to love u bk but cant...26 and u still act like 16, better grow up and hold on to that boy that luvs u... Most old crushes end up in disaster

Anonymous said...

Poster 1 story is so similar with a girl that travelled to America this year that my buddy luvs so much until date , but the girl left him I think because my friend has decided to seal lips but the luv he has for her is like the type we all dream about but cant have. Well...na her loss sha , hope they get back together sha

Mr kain said...

She also has an ex boyfriend. This little bitch been fucking since she was 15! She's a useless girl!

Anonymous said...

Someone must have molested this chid when she was little. I would have love to know how and when she started having sex. She has been abused and brainwaished.
Fuck danm shits!

Anonymous said...

I don't understand some of y'all here started fucking earlier than 16....
Honestly though I started around about 16, my girlfriends were like about 16 and 17. I keep wondering how and when they started doing the shit, I didn't start it

Anonymous said...

That is why I like Stella no time for rubbish since an adult will not learn to be one. U guys should get in touch and continue where you stopped without continuously derailing the purpose of the Chronicles.

kind goddess said...

Morning BV's! Poster 2 pls leave that guy alone!

I'm very hungry this morning.....yawnnnns

Anonymous said...

Poster1 I was in a situation almost like urs but I lost contact with her since then. See why...the fact you want to eat rice doesn't mean you can't cook small Indomie and eat before the rice done na. If u r meant to be u'll both come back to each other somehow. Don't go into distant relationship sha, that's my advice

Anonymous said...

Poster2 your pikin name suppose be degree cos na wetin u go school go get. From your story I can tell you are a yoruba gal. If u like no go do ur master u hear. Y will u even be living with a man who hasn't paid your dowry??? According to ur story u start dating him 6years ago, that means u were 17years old, and you had an Ex! Jeez! Nothing wey person no go see. At that age I didn't even know what a relationship was, I still dey shy to follow gal Waka not to talk of a sequel relationship. Children of nowadays I troway salute for una. Well my advice is u leave dat sugar daddy's house first and go meet ur papa, den go do ur masters. We are always afraid of breakup but u know 1 tin about breakup? It teaches a lesson and d next person u'll date will be better than d previous...that's for sure.

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