STAND ALONE NARRATIVE..
WHEN ALL THE EGGS ARE IN ONE BASKET
I'm a relatively new BV who stumbled on your blog and fell in love. Since then, I've converted my boyfriend and my bestie into ardent BVs because I'm always sharing gist and stuff I read here with them, so please hide my email.
Did I mention I love you? And the advice in the comments section as well as your red pen is priceless hence my decision to seek your help.
I just turned 26 years old, I'm from the middle belt and should I say I've had a blessed life? I was lucky enough to get my first job right after NYSC and now I work in a lucrative industry, have a seven-figure salary and drive a Mercedes so I'm really okay. But life has not been a bed of roses cause I have sickle Cell (I'm SS) and my dad is late.
I'm in a serious relationship that's lasted almost four years. My boyfriend is 29, AA, ibo,and is comfy but not swimming in it per se. He hasn't proposed, but he's introduced me to his entire family except his dad. He was my first as I wanted to stay a virgin until I marry but I finally gave up the cookie last year because I was pretty sure it's him I'll finally settle down with.
Now the problem is; this year when he started making plans about getting married next year, all of a sudden I'm hearing about his people not wanting him to marry a girl from my place. First, he said the day he told his dad his girlfriend is from my place, his dad said he can marry from anywhere except there and then the next day his dad took him on a journey to another state to see his(the dad's) long-lost friend and then introduced him(boyfriend) to the friends daughter(she's ibo so highly acceptable).
I freaked out when he told me but he calmed me down, promising his undying love and pointed out that if he had any plans of actually dating the girl he wouldn't have told me,which made sense so I chilled.
Next thing I started seeing texts on his phone from the same girl sending him account number for him to send money. This is a guy who single handedly pays ALL his family's bills(first son) and as things are difficult, I try not to add to his headache. So I empathize with him because he complains often about the pressure and I don't ask him for money though he buys me stuff like shoes clothes etc which I reciprocate. And he's sending 'random' chicks money?
Then more recently, we were just gisting and then he mentions the girl from his place whom his dad introduced him to, saying she's new in the town where we stay and called him for advice on where to go shopping for this and that. He started talking about how she's been complaining that the aunt she stays with is difficult etc. I formed not interested so he wouldn't suspect anything but I believe that conversation is one for people who have known each other for a long time, and have been talking and getting to know each other better for a while but he had NEVER mentioned her before that day and is always forming he doesn't have female friends and tries to prove I know EVERYONE in his life by making sure I know his phone and laptop passwords.
I'm worried now, am I being stupidly naïve? I don't want stories that touch because as God is my witness, I've put all my eggs in one basket.
What if tomorrow he tells me he can't marry me because in Mbaino (Imo state) it's taboo for guys to marry from my side or whatever?
There's this other very serious guy who is a Muslim and has stuck to me like glue, snuck around and met my mom while I wasn't in town, met my sisters and introduced himself and all. He is seriously insisting he wants to marry me if I give him a chance (according to him it's only taboo for a Muslim girl to marry a Christian guy and not vice versa). Should I just port and save myself future heartaches or am I just obsessing?
A ton of guys flock around me maybe because they see I'm an asset and not a liability and I'm also attractive but all I say is a solid no no no all the time! I know I have turned out quite a few really good men because of him.
I swear, I will kill somebody if it turns out I was an idiot. Sorry for the long epistle guys, I'm just very confused. Please help a sister, I need clarity.
God bless you.