NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
THE SIGNS WHEN YOU ARE DATING YOURSELF IN A RELATIONSHIP
Good day Stelz...
I'm really confused and tired of my relationship, I will try to make things clear just to make you understand want I'm into and if I'm over reacting. Sorry for the long chronicle.. Thank you
Have been dating my bf for 10months now, it's been good and bad.. When we have issues I'm always the one who settles the issue because my bf won't make any attempt to and he's so good at giving me attitude, I do most of the calling, I'm careful with the words I use when I'm with him, no emotional talks all we talk about mostly is work related issues.
we work in the same office. He doesn't tell me what he feels about me, trust me I can't even say or tell you if he loves me or not. The times we see are the times I make arrangement for us to, if I don't do that he doesn't bother to do same, we don't chat, if at all we do I always initiate it.
Recently I snooped on his phone, and he has two girls he's always in contact with, and he's different with them, he calls, chats with them, sends them sweet text messages and he's always worried when he doesn't hear from them. But with me it's a different thing entirely.
He calls the shot, and he's a churchy kind of guy 'Christian brother, recently we stopped having sex because he said he doesn't feel cool about it anymore that we're committing sin against God.
I'm bored, tired of the whole issue, and I'm finding it so hard to move on because I'm in love with him already and he's the only one I'm dating, I know I deserve better but I just don't know how to go about it.
Pls I need your advice and that of BV's on how to go about this.
Thank you Stelz
*Stop chatting with him..Stop calling him,stop Initiating anything..GIVE YOURSELF SENSE,the bro already broke up with you but you are taking time seeing it.Please dear,move on already.
When you have throw yourself on someone all in the name of love,its not a relationship,its situationship.
NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
HEART LOOTED VIA CHAT
Good day Stella, please hide my identity and I will go straight to the point.
I participated in the one before the last SnM, I added people and people added me but there was a particular guy whom I added and immediately we started communicating. Our communication was/is very interesting, matured, interesting, full of laughter, it was if we have known each other in which he confirmed it first to me.
Now he is older than me with 8years, he isn’t married very single and my kind of person and we haven’t seen cause of distance and we are both working, we live in different states but still in Nigeria.
Now I am already beginning to have feelings for him (we don’t any sexual talk at all, we only say funny and intelligent things), I don’t know if he is also having feelings for me cos I can’t speak for him (he is very much matured than me and very real I am also matured and real) we chat everyday even at work (from morning till night and we don’t get tired and that may have made me believe he is into me and isn’t really chatting with any other person), up till now we haven’t spoken over the phone just chatting thou he has my contact.
Now my issue is am i being too forward (I don’t want to rush anything cause I want us to take our time to know each other and let the feelings grow to something beautiful and maybe legit) or he is just watching from the sidelines to know me better or he is just leading me on to nowhere?
Please I need advice from you and BV, what should I do because I don’t want to create something that is not there in my head and I don’t want my time to be wasted.
*The Singles Mingles before the last one would mean about 2-3 months?The one tagged ''Loot my heart '' in May?
My dear,dont bother yourself with whether he is into you or not..just look at him like an APP on your phone that is helping you pass the boring times.....
How can you fall in love with someone you have not heard their voice?He told you he isnt married,how can you be sure?My dear dont lose your feelings please.
Waffy people go say ''Na Market you wan buy so!''