It's Thursday In House News..

Kisses to Everyone!

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WORD FOR TODAY.

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CONCERNING THE 20K FOR IHG WINNER
I asked BV Droyalty to help collate the gists together for the winner and when she didnt find any,she asked for the money in a mail which i posted.Posting that mail was not to shame her but i needed to show that she had asked for the money and wanted your opinion on such diversion.
However i didnt bargain for the way she was cussed out....She begged with her blog name,some of you go under anonymous to do worse.
I like her personality,like her no nonsense stance,like that she is playful and says how she feels...

Sometimes all we need is love......She was bold to ask and she will be given.
She needs the money to fix something to aid her online job....she will get it.
The next time you people think cussing or cyber bullying rocks,think again.
I didnt want to give her but reading all the cusses changed my mind.
On Saturday,there will be another 20k up for grabs in the IHG section and i will delegate someone else to collate the results,it is left to the person to find a winner or....LMAO!
Droyalty,send me your account details later in the day.
One love.

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ME SEF DEY FIND LOVE

Dear Sis,

how is family? i need yr assistance o. a friend of mine just called me that his sister inlaw met a boo on ya blog and is getting married soon. help me put up my request .

i am 35 yrs of age looking for a guy of 38-40 for a serious relationship that will lead to marriage. Urhobos, Benin, Itshekiris and Yoruba can apply. my email is desfrank9@gmail.com.

thanks

LMAO
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NEXT FREE STAND ALONE ADVERT GOES TO...

....BV Chiamaka ilozulu .send in your materials for posting.

please get it right before you send it.good luck.

I was discussing with someone of influence/affluence who reads this blog and the person suggested that BVs who comment with their names on other blogs should not be given the free stand alone post.

I refused and i am bringing it here now in case anyone else has that idea.

Others go under anon and i respect those who boldly use their names.I dont know which ones but lets live and let live....Anyone whom i identify as a BV will get a free post if and when it is available.

GOD BLESS US ALL.

*Note that there is no favouritism,i am just reading through BV ID's and choosing.



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BELATED BIRTHDAY WISH FROM COMEDIAN KLINT DA DRUNK

Thank you so much for the honour and prayers.God bless.I am sure you wdßill read this.I hear a lot of celeb wives are BV's..hehehehe
Make unu salute unu Oga's at the top eeeeh.

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STELLA NNEKA OGBU'S TESTIMONY AND GIVEAWAY

My dearest namesake,  a woman with a big heart,  I hail you o. 

I want to use this opportunity to thank God for his grace and his mercies upon my life.  

It hasn't been easy doing business online, I've had my fair share of the ups and downs and I give God the glory as I'll be opening my office first week of September here in Lagos! At least I go rest small for call out issues *side eyes* lol

In appreciation to God and also to my amazing angel in person of Stella DK,  I want to sow a seed into someone's life in my own little way. 

I want to give a bale of ladies clothes for free to either a single mom that needs to start a business or anybody in general. Ma'am Stella Biko help out in making a random selection. Thanks a bunch! 

Long live the Sdk blog!

*Why dont you give it to Mama Emmanuel,the lady whose husband ran away and left her with 4kids or to the Nanny whose salary was deducted?you know their stories and you can go back last week to get their phone numbers and call whichever of them you choose.they have both opened businesses in front of where they live and this bale will really help.

thank you Stella

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VACANCY

Good evening Stella, would really appreciate if you post this job vacancy on your site.

Thank you

An online fashion store located at Gbagada needs the services of a dispatch rider in Lagos,the candidate must
1. Have worked previously as a dispatch rider within Lagos.
2. Be very familiar with Lagos route
3. Be efficient
4. Fast delivery
5. Smart and neat
6. Be able to communicate properly in English Language.
7. Must have a valid riders card

Qualified candidates should kindly drop contact/CV to greathorizon99@gmail.com
08094566790

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VACANCY

JOB VACANCY FOR SALES REPRESENTATIVES

A catering outfit is looking to hire female representatives ....

Requirements includes:
Good communication skills
Fluent in English
Must be friendly, polite, energetic, reliable, responsible and honest
Ability to make sales and meet targets
Must reside within ilupeju and environs

Qualifications:
Minimum OND
Not above 27 years
Salary based and commission
Kindly forward CV to
Email: naijasweetart@gmail.com  with the subject SALES REPRESENTATIVE.
Thank you.

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APPRECIATION MAIL

Goode day Ma'am.

Please I want to appreciate an angel on your blog..

He did a giveaway some ago and I reached out to him yesterday as regards my school fees and project fees.

He sent part of the money to me.

Sir,I don't know you in person yet You helped a young girl.

May You never lack all the days of your life.Whenever you need help;Kings and Queens will rise for you.

I'm so grateful.

Bukola O.

God bless you whoever you are that helped out
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MEMO TO BV CHARSIMATIC DIVA

My name is Tina Onyinye from abuja. Please am looking for my friend whom i met on your blog. Her user name on blog is charistmatic diva.

Please help me find her; i lost her contact when i lost my phone. I have really missed her. Pls tell her that its tina from abuja.

My phone no. is 08035982916.

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FREE TRAINING

God bless you for the good work you are doing. 

There is going to be a free eyebrow training for blog visitors in Benin City from 29th August to 2nd of September 2016. And also any one who has any challenge as regards makeup,should also chat me up for any question, which will be given answers to, via my bbm for free( no cost at all). My pin is 7aa3c488

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Boldnburiful concept's Giveaway online production training for 2 bvs

I want to train two (2) bvs on how to produce up to 20 marketable household products for free.

If you know learning how to produce things like soap, perfume, bleach, toilet cleaner, body wash and even raw African black soap(ose dudu) will help you tackle this era of "change", then send a whatsapp message to 08054153798. 

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RE-WEDDING NIGHT BROUHAHA 62 FROM YESTERDAY.

Ah-Ah..
Oh Jesu!!
I shared my own WNB here and people took it north..
Haba!!

How can people be too judgmental..
Because I sent my WNB.. People thinks I sent it to attract pity or beg for money?.

It was never on my mind... I was  only trying to share my own story to my fellow BVs on SDK Because that's the only place I air my secrets...  And again to let people know that there is always two sides of a coin.

Hey! I swear it... I didn't know that a BV was gifted because of a story she shared.. I only checked it out  after I saw some comments insinuating that I faked the story to get mine.

I typed this story on my phone since last month July 24th; on my birthday to be precise. I haven't sent it cos Av been busy. (I travelled for my father's burial, just came back on Sunday)

I read so many negative comments; I didn't feel much bad about them cos different people with different understandings.Everybody have their own way of understanding things. Is not because am right, then I will insist that they are wrong... Not at all..

I respond to the "begging"
comments cos it made me regret ever sending it....
I feel so bad that the hateful  comments came mainly from my fellow girls/women...
It's a pity...

This is the real me.......
No one knows tomorrow.....

I still love all the BVs
May u never see sorrows and hardships.
May u never find urself in a situation that will cause u to take a hasty decisions.

But pls stop judging...
Its well....

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UNUSUAL PLEA

I'm a doctor that finished Housemanship 4 months ago and have been at home waiting for Youth Service. It's not been easy at all staying at home for this long. Pleading with BV's that have or know hospitals with a fair pay where I would be working while waiting for service. God bless. 

I can be reached at 08057393524

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GIVEAWAY

Hi stella, 

I am one of your silent readers, i have this beautiful silver sandal to give away to any Lagos resident (size 39/40). I have only worn it once and its still in good condition.

Anyone interested should contact me on 07032244102. Pick up is Ogba 

God bless the good work you are doing with your platform. Kisses

Thank you

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MATERNAL DEATH

A MUST READ FOR EVERY BV

Hi Stella, how was your birthday celebration? Hope all went well. Please keep my obodo oyibo cake ooo.  I don't know where this story fits, perhaps IHN or any other. I want my fellow women to be wise and not to brainwashed religiously, in order to reduce or avoid maternal death. Is long o please make una bear with me and forgive my gbaguans.  My co wife(nwunyedi in igbo) was pregnant with her third child she has 2 girls already, precisely on July 3rd the Abia State government gave an emergency public holiday we decided to go spend some days with them, in the evening we all were gisting and she started having contractions, dressed up and was about leaving but insisted the hubby calls the nurse to know her whereabout and to tell her that the baby was about coming.  I told her it wasn't necessary and that she should just go to the hospital, was so surprised when she said she wasn't going to the hospital but a Ministry(Church). Was still thinking maybe I didn't hear them well and she zoomed off with my sister in law and begged me to bring her packed bag later because I know the place very well.  I went to my husband and asked him where she went to and he confirmed my doubt and i asked him what if there is any emergency like bleeding, blood transfusion etc what will happen, or is there any provision for that in the Ministry and he expressed his shock too because his friend lost his son due to this kind of case it was just God that saved the wife, he met with the brother and begged him to take the wife to the hospital using his friend as a case study but he refused saying he told her but she refused and insisted it will be in the Ministry and that her faith will save her, hubby reminded him how the wife usually bleeds after childbirth and is just because her doctor is a gynecologist and he usually controls it in the hospital but seems they've already made up their mind. I took her bag much later, saw her walking up and down looking so tired and weak the pastor was praying for her, i also saw the nurse, she just gave birth few weeks ago, i asked my sister in law if this nurse alone will handle her because she is huge and that i wasn't comfortable with this idea, she just told me not to worry that one elderly woman will help them and that my co wife has the belief that she will give birth here.  I left, went home and still complained to hubby he called the elder sis living in another town she also started calling but the woman, the hubby and my sister in law had already planned everything and no one could changed their mind, hubby and i couldn't sleep that night we prayed the one we know and the one we didnt know asking God to come and be the doctor, hubby's brother and sister came back and said the pastor said she will give birth by 11pm and that they should go and sleep jejely.  Hmmmm around 4am hubby's bro came and knocked on our door that she has given birth but the baby died na so hubby start to quarrel am, he started saying shey i told you to take your wife to the hospital and you refused now see now, he said my hubby should just keep quiet that he is going there, hubby followed him. so my sister in law and I went to stay with the kids. After a while we called the hubby of the woman and he picked and was shouting that God should come and wake the wife, that the wife is dead oo. Geezz i couldn't believe it, i rushed into our room dressed up and left, sister in law started crying. i rushed to the ministry, called my mum on the way to inform her because i was so scared and she called back that she isn't dead yet and that she has instructed the husband to take her to the hospital.  My fellow bvns i went there and saw her lying helpless on the ground with more than 7people surrounding her and speaking in tongues and sweating that place was damn hot and she was bleeding, i shouted at the husband to rush her to the hospital and there wasn't even drip or blood given to her how will she survive, the nurse came out looking confused asking for cerelac milk or blood capsule that she has lost a whole lot of blood, can you believe that!  Cerelac kwa!!  My hubby was more confused, he rushed back to look for blood capsule i followed him, at the gate we saw one of their neighbors, my sister in law woke them up with her cry so he rushed to the place, we were on our way back when we saw them on the way inside keke (The guy came and shouted at them to take her to the hospital) that was how they took her everywhere was filled with blood and it wasn't long the doctor confirmed her dead. That was how she left this world leaving behind two lovely kids (4) and (2).  She Was the breadwinner in the family because she got an INEC job, wish the whole thing could just rewind, na me go use my hand look for boys to bundle her to the hospital.  She died because she lost so much blood and we know that if she had gone to the hospital she would have been alive now and at least take care of her kids, i just pray that God blesses me with a good job to take care of these lovely kids, they don ask for their mama tire and have now gotten use to her absence. And may God also provide the resources for her hubby in order to bury her, trust my igbo people now the money to settle her people is even enough to bury her.  Please if you are pregnant always visit the hospital and follow every instructions given because hubby and l later heard that her doctor told her to come that she was due but since there wasn't any labor yet he will induce, and she ran because she heard inducement like say na one big thing. I still can't believe that someone i was gisting with is no more..  BV Chidinma

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SO LONGA STORY ON MARRYING AS A VIRGIN

Dear Stella,

I hope this meets you well. Happy belated birthday!!! I did wish you one, anonymously though, on the blog. All my comments have been anonymous for two years now. Lol. So please, keep my email address hidden. 

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I don't know where this mail falls under, but am sending to share a story with you and my fellow SDKers, maybe someone will learn a thing or two...maybe some other person will be more careful. Maybe it will make no impact, but well, I think it's worth sharing. Mostly, I decided to share this because when I see people who think marrying as a virgin is the best accomplishment of life, I just wish they knew better. 

Please keep in mind that this story may seem somewhat lengthy to some, so feel free to skip if you wish. Queen, James, Portable, Xoxo biko don't come and cuss me too much on this. Lol

Anyway, back to the story...am going to tell you a story about a lady, whom we will call Thelma (a pseudonym of course). 

Thelma is an extremely hard working ‎lady, beautiful, has a heart of pure gold, smart, she is 31 years old, has three kids and married to the MOST useless man ever created. When I say this, I kid you not.  

So you see, Thelma has always been a good person. Genuinely, sometimes I wish a quarter of people on earth have the kind of heart she does and am not saying this because I know her, but because it's the simple truth. I wish a lot of the time that even I can have her kind of heart. She's a good person with a genuine soul, through and through.  ‎

She started working and making a lot of money very early, she is quite industrious, hard working, honest (to a fault) and quite naive! Her life was going very smoothly until she met her husband. She wouldn't give him the time of day, he bugged, stalked and wearied her out until she noticed him. He would follow her to her office and wouldn't leave until she spoke to him, he would follow her home and beg her siblings to please tell her talk to him, he would show up with lunch, flowers, perfumes and different gifts at different places just to make her see him. After a while she thought oh well, this guy must be super crazy about me, let me give him a chance and hear what he has to say...

Before anyone knew what was happening he was pushing to marry her, dates were fixed, wedding was done. Her parents did think she was too young to be marrying, but finally gave their blessings.  Everyone kept telling her how lucky she was to have a man who was stupidly and madly in love with her and she felt lucky, for the first few months. There was nothing he wouldn't do for her. He married her a virgin. And he was super proud of that, as he couldn't believe someone so exposed with tons of men flocking around her could have kept herself in tact. 

Like they say, when something is too good to be true, then it most definitely is. When she got pregnant, she found out he had a daughter outside wedlock he never mentioned to her. She was hurt and mad because the period he was stalking her, there was a richer doctor, who was a business man too, that wanted her hand in marriage but when she learned he had a kid outside wedlock, she said she couldn't marry him as the lady in question was very troublesome and she didn't want any baby mama drama in marriage. Some of her friends advised her to, that she should focus on the money, as it would distract her from any drama, but she laughed them off, she said having peace of mind was much more important (not like her husband was doing badly in any way, in fact, he was more than comfortable himself, just that the other guy was super rich.) So imagine her disappointment when she found out her "beloved husband" had fathered a child too, that she knew nothing about it. However, she advised him to get the child so the little girl could have a proper family and be brought up with their future kids, but he refused. Saying the girl's mother said over her dead body, she would never relinquish custody of her child. It was quite messy, but Thelma tried to be mature about it all, just to later find out that Mr. Good husband was still having a sexual relationship with the supposed baby mama! That led to a very huge and crazy fight between them, and then his true colors came out. He beat her up so bad (with the pregnancy) that no one believed. It was a miracle she didn't lose the child. He later went and brought his entire family, wedding sponsors, church members, friends and even some of his close colleagues she respected to beg and as usual, she decided to forgive on the condition that it never repeated itself. Her parents didn't take it lightly and blunty refused for the marriage to continue, so he decided to sign an undertaking never to raise a hand on her again. ‎

Things settled back to normal quickly enough, he seemed genuinely sorry and besotted with his new baby. Did everything possible to show he had changed and was back to the kind, loving, attentive husband every woman would dream and pray for. Not too long though, the place Thelma was working closed down operations in Nigeria, so she was out of a job and the husband decided to open something similar for her to be managing, which she was happy to run while he continued with his job. Financially, they were doing really well for a bit and things were fine. They later had two more beautiful kids.

However, as they say, a leopard cannot change its spot‎. Not long after their third child, she got another shocker! She found out out of the blues that another lady had another child for him (in fact they gave birth almost the same time). She was SO bitter and decided there would never be any sexual relationship between them again, as she didn't want to get infected with any diseases from him. This made him mad and he started misbehaving even more. He wouldn't come home for days, wouldn't call or pick his calls, would refuse to say anything as to his whereabouts and when he came home the kids would be walking on egg shells as he would beat them up for no reason, punish them and just try all in his power to frustrate them, just to get to Thelma. He was an abusive father and husband. She did all she could to protect them, even reported to the police, but not much was done about it as they said it was a "family affair". It got so bad the little kids would put him in prayers when they were praying at night and they started avoiding him like a plague. 

He stopped Thelma from going to their office and put the other lady in charge. Her in-laws spoke to him, he fought all of them and since he was basically the bread winner and was footing most of their bills they (in-laws) also stopped talking to him about changing his ways after a while. He stopped giving Thelma any upkeep money, would torment her before paying fees for the kids. It got to the stage her parents had to step in financially to help and I was also helping out the little I could. She started looking for jobs everywhere to try and fend for her family, enrolled herself in school to get a degree in Business Administration, which she now has (since her prior certifications were on Air Ticketing and Reservations and no jobs were forth coming with those). She learned how to Bake, enrolled and took a course in Events Management, she was willing to do anything to put body and soul together. Especially because she had been independent financially for so long, it hurt her deeply she now had to rely on family and kind hearted individuals for basic needs. ‎

That was when I realized that when things decide to go bad, they can literally go from 100 to minus 0 in a matter of seconds. All the savings she had went down so fast, she was left with literally nothing. Not a shilling. Once she flashed me at night and when I called, she just burst out crying. She had just bought food stuff only to get home and realize there was no gas nor kerosene she could even cook with, then when she decided to use the last #200 she had on her to buy kerosene, she realized she had lost it. She said she turned the whole house upside down, looking for #200 and she cried not just because she and the kids would have to go hungry that night, but because her life at that moment was revolved around finding #200.  My heart broke into tiny pieces that day‎, I was angry at her for marrying the idiot of a man, at the fool who was tormenting her so much, at God for turning His back on her, wondering why bad things truly happened to really good people. 

Despite all these, you will not see Thelma outside and think she was passing through anything. She is always the first to offer to help people, always has a kind word for those she meets. She prays till date for her husband to be happy wherever he is (as he's basically now living with the other woman, they have two kids now) and to be a good father, she prays for the progress of her friends who have since turned their backs on her, she prays for patience from God, to be able to hold on until He turns things around for her.‎ There's no where she hasn't dropped her CV. There's no where I haven't dropped her CV. I have been looking for a job myself but I feel she has more needs and I tend to apply for her even more than I apply for myself. I do know someday, hopefully very soon, the God she serves so diligently will smile on her. And I hope more that till then, He gives her the strength to carry on. I genuinely don't know how she can still be so positive and hopeful, but she is and I wish I could have the strength of character she has, to say no to the men willing to help only if she agrees to have sex with them. I wish I could have the strength of character not to place curses on the husband. I wish if I ever was in her shoes, I would still have such an open and genuine heart to smile, be cheerful and thankful for little mercies. Even though her parents had to take two of the kids, just to release the burden on her, so she can be less troubled with their upkeep and many questions about "daddy", she still tells them only good things about daddy. Making excuses for why he doesn't call or ever visit them. 

So when next people want to use virginity as a yardstick for a good marriage, or life, please, think twice. Am not saying it's not a good thing to keep yourself, but don't think it comes with a clean check for the rest of your life. If you did keep yourself and got a genuinely good man, good for you. No one is saying Thelma would have met a better person if she wasn't a virgin, but my point is she was a virgin, she's educated, she's an incredible person but life has fucked her up through and through and is still doing so.

Na wah oh

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SIGNING OUT