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Tuesday, 2 August 2016

Pastor Adeboye Advises Single Men Not To Marry Ladies Who Cannot Cook....

The General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God, Pastor Enoch Adejare Adeboye is trending on the social media after giving remarks at the ongoing 64th RCCG convention on the expected lifestyles members of the church are to adopt.






1- Restricts ministers of gospel growing beards in the name of fashion..see here


2 - “I don’t want to see any of my pastors looking like fellows from the training camps of Al-Qaeda,”

3- “Anybody who brings tribalism into the church should either leave the church immediately or will soon die like Annanais and Sapphira.”


4 - “No pastor has the church’s blessing to impose Yoruba songs as part of the church service in other parts of the country, emphasising the need for pastors in other parts of the country to encourage the locals to sing and rejoice in their local dialects”


5 - The 74-year General Overseer also enjoined all pastors in the church to regularly do a medical check up to avoid unnecessary and sudden deaths that can be avoided if the proper thing is done.


6 - He also decreed that no RCCG pastor should be seen to be involved in arranging marriages among brethren in the church.


7 - Pastor Adeboye’s advise to youths “don’t ever marry outside the church and you have no reason to marry outside RCCG.


8 -“The reason is that if you are both from the same church even when trouble comes it is easier for the pastors to handle it!”


9 -“Don’t marry a girl who is lazy! Don’t marry a girl who cannot cook, she needs to know how to do chores and cook because you cannot afford to be eating out all the time.”  HUH?


10 - He announced the establishment of an Investigation Committee to assist the mission on issues bordering on security.


source: Twitter


*How about marrying a girl who is lazy and cannot cook and the two of you going for deliverance?NA WAH OH.
So who will marry those women?
SMH!


126 comments:

Cissy said...

WORD!!!!

Pipi Lee said...

You can't afford to eat outside ALL the time. TRUE!!!!

Rx Mams said...

You left out the part of not marrying a girl who can't pray for at least 1hr.
No comment sha 😒

Anonymous said...

Stella you even forgot to add "don't marry a lady who cannot pray one hour a day" and that's like at least. Like say if i pray 10minutes a day I am a sinner or my prayers won't be answered or that automatically makes me a bad wife. There r so many prayer warriors with bad disgusting attitude that u can't even live with them as wives. There was a babe in my hostel room, wakes 5am daily & prays,speak in tougues,cry join in the prayer session but she keeps malice pass,a backbitter and so stingy

Ibukunoluwa said...

Lol😘

Tuscany said...

I kinda agree. Dont ever marry a lazy woman. Its dangerous.

I also agree that as a Christian, you have no biz marrying outside. As oer denomination, i oppose couples attending different churches

CHI EXOTIC CHI EXOTIC said...

God bless you daddy
Leave the lazy ass girls to keep doing wife not cook.

STARRY LARRY said...

All I can see is No 7&9, nawa ooo




*Larry was here*

lamda j said...

True talk from daddy Adeboye.

Anonymous said...

I know that I'm diverting but I am really broken right now.
I'm a 24years old lady but I'm so confused right now. I have about 8 suitors, don't know who to choose. I am a graduate not working yet but have a growing business.
I got a call from my uncle saying he wants to see me. I went to his house this evening only for him to be asking questions like ; are u ok?, are u sure u know what u are doing, don't u want to get married, do u want to turn to 35 or 40 before u finally settle down. NB: I am close to my uncle.
The thing is that after my national service last year I started having many suitors, some go as far as coming to my parents house unannounced and makes their intention known. My problem is that I don't want to make a wrong decision, I'm scared of choosing the wrong one. I am a good girl so I don't want to meet the wrong guy though the suitors are ok finance wise. I want to marry for love but my parents are on my neck.my relations now say that I'm choosy.
I have prayed, fasted, cried yet I don't seem to know what to do.
Pls somebody should help me.
How do I know my husband? Not like am desperate but I got a prophecy last year that I will get married this year.
I need help!!!! I don't want to make mistake but everyone is against me now.
I'm down emotionally, I don't have pals to talk to.

Anonymous said...

This is how they restore people's marriages

Yemi7up said...

This is to Noble Igwe from Stella.

Anonymous said...

Na wa ooo so who will marry the lazy girls? So because a girl doesn't attend their church she should not be approached for marriage? To me this is his church doctrine, what will take me to heaven is what Jesus did for me. Thank you Jesus for loving me with all my flaws, left to some people, I for don die throway. Every one with their doctrine. Can't we preach love and unity and worship Jesus. Some people now will come under my comment to abuse me for my opinion, because they fear him even more than God. It is well.

kelvin happiness said...

ofcus ladies hv to learn how to cook its more easier to learn how to cook than writing long episode of chronicle telln us how ur housegirl,fuku fuku ur husband.

St.FranKooL.... said...

#God loves you more in a moment than anyone could in a lifetime*

GERMAN JUICE said...

But the man no lie na, he has said his own take it or move ahead shikena.

Anonymous said...

I notice redeem church and their tribal songs. A pastor would use cone and star a song with kabisi oluwa na so so Yorba songs them ddy sing.
He warn them well.

Blackberry said...

I see no problem with all he said.

Iphie dearie said...

Well,if you have Pastors from different tribes,the issue of imposing just Yoruba songs will not come up.

If the Military and some other conservative work places can maintain a no beard policy,i don't know why Pastors cannot be clean shaven. We are not dancing Egwu Awilo or Awanteliko na


Medical check ups,very important. I like the fact that he is encouraging them to pray for healing but still go to your doctors.
After all,God gave these Medical practitioners the wisdom they have.

Well,same way most ladies have married men that were inadequate in one area or the other is exactly same reason a man can marry a woman that cannot cook and teach her! Yes.

The only recipe for disaster is when she is not willing to learn,i think that is where the Lazy part comes in.

I love pastor Adeboye! Wisdom filled.

SteffySoFynSoFly said...

If a woman cannot
Cook
Clean
Pray
Respect God
Respect her man
Knows how to run a home and
Knows how to fhuck and hang legs in the window she has no business getting married.

Anonymous said...

NOBLE IGWE , Mr "wife not cook".....the matter is over to you. what have you got to say? Big mouth

Stella Asemota said...

Pastor Adeboye should address the corrupt practices going on in Nigeria first.

People are dying daily from economic hardship and he is discussing food, wife and babadash!

SONYES CAKES PH... 7AC83AE6 said...

Na dem sabi

Sweet Lolly said...

Okay,now that you have advised the men on what to look out for in a woman,won't it be fair and equitable that you advise the women too. Why must it just be women women women?when will it ever be men men men?




#Vikenx-Virus

xxxTrinityxxx said...

Don't marry outside RCCG? Is it now a cult? Noble igwe come and defend other women who can't cook since men have been told not to marry them.

St. Anonymous said...

Idk about number 7 though... that's extreme, no?

Baby Oku said...

Stella the gal shud go for deliverance herslf before getting married. I mean how do u knw a lady can't do the basics and u still marry her, then tomorrow u begin to complain..

How do u even marry a man dat doesn't ave a job?, must u marry?. Isn't that bondage? Sigh

St. Anonymous said...

I oppose marry different religion but different church is far fetch. I mean whilst dating/courting you can agree on what church to attend. My destiny is not tied to a church. I have no problem attending hubby''s or he attending mine. No biggie! All these dos and don'ts sigh

DonMayor said...

Heyy! Una hear ? I can't a woman with no cooking skills

Anonymous said...

No 7 is really wack.
So hez now telling couples to present marital issues to pastor for prompt resolution.
Ihe Oseburuwa ga ekpe na uwa nkea. Ike gwuru.
African...No..Naija mentality plus over religion go kill us for dis place.
So if ur wife no sabi kuk u can't teach her on dishes she knows naught abt.
Some will say mama no teach..wat if mama no de to teach nko nd she got none to guide her.
Nawa de way pple de see things fr dis century. Even touch not ... join sef

DonMayor said...

So pastors can't grow beards ? Na police or army work ? Na wah o.
I want to become a pastor and I get plenty "bear bear".. Lol

DonMayor said...

Daddy abeg no be by look joor.

SteffySoFynSoFly said...

If a man cannot
Provide for the family
Pray
Pay bills
Protect his family
Love his wife and
Gbensh her Toto wella
He has no business getting married

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

I sabi their type. Pharisees and saducees.
When I was in the UK there was one in my church (RCCG by the way). She can pray faya!!! So one day we were going for a programme I think it was in manchester or liverpool. Up north sha. Four of us decided to go together. Na so we dey waka for train station I tripped down the stairs as I missed a step. This woman started laughing. As in this patience ozokwor laugh. A medical doctor by the way.... The other members and travellers rushed to me to be sure I was okay. My £70 new sandals come cut sef. I vex ehn. She was laughing and saying that me who lives close by I'm falling as if I don't know train station. So what do i want her to do? Dance or jump!
Please was that the point??!! The others had to caution her that she should stop laughing cos it's not funny. She now waved her hand in this very sarcastic tone 'sorry oh!' Rolled her eyes.
On our way back, she was prompted by the others again to apologize to me properly (I didn't say a word to her. Cos I'm really too big for some bullshit) this woman said she won't apologize and started even picking a quarrel with me that I didn't ask after her husband as we didn't see him attend the programme. That if I don't like that she didn't tell me sorry, is that why I didn't ask after her husband? (Me? Ask after someones husband? Since when? Make un accuse me of fornication as I be single babe). One word I didn't say! Starts shouting on train that she's talking to me and I'm ignoring her. The other two members were shocked at her attitude. She dropped at the next stop. Both of them started apologizing on her behalf. I told them that it's my eye shadow and my yellow skin that's her problem.
The next Sunday, see her I church teaching Sunday school and leading prayers. Since that day I 'X' ed. You pray and be doing head like it wants to fall off. Yet your heart is so evil a that you're happy at any sight of downfall.

Abeg if we wan go church just go and serve God. Leave these people alone. Too many hypocrites

stunning slim shady said...

I love u, u are full of wisdom. I feel d aura of ur gentleness wen u comment. Keep it up.

GALORE said...

@Noble Igwe wen carry head like Abeaokuta grinding stone.....Come n see this oo...show your wife sef.




@Galore

xxxTrinityxxx said...

8 suitors. Y won't you be confused. 8 different men yore talking to all at once. Pray well and ask God to show you who your man is through a sign (be specific) or a dream

yasmeen s said...

what is it with "wife n cooking"these days? abeg leave husband for wife n wife for husband.. their decision their choice.. wareva rocks their boat as a couple..If them like n agree make d wife de cook if na the husband go cook all na their business abi maybe na to De chop for restaurant nothing consine outsider please.. every one should mind their freaking business jare

nina chocomile said...

Lol at ur epistle, and *side eyes* at you're a good girl. U want to know how to spot ur hubby in ur over 100 suitors abi? Oya let's go there "tumbom tumbom tuskalaba puu, alabalaba Kai Kai tintin boys and boys, who messam, na Mr okoroafor e messam e kpu!' whoever u stop at is your hubby. Oya thank me sharp sharp.

Monkey Face said...

So, lets get this right......

He says you have no business marrying outside the church and some christians are saying trash???
What has he said wrong?
Havent we read Chronicles here on this very blog where brides to be complain not of their would-be husband's character but of him being of a different denomination??
The truth is that EVERY denomination have laws/doctrines governing them. It didn't start today and it wouldn't end any time soon.
If he cautioned people against marriage between people of like belief, e go let person talk but he hasn't so why are we trying to raise dust over nothing?
Mtcheeeeeeeeeew

Even God commanded Abraham to go back to His Father's house and pick a wife among his kindred..... simply to avoid stories that touch

Monkey Face said...

Forget that prophecy you got

Got to God with a clean heart and He will speak to yin ways you alone will understand
Clear your head of every distraction and Wait on The Lord

xxxTrinityxxx said...

Chi wife not cook. It's not by force to cook or know how to cook according to Noble The Midget

Monkey Face said...

Gbam!

Ideato/IlajeBlood~ SDK FIRSTLADY said...

7 n 8 I don't support. Turning to JW gradually

PayUrsula said...

Did you read number 8 at all?

Anonymous said...

Stella kindly notice the BABADASH. Oriegwu!

PayUrsula said...

Ur comment is on point. Weldone

Anonymous said...

All these are in the Bible but people won't read. I totally agree with everything here. I'm a woman, educated but I see no reason why I should not be able to feed my husband .

MrsB said...

The reason for the Don't marry outside RCCG was stated in the next point. I wonder why people poke holes unnecessarily.
If laziness and a woman who cant cook irks you then don't marry a woman who has those characteristics and then cry foul later. If you can't be bothered, then go ahead and marry her.

Anonymous said...

And tomorrow when edible catering strikes they will be making noise on instagram.

Whirlwind said...

So someone from Redeemed cannot marry from winners? Hmm.

BonaParte NN said...

In the book of Hosea, the lord told Hosea to marry a prostitute to teach him life lessons and make an example of the whoring of Isreal. He did and even when she cheated, the lord told him to be patient and love her the way he loves Isreal.

Rahab was a prostitute of Jericho but became an exalted woman.

Mary Magdalene was an irresponsible woman but became an apostle beloved of Jesus.

Joseph married a woman who was pregnant and not for him and gave him a 'weird' explanation but he trusted God's word.

When has it ever been perfect? Even in the bible. Jesus loved the downthrodden, called women like the Samaritan woman and blessed them. Associated with fishermen. Made apostles out of hopeless tax collectors like Matthew. But Christians today want already finished goods. Where is a woman without faults? God has always exhalted the lowly, the imperfect.

In all of this talk, WHERE is LOVE? The 1st commandment?

God warned Peter that no one is unclean. Jesus told the pharisees that the widow who gave her last was the one God accepted. Also warned against verbose prayers full of emptiness. ONLY GOD KNOWS THE PRAYER HE ACCEPTS!

The assertion that one should choose a life partner from his church by all means (whatever practical reason he may have given) is wrong. The body of Christ which is the church is one. Doctrines are for religious people. A servant of God is a servant of God. A man or woman who will listen to the counselling of the man of God will listen. Didnt the Kenyan man attend the counselling from same church but cut off his wife's hand? A bad man is a bad man. It is impractical to tell people to avoid people from other churches just because when they quarrel to settle them this that this. Even if he finds love elsewhere? Are we not all creatures of God? It was said that they were many lepers in Isreal in the time of Elisha but God choose Naaman to cure. Its not by denomination pls. I beg to differ.

A woman that cannot cook or work can still make a good wife. God does not look at all these superficial things when he chooses to bless you. Dont turn away anywoman just for things like this. Love is key in everything. Without love its all an empty gong. Any woman can learn to cook anyday, any woman can wash and clean but not every woman can make you happy. Its plain. There is nothing worse than a man who is hesitant to come home because he does not love his wife. Marry one and you'll see that that her catering will mean nothing to you, her cleaning will never please you. But when there is love a man can tolerate many things. When there is love, a woman who cant cook will be struggling to learn just to please her man, during break at work, enrol in catering school. A man in love wont know when he picks a broom and sweeps the whole house. He will defend his wife, he will try to make her better. He will do everything to make her comfortable. She will do anything to make him happy. That is why every other thing is superficial. I speak from a position of experience, i've been to houses where the woman is very beautiful, cooks so well and maintains a clean house but husband will rather find a way to travel than be in the house. Almost like his house is chasing him away. When he comes home, he grumbles and finds fault. I've seen a man with a very virtous wife who does everything, he knows, he admits it even but he just cant love her. Thinks of divorcing her despite 2 kids and the woman has done nothing wrong. You better dont pray to be in that situation.

Jesus that said LOVE is the 1st commandment was not a fool for saying so. But if you like, follow the reasoning of man. All this logic cannot be said to be the mind of God. Its just a manual. No hard and fast rules.

Anonymous said...

I married outside RCCG, now he wouldn't even allow me go to church. The annoying thing is that am not even moved in his church which we attend once in a blue moon. Jesus please take the will, you know my mind, please grant my heart desire.

Anonymous said...

The economy is very bad eating out is not economical for those who work on the island to eat a very good satisfying starts from N3000 except u want to eat from places like grandsquare or shoprite. Do u need a Pastor to even tell u that don't marry a wife that can't cook. Some people have eaten their future all the money they are to save have been spent in restaurants. If parents have failed in training their children should it be at the detriment of another person's child. Companies have not stopped sacking marry someone that will allow u eat ur future. occasional outing yes allowed not an everyday affair.

Anonymous said...

Kevin any man DAT will cheat will cheat. Its good to know how to cook and do all the chores but you still need Househelp. Cook the food n refrigerate but leave cleaning for Househelp. If ur wife clean duplex finish by herself tiredness no go let her allow u pwwess bwess.

Anonymous said...

God bless you. Just teach her.

Anonymous said...

Don't worry when u clean duplex finish n cook finish lemmi see how DAT leg will hang n receive without u passing out. We women are the reason for this post part um depression. Wait and marry 1st then come n talk.. Mtw wwww

Anonymous said...

Pls I don't understand. That was how my pastor ( Anglican) said if your wife says she is not satisfied in bed u should ignore her after all ' is she a dog')
Meanwhile research has shown DAT most women find it difficult to cum cos some men can't dig it.
Please is sex not vital in a marriage?
Dh just capitalize on that one leave my bush fallow for months cos 'pastor say'.
I even told him I will cheat he said oya go bcos he is not even good in fucking to start with.
I'm passing thru a phase of depression now and its affecting me seriously I'm even contemplating cheating bcos I need to be happy.

Anonymous said...

@iphie nice point esp no 1, but that no 2 is what I'm not understanding, biko are we more conservative than the early Christians like the 12 apostles yet they all had beards including Jesus... just cos most self bombers have beards does not mean it should be casted. Tomorrow another sect will come up and if they are strictly shaven will men of God start growing beards?. The rules concerning a life partner to me is just about what you can condone, if a man doesn't mind his wife not cooking won't he marry a woman he loves but she can't cook, the one about hypocrisy got me asking the no of parish pastors that are igbos, are most not yoruba?.. the investigation committee will they investigate the murders of the slain woman and take the culprits to court as that one seems to have fizzled out. I don't want to start about the reason he gave for not giving an official statement concerning her death cos I doubt if he would say the same if it were his daughter.


One more thing, I just have to ask why I have never heard neither pastors nor reverend fathers preach that properties should be given to women when there's no male hier just like the daughters of Zelophehad, where God even gave a decree.


Ada

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Then what about the men?

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Good!!

Anonymous said...

Ladies, please RESPECT yourselves. Scarcity increases value. Be decisive, not bed hopping. Men actually NEED you more than you can imagine. So allow them to work for your respect, submission and your nurturing. rather than *falling* fast for the sweet words and inducements some men use to seduce, single ladies should stand firm in pride and dignity. The fact is when sex is no longer easily gotten from ladies outside of marriage, and cohabitation is phased out also, issues of disrespect n objectification of women and such will be less.

Anonymous said...

@bonaparte nn well said love is the only key everything else won't matter. May real love find me again.

SWAG LAFRESH said...

Trinity, just same way most tribe will not allow their children marry outside. The reason is stated in 8.

Ideato, its just an advice but if you marry outside, no one will pursue you.

I thank God for opportunity to minister at the opening ceremony of the 64th annual convention of RCCG themed AMEN.

SWAG LAFRESH said...

Tuscany 👍

Monkey face 👍

princevinco said...

The GO is saying the gospel truth. Most of the marriage crises we have these days are from men who complain that their wives don't know how to cook. If a lady doesn't know how to cook and is lazy to do the basic house chores, what is she doing getting married? If you are single, if you fail to heed the advice, you may surely regret tomorrow.

dapo said...

All the aforementioned statements are GO's opinion. Going out of it doesn't mean you will have a bad marriage but as for the outlook of pastors, if you can cope, leave the church cos he has the right to. Define the outlook of people that are with him

Ibukunoluwa said...

See pressure @ 24
Chaaaaaiii
My dear only you can talk to God
Pls don't make the wrong choice

Ibukunoluwa said...

Remind me again Whenhe became president
He is talking about what concerns him
Don't worry buhari and others will address the economic problems

Anonymous said...

This narrative upon this matter? Your story pass the Stella post.

Anonymous said...

Not to defend your husband or fault your decision to be dug by another penis but if you're cheating because you "need to be happy", would that be your response to every other issue in your marriage? You'll find someone else to do it since hubby can't do it? Has it dawned on you that you ain't ready for marriage at all?

Anonymous said...

Lol @dont mareyoutside redeem.and they will say its one God we worship.Rubbish.My sister married a redeem worker.Marriage has ended .dude is Violent.Even when they went to the same redeem pastors advice was you can't leave your marriage just pray for him to change.With all the beating you still advising her to praybfor change.I wish all their church members well.I am catholic and can marry Redeem if days where the love is from.The idea of not marrying outside Redeem I don't understand the one God they are preaching.

sisi eko said...

Until I confirm he actually said some of these things, I reserve my comment.

Some points made here are very much unlike Adeboye.

Anonymous said...

I'm also sure the Bible says to cut off your hand if it would lead you to sin but I'm yet to see "ye righteous" ones do it. Even the Bakassi people who did it in the South East were condemned with every word in the dictionary. If a woman who can't cook can make a good wife, would same argument hold for a jobless & lazy man that he'd make a good husband? There are natural roles in the family and any party who can't hold their role is bringing strain on the relationship. Stop making excuses and face the realities of life. A woman who can't cook, what will her children eat? Bread and biscuits? How will she groom them to go into a man's family as a wife? Biko open your eyes and be wise

Me Too said...

Them take sex do you? See the effect of over exposure to porn and sexual immorality. When you have had too many men in your life. Our mothers got married as virgins and stayed long in marriage Cus they didn't sample zillion d**k.
If you had not tasted different types u won't know that one is big or small.

Me Too said...

Them take sex do you? See the effect of over exposure to porn and sexual immorality. When you have had too many men in your life. Our mothers got married as virgins and stayed long in marriage Cus they didn't sample zillion d**k.
If you had not tasted different types u won't know that one is big or small.

Anonymous said...

Wow Wow such good explanation! There's still hope for this generation! Thank you for this!

Anonymous said...

@trinity I wasn't talking to all at once. They all came as casual friends but later made their intention known.

Etsako Girl said...

This is one of the reasons why Religion is the cause of most problems in the world. We claim to serve one God through Jesus Christ yet we are still reasoning this way (my church, my pastor said this). What did your bible tell you cos na as pastor understand am na so e go interprete for you. People read your bible and pray. May God help us all

Na Me Talk Am!!! said...

Bonaparte, bless you!
The one that irritated me the most is "don't marry a woman that cannot pray for an hour" wtf? I use to respect this man fa

Dr Sucre said...

A million kisses for you Bonaparte!!!

Virtuous woman said...

I have tried so much to restrain myself from commenting on this wife and cooking talk bcos I rarely comment to start with sef.
I don't know about any other country but in Nigeria, all women are expected to be domesticated. Why won't you know how to cook for heaven's sake. This end time is really affecting our thinking negatively. I'm not saying you don't need a help(I have 2 infact). I'm not saying there are times you may not be able to cook(my hubby cooks sometime) but as a wife, you MUST know how to cook, haba! The man has his duties too:he provides shelter, food and clothing for you and the children, if he doesn't you send in chronicles of how frustrated you are. Tho, women help with that too these days but we find it inappropriate to be fully saddled with it. Enough said, whatever rocks your boat.......

Virtuous woman said...

If you have ever listened to him talk on marriage, you will know he usually advise ladies not to marry jobless men, men that don't fear God etc. I wonder why we don't ask who will marry the jobless ones then

Virtuous woman said...

When Catholic Church came up with don't marry outside the church, people were screaming, now pentecostal Churches too have started. I can't laugh o. Truth is these are points that cause issues in marriages. They are not supposed to, if we are wise but they do. For pst Adeboye to say don't marry outside the church, it means he has seen alot of issues bordering out of it and his reason is very apt too. I'm not a Redeemer(but I'm redeemed) but I agree wit him

Anonymous said...

Sometimes...this basics is what leads to the bigger one now

Anonymous said...

I dey tell u, since I started learning how to fuck my wife well wit steady long strokes. I Don dey enjoy my marriage again. Woman get responsibilities and man get responsibilities. When both do their job, the marriage must work now

Anonymous said...

Lwkmd @ "I'm a good girl and don't want to meet the wrong guy"...if I may ask, what makes you a good girl? You sef greedy, with all these Aunty Gwegz hovering in every S&M, you have 8 people on your case and you're keeping them all by yourself? Anyways from a man's perspective, call me names as you wish but at 24, you're too young to be married! Forget all these societal pressures and shit, it's better to "experience" life and figure out what you want by yourself and not being pressured into it. It'll be more disastrous that you wake up one day and "realize" you've not discovered yourself based on going from one shelter (parents house) to another (matrimonial home) and then begin to exhibit youthful exuberance in your matrimonial home. My candid advice, pick one suitor and date for 2 years before this "thing" called marriage, it's never as rosy as it sounds on paper. My 2 cents

Virtuous woman said...

Stella, you said who will marry the ladies that cant cook and are lazy. Who marry the jobless and poor guys you advise against too? Truth be told, laziness is bad, to take care of children alone, you have to be up and doing. Househelps will not do a perfect job of bring up ur child for u o

Asoge Atelier said...

Chikito....


Don't mind them oo. They are so plenty ehn! I remembered one incident like that while I was in school. Two so called "spirit koko" back biting me after giving one of them a "return back to school gift" and I turned my back to go back to my hostel to unpack. Only for them to start derogartory talk about me. Meanwhile, there was a law student (a guy... whom I do not know at all) in that vicinity who saw me gave them the gift and left. He witnessed the whole talk. Four weeks later as God will ahem it we bump into each other and became friends after some months (I guess after studying my character) he asked me that "on a particular day, you came to so so place and gave two ladies so and so items(he mentioned the items) " I was like "yes" he further ask "are they your friends? " I ws like "yes they are " the guy said " no I don't think so bcos if they are your friends you need to be careful around them. Cos of things they were saying about you and the manner with which they paint you is bad and they are not true "

I beg this guy to tell me wetin them talk but till date he did not tell me(i always respect him for that confidentiality nature of his)

Na so I run ooo. (I prefer to be friends with sinners who are sincere and not hypocritical) than with spirit koko who are evil.

Oby O said...

Please leave the bv who is depressed due to the decline in her sex life alone.. Which one be them take sex do you?? She might as well become a nun now since them no take sex do am... If it were to be the other way round you think the man will be this patient? My sister dont mind them.. Pls seek advice from a mature person the both of you respect.. Pele my dear.. It can be super frustrating!

Anonymous said...

@ Chikito, I get you 100%. Church people especially those ones that can pretend to pray, hyperventilating and shouting as if they are the only ones close to God, fear them. They are only using church as a mask. The best actors and actresses should go to some church people. In fact from my experience, I fear them. That was how I carry church mind enter one church, never knowing that I was in the midst of evil minded people. Their own was dragging one into competition that one is unaware of. Who marry, who rich pass, who gather more friends pass. The extent of their stupidity was not even wanting to shake hands with me and husband. Their was this girl from east Africa married to a white man, her slave trade mentality is something else. Up the ass of all the whites in church. If she never compete with you, you are not yet a member. What about gossiping, they are the champions in that. Well, thank God we left the church o.the church scattered and I think God made it that way so people with church mind would not lose the faith.

Oby O said...

I totally agree.. Its not about praying for two hours or two minutes.. Its about the heart biko.

Anonymous said...

@ 24 you are still so young. Why get into marriage when you are so unsure. Live life, enjoy yourself, travel, advance yourself. Do not let anyone pressurize you into getting married when you are not sure who you want to spend the rest of your life with. There is absolutely nothing wrong marrying in your thirties. Live life dear. Dream and reach for the skies. Anyway that does not tell you his intentions and goes straight to your parents for your hand in marriage is questionable. How does he know your what you are like, your characteristics, your ambition, aspirations etc. It is their type when you get to their house and you are not what they expected, domestic violence starts. Think well and pray well. Good luck

Oby O said...

Lol@Edible Catering, you see the truth is different strokes for differnt folks. My husband will never eat out.. I have to force him to taste food at occasions and mi d you he cannot boil an egg to save his life o! But the good thing is i love cooking for my family there's this satisfaction and love it creates in the home.. I cant explain it but thats the feeling.. If your hubby does not mind your not cooking at home goodluck to you.. But I've seen so many cases where the man did not mind but eventually ended up with a woman who made out time to cook for him along with other qualities.. Proudly team wifeyandcook...

Oby O said...

My darling pls forget all thid prophesy story and ask God to lead you to your own manand at the right time too.. You are still young at 24 and I'm impressed you have a growing business. Why not channel your energy into turning it into a brand instead of worrying over nothing. These things work themselves out with time trust me.

sholaylee said...

It is so easy for all of you to castigate, when you have problems who or where do you run? And for your information he was speaking to his minister's who are meant to be Christ army.if they have challenges regarding eating or house keeping how can they fully focus on delivering the world to Christ? A word is enough for the wise.





Oby O said...

Mba oo Steffy, for me i can get people to clean the house for me o while i cook, take care of my kids, tend to my business and bang the heck out of my hubby... Its not that easy playing tbese role set.. Truth is you will be exhausted at the end of the day if you do all these at once...

Oby O said...

Lol@eating thier future away... True talk sha.

reemah said...

Balderdash. You are welcome.

reemah said...

Yes!

Anonymous said...

Love is blind but marriage go open person eyes . I totally disagree with what daddy GO said that a RCCG member should not marry outside. What if RCCG brothers refuse to see RCCG sisters?

Cissy said...

@ Bonaparte, just know uve won my Heart with this your comment.
Kisses dear...this to me is Christianity.

Anonymous said...

Bonaparte you must be a wonderful person to have this knowledge and wisdom and insight about relationships and marriage. People should know that marriage is not about religion, it is spiritual and about covenant. When you truly love someone, no flaw the person has will keep you apart.

Anonymous said...

One of my of oga at the office is a woman who doesn't cook and she announces it with pride that she has never cooked in 18yrs of marriage,she makes over a million monthly and her husband isn't complaining.

Crystal said...

Bonaparte has made the most sensible comment here. So much wisdom in one person.... God bless you

bakejimmy said...

ITS JUST AN ADVISE, AND MIND YOU ALL, YOU CAN CHOOSE TO BELIEVE WHATEVER YOU WANT TO, HE IS TALKING TO HIS MEMBERS AND SOME PEOPLE OF DEEP UNDERSTANDING, DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY COUPLE HAVE COME TO HIM FOR COUNSELLING CONCERNING THIS MATTER, MANY PEOPLE'S MARRIAGE HAS BROKEN COS OF JUST FOOD, CHORES , LAZINESS, JOBLESSNESS. YOUNG PEOPLE ARE JUST OUT THERE DEBATING RUBBISH! IN 20 YEARS MOST OF YOU WILL LOOK BACK AND SAY SO THIS IS WHAT THIS MAN IS SAYING. SOME LAZY GALS HERE ARE TRYING TO PYSC THEMSELVES INTO BELIEVING MARRIAGE IS ALL ABOUT SEX. OK CONTINUU. VERY SOON YOU WILL REALIZE THAT "THE WAY TO A MAN'S HEART IS HIS MOUTH" WHEN "EDIBLE" CATERING TAKES OVER, YOU WILL BE SHOUTING. IF HE TELL HIS MEMBER TO MARRY FROM THE SAME CHURCH ITS NOT COMPULSORY, ITS JUST AN ADVICE! BECAUSE WHEN YOU START BELIEVING DIFFERENT THINGS AND YOU ARGUE, YOU GIVE YOUR CHURCH LEADERS ISSUES. LIKE I SAID, YOU CAN CHOOSE TO BELIEVE WHATEVER YOU WANT! WE ALL HAVE OUR PRINCIPLES

Anonymous said...

I believe that every image of God or Jesus on this planet earth shows both with beard and plenty of it to be exact. I don't believe it's anyone's place to discriminate against anybody especially in the house of God because of mere beard. Him that is likening beard with Al-Qaeda folks, don't he realize that the punk abi shalama haircut he wears is associated with party freaks? Clear case of pot calling kettle black. Western Military folks don't wear beards because of tactical reasons, African militaries seem to have taken after their colonial masters but in the Middle East...soldiers wear beards and very thick ones for that matter, so to the person comparing military with the church, it's like apples and oranges...absolutely no comparison at all

Anonymous said...

It is important for a woman to learn how to cook, but it shouldn't be ta reason not to marry your wife. When i met my husband being a yoruba girl i couldn't cool ogbono, their type of egusi, white soup and bitter leaf soup. my mother in law was making them and sending to us weekly, till my husband taught me and sometimes when we visit her i will stay with her in the kitchen. the marriage is over 16 years and we are still going stronger though i still struggle with the white soup sometimes. It is all about understanding your selves and humility. A lady that is humble will get away with so many things, just don't open your mouth and be shouting am i a cook. Sometimes i get home and my hubby would have made fresh fish stew with rice if i get home later than him. Please ladies, you can make or break your home.

Anonymous said...

Don't mind them, even when is came to receiving Holy Communion it was like what are Catholics doing? Now ALL pentecostal churches are now receiving Communion! Only God knows

Marilyn Monroe said...

The abundance of common sense is wisdom. God bless you Bonaparte.

Anonymous said...

God bless you Bonaparte. I married my husband a Muslim, with God's grace he converted to a Christian.... We've been married now for 19 years and still crazy about each other. Am happy I won a soul for Christ, and by the way we attend redeemed. Love is the key to a successful marriage.

Anonymous said...

@ me too sorry o but his dick is big n I'm not talking bout sampling here. It falls after 1st round.don't t worry I pray that u n anon pass thru wat I'm passing thru ijn amen, them u WL remm .me

Jasmine said...

Anon 10:32, God bless u. When the money is there, u'll force me to cook always ni? Mtchewww

Jasmine said...

Exactly!!!

Anonymous said...

Every Christian should be able to pray for an hour. At least some of you spend more than one hour on SDK blog. What is one hour that you can't spend with your maker.

Olori_1812 said...

TRUE WORDS bet ermmm, dont marry from outside the church ke?..HA!

Iphie dearie said...

Nice points@Ada and anonymous 11:34
I guess my opinion is influenced by my conservative Christian background... Catholic church.

I still find it weird when I see men of God looking all "bearded up" Guess it will take a lot of getting used to.

Stunning Slim shady...Thank you so much.
I get small craze sometimes oooh.LOL

Anonymous said...

@chikito, must you narrate story of your life on every post? Sotey, you couldn't remember wether the church programme you attended was in Manchester or Liverpool. Your £70 new sandal even cut in the process of your falling. Easy abeg.

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Asoge and Anon 09:20- them plenty oh! Churcheous people? They are just religious. Not broken in ANY way. They can't get us. Our good hearts and works will continue to speak. Just ignore. That's the remedy for such silly people.

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Anon 😂😂😂

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Bonaparte Oya come lets Marry 😜

Anonymous said...

Who da heck are you shouting at with this epistle written all in caps?

Anonymous said...

Which Pope made that declaration not to marry outside the Catholic Church if you're Catholic?

Anonymous said...

My dear, I may not understand what you are going through, but God does and I tell you, cheating is not the answer. Maybe you should try seducing him. Instead looking for how he will please you, please him instead, and see if he doesn't reciprocate. No funny business, just plain loving

claremarie10 said...

Pope's don't make decisions alone, all of the Catholic Church's teachings are agreed upon at the Vatican council. And yes, it is agreed that you must not marry outside the church, but if you do, you must perform the marriage in the Catholic Church to be able to continue receiving the sacraments of the church

Anonymous said...

Bonaparte , I have not seen anyone who made brain since. I respect this man but this one got me like wtf. He just spoke from the canal realm which is wrong .were is the place of love in everything he said ? Non expressed love , even Jesus wouldn't advice people this way so look to God who is the author and the finisher of your faith.stop saying what God didn't say. If it were some controversial pastors in Nigeria who said these same thing now, their head and eyes will open that the man of God his wrong and start criticizing . What I hate about Nigerian Christians is that we so sentimental as far as they are the one, the holiest church that can't be found with any stain or blame . Bunch of hypocrite.

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