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Tuesday, August 02, 2016

Understanding Postnatal Depression - Part 1

The postnatal period (period after childbirth) is a crucial period when a new mother undergoes the transition into motherhood while infants develop and adapt to their new environment.




  A postnatal mother is likely to undergo some physical, emotional, social, psychological or hormonal changes. Postnatal depression affects 10−15% of mothers and can lead to cognitive, and emotional disturbance in the baby alongside the negative effects on the mother. The negative impact of postnatal depression can affect the mother’s ability to cope with the care of herself, family, infant, and particularly low parenting functioning. Many women don't realise they have postnatal depression, because it can develop gradually.

The symptoms of Postnatal Depression can be tricky for doctors to diagnose as it is very common to feel out of your depth and alone after having a baby. As many as one in three mums can however go on to develop postnatal depression. Thus, VIDEO below will help new mums, their family and friends recognise the signs or symptoms of Postnatal Depression.


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  • Decrease energy
It feels as if you have a log of wood sitting in your head and all you want to do is curl up in bed. You are hiding in bed all day and then blame yourself for being a bad mum. Panic attack sets in
  • Anger, Irritability, and moodiness
Everyone makes you angry. Your baby, husband or older children are irritating you at a level that you have never felt before. Sometimes you might want to throw things and yell at everyone. You know that you should not be mad or get angry but you can’t help it. You are worried about how rough you are being with people you love. For those that live in shared house you complain about everything your neighbour does.
  • Frequent crying for no obvious reasons
You cry about anything and everything. You cry your eyeball out and you think you are going crazy. Sometimes you feel bad that your baby see you cry all the time. Then you think of yourself as a wicked creature and you cry more.
  • Withdrawing or limit contact with people
You always do not want to speak to anyone, you want to close the line of communication as soon as you can. For example think of your your husband or partner as business partner on project raising daughter or son. You push him away when he gets close to you and instead of recognising your illness you blame him
  • Difficulty bonding with baby
You might find you're unable to bond well with your baby, you interact less with baby and you are less likely to respond quickly to baby needs such as breastfeeding or even you don't play with your children. Sometimes you react negatively or do not even respond at all to infant needs

One of the biggest challenge of postnatal depression is stigma, our society tends to hold negative attitude and belief about mental illness. It can be very difficult to acknowledge that you are struggling and seek treatment. Stigma adds more pressure on new mums to be perfect caregivers. Sometimes you feel as if the world is watching you a little more closer and may have negative assumption. Be brave and take the first step to to seek help in order to avoid bigger problems in future.

If you think you may have developed postnatal depression, speak to your doctor, family or friends such as friends that can help you find important things when you have lost them, things like your smile, your hope….you don’t have to be alone with postnatal depression.  If you think someone you know someone who is depressed, encourage them to talk about their feelings to you, a friend and their doctor.

The more women shout and scream and tell people about their conditions and the injustices they face because of postnatal depression, the more we have to sit up and listen and, more importantly, actually do something about them. 

One in four women will experience mental illness at some point in their lives – but that means four in four of us know someone who will. So if you are struggling right now – if it feels like the light has been extinguished and all hope is lost – please, this week, tell someone. Because only by telling someone can things start to get better. They can get better, and they will. 

For questions and enquires email: Omobolanle.omisade@gmail.com

Use #‎abovePND to raise awareness of postnatal depression in Nigeria. #endstigma
#supportPostanalDepression.


Kind regards,

Omobolanle Omisade


47 comments:

  1. Noted.
    Thank you ma for this post....we need something like this on STRETCH MARK for mothers and expectant mothers pls.
    Pls I need to know how best to treat(manage) stretch mark during pregnancy and after delivery.
    Mine is becoming too obvious for my liking.
    And also....is cocoa nut oil actually an anti stretch mark oil?
    And what is the best cream for any expectant mother(s)in reference to dark skin.

    MOTHERS. OR. ANY. MIDWIFERY. IN. THE. HOUSE. PLS. HELP. A. SIS. OUT.
    Thank you.

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    1. Sorry dear, I'm pregnant. Having them too. Asked gyne, he said no way around it. Just continue with whatever oil you are applying to minimise the appearance. You can go for laser treatment layer after birth.

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    2. Sweetie u just have to fall in love with your stretch marks. Once u have it, there is nothing that can be done about them. I have used it all here in the UK for the past 6 yrs and nothing helps. I have accepted them as my love scars.

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    3. Use rescue oil or bio oil for stretch mark.

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    4. Workaholics Anonymous2 August 2016 at 20:26

      Pure Shea butter and coconut oil are very good natural remedies.

      Apply while your skin is still damp after a bath to seal moisture in.
      Better still, don't wait till you're pregnant or develop stretch marks to start using Shea butter.

      I've been using whipped Shea butter for over a year now on my stomach and thighs and my skin on those areas is so supple and smooth, I'm considering using all over my body now.

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    5. If your mum had stretch marks while pregnant, you will most likely have them too. My mum has Zero stretch marks, so I wasn't worried. I still used cocoa butter anti stretch marks lotion n bio oil when pregnant, also Shea butter after baby.

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    6. I read on @curamadre page on ig that ori n coconut oil wrks 4 stretch marks.

      - Nwa Baby 1

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    7. You'll be lucky to find anything that works for stretch marks, esp when pregnant. I say this because I had access to everything ever prescribed during my pregnancies, esp my first. All na wash. I bought expensive oils, used all sorts but it did little or nothing. Just leave it alone, cos some creams make it worse. Luckily I don't have them anymore. Save for a few lines across my belly which isn't even noticeable.

      Its a thing that comes with the joy of motherhood. Just take your mind off it.

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  2. Thanks, men should read this too. After all these, some mother in laws will still come with their own cunny ways and wahala, increasing the stress for women and complaining always. Rubbish

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  3. I need help I'm suffering from it. Its suicidal

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    1. Am suffering from it also. Am so tired. My baby disturbs a lot I don't sleep most nights. Hubby says am a bad mother that I can't train our baby to be quiet. He says his mum had 8 of them and she trained them to be calm. Am so so tired feel like vanishing from this world. Lugging my baby along to work taking two buses to get there. No help he won't even allow my baby spend some time with granny to give me little peace.

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    2. leave your baby with him just once... He'll understand how far afterwards

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  4. Little wonder why I was bawling at my kids

    Cried a bowl of tear, with no just cause... all around me have a question mark
    Lord save ur people.

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  5. Am gradually coming out of it. It is more frustrating when you don't have help around.

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  6. Thanks for this infor bc unfortunately many Nigerians are not aware of this. I have seen two cases of this - the first of which the woman was sent packing by her hubby claiming there is madness in her bloodline and she died many years after being fully insane. The second which God helped me to assist in saving - a woman who gave birth to a son after 10 years of struggle with fibroid.

    May God always position us to assist others (esp women)when need be. Amen.

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    1. That one is post partum psychosis or post natal psychosis. Together with PND are part of psychological disorders of pregnancy.

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  7. Omo! I almost crase after i had my baby o...but mercy said no. Alone and hubby away on business. Not funny at all. Plus recuperating from CS. That is when i confessed that there is an indescribable power in the name of JESUS! The thing real very well. New mamas need all the support they can get.

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  8. This is helpful. Stella dn't swallow my comment o.

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  9. The poster is right. Presently am nursing my child of 2months, there was a time i was angry with everyone without any reason, sometimes it'll be as if there is no breast in my breast, and i wont be in a good mood bcos of that. Even people that call to congratulate me i wont pick their calls, i'll feel they are calling too much, too bad of me. But later i asked myself what is wrong with me. But thank God it is settled now.

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  10. This shit is real...ive been there,no be beans at all

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  11. #Be thankful for the bad things in life. They open your eyes to see the good things you weren't paying attention to before*

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  12. Lol and to think I discussed dis same issue with my gf dt just gv birth in class today..

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  13. Hmmmm thank God for his love,when I had my baby I was suicidal,always thinking of killing my baby.crying and quarreling with my hubby.thank God am fine now

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  14. Please new mothers need to always have people with them

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  15. Just what I am feeling now. But I will surely get over it by God's grace.

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    1. Heeya its well wt u. That means this post is just in time for u. Congrats on ur new born.

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    2. Heeya its well wt u. That means this post is just in time for u. Congrats on ur new born.

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  16. I had the post natal blues..PND is the extreme form. Like a day after delivery I just realised that my life will never be the same with a lil human being to care for..and oh my son was a very demanding baby.I remember crying my eyes out that my life was changed forever,and I would never really be free to do what I wanted.thank God for His grace that has brought me thus far.

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  17. Everyone needs to be aware of PND to be able to recognize the signs in new mothers and help them access help.
    @ BV blackberry, pls how much does one injection of glutathione cost and how many times will you need to take it to achieve lightening? Also how often will you need to take it for maintenance? Can you use it with regular creams and still get adequate results?

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    1. As in very insensitive and stupid, anyways Na miss she never enter am

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  19. Stella i think you should start a pregnancy series let's all get to know how pregnancy treat different people.

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    1. True o, she needs it, a lot of people think pregnancy is glamorous and find shocks after birth, especially peeps that don't have mum or mother inlaws around

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  20. I was a victim, the feeling was terrible and awful. There is no way to explain how I felt, it felt odd like I was the worst mother in the world. I searched deep for the joy and excitement a new mother should feel but there was none, I was blank, plain and a feeling of inadequacy.
    Google was my only succor and God was my hope. Thankfully I had read about it on this blog, so I wasn't so clueless.

    It is surprising that nobody talks about it, it makes you feel so odd that you can't even discuss it with anyone, the feeling is more of shame than odd, actually.

    Thanks for this write up and educating others. Prayer overcomes all

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  21. Very informative.
    My mom actually said that it is the main reason behind doing 'Omugwu' for a new mom, you look at your daughter's countenance, moods and temperament especially when she's carrying her baby. And my mom says that once a nursing mummy is suspected of being depressed, she won't be left alone with the child in case she kills the baby. She says that that's where family even extended family especially the female folks rally round and make sure that the lady sef isn't alone, that she's really resting, and often the elderly mothers counsel the new mom. Mmmmmmmm! I really really really learnt a lot from my mother when I had my first baby.
    May God continue to help us all.

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  22. That feeling is something else erh...at a time i was just moody, my brother and his family came with lots of goodies but didnt even remember to even fake a smile to indicate that I appreciate all they brought..well thank God for life, my next baby i ve promised my self something...till then though

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    1. Mothers should share this,Stella pls start a post about it like wnb, God bless you

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  23. Motherhood is d best, wish someone can help me wit this ulcer am facing after child birth.am tired.

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  24. I had everything written up there. It's real. Thank Gif for my mum who was a nurse and understood it all. Hubby and her were great

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