This Narrative hurt me reading it....awwwww!
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
WHEN RELIGION TEARS LOVE APART
Nwunye Korkus, I greet you. I want my fellow BVs to read my story and answer my question at the end.
My story starts: I met my gf (now ex)in 2008 where we did a program. We were just friends then and we shared so many things in common but we did not date. After the training, I travelled to lagos where I served my boss and she got admission into delta state University. Because of the separation we lost contact.
Fast forward to 2014, I saw her on fb and added her and we exchanged contact. When I called and asked her how is life going with her, she told me that she has graduated and now resides in lagos working in her in-law's company. I was happy and told her that I am in lagos too.
I asked her out for a date and she accepted, on that day I wooed her and she accepted and then we became lovers.
Now I was free from my boss and had started my own business, thank God the business is going well.
I called her last month August and told her that I want us to define this our relationship so that we will know where we are heading to. I told her that I will like to settle down with her next two years (2018) and she told me that it will not work, that she is a Roman Catholic and her parents will not allow her marry a non Catholic.
She was telling me this with tears in her eyes because we love each other so much. I thought it was just normal thing of parents not allowing their daughter to marry someone they love but I realized that obughi ogu nne na agbaru nwa ya(it's not a fight that a mother fights for her child) when she said to me that the earlier we broke up - the better for us. I preached and begged her while cuddling her but she insisted on breaking up.
I called her aunty that she lives with to help me talk to her so that she will be able to convince her parents, but her aunty told me that she and her husband would have love to help out but it's not possible. That her own family (that is my gf's mother, her senior brother that is Rev. Father and her parents) turned their back against her when she wanted to marry a non Catholic. That she left the guy she was supposed to marry and waited until she got married to a Catholic.
She now told me that she did not succeed when she fought for her own, that she advises me to move on with my life because the chances of us getting married is zero. She now made it clear to me that if I marry my gf that her parents will be banned from receiving holy communion and her junior brother that is in seminary school will be sacked, also that my Gf's uncle that is a Rev. Father will be affected.
Tears rolled down from my eyes. It is now clear to me that I have lost her for life.
My question now is, how will a church that is preaching about love and unity and also preaching against tribalism and racism practice discrimination?
Since they practice discrimination what type of love and unity are they talking about on the pulpit?
Why is it that discrimination is very high in Roman Catholic Church?
I know some bvs that are Catholic will curse me but I don't care, all I need is the answer to my questions because deep inside your heart, you as a Roman Catholic you know that I am saying the truth.
I am crying while writing this because I am watching my love walking away all because of church and nothing else.
*I have no answers to your questions but if you love her so much and this really hurts,whilst you search for answers,why dont you become a Catholic too?For lovesake,after all,its one God we serve.
So sorry about your hurting.