STAND ALONE NARRATIVE...
TEENAGER WITH BOYFRIEND CHRONICLES
Hello Stella. I stumbled on your blog a few weeks ago and I've been a consistent reader...really interesting stuff you have here..keep it up!
Please hide my identity. And please post it, I need advice ASAP
So this is an issue about my relationship. I am currently 18years to turn 19 in feb next year... I just got out of a relationship with a guy last night ( call him mr X)...it goes like this.
I met him in a bus with a friend 3 months ago...I'm a BIG joker and very fun to be with(no be lie), so he got attracted to me. I ddnt really notice because a lot of guys think I like them because of my type of person. I talk to people I just met like I've known them for ages..
I guess he just felt comfy..so fast forward to a few weeks after, I saw him on Facebook under people you may know, I added him up as per I've met him before. We got chatting and he told me that he's been asking for my number from my friend( a mutual friend of ours,a guy. And no, the friend doesn't like me, he just felt it was wrong to give out my number like that) but that the friend said no...
I gave it to him as I felt there's no harm in it...we got chatting and he told me he liked me and didn't know how to contact me since we met...I had just previously left a relationship when I met him and I was still stuck on my ex(call him mr Y) and he really likes talking to me, like we were always on a call almost every minute of the day, sometimes, we both sleep off on the call...when he told him he liked me, I told him I didnt like him and I just saw him as a friend as he's 11 years older than I am...so he told me that he'll make me love him..
I thought he was just jinxing himself and his trick won't work on me..but after about 1month of constant convo, I visited him, spent the night at his, he tried to kiss me but I didnt allow him, we sha slept like that..nothing happened...
Another time, he slept over at my house, something happened..we didnt have sex sha(I'm a virgin but not a VIRGIN) we just smooched and all, he said I was making too much noises and we weren't alone in the house so he stopped..I travelled the day after that and we continued our conversation.
Mind you, we weren't dating all this time.
Earlier on, he asked me about my past relationship, I told him it wasn't necessary because it happened in the past...I had an issue with him, he has too many exes and he's always taking about them..I told him to stop as I didnt like it..plus, he has had sex with everyone of them...at this point, I still didn't like him.
Even after the smooching, I wasn't even feeling it, I just let him carry on...after I travelled, we kept talking, I've been away for a month.
Shortly after I travelled, I agreed to date him but It was because he stopped talking to me in detail saying I don't have a right to know anything about him because I'm not his girlfriend.
I understood but I really wanted to know him so I agreed to date him...we had been dating for a month now, I still haven't seen him again because I haven't returned...I didn't tell anyone about the relationship, even my friends.
Firstly because, I ddnt like him much, plus, I wasn't sure of his reputation, and I ddnt like his look/dressing. He wasn't up to my standard but he is an ambitious and serious person and I liked that about him. My ex was very unserious about his life...I need to add that I am someone almost everyone in school knows, because I talk to people a lot.
Literally everyone that crosses my path...I couldn't afford to date someone that will spoil my reputation....
*Why dont you 'Undate' him and face your studies first? Its better.....He is already touching you,what will do you when he asks for the main thing?Why are you already experimenting when you are not ready?Why not keep this thing and do it right?
You are just 18..so young..young enough to date if you want but too young.PLEASE JUST FORGET ABOUT MEN IF YOU CAN.....na wah
I am just confused and dont know what to say.