STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
STINGY TO A FAULT
Hi Stella, I got introduce to your entertaining and educative blog by a friend’s wife some months ago. And sincerely it has been amazing. I decided to write my chronicle, when I think am free.
Here is my story, Am a guy of 34 years old, going to be 35 by October this year. I have a childhood friend who is an orphan; he lost his father when he was 5 years old and also lost the mother at the age of 12.
We attended the same primary school and at the same time we live together in the same neighborhood. I have a great sympathy for him because of his predicament. He is the last of 6 born, having 5 siblings before him but everybody have to carry his/her cross to survive.
We lost contact after our primary school days in 1992. But as the fate will have it, we move to the same neighborhood with this my friend in the year 2000. We reunited again, and that was how we started our friendship again. Since then his burden has been on me in terms of feeding and other financial obligation despite the meager income from my mom been a single mother of 5 children.
Why I have soft spot for him is not only because is an orphan but also a jovial person. I am a kind of person that does not compromise my happiness. That is why am fond of him.
But all this while, I discovered that he is a stingy and selfish person but I ignored it because he is a person that cannot hurt fly. But he loves anything under skirt, he can do anything to have sex with whosoever he desire to sleep with. whether to lie or do silly thing. I have cautioned him on this issue several times, the excuse he gave was that, that is the only thing that gives him joy since he does not have parent. I have to overlook it and move on since we both are adult.
Recently, fast forward to 6 years ago. So many things about him started unfold. I discovered that whenever he has money. He will look for excuse to avoid me or fight me. during this period of spending his money, I will not see his brake light. But whenever he is broke, we will become friend again. Some years ago I lost my banking job, so I have to go back to street again.
He has never done anything positive for me rather than to influence me negatively. Even when I got married, he did not attend the ceremony even people that were not close friend came to grace the occasion. He apologizes later and begged me that he doesn’t have money then that was why he didn’t come. Meanwhile he lives in the 3rdstreet from my street.
I accepted the apology, afterall am not God. So I forgave him and we moved on. At a time, he got job with public service which I was very happy for him that at last God finally remember him cos he went through a lot. Many nasty things, he did that I cannot remember but lately I linked him with a relative to do a job for that person. This is the job, he doesn’t know much about but he has a friend that is a professional. I did it for him to repay the expenses he incurred during his wedding which was already affecting the marriage then.
My dear BVs, after collecting the job that worth close to 2 million naira, my friend started lamentation and started complaining that the job doesn’t pay him.
Pls note that am also striving for survival. I have to force 15k from him after confronting with verbal war. He gave me because he knows that he still have balance to collect. People will blame me that why didn’t I do the job myself but the answer is that the relative is a kind of person that will not like to give relatives that kind of job and the same time is not my area of specialization which the client is aware of.
When I discovered his lamentation, I have to get close to the friend that is doing the job for him, from my findings I discovered that he made 600k from the job which he bought a small car for himself. He didn’t tell me about the car, it was outsider that told me before I saw him driving it. All the same I thank God for him. Though during the period he was doing the job. I asked him for loan of 5k when my wife gave birth but he said he doesn’t have money.
I forget it cos I don’t want to play a thin god to him. So lately he played a selfish game as usual the way he has been playing it. It is a small thing ooooh. But I felt terribly bad and I decided to cut the friendship of 28years off.
Stella and my esteem BVs, this guy has never done anything Godly and positive for me despite my generosity to him all these years. Pls I need ur advise, are mine not been over-reacting and jealous of him. Stella your red pen will be appreciated thanks.