Chronicles don land oh...lol
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
A DIFFERENT KIND OF PERSON.
Good day Stella and fellow bvns. I have something that is kind of bothering me, I don't know if I should be worried or some people are just designed the way I am.
I don't like partying, I don't like drinking, I don't like sex. Its actually the sex part that bothers me a bit. I thought getting a head will help, but it didn't. I'm highly unromantic. I can stay celibate for ages.
I feel horny once in ages. My dislike for sex is a bit to the extreme that I sometimes avoid seeing le boo just because I don't want to have sex. I just love to kiss and cuddle and prolly foreplay.
My fear now is when I get married. I usually see sex as a chore not as sth pleasurable. It sometimes causes a little argument with le boo because he feels I should want it if I really love him.
Nobody has succeeded in making me like sex. I don't even know how to play with a man's cassava if he doesn't put my hand there or even ordinary nipples.
I have never been raped or gotten an unwanted pregnancy that lead to abortion so I don't think its psychological.
Should I be worried? Can a married man stay without sex? How do I improve sexually or romantically?
Thanks for your responses in advance and sorry for the epistle.
The guilt of pre-marital sex can also mess up your emotions,I hope you know this as well?your mind and body hates what you are doing and thats its way of trying to stop you..listen to it.
I might be wrong oh...lol
NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
WHEN A TEEN REVOLTS.
Good day Stella,please I need your advice and that of bvs.
I have a sister who is 14 years old. She will be entering SS1 when school resumes. She has a phone,but doesn't go out with the phone ( mum bought it for her) the reason the phone was bought for her was for ease of communication and for sending her on errands because mum is a busy type,also she uses the phone for her assignments,she also gets updated through the phone.
Now,she opened a facebook account by herself,she has become a facebook addict,she always chat on facebook 247.I have called her and gave her an elderly advice,she agreed and thanked me but never stopped. Recently,she has started welcoming her male friends in our house .
l am not always at home,l got a small job that keeps me busy as l await for my service probably by march next year. There was a rainy day,l came downstairs and found them( she and her male friend) playing under the rain,l watched them through the window they were playing so innocently,l called them and stopped them.
Please, my questions are :is 14 years old girl free to do things on her own since the world is civilised now? Should we collect the phone from her? But the phone is v. essential for errands(especially to my mum) or is it better we collect it and buy her a Nokia Torch phone? What about her assignments?
For her visitors,we have stopped her from receiving visitors both male and female friends and since that time she has been moody,she sees me as a wicked sister who doesn't want her to socialise,we are just two girls in our house others are guys.
Please Stella,your red pen is highly needed. My fellow bvs,your advice will go a long way too...Thanks
As i read this,i saw myself growing up and everyone trying to tame me by force.The result was that everything they tried to stop me from doing i revolted silently.Except have sex,i did everything all what i was ASKED NOT TO DO and frustrated everyone around me.
So my advice is that you becomes friends with her,take her out,get lovingly involved in her world and you will see changes and hear her tell you things .
Some kind of discipline doesnt work with some teens,you need to be smart about this,dont get your mum involved in trying to befriend her.