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Wednesday, 7 September 2016

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives..

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NARRATIVE NUMBER 1
STINGINESS FROM THE PIT OF HELL.


Hello Stella,
I decided to write to you when I read one of the stories on chronicles of blog visitors about her guy being stingy.
Here is my story: I met a guy while working, he had a business and he was pretty comfortable with a very good car and house.  Six months after we started dating, le boo had never given me as little as #200 for anything, I on the other hand will get him clothes, shoes or any nice thing I know he can use but he never got me a single item or even a #100 recharge card even when I visit him; 10 kobo will not drop from his hand, (even if I say that I don't have data, le boo will tell me that his data too is about to finish!).


Sometimes he'll tell me he's broke and i'll see that his account balance is over a million naira!  He even got a second car! (meanwhile he doesn't have a problem with asking me for money like babe, please give me #3,000 there, I don't have cash on me while I never asked for a dime so he doesn't feel I'm dating him because of his money). 

At the point the relationship was getting serious, I met his mum, family members and even his pastor, he met mine also. He was already on my case for us to do our introduction (so I was not a side chick). I was the one cooling him down because I really liked him but I wanted to watch him some more.

After about a year in the relationship, I quit my job to run my Masters program and I was not really getting money like when I was working so I had a heart to heart discussion with boo that it's being over a year and he has not given me one naira not even for my hair or upkeep. He was very remorseful and promised to change. The day I was about to travel, he gave me #5,000.... I was relieved that after all, he is not stingy (story!). 

6 months later I had an emergency and begged him to lend me #50,000 and he gave me a few days later asking for when I intend to return his money, I told him about two weeks. After the 2weeks, I didn't have the money yet so I told him to give me a few more weeks. About 3 weeks later, he called saying he was in urgent need of the money so I sourced for money, sent it to him about 4 days later and apologised for the delay and he told me no problem.

That evening I was with him and I was checking his phone for someone's address;  lo and behold, I saw the transfer I made to him and his account balance was #2,600,000!

I was so shocked! 

This is someone that in all of our two years relationship, #5,000 was the only thing I got from him!
Anyway, I took stock of my life and knew he was stingy (even in marriage I doubt if he will take care of his responsibilities), he kept pressurizing me for introduction and traditional wedding but I refused...  I broke up with him and met someone else, this new guy doesn't have as much as my Ex but if he has #5,000 he will send me #2000! 
Most times I tell him not to bother, he doesn't own a car but just managing. However, he cares for me and the little he has he tries his best. It's not about the amount of money he has but the love and care, love is giving!  Even if it's as little as a#100 recharge card! 

 It shows that you are on your partner's mind, you can't be in love and not give your money!  It's not possible. My Ex is trying to get me back now but it's not happening! 
Come December, I'll be getting married to my new boo and I do not regret my decision. If he doesn't change when you are dating, trust me he won't change in marriage!

Hmmmm!!!...Something struck me in all you said ''you cannot be in love and not give your money!''...I said these same words to someone but obviously 
it seems being stingy is inborn for some people..they wanna take it all,including emotionally but give nothing in return..good ridiance to your bad rubbish!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER 2
HEED PASTOR'S ADVICE OR GO HUSTLE...

Good Day Stella of life!
I'm a regular reader of your blog even though I hardly comment. God bless you for all the good work you have been doing.
Stella something has been eating me up for months.
I'm 27years from a family of 6 and the first child. A graduate, worked for two years before the branch of the company where I worked was closed down because we weren't making much profit. 

I got another job but the stress was much and had to quit.

 In 2013, I discovered I had Fibroid while I was serving as a corps member.
After NYSC, I went for a scan and was told I had ovarian cyst, the radiologist told me it wasn't fibroid. Later again, doctors said it was an infection, after some time they discovered fibroid again. I started having symptoms; heavy bleeding and blood clotting during monthly period.

 My period always comes with severe pains. I was a Muslim but converted to Christianity so my pastor told me not to have any operation that he saw spiritually that if I do It will start again after sometime and by then they will say they have to evacuate my womb so if I marry what would be the joy of the marriage without kids.

Mind you, I don't even have a boyfriend let alone getting married soon. So the pastor says I should believe in God because there is nothing God can't do so he kept praying and giving me anointing water to use. I left my job because the fibroid was really affecting me and even had blood shortage (21%) which the doctor said was very low so was placed on medication and told to eat lots of veggies. While working I saved little to enable me start a business but when I came home, things were pretty difficult because my parents had not been paid their 6months salary. I'm sure most people know what's happening in Kogi State, some got paid while some are yet to be paid even though they are cleared.

Now I borrowed them little by little till I finished everything in my account (I couldn't ignore assisting them knowing I could and seeing them hungry doing nothing). I was thinking they will be paid soon but till now nothing from Kogi State government. I have been looking for a job going for interview but yet nothing.  


Now my main problem is that I am really frustrated, so fed up of staying at home doing nothing but my pastor keeps telling me not to travel yet that the time isn't right that I'm still undergoing deliverance(due to some spiritual attacks most times). He says something good is about to happen and I know he is someone that his words do come to pass. 

I don't know what to do or where to go but I have told my mum by middle of next month if nothing happens, I'Il be leaving home. I don't care what they think or say right now, I can't remain like this.

My mum is worried because every month my period begins, it's another war of pains and heavy bleeding, I always visit the hospital every month so she is thinking of who will be ready to take care of me when it starts.
The doctor says the fibroid is 4 in numbers; 2 of it is about 6cm right inside my womb while the other 2 is 3cm outside. So my mom is also worried that what if they tamper with my womb during the surgery, would I  be able concieve?

Stella what do I do? No job,  no capital for business, battling with fibroid and in the midst of all these, there's no man in my life, no one to talk to. I feel so lost, these days I cry myself to bed.
Do I defy the pastor's warning and travel or remain at home doing nothing till I die of frustration.

Should I go ahead for the surgical removal of the fibroid?

What if my womb gets affected and don't have kids at all when I eventually get married or the fibriod grows back and my womb might need to be taken out totally because I heard fibroid grows back and the only permanent solution to fibroid is total evacuation of the womb.
I did a catering program during my NYSC so am thinking of relocating somewhere to learn how to bake  cake and learn make up and gele tying.


I am so frustrated and confused. I need BVS advice please. Sorry for the long epistle, I just need to pour my heart out. God bless you! Kisses

*I am totally at a loss for what to say!


157 comments:

Jasmine said...

Poster 1: good thing u moved on. Just tell him straight that he's stingy and you. Left and ain't coming back.


Poster 2: you said u know ur pastor's words don't come true? How did u know? Even if it doesn't come thru, why r u still waiting on his words? Ur choice

Brenda's Couch said...

Poster one, I was reading to see if you did two things:

1- if you sat him down and talked to him about his stongy character

And

2- if you still went ahead with the marriage proposal

But I am glad u passed very well. You are a real sensible woman. Some women would have been blinded by ''love'' and still gone ahead with accept in the proposal only to come back here and send chronicles.

Trut be told, marriage doesn't change someone. If u be akagum, that's who you be even in marriage.

Pen Duchess said...

Hmm @poster one, I can relate with your story. Thank God you left that stingy guy, Gosh, and I guess that you both had sex that time. That man has really eaten you osho free, anyway, please stick to your new boo, and pray for him, to have more, so that He can give you more
@poster 2,you are healed in Jesus name amen). Please keep hope alive, dnt stop trusting Jesus

STARRY LARRY said...

@Poster 1, chop knuckle jare, I can't date let alone marry a stingy man, there's love in sharing, I'm not stingy as well.

@Poster 2, you're the type that leave God and worship your pastor, some things are better done medically than spiritually. Don't let that your pastor kill you, if you can gather money for operation, please do that because that's the best option now. Best of luck dear




*Larry was here*

I am the queen and the boss of this blog said...

The reason why your ex does not spend on you is because you have the miss independent mentality!...
How can you not tax someone that fucks you all the time?...hian!...
I'm happy you have dumped him!...

Poster 2
Go for a surgery abeg...that your pastor telling you to continue praying while you are dying is wicked!...
Abeg leave that Kogi!...

PLATINUM said...

Poster two honestly i help you confuse bcos i dont even knw wat to say, i can actually read ur frustration from my fone screen. Please be strong n hold on to God, it is well.

School Life said...

P2, I pray the lord ve mercy on you. Plz dun loose hope in God.

God is the healer and last time I checked, his presence is everywhere. Go and help yourself, when it's time, God's healing will locate you anywhere you are...

Your pastor should keep praying and interceding for you anywhere you are.

God bless you real good.

Jack Brenda said...

Poster1: I got the same treatment from my ex boyfriend. He has never spend a dime on me. Am the one doing all the buying but still yet I dey give am free toto fuck. Am not regretting breaking up with him but I still love him because he was my first and last boyfriend.

Pen Duchess said...

Wow, it's another post on chronicles of blog visitors
Yeah my second best post
@ poster one you made s good decision by leaving that guy. Just stick to this your new boo and pray for him to have more
@ poster 2, you are healed in Jesus name (Amen). Please keep hope alive, and dnt quit trusting Jesus

ukwu dimond said...

poster one is better to marry a man that spend 1 naira on you than a man that has 2.6m and will not dash you 50kobo. Thank God you borrowed sense and run for your dear life, never look back or even give your ex another chance, stinginess is in his blood. A man that loves you will always want to take care of you no matter how much you have in your account.

congrats in advance.

EESAH (Christ Lover) said...

One of the worst things that can ever happen to any woman is to marry a stingy man. As a guy, I can't even make friends with a stingy guy sef let alone advise a woman to date a stingy guy

Blackberry said...

Take that fibroid out since its giving you problems, as for ur pastors advice about travelling, that one is up to u.

salt E said...

Poster 1: God bless u my sister, u applied the wisdom of solomon because some of us will still stay believing that the money in his account will become for both of them someday,oriegwu.

Poster 2: Heaven helps those who help themselves, have u also thought of if the fibroid can affect u when it's time to have a child and by then it will either delay u or worse can happen.How about u travel now? Sometimes pastors speak from their own point of view. Now u, what do u think God will want for u? To sit and keep doing deliverance till...? Or to help urself first by trying to do the surgery and watch God work?Good luck as u make ur choice.

ANGELRAY4SDK said...

@1, thanks for displaying ur stupidity.
@2, ignorance is a disease,u will die of loneliness if u don't go out and hustle like ur fellow girls.pastor my ass.

Blackberry said...

When u r miss independent u don't need to bother if ya man is stingy or not. Since I'm team tax collector, I dunno. Congrats on ur upcoming wedding.

The best amongst the cuties said...

Poster 2,ur story get as e be oo...so sorry dear, God will see u thru. It is well.

Scarlett said...

Poster 2, go straight and ask for assistance. Stop being cunning

Loveme Jeje said...

Poster 1.... That your guy must be from Imo State to be precise Mbaise. Most of them are like that. Thank God you borrowed yourself brain. Congrats on your up coming wedding.

Poster 2.... Please i take God beg you, go and do the Fibriod operation so that you will be free from this trouble. You are having blood shortage and your pastor is still telling you shit. Before doing this operation, pray to God and tell him to lead you safely. It is well.

SteffySoFynSoFly said...

poster 1
you are a sharp girl i hate stingy men, in as much as i dont ask men for money coz i work and have my own money, i dare you to be stingy. its not like am materialistic oooh but mhen if you cant borrow simple sense to know as your babe i need to be taken cared of then you are on a loooooong thing.
cant stand a stingy man oooh. *side eyes @ lee boo* love you to the moon and back




*hangs leg on the window*

Anonymous said...

Will you carry your two legs and go for the surgery and leave all this pastor nonsense. You people will die and in your coffin still be saying "my pastor said". Don't you have a brian? please use it. I find it so baffling how well educated and intelligent individuals turn to the biggest mugus on top this christianitty matter. Keep doing my pastor said until you die you hear. It is the same God that created the doctors that will operate on you and the same God that gave them the brains to be able to perform the surgery. This nonsense only happens in Nigeria. My pastor said ko my pastor said ni.

E Sylvia said...

Poster2 it is well their nothing God cannot do.hmmmmm🙏

Anonymous said...

Poster please pray and cry to God. Praise him and decree within you. Tell him you lay all Ur problems on the foot of the cross and ask for forgiveness of sins. Dear I was diagnosed of cyst. De pressured me to remove it. I almost lost faith cos the pain is out of the world. Today de can't see any cyst nd am pregnant now. Years later I keep thinking how it all happened. My testimony will remain permanent plus u Wil recieve urs. Amen

ukwu dimond said...

poster two forget that your pastor and look for something to do, if God bless you with cash just remove the shit, your pastor is not the one going through that pains every month, do it fast fast before it do more harm to your body.

glowy shoe said...

Stingyness is a sin...infact its also like witchcraft mbok... Poster 1, you don't need dat in your life

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white Berry said...

Narrative one: thank God you've moved on. Concentrate on this your new found love. Wish you well
Narrative two: what she first of all needs is support to get her fibroib remove. That's not a good one for a single lady then gets a good job, I feel ur pain. Different families and their challenges. May your helpers locate you.

Olori_1812 said...

s p e e c h l e s s

Anonymous said...

Poster you better go for the surgery before that fibroid will get to an extent where you will be unable to give birth. Better stop this pastor crap. The Bible says God helps those that help themselves. You better help yourself and go and have the surgery,That's how I fell recently and broke my hand very badly. I was told I would require surgery because the fall was really bad. That's how my colleague came with one pastor to my house. Pastor now said I should not go for the surgery, that he will carry out serious prayers for me, that I shouldn't have the surgery. I first looked at the pastor very well. I looked at his worn down short and his equally worn down shoes, and I shook my head. A whole me, with a brain that God gave me, I have a first degree and masters degree. I have been told by several doctors that I require surgery then one pastor who probably does not have SSCE is telling me not to have the surgery, that I should pray. I respectfully told him that I will have the surgery and I will also pray. The two are not mutually exclusive They go hand in hand. Of course I had the surgery and my hand is fine.It pains me how people will not use their God given brains and will sit down and be listening to pastors. Absolute Nonsense.

DonMayor said...

I think the pastor is the one controlling your life affairs.
Since you have given him right to make decision for you, who am I to tell you otherwise.
I don't know how young people can't do nothing with their life without calling my pastor, my GO, Mummy GO or my Alfa, my Babalawo.

Ibukunoluwa said...

Poster 1- u get sense😘
Poster 2-all I can say is God has not forgotten u

stunning slim shady said...

Its well o

Anonymous said...

Someone plz help...i have never been attracted to the opposite sex all my life..now im pressured by parents to show my man...hmmm...as as how na? Surrounded by straight friends...i know im gay but trully its a lonely path..plzz save ur gospel..its who i am..done trying to fix it..i am lossing my mind living in deciet..what do i do?

PayUrsula said...

@poster1 u took a good decision. May God bless you.poster2 where u dey travel go? Shebi u say no money, how do u want to raise money to do surgery or travel, infact I tire for your case! May God help you Amen.

Robyna Fenty said...

Poster 1: You made the right decision. If you like someone you will spend on the person. Even in platonic friendships we find ourselves buying stuff for friends let alone someone you claim to love. The fact that after you spoke to him about it, he didn't change proves that he is selfish. He cares about just himself. When he has kids, he will be dragging food with them. He wld rather send them to a public school even if he can a afford private school. I got mad when he started demanding the 50k from you especially as ge knew you quit your job for your masters. Isn't he even scared that you sold your body to pay him back? Thank God you gave your self brain. A friend of mine used to say "I'd rather marry a poor man that gives than a rich man that is stingy".
Poster 2. "My people perish because of lack of wisdom". Fibroid operation is not a big deal now. It's cos women always hide it that why you don't realize how common it is in Africa. By letting it grow YOU are reducing your chances of conceiving in future. You are so concerned about having kids in future yet you are putting your life at risk. Can a dead woman conceive? You are complaining you don't have a bf, who will date a woman that is sick and worse doesn't want to treat herself cos of fear? Better get real. Many people have died cos they listened to their pastors instead of using the brain God have them. You wear the shoes, you know where it pinches so why are you taking advise from someone who is probably as healthy as a horse? You think if he falls sick he won't go to the hospital to treat himself? Or if his wife was bleeding and in pain he won't opt for surgery? I am even getting angry as I am typing this. You are lucky you aren't my younger sister or daughter. Get a job, save enough money, get the operation, find a man and get married and then you can have your babies.

Anonymous said...

Poster one must be talking about 'Emeka Onyekwere'd stupid guy who lives in maryland and works with a logistics firm in Isolo.guy is stingy for Africa.nw he s talking marriage with me?how can I marry a guy who has never given me as small as 100 airtime????tueh,i jump and pass.

Elizabeth said...

My boyfriend made me visit him abroad with my money, he came to pick me at the airport with my money, bought food stuffs and water there with my money, when I was coming back home he didn't give me a dime. Now he wants to come to Nigeria and asking me to buy his ticket. Some men are mean.Poster 1 ;pls let the idiot go he is bad luck.
Poster 2; hmmm I pray Holy spirit directs you.

Anonymous said...

Poster 2....you did not mention anywhere that you tried getting pregnant and lost it...so please leave the fibroids until you are very sure they will affect you.I just gave birth one week ago to an amazing daughter. I have 6 fibroids and the biggest is near my cervix. I was so worried but I prayed. I had a lovely delivery, no tear at all. The only thing was that my baby was 2.75kg because the fibroids shared the nutrients with her. Try to manage your period. Avoid painkillers, cold things and sugar whenever your period is near.

Seriki harjokehade said...

Poster1:Tank God u left dat stingy koko if u marry him wahalai u will become flat mate becos he will not take care of ur expenses even to bring money to cook na trouble just be happy with d new guy ND forget dat miser.
poster2:I will advice u to go for surgery ND forget abt ur pastor telling u it a spiritual problem cos I Dnt believe dat shit.

Kemi said...

Postet 1. You made a right decision, and you're absolutely right about 'if he doesn't change while you're dating, he will not change during marriage. My hubby is a typical example.

ukwu dimond said...

Fibroid is not something you should play with, forget about that your pastor he is fake.

leave that your village and move to a better place where you can get something doing, heavey monthly flow is not easy,i will advice you get the Fibroid remove asap, my gf did almost what you did and if not for God she would have been dead by now. see a good doctor and i know all shall be well, also pray regularly.

MUMMY SINACH said...

Poster 2
I can relate with what you are passing through.
God's healing will visit u.

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

Why is it that your pastor is giving you negative news?? What I know is even if he thinks something negative he should speak positively. He should not feed your fear, but your faith instead.
My dear, why not seek God yourself and stop using pastor as a 'medium'? Sit in the confines of your home and cry to him to speak to you about your situation. See, talking to God even lamenting to his ears when you're down it works oh! Just tell him how it's doing you. Cry to him not just on your pillow.
STELLA can we raise something for this girl if she can prove what she's saying is true? I think she needs to do a surgery asap. Before you come and die. Na wa oh!

Anonymous said...

Sister be patient and have faith in God.

Anonymous said...

Poster2:if ú truly believe God speak through ur pastor then stick to his prophesy,let your faith bê like a mustard seed, secondly dont sit nd wait pray without season declare his promises nd challange God with with it. Die in his neck like Jacob did! Nd he Will surprise ú,

Atheist. said...

Follow come stingy guys.
Thats yesterdays news na, they're all over
Even when they ejaculate, they don't let the sperm leak out of the condom, i had one as a friend.
Thank Goodness the best things in life are free.

Anonymous said...

prayer is the key. folo up with your Doctor as you pray too

Anonymous said...

Make a move. dont sit in one place. Go for surgery and be at peace. it will not come again. once you finish with the surgery, Travel. Nothing will happen to you. Time waits for no man, before you turn eye now, 30 years and what next. The longer you wait the bigger it grows. What do you have to loose? now that you are waiting, what is going to happen? Pray, Go for the surgery, recuperate then travel. God is with you.

The first story just made me so glad. I like women who can read writing on the wall. 2years of dating and 5k? that is total trash. I like how you moved on. it is impossible to love someone without showing them kindness financially. A stingy soul can never change. some babes would have gone ahead to marry because they want to answer mrs. Learn to move on before the shit hits the fan and sprays the whole room

Isi beke said...

The issue of fibroid is not as serious as it's portrayed, Pls talk to a gynecology who can tell u more abt surgery and fertility. So many women who had fibroid surgeries still give birth to children.

starshine said...

Poster 2 God will soon pick ur call, don't worry

Bootylycious diva said...

Any man that feels you as a woman is not his responsibility to take care of you is a bad man ,and a very very bad man to be with ,young girls take note

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shandy sleeks said...

poster one, thank God you were wise enough to run.
poster two, why not go for surgery and remove it since it causes you so much pain and leave what happens in the future to God. God can still do it.Pls go and remove it.

DonMayor said...
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Anonymous said...

People are really going through challenges. Poster 2, my heart is with you and I pray for you.

@sugarcassie said...

@Poster 2: get the fibroid out. Get a good hospital, if it's done by a specialist your womb will be fine. Then pray and trust God. God never #fails.

pinky peters said...

Hmmm this is too much for one person, Lord pls heal her

Fluffy cake by Big Mamma Lagos 07056157039 said...

God will see through.

Fluffy cake by Big Mamma Lagos 07056157039 said...

God will see you through.

Mao Akuh said...

1... Tell him that his stinginess made you to RUN.

2... I pray help comes your way asap.

Martins Aboy said...

James 2:14-26

Faith Without Work Is Dead

Now look at verse 14:What does it profit, my brethren, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can faith save him?

Please get your Bible and read further dear! It will help you make a better choice in this aspect...

Lastly;stop timing God!! For you seem to have given up already but just waiting for next month to fulfill all righteousness...

Please my dear;dont just sit down there hoping for a miracle;without working towards that...

You are killing yourself and if you don't trade well;the remaining part of your story "might" be completely told when you kick the bucket...

God help those who help themselve-Benjamin Franklin

#God Be with you...

@MARTINS ABOY

Mrs I said...

Hmmm at poster 2,Dunno what to say...Will just pray for you so that God can answer all ur questions.

Anonymous said...

Bia Jasmine, can't u read? She said " I know his word DO COME through." rushing to comment without proper reading

mma cee said...

Poster 2
Go for an operation
If really that your pastor is knowledgeable , he would have thought you the process of faith.....by now , you won't be suffering from the fibroid.
Please go and face your life

Kiks said...

Poster two yours is left me sighing heavily (not hissing. I've noticed people mistake sighing for hissing). May God see you through. Really it's a tough one. I'd say go for surgery but your womb again. Go with your conviction. God put the knowledge in the doctors for a reason and he can still perform His miracle later in your life if need be.

Anonymous said...

...but why did you give him your money to transport you when you are already there?

Anonymous said...

Also gave birth to my cute lil man, yes had a 4cm fibroid....I was not even worried.

Anonymous said...

Get braggs apple code vinegar and black strap molasses. Dilute and drink both. They help in getting rid of fibroids.

I had three fibroids before I got married. I got married, conceived immediately and gave birth to a healthy baby. On discovery of the fibroids, I was drinking braggs Apple cider religiously till I conceived and then I stopped. During my pregnancy, one of them grew to almost 6cm.

I have been drinking my apple cider vinegar religiously for over a year. I had a scan recently and all I have is two small fibroids. The largest is 2cm.

Falcon said...

Smart move girl @ poster one

Anonymous said...

Dear poster am advicing you based on my personal experience. I had fibroid and was waiting 4 a miracle 2010 to 2016 but nothing happened it even grew bigger was pressing on my bladder,resting on my renal arteries, my cervix was turned facing left, bleeding, overwhelming pain when pressed, discomfort when you sleep on certain side, constipation all. I got married pregnancy 4 where when I finally got pregnant it pushed it out. All the while I was expectant that a miracle will happen nd it will just come out of me. It's good to have faith my dear so am not disputing your pastor. I had my surgery a month ago and the joy of not seeing my stomach bulge when am no preggy is a blessing, plus I have finally gotten rid of the obstacles reducing my chances of getting pregnant which if I had known I would have done sometime ago maybe I would have almost put to bed by now but I trust God now is the right time. Note that not all fibroids reoccur but chances are they won't. Please dear I know your pastor said but the discomfort of fibroid is not something I wish on a person I hate so please if it's giving you symptoms go and remove it and make sure it's done in a good hospital. If the doctors c it's on your tubes or ovaries they remove d 1nce that they can to give u comfort and leave those that might effect you wrongly. Make sure you emphasise to your doctor you dont have any kids and would love to have someday.All the best

Maliq said...

POSTER 2: If your post is indeed true, please find your way to Hovas Place Clinics, House 23, T-Close, 5th Avenue, Festac Town. The good doctor (ANI Moses) and his doctor wife run a couple of foundations including: Irene fibroid Foundation. They carry our free fibroid operations there. I can assure you that he serves the same God as your pastor professes, and more so in action, so I do believe God would understand if you do choose to put yourself out of misery.

optimisticlady said...

Poster 2...
The words of a man mustn't come yo pass.
The words of God does.
Hold on to God,not your pastor.
Goodluck.

Stella maris Baby said...

Poster 2 may God guide & direct you..
God will surely pick your call.
Poster 1 good news you have move on..
Hate stingy pole with passion.

Anonymous said...

Last boyfriend? I'm not understanding @ Jack Brenda

Anonymous said...

Tell them o. I have fibroid according to doctors and today I have 2 beautiful kids

vincent cent said...

Poster 1, you took the right decision...though I have seen babe call generous guys MAGA cuz they are moved by emotions around people in need... poster 2...i will advise to run far from that your end time pastor because he is a hustler not your helper, can't he fund ur surgery.. humans are like that, it's natural to get paid to survive, just that pastors are making people think they are different, politicians hustle, pastors hustle, runs babe hustle, fifa hustle, plumber hustle, police hustle, doctors hustle...why do they go on strike? it's life so don't allow anybody to deceive you.....some people are even hustling here, recharge card etc, it's life, it's natural..we can't change it...you just have to be wise

stephan said...

Awwww my kind of person.. hubby will alwz say "dat whr dey see me is whr dey spend money".. na soso i dont hav, if I spend mine I wil say I borrowed it from my sis,so dat he will give it back to me immdtly.. chai my ex stinginess even affected my sis's back wen we wr in skul.I had to borrow sense.

Anonymous said...

Well you can find a gay man and hook up with him. Both of you would have an arrangment at least to get the pressure of your back. Or better still live your truth and prepare to fAce the consequences.

Brenda's Couch said...

Stingy character****

Adibuah Felix said...

Correct chick! Gbamest chick. Leave the stingy retard.

Yummy chick cum mummy said...

Haha!! P 2, do not look for spiritual revelation where common sense is needed... Pls it is written dt give to Caesar what belong to him.. U know what u v to do in ur Heart.

P1, : nice one...

Anonymous said...

@Poster 2 - please don't do any surgery for the fibroid. Believe it or not, herbal medicines that are good detox work extremely well to dissolve fibroid naturally. iaso detox tea or the Delgada tea are tested and tried for this and you should feel a difference in your body within a week of taking either of these products. You can email me at berkschristian@gmail.com and I'll be happy to give you 2 weeks pack for free.

Anonymous said...

Exactly, any woman who is misindependent should not bother if a man spend on him or Not.. .

Anonymous said...

poster 2 get the fibroid out at a good hospital

Anonymous said...

poster one thank God u left the 'ogar stingy' dont even think of going back to him. his case is genetic he will never change. marry him and become a gwegs because of stress he will never agree he has anything
God will bless your fiance' for you. Amen!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! shout out to all the ladies dating stingy men but buy valentine gift for themselves to cover shame. lmao

Fuck you said...

Ure so right on dis one

Anonymous said...

The poster 1 was right*
I gave my first salary to my girlfriend now my lovely wife* I was earning 15k then and the her hostel fee was 14K. I gave it to her and I was left with just 1k*i remembered she asked me how I was going to survive with just 1K*i wept* She told me that day that nothing can take her from me*suitor from yankee, UK canada came cos my wife is so pretty* we thank God today. We are okay!
Don't go bak to that man oooooo*

Anonymous said...

Mumu did you even read at all?

Anonymous said...

Poster 2, go and check yourself for blood cancer. Poster 1, you get am. Man wey love you go do the unthinkable for you.

Anonymous said...

Pls annoy, wia can I get the brags apple vinegar and black strap molasses. Thank you

pure inspirations said...

P2: Sweethrt, all I heard u say is pastor said this, pastor said that but u, wot exactly do u think God is saying?

Have u taken a time off just to sit at His feet and listen? U as a child of God hav d same access to God like ur pastor does. And if God has spoken to ur pastorreally, God will confirm it to you but u have to stop and listen.

Listen listen. God speaks but are u listening at all or are u being distracted by ur situation?

Do this: tell God abt ur situation and what u really feel abt it all. He is ur Father and believe me wen I say He will tell u wot u shld do. He will lead naturally.

I pray God sends helpers ur way and heal u totally. Fear not sweetie.

Listen, just listen...


Mitchelleobatu.blogspot.com

Mrs Power aka MP said...

Gosh Jasmine are u sure u read d same second post I just did?.

Poster 2. Don't leave home yet until u sort out ur health issues. Trust me u don't wanna be alone Wn u r sick. U will realise dat d night us long. No one will take care of u like family. Exhaust all ur options at home first. Ur health comes first.

My dear joy comes in the morning OK. This is just ur night. Hold on n hang in there. It gets worst before it gets better.

Anonymous said...

Please ma, where did you do your surgery? Kindly leave details here. I'll be back to check. I'm having very large calsified multiple fibroids. I'm tired of herbs and Chinese drugs and now thinking surgery. Thanks

Hawt mama said...

Love and giving go hand in hand. For God so loved the world that He GAVE his only begotten Son, He didn't hold back His son and hope that we redeem ourselves.

Mrs. Romas said...

Poster 1, good you left that stingy man! You sent the wrong signal from the beginning of your previous relationship. How can you be buying gifts to a man who has never bought you anything? Anyways, thank God you borrowed yourself some senses and played a fast one on him.
A stingy man will never take care of his responsibilities. I hate stingy men.
No Mrs. Independent for me.

Poster 2, please go to a good doctor and remove that thing from your stomach. Your pastor is not God, don't you have faith? Can't you seek God's face yourself?
You want to continue living in pains and misery without job and money. I don't get it; how do people allow pastors to decide their fates.
I pray and declare God's healing upon you. If you decide to go for the operation, nothing shall happen to your womb in Jesus Christ name.

Jame's Lover said...

Hmmmmmm... just in my room thinking if I can continue like this... pls I need a job, any job in asaba. Administrative job, even if it's teaching. Pls help a sister.

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Poster 1 if he doesn't spend now he will still not do when u marry him.
Congrats on ur wedding that is coming up soon.
Poster 2 please go to God yourself...if God can speak to ur pastor then he can to u too.
Tell it to God in fasting and prayer and you will knw what to do next. It is well with you.

rob said...

Women always feeling entitled to a mans pocket..work for your own money..fool..Dora akunyili is a woman like you

Abaraonye Nonye said...

wow am so happy for poster one: you are a smart girl, take high five jare..trust me your new boo is worth being with, with time God will Bless his hands in a mega way. Congrats dear..

poster 2: I believe that only God can solve your problem..me I believe that when God talks to you concerning me, I should hear from God as well..Please stop taking what pastors say hook, line and sinker. Stop allowing people to take control of your life..do something for your self..go out there and do something...start with the catering anything..I don't believe in joining you and others in a pity-party..Its time to rise up and face your face and truly u will overcome..Now you are Christian, this is the time to put all your faith in God ok..It is well

Anonymous said...

Luke 5:31: Jesus answered them, "Healthy people don't need a doctor--sick people do.

So do you obey "your pastor" or "Jesus Christ" the one you call your Lord and savior?

You have to be alive before you have a baby don't; you? As it is, you are dying and do remember that Jesus the good shepherd says that his sheep hears his voice and follow him; that's John ten. So dear, people do adopt, have babies through surrogates and the Lord Jesus who can heal (even through the doctor's surgeries) can also give child to a womb-less lady; that I have seen before. So be wise.

New Eve said...

'God helps those who help themselves'
The bible does not say that.

Anonymous said...

Story 2: I will tell a story to illustrate my point. Two monks were walking in the bush and a lion pursued them. The first one said, let us pray that God will deliver them, the second said they should run instead with their power. While they were debating, the lion got nearer and they both agreed to take the middle ground that they will run while praying. And that is how they escaped.

The truth is that God will never say you should stop seeking medical help while sick because God uses the doctors and the drugs to cure. So anyone telling you not to get rid of your fibroid via medicine is obviously shallow. That pastor of yours will not waste time to go to the hospital or do anything they tell him if he was in your shoes. Please go and the operation and ask God to heal you and deliver you. God and seek what you will eat, go and hustle... the condition of your family will continue to hold you down if you stay there. With or without you they will survive but your got to get out of there and send help to them. Cheers

DonMayor said...

Kill yourself. You know you are gay then why asking what to do ? Carry another woman go show your parents now and tell them you are gay and see the way you will be celebrated. Rubbish.

DonMayor said...

Imagine. Relationship is a business to many Nigerian girl.

crispina herbert said...

people should advise poster two #God should pls heal her......as for poster one...thank God for your life and I'm very sure dat ur boyfriend is from MBAISE guys from there can be stingy for the world!..

Lil'lian said...

Depends on d position of the fibroid. Some won't even allow sm1 conceive or carry the baby to term. Poster if u had money I wud have advised u to remove the fibroids through laser surgery. But since money no dey, go to a good hospital, hopefully the surgery won't affect ur womb. God be with u.

Anonymous said...

Poster 2 . I've seen someone who had fibroid operation and some years later had a twin pregnancy

Cherry Wine said...

Smh, you must be very old and better

Cherry Wine said...

Eyah, you cannot come out in Nigeria, just make money and go abroad ehn, doh. Being sexually oriented that way is hard

beeolah said...

Queen come and comment oh, can't wait to read ur comment.

Anonymous said...

Poster one...was in your situation...I couldn't deal abeg...my man is awesome and amazing...spends almost everything on me...he does almost anything 4 me...


Poster two

Our God is still in the business of working miracles... Believe me...call on God,let him know ur situation... He is d surgeon above surgeons...and if u really cant wait and want a surgery,tell Him d situation...I can assure you...u will b a mother of children...your womb will be intact and untouched...

PORTABLE VIV the beautiful n sexy queen of sdk blog said...

Poster1:please continue running unless u want to be begging for baby diaper on SDK
@poster: God will heal u......Your case is too small for my God

PORTABLE VIV the beautiful n sexy queen of sdk blog said...

@jack brenda:.......Stop holding on to him dear..
The earlier u move on,the better for you.
Dude even chop u oshofree.

Tynu Akom said...

My dear since when I lost a friend to fibroid surgrey,I now see it as very serious o. The surgery was done at a university teaching hospital. The fibroid choke her pregnancy which made her to have a miscarriage nd in process of removing d fibroid she died.

Anonymous said...

You can still marry and like a normal life, just get drunk whenever you wanna have it... Im attracted to women too but still im a mum to beautiful kids..

Anonymous said...

First you asked for help, later you say we should save our gospel. What do you really want? You strike me as someone who is opinionated but very daft. Toxic human beings

Anonymous said...

Please what do you mean by last boyfriend?

Anonymous said...

Na wa o. Is this how people come here to throw people's name arbitrarily? Do you know you may justvhave slandered someone else? This is terrible & you are a terrible human being. If people start dropping names of any one that crosses their mind do you know how many innocent people would be hurtbin real life when the don't even know this blog?
Stella throwing peoples real names is a dangerous presidence & I think this post should be deleted.

Anonymous said...

Poster 2: if u do not have the conviction that your fibroid would disappear then go see a doctor ASAP before e enter super story.

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Anonymous said...

Whoever the guy is must be unfortunate to have met you. If you had sense as small as a mustard seed, you would have known better than to throw around anyone's names and details inappropriately no matter your dealings with them. Wrong

Anonymous said...

God bless you for this post. I am a guy and obviously not the poster but I think your indebt analysis would help the poster.

Anonymous said...

U re just a big fool! I ve no more words for u.

Anonymous said...

Thanks for looking out for others. If true, this is great news because I know apart from the poster, there are other ladies here who need this information

Anonymous said...

How do we know you arent a pained hoe trying to get back at some innocent guy somewhere? God abeg oo.
Abeg park well...

Anonymous said...

Please poster 2 get rid of the fibroid, a friend lost her baby at 36weeks because her fibroid grew out of hand .

Anonymous said...

Eliza if I ask you out now you would say no. Yet you are busy wasting your time with one akagum. A guy who loves you would spend on you even before you ask unless he doesn't have at all. Yes I know because I am a guy

damabiqs said...

Ma,her fibroid is symptomatic and she is haemodynamically unstable and her quality of life is already affected.You can't just tell her to leave it.

Jasmine said...

Anon 16:22, awon fans mi! Welcome

Jasmine said...

Exactly! They r always forming miss independent. Don't depend on men but ask sometimes

Jasmine said...

Hahahahaha

Madam Small chops said...

Poster One: "At the core of love is giving, Love gives!! Am glad you moved on.

Poster 2: My dear i know about four people that had fibroid surgery and they are living their lives.i think its better you remove it now and heal completely before you get married or start hustling..Meanwhile, when its not a baby why carry it about.

Starting up a business will also help you get focused.Just take time and breathe .People are going through worse.

Dont forget to Pray,Prayer changes things!!

Anonymous said...

Stingyness irritates me in similar situation dis has made whatever love I ave for him turn 2 hate for 4 years dere is nothing I can point 2 dat he has done for me can't begin 2 explain d level of stignyness not dat he is even fine ugly he_goat I just hate him so much nw called d fool like 30times because I was in need nd he said he will help only for him not 2 pick his calls

Anonymous said...

Poster 1....he who is faithful in little will be faithful in much.. you made the right choice
Poster 2....hold your peace. do dry fasting for 3 days and ask God to speak to you...God Almighty will come thru for you in Jesus name

Anonymous said...

Lmao.... You lost me when you said "the bible said God help those who help themselves" oh goodness, it's not in the bible ooooo

Olaide Davies said...

I agree with damabiqs pls go and remove it since it's disturbing you. Our good Lord will go with you and the surgery will be successful in Jesus name amen.There won't be any complications by God's grace amen.

Anonymous said...

Stella I met this man when I was a student, he trained me in school and I lived large, he worked my service to his town, he got me a very well paying job, car apartment. He loves me cause he takes care of me and my family, since I met him my family has been uplifted, got my parents a nice accommodation, the problem is he has a wife, I am so jealous of her, I wish she can die so he will marry me. I plan to have a baby for him to secure my place in his life, I date other men but non threat me like he does. I have seen his wife and she has got nothing on me. Most importantly sex is great with him, lol he cries like a baby when I f..k him. I don't believe in marriage cause men will always be men useless. Don't judge me I really don't care.

Olaide Davies said...

I believe if God doesn't want her to remove it they won't disturb her. I support the raising money for her if need be. Also I know a gynaecologist that's a pastor with mfm that can do it. God be with you my sister.

Anonymous said...

Olalekan

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Poster 1, stingy men are the
worst
Poster 2, it is well. Dunno what to tell u

Anonymous said...

Poster 2: Receive sense in the name of Jesus. If you really know the God you serve, you will know that no one has the wherewithal but The Almighty! His plan for you certainly is not for you to live in misery and pain. Your pastor might be a good prophet, good for him. But, do you really think it's best for you to continue living a lie? I'm not saying God can't heal you, but, faith without action is dead. Wisdom is profitable to direct, I pray you receive wisdom to go to a good clinic where you will have the surgery. Forget that thing that you will not conceive if you have surgery, your pastor isn't your Creator. Confess life to your womb. Health is wealth. I won't advise you to go look for greener pastures without taking care of the fibroid. When you are healthy, you can start thinking of going to look for job. That's my two cents.

Ayo Yinka said...

Martins u are good.

Cherry Wine said...

Bitter*

Bootylycious diva said...

Broke ass men always have this to say ,Don mayor in the time of old in my home town where i come from a mans farmland measures his wealth and shows he can feed a wife .

Anonymous said...

This is one of the complications of fibroid and in fact, it's an indication for removal. Call this no, am also in Kogi State - 08080391418.

Anonymous said...

Poster 2: I pray to God almighty that you receive divine healing and don't forget faith still works wonders today.... Please hold on to the words of God and let your faith be self generated not because your pastor said you are healed but because you know you are healed... 2) If you know within you that you don't have strong faith you can go for the surgery and pray to God it doesn't reoccur and he should bless you with your life patner soon, so that you can try to conceive after the surgery.

adeyemi, MD said...

Poster 2, what's the use of a womb if it leads you to an early grave? 21% pcv is too low. I'm a doctor and I'd advice thar you take out the fibroid now b4 they multiply. As to ifthey grow back, yes dey do but not in every case. When you get to that bridge, u will cross it. Must you always believe u r pastor? God gave us brain so we don't depend on pastors . All the best

Anonymous said...

Poster 2, just make up your mind and av the surgery carried out. I have Ovarian cyst also been booked for a surgery in a couple of weeks. The sad news is I might loose one of my ovary in the process according to the doc.But what can I do.i believe when there is life,there is still hope for me.Please bvs put me in your prayers.

Deluna G said...

Huh? Buy his ticket? Lol.. U get money na. As for me, i need all the help and support biko. Imagine, paying my Tp to go meet a man tah! Me i'm even stingy sef so, obviously i can't be with a stingy guy.

Lilly simple said...

Miss Independent my ass
A man should be happy his earn few cash but he should be happier supporting her

Anonymous said...

PG 18
Poster 1 don't you think he is saving this money for your marriage?
Or are you the one providing for the wedding?
ASHAWO WAS 1's A VIRGIN

Anonymous said...

Did Dora's husband have sex with her for FREE too, Did he marry her for free too? STUPID THOUGHTS. And u still dream of respect. INFIDEL ALERT!

Anonymous said...

Mayb she is married and not in dah boyfriend ish anymore...#smile

Anonymous said...

Lols....yu dey always hang leg for window...hang on the door naw

Sewa Joseph said...

I agree with you on poster 2, your pastor said this and that, but what is God saying to you ? Have you asked God want he wants you to do ? Jesus died so we can live life more abundantly, Jesus did not die for this girl, just go and seek God and receive your healing, if you die , pastor will come and eat puff puff at your funeral(God forbid) you are not worshipping your pastor, you are worshipping the most high God who nothing is impossible for.

Sewa Joseph said...

Absolute bs, okay u are sleeping with ur bf, and he is giving you money , sweet heart you are a dignified prostitute @queen and boss of this blog. Her ex was just a selfish guy, some of us don't need anything from a guy, your bf is not atm... It doesn't necessarily have to be monetary gifts , it cld be material gifts and random act of kindness ( putting the other person first) that's what relationship is about, stop believing bcos u re sleeping with someone you shld tax him... Please behave!

Anonymous said...

Poster 2. Let me tell you something. Ovarian cyst is something that happens to 5 in every woman above 26. go to a good hospital. I had laparoscopic surgery to remove mine. I dnt even see the scars as they look like needle marks.
Now pregnant with my first baby at 36.

Anonymous said...

@Poster 2, And you called yourself a graduate? Can't you do your own research on fibroid and Ovarian Cyst? I hope you know the implications of you not having them out. If it is the money that is delaying, why not use this medium and seek for help with proof ofcos? And do you even know prolly after the operation and you are well, all things could fall into pleasant places for you as your pastor claimed? Get well, get a job, then a boyfriend will surely come along as you have between the space of 6mnths,1 -2yrs b4 fibroid can grow back and be symptomatic as you are experiencing now. Health is wealth. If you leave home and go wherever, doing whatever, you can't be useful to anyone that might want to employ you or even to your self. So why not take the bull by the horn and follow suit with serious fasting and prayers? This life is too short and you are not alone in this battle. Get registered in a good hospital bik and get this done.

Anonymous said...

Poster 2 - you may have endometriosis couple with fibroid. Why don't you find a good gyn in a teaching hospital and pls submit yourself for surgery so you can live better. You will have your kids when you are ready, lots of women have fibroid surgery and are mothers. Irony is it may be the endo not the fibroid this one the scan revealed a cyst.
You need to get a diagnosis, pls start with that.

Uk said...

That your boyfriend na werey .e no go better for am.

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