MIL arrived for Omugwo and African Magic took over..LMAO!
Stellalicious ,I hail.
Omugwo stories here and there, what do Yoruba or Hausa's call it. I knew about the word "omugwo" from Africa magic.
To my own Tory, a month to my EDD, hubby's mama came. 3 days to EDD,My water broke but labour refused to start. Next day, still no contraction. I was augmented but the labour did not progress well.my baby was already in distress so I had no option than to be sectioned..
Discharged 4days after the operation,got home and discovered my baby has colic( mothers with colicky kids can testify to the stress). My "little miss gorgeous" will cry from 10pm till 4am daily before she sleeps. You will have to carry her and be swinging,dancing and singing along to relieve her.
Hubby's mama will pretend as if she doesn't know,when her room is directly beside ours and with the cry of the baby in a quiet environment.Hubby and I will take turns in swinging and dancing. Though she will come in once in a while and starts dozing off. His son will ask her to go and sleep.
First thing every morning,she has arranged where my baby will bath,not minding the weather(harmattan season). Hubby's mama will be on a neonate's bare body for more than 30mins singing,then another 30-40 mins creaming and dressing the baby. My mum came two days to the naming ceremony .
it was her first grandchild. It was later I discovered when my mum left after 10days that it is during the period of her stay Hubby's mama usually set the place to bath my girl first thing in the morning . this she stopped when my mum left.we will now be the one asking mama to bath the baby ,sometimes 11am. My mum never had the opportunity of bathing her first grandchild. My baby wasn't Hubby's mama 1st ,2nd or even 5th grandchild so I wonder what the competition was about.
Food???? Till today ,she doesn't know where my salt is in the kitchen. She visits often. The highest she will do is to stand by the kitchen door and say what she wants. The week of my discharge, hubby and his younger brother took over the kitchen before my mum came.she will sit down watching Africa magic and not forgetting to praise you " well done" whenever you walk past her from the kitchen but never one day help out to even cut veggies.
I missed my mum so much when she left. She had to leave early cos hubby's mama was showing some kinda hostility.
She finally left after 3months and my hubby had to tell her to stay behind for my mum to come around when I had my second child.
I won't end my story without saying the positive aspect of her stay. She can back a child from morning till night that we will have to beg her to lay the child down so that the child won't get used to backing when she leaves. I used that opportunity to shop and have some "me" time as I know fully well my adorable is at granny's back sleeping
*Na wah...Her behaviour would also depend on her age you know but being hostile towards your mum is a NO-NO.
I think that since omugwo is a personal thing that a womans mother should do it,especially with the massaging with hot water and sitting bum bum in hot water stuff.
What do i know sef.