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Tuesday, 20 September 2016

Toke Makinwa Says She Is Dating Again..

Popular On Air Personality, OAP, Toke Makinwa, said parting ways with her ex-husband, Maje Ayida brought her joy and had also afforded her the freedom to know and relate with other men.




The OAP spoke in an interview with Fame Extra Magazine, where she talked about her dating life, misconceptions about marriage and more.

The 31-year-old had filed a petition for decree of dissolution of marriage to the Lagos state High Court against her husband, Maje Amaju Ayida over adultery, cruelty and irreconcilable differences.

Toke’s 18-month-old marriage to Maje Ayida hit the rocks when the latter impregnated his long-time girlfriend, Anita Solomon.
She disclosed that she cried for joy on her first date after the divorce, realizing she was single and dating again.

She said, “It’s tricky! It’s exactly like learning to ride a bike again but I think I am doing very well.
“Of course you get the initial stumble and fall off but the key is to accept that things are different now and that’s ok.

“My first date after my separation, I cried on my way home as I couldn’t believe I was back dating again, the stress and joys of getting to know someone again, the excruciating pain of the past and the will to trust another again. I am having a lot of fun right now.”

Makinwa noted that so many people keep quiet and let things go wrong in their marriage all in order to pretend that it is working.
The OAP added, “People are not honest enough! You are told to keep quiet about everything like showing a sign of ‘all is not well’ automatically means you have a bad marriage.
“The thing is, everyone struggles, no situation is perfect and if people walked around with a little bit of honesty about their situation, a lot of marriages might survive.

“Religion is also a very big problem, God is involved in marriage and he has also blessed us with the capacity to think and make decisions for ourselves so people need to be less religious and more aware of His love. There will be way less judgement.”

“So much goes on in a home and you are told to keep mute, keep taking, pray till your knees get dark from kneeling (which is a good thing, don’t get me wrong), but a lot of people lose who they are trying to keep with all of these mandates that doesn’t always work.

“I am not saying you should go around telling everyone your business but I feel if we had more people open up about their struggles and a society that is less judgmental, people will begin to appreciate the beauty of seeing two people work at staying together and realizing the sheer amount of work required on both sides.”

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116 comments:

Bianca BRUNO said...

Toke we are not interested pls. ...
Ahan learn to keep somethings private biko and you have been 31 for how long again?

Anonymous said...

good for her

White Diamond said...

Awwww!

I pray she finds what she's looking for this time.

It's a beautiful feeling to love and be loved in return.

#WhiteDiamondOut

Intelligentsia Princess loves sdk said...

Awwwww!!! Am teary already. This your new found joy shall be permanent. Yes,everyone deserves to be love.

BA said...

Her happiness is the most paramount thing,we can only live this life once.Wentworth prison be giving me suspense....

Ehlarh said...

Good for you Toke,may God grant you the desires of your heart.

xxxTrinityxxx said...

First y won't her husband impregnate someone else when she can never sit at home. So he had all the time to spend with the other lady.
Second Toke no one cares if you're dating again. Keep your private life private

Anonymous said...

I love this lady, Nigerian women suffering and smiling. I told people when my husband cheated and I got a good support system from it, no time to cheat back or die in silence. A lot of people learnt from my experience.

Mrs shantelle said...

I pray she finds love

stephan said...

Iti, you can never learn baa?

Loveme Jeje said...

Toke we don hear you. Leave us alone with your sermon.

Stop becoming an MTN so that you can keep your love for ever

Anonymous said...

I tire o
She's been 31 sinx 2012

Ideato/ilaje blood said...

She is 32

la effizy said...

Bianca, are we sisters? Everything you typed here I wanted to type... both the age and relationship ish.
I blame those who take her seriously in the first instance.

Anonymous said...

Pls she should just keep quiet and go on with her life. She's not the 1st so y must she always talk and talk. Fed up pls

ada ifeanyi said...

Good for her

Alloy Chikezie said...

Good for her.

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Dietitian Nezz! said...

Ur ex-husband went for a better woman.Face your new catch.

ada ifeanyi said...

Good for her

Sonia said...

Wish you all the best dear.

Thatigbobabe(Lilyflower) said...

Is she back from her Vacay. I enjoyed her lively snaps.

Esther Mgbolu said...

Ok,congrats

Bravitudenaturals said...

I wish her well. If only we had a society that's less judgemental and doesn't see it philandering as normal for the men.

Quiksilver said...

Stfu woman!

Mama Afrika said...

We do not care whether or not you are dating again. Please keep your personal life private!

Shyla said...

Toke please do your thing and stay off our faces biko. Stop looking for validation upandan. This gal no de tire.

jessej said...

Am happy for her,but she should try and grow older than 31.

Anonymous said...

Toke you wanted Maje by all means. You see your life? He never wanted to marry you period.

Anonymous said...

Toke is yet to get over Maje and Maje no even send.

teamlaila said...

Toke! Privacy! Privacy!

rillyniddy said...

Congratulations wish u luck in your dating

Lilly simple said...

Toke 31year
If I hear

Esther Okoro said...

Ok, we've heard,may this one bring you genuine love & happiness.




God Bless Everyone.

Esther Okoro said...

Ok, we've heard,may this one bring you genuine love & happiness.




God Bless Everyone.

gorgeous said...

U sue your husband for adultery and you are dating already? Toke please advise yourself. Under the law you are still married until your divorce pulls through. Do not jeopardize your good case against Maje and his co respondent. You shouldnt have done this interview. Your lawyer ought to advise you better

Anonymous said...

Yeah baby. The world is your oyster.

Maje never loved you or maybe he did. But just not enough to stay with the over ambitious person you became pursuing fame and fortune. You loved him more than he ever did you.
He did right by leaving you, but he should have just walked away rather than cheat.

You are doing well for yourself. If Maje is the price you had to pay, then so be it. Perhaps you ll find love again.
You can have it all. The next Mo Abudu. The Oprah Winfrey of Africa.
Start your own talk show, you ll make a good host. You are fun to watch on Moments. Fake as shit but still fun to watch.

Anonymous said...

Toke, make left you. If he didn't, you would have still be begging and blackmailing him to make it work. Just like you forced him to marry you. You reek of desperation.

Stranger said...

Anyone noticed how we all preach whilst asking to be judged less whenever we see people guilty of the same offences/sins as we are?
Well, I will join in asking that people be less religious and judge less when I add divorce to my list of guilt but for now, Toke, abeg and na God I take beg you, let me enjoy my judging in peace. This is considering the fact that you refused to use the same sense you are now claiming to have used and now possess. The question now is where were your senses when you agreed to marry him? I ask because you could have avoided a bad situation but as the isi okpupu wey you get just block your sense.
Leave social media alone and focus on your relationship and if you like, show the guy pic upandown and world people will tell you who you are.

Anonymous said...

You are not SINGLE anymore! You are DIVORCEE!

Ralu M said...

Good for her, I like her spirit and drive. May your experiences make you wiser and less foolish.

Miss Juliet said...

Lmaooo as in ayaf tire for her nd her failed marriage!! She adds a year after 5 years I guess....

Anonymous said...

Stella, toke can not be 31.we grew up in the same neighbourhood

Anonymous said...

Now maje can marry Anita. What if he doesn't? Wow! Congrats sha, I'm sure he'll be looking at her pictures everyday on instagram n cheating on Anita as well.

JACINTA MBACHU said...

Toke d slayer

Shantelle's Empire said...

And i'm expected to read all that shit? Ahbegi!
Congrats,shebi that is what you want to hear?

Emilia Peter said...

Good for her

Anonymous said...

I need a Canadian boyfriend so I can start my own dating

Ideato/ilaje blood said...

Welcome back dear.

We can see dividends from the honey moon. Congrats

Ideato/ilaje blood said...

Not yet

Starjoy said...

Abeg she should keep her private life off media

pinky peters said...

Yea

Analyst said...

Miss Toke,which Kain yeye cry for joy??lie lie!You cried cos you couldn't believe you would be going through the stress of getting to know anothrr person again,after so long!!I actually do like you cos you are a strong woman but can I advise you??come down from your 'high horse' oooo,stop posting everything on SM and talk less(you might also want to add a bit of prayer to your life)!You are a very strong woman and I pray that your ' desperation' for MARRAIGE won't lead you to making another mistake babygirl!!Meanwhile, you coem across as too 'cosmetic'(You might also want to tone down that a little).....
And errrrrm,were you born in a leap year? (Feb29) cos you ve been 31 forever......#Okbye Sistergirl!!

LUCILE COCONUT OIL ABUJA 07059605320 Pin- 2BC6235E said...

Congrats girl

Omasiri said...

Her life...her business.

Asoge Atelier said...

If you are a woman, you are an idiot!!!

Mother Confessor The real deal on sdk. said...

Age is only but number. I listened to the other blogger yesterday and I realized that without a man a woman is incomplete. With everything she has achieved in life she still desire one thing most. I love her openness.

Morgana said...

Its not a crime for a woman to be ambitious? Maje rode on Toke's fame to make something out of his messed up life and he obviously knew about her career goals before he married her, so nobody should blame her for the collapse of her marriage.

Also, this write up is an excerpt from an interview conducted and not a mere twitter or instagram post.

Anyway, am glad you have been able to put the past behind you my dear Toke, The divorce went thru' in March, so for how long do people expect her to wait before embracing the dating scene again?

As for those claiming that she's older than 31,are you in possession of her birth certificate? Besides, she was born in November, so she won't be 32 until then, so legally, she's still 31.

Be happy girlfriend and keep soaring.

Anonymous said...

Anita welcome

Anonymous said...

Lol, bitter gwegs

Asoge Atelier said...

Pls you people should let this babe be oo. Why drag a soul that is just healing? You don't even know what she's going thru. For the fact that she's an OAP does not mean she's not a woman like you or she's not a sister, someone's sister, daughter it's sickening when women troll fellow women who are in psychological pain. Or are u expecting her to come out to tell you how she's crying. Pls let her do what ever will not break her

Pls just wish her well and *F* off!!!

youngman said...

You said you were happy back dating!!! That's a fat lie. No one is ever happy returning to a bend they have passed. You should be bold enough to said you are sad to return backwards as a singly dating girl looking for love when you should be consolidating on the love you ought to have had. This would help you shine your eyes and identify what you did wrong in the previous case that burnt your fingers so they don't repeat.

Elixir Ray said...

And it's a SIN right?

SDKprincess said...

Mttchew 31 My foot radarada#injenifa'svoice

Mao Akuh said...

That's the WORD. LOL

Komimi Solomon said...

Ms Toke, I Happy For But Pls, Keep Your Life Private.

Anonymous said...

Toke just try and be reducing ur makeup.. This one above sef is better.. You are always dolled up, I mean makeup is great when used moderately, not when ur face is looking like a construction site. And it shouldn't be frequently too. Pls I'm not hating, just advicing . I love makeup by the way

Anonymous said...

I'm sure you didn't bother to reach the whole interview before making such statement. Pls read it and learn a thing or two!!

Anonymous said...

She is dating oluwaseyi Kuye. I pity her oooo. Hmmmn

Anonymous said...

Will she take advice? She should come down from her high horse.

Anonymous said...

@georgeous shut d fuck up. She shld wait till she's 40 with grey hair before dating.
Did Maje consider his bloody marriage while fucking around raw ???
Wait till what bloody divorce.

PLATINUM said...

Toke i knw how much u love attention, this new relationship of urs keep it private please, ur already out with it.

PLATINUM said...

Toke i knw how much u love attention, this new relationship of urs keep it private please, ur already out with it.

Anonymous said...

They are saperated judgina,its one year already. She can fuck the whole universe if she so desire.All she want is a divorce which will be granted,abi make she no move on with her life after maje has moved on before they got married. There is no case hear,she is not waiting to collect anything,she is hard hardworking. Even abroad where they claim spousal support,fucking no de detar ,lawyer charge and bail.

Honeyy said...

Thank you o

Affordable accessories said...

I dunno why people hate this Toke chick so much. People,cut her some slack na. We all can't b same,look st your fingers,r they equal? Some r created extroverts,some r introverts,some r almost perfect,some r full of flaws,no need hating anyone when u can just look at them n move on to the next gist.

Jasmine said...

Yes, I pray she finds happiness this time. She has really suffered in this love journey

Jasmine said...

Better woman??? Really? Smh

Jasmine said...

Gbam!!! Loud it

Ideato/ilaje blood said...

Spill about the kuye guy. I wanna read

Robyna Fenty said...

It takes Less than 5 mins to impregnate someone if the man and the woman have no reproductive issue. Try again.

Anonymous said...

Toke you have been 31 for how many years now?

NA WA OHHH

1nigeriangirl said...

31 in her dreams.

1nigeriangirl said...

Beyonce hands for you dear

Nwa said...

Oga, she said she is not sad, it simply means she is not...if you are sad pray to God to be famous and to be interviewed and say you are sad there

1nigeriangirl said...

Toks, welcome.

1nigeriangirl said...

I want US or French

Affordable accessories said...

Ehen,i was watching Rob n chyna d oda time,everytime I see that her huge behind,i just shudder,what's fashionable abt ridiculously big arse. Can't deal mehn!

Anonymous said...

Toke biko be wise nau! Ehn! Keep your private life esp ur relationship matters off the social media. It pays

Hair Wonder Whatsapp 07038005613 said...

Toke's baby.
Isorite ooooh
We have heard.

St.FranKooL.... said...

#If you live your life with the regrets of yesterday and the worries of tomorrow, you will have no today to be thankful for*

Spirit. said...

Eyahhh.... @ TOKE IT IS WELL.

I was team Anita back then and it was because it is quiet obvious Maje and Anita have love and history.

Toke dont be dismayed.. your own husband, your soulmate is on his way to you. Maje was not the one and now you are aware.

Your own DH will love and accept you for who you are and what you are. He will never try to change you and will do anytime to love and keep you. That is my prayer for you.

Listen .... african men like natural women... food for thought.

I am not saying you should look like a bush village girl, but i am saying look more like Toke so that he can recognise you when he see you

Secondly.... enough of been fake unless you will attract fake ass men towards yourself.

Be true to yourself and your rightful husband will find you. After that date, you will be crying tears of joy because you suddendly realised what you thought was love in the past was not really love.

God be with you and May God give us all wisdom to be more like Jesus.

Forgive my mistakes joor ... no time to cross check.

SteffySoFynSoFly said...

I knew she is tired of being lonely, no body to gbensh her Toto skin to skin am sure she misses maje big huge cock.




*hangs leg on the window*

Anonymous said...

OMG....Steph, is dat ur pix on ur profile?

ed DREAMZ said...

a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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Breaking News?
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

Anonymous said...

Trinity pray it works for you this time around. Na second husband house you dey so. If na so e easy, you would have tied down your baby daddy. Judgemental idiot

Abaraonye Nonye said...

Hmmm I really see Toke has a real person based on what she shared in the magazine..I think we criticize and judge a lot..yes we all make mistakes and have differents ways of handling it..she may want to get it right this second time..so live and let live cause at the end of the day , its her life..

IYALAJE OF SDK BLOG said...

Hiannn Ideato...thought u were arguing she went to UK not US. Now she's not back? Lol

Nwanze Ifunanya said...

Toke do u know d meaning of privacy? Keep ur relationship n life PRIVATE! Ahan!

Anonymous said...

Lol @ anon, seyi is not a bad guy, he was but has calmed down and is ready to settle for marriage now

Anonymous said...

Why did he bother marrying her then?

Chioma said...

I thought you said a man will love her for who she is. If she likes being "fake" as you put it, shouldn't he love her that way?

nonye ufondu said...

Not only finding love,make sure you give birth this time around,its very important.
And stop showering your private life down to our throat.
It haff do!!!

Anonymous said...

I just hope she doesn't make same mistakes. Maje didn't want to marry her but she wanted to die there. Cos of his head game probably.

The General's Wife said...

@ Dietician Nazz,really?
No!come on Babes!

The General's Wife said...

Left US a few days ago.She is now in London.
Yea I enjoyed her pictures too.very beautiful.her outifts were Bae!

The General's Wife said...

SMH.

Some peeps here are just too sad it's sad to see.

The General's Wife said...

Keep slaying T Star!😘

Komimi Solomon said...

*, Ms Toke, I Am Happy For You, But Pls Keep Your Life Private.

Anonymous said...

There's someone that has gist about Toolz but keeps dropping hints.Abeg gist us if u want to.I'm tired of waiting

Ronalda. said...

@anonymous 12:46, darling, perhaps you should try reading comments to understand the author's ‎point of view and not to render a rebuttal or an argument. I'm not saying we must agree with every comment, of course we have the carte blanche to challenge contrary opinions but it's prudent to understand what exactly you're rushing to counter.

Legality and morality are closely related yet very different. Opinions from the court of public opinions are not the same as the opinions from a court of law. @Gorgeous isn't saying Toke should remain celebate nor put her social/personal life on hold till a divorce absolute is granted neither is she being judgmental. She is merely commenting based on a legal mind.

A petition for divorce/dissolution of marriage is a very delicate matter. For a petitioner who cited "adultery" as one of the grounds for the petition, she can't or shouldn't be seen as committing the very act she's accusing her husband of. If all she cited was irreconcilable differences, dating openly before the divorce is final would be less controversial. In the eyes of the law, Toke is still married so if she's having a sexual relationship, the law regards it as adultery. It doesn't matter if they've been separated for 5 years, an adulterer can't come to court complaining about adultery. He who comes to equity...

What you fail to understand, sweetie, is, just because "we" agree that her hubby screwed up royally doesn't mean the court would grant Toke's petition. It may surprise you to know that Maje can contest the divorce if he chooses to, and you'll be amazed at the court's decision. I have seen a case where the adulterous hubby came to court crying and practically rolling on the ground begging for a second chance. Guess what the court ruled? The court refused to grant the petition for divorce because, in the mind of the court, there was still a chance to salvage the marriage. Typically, all courts of law are pro matrimony and aren't in a hurry to grant divorce petitions.

I believe the point @Gorgeous is trying to make is, Toke should be more discrete with her relationship(s) until the divorce is final, especially when she cited adultery as one of the grounds for divorce.‎

gorgeous said...

Ronalda thank you so much.

Chikito The Professional Runs Girl said...

So if she marries at 32, is it equal to death? At 28 Abi 29, she was rushing like someone was pursuing her. Sticking to a relationship by force when it wasn't working. Abeg, let's learn to be patient with ourselves and God. If it's not working, it's not. Let people call you gwegs, but be sure that once you get it right you get it right. And you move on to other things.
Well, the veil has torn so I wish her all the best. I know toke will marry again and marry better. She will.

gorgeous said...

You are as stupid as they come. Pick a book and read you won't. Keep reveling in your stupid ignorance. Olodo. Iti mpataka

sisi eko said...

Lmao. The only thing I'll say is her ex had better marry that his baby mama.. or else ehh. He must marry that girl o.

sisi eko said...

Hmmmmmmm

sisi eko said...

Shan-tellyyyyyy

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